Challenged? The Best Is Yet to Come

May 23, 2022

Life presents both challenges and blessings. Your perspective determines how they affect you and your ability to make your dreams come true.


Once upon a time there was a farmer named Sei Weng who had one horse and one son. One day the horse wandered away, and the neighbors commented that this was unfortunate. The farmer replied, “How do you know it’s bad luck?”

Soon after the horse returned bringing several wild mares with him. The neighbors congratulated him on his good luck. Ah, what lovely, strong horses! However, the farmer responded by saying, “How do you know it’s good luck?”

The son was thrown while riding one of the wild horses and broke his leg. His neighbors once again commented on how sorry they were for his bad luck, at which the farmer said, “Good luck, bad luck. Who knows?”

A war came, and every able-bodied man was conscripted into the military and sent into battle. Because he had a broken leg, the old man’s son didn’t have to go to war. The neighbors were excited about his good fortune, but the farmer remarked, “Is it good or is it bad?”

Another version of this Chinese folktale concludes with, “That’s the way it is.”

Another says that fortune turns to misfortune, and misfortune to fortune. There is no end to changes, and the mystery can’t be known.

Because the farmer was emotionally detached and didn’t go along with everyone’s thinking, he was able to see a bigger picture. 


According to the Chaos Theory, our lives are always in chaos, and this is what opens us to fresh forms and possibilities.

When we reach what is called a “bi-furcation point,” a “point of departure” takes place, and a “self-organization out of chaos” occurs. In other words, events that serve as turning points create a new order and structure. 

Instead of adversely reacting to circumstances that seem bad, consider they may be a portal to something greater than you currently can imagine.

A messy divorce may be a ticket to personal empowerment and overcoming fear.

The loss or lack of worldly goods may be what cracks the shell to allow humility and what’s truly important to be seen… and the impetus to pursue one’s dreams.

You can choose your perspective. Look deeper. No matter how it appears, things change. The highs become lows or ordinary. Regardless of how frustrated or hopeless aspects of your life may seem, this too shall pass.

Your highs and lows come from judging how you think your life should’ve been in the past or should be in the future. Your now, this moment of time, is perfect just the way it is.

Embrace what is without a drama-filled story attached to it, and all your struggles are over.

Your dreams can come true.

How? The way reveals itself in divine right timing.

Listen to the inner whispers guiding you. Be open to receive. Consider a new point of view because nothing is what it seems, and the best is yet to come. All is in divine order and surpasses your wildest imagination.

Nothing would be what it is.

Because everything would be what it isn’t.

And contrary-wise – what it is, it wouldn’t be.

And what it wouldn’t be, it would.

You see?

Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Reprinted from Soulgoals’ Post, March 8, 2013


Challenged?
If you’d like help
to find clarity, direction
or peace of mind,
contact me

for a complimentary
Soulgoals’ Break-Free Session
by phone.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to
enhance their lives or share 
their gifts 
in a BIGGER way 
but
don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.

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Do You Believe in You?

May 16, 2022


Society grooms us not to trust or believe in ourselves. Instead, we’ve been trained in self-doubt.

We’ve been taught to elevate the opinion of others, to question ourselves, especially when compared to the power of spiritual forces, experts, leaders, books, spouses, family, friends, bosses, teachers, doctors, world events and even TV commercials.

However, if we don’t learn to trust and believe in ourselves, we’ll be at the mercy of the whims and, very often, limited ideas of others.

If you think there’s something wrong with you, you’ll attract experiences to validate that your beliefs are true.

If you shift your perspective to see yourself as a divine child or a child of an unlimited universe, you open yourself to receive greater abundance, success, love, happiness and health. 

97% of human bodies are made of stardust, and an analysis of over 150,000 stars in our Milky Way galaxy proved this is literally true.

The Crosby, Stills & Nash song was right: “We are stardust. We are golden. We are billion year old carbon.”

So stop making yourself small. Your heritage is divinely celestial! 

If you don’t believe in you, why should anyone else?

If you don’t believe in you, how will you be able to tune in to your inner guidance, the sweet whispers of direction from within? How will you be able to distinguish it from the nagging voice in your head of fear, worry, doubt and self-belittlement?

If you’re waiting for others, many who live by flawed beliefs, to recognize your worth, you may be better served by recognizing your own value.

Consider this. If others don’t believe in themselves, they aren’t capable of fully believing in you.


Be vigilant about how you picture yourself.

Do you see aspects of yourself as not good enough? Can you see how your life would change if you believed you have access to infinite possibilities, even if you don’t have a clue as to how to manifest them?

Right now, breathe and take a moment for yourself. Breathe and go beyond the chatter of others and your thoughts.

The more you practice this, the more you’ll discover your self-worth and that you are deeply loved.

When you tap into this essence of you, you feel good about yourself.

When you feel good about yourself, you open to receive abundance and success as you go beyond lack– lack of love, money, time, health, business, fun, acceptance, respect and happiness.

And you believe in you!

Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog, November 13, 2017


If you’d like support
to believe in yourself more
and the benefits it can bring,

contact me
for a complimentary
Soulgoals’ Break-Free Session
by phone.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to
enhance their lives or share 
their gifts 
in a BIGGER way 
but
don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

I Learned This While Existing in a Living Hell

May 9, 2022

During my twenties, miserable because of a five-year relationship, I had a dream. For years I kept its message on my dresser, although I didn’t know what it meant or how to do anything about it:

 Find the Heart and Rescue It 

He had a Ph.D. in psychology and was a revered member of our spiritual community, which played into why it took me a while to realize I lived with a self-centered, master manipulator who cared only for himself.

He easily saw my vulnerabilities of low self-esteem and self-doubt and how to use them to intimidate me and undermine my self-confidence while bending me to his will.

Although we had been dating long distance, he lived a six-hour drive away, we solidified our legal commitment to be together within three weeks after my father passed away. 

Note: It’s recommended to avoid making big decisions after experiencing a death.

In our second month together, I was bullied to let go of my business and with it my financial freedom. Amongst countless other examples, he listened in on my phone conversations and would scream at me non-stop if I didn’t do what he wanted. He even left me stranded in a southwestern desert at 3 PM in the middle of the summer with no cash or credit cards as he drove away – to return 30 minutes later. 

In our third month together, the stress of what my life had become short-circuited my adrenals, thyroid, blood sugar and more – so I wasn’t able to speak my words in the right order, think well, have physical energy to move and would cry if someone said hello. 

Enabling this behavior was my belief there was something wrong with me. Years later, when I saw the 1944 movie Gaslight with Ingrid Bergman, I recognized that this was what he tried to do… make me believe I was crazy so he could control me.

My unhappiness induced me to question and think. 
 

He insisted his reality was truth, but was it? His created what I called a living hell on earth.

I made a bad choice to be with him, which put me on a sorrowful path. Eventually, I figured out that regardless of how many good choices I subsequently made, I was still on the wrong path. 

I had to listen to my heart, my truth, and not give my power away.
Even if others claimed to know more or be an authority.
Even at the risk of losing my worldly goods. 
Even with my perceived HUMILIATION that, once again, I made a relationship mistake.

Actually, it was my ego’s need to protect this self-image that held me back the most. 

My survival ultimately depended on my ability to listen to my guidance, speak up for MYSELF and not be cowered into obedient silence and submission.

When I got honest with me, changes occurred, which made my exit easy. I packed my car and was gone in three weeks. 

The good news is that this experience taught me to think for myself and not believe others’ so-called authority. I learned to separate what I saw was true vs. what others told me I should believe.

And be the coach I am today.

It’s like the person who says the proverbial, “Yes, I’ll still love you in the morning” … not. Beware: many people lie to get what they want. Many believe their own lies!

What life do you want to live? Are you living it? Are you willing to honestly speak up, at least to yourself, and acknowledge what’s in your heart? 

Don’t wait for permission. It’s YOUR life!

Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog Post May 8, 2011



If you’d like support
to listen to
your heart and
what to do about it,

contact me
for a complimentary
Soulgoals’ Break-Free Session
by phone.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to
enhance their lives or share 
their gifts 
in a BIGGER way 
but
don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

7 Steps to Live Your Best Life

May 2, 2022

What would it take to live your best life?

What would it look like? There’s a part of you that has had the courage to see it, maybe in spite of your logical thinking of what’s possible. Maybe in your daydreams. Maybe in quiet whispers of the private recesses of your mind. Maybe in your prayers in the middle of the night.

Don’t be too quick to dismiss those visions. Your best life may reveal itself in those wishes and desires and could be a clue to your future.

Where can you go to find your answers? Start by listening to yourself! 

Here are seven steps to help you LIVE your best life: 

  1. Breathe deeply in a relaxed way.
  2. Write about your ideal life. How do you see yourself in that life? There’s a great deal more power in writing than just thinking about it! 
  3. Write what your life is like right now.
  4. Ask your soul, your innermost essence of wisdom, for clear communication. Listen for the answers. Yes, you can do this.
  5. What steps can you take to springboard you from what’s happening in your current life to your ideal life, your best life?
  6. Take consistent action – even if it’s small steps toward the tiniest view of something better.
  7. Choose to make changes gently, with grace and ease.

When you are open to receive, your answers may differ from what you now think and may come at unexpected moments.

At first, they may not make sense. You may glimpse a piece rather than the whole puzzle. You may see an image rather than words or experience feelings like relief, peace, gratitude or joy.

Don’t judge them. You’re opening communication and learning the language of how your soul, your sacred beingness, is talking with you. If you’re not sure what the answers mean, ask again.

Take a moment now.

Ask your soul to speak up: LOUDLY so you can hear; CLEARLY so you understand without a shadow of a doubt. It speaks in its own way and timing.

The time to be afraid of the bogeyman is gone.

A rose proudly shares its beauty, even though its life is short. A tarantula boldly lives its life for what it is – a tarantula. No matter what opinion you have of yourself, you are beautiful and capable of creating a wonderful life.

It’s time to live your best life. Empower yourself by asking your soul to speak up – then listen – and act. 

Believe.

Edited excerpt from May 13, 2011 Soulgoals’ post 



If you’d like support 
to clarify and live your best life, 
contact me

for a complimentary
Soulgoals’ Break-Free Session
by phone.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to enhance their lives or share their gifts 
in a BIGGER way 
but
don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Can You Create Miracles?  Do You Need One?

April 25, 2022

Believe in MIRACLES

Your life has always been blessed with miracles. The near miss from having an accident. A smile from a stranger, an email or a phone call when you felt down and on your way out. Things turned around in your favor. You miraculously manifested a goal against all odds.

When I got out of the way and allowed life to use its natural power, aka miracles, things worked out. Often in unexpected ways. Beyond what I could figure out with my best thinking.

When they didn’t work is when I put a kibosh on things because of doing things like these: 

  • fretted by wondering if enough people would attend an event.
  • I worried if I’d have enough money for something.
  • I felt discouraged and frustrated things might not work the way I thought they should.

Therefore, I manifested what I focused on – what I didn’t want. Worry doesn’t pay – especially the bills. In fact, worry blocks money coming to you because focusing on lack of money continues to attract lack of money.

Why? Money is energy. If you focus your energy on lack of something, you’ll attract more lack, regardless of what you claim you want.


Things to Know about Creating Miraculous Manifestations:

 • There are no limits or quotas on how many you can have.
• You don’t have to earn them; miracles are your birthright.
• Relax and be open to them. Let go and let God.
• Miracles appear in divine right timing. It’s a collaboration between your Essence and Creator as to when they show up.
• Choose to believe in and recognize miracles when they’re gifted to you; it refocuses you to receive more. Be grateful and count your blessings.
• While waiting for “big” ones, you may miss the small ones. Actually, they’re all big.

Life is always given according to your belief. Believe in possibilities manifesting beyond what you can mentally conceive.


We have been MISEDUCATED in believing there’s something wrong with us; we don’t deserve happiness or success; worry, fear and suffering are natural; and many more erroneous, self-defeating, negative messages.

Choose to live a miraculous life, and it’s yours. Well, your life is always miraculous. It’s easier and more fun, though, when you recognize the miracles.


5 Helpful Tips to Manifest Results:

1. Refocus your attention by making a list of your miracles and successes you’ve already had. 
2. Breathe and relax.
3. Set an intention to receive your goals and intentions, what you choose for your life.
4. Choose to be in divine flow and open to receive.
5. Take action.


For those who may feel it’s sacrilegious or presumptuous to think that little ole you has the ability to create miracles in your life, here’s a quote from the Bible, Matthew 17:20

“If you had faith like a grain of mustard seed, you may say to this mountain, ‘Move from here’, and it will move, and nothing will be difficult for you”.

Consider that it’s your spiritual destiny to practice faith, even a tiny amount like the size of a mustard seed, instead of keeping yourself small or being afraid to truly tap into your own greatness.


Focus on what you’re grateful for, and you’ll multiply your reasons to be grateful.

What miracles have you had? Do you need one? What do you choose to manifest now?

Begin by believing just a little bit more and taking action. The rest is easy.



If you’d like to discover
how to create
miracles in YOUR life, 
and yes, it’s definitely possible,

contact me
for a complimentary
Soulgoals’ Break-Free Session
by phone.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to enhance their lives or share their gifts 
in a BIGGER way 
but
don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.

Edited excerpt from my Soulgoals’ Blog posted on April 14, 2011.

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Escaping Financial Collapse

April 18, 2022

Be like a powerful river going around obstacles,

A woman came to me on the verge of closing the doors of her office and working from home instead. The economy had taken its toll on a once thriving business, and fear had taken its toll on her spirit.

Recently she shared a story that demonstrates her attitude that turned her business around.

Her company had been courting a prospective client. Although they liked her and what her company brought to the table, in the end, they didn’t want to leave their current, long-time vendor.

The staff grumbled about it for a few minutes and then returned to work. As she sat at her desk, she shook her head and said to herself:

“OK. We’re obviously not supposed to have this contract. I’m letting it go, and something better will come.” This was a departure from her old attitude of worry, fear and images of doom that would have consumed her.

As she clicked the Send and Receive button, an email appeared offering a contract which is now bringing her company three times more profit than the one that turned her down! Although only 1 ½ months into the year, her company surpassed her $250,000 first quarter goal and is bringing in $355,000 with over $150,000 in profits. What a dramatic shift from before when business was at its last gasp of survival.

By the way, her motto this year is Divine flow. Let “stuff” go.

She also learned that God is her supply, not any one person or company. For example, she expected a big client to come through with a contract. She kept waiting and getting frustrated and more desperate. 

When she let go of her expectation and opened up to other possibilities, opened up to the idea that her supply comes from a divine source and not from anyone in particular, then business poured in from many directions.

A year later the big client still hasn’t come through, but her business is flourishing. Without the panic and struggle, she was able to float to the surface of the quicksand of chaos, and success greeted her.

It takes practice to choose to trust instead of giving our power to fear.

Being groomed since childhood with the habit of fear, I’ve had a lifetime of observing the sneaky ways it shows up. My life became shipwrecked when I allowed myself to be seduced by its siren calls.

Eventually, it became harder to hold onto anxiety and easier to let go and trust things will work out – regardless of appearances. I decided to give up worry because it just wasn’t working for me. And when I let go, miracles happen.

Excerpt from March 12, 2012, Soulgoals’ Blog Post


Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

If you’d like help to bypass your obstacles, contact me
about a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-free Session at 
virginia@soulgoals.com


I work with people who choose to have a better life or business but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.
Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

You Still Have Time to Register for FREE! Starts Today.

April 15, 2022


Three days of FREE access to the Expanding Wisdom Summit starts today through Sunday.

Pick and choose the presentations you’d like to watch. I’ll be on the schedule tomorrow, Saturday, April 16. You can watch anytime throughout the day.

https://duanneredus.com/events or the Register NOW button below.

Feel free to share this event with your friends and family, and most importantly take time for you to “claim your genius!”

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Can You Make More Money if You Enjoy Yourself?’

April 11, 2022

Life isn’t meant to be an endurance test. It’s a gift for you to appreciate and enjoy.

If challenging things are happening or happened to you, you might wonder why.

It’s NOT a punishment, especially not from God or the universe!

It won’t help to look for whose fault it is or to blame yourself or others.

It’s not because you did something wrong or you’re not good enough!!!

It’s because your very essence, your soul /spirit/ higher wisdom, is guiding you toward new opportunities to learn lessons, make new choices, think and feel differently, stop being angry or afraid, take your power back, live in greater joy, or to be in closer alignment with who you really are.

And, from this authentic place, express your gifts to the world.

Whaaattt?! You may think there is zero way you would have brought this to yourself.

You’re right. Of course, none of us in our everyday thinking would ask for unfavorable circumstances!

However, our essence knows the spiritual lessons we are to learn, and it takes these as a higher priority over our physical comfort.

“Whatever happens to us originates in the mind.”

— Lester Levenson

The good news is that we can CHOOSE to learn these lessons with GRACE AND EASE.

It’s time for an enhanced awakening – to remember your life is not meant to be laborious and a struggle but to be lived more true to You than ever before.

The question is how conscious do you choose to be in the process? How hard do you make it?

You can choose to learn your lessons in a gentle way by decreeing it so.
You can make a choice: I choose _________ (you fill in the blank).

At the end of your life, you can look back with no regrets and say, “I learned a lot. I loved. And I enjoyed the ride.”

How much you enjoy life is a litmus test to know if you’re living in alignment with your soul.

Your head tells you what you think you should do, which isn’t always supportive to you or others.

Which is which – guidance from your head or inner Beingness? Ask yourself if you’re really enjoying all aspects of your life? 

Your soul guides you to be in a rhythm with Life, with the Life force, with divine flow.

Make the connection:

  • When you feel good about you and enjoy life, you attract good things.
  • Because you feel life has more meaning than day-to-day concerns, you’re happier.
  • Because you’re happier, your activities flow more smoothly.
  • When it does, you make more money and are more effective at whatever you do.
  • This generates more productivity, and you get more done.
  • You live inspired, creative and express your precious gifts with the world.

Even in hardship, you can appreciate and enjoy being alive. It’s a perspective.

If you feel life is hard, one challenge after another, waiting for the other shoe to fall, what else can go wrong – you’re in fear, not in the flow. And with this energy you’ll attract more circumstances to match what you’re feeling, which creates a vicious circle of what you don’t want.

You can choose to see challenges as opportunities to learn and grow, appreciate acts of kindness and focus on gratitude and love.


Enjoying life is not frivolous, an aside to what’s really important or an optional cherry on the cake.
ENJOYING LIFE IS THE CAKE!


What can you do to enjoy yourself more? Take time to do it because it’s YOUR life, and your life is not a means to an end. There are no brownie points to endure it. Instead, make conscious choices to enjoy your gift of being alive.

You deserve to enjoy yourself, and you are so very much worth it.

Edited excerpt from August 2, 2010, Soulgoals’ post



If you’d like help to enjoy your life more, contact me
about a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-free Session at 
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to have a better life or business but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.

Coming ATTRACTions – Expanding Wisdom Summit

April 8, 2022

The energy is expanding. The stage is set for 30 wisdom-filled sessions to be shared during the upcoming Expanding Wisdom Summit! 

Here’s how the Summit will work:

Each day of the Summit our host DuAnne Redus will send an email to all who have registered with links to the available talks offered on that day.

Register for free here: https://duanneredus.com/events/

In answer to a question that was asked of me… just watch those you choose.

Each day will be available to all who registered for 48 hours before the links are inoperable.

In the email for each day will be the opportunity to purchase the entire summit (audio and video) for $33 as a way for participants to rewatch sessions at their convenience.

We have 30 speakers and 33 sessions filled with pearls of wisdom and information and beautiful energy.

Included in the program are clients and friends you may know: Carol Warkoczewski, Lisa Schnitzer and LisaBeth Thomas!

Register for FREE now at https://duanneredus.com/events/

I’m happy to share this special experience with you so you can expand YOUR wisdom! 

Do you know friends or family who might enjoy this? Please spread the word.

With gratitude,

Virginia

If you’d like help to expand your wisdom, contact me
about a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-free Session at 
virginia@soulgoals.com


I work with people who choose to have a better life or business 
but don’t know how, feel stuck
 or would benefit from new tools or support.
I help them by connecting with their Soul’s goals.

Annoying People in Your Life?

April 4, 2022

A client was annoyed because she consistently attracted unqualified customers.

One got nastily irate when she told him that his application didn’t go through.  Although she quickly let him go as a customer, she knew she had to change her focus to stop attracting dodo birds – who went extinct centuries ago.

Whatever you focus on, talk or think about grows.

In the past, she complained about how many applicants didn’t qualify. Because she focused on lack, what she didn’t want and have, she kept attracting more applicants who didn’t qualify.

Now she focuses her attention on having great applicants who both qualify and purchase her high-end products, all with grace and ease.

Her new perspective is working.

Are there similar (annoying) types of people or circumstances showing up in your life again and again?

Here’s how you can gain clarity about what you’re doing to attract that and release the energy.

Journal about how you feel when the dodo birds get you down. For example, you can write about:

  • Does how you feel remind you of how you felt about people or events from your past?
  • When you notice the patterns, observe them and choose to let them go.
  • Replace them by writing about your ideal perspective.
  • After, refocus on your wonderful dreams and goals instead of what you don’t want.

WRITING, not just thinking about, what’s bothering you can help you SEE what you’re thinking and doing to create this what-the-#(!X&!! in your life. You’re worth the time to discover what’s going on AND turn it around.

It’s time to soar with the eagles. You deserve it.


Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

If you’d like help to soar with the eagles, contact me
about a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-free Session at 
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to have a better life or business but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.

Edited excerpt from a July 31, 2017 Soulgoals’ post

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

You’re invited and I’m a speaker at the Expanding Wisdom Summit

March 28, 2022

Friends, 

30 women will speak at the upcoming, virtual Expanding Wisdom Summit, and I’m one of them!

As Wisdom Summit Host DuAnne Redus shared with us participants: “Our collective energy is sure to catalyse others to the call of self for the highest good… The call to oneself never ages.”

Three days of free access at your convenience. Mark your calendars for April 15-17.

I told DuAnne that some of my clients have empowering messages. She agreed, and now they’re part of this program, too!

Click on one of the links to see the smiling faces of Carol Warkoczewski, LisaBeth Thomas, Lisa Schnitzer and others who will be speaking.

https://duanneredus.com/events or the Register NOW button below.

Feel free to share this event with your friends and family, and most importantly take time for you to “claim your genius!”

With gratitude,

Virginia

Upcoming Free Virtual:
Expanding Wisdom Summit
  
Join in to raise harmonious energy honoring compassion and wisdom    Bring Your Wisdom

It is important to spark our collective energy.

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Where’s the Refresh Button for Your Life?

March 21, 2022

Wish you could redo parts of your life? 

  • Have regrets?
  • Feel bad about past choices or what others did?
  • Discouraged, stuck or frustrated about things that haven’t been working?
  • Holding on to beliefs about how you think life, others or you should be?
  • What (or who) have you outgrown?

Do you sometimes wish that a genie would appear and magic wand away your fears, painful memories and thoughts, past actions and choices? If only you knew then what you know now.


Perhaps you only need a change in attitude or perspective.
Another viewpoint can give you insights and direction.
Your next steps of what to do are always accessible.
Listen to your gut feelings and the quiet voice within.
Your answers will be revealed in divine right timing.
Your refresh button is within you.


By the way, don’t think you’ve got to see the big picture and know all the pieces before taking action. You can start where you are and with what you know right now.

You can make change easy on yourself by using these five steps:

  1. Be willing to consider a change. Willingness opens you to possibilities even if you’re not ready to commit to a change. This includes a change in attitude and the way you’ve always done things.
  2. Take consistent action in your new direction. If you were to make a change, what action would you take? Do it. Then tune in to the next step and do that. Step-at-a-time is perfect – no pushing or rushing.
  3. Get support from a friend or coach. Discussing possibilities and being heard can be powerful steps to clarity, action and change. Don’t listen to the naysayers, including that negative voice in your head.
  4. Choose that the change and lessons learned be gentle. If you believe change is hard, it is. There are people who remain positive in the face of disaster. Set an intention to make changes with ease and grace. 
  5. Breathe your way through it. Breathing deeply in a relaxed way puts you in divine flow instead of the flow of fear.

You can hit the refresh button of your life, and it will refresh if you are open to receive! How? Choose it.

Does this sound ridiculous? Impossible? Although it may seem farfetched at the moment that you making a choice could do anything, consider that you are that powerful! When you choose from your very Essence, not your doubting, weak, negative ego, so-called miracles can occur!

Experiment. Take a breath. Ask for… whatever you choose. Answers come in divine right timing.

Here’s a key. Open yourself to receive. If you resist that possibility, you close the door.

Give yourself a gift of a new beginning. Refresh your life. You have the power within to create positive changes with ease and grace and no drama.

Excerpt from a Soulgoals’ blog posted on March 15, 2011

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If you’d like help with a new perspective
so you break free to a new level of living, 
I can most assuredly offer many.
Contact me for a complimentary
Soulgoals’ Session at 
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who would enjoy a more fulfilling life,
choose to share their gifts

or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by connecting
with their Soul’s goals.

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Do You Doubt Yourself?

March 14, 2022

A mastermind team did an exercise that included prioritizing personal and professional goals, identifying obstacles, followed by strategies to overcome each one. If there was a roadblock, what could they do about it?

Procrastination was a big obstacle. Many delays were due to questioning themselves.

** Are they capable?
** Are they good enough?
** Are they doing the right thing?

Avoidance happened when their goals involved new activity and knowledge that differed from how they’d done things in the past. They were growing their businesses in new ways, which meant doing things they’d never done before. The same was true for doing different things in their personal lives.

Venturing into an arena unknown to them brought on self-doubt, which immobilized them from moving forward.

When going outside the known and our comfort zone, when choosing to take ourselves to another level, it’s likely new tools and skills will be needed. This has nothing to do with not being good enough or a reason to be afraid of rejection!

Once we get over our “yes, buts,” “you don’t understand,” “I was told this is the way it is (or I am),” “there’s nothing that can be done” and countless other reasons we try to legitimize why we do things the way we’ve always done, new solutions can appear.

The answers to get you through any challenges live within you.

You’ll get pointed in a direction, a direct insight will come, you’ll overhear something by chance… or somehow your personal, internal GPS will show you the way.

Pay attention to your inner nudges. They provide clues.

Be open to step back and see things in a new perspective. The seemingly impossible may actually be possible with a different approach.

Niels Bohr, who won the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1922, wrote:

“Every great and deep difficulty bears in itself its own solution. It forces us to change our thinking in order to find it.”

Bohr, who contributed to understanding atomic structure and quantum theory, tapped into his creativity to use outside-the-box-thinking, which allowed him to be part of breakthrough discoveries.

Expand your territory. Change your perspective. Open to breakthroughs.

You are more powerful than you think you are.

Believe in yourself… just a little bit more!

P. S. Know someone who might be interested in this TIP?  Please share.

I work with people
who would enjoy a more fulfilling life,
choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by connecting
with their Soul’s goals.

Reposted from my Soulgoals’ Blog of March 26, 2018
Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Confused About What to Do?

March 7, 2022

Once I had a dream where I was in a room with no windows or doors and seemingly no way out.  I searched the walls for a way to leave, but there wasn’t any.

Then I discovered that there was a stairway in the middle of the room that took me to a higher level, and that room was filled with lots of windows, doors and light.

Albert Einstein is paraphrased to have said:

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

Feeling stuck is an emotional response that can leave you feeling there’s no way out. Instead, you can find a way to untangle yourself from whatever has gotten you balled up and take productive action.

Here are four pointers that can help:

1. You’re frustrated because you’re trying to control the outcome by expecting it (or people) to be or act the way you think it should. 

Alternative:  Relax and anticipate this or something better will occur. Stop trying to micromanage the world. This opens you to tune into new ideas and directions.

2. You’re beating yourself up with fear, worry, regrets or other limiting thoughts and emotions because of your situation. 

Alternative: Let go of judging yourself, others and your circumstances. Replace it with an empowering perspective that you’re learning, and all is in divine order and timing.

3. You’re focused on what’s not working. 

Alternative: Focus on what you choose and the good feeling mojo it creates. Good feeling mojo is what opens you to manifest more quickly and with grace and ease.

4. You’re pushing to make things happen. 

Alternative: Stop resisting (and exhausting yourself about) what is and allow things to be the way they are. You getting fussy about it won’t change it or help. Let go. Let God. Set new goals for what you choose. Then take action from this perspective.


There’s a part of you that doesn’t have a clue about what to do. Another part knows!! You have the ability to stop listening to your confusion or asking others what you should do.

Instead, find your answers within. 

How? Start to believe in yourself a little bit more. Ask the part of you that knows the answer (it’s there even if you’re oblivious to it) and write about your situation from that perspective. Even if it feels silly or make-believe when you begin.

Journal with an intention to gain clarity; you might surprise yourself with insights.  Give yourself permission to receive answers.

When you shift your perspective, you allow life to create miracles and successes beyond your wildest expectations, and the way out appears… often only one step at a time. Even if the next step is to pause, quiet your thoughts, and just BE.


If you’d like help finding clarity,
contact me for a free phone consultation at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to
enhance their lives or

share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.


Edited excerpt from my January 25, 2016, Soulgoals’ post.

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

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It’s Not Too Late

February 28, 2022

Flying in the face of his defeats and fears, at 41 years of age and desperate, having sold only one copy of his book in its first year, Brazilian Paulo Coelho went from one publisher to the next until his book was picked up by U.S. publisher HarperCollins.

After a time, President Bill Clinton was photographed with a copy. Julia Roberts commented about The Alchemist during an interview for Vanity Fair magazine. With acclaims from Rush Limbaugh to Will SmithThe Alchemist became a phenomenon. The book hit a milestone by being on The New York Times bestseller list for over 300 weeks and is now an international bestseller translated into more than 80 languages.


Coelho writes: “A man sets out on a journey, dreaming of a beautiful or magical place, in pursuit of an unknown treasure. At the end of his journey, he realizes the treasure was within him the entire time.”


Each year, hundreds of thousands walk the Camino de Santiago in Spain, France and Portugal. I became enchanted with this quest in another of his international bestsellers The Pilgrimage, a novel that blends adventure with self-mastery.

Regardless if you choose to fulfill your heart’s desire to enjoy a better body or health, a loving relationship, a more harmonious family life, financial prosperity, spiritual fulfillment, peace or happiness, may you be inspired to live your dreams!


Enjoy these quotes by Paulo Coelho. Oooo, they are really good! Some ideas have taken me decades to assimilate (so don’t give up), but how my life is enriched because of aspiring to their wisdom!

“It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.”
(Dear Reader, you do have dreams. Don’t abandon them!)

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
 (Stick with a heartfelt idea long enough, and magic happens. Help comes from unimagined places.)

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”
(“Impossible” is an old program of limitation that lies to you. Don’t believe it.)

“Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.” (Your choice – converse with fears or your heart. Yes, it is a choice.)

“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.” (Indeed, your treasure is within you right now!)

“Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.”
(What most people share and want to hear is their opinion, not necessarily the truth.)

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
 (Stick with a heartfelt idea long enough, and magic happens. Help comes from unimagined places.)

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”
(“Impossible” is an old program of limitation that lies to you. Don’t believe it.)

“Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.” (Your choice – converse with fears or your heart. Yes, it is a choice.)

“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.” (Indeed, your treasure is within you right now!)

“Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.”
(What most people share and want to hear is their opinion, not necessarily the truth.)

“One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.” (You’re reading this, so you’re alive. It’s not too late. Your idea… or something better.)

Don’t give up on yourself and your dreams, whatever they are! I can help. Contact me atvirginia@soulgoals.com

Feel free to share this post.

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in a BIGGER way 
but
don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.

This has been re-edited from my Soulgoals’ Blog posted on August 20, 2018.

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

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Does YOUR Economy Need a Boost?

February 21, 2022

Sometimes you have to let go to free yourself.

What do you do when you’re concerned about your finances, and you’re not sure how things are going to work out?

  • You were really counting on that job or deal to come through, but now it’s up-in-the-air or didn’t happen.
  • You have no idea how you’re going to make it financially.
  • You’ve don’t have enough to pay your bills and money left to live.
  • You’re afraid of inflation or changes in your industry. It’s okay now but what if….

A sales rep counted on her big client to provide a steady flow of income. She had a realistic expectation this would continue.

Suddenly, the reverse happened. They let her go.

After the initial shock, she put it in perspective. She did a journaling exercise I recommend: write a CEO letter to God, or the universe, if that’s more comfortable for you.

  • Write about your situation
  • Ask for help
  • Let it go
  • Be open to receive what you wanted or something better.

While writing, she realized she now has time to focus on projects and business ideas she’d put off.


Things don’t always work as you hoped or expected. But change always makes way for something better, regardless of how it appears.

Do not be limited by any individual, others’ opinions, what industry experts say or the government’s economy.
Choose that the source of your economy is not dependent on anything other than God’s economy, and God’s business is always good.

God is the source of your supply.



Maybe your change of events is what it took for you to let go and allow new possibilities to occur.

Remember the proverbial monkey who grasps something in a vase but can’t remove his hand until he lets go of what he’s holding onto? The neck of the vase is so narrow that he has to release his grip just to get his hand out.

You may need to change your perspective by letting go of your emotional and mental grasp to allow something better to come in.

What you focus on grows. In the past, have you experienced anxiety? If so, you’ll attract more experiences that lead you to feel anxious.

Instead, enjoy a childlike trust and curiosity. Look for what’s working and how the universe is assisting you. Consider it a mystery, and you delight in discovering the answer.

Believe there’s a happy ending and focus on it. Why not? You probably tried fear and worry, and they don’t produce lasting and fulfilling outcomes.

By the way, about that sales rep. New contracts appeared through happenstance, and her big client came back a few months later. Her financial situation worked out even better when she let go and shifted her perspective.

Revised excerpt from my Soulgoals’ blog post of February 7, 2011


If you’d like to discover
how to increase
YOUR economy,

contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session
by phone.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support. I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.
virginia@soulgoals.com

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Are You Living or Existing?

February 14, 2022

Do you jump through hoops to please people?
Do you jump through hoops to please people?

What do you do when someone tries to make you feel uncomfortable about being you or living your dreams?

  • Do you stuff what you feel and toe the line? This may be what you’ve been taught to do from infancy. An underlying fear may be that if you don’t fit in, you won’t survive.
  • If someone says you’re stupid, does the crowd-pleasing clown emerge. Or did you learn to dumb down and hide your brilliance?
  • If the family wants you to follow their traditions, do you do whatever it takes to belong, be loved and not make waves? Even if it means you just get crumbs of love. Even if you’re drowning in what floats their boat.

You’ll never be able to please others enough as they’ll keep changing the hoop they want you to jump through.

Do you desire to live, I mean really live? That includes not living to please other people. Instead, do you make choices that make you feel happy… and do you even know what makes you happy?


Are you not living your truth, what’s in your heart, because you’re afraid of or uncomfortable with possible consequences and what others might think?  
Instead, discover what makes you happy, and take time for you, your goals and your life. 



If you’re just getting by, living to please others, you’re existing instead of living your best life.

To live more fully, stop giving your power away.

Some ways you can give away your power are:

  • Trying to please others and being worried about what they’ll think. Instead, follow your inner guidance, your heart, your gut.
  • Living in worry and fear. Instead of thinking what’s wrong or what could go wrong, think about what’s right or could go right.
  • Talking about others; blaming and complaining about them. Instead, take responsibility for your actions and life.
  • Feeling sorry for yourself; maybe feeling damaged from your past, regardless of circumstances. Instead, look at but don’t feel disheartened by “what is,” and make new choices and actions.
  • Avoiding situations or not telling the truth. Instead, speak up – at least to yourself!
  • Making excuses, aka reasons, not to live your dreams. Instead, stand up for your passion and take action, even small steps. If it doesn’t work one way, do it another.

Don’t make yourself wrong, feel guilty or have regrets about what you haven’t done or your past. What you learned brought you to where you are today.

Instead, make a decision to make new choices. You are so powerful that when you say, “I choose,” you set forces in motion to redirect your life.

Talk with your soul to discover the best path for you:

  1. Go within and ask your questions.
  2. Listen and write your answers.
  3. Ask for clarity and/or action steps to take.
  4. Take action – consistently.

Take a moment now to breathe and do these four steps.

The Beginning

Edited excerpt from my Soulgoals’ post, May 19, 2011

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.



Is it time to let go of your fears and past and reclaim your power?
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break-Free Session by phone.

virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. Or maybe would like a more fulfilling life.  I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals. 

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

TIP: Don’t EXPECT Results. This Works Way Better.

February 7, 2022


Don’t EXPECT results??

Say again. Isn’t that what you’re supposed to do? 

Expecting results is a booby trap, and you’re no boob. Here’s how it can foil your efforts. 

When we mastermind, we ask for “this or something better.” Why? Because God and the universe may have a better way to bring results.

(Note: I know some people align more with the universe than God. Don’t get hung up on a word choice that doesn’t fit your beliefs. Refer to whatever works for you.)

Energetic clinging repels results. Imagine a girl focused on finding a boyfriend. Guys sense this as dogs sense fear and run for the hills. Once she lets go of the search, there’s room for her dream to come true.

Likewise, if we cling to how we expect things will turn out, it repels what we want.

I’m an expert on expectation… and why it doesn’t work.

In the past, I tricked myself into thinking that I trusted everything would work out, when I was actually WAITING FOR, aka EXPECTING, a result from a specific source. 

For example:

  • While putting a group together, I expected my next event would fill it.
  • If I had a financial goal, I expected a particular client to fulfill it.
  • I said I let it go, but I tried to control the outcome by expecting results the way I wanted.

I patiently relaxed to manifest my goals the way I expected. I knew how I thought it would happen… and I took action to make it happen.

Here’s the telltale downside. When life didn’t happen as expected, I got disappointed and depressed. Next came a feeling of hopelessness, fear and my former default program: Oh no, what am I going to do?


This started a vicious circle of expectation and discouragement that attracted more situations that caused me to continue to feel discouraged.


Now, I still hold events and have clients that could bring particular results. But, if they don’t, it’s called NEXT. God and the universe will supply from other sources. 

God is your supply. 

Don’t expect your supply to come from a person, event or anything in particular.

You ALWAYS are taken care of by God and the universe but results often come differently than how you think they SHOULD.

Results come with grace and ease when you, as the saying goes, let go and let God. 

The key is to have faith. TRUST. All you need is the faith of a mustard seed, and they’re very tiny.

Feeling dejected, rejected or injected with fear is not trusting.

Trust is not giving up or moaning about what’s not working. These are childhood responses. 



Trust by ANTICIPATING RESULTS. Anticipate your needs are met beyond your wildest expectations. If one way doesn’t work, it’s okay. Something better is here for you. Adopt a childlike curiosity of wonder instead of dictating an expectation. 


It’s your job to:

  • Make a choice.
  • Pay attention to your nudges.
  • Take action on what you’re inwardly guided to do.

 Let God and the universe fill in the HOW and why and where and by whom.


Anticipate, don’t expect.
Trust that God and the universe can and do manifest goals you choose or something better.

Don’t like your new creation? Don’t create a story about how you never get what you want, etc. Choose again.

Anticipate the best and you change the way your world is happening for you.


Edited excerpt from my Soulgoals’ post of May 26, 2011

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Are you DONE with not getting what you want?
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break-Free Session.


virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. Or maybe would like a more fulfilling life.  I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals. 

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

Are You Your Worst Critic? Stop Shoulding on Yourself.

January 31, 2022

Are you listening to your true Essence or the lies of your ego?


 
A trick of the ego
is to have you believe there’s something wrong with you (and “them,” too); you’re stupid; nothing is ever good enough, especially you; others are doing better than you (comparing as if that’s proof that you’re not as good); you’re critical of yourself and others; you shoulda known better; worried what if (the worst) happens; you shoulda, woulda, coulda done things differently; you disapprove of, well, when you think about it, kinda everything, including you, your life, others, and on and on. So…

 
STOP SHOULDING ON YOURSELF!


What can you do about things right now?

You DO have the ability to change your perspective.

If you CHOOSE to. So, choose to shift.

Your true Essence supports you NOW, 100%, and it’s always guiding you.

Listen, even amidst the noisy ego chatter. The best you can is alright.

Consider another way of looking at things.

Instead, focus on asking yourself, “What did I learn?”

Fast forward to the present moment as you leave the past behind.

Benefit from your lessons and move on to your next adventure.

Life’s a journey. You don’t have to get hung up on any one step of it.

One option is to live your life with as much grace as you can, without judgment.

BE kind, especially to yourself.




Are you DONE with that nagging voice in your head?
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break-Free Session.


virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. Or maybe would like a more fulfilling life.  I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals. 
Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com
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Don’t Give Up. This CAN Help!

January 24, 2022

Do you have challenges that leave you clueless about what to do? Wouldn’t you rather live life on your terms?

My challenges started to multiply and became too numerous and complicated to solve. I felt disheartened as I trudged through them step-by-step.

How could I get large accounts to pay past due invoices they ignored? What would it take to heal my hip that went out and created a painful limp? How could I complete a frustrating project that left me wishing Scotty would beam me up and free me of my misery? And the list went on.

It was time for an elixir that brings results – a CEO meeting with the Divine. Call it God, the Universe, a Non-Physical Source, Infinite Intelligence, or however you choose to refer to an Energy that surpasses our human understanding.

I wrote my needs and asked God for help. Miraculously, everything that was wearing me out got resolved, most by the next day.

Checks finally arrived; my hip suddenly healed; people stepped up to help me complete my projects; and much more – and I felt great!

Whatever you call this Power, know that the biggest and most savvy CEO of all is available upon request to help you. This CEO supports your success, loves unconditionally, and never sleeps.

Think you need to know someone in order to get ahead? This CEO knows everyone and has the best connections.

  • This CEO knows you are worthy and deserve receiving positive results in divine right timing… regardless of what you’ve done in the past; how you’ve screwed up; how confused or exhausted you are; how inadequate you feel; how much doubt you feel – even if you’re angry with or don’t believe in a divine source – or how big (or hopeless) your problem seems.
  • This CEO invites regular communication and collaboration, so forget about the idea that you don’t want to bother God with the small stuff.

You can worry until the 11th hour before letting go and asking for supreme assistance. But why wait until life gets out of control when an all-knowing, caring, hands-on CEO is on-call 24/7?

Asking for divine intervention welcomes miracles into your life.



Got Problems? God’s seen them all and already knows the way out of any situation. So why not ask for help? You’ve got nothing to lose by working in conscious partnership with the Divine, and everything to gain.

  • Ask and it will be given. That’s called a clue. You have to ask.
  • Believe to receive for the most magical results.

Even people who resist journaling say they look forward to these CEO meetings. You can take your problems to your Divine CEO and receive phenomenal results, too.

TIPS:

  • CEO meetings with the Divine work great even if you feel completely stuck.
  • There’s no right or wrong way to have your CEO meeting with the Divine.  Just talk with your Source.
  • WRITING AND ASKING FOR HELP (instead of only thinking and staying lost in your head) is a HIGHLY EFFECTIVE YET SIMPLE TOOL TO LET GO OF YOUR PROBLEMS AND FEARS.
  • The more you believe this can work and are open to receive, the easier answers come.

Say good-bye to worry and challenges. Invite the best CEO to work with you, on your behalf.

Don’t settle for living in silent desperation.

You can live life on your terms, but don’t take my word for it.

Got challenges? Don’t give up!

Choose to create your world in collaboration with divine flow. Have your CEO meeting with the Divine and find out for yourself.


Excerpt from my Soulgoals’ Blog posted on October 2, 2009

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.


I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. Or maybe would like a more fulfilling life.  I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals. 

Beyond not giving up. Thrive!
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break-Free Session.

Email me at:
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Happy New BIG Dreams

January 17, 2022

“Happy Talk” is a song from the play and movie South Pacific. It has a catchy tune that I sung as a teenager in my school’s chorus.  

Happy talk, keep talking happy talk,
Talk about things you’d like to do,
You gotta have a dream,

If you don’t have a dream,
How you gonna have a dream come true?


If you don’t talk happy and you never dream,
Then you’ll never have a dream come true.

So, DREAM well.

Dream BIG.

Dream about what makes your
heart sing.

Focus on
what makes you happy,
not what didn’t or doesn’t.

Go beyond
talking about what you’d like to do.

CHOOSE
YOUR
DREAM.

Choosing is one of the
most powerful tools you have
to create the world of your dreams –
you invite
invoke
align
your very soul to assist you
to manifest your dreams
when you do.

Take action,
even little steps
everyday
towards your dream.

Your prayers are always heard –
it’s up to you to dream them up and
trust they arrive in divine right timing.

Much Love to you in
creating a year
of your dreams!

I support your choices and
see you receiving them!!!

Honoring Martin Luther King… who had a dream. A BIG dream!


I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. Or maybe would like a more fulfilling life.  I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals. 

Decide that this is your year to make your dreams come true!
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break-Free Session.

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Originally posted on my Soulgoals’ blog, January 1, 2011



Always Late, Hard on Yourself or Make Yourself Wrong?

January 10, 2022


“I’m late, I’m late for a very important date.” 
Alice in Wonderland 

A friend told me, “I have a character defect, and I really have to change it this year.”

She had a hard time being on time. 

She said, “If I have A, B and C to do, I try to squeeze it all in, even though I only have enough time to do A. Then I become late. It’s disrespectful to people, and I just have to stop it. This year, it’s got to stop!

I was born three weeks late, and my mother just accepted my showing up late. It’s no longer working for me, though.”

Her self-deprecating tone became more disapproving the longer she talked. To listen to her, one might think she was headed straight to the bowels of the earth for her misdeeds.

To put it in perspective, though, it was tardiness and not the end of the world.

I told her, “You had an issue. You don’t have to keep bringing up examples of what you did wrong in the past and how bad you think you were while dragging all of that into the present. You made a new decision to be on time. So be it.

Her reply was, “It’s really so simple, isn’t it? I don’t have to beat myself up or agonize about my habits. Just make a decision to change, and then follow through.”

Have you ever felt miserable and chastised yourself about how you didn’t do as well as you thought you should? 

It reminds me of when I was in third grade and took a music test. I was sure I failed. The test scores wouldn’t come back for a week, and I suffered the entire seven days. Why couldn’t I have done better?

I got the highest grade in the class.

That was my first introduction to an idea, “Don’t worry until you have something to worry about.”

It took me years to take it to another level: don’t bother worrying at all. It doesn’t help. Worry and making ourselves wrong actually make our situations worse.

Ready to be ahead of your time?

  • Let go of your story that you continue to tell about time.
  • Stop using your stories as a way of getting attention.
  • If you messed up, you messed up. Learn from it and move on… without the story.
  • Release the need to justify your actions or get validation from others.
  • Accept yourself more without adding judgment, blame and shame.
  • Shift your focus away from your past and refocus on now, your decisions and where you’re going.

Step at a time, and you’ll discover you are in present time.

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy this post? Please share.

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Decide that this is your year!
Contact me for a complimentary
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Reposted from my Soulgoals’ Blog, January 18, 2018

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Do This ONE Thing for a Great Year

January 3, 2022
What do you choose to be? How do you choose to feel? It’s a decision.

The BEST New Year’s resolution is to resolve to feel good. With this decision all things or something better are possible.

It really is a choice.

You have complete control over your perspective, regardless of the situation. Your interpretation of events, your life, your success or manifesting your dreams is your key to the door of happiness, misery or getting what you most want.

Your energy will draw to you more of how you feel.

How in the world can you feel good in spite of the odds?
Be grateful for what you DO have.


A client gifted me a handmade journal with an embroidered peacock on the cover that she bought in one of my favorite museums. It’s so beautiful that I decided I only wanted beautiful words in it. Another client on her team suggested a journaling exercise that makes her feel good.

Write what’s working in your life.

Soon after, on a day when everything was uncharacteristically out-of-synch, I couldn’t leave town to go to my own birthday party!  Instead of having a hissy fit, I grabbed my new journal and wrote on the entire first page the many things that are going well.

Focusing on gratitude shifted my energy, allowed me to let go of the stress and be in present time. Of course, the change in plans turned out to be way better.

HAPPY New Year to you.

Hint: the clue is in the greeting.

The first word is HAPPY.

The BEST New Year’s resolution is to feel good and be happy.

You can use feeling good as your inner GPS to know if you’re on the right track or not.

It may be that the only thing needed for you to be happy is an attitude adjustment. Also, how you feel can be an indicator that you’re on the right path or heading in a direction that no longer serves you or maybe never did.

HUGE TIP: If you decide a change is needed, feel good about where you are, even if you don’t like it. Then line up your energy by feeling good about your new direction and take actions for something better.

Happy New Year! It’s your choice to parrot the words or make them come true for you!

May you enjoy your happiest year ever!

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy this post? Please share.

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who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck, 
would benefit from new tools
or support

OR they’d enjoy a better life.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Excerpt from January 1, 2018 Soulgoals’ Blog post

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3 Quotes to EASILY Set Your Resolutions

December 26, 2021

It’s that time when people make resolutions for the new year… most of which they won’t keep.

But you can make ones that you CAN fulfill.

How? Let’s keep it simple AND effective.

You’ll have greater success if you focus on doing what you LOVE instead of making resolutions to please others, those you think you have to do or should do. This includes earning money because you need to instead of receiving money for doing what you love. (Yes, YOU CAN DO BOTH!)

When you’re ruminating about what you’d like your resolutions and life to be, may these words of wisdom guide you… and be sure to include fun and doing what you love.


“If you do follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.”

 “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”
― Joseph Campbell

(my underline)


“People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.”
― Dale Carnegie


“If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased.”
― Katharine Hepburn


May you enjoy a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year!

Virginia


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who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck,
would benefit from new tools
or support OR would like to enjoy a better life.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.

Decide that this is your year!
Contact me for a complimentary
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Email me at:
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Reposted from Soulgoals’ Blog of December 31, 2018

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Is Peace Really Possible? If So, How??

December 20, 2021

Much of the world is lost in their wanting of something.

As a result, people feel bad or create conflict over what they perceive as lack  what they want but don’t have. In essence, they want things like better health or relationships or weight, a better life, more money, people to behave and believe differently and on and on.

This also means that whatever they have or feel is not good enough. Not enough. The real nemesis.

Could this possibly apply to you, too?

When you feel anxiety, ask yourself what you’re wanting. Even in simple things, such as:

  • Feeling stressed because you want to give the perfect gift? You’re more likely to find it if you’re relaxed.
  • Anxious because you want to get your house in order before company comes or want to land a business deal? If you’re feeling good, you’ll spread holiday cheer to your guests or clients – and they’ll feel better around you.
  • Worried about wanting more money, better health, your ideal partner or better relationships? When you’re emotionally calm, you’re more receptive to insights. Ideas and opportunities will be drawn to you like Santa Claus finds cookies.

Can li’l ole YOU make a difference in this big, crazy world?

YES!

With each person who feels greater peace within, the world becomes more peaceful. Just like anger is infectious, so is the feeling of peace. 

Which do you choose to propagate? Fear, anger, worry, frustration OR peace?

You have a choice. Sound impossible?

Do you think that you can’t help the way you feel because it’s someone else’s fault or your challenging circumstances are to blame? Wouldn’t everybody complain if they were in your shoes?

Here’s how you can begin to break that cycle, change your attitude and create a life of greater peace.

What’s the source that creates such stress?

Lack of peace comes from:

  • wanting approval from others
  • wanting to control circumstances (that are sometimes out of your control) or others’ choices and how they show up in the world
  • wanting to be free of a fear of lacking safety and security.

Can these really be the culprits of all that suffering? Yep. These three wants are the roots of what create any lack of peace!

The secret is switching your energy from wanting to having… then what you choose can come to you with grace and ease.

You can choose to experience greater peace!

First, decide that being at peace is your highest priority, more than wanting approval and love, wanting security or wanting control. (In other words, more than unconsciously wanting things that end up making you feel miserable, depressed, stressed, frustrated, fearful, worried or any crappy feeling you do NOT want.)

How?

  • Let go of wanting approval and love so you can discover that you already have approval and love. It’s an inside job, not something anyone can give you.
  • Let go of wanting to be safe and secure so you can realize you already are. If you’re trying to get this from others or feel you need more money, things, love, etc. to be happy, remember that they could be taken from you anyway. You’ll discover that you’re already safe and secure as long as you stop fearing that you’re not.
  • Let go of wanting control. No amount of trying to control external sources will ever be satisfying. You already have control, but it’s within you.
  • Let go of the need to defend yourself. What are you defending except a false sense of self? 

If you make peace your highest priority, you’ll experience greater success in all areas of your life.

You’ll find that you’ll attract those who are more peaceful, and peace will ripple to others. Li’l ole you changing the world toward greater peace.

As I’m not going to try to control what you believe, may you enjoy your holiday season in a way that’s meaningful to you and your faith.

Peace be unto you, my friend.

Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ post of December 22, 2015


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My Mother Came Out of Her Coma to Tell Me Her 4 Last Words

December 13, 2021


In 1988, when my mother went into a coma, I knew the end was near.

It was also a time when my health and energy were as poor as my pocketbook. I knew she wanted to be buried in New York next to my father, but I had no idea where the money would come from for the funeral and to move her body from Texas.

As I ruminated aloud about my dilemma with her near-lifeless body next to me, she came out of her coma and said, “You’ll find a way,” and immediately slipped away again.

These were the last words I ever heard from my mother. “You’ll find a way.”

Interestingly, a phrase she repeatedly voiced throughout her life was “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

I got creative and found a way. It was surprisingly easy to arrange for several thousands of dollars of expenses and transportation costs although I barely had money for food at the time.

Reportedly, a mother found strength to lift a car to save her child who was underneath. If asked earlier, she probably would’ve scoffed at the possibility of doing such a thing.

In real emergencies, the mind and its limitations step aside, and the brilliance of our true spirit shines its light to guide us. 

We don’t have to have an emergency to access this. 

The light is always here to show the way if we turn it on.

Whatever you’re going through now, you’ll find a way through!


Looking for a way
but don’t know what to do?
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their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Excerpt from my Soulgoal Missives posted a long time ago.

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Is Telling the Truth a Good Idea?

December 7, 2021

“Lie to no one. If there’s somebody close to you, you’re gonna’ ruin it with a lie. If they’re a stranger, who the f— are they you gotta’ lie to?”

Willie Nelson in Thief

It’s easier to speak our truth simply, although people who don’t want to do something or feel the need to hide often go into avoidance or denial, tell lies, get angry, complain, project blame on others, or make up stories – variations on defensiveness.

A man I knew was “speaking-his-truth challenged.” He made excuses when he didn’t return calls, didn’t keep his word, and disappeared for months when he said he’d call in a couple of days. He left several relationships without a word of goodbye.

Once he phoned to say he was house hunting and asked if I knew any homes for sale in my part of town. I suggested he contact a realtor. I made a three-way call with him, and we left a message for a client of mine who’s in the business.

She told me she returned his call two times but never heard back. A month later, I saw him at the post office, inquired about his search, and commented how he never returned my client’s call. He said he thought he called her back two or three times.

“No. You didn’t.”

This college instructor then claimed forgetfulness expecting me to believe he was the absent-minded professor.

Busted, and he still couldn’t come clean.

To his credit, three months later he left a message on my voicemail to apologize for “some behaviors he acted out with me, the last one being about the realtor, realized after doing some soul searching.”

Tell the truth. Keep it simple. When we do we keep our self-respect, our personal power, and integrity.

Sometimes blatant truth telling is unwise. Telling your boss he’s an idiot may not be the best choice unless you’re ready to walk out the door for good.

Silence or responding with kindness may be the more gracious approach… instead of trying to shove truth down someone’s throat who you perceive isn’t capable of digesting it at that moment. (Another lesson I’ve learned after realizing some people are quite oblivious, and I end up looking like a fool in their eyes if I try to press the point.)
 
Diplomacy and kindness go a long way to effective communication.
Well, at least the best you can in the moment. Sometimes journaling or talking to someone else about it first can take off the emotional edge.

The egoic mind feels that it needs to defend itself and wear a mask it wants the world to see; the real you doesn’t.

Your challenge, if you choose to accept, is to speak your truth without defensiveness.

  1. Identify a situation where you’ve been holding back on expressing yourself because of fear of what someone might say, think, or do.
  2. Decide if telling the whole truth is the wisest course of action.
  3. Invoke your Soul energy for courage, wisdom, divine right timing, and effective communication skills. How? Just ask within for help.
  4. Speak your truth diplomatically but straight from your heart, with as much grace as you can muster. Your truth is good enough, with or without explanation.
  5. Be prepared to accept the consequences, knowing that the way out of a situation is often to go through it rather than avoiding it or being defensive.

With a zest for Life,
 
Virginia 


Struggling to tell the truth…
even to yourself?
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and be richly compensated doing what
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Originally posted as an excerpt from my Soulgoal Missive a long time ago.

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How to say NO. Hint: You don’t have to explain yourself

November 29, 2021
Aaaaa, do you see the light when answering NO?

“Watch for any kind of defensiveness within yourself. What are you defending? An illusory identity, an image in your mind, a fictitious entity.”

Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

Many years ago, I saw someone with the habit of needing to explain himself on the game show You Bet Your Life. Long before his scandalous lifestyle was revealed, host Bill Cosby asked a contestant if his mother ever made a certain recipe indigenous to his home country. The guy went into a long harangue ending with his mother didn’t.

Mr. Cosby replied that a simple no would’ve sufficed.


I had a lesson in discernment. I gave fuel for discussion when a simple no would have sufficed.

A friend stumbled with words while asking me for a favor. Actually, I had to state the question because, after telling me a long, explanatory backstory, the favor was implied but never asked.

I immediately knew my answer. However, opting to practice diplomacy and restraint instead of blurting out a flabbergasting, “Are you nuts? That doesn’t work on so many levels,” I said I would get back with my decision.

Later that day, life provided an incident illustrating that to fulfill the request wasn’t a good idea. The next day, while sharing what happened, I segued into declining the request siting my recent experience as an illustration of why I didn’t want to do what was asked.

My answer was challenged. Although I didn’t defend myself, I listened to how a simple “no” would have been okay, but my reason wasn’t acceptable because it wasn’t believed.

It made no sense to elaborate my why because the question wouldn’t have been posed if it were looked at more deeply by her in the first place. A favor was requested, not a dissertation.

Furthermore, experience has taught me that introducing logic when someone is emotional rarely promotes clear communication.

Upon reflection, I learned several lessons.

  1. Keep it simple. If I said, “No, it doesn’t work for me,” I could’ve avoided her rant. There wouldn’t have been fuel for rebuttal.
  2. Use discernment. Historically, my observation of this person’s emotional state in the past was a clue that my decision to explain even a little wasn’t a good call. Additionally, the favor wouldn’t have been asked if this person knew better. To someone closer to me, I might have shared more of my thoughts. Even though life provided me with my validation, I didn’t have to share it.

“Expecting healthy behavior from unhealthy people is futile; expecting different results from the same behaviors, according to Earnie Larsen, is insane.”

 Melodie Beatty, Codependent No More

(Yikes. I would add, we have to admit to ourselves that they have unhealthy behavior. In the past, I often, way too often, choosing to see the best in people, wouldn’t allow myself to see that.)

3. Don’t tiptoe around people’s emotions. I was tired of dealing with anger and sensitivity, so I listened to but didn’t stop the rant. By not drawing the line, I gave away my power to her. Why should I tiptoe around others because they might get upset?  It’s not my responsibility to take care of others’ emotions as long as I’m not dumping mine on them. I didn’t exercise my option to stop the rant and say, “My answer is no, and it’s not up for discussion.”

4. There’s no need to defend my choices and beliefs. On the bright side, I didn’t inwardly react or feel the need to elaborate on my reasoning upon demand. By not reacting, I observed more dynamics of the interaction.

“Even if you don’t hold your ground, moving differently in a relationship is the best way to learn about your own self and the relationship. Only after you begin to change a relationship can you really see it.”

 Harriet Goldhor Lerner, The Dance of Anger

Tired of giving away your power, even though you might
not realze that’s what you’re doing? Contact me at:
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I work with people who choose to share
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but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Originally posted as an excerpt from my Soulgoal Missive a long time ago.

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Can You Be Grateful About What Bugs You?

November 22, 2021

Once I asked someone who’s wise why things in my life weren’t working. I said that I practiced gratitude every morning and night.

The reply I received was what was I doing the rest of the day? 

Gratitude, continuous gratitude, will change your life!

That can seem easier said than done at times, until we realize…

we’re rarely angry for the reason we think we’re angry. How dare they!

That feeling is not necessarily about the other person or situation being wrong. The emotion triggered may be from a similar, emotional memory or our perception that may or may not be accurate.

The reason we have charged emotions is because those challenging feelings surface (and then we get bugged about things) when it’s time for them to be released.

Have you noticed how sometimes people can jump to the wrong conclusion and then become upset by their interpretation, even if it’s false?

Regardless if the other was right or actually the wrongdoer, holding on to a lack of forgiveness or a one-sided, limiting perspective might feel empowering. It might feel validating, proof that you’re right and the other is wrong.

However, there might be another side of the story that’s not being considered because of being locked into a particular viewpoint.

The ego loves feeling right.

But your Essence knows the trap of self-righteousness and sees things differently.

A mother copped an attitude about perceived activity regarding her senior-aged daughter. Things she never did. Not even close. In fact, her accusations were ludicrous.

The whole issue could have been easily dismissed, but not even going to mediation altered her mother’s foolish perspective.

Rather than talking about it or seeing proof to the contrary, she set a court date!

She had her daughter evicted from her house through a court order the day before Thanksgiving. Her daughter had nowhere to go.

By the way, she had invited her daughter, who was down on her luck, to live with her. To do that, she had to sell her car and belongings and move over a thousand miles away.

Replacing her anger, frustration, hurt and fear of what her own mother was doing to her, the daughter began to send her mother love, disregarding any of her mother’s unforgiving attitudes.

The mother began to soften and question her hardline approach.

Empowerment through shifting your perspective to love and gratitude are more truly empowering than feeling justification through a lack of forgiveness or holding onto the feeling of what bugs you. Maybe there’s another angle you’re overlooking.

Perhaps, given an opportunity, you can clear the energy on whatever might be bugging you through discussion or seeing things from a different viewpoint. It doesn’t matter if that does or doesn’t work, love is the greatest healer.

Even if others are convinced you’re wrong, you can be emotionally free.

So if you get annoyed at your world and whatever bugs you about it, consider that there might be another perspective so that you can send love and give thanks, instead.

With gratitude,

Virginia

Edited from an excerpt of a November 19, 2018 Soulgoals’ Blog Post

Contact me to learn how a shift in perspective can dramatically improve your life:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

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Short Read: Overwhelmed?

November 15, 2021

Short because I know you’re too overwhelmed to read anything long

Focus brings power with it. If you clear away the thing that’s keeping you from your goal, you can then move directly toward the goal. If your mind is concerned with only one thing instead of two – especially if the two conflict! – you’ll get a lot more mileage out of its use.”

Sterling W. Sill, The International Journal of Success


How can you get control of your life? While you’re thinking, let me share a client’s story.

“The thought What am I going to do today? made me dizzy while I was flat in my bed. At that point I knew I had to stay home and not do anything except take care of myself, prioritize, and discover what makes me happy. I realized I wasn’t helping anybody because I needed to help myself. One by one I backed off from activities where I could be replaced and started to focus on what is important to me.”

There are so many demands on our time – family, work, responsibilities, friends, personal care, problem solving and more – that we can get overwhelmed.

Who’s got time to focus on what’s most important to us and our dreams? But then, if we don’t tend to these, we’ll stay where we are. So much to deal with. It can be confusing and exhausting.

Have you seen the apparatus on some sci-fi shows that scatters someone’s image into a dozen different places so the real person can’t be found? That’s what our lives are like when we allow ourselves to overextend into too many activities. We lose ourselves.

Of course, this offers us a great excuse, too, as it’s much easier to jump from one activity to another, adopt a non-productive feeling of being overwhelmed so we can’t think straight, or change from one goal or project to another, than to see them to completion without feeling frazzled. 

“In soloing, as in other activities, it is far easier to start something than it is to finish it.”

Amelia Earhart 


How can you get control of your life?

  • Get clear on what you want 
  • Focus on this as a priority 
  • Decide you’re going to skip feeling overwhelmed
  • Enjoy the process
  • Take action.

Oh, you may as well have fun while doing this! It makes life so much easier


Does the thought of not being overwhelmed feel overwhelming?

Contact me to learn how to get more control of your life:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Copyright © 2021 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Stop Feeling There’s Something Wrong With You

November 8, 2021

Stop scaring yourself with the stories you tell about yourself.

“Regardless of how he presents himself he is your gremlin and his view of “what is so” is grounded in make-believe. Be aware of him. It is unnecessary to try to ignore him or to fight. Simply notice him.”

Richard D. Carson, Taming Your Gremlin, A Guide to Enjoying Yourself

I had mononucleosis in college and was out of school for a month. It took me a while to return to the rhythm of taking classes again. At the same time, my boyfriend came home from his college, and we enjoyed ourselves visiting with his family.
 
For me to make my 2 P.M. class, I had to leave his house at 1 P.M. At 1:15 I could have gone, but I would have been late. At 1:30 it was a lost cause and water over the dam… but not for me.
 
They listened to me try to decide “should I or shouldn’t I go” for a while. Then when it was too late to leave, they listened to me whine that I should have gone. Finally, his older brother said, “You made your decision. Stop beating yourself up over what you chose to do. There is nothing you can do about it now. Let it go.”


I didn’t realize I had a choice in my thinking. I thought the responsible thing to do was agonize over my decision so it would be known that I knew I should have gone but somehow couldn’t rise to the occasion… and there’s something wrong with me.


So much unnecessary confusion follows this type of thinking, because the “problem” isn’t happening outside of us.

The problem is caused from our perception and reaction to what occurs.

The downside is that a great deal of energy is spent spinning around something that doesn’t matter, and then comes another problem – frustration. It’s very difficult to get off a merry-go-round when it’s moving in circles.

When we go in circles we watch life pass us by and think about so many things we would like to do and have to do that we’re not doing…

Then we jump off one ride, not to land on solid ground of “what is,” but to go on another ride. We start beating ourselves up over what we didn’t do or perhaps what we feel we should’ve done.

There are additional carnival adventures such as getting angry, which is a variation of the frustration ride. Other forms of entertainment include blame, worry, fear, anxiety, and playing victim. Another favorite is inaction – spending a lot of time on the merry-go-round of the mind creates such dizziness that it’s impossible to think straight and be clear enough to do anything.

If you insist on thinking there’s something wrong with you, you’re off on a roller coaster ride.

You may choose to change some of your actions and the consequences they create, but there’s nothing wrong with you.

Does any of this sound familiar?

The effort used focusing on these rides instead could be redirected to what’s important to you.

The first step is to put an adult in your control booth, thank your inner kids for picking up the slack during your time out, and communicate confidence that qualified supervision is taking over.

If this sounds like schizophrenic behavior, that’s what happens when we allow child parts of ourselves to take over and rule our lives as if they are us. Our perceptions and reactions become those of a child in an adult body.

How can you make the shift?

You know. Inside of you, you know.

Think about how a mature adult talks and acts, and start talking to yourself that way.

The adult you is only found in the now, not the past or the future.

You can show yourself self-respect and appreciation. Speak to yourself the way you would like others to talk with you.

Few will treat you any better than you treat yourself.


A child part will not be shushed or ignored, or like a child, it simply will act out in another way. What it wants is what any child wants, even though it may be rebellious. It wants to know it is safe and loved.

You provide the internal terrain that is a safe haven by acting like an adult who is in control, and the child part can relax and leave you at peace.
 
One tool to accomplish this is to simply notice it, without reacting or judging or making yourself wrong.

Be the watcher, the observer. 

As your gain greater perspective, you may see that perhaps you could make different choices, but there’s nothing wrong with you.


Tired of that sickening feeling of feeling wrong?
Contact me to learn how at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Original Soulgoal Missive written in 2002 

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What Do You Do? Follow or Be Courageous?

November 1, 2021

“Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

“I’m the man of the house (although he didn’t act like a responsible one, financially or otherwise), and you need to follow me and support me in everything I do.”

However, she wasn’t considered by him to be a good wife because she started to say no.

In the end, she lost her house that she bought before she married, lost her car, lost her savings, nearly lost her mind, plus the police showed up so often that they knew her by name – because when she disagreed, the beatings would begin.

For him, it was a personal affront that she wouldn’t agree with him.
 
She told me, “I was brought up to be compliant with my husband.
But he was an idiot, and the results proved it. He was misogynistic and would never take any advice – but instead would do the opposite.

“I was going in two different directions. How can you follow someone if they’re taking you to a dead end, and all the time you know that direction is wrong?

“Even a rat has enough sense to jump off a sinking ship. I had to leave the relationship. I had to save my life.”

Just because people you “should” believe say something, demand your obedience to follow, repeatedly lie to fit their own purpose but call it the truth, doesn’t make it true.

The good news. If it weren’t for him, she never would have the clarity she has now to speak her truth, especially in a male-dominated industry where she works.

Her ex trained her to no longer be a wimp and not value others’ reactions more than trusting herself.

She knew better. But she allowed herself to be bullied by someone who was metaphorically blind and demanded unreasonable loyalty.

Eventually, she allowed herself to act on what she knew, what she had the courage to honestly see, and leave him.

Sounds crazy? You think you wouldn’t do something like that?

This is what belief systems can do. If a person believes something, even though the belief is false or doesn’t make sense or can be harmful, people often stick with it.

Her belief was she was taught to be compliant to her husband. See where that belief brought her?

While in my twenties and in a horrific marriage, I had a dream. For months later, although I couldn’t understand its significance at the time, I put its quote on my dresser.

FIND THE HEART AND RESCUE IT. 

Friend, what do you see? Is there something in your life where you know better, you’re ignoring it, but you’re following obediently or blindly anyway?
 
Courage. You can allow yourself to know what you know. Call it for what it is, even if only to yourself.

DON’T GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER.

  • Think for yourself, not what others tell you or what you read on the internet.  If what you firmly believe in is showing cracks and not working like you thought it should, reconsider.
  • See, and then take action according to what your gut and heart tell you, along with your logic, instead of what others say you should feel or do or be.

You may discover your personal honesty is the inevitable route to freedom.

“Speak what you think today in hard words and tomorrow speak what tomorrow thinks in hard words again, though it contradict every thing you said today.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Time to reclaim your power?
Contact me to learn how at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Original Soulgoal Missive written in 2002   

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Quick Read: What Are You Waiting For?

October 25, 2021

He waited frightfully too long.

“Are you waiting to start living? If you develop such a mind pattern, no matter what you achieve or get, the present will never be good enough; the future will always seem better.”

Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

Waiting can be a habit producing false hope leading to a dead end.

People spend a lot of their lives waiting for:

  • friends, partners or their spouses to change or get their act together; waiting for themselves to get their own act together; waiting for someone in business to return their call for the deal of the century; waiting for a man or woman to wake up and realize he or she really did love them; waiting for the other shoe to fall; waiting to be happy; waiting for the doctor’s opinion or to feel better; waiting until their schedule allows, and then they’ll have more time; waiting until conditions are just right or to get someone’s approval before pursuing their dreams; waiting until they make more money and then they can really start to live their lives

… postponing their happiness, their lives, their precious time… for something they thought was coming and would alter their lives dramatically for the better… and usually didn’t.
 

But if today is simply a means to an end then there is no living in the now. 

What are you waiting for?

You have a choice!
 
How can you live more fully and have more fun NOW?


Original Soulgoals Missive was written in 2002.

Are you ready to stop waiting and… do what?

Contact me to learn how at:
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I work with people who choose to share
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but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

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Short story: Intuition. Trust. Saving Her Baby.

October 18, 2021

Delivery rooms are highly charged environments, containing the potential of life and death. While going through a particularly hard labor during the birth of her second child, my friend was directed to push.

The attendants’ attitudes and firm voices basically told her we know you’re tired, but stop being so lazy and push.

By the fourth and fifth time of asking her to push, they raised their voices and got abusive and angrier.  Don’t be such a baby and a wimp. PUSH!

My friend refused, in spite of what the experts demanded her to do. At one point she told them, “I won’t push.”

Finally, the doctor checked the cord and learned it was coiled around her baby’s neck. He had to physically go in and cut it loose. The baby was born blue and not breathing, but they gave him mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. The baby survived and was healthy.

The mother later asked the doctor if she had pushed when everyone said, would she have strangled her baby. He replied, “Yes.”

The mom was the ultimate expert at the moment. She was aware of her body and inner guidance and followed it, although she didn’t know why. She knew she wouldn’t push regardless of what others told her. If she had, the ending of that story wouldn’t be happy.

Her first baby was born at home, by choice, and that delivery was smooth and easy.

Her second baby was different. At night, after hard labor started, she thought how easy it would be to have the baby at home. But because they planned a hospital birth, she went through the motions to fulfill that plan.

She said if she followed her guidance in the first place, her mother’s intuition told her she wouldn’t have gone through the agonizing labor, uterine exhaustion, with subsequent complications for her baby.

The lesson? Trust yourself 100%. She needed not to placate others and what they wanted, but instead take a stand for her baby and herself.

Ready to trust yourself?

Contact me to learn how at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Posted on Soulgoals’ Blog, May 19, 2019

Got Fear?

October 11, 2021

 “Nothing ever happened in the past; it happened in the Now.

Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now.”

Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now


Anxiety and worry reside in many like a low-grade fever that won’t go away. We work, live, and don’t notice it most of the time, but there’s a gnawing in back of the mind that something might happen. It’s a feeling of anticipation, like waiting for the other shoe to fall.

We find countless ways to mask it, such as using power, substances, addictions, sex, control, and anger.

Fear. It’s often fear of the future, the unknown, that somehow, something might happen, and we won’t be able to handle it.

We can never cope with the future. When our mental imaginings run rampant into what danger might be lurking, we incapacitate ourselves.

We can always cope in the now, in this present moment of time. Remember the adage we are only given what we can handle. We always have the ability to make it to the next stage of life.

Always.


“So let me assert my belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself – nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.”

 Franklin D Roosevelt


What else can be done to diminish fear?

If you want yeast to multiply, feed it sugar. If you want fear to grow, feed it fear. If you want to reduce fear, surround what you fear with love.

The aim of terrorists is to create fear and terror. Feeling fear makes them stronger as it’s their food and encourages them to create more terror.

Unconditional love short-circuits them. They become like the Wicked Witch of the West and start to melt. Love cannot ride on the fury of anger.

Thoughts, feelings, and prayers are real and are felt around the world. We have the ability to impact life by living in this moment of time with the spirit of love.  Right now as you read this, you can offer love and goodwill to the Life force and let it be distributed wherever It chooses.

Now, you just made a difference.

That which we fear diminishes and eventually disappears as we wake up to this awareness.

Who do you trust, a Higher Power or fear? Hint: Who do you know is the biggest kid on the block, every block, everywhere, throughout eternity?

Consider wearing your fear like a rub-on tattoo. If you switch your attention to the now rather than worry about an unknown future, the fear washes off. Fill the now with love, and not only is there no room left for fear within you, but that which you fear dwindles.


There’s a wonderful Zen story about a Japanese warrior waiting in prison after capture. The fear of interrogation, torture, and execution overwhelmed him, and he couldn’t sleep. Then he remembered the words of his spiritual master, Tomorrow is not real. It is an illusion. The only reality is now.” He fell peacefully asleep. 


Your challenge, if you choose to accept, is to live in the moment with love.

Each time fear rears its head, observe your reaction. Recognize that the fear has nothing to do with this moment in time, and redirect your attention to the now. Breathe. Replace the feelings of fear with gratitude, love, and goodwill to Life.

With a zest for Life,
Virginia        

Success Thought

“Focus on what you want. Dwelling on your fears will bring them upon you…

We need to enjoy what we have right now and live right now. Fearing loss is not living in the now. Fearing loss is living in the future.”

Andrew Matthews, Being Happy! A Handbook to Greater Confidence & Security


Would you like to know how you can dump fear?

Contact me to learn more at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Original Soulgoal Missive Email was sent in 2001

Worried? Do This Instead.

October 4, 2021

How are you going to get out of this one?

“I am old and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”
Mark Twain 


I was sure I failed the test, and like a bully, worry stalked and tormented me for a week. When the scores finally came in, I learned that I got the highest mark in my class.

Although in third grade, I realized that the agony I created served no purpose.  After reflection, I thought another approach to future upsets would be better.

I told myself: Worrying doesn’t feel good. And if what you’re worrying about doesn’t happen, it’s a lot of feeling bad for nothing.

As an adult I learned that when there really is a problem, I’m better off to get clear on the issue and then focus on the solution rather than on what’s not working.

If needed, we can accept that we are worrying, without judging the situation or the fact that we are bothering to worry. By choosing acceptance we are no longer prisoner to our reactive patterns. Freedom greets us as we open our cell door. When this happens the worry-jailer’s job is done.

Consider this:

  • Our programming for worry is based on past situations that created unfavorable results.
  • We design our future with our present thoughts and feelings.
  • Therefore, energizing fearful thoughts with worry is a shortcut to what we don’t want to come into our lives in the future.

“For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me.”
Job 3:25


Worry projects us into a world of make-believe what-ifs and creates fear. It’s an indicator that we are living in the future, not in present time.

How do we stay in the present? By surrendering to what is rather than what we think something could or should be. Acknowledging what a situation or person is assists us to be conscious. In doing so, we can see more clearly and take more productive action, too.

If there is a situation that needs addressing, being in the present, rather than in a reactive and emotional state, opens us to receive insights and alternatives more easily. 

Humans are wired with the ability to handle life’s situations in this moment of time.

However, we can not cope effectively with mental tapes that project hypothetical, fear-based, future problems.

I was delighted when I read a passage in a great book by Satyam Nadeen.

There’s a part of us that simply watches what’s going on, like seeing a play. I sometimes call it the observer self.

Nadeen refers to this aspect as the Witness. It’s detached about what goes on and doesn’t care about the drama that monkey mind, others or our own, creates about a situation. This drains the life force from worry. In fact, from this vantage point, what we’re worrying about can be rather humorous.


“Each of the countless times a day that the mind or some other person asks ‘why’ about any and every situation that arises (just as a good little mind is supposed to do), the Witness always responds: ‘Don’t know, don’t care!’”
 
Satyam Nadeen, From Seekers to Finders,
The Myth and Reality about Enlightenment


How can we change a pattern of worry? Decide to let it go. Let worry go. Choose to release the habit. Ask the highest part of ourselves to release the pattern and replace it with awareness to navigate through life in a different way… living in present time with grace and ease.


 
“Nothing can be attained without suffering but at the same time one must begin by sacrificing suffering.”
 
Gurdjieff


Your challenge, if you choose to accept it, is to look at a situation that’s causing you worry from a perspective of “Don’t Know, Don’t Care.”  Consider a viewpoint where letting go of worry supports you to find peace and resolution to whatever is concerning you.

With a zest for Life, 
Virginia 

Success Thought:

Mark Twain once said that one way of getting a silly tune out of your head is to put in another. Instead of the worry tune, you can use Bobby McFerrin’s melodic approach of “Don’t Worry, Be Happy.” 

“In every life we have some trouble
But when you worry you make it double
Don’t worry, be happy
Don’t worry, be happy now.”


Would you like to know how you can dump worry?

Contact me to learn more at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Original Soulgoal Missive Email was sent in 2001

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My First Date… And What Was I Thinking?

September 27, 2021

Your world of possibilities.

After two years of flying solo following my marital separation, I went out on a date. I could pick any restaurant I wanted – so off we went to a club to dine and take my second salsa dance lesson.

As our discussion progressed during dinner, the topic of relationships arose. Remember, this was my first foray into the dating arena in many a year.

“No, I didn’t notice the tan line on your ring-free, left-hand finger signifying you wear a wedding ring and you’re married,” I said to the “gentleman.”

Did I let this throw me? I made a choice to course correct. I was not willing to let this bozo mar the memory of my first date.

I remained undaunted and had a great night with excellent conversation. Turned out he was a lucid and prophetic dreamer with juicy peeks into the aeries of the dream world.

The next and final time we met, I gave him a book on spiritual dreaming and the number of a therapist.

I could handle change like this, and I didn’t let it bother me. But yet my thinking bucked at smaller things. 


I picked up a message at 11 PM from my hairdresser, the night before my 10 AM appointment, that informed me she moved.

What was I thinking?

Monkey mind whined that instead of her being 45 minutes away, she would be an hour away. Wrong. Travel time was only 35 minutes – and the new place was definitely nicer.

Why did she move locations? She needed a change. 

All my internal whining was for naught. 


Then, there was the lawn sprinkler. Not having an automated system necessitated moving the sprinkler several times. A friend bought and installed timers.

I graciously accepted them but thought, “This is a waste; I have to be outdoors to move them around anyway.” Wrong. They are wonderful.

I changed the way I do things. Now I have the flexibility to turn them on whenever I have time, forget about it, and water the rest later.

We want our lives to be different, but we want to remain the same, think the same.

However, if you want something you never have had, you have to be willing to do something you never have done, including the way you think about things.  

We often evaluate our options logically and make a decision based on the best knowledge our minds have to offer. But our thinking is so limited compared to the world of possibilities.


“Discovery consists of looking at the same things as everyone else and thinking something different… Those ideas or situations that cause you to get off your routine paths and ‘think something different’ are whacks to your thinking.”

Roger von Oech
A Whack on the Side of the Head – How You Can Be More Creative


We have to make changes to allow our heart’s desires to enter our lives. If we do not respond to the gentle nudges that always precede a change, the two by four whack eventually will bonk us.

Your challenge, should you choose to accept it, is to identify where you have been resisting change in your life and look at it from another viewpoint.

Take a chance: change your thinking.

With a zest for life,

Virginia

“Life moves on, whether we act as cowards or heroes.
Life has no other discipline to impose, if we would but realize it, than to accept life unquestioningly.
Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate or despise, serves to defeat us in the end.
What seems nasty, painful, evil, can become a source of beauty, joy and strength, if faced with an open mind.
Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognize it as such.”

 Henry Miller



Imagine being on track for
how you REALLY would like your life to be…
with your world of possibilities in your hands,
and YOU decide which ones to choose.

How? Contact me for a free consultation at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Original Soulgoal Missive Email was sent in 2001

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Discouraged about Business or Life?

September 13, 2021

A client came to see me who felt the proverbial wind was out of her sails. During her session, I wrote beliefs she sadly communicated:

  • Nobody is attracted to me because I’m fat.
  • People will have to know me before they like me, but I’m not going to have people attracted to me because of my appearance.
  • I often feel invisible – people may not remember me by name. 
At first, she resisted my writing her beliefs. Later, when she looked at them objectively, she knew they didn’t make sense.
 
Her beliefs implied she valued the shallow opinions of strangers more than she valued her own.
 
She realized she acted aloof, before others could be aloof to her, as a protective, preemptive strike. Even if she gave them a chance to act differently, they felt her fear and behaved in a way that justified her belief. Either way, her self-fulfilling prophecy echoed her unconscious whisperings.
 
She plugged her energy circuits into what strangers might think about her.
 
I heard writing is God’s way of showing us our sloppy thinking. Our thoughts and feelings become more translucent when we read them later.

Writing is a tool to break our hypnotic spell of what’s not real and wake up.
 
 
Fearing others gives away our power.
 
I knew a man who was emotionally volatile and acted like a human powder keg ready to go off at any time. Once he called me on a Saturday at midnight and demanded I never talk to his wife again. She called me several days earlier to ask me a benign question about a discussion group of mine they planned to attend.

He threatened me by saying he knew where I lived, and their house was a two-minute car ride from mine.
 
At first, I backed off afraid he would explode and harm me.

Then, I realized that by avoiding him through fear, I gave him my power. I stopped my dealings with him because I chose not to associate with him. Therefore, instead of avoiding him because of fear, I kept my power.
 
The same is true in the business world. Fear of rejection may be present when making a sale or communicating an idea to others. What if they don’t like our product or idea?
 
What if they do?
 
 
Illusions can create pain.
 
The moment we spotlight our attention on our illusory perspective, the hypnotic effect is broken. We become present.
 
“But you don’t understand. Nobody loves me. Look what happened to me. My mother abandoned me as a child, and I spent my life feeling empty.  My husband divorced me. I have no control of my life, and I’m a victim of circumstances.”
 
All that really happened was that her mother left, and her husband divorced her.

How she chose to interpret those experiences, the spin she put on the story, and where she gave up her power was her choice.
 
Dave Thomas of Wendy’s fame was born out of wedlock, put up for adoption, lived in squalor as a child, and was on his own before age 15. By not plugging his energy into a story of a woeful childhood, he left a legacy as both an entrepreneur with a restaurant empire and a world-class champion for adopting children with the Dave Thomas Foundation.
 
Where do you plug your energy circuits?
 
Continuing to look at life in a non-supportive way is addictive. 

To see yourself as “less than” is a habit that you have the ability to shift.

You CAN change your perspective.

How? Choose to.

You are so powerful that you can choose to see you and your life in an even more empowering way… and watch as you renew yourself to reflect your new mindset.
 
Your challenge, if you choose to accept it, is to identify what depletes your energy.
  • What do you plug your energy into outside of yourself? Is it a person, thing, group, belief, past experience or idea?
  • When you do this, what or who controls you?
  • Are you blindly believing what others tell you is true?
  • How does this relate to your energy depletion of discouragement, anger or other emotion?
  • If not this, what does?
  • What’s another way you can look at this?
  • What can you do to get on a new track? Go a step at a time to do this.   

Success Thought:

Recognition of your addictions requires inner work. It requires that you look clearly at the places where you lose power in your life, where you are controlled by external circumstances. It requires going through your defenses… Once an addiction has been acknowledged, it cannot be ignored, and it cannot be released without changing your life, without changing your self-image, without changing your entire perceptual and conceptual framework. We do not want to do that because it is our nature to resist change. Therefore, we resist acknowledging our addictions.
 
GARY ZUKAV, The Seat of the Soul

With a zest for Life,
 
Virginia

Tired of feeling the way you do?
Contact me for a free consultation at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Original Soulgoal Missive Email was sent in 2003

Copyright © 2021 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Labor Doesn’t Have to Be Work: 8 Interesting Quotes

September 6, 2021


The US federal holiday of Labor Day is held in honor of working people on the first Monday in September.

A definition of labor in Dictionary.com is “productive activity, especially for the sake of economic gain.”

In recognition of Labor Day, here are quotes that offer a refreshing perspective about labor aside from hard work.

With gratitude,

Virginia


“The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.”  Steve Jobs

Steve Jobs was an American entrepreneur and business magnate who was a pioneer of the microcomputer revolution of the 1970s and 1980s, along with Apple co-founder Steve Wozniak.


“A mind always employed is always happy. This is the true secret, the grand recipe, for felicity.”  Thomas Jefferson

Thomas Jefferson was an American Founding Father who was the principal author of the Declaration of Independence and later served as the third president of the United States.


“Inspiration usually comes during work, rather than before it.” Madeleine L’Engle

Madeleine L’Engle was an American writer of young adult fiction, including A Wrinkle in Time and its sequels.


“A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life depend on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving.” Albert Einstein

Albert Einstein was the most influential physicist of the 20th century who developed the theory of relativity.


“My grandfather once told me that there were two kinds of people: those who do the work and those who take the credit. He told me to try to be in the first group; there was much less competition.” Indira Gandhi

Indira Gandhi was the only female Prime Minister of India, daughter of Jawaharlal Nehru, the first prime minister of India.


“A man is not paid for having a head and hands, but for using them.”  Elbert Hubbard  

Elbert Hubbard was an American writer, publisher, artist, and philosopher .


“The supreme accomplishment is to blur the line between work and play.”  Arnold J. Toynbee

Arnold J. Toynbee was a British economic historian also noted for his social commitment and desire to improve the living conditions of the working classes.


“Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.”  Confucius

Confucius was a Chinese teacher, editor, politician. The philosophy of Confucius, also known as Confucianism, emphasized personal and governmental morality, correctness of social relationships, justice and sincerity.


Would you like to enjoy what you do as a labor of love?
Contact me for a free consultation at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Originally blog posted on September 3, 2018

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Exhausted? Losing Your Power?

August 30, 2021

Soulgoal Missive, Year 2, No.1, originally puclished in 2002


I cannot emphasize this point strongly enough: the targets to which acquisitioners connect their energy circuits are people or objects to which they have surrendered their power – specifically, the power to control them.

CAROLYN MYSS, Anatomy of the Spirit


I still felt exhausted and light-headed three months, $1000, and seven practitioners later. Adrenal burnout created chronic fatigue, and I couldn’t get a handle on it.  The healing work brought an underlying physical strength but not enough to impact my daily life. The only business I could manage was what was absolutely necessary.

One weekend my energy and head cleared. I was enthusiastic until I met with a client on Monday, and my thinking relapsed into a heavy fog. I had enough and drew the line as I realized this wasn’t about my health. 

I decided it was time to get to the underlying cause.

A friend suggested I was in a transformational process that could create a breakthrough. She told me about a book Anatomy of the Spirit by Carolyn Myss, which is about health and energy.  I had so little of either it seemed a logical place to look, even though I didn’t see how it would help.

If we don’t recognize that our source of energy comes from within, we look outside ourselves to find it. That could be a person (as found in co-dependent relationships or even someone we respect), a business or organization (when we think our source of money or salvation can only come from an outside source), a substance (such as alcohol, drugs, coffee, or cigarettes), or belief systems (ideas we believe to be true).

Instead of trusting a divine source or ourselves, we believe something outside of us is stronger. By doing so, we give away our power and allow it to control us.

I sat at the computer and wrote what I felt: “Where am I plugging in my energy circuits?Emotionally to something outside myself. Not a person or an idea, but a belief.” 

The answer popped out. To be more visible in my business and speak my truth, people might not like what I have to say. Society would then ostracize me, and I was afraid to have that happen.

In that moment of discovery, the left side of my head instantly cleared!

Recognizing this was the right track, I knew if I opened the book to any page it would give me the insight that I needed to clear the other side of my head.

The light bulb moment began with the thought, “On the right side, I’m short-circuited with fear.”

I realized that in the back of my mind I thought I would never accomplish a deeply cherished goal. This belief froze me into inaction through fear and disappointment. 

“I’m not acknowledging all is in divine order. My will is motivated by fear and a lack of control.  I need to connect my head and heart and allow Thy will not my will be done.”

Poof! Like magic, the right side of my head cleared. Reignited by this new awareness, my energy and clear-headedness returned and didn’t leave.

How could these beliefs affect my body and mind with such devastating results?

If you saw a friend about to cut her wrists or jump off a bridge, wouldn’t you do whatever you could to sabotage her efforts?

Unbeknownst to me, I held a fearful belief of being disapproved of – I was unconsciously imagining the worst about what would happen if people didn’t like what I had to say.

That belief affected me emotionally by doing all it could to prevent me from what it perceived a certain death, death to my ego and the pain it created. That belief, created as a child, did what it thought was protecting me and keeping me safe.

It didn’t matter if the belief was true; unconsciously I believed it and acted as if it was real.

If I felt too exhausted to work, I’d be safe because I wouldn’t be able to share my viewpoints. I wouldn’t be visible for people to disapprove of me and experience some harmful fate.

I know this can sound convoluted and weird, but many of our limiting beliefs were created when we were kids using limited logic. Read on to see what I mean.

Exhaustion comes from emotions.

We may feel tired or extremely fatigued from hard work or putting in long hours, but exhaustion comes from emotions. Exhaustion stems from suppressing worries, anger, fear, and concerns, often telling ourselves we’ll deal with them later. But we don’t. By stuffing and not looking at them, we emotionally sabotage ourselves.

Dragging ourselves home from work may result from not dealing with the stress of associating with certain people or situations. Exhaustion at home may occur by not wanting to admit something needs to change.

We can exhaust ourselves from not wanting to look at the reasons we feel pain or fear.

A woman once told me about her unfulfilling relationship with her father.  As a little girl she regularly hit her head against the wall rather than face that emotional pain.

Now in her twenties, she no longer hits her head. Instead she gets migraines. Althoughpainful, migraines were easier for her to deal with than looking at the pain she felt from being emotionally abandoned by her father.

People sometimes drive themselves through grueling physical activity, constant busyness, or hellish, military training rather than look at the pain and frustration they feel about their parents or past, negative experiences. It’s often easier to focus on the body and its needs while flying under one’s emotional radar.

We can identify with pain, illness, or exhaustion, even turning it into a badge of courage. This seems easier than facing what lies beneath the surface, as the survival of the pain depends on remaining unconscious.

Our shadow self is afraid to allow the light of awareness to be shined on it. The dark side wants to remain hidden so it won’t be found out, fearing a fate worse than death.

As long as we continue to unconsciously identify with the pain rather than look at it and let it go, it continues to hold power over us. This is what causes us to relive variations of emotionally charged situations repeatedly.

The situations change but the underlying feelings of fear, pain or fill-in-the-blank emotion are close to the same way we felt during the original affront.

Our spirit desires a release of unsupportive energy. That’s why it continues to draw to us similar situations (even if they suck) so we can wake up and be free.

The reason we are afraid of it so much is that we created this fearful part as a child. These emotions feel natural and familiar tinged with a childlike dread that we’ve learned to suppress and live with over the years.

Imagine a helpless youngster dealing with a challenging, life situation. Obviously, coping and life skills are limited. Fear takes over. If we haven’t resolved these childhood impressions, they can continue to haunt us until we gain perspective and release their energy.

If we avoid releasing that unsupportive energy, we look for our power elsewhere while feeling inadequate to manage on our own. We settle for jobs, relationships, and unsatisfying lives. This is exhausting.

Do you feel exhausted? Covid getting you down? Had enough? Where are you losing your power? Who or what did you give your power to?

A first step to freedom is self-awareness, and sometimes asking for help to perceive the blind spots and see. 



Ready to identify and let go of limiting beliefs
and feelings that hold you back?
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but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
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You Are NOT Your Thoughts… and yes, you are good enough

August 23, 2021
You can open the window to your thoughts, and think outside YOUR box.

Soulgoal Missive, Year 1, No. 15, originally published in 2001

It was my first singing class. After performing my rendition of a song, my voice coach didn’t comment on my presentation but simply suggested that I approach it using different emotions. Although it was a reasonable request, a sinking feeling came over me and began to take me down with it.

I got through the evening but went home devastated as anguish overtook me far beyond what happened in the class. Three days later I still felt this sickening feeling within and knew that it was totally out of proportion from the event.

Then it hit me.

My (unconscious) interpretation of the comment triggered a belief that when I’m myself, I’m not good enough.

“Why can’t you be more like your cousins Kathy and Sharon?” was one of my mother’s mantras I grew up with — to be good enough I had to be like someone else.

My feelings turned from sadness to freedom as the light shined on this hidden side of me.

The casual remark served as an alarm clock to wake up an old pain after years of sleep. Unconsciously, it directed my actions and responses causing me to feel “I’m not good enough” although there was nothing in the present moment to validate it. After discovering the truth, my life changed.

I hadn’t seen one of my cousins for 18 years, even though she lives just a few hours from me. Yet two weeks after my discovery, I found myself visiting my aunt and her daughter.

Within minutes of our time together, I shared my story with her, and she replied, “Why would you ever want to be like us? The insinuation in our home was that you were special, and we wanted to be like you!”

How often do we create a false sense of reality accompanied by unnecessary limitations and anxiety?

There are so many reasons to experience fear these days, but how many of them are based on reality?

Fear arises from an obscure feeling that something will happen to us in the future that we won’t be able to handle. Then we attach a significance and interpretation that create pain.

The psychological condition of fear is divorced from any concrete and true immediate danger. It comes in many forms: unease, worry, anxiety, nervousness, tension, dread, phobia, and so on. This kind of psychological fear is always of something that might happen, not of something that is happening now.


“You can always cope with the present moment, but you cannot cope with something that is only a mind projection – you cannot cope with the future.”

Eckhart Tolle,
Power of Now


What’s the antidote? Get free from allowing your thoughts to rule and instead be the master of what you think and feel.

How do we reclaim our dominion? Focus on the Now instead of some imagined future.

Truly be present and live in this moment in time. This means not obsessing over what happened in the past and not projecting in the future some theorized threat. We learn from the past and plan for the future. We are best equipped to deal with life situations when we are fully present.

Life is what it is. “Resistance is futile” and creates more pain.


We always have the ability to deal with whatever hand we are dealt, although as Mother Teresa said, “I know God won’t give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish He didn’t trust me so much.”  


Your challenge, if you choose to accept it, is to disidentify with your thoughts, as if they are you and always the truth.  Instead, be the observer of them. Experiment with the following exercise entitled “You Are NOT Your Thoughts.”

  1. Do you imagine that your future will be better or worse than it is now?
  2. Observe yourself focusing your attention into the future. Now shift your attention back to reading in this moment. Notice your ability to shift consciously between the future and present.
  3. The part of you that observes this shift is the real you. You can detach from your identification with your thinking at any moment by going into the observer state – the real you is doing the watching. You experience the real you only in the present moment.
  4. Whenever fear, anxiety, or other such emotion arises, switch to being the watcher of your thoughts and feelings. Even if you still feel trapped by them or feel stuck, you are on your road to freedom, gaining greater self-mastery with every step.

Observation of your thoughts breaks identification with them. You take control of your life instead of being led by fear and limitation. It’s a powerful tool.

With a zest for Life,

Virginia


Success Thought

“Getting there is half the fun; being there is all of it!”

Chauncey Gardner, in the movie Being There


Ready for more freedom?

You are more than enough!


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but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

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Ascend to YOUR Heights

August 16, 2021

Originally published in 2001, Soulgoal Missive, Year 1, No. 16 

And the most difficult of tasks to keep
Heights which the soul is competent to gain

William Wordsworth (1770 – 1850)
The Excursion, Book IV 

Five minutes ago, after years of searching, I rediscovered this quote that has captured my imagination for decades.

The most challenging of all tasks before us, a predestined appointment to keep, is to ascend to the heights we are fully capable of attaining.

One part of us knows what we can achieve. We feel it in our bones. If we allow ourselves to turn our attention to our magnificent potential and act on its magnitude, we can accomplish what our hearts prompt us to do.

Another aspect of us – the part that’s been beaten up over the years and loses vision and hope – questions, downplays, and ridicules what we really want. In fact, we often can’t admit how much we want it. This is a safety net we created to protect ourselves from failure.

The thinking goes, if I keep my precious dream tucked away at least I know where it is, and it’s safe. I can cherish it as my image of the Holy Grail, hidden from harm’s way.

If I actually look for it and fail, I’ll be crushed. If my most sacred dream is ruined, what’s the use of doing anything? No, better play it safe and avoid the possibility of pain. Besides, who do you think you’re kidding even to try to go after what you want?

However, that first part knows better and feels cheated from the fullness of life.

Paul J. Meyer told this story several years ago. Can you imagine offering an ice cream cone to a small child, and just as that child reaches for it you smash it to the ground? Of course not.

Neither would your Creator present you with an idea unless you have the ability to do something about it.

If an idea came to you, and keeps coming and coming and coming, you have the ability to ascend to the heights of your vision, or the idea would be gone already.

Even if others are doing something similar, nobody can fulfill your vision like you. No two people are alike.


“A climber’s day always starts at the crux: getting out of bed.”

Guillaume Dargaud


An episode of Xena, Warrior Princess, showed an image of her in a future life as a great Peacemaker and Negotiator – a task Xena wanted. However, she wouldn’t be able to have that life unless she fully lived this one as a warrior. The concept is to fully live the life in front of us, learn the lessons, and take action however we can. Then we move forward to something that may interest us even more.

Where do you start to accomplish your most magnificent task? Exactly where you are.

Your challenge, if you choose to accept it, is to take steps to ascend to your heights.

  • Have a vision of what you choose. If you haven’t allowed your nearest and dearest one to surface, choose something that’s right in front of you. Your next step is ALWAYS around you. Bigger next steps come after you take your immediate ones.
  • Pick something to do, even if it’s one small action within your vision or goal.
  • Narrow your focus. Don’t scatter your energy by trying to do many things or too much of the big picture at one time.
  • Get busy; do something.

With a zest for Life, 
Virginia    


Success Thought

“One cannot climb at all unless he has sufficient urge to do so. Danger must be met (indeed it must be used) to an extent beyond that incurred to normal life. That is one reason men climb; for only in response to challenge does one man become his best.”

Ax Nelson


If you’d like help 
to ascend to your heights,
contact me for a free consultation at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

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15 Ways to Be a Person of Value

August 9, 2021

This Soulgoal Missive was sent to my mailing list in September 2002.


“Try not to become a person of success, but a person of value.”

Albert Einstein


What makes someone great in your eyes? Footprints are etched on the sand of time through action. Preceding this comes a person of value.

We are works in progress. Step by step our lives become more real and meaningful. As we live our truth, we provide greater service to others. As Jesus said, “He that will be great among you let him serve.”

Being great is not just about what we do; it’s who we are and the choices we make. Following are some that are important to me. Few live all of them fully at any one time. They are wonderful to aspire to if we choose and when the timing is right. 

  1. Live authentically. Ring like a whole bell (ring true) vs. a cracked bell (looks like it should ring purely, but if you really listen, it’s off). Do not live an act because of a title or a role played in society or home or work or church. Be yourself. Follow the drumbeat of life you hear. 
  2. Follow your heart’s desire in everyday life. Everyday do something you love to do. Do what you were born to do, your mission, your calling – regardless how small the action. Live your dharma.


“To live is so startling that it leaves little time for anything else.”
 
Emily Dickinson


3. Courageously face and release core emotional baggage so you can live a life with freedom and maturity. Unmask and be true to your emotions and feelings, for keys to YOUR truth lie here. You are having a human experience: emotions and feelings are part of this and tools to discover who you are, what you are doing here, and how you are to serve.

4. Be a friend to yourself and others. Hold space for others to be and discover themselves and grow. Be non-judgmental and detached, yet present, caring, and supportive for others’ and your own life processes.

5. Be willing to explore intimacy with yourself, others, and the world rather than avoid relationships or just share the same space. Our greatest challenges and rewards come from relationship with others.

6. Keep your mind open, flexible, deep, and growing. Be an outside-the-box thinker. Allow new ideas to be possible so your life can grow.

7. Be financially mature and stable. Monetary difficulties may be caused from having an eight-year old make your financial decisions. The significance of addressing this issue means you have come to peace with some child part of yourself as well as claiming your place in the world.

8. Be spiritually awake and grow in YOUR truth, not a dogma you’re taught or what others have said about you. YOU matter because you value you. It doesn’t matter what others think. Ask yourself what you really know that’s true and positive; live your answer fully. Take time regularly to commune with the Highest aspect of Life.


Lives of great men all remind us
We can make our lives sublime,
And, departing, leave behind us
Footprints on the sand of time.
 
Longfellow


9. Know how to have fun, and take time to enjoy yourself. Humor and enjoyment are keys to life.

10. Practice physical health awareness and take care of your body. Adopt a youthful attitude toward your mind and body, regardless of your age or health; be young at heart. Respect and treat yourself well.

11. Live a balanced life. Too much work or play or any one thing creates a weak foundation. You may keep your balance for a while, but eventually your life may start to fall apart.

12. Live in the present moment. Now is all that exists. To live regretting the past or worrying about the future creates needless fear and stress. Yesterday and tomorrow are simply another Now. Now is the only moment to live, heal, and create the life you choose. Use time wisely rather than be controlled by it.

13. Say Yes to life in all its forms. Acknowledge you and others have a physical body in a third dimensional world that has joys and sorrows, pain and happiness, good and bad. Embrace it all. Each is an aspect of the bigger picture. Be sure to include the beauty.

14. Live life to its fullest. Don’t shy away from living. Have the courage to be who you are and enjoy life. Live passionately and creatively. Do your best.

15. Be love. Live with a grateful heart.

Your challenge, if you choose to accept it, is to choose three areas you’d like to focus on for the remainer of the year. Write them somewhere special, and review them periodically as a reminder.

With a zest for Life, 
Virginia   

If you’d like help to change
the way you see yourself,

contact me for a free consultation at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

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What to Do When You’re at a Turning Point

August 2, 2021

 This Soulgoal Missive was sent to my mailing list in 2002.


Keep your eyes and ears wide open – and your mouth closed, if you wish to acquire the habit of prompt decision.
 
Napoleon Hill,
Think and Grow Rich


I invited my girlfriend on a company trip I won. Having a choice of select resorts, I chose to be on a ten-ton houseboat on the Colorado River at the Nevada-Arizona border. We were fortunate that the boat malfunctioned immediately after departure, so we traded it in for a five-ton model.

Neither of us knew anything about boating, including how to read a mariner’s map.  All the squiggly lines representing the shoreline looked the same, so the map was no help. 

To share how inexperienced we were, our boat floated away because we didn’t anchor it properly while visiting Hoover Dam. Someone caught and secured it in our absence. Our fun and memorable trip was filled with adventures like this.

While steering the boat, I watched aghast as I headed for a solid mass of land straight ahead.  I had to change direction quickly, but I couldn’t tell if the river turned to the right or left because the view was obscured.

The boat was big and heavy. I felt if I didn’t make my decision quickly, I never would have enough time to change course and would surely run into land.

Which way to go? It looked like the river turned left so I turned the boat in that direction. I was wrong; it was just a tiny inlet. If I thought I barely had time to turn the boat before, surely I would crash now. I quickly turned the wheel to go in the other direction… and had plenty of time to make the adjustment.

Over many years I’ve observed if I relax and trust this process, while prepared to act quickly if needed when the appropriate time comes, I make better decisions – without the panic and worry. I learned that if I am alert and in the moment, I have all the time I need to make a decision when the information comes.


Those who reach decisions promptly and definitely, know what they want, and generally get it.
 
Napoleon Hill,
Think and Grow Rich


Another incident occurred during my first television interview in my early twenties with a man seasoned in appearing on the media. He told me later that before speaking he always felt his inner juices begin to flow, but he didn’t feel them before that show.

However, as soon as I began to answer the commentator’s first question, his energy started to flow. Without this initial incentive to speak and knowing his experience, I probably would have let him do the talking, and he could have taken over the show. 

I learnedwhen the time comes, we have what it takes to do what we have to do. The brain may want to be comforted that everything follows an order it thinks it should. However, the flow is there when we need it, not when we think we need it.

We were prepared to speak; after that it was a matter of trusting the process.

A third lesson came while on a road trip with a friend. We came to a fork in the road, a turning point. Rather than stop to determine where we needed to go, he arbitrarily chose a direction and proceeded to go the wrong way at 60 miles an hour. It took a while to escape the highway maze, return to where we started, and get on the right track.

I learned if I come to a fork in the road and don’t know where I’m going, stop and assess my options rather than blindly waste my time on a 50-50 guess.

Decisions. If we’re not attached to the way we want things to go or the way we think they should go, answers come in their own way and in their own time, especially when we are prepared and ready to act.

Lessons I learned:

  1. You have all the time you need to make an appropriate decision when you have the information.
  2. There is a flow to making decisions. When the timing is right the flow is there, and sometimes not a minute sooner.
  3. Be prepared to act quickly when the information comes.
  4. Rather than guessing, check your map or plan to see where you’re going. Take necessary steps to prepare.
  5. Relax and trust the process.

Your challenge, if you choose to accept, is to consider a decision you would like to make. Apply the above points to strategize how to make it and then relax with the process KNOWING that you will make the right decision at the right time.

With a zest for Life,
Virginia   


Success Thought

When he approached a fork in the road, Robert Frost in his poem “The Road Not Taken” wrotethathe “looked down one as far as he could.”  Facing his decision of which way to go, he said:

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I —

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.”



If you’d like help with decisions to move forward,
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but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.
I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
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Are You Teachable?

July 26, 2021

A woman I knew took personal, salsa dancing lessons from a friend of mine who was a popular, salsa teacher in town. While the woman enjoyed dancing, she had little dance training nor did she have experience in the rhythm or style of Latin dance.

However, that didn’t stop her from telling my friend how she was teaching her wrong and what the steps were supposed to be. She wouldn’t listen to anything other than what she wanted to hear, wouldn’t see how the dance actually looked other than her impression of how she thought it was supposed to look, wouldn’t talk about anything other than her interpretation of what the dance was.

After a couple of classes, she decided to stop the lessons.

She wasn’t teachable, and she wouldn’t allow herself to listen or learn beyond her preconceived ideas.



Several years ago, another woman was desperate to join one of my mastermind programs. Part of the experience is 1:1 partnering sessions where every couple of weeks team members switch partners.

In the first week, this woman went to each of five team members to share her story.

After politely listening, each member then redirected her attention to solutions. She wasn’t interested.

Her intention was on others hearing her story and feeling validated. Her focus was centered on her confusion, her circumstances and how what she wanted to do wasn’t working, not on getting on track or creating actual results.

Five people called me individually to tell me how they really tried to help her, but she wasn’t open.  Not getting the type of attention she wanted, she left the group after the second week.



“Listen, be teachable. Laugh at good stories and learn to tell them. For as long as you are green, you can grow.”    Mother Teresa

“Be teachable. That is the whole secret.”      Vernon Howard



Being heard by others is a gift. Are you also open to receive?

What can you do to be teachable? Choose to be open to the guidance that life brings you moment by moment. Sounds too simple, but your intention will open you to learn.

Are you open to receive ideas and solutions or is your focus on having your story heard? Are you reliving familiar feelings when you repeat your story?

Are you teachable?

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them enjoy their lives and
be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

First posted on Soulgoals’ Blog, April 23, 2018

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Angry? Frustrated? You’re Not Alone.

July 19, 2021

Here’s an excerpt of an email I sent a client who’s been experiencing challenges.

Recently, I’ve observed people transitioning from the way their life has been to something new and different. That can bring up a variety of feelings, some pleasant and others not so much.
 
I remember thinking in the early 1990s that my entire life was about frustration. There wasn’t any part of it that worked, from health, finances and career to my marriage. All were falling apart. This perfect storm became the springboard that has shaped the rest of my life of personal discovery and helping people like you.


   
Change is in the air, welcoming it, liking it, wanting it or not.
 
For some, it’s an exciting adventure.
 
For others, a dark cloud hangs overhead.
 
You, like the rest of us, have had a lifetime of listening to the false guidance of your ego, that façade of an identity. For you, it includes difficult emotions like anger and frustration. These emotions are like software glitches.
 
Here’s what Wikipedia says about glitches… computer glitches are incorrectly written software, incorrect instructions given by the operator, undetected invalid data, undetected communications errors…
 
You are not your software.
 
In contrast, your Essence is prompting you to listen within. This is the part of you that knows “all is well.”

Abraham-Hicks said:

“Your emotions are your indicator of how your active thought blends, or doesn’t blend, with the thought Source is thinking about the same subject in the same moment.”


The inner turmoil you’re experiencing is the conflict between your ego’s perspective and that of the Source within you.

Naturally, your ego is taking an all out stand for you to listen to its lies, lies that lead you to feel frustrated, angry and needing to sort things out.

To protect itself, it uses a type of logic in which it’s already trained you, indoctrinated into you, so you believe that it’s telling you the truth. It presents its case that leaves you feeling anger and frustration.

The logic only works if you see things from its limited and fearful point of view.

Habitual thinking creates entrenched neural pathways in the brain. These become your default, your easy “go to” ways you react. These reactions, instead of responses, don’t always serve you.

Just because ideas are in your head does NOT make them true!

However, you can most assuredly access your true Essence instead, as it is YOU!

A key is to differentiate between the whispers of your ego and your Essence.

The ego certainly doesn’t want you to be around positive people that shed light on how it manipulates you. This way it has you, back where you can be controlled by the stress and chaos of unsupportive emotions.

In defense of the ego, it thinks it’s protecting you. But these patterns were created from a child’s approach to survival. When presented with adult situations, the peace of your Essence offers greater insight and direction.

Ask your Essence to step forward to be heard, and choose to listen to its guidance.



If you’d like help for 
your life to be easier
while getting results YOU want,
contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:

virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.

Previously posted in Soulgoals’ Blog July 2019


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10 Inspirational Quotes to Get Rich

July 12, 2021


Wallace D. Wattles (1860-1911) wrote the classic The Science of Getting Rich because he believed becoming wealthy, getting rich, is a science in the same way there’s a system for how arithmetic works.

He shared that once this science is understood and implemented, people can become rich.

In 2006 during a Newsweek interview, Rhonda Byrne said that Wattles’ The Science of Getting Rich was her inspiration for her hit film and book The Secret, which demonstrates the Law of Attraction.

Below are quotes from Wallace Wattles.

With gratitude,

Virginia

  1. “The grateful mind is constantly fixated upon the best. Therefore it tends to become the best. It takes the form or character from the best, and will receive the best.”
  2. “You can never become a great man or woman until you have overcome anxiety, worry, and fear. It is impossible for an anxious person, a worried one, or a fearful one to perceive truth; all things are distorted and thrown out of their proper relations by such mental states.”
  3. “The very best thing you can do for the world is to make the most of yourself.” 
  4. “You must get rid of the thought of competition. You are to create. Not to compete for what is already created.”
  5. “By thought, the thing you want is brought to you. By action, you receive it.”
  6. “Abandon everything you have outgrown.”
  7. “Talk about the happy times you had in your youth, and forget all the unhappy times.”
  8. “Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.”
  9. “Nothing that is possible in spirit is impossible in flesh and blood. Nothing that man can think is impossible. Nothing that man can imagine is impossible of realization.” 
  10. “You can become what you want to be.”

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I help them be richly compensated doing what
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Original Soulgoals’ Blog posted on July 30, 2018

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Tyranny or Freedom? Special 4th of July Message

July 4, 2021
Thomas Jefferson Memorial

While living in Washington, D.C., I’d park my car, run up 58 steps and be in awe at the towering and erect presence of one of the great men who founded the United States of America. Thomas Jefferson also served as our third President from 1801 to 1809. 

I sometimes visited the Jefferson Memorial late at night when I could be alone in this hallowed sanctum. It was possible to do because it’s open around the clock.

Standing amidst the white marble steps and building, my eyes would gaze at the 129′ bronze statue as well as excerpts of the Declaration of Independence, whose principal author was Jefferson.

However, the reason I kept returning was to slowly turn in a circle to read the inscription under the dome:

I have sworn upon the altar of God eternal hostility against every form of tyranny over the mind of man.”  Thomas Jefferson to Dr. Benjamin Rush, September 23, 1800.


I didn’t realize at the time how these words, which still bring tears to my eyes, would be emblazoned within me. They inspired my lifetime passion, “upon the altar of God,” to help others and myself live in freedom through liberation of the “tyranny over the mind of man.”

The definition of tyranny includes the oppression, often cruel, of people or a government over others. Another aspect is an unreasonable or arbitrary use of power or control.

For me, there’s a twist to this. It reminds me of a quote by American Navy Commodore Oliver Hazard Perry in 1813.  Most famously, it was quipped by cartoonist Walt Kelly on a couple of Earth Day posters when Pogo said:



The voice in your head, motivated by an insecure ego, can be your enemy and create the greatest form of tyranny.

These inner rants can be cruel, unreasonable, oppressive and arbitrary. If you allow this to dominate, you relinquish control of your life. 

Know that you have the power of choice! 

You can choose to listen to your Essence, instead.
 



Especially those familiar with my teachings about “choosing,” you might be interested in this. When I was thirty years old, I had the first sentence of the following quote by Jefferson on a wall plate of a light switch:

“Freedom is the right to choose: the right to create for oneself the alternatives of choice. Without the possibility of choice, and the exercise of choice, a man is not a man but a member, an instrument, a thing.”

Pondering this message regularly, I knew there was more to it than I could understand at the time. I’m now aware of this:

We are free to choose. We are so free, we can choose fear or freedom.

We choose our thoughts, which impact our emotions, which create our lives. What hinders our freedom is allowing our minds to be tyrannized by any limiting beliefs. From anyone. From any circumstance or condition. From the tyrannical inner voice.

 



A client showed me a picture of a tow truck driver who quickly and skillfully used multiple cables to turn upright a parked truck that had been hit by a car and had completely flipped over.

The driver was very good-natured, and his demeanor radiated a cheerful attitude and peace.

Both of his arms stopped below his elbows.

He had a prosthetic leg, too.

He is a living demonstration of choosing his attitude and outlook on life. He wasn’t tyrannized by his physical condition and whatever caused it.

 



We in America celebrate our country’s birthday on the Fourth of July, our Independence Day. It’s a time of freedom.

While talking with others about a life-changing break for freedom from a highly abusive relationship I made during the week of July 4th when I was 20, others shared their stories of freedom that happened around this time, too.

Soon, the French will celebrate their day of freedom on July 14, Bastille Day.

Tyranny or freedom? 

You can choose to hold in your mind’s eye the freedom and intentions that our forefathers envisioned while founding the United States. 

What freedom and independence do you choose for you?

Start with freeing yourself from the tyranny of your mind, where nothing and nobody can touch you.


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who choose to share their gifts
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but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.


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Looking for freedom from anything
that may be tyrannizing you?
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Break Free Session at:

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This is a reprint from previous Soulgoals’ posts.

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Is Your Past Haunting You?

June 28, 2021

A mountain biker rode on a trail she’d been on at least 50 times. During some of those rides, she’d fallen and hurt herself. Because of this history, she was haunted by what the biking community calls “ghosts.”

She remembered the injuries, where the obstacles are located that caused her pain and avoided them.

Her experience changed, though, when she did this very same trail with a group of riders who traveled this way for the first time and were decades younger than her, including a woman who’s a national champion.

Not having negative memories, they tackled the trail with abandon.

While riding she said to herself, “Let’s pretend I haven’t been on this trail before.”

It was a whole new experience. She quickly rode over obstacles, that she’d been avoiding, and was unscathed. Didn’t fall down. Didn’t get hurt.

She told me that it’s the same in business and life.

Don’t let old ghosts from the past, which cause you to hesitate, get in the way of taking action and being successful.

Let go of the bad experiences.

What ghosts can you let go so you can tackle your life, business or work with abandon?

Find a way to create positive momentum so you get through without giving them a second thought.

P.S. Know someone who might like this? Please forward.

If you or anyone you know live with
ghosts of the past that continue to be
a haunting presence, please consider
a complimentary, break-free session.
It is possible to let go and move forward…
and feel the sweet taste of freedom!

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how or feel stuck.

I help them ignite their Souls’ goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.


Originally posted on Soulgoals’ Blog, June 5, 2017, Let Go of Ghosts

Copyright © 2021 Virginia Goszewska, All rights reserved.

Is Your Old Comfort Zone No Longer Comfortable? Ready for better?

June 21, 2021
Looking at the sky through a canopy of leaves while lying down.

Parts of your life can be comfortable, and you’d like some things to stay as they are or were. Maybe it wasn’t perfect, but it was familiar.

However, life doesn’t always work this way.

Then things changed.

Why couldn’t others change their ways and leave you alone?

That’s what I felt on a beautiful morning while lying on a blanket nestled in a grove of trees, next to a pond, looking at the sky through a canopy of leaves. A gentle breeze was blowing. Ahh, tranquil, exquisite peace. Perfect.

Several minutes passed and then…slap. Something got on my arm. No problem. Back to looking at the sky through the leaves.

Ouch. What was that? It’s okay. What a lovely day!

Gosh darn it. That one bit me. Then another.

Baby ants. Maybe I’m on an ant pile.

Nope. There’s an ant path under the blanket by my feet, but I’m not blocking it, I thought.

Well, they had another opinion and kept pestering me until I had to move.

I didn’t want to change my spot because it was ideal with no rocks, twigs or tall grass.

With the passing of time, though, the Texas heat had escalated. Not finding another suitable location, I realized it was time to move on.

Regardless of what I thought they could do, I had to move. I had to change, not them.

That’s how life is sometimes. We get in our comfort zone and don’t want to move. But some cycles run their course, and it’s easier to change (or should I say potentially more painful to stay) even though we might not feel like it.

Do you need to move on from one of your old comfort zones?

Is it time to let go of someone or something or a belief you’re holding onto that’s no longer serving you?

Do you want others or circumstances to change so you can stay the same?

Whatever normal was, it no longer is.

Maybe it’s time to move on to, even though you may not be able to see it now, something even better!

Edited. Originally Posted on June 17, 2010, Time to Move On


Yikes! Change can be uncomfortable.
Staying the same when it’s time to move on
can be even more uncomfortable.
 

If you’d like help with your shift,
contact me for a free consultation at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.”

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