Ever feel like a square peg trying to fit into a round hole? Consider finding a better match… or at least put it in perspective and don’t feel bad.
A woman carefully planned and was excited to talk to a group about her business offering. It seemed like the perfect target market because there were many people of the same demographic who already used and were grateful to have found her product.
Part way through her presentation, she was cut off. They repeatedly asked her the same question. However, each time she answered, they just weren’t getting it.
They misinterpreted her, and without even being able to finish, she had to leave.
Although we hadn’t talked for a while, I happened to call her when she was driving away – hurt, bewildered, doubting herself, wondering if she was in the right business.
By the end of our conversation, she realized that even though it appeared to be an ideal group, they really weren’t in a place to “get it.” She presented a progressive perspective; her audience identified with a traditional approach. They couldn’t understand and weren’t open to new ideas.
In siutations like this, and before feeling discombobulated (cool word for confused, disconnected or upset), consider that you may be on different wavelengths. They’re not wrong and neither are you.
Suggestion: set an intention that you’ll connect with people who are in alignment with you. Life is so much easier being yourself than trying to twist yourself into a pretzel trying to fit in to be something you’re not. It works personally and in business, too.
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog of May 15, 2017
Ready to live YOUR life, let go of blaming and complaining and gain emotional mastery?
Once I left a half an hour later than intended for a talk I gave. I needed the extra time to place hand outs on 50 chairs and organize other aspects of my presentation.
I knew if I used the mantra on the 45-minute drive, “I’m late; I’m late,” I would have been an emotional wreck by the time I arrived.
Instead, I told my chattering mind, “I have all the time I need.” When I got there I discovered that one of my clients, who regularly attends this group and likes to arrive early, was available and very happy to assist me.
I had more than enough time.
Time is malleable. You can change your self-imposed concept of time in your life.
IT DOESN’T MATTER if you can’t figure out how you’ll find the time.
IT DOESN’T MATTER if you think you need more time in the day or more time before you exit the planet.
Talk with your Essence, the very core of who you are, and make an agreement: I have all the time I need to do everything I have to do.
Start by re-evaluating one area of your life where you feel you do not have enough time. Look at it from the viewpoint of a wise friend and reframe your perspective to one where you have all the time you need… and won’t run out of it.
“You can’t get it wrong, and you never get it done.“
Abraham-Hicks
Need to get control of your time? Feel like you’ll never catch up or you missed your boat? Maybe you’re so busy that you feel you aren’t able to get off your merry-go-round?
Once upon a time there was a farmer named Sei Weng who had one horse and one son. One day the horse wandered away, and the neighbors commented that this was unfortunate. The farmer replied, “How do you know it’s bad luck?”
Soon after the horse returned bringing several wild mares with him. The neighbors congratulated him on his good luck. Ah, what lovely, strong horses! However, the farmer responded by saying, “How do you know it’s good luck?”
The son was thrown while riding one of the wild horses and broke his leg. His neighbors once again commented on how sorry they were for his bad luck, at which the farmer said, “Good luck, bad luck. Who knows?”
A war came, and every able-bodied man was conscripted into the military and sent into battle. Because he had a broken leg, the old man’s son didn’t have to go to war. The neighbors were excited about his good fortune, but the farmer remarked, “Is it good or is it bad?”
Another version of this folktale concludes with, “That’s the way it is.” Another says that fortune turns to misfortune, and misfortune to fortune. There is no end to changes, and the mystery can’t be known.
Because the farmer was emotionally detached and didn’t go along with everyone’s thinking, he was able to see a bigger picture.
Life presents both challenges and blessings. Your perspective determines how they affect you and your ability to make your dreams come true and live your best life.
According to the Chaos Theory our lives are always in chaos, and this is what opens us to fresh forms and possibilities.
When we reach what is called a “bi-furcation point,” a “point of departure” takes place, and a “self-organization out of chaos” occurs.
In other words, events that serve as turning points create a new order and structure.
Instead of adversely reacting to circumstances that seem bad, consider they may be a portal to something greater than you currently can imagine.
A messy divorce may be a ticket to personal empowerment and overcoming fear.
Challenging health, work, family or relationship issues, the loss or lack of worldly goods or money, or pain may be what cracks the shell to allow humility and what’s truly important to be seen… and the impetus to get real or pursue one’s dreams.
You can choose your perspective. Look deeper.
No matter how it appears, things change. The highs become lows or ordinary.
Regardless of how frustrated or hopeless aspects of your life may seem, this too shall pass… into something better if you allow yourself to see.
This edited Soulgoals’ Blog was originally posted on March 8, 2013.
Could you use help in changing the way you see some things?
Your reaction to life depends on how you look at things.
I’ve been building another Soulgoals’ website, which necessitated revisions to my lovely, new logo and banner. When they were reduced in size, some of the lettering was so small that it was unreadable.
My request for changes has been going on for months, but I was busy with other things so I let it slide. Periodically, I checked in and got modificatins, but they weren’t the ones I sought.
Finally, I got annoyed. A few days ago, I asked her in a very kind, detailed email to work as a team. PLEASE complete this.
She replied: “Okay so, to be honest, it’s not a lack of communication between us. I am going through chemo and it is causing havoc with my work, even my eyes if you can believe it!”
Yikes. It seems whenever I get bothered about something, there are other factors involved that I hadn’t considered, another way of looking at things.
Oh, but the ego, our false identity, loves having a justifiable reason to be irritated or against something or someone. This has an underlying egoic “benefit” of feeling superior to others. To the egoic self, it feels so satisfying to be right while making others wrong. It loves to cop an attitude and often won’t listen to anything but the way it wants to look at things.
I’ve had people angry with me for years. Eventually when we talked, it turned out that their interpretation didn’t have anything to do with what I actually said or my intention of presenting a different viewpoint.
No matter the truth, people see what they want to see.
They based what they thought I meant through their filter of how they usually saw things. Assumptions. Instead, I offered a perspective that could stretch them beyond the way they perceived things… if they allowed themselves to look at life another way.
“Attain to the place where no one and no thing can disturb you.”
Lester Levenson
Listen to the inner whispers guiding you. Make choices so you’re not allowing others or situations to affect your emotional energy.
Like attracts like. Like energy attracts like energy. Consciously take care of yours to create your best life.
Consider a new point of view because nothing is what it seems. All is in divine order and surpasses your wildest imagination.
Nothing would be what it is.
Because everything would be what it isn’t.
And contrary-wise – what it is, it wouldn’t be.
And what it wouldn’t be, it would.
You see?
Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
Could you use help in changing the way you see some things?
“I don’t know how to do it” and “I gotta figure it out” are seductions, siren songs of the egoic self, to lure you into keeping you small.
The egoic self is a false identity, which all of us have, that pretends to be us. We can recognize one aspect of it by the voice in our heads that never stops talking – often unsupportive, fearful and negative.
Its purpose? It wants you to stay limited under the guise of playing it safe.
However, the lack of money and happiness as well as business and personal fulfillment aren’t safe places to be at all!
The ego lies.
It seduces you into believing that you have to know HOW to do something. It insists you must have the big picture, all your ducks in a row and conditions must be just right before taking action.
Faulty assumptions are made. I don’t have the money. My life will be too disrupted. The children. My health. It’s not the right time. It’s not fill in the blank excuse.
I’ve observed this when people give me a list of why they can’t take action now toward their dreams. Really logical sounding reasons. Often they’re excuses in sheep’s clothing, aka listening to the egoic self’s whispers of fear and limitation.
Some, in trying to figure things out and looking for validation, ask others for their opinion. Then they’re dealing with others’ issues in addition to their own.
Hint: listen to the very first guidance that comes. It can be a gut feeling, an excitement, relief or a flash of insight. What comes after, with all the logical reasons or someone else planting doubt, can be ego-sourced. Well-meaning, seemingly safe, but actually neither.
If we continue to ignore our inner guidance, then life’s 2 x 4 can whack us to get our attention and change. Life crises in health, relationships, finances, accidents, job turnaround, death, divorce, emotional distress, natural disaster and more, for all their yuckiness, are catalysts for change.
However, having the courage to listen to our inner nudges is easier, even though we may try to talk ourselves into believing it isn’t.
By the way, the egoic self is very defensive because it believes its survival and identity depend on its perspective. Woe to anyone who might suggest otherwise… unless someone has had enough of unconsciously being unconscious and reaches out for freedom.
“Protecting and enhancing that false sense of self then becomes your primary motivating force.”
Eckhart Tolle, Stillness Speaks
The mindset of the egoic self is opposite of how the creative process works.
“If you ask the “how” question before the “what” question, all you can ever hope to create are variations of what you already have.”
Robert Fritz, The Path of Least Resistance
Use your imagination. Focus on the results, where you choose to be, not on the process or where you are.
The way will makes itself known.
If you think that you have to figure something out first, you limit your options.
You have limited experience. To go where no man or woman has gone before, you have to tap into a creative power and allow yourself to be guided by it.
Be wary of the excuses logical reasons you give yourself that hold you back.
Another way of saying this is get out of your head, and don’t try to figure things out.
Instead, relax and open yourself to infinite possibilities. Then take action by following your inner guidance.
Edited Soulgoals’ Blog excerpt from March 20, 2017
Cornucopia: an abundant, endless, overflowing supply. Allow your abundance to come in.
Your egoic self will seduce you to believe that you’re limited and not enough. It goes on and on with endless versions of not enoughs… you’re not good enough; you don’t have enough; you’re not a good enough parent or child; you’re not pretty or handsome enough: your weight isn’t good enough; you don’t match up to others; you’re not smart enough; you don’t have enough money. Get the idea?
It invades your thinking, but it lies!
“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
Louise Hay
How Can YouTell If You’ve Been Invaded Like The Walking Dead?
Ask if what you believe is true. (Your ego will convince you it’s true.) You feel that you’re right, they’re wrong. You have an emotional charge. You can’t shake negative feelings and mind chatter. Your filter believes you see clearly, but your vision is clouded by a finger pointing at inductees into your Villains’ Hall of Fame.
If you’re reading this with some comprehension, in this moment, your ego has taken a hike. Left to the ego’s devices, this information does not compute. Just like what happened in the following example.
Trekkie Talk
Data, an enlightened, artificial intelligence life form who’s programmed to help humans, understands this concept as hetalks with a primitive clone of himself in Star Trek Nemesis:
Data: You have been programmed to gather information that can be used against this ship.
Clone: I do not understand.
Data: I know.
And Data detached the clone from its power source.
When the ego’s program is running, there’s little understanding that the ego is controlling you. How is that possible? It imposes its faulty rationale, a filter that’s been influencing your perspective, that causes you to think and feel negatively and with limitation.
One of its programs is you against “them.” “Them” can be a generic somebody or something other than you. There’s little or no responsibility taken for one’s actions. You’re the victim. “They” are out to get you. Be afraid of what others might do to you in the future.
No, that’s not just the way you are. That’s the way you’ve been programmed by family, TV, church, school, friends, etc.
You can be running this computer-like mental and emotional software unconsciously. You can be completely unaware that its logic isn’t what you think it is. You may even adamantly defend it.
When this occurs, just like Data’s clone, there’s little recognition that the ego’s lies are actually working against you. For example, fearing the worse possible outcomes for the future isn’t protecting you. In truth, you’re setting yourself up for failure because of a misuse of your imagination.
It’s like seeing through a glass darkly as you become a pawn to do the ego’s bidding.
However, you can detach from this power source, just like Data did with his clone!
When You are in charge, your true Essence, you’ve got the bandwidth, clarity and energy to go beyond fear, make your dreams real and enjoy your best life.
Liberation of Lunacy (LoL)
I created a tool that my clients experience at the beginning of my Soulgoals’ program, called Liberation of Lunacy (the LoL Technique) to free yourself of doubt, limit, fear and lack through your power of choice, perspective and putting your Essence in charge. We’re all a little bit crazy when the ego takes over control. Meanwhile, here’s how to start freeing yourself when the siren sings you’ve really got a hold on me.
The ego will echo what you think, believe, say and feel emotionally. So quit beating yourself up. Stop blaming and making yourself and others wrong. Refrain from complaining about, comparing yourself and feeling superior or inferior to others.
Replace feeling a separation between you and “them” with an awareness of a connectedness with all of life.
Edited Excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog, originally posted on June 18, 2018
If you’re used to thinking it’s all your fault and you screwed up (again), it may be the other person who’s the culprit:
Your programming could include the belief that there’s something wrong with or oddly divergent about you, and now you’re convinced that’s true. (By the way, that program was put there by someone else, probably in childhood.) Because of this belief, and like attracts like, you attract others who accuse you of the same thing. This adds false evidence that your seeming inadequacy must be correct, and your life can feel controlled by what others think about you.
If you’re used to blaming, pointing fingers and complaining about others, the issue may be yours:
This programming could include not taking responsibility for how you’re creating your life as well as projecting your feelings on others. You believe other people, the government or circumstances are to blame for the wrongs done to you, and your words reveal you feel victimized or persecuted (although you might never think of yourself this way).
You can generalize: everybody feels that way or everyone knows that. Furthermore, if you blame hard enough, you might get others to doubt themselves or feel shame… then you feel in control. You can be very annoyed if others don’t go along with your beliefs, or you could feel they just don’t get it. If only they’d see the light from your perspective or apologize, you’d feel validated. But the relief doesn’t last for long because your concealed programming is still running.
Regardless, if you unwittingly try to control others’ behaviors or allow others to control how you feel, the underlying trickster is the same. It isn’t about You but your egoic self, a false identity that you’ve spent your life thinking is you!
Who’s Controlling Your Life?
Ever feel that you want to crawl in bed with the covers pulled over your head? Feelings arise when your story about them adds interpretation to emotions… which leads to beliefs… which circles back to those yucky feelings like frustration, disappointment and suffering. Hey, it’s not just you. We’re all wired like this, and we can change it!
Eckhart Tolle said, “the ego believes it is real and tries hard to maintain its supremacy.” He shares that negative states of mind, such as anger, resentment, fear, worry, blame and envy, are products of the ego. When it’s in control, these grievances appear justified, and usually someone or something else is blamed for these feelings. (Obviously, says the ego, it’s their fault.)
The true cause of this skewed thinking is not found in You but in the very structure of your egoic mind.
An Alternative:
You have the ability to:
Let go of allowing others and external circumstances control the way you feel and act.
Let go of trying to control how others think and live their lives.
Stop investing your emotional energy into who’s right and wrong.
Instead, make new choices. Shift your focus away from others’ and your so-called faults to seeing that you are more than enough. Actually, you’re awesome! Look for what’s good in you.
When people can’t find perfection in themselves, they judge others.
So allow others to be who they are, learning lessons just like you. It doesn’t mean you have to agree with them. It doesn’t mean you don’t have boundaries. But accept life for what it is.
You can have emotional mastery.Acceptance is your ticket to freedom.Resistance is futile.
You can do this. You’ll feel lighter, which makes it easier to take action on what’s important to you.
P.S. Know someone who might like this? Please forward.
Edited Excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog, originally posted on June 18, 2018
The Home Edit on Netflix inspired me to massively reorganize my home.
I let go of 2/3rds of my clothes and shoes. I threw away bags of stuff, sold some, and brought countless carloads to Goodwill.
For a variety of reasons, they no longer fit who I am now.
I categorized what was left (grouping similar items together in the same area). I bought containers so everything on my shelves had their own place. I stepped back to look at all my rooms, closets, drawers and cupboards with an eye for them to be aesthetically pleasing. The end goal is to maintain the system.
There’s not a paper on my desktops.
Following was the yard edit. I cut and dumped the equivalent of truckloads of pruned trees and branches.
Months of this focus led me to ask questions about editing my life.
How was I using my time?
Why were individuals in my life?
I paid attention to attitudes, beliefs, patterns, actions of myself and others.
When did I feel unhappy or stressed?
What did I like or just put up with?
When I honestly paused to see, I admitted to myself what didn’t serve me.
I saw where I was taking care of others above taking care of me.
Why?For logical reasons: they needed me, my help, to talk, something… and regularly being on that vibrational frequency was interfering with my ability to create a life that I choose.
It was time for me to draw the line and stop tolerating the vibrational dissonance.
“Use whatever excuse you can to vibrate in harmony with those things you’ve been saying you want. And when you do, these things that are a vibrational equivalent flow into your experience in abundance… That which is like unto itself is drawn.“
Abraham-Hicks
Once, while in a car for hours with a woman who’d been experiencing her friend’s drama for hours, I asked: “Why are they even your friends?”
It was the same question I’d been asking myself about everything in my life. Why is this/ are they in my life?
She replied something about how they’re dysfunctional. However, my point wasn’t about them, but I left her answer alone.
My intention was about her. What vibration are you choosing? To use colloquial expressions, as birds of a feather flock together, as water seeks its own level, her love and caring for her friends were aligning her with energy of drama.
Wonder why sometimes you don’t move forward in life the way you thought you could? With what vibrational frequencies are you aligning yourself?
“When you find vibrational alignment with You, you personally thrive.“
Abraham-Hicks
For me, why did some drain my energy?
I learned from YouTuber Richard Grannon regarding narcissists that “you’re dealing with a performance to elicit a response from you that caused you to serve them.”
Whaaat?
Some people try to pull you in, to do things for them and satisfy their needs, with their stories, circumstances, neediness or emotions in order to elicit a response from you. This is how they cause you to serve them, in ways you wouldn’t have done if they hadn’t evoked or played on your emotions somehow.
They may want your money, your time, your stuff, your sex, your advice, your energy, your conversations, you doing things for them, your emotional support, and on and on.
They may not respect your boundaries when you say “no,” but they can be sooo grateful to you for helping them.
Yes. It feels good to make a difference by helping others. Until their needs surface again. And again.
I realized I wasn’t helping. They were using me as a band-aid.
Are you rescuing or trying to fix others? You might believe you should do this to be a loving and good friend or family member. However, you may be holding others back from learning their lessons!
If you try to “teach” them, aka rescue or fix them instead of being an example, you may be holding them back spiritually.
Consequence: they keep coming back to you for help, and your enabling doesn’t motivate them to learn their lessons.
Ask yourself honestly. Is the relationship 50-50 or more like 90-10, you giving more than receiving?
You can let go of the toxicity and drama in your life. Maybe you’ve outgrown that, and it’s no longer a fit.
Of course, be willing to extend a helping hand!! However, if your hand gets tired from the repetitive performance, here’s an option.
HAVE COMPASSION.BLESS OTHERS.
LET THEM KNOW YOU BELIEVE IN THEM TO FIND A WAY THROUGH THEIR SITUATION.
BUT DON’T DO THE WORK FOR THEM.
Be empowered. Happy. Surround yourself with supportive people who love you for who you are, not because of how you can serve them.
Edited post from Soulgoals’ Blog of November 14, 2022
So what have you been telling yourself about you recently?
Stupid, smart, not good enough, grateful?
Is that really what you think about yourself?
If you want more money, which thinking do you believe works best?
I really need it, but I don’t think I’ll ever get paid what I’m worth.
(In spite of my circumstances) I feel prosperous, and more money is coming to me.
If you want more of something, feel as if you already have it. Otherwise, if you’re waiting for it to appear before you believe it, either:
You may not get what you want.
You could be miserable once you get it.
You could be challenged holding onto it.
Your thoughts about yourself are just mental concepts. Your thoughts and ideas are only pictures in your mind, and often times they were downloaded into your brain by others.
The tendency is to accept all of your perceptions as real because they’re in your head. However, they’re limiting because more possibilities exist than you can imagine.
“To look upon the appearance of disease will produce the form of disease in your own mind, and ultimately in your body, unless you hold the thought of the truth, which is that there is no disease; it is only an appearance, and the reality is health.
“To look upon the appearances of poverty will produce corresponding forms in your own mind, unless you hold to the truth that there is no poverty; there is only abundance.”
Wallace D. Wattles, The Science of Getting Rich
What do you think about yourself?
Do you say you want more money but think about yourself as poor, in lack or needy?
Do you say you want greater health but see your body as sick?
How you identify who you believe you are now is writing your script for who you’ll be in the future.
If you focus on your outer circumstances, you’ll repeat them in the future. Focus on what you choose instead.
Don’t be fooled by appearances, and certainly don’t beat yourself up because you feel you’re not good enough. Your current circumstances exist because of old ways that you thought about yourself.
You always have a choice about how you feel and think, even if things seem out of your control.
Imagine what life would be like if you see yourself as the hero of your dreams coming true!
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog posted on March 20, 2018.
Could you use help changing the way you see yourself and your prospects for a better future?
You know that voice in your head that never stops talking? It tells you lots of negative things, especially why things can’t work, and you’ll probably not do well if you try. Nothing is good enough, especially you, your time, your money and what you do.
This voice that pretends to be you is your ego. And it’s a good reason not to believe everything you think is true.
It’s a part of you that gives a list of seemingly logical reasons why you should hold back: don’t take the course of action that can help you break free of limitations. And if anyone challenges it, the ego gets upset and defends its (unconscious) faulty assumptions.
You have a choice!
Instead of acting helpless in the grips of Robo-Ego, know that you’re in charge, and unsupportive feelings can leave.
Here are a few tips:
If you want or need something, you’re coming from lack. You’ll be perpetually in a place of wanting instead of having what you choose.
What you resist persists. Although it sounds counter-intuitive, if you don’t like something, you’re holding onto it.
When you let go of trying to control, wanting validation or desiring safety, you can have them.
Ever notice when someone wants or needs a relationship? The objects of their desire want to run. Same thing with money, health or anything.
The freedom everyone longs for breezes in when we let go because then we allow our spirit, our wise self within, to be in charge.
Freedom can happen in seconds not years.
But we block ourselves from having what we really, really want when we clutch onto yucky feelings in our chest or gut or being stuck in our heads.
There are underlying beliefs we’ve tucked away that impact us, but they can be prompted to surface and be released. Everyone has the ability to let go although some resist.
So, we come back to who’s in charge of you? You DO have a choice.
Your door to the future. The possibilities are wide open.
Life presents challenges. How you respond – your emotional choices and mental focus – is YOUR choice.
You can get sucked into the quicksand of negative emotions, railing against the world and how tough everything is, focus on what’s not working and bemoan your tale of woes with others or in your head… and attract the opposite of what you want.
Or you can make a different choice.
You can transform any situation in your life by choosing to:
Let go of the exhausting struggle: your story of your hard life and what if the worse happens. Write it down and burn or shred it. Choose to let it go! Repeat as needed.
Change your perspective from one that creates stress and deteriorates your health and finances to one where you surrender to a universal Source of life with an attitude of anticipating the best. Look for the positive in any situation; it’s always there.
Stop thinking and talking about what’s wrong and instead focus on what’s working
Enjoy quality time with those who nipped the self-indulgent habits of #1-3.
Take action in the direction of your dreams.
As you gently let go of the struggle, you’ll float to the top of the quicksand of fear and move to the shore of creativity and abundance.
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ blog of March 22, 2012
Monkeys are captured when their hands get stuck in a jar, and they won’t let go of a peanut, banana or termites. Something they want.
At times, you have to let go of something you want in order to free yourselffrom being trapped. In this photo, what means more? Money or freedom?
Things don’t always work as expected. But change always makes way for something better, regardless of how it appears.
Your income, love, support, health and results don’t come from only one source, one person, one diagnosis or one deal.
God, the Divine, the universe, whatever you choose to call it, is your supply. God is never lost and has infinite possibilities for you.
Therefore, if something doesn’t work, new ways can be found.
Maybe your change is what it took for you to let go and allow new possibilities to occur.
Sometimes you have to let go to free yourself.
Consider the monkey who grasps something in a jar but can’t remove it. The neck of the jar is so narrow that it has to release its grip to get its hand out. But it won’t let go; it just pulls and pulls and pulls. It wants those tasties. Otherwise fast, agile and difficult to catch, this is how hunters and farmers sneak up behind them and trap monkeys.
Because they wouldn’t let go, they lost their freedom.
You’ll get results: your expectation, goal or something better. However, you may need to change your perspective or approach. You may need to let go of your emotional and mental grasp to allow something better to come in.
What you focus on grows. In the past, have you reacted to challenges with anxiety and stress? Instead, enjoy a childlike trust and curiosity. Look for how the universe is assisting you. Consider it a mystery, and you delight in discovering the answer.
Believe there’s a happy ending, and focus on it. Why not believe you can be happy with a happy ending? You probably tried fear and worry, and they don’t produce lasting and fulfilling outcomes.
The happy ending is here for you. Is there something you need to let go of for that freedom to happen?
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ post of February 7, 2011
When going outside the known and our comfort zone, when choosing to take ourselves to another level, it’s likely new tools and skills will be needed. This has nothing to do with not being good enough or a reason to be afraid of rejection!
Once we get over our stories – “yes, buts,” “you don’t understand,” “I was told this is the way it is (or I am),” “there’s nothing that can be done” and countless other reasons we try to legitimize why we do things the way we’ve always done – new solutions can appear.
The answers to get you through any challenge live within you. You’ll either get pointed in a direction, a direct insight will come, you’ll overhear something helpful by chance… somehow your personal GPS will show you the way.
Pay attention to your inner nudges. They provide clues.
Be open to step back and see things in a new perspective. The seemingly impossible may actually be possible with a different approach.
Niels Bohr, who won the Nobel Prize in physics in 1922, wrote this:
“Every great and deep difficulty bears in itself its own solution. It forces us to change our thinking in order to find it.”
Bohr, who contributed to understanding atomic structure and quantum theory, tapped into his creativity to use outside the box thinking, which allowed him to be part of breakthrough discoveries.
Expand your territory. Change your perspective. Open to breakthroughs.
Where’s your focus? What do you see in this optical illusion? Old or young woman?
A couple of my clients are involved with sports that require focus.
While kayaking, Melinda told me that if you focus on what to avoid, you’ll hit it. If you focus on where you’re going, you’ll go there.
In mountain biking, Michele shared that if you focus on obstacles, like the rocks and bumps you go over, you’ll fall. She said that it’s amazing how when you keep your gaze in front of you, where you’re heading, the obstacles don’t effect you and you keep going.
Your life, business, work and finances reflect what you consistently focus on, think about, talk about, complain about, imagine and enjoy – whether you want that thing or not.
In my Soulgoals’ program, there’s a segment called Focus on the Donut and not the Hole:
“One client said, ‘We’re trained to focus on worry. Now I’m retraining my focus on what I choose instead.’”
What’s in your focus? It can mess up your life or make it better. It may be a key to what’s in your wallet and happiness!
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ Post of February 27, 2017
UPDATE: Maybe you think you have no idea where to focus because you have so much to do, and it should’ve been done yesterday! You feel that only then would the pressure and weight be lifted off you.
Consider that your underlying conundrum might be some variation of you’re not getting things done as fast as you’d like.
If so, shift your focus to being okay with where you are right now.
Pick one project on your To Do list to which you feel most drawn, and start to work on it.
Then focus by taking it a step at a time. Work toward completion. With this attitude, you could attract help in unexpected ways, too.
Hakuna matata (from the movie The Lion King meaning no worries; there are no troubles.”)
Your magical life and business are here for your taking. It happens when you believe you can.
1. Start your day by choosing to be in Divine Flow. At first, you may notice only incremental changes – things become easier, and you may receive unexpected, positive results. During your day, focus on these not the yucky stuff. Step at a time, you’ll gain momentum… and that’s when the magic really kicks in.
2. Kick out doubt. From my Soulgoals’ course: “If you surrender and then continue to energize doubt with your feelings and attention, the doubt will push out your faith. Instead, choose to kick out doubt.”
3. Be vigilant about your associations, and don’t listen to trash talk from others or the limiting voice in your head. Soulgoals’ coaching can help to energize you and your goals.
You’re worth it. You CAN have quicker success with grace and ease. Think about how you could enjoy life more or how your business could grow and be more satisfying. Investing your energy and time to create a magical life without the stress is a lot more fun, productive, meaningful… and possible for YOU!
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ post of February 16, 2016
Ever start your day with dread? You don’t know how you’re going to get things done. Worried about what your spouse, boss or kids are going to say or do. Wondering how you’re going to get more money.
You may not mean it, but haphazard musings create intentions that cascade throughout your day. If you begin your morning with fear, anxiety or lack of direction, life will present you with a smorgasbord of experiences to match.
December was super busy for me. I launched my days thinking about my To Do list, random thoughts, what happened yesterday… just anything. The results were a crisis a week that miraculously got solved – but what a roller coaster ride.
I had taken a break from what I know works – a moment of quiet time to go within and consciously set intentions. As the year rolled in, I realizedit made sense to take three seconds to say:
I CHOOSE TO BE IN DIVINE FLOW.
I often add a few extra game changers such as I choose divine ______, such as order, timing, communication, financial abundance, grace and ease or whatever could help me with current circumstances.
A couple of weeks later, I noticed how everyday had been astounding. I was still busy and productive yet not overwhelmed – as long as I remembered to choose to be in divine flow.
I also noticed that if I didn’t react, but instead let certain situations play out,even things that appeared to be two sandwiches short of a lunch, were fulfilling.
It’s mind boggling that saying these words, that only takes about three seconds, can manifest such profound results.
Imagine going to a ticket counter at a train station. If you reserve a seat on any train, you could land in an urban jungle. But divine flow is different. You’re allowing the life force to guide you, surrendering control to a Master Planner who has your best interest at heart.
If you question that life is supportive, consider these words:
“I think the most important question facing humanity is,’Is the universe a friendly place?’ This is the first and most basic question all people must answer for themselves.”
“If we decide that the universe is neither friendly nor unfriendly and that God is essentially ‘playing dice with the universe,’ then we are simply victims to the random toss of the dice and our lives have no real purpose or meaning.”
“God does not play dice with the universe.”
Albert Einstein
Your life isn’t random. You’re not a victim. You have the ability to consciously design your life with the divine.
Don’t believe it? Discover this co-creation by running an experiment. Choose to be in divine flow daily for two weeks. Not just any flow – not your neighbor’s or that of people at work. Divine Flow. Affirm with an attitude of faith not desperation. If you forget in the morning, do it later. I’ve now included it as a non-negotiable way to start my day, right up there with going to the bathroom.
Now it’s your turn to “row, row, row your boat gently down the stream. Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily. Life is but a dream.” It’s a dream you’re creating.
“When your internal reference point is your spirit, when you are immune to criticism and unfearful of any challenge, you can harness the power of love, and use energy creatively for the experience of affluence and evolution.”
Deepak Chopra, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success
Fear was my #1 issue during a personal growth session in 1991. It took us two hours to reveal what the particular fear was: everything! It took me years to recognize the insidious ways fear had molded my life since childhood.
Like attracts like. When the vibration of fear precedes actions, the results reflect that energy. What follows is lack; struggle; failure; disappointment; frustration; worry; anxiety; loss of business; financial hardship; and that dreadful fear of the future – “what if” things don’t work out and I face a fate worse than death?
Especially when I felt justified, being afraid was like adding sugar to yeast – “Just look at my circumstances. Anyone in them would feel this way.” Fear multiplied which attracted more things to be afraid about.
Once when my budget was screaming “ouch,” I feared missing a credit card payment. I knew someone this happened to, and her rates skyrocketed. My negative musings caused me unconsciously to pay my bill from an account where I don’t keep money… and I missed my payment.
My preoccupation with my imagined, financial ruin also had me overlook paying my water bill. I opened the top portion of a letter sent to alert me and set it aside thinking it was next month’s bill. Only minutes after coming home from burying my cat who died suddenly and discovering my water had been turned off did I see it was a disconnect notice.
I had the money, but I was so consumed with fearing future financial disasters that I created them! As Job said, “For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me.”
You may have been pulled into the quicksand of fear. Once you start sliding down its slippery slope, every frantic breath has you descend into it more deeply.
My successes occurred when I let go of fear.
What is quicksand, and how does it work?
Quicksand is just a soupy mix of water trapped in ordinary sand that can’t escape, a liquefied soil that can’t support weight. It can occur almost anywhere if the right conditions are present. Contrary to being the frightening, bottomless pit portrayed in the movies, it rarely is deeper than a few feet.
Stepping into quicksand will not swallow you whole or suck you under, but thrashing about will force you deeper into it. The more you struggle, the faster you sink.
Most people who drown in quicksand or in any liquid are those who panic and start flailing their arms and legs. However, it’s easier to break free of it than you may think.
To escape you have to stop fighting. Breathe. The key is not to panic.
The way out is to relax and make slow movements back to the surface.
Because your body is less dense than the quicksand, your body will float to the surface if you let go of the struggle and relax.
In fact, it’s easier to float on quicksand than on water. Once afloat, you can find your way back to safety.
Hmm, so similar to fear – how we drown in it and how we can escape its murky mud.
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ Archive posted on February 26, 2012
Here’s what happened to my client that cut her off from getting what she wanted… and how she turned it around.
A seasoned professional’s business plummeted, and she was living off credit cards.
Shortly after coaching with me, she successfully turned her business around as she attained her goal of $1 million in monthly sales.
But suddenly, it all came to a standstill. $700,000 of deals completely fell through with no prospects on the horizon.
What happened?
She was brought up to believe that you have to work hard to get what you want. However, she met a guy, and they’ve been having fun, fun, fun!
Recently, she’s been having so much fun that her limiting belief that “work has to be hard” crept back again. Her financial flow stopped cold in its tracks.
She became aware of her faulty belief, and let it go. During this week’s session, she reported that she’s on track to achieve her goal of $1 million of transactions next month, the time it takes for her deals to process.
In the meantime, she received a call asking her to consider a totally unexpected, significant income stream. This put needed cash in her pocket now and will continue to do so in the future.
A simple erroneous thought that life and work have to be hard impacts results.
When her fun life became incongruent with that erroneous belief of having to work hard, something had to give. For her, it was to stop making money. That is, until she caught on to her limited thinking and turned it around.
Not getting what you want? There’s an underlying reason for the disconnect.
Whatever you believe is true, you’ll make it true. HOWEVER, you can turn this around!
Everything is given according to your belief.
To turn your life around, change your perspective. Imagine differently. Start by seeing through the eyes of gratitude and having more fun.
“Life is supposed to be fun. No one is taking score of any kind, and if you will stop taking score so much, you will feel a whole lot better — and as you feel a whole lot better, more of the things that you want right now will flow to you… All is really well. Have fun. Have fun. Have fun!”
I reconnected with an old friend who told me he had been in a funk for quite a while because of events that caused him to question himself.
This led to a discussion about how our energy attracts people and circumstances and how gratitude can shift the way we feel.
A couple of months later, he told me this:
“When I’m positive, I’m like a magnet, and more people want to talk with me. When I was in a funk and not smiling, people avoided me.
“I went to a conference where I was overflowing with good energy and made new friends.
“It’s interesting how it works. This positivity thing is attractive to others. It makes sense because I wouldn’t want to talk to someone who’s sitting in a corner and scowling, unless it was a friend. Then I’d ask, ‘What’s up?’ Otherwise, I’d stay away.
“When there’s nothing there for people, why would they come up to you?”
If you want others to like you more, begin by being aware of the energy you‘re emanating.
In most people’s lives, there are things that could go better. Maybe you want a better job or improvements in your business or you’re ready for a change of fortune or you’d like to enjoy life more.
It may be too big of a leap to go from funk to feeling good, but you can do it in increments by focusing on simple things.
Feel good because you have a roof over your head or can read, and build from there. What you take for granted would be a profound blessing for many.
Start to feel good by making peace with your current circumstances, and watch how your life begins to change for the better.
You may find that annoying people will find your positive energy annoying and eventually not stick around, but others will be attracted to you like a magnet.
How do you know what energy you’re emanating? Tune in to how you feel.
Not feeling good is a sign that you’re in opposition to how your inner Essence is guiding you. It’s a clue that your thinking and perspective are off track.
How can you change it?
“Hold the faith and purpose of increase… in such a way that every person who comes in contact with you… will feel the power of purpose radiating from you; so that everyone will get the sense of advancement and increase from you.”
It’s that time when people make resolutions for the new year… most of which they won’t keep.
So let’s keep it simple AND effective.
You’ll have greater success if you focus on doing what you love instead of trying to do something you think you have to do, should do, or trying to please others.
When you’re ruminating about what you’d like your resolutions and life to be, may these words of wisdom guide you… and be sure to include fun and doing what you love.
“If you do follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.”
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”
Joseph Campbell
“People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.”
Dale Carnegie
“If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased.”
Katharine Hepburn
May you enjoy a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year!
Virginia
Previously posted on Soulgoals’ Blog December 31, 2018
Much of the world is lost in wanting as well as creating conflict over what they perceive they don’t have.
However, you can be a bringer of peace.
Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me and you.
When you feel anxiety, ask yourself what you’re wanting.
The perfect gift? You’re more likely to find it if you’re relaxed.
Getting the house in order or landing a business deal? If you’re feeling good, you’ll spread holiday cheer to your guests or clients – and they’ll feel better around you.
Want more business or money? When you’re emotionally calm, you’re more receptive to ideas that will bring you both. Or they’ll be drawn to you like Santa Claus to cookies.
Choose peace over:
Wanting approval and love from others.
Wanting things to be a certain way so you’ll feel safe.
Trying to get power by controlling stuff that’s out of your control.
When you recognize that you have ALL of these – approval, safety, and control – within you now, there’s no need to chase after them.
Imagine the peace you can feel when you:
Let go of people pleasing as well as wanting approval and love from others. You’ll be more able to discover that you already have approval and love within you. It’s an inside job.
Let go of wanting to feel safe and secure so you can realize you already are. No amount of money, nothing, and noone can make you feel safe if you don’t allow yourself to feel secure within yourself.
Let go of the need to defend and explain yourself. Take action to take care of yourself, and observe that fearful, inner ranting gets in the way of effectiveness.
Let go of wanting to control others and situations. Nobody can give you power because you are already empowerd from within.
Make peace your highest priority, and experience greater success.
Don’t take my word for it. Test it out for yourself.
Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah, a Blessed Kwanzaa, and a wonderful holiday season to you!
May peace be unto you, my friend.
THE PERFECT GIFT: being and sharing peace. And you don’t have to be perfect to share the perfect gift.
With gratitude,
Virginia
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ blog posted on December 22, 2015
We may feel tired or extremely fatigued from hard work or putting in long hours, but exhaustion comes from emotions. Exhaustion stems from suppressing worries, anger, fear, and concerns, often telling ourselves we’ll deal with them later. But we don’t. By stuffing and not looking at them, we emotionally sabotage ourselves.
Dragging ourselves home from work may result from not dealing with the stress of situations or associating with certain people. Exhaustion at home may occur by not wanting to admit what our feelings are trying to tell us and that something needs to change.
We can exhaust ourselves from not wanting to look at the reasons we feel pain or fear.
I was present at the moment a woman made a connection about her unfulfilling relationship with her father. As a little girl, she regularly hit her head against the wall rather than face that emotional pain.
As an adult in her twenties, she no longer hit her head. Instead she had migraines. Although painful, migraines were easier for her to deal with than looking at the pain she felt from being emotionally abandoned by her father.
Note: Please continue to the end to read another perspective on migraines and exhaustion in the BONUS below.
People sometimes drive themselves through grueling physical activity, long work hours or constant busyness rather than looking at the pain and frustration they feel about negative experiences or things their parents did or didn’t do, revealing their personal bogeyman or why they tolerate intolerable situations and people now.
If you’re exhausted or in pain and torment yourself about how you feel because of it, you have a good excuse reason not to think, change your perspective and discover that there are better options available to you.
Here are examples of underlying fears that may drive you.
If I leave my job/ spouse, I won’t have enough money.
If I leave my church/ social circle, I’ll be all alone.
If I stop being so busy, I’ll have to slow down and look at what kind of a life I have – the people, circumstances, drama, unfulfilling work, my fears, my lack, my body, my very happiness and so on.
Another emotional payoff might include the sympathy and attention others give you. Pain, illness or exhaustion can become a badge of courage… “You’re exhausted from what you’re going through, you poor thing.”
Pain’s survival depends on part of us remaining unconscious. This is how it continues to hold power over us. This is what causes us to relive variations of emotionally charged situations repeatedly.
Because our spirit desires a release of unsupportive energy, we continue to attract similar situations (even if they suck). They serve as opportunities for us to wake up and be free.
If we avoid releasing unsupportive energy, we look to gain power elsewhere. We settle for jobs, relationships and unsatisfying lives. This is exhausting.
Had enough? Where are you losing your power? Who or what did you give your power to?
A first step to freedom is self-awareness, and sometimes it helps to ask for help to see our blind spots as well as learn new ways to release energy that doesn’t serve us.
Edited excerpt from August 30, 2021, Soulgoals’ post.
BONUS!
MIGRAINES, EXHAUSTION and MORE
Alert: This may go against everything you believe to be helpful and good.
When we emotionally feel sorry for or bad about others going through challenges or try to save them from their suffering, we energetically tie into their pain. We plug our energy circuitry into their emotions and how they feel, aligning ourselves with their vibrational wavelength.
Any suffering we alleviate by doing this doesn’t help them to learn their lessons and actually holds them back.
Empaths (people who feel others’ feelings as if they are their own) can unconsciously take on others’ pain, illness, lack, confusion, stress, depression and fatigue. That kind of sensitivity can be exhausting.
Ever feel good and then drained after talking with certain people?
Here’s another consideration. Do you think someone is a headache or a pain in your neck or another part of your lower anatomy? Well, that literally can be what happens to you.
Are you struggling, stuck, have issues? Know someone around you that often feels the same? They may, for example, struggle in one way, you in another. It’s still struggling. Maybe you unintentionally took on what they’re going through.
A woman volunteered as a leader to help the homeless. While we talked she had a realization. Since riding in a car with others from her church and their negative chatter for a couple of hours to visit this community, she hadn’t closed one deal in six months! She decided to drive her own car and started closing deals.
Another example, people who don’t drink might be dealing with an alcoholic family member. However, both may be dealing with fear but coping in different ways. One drinks and the other lives in fears like expecting the worse to happen.
Look for similar feelings not identical circumstances.
Warning! If you try to share ideas before others are ready to understand, they can turn on you and make you the bad guy. People often filter information based on their past experiences and resist believing that another perspective is valid.
So how can you help? Be compassionate. Acknowledge them and where they’re at non-judgmentally. Communicate how you believe in them and their ability to get through their circumstances. But no pity, feeling sorry for them or meeting them at their emotional level of drama.
Again, you’re not uplifting others while feeling troubled about them. And you may be opening yourself to take on what they’re going through.
It works in reverse, too. Being around positive people aligns you vibrationally to live your personal and professional dreams.
Would you like to learn how to release unwanted energy?
I wrote this to a client who was going through challenges:
I really know what it’s like when we feel our lives are sinking, and we’re drowning in a sea of wondering if things will ever work out — or if we’ll be submerged too long and sink before a lifesaver comes to save us.
That being said, regardless of this eddy of emotion, we simply have to believe and will eventually know that there’s always at least a piece of driftwood to carry us to the shore. That’s part of the lesson.
Often, we’re so preoccupied splashing about and gasping for air that we don’t divert our attention to see the Coast Guard has been calling our name to let us know we’re safe.
Our journey involves shifting from panicking to looking for and being grateful for what’s available at this very moment.
Then we refocus our vision and see that help is on the way. Now.
You can:
Sit in anyone’s drama, your complaining, frustration, anger, confusion, blame, regret, worry, disappointment, or beating yourself or others up. These can not bring you results you choose and are self-defeating frequencies. That’s like being tuned to a heavy metal radio station wondering when classical music will start to play.
Alternatively, even if you don’t have a clue how, trust that help is on the way. In doing so, you align yourself with and are open to miracles, fortuitous coincidences and being in the right place at the right time while feeling that success can happen for you. Yes, you.
The first step to your success can be this idea:Things are working out for you, you know what to do, and help is on the way.
Then tune in to your next step, because one is always available for you.
It may be taking action on something that’s been rolling around your head for a while or asking for help.
Maybe it’s to pause and do nothing in the moment because the timing isn’t right. Or chill out, and take a nap.
Keep it simple.
You probably tried not trusting yourself or life. From direct experience you saw the results, which is why you may wonder if things will work out. Why not approach things from a different perspective?
Believe and trust it will. Take action by following through with your inner guidance instead of your fears.
You won’t need a crystal ball.
Things are working out for you!
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog posted October 25, 2017
Could you use help for life to work out better for you?
Don’t dedicate only one day of the year to be grateful.
Here are quotes Wallace D. Wattles, 1860 – 1911, wrote in his classic book The Science of Getting Rich.
Wattles was the inspiration for the book and movie The Secret.
It’s a key to manifest whatever you choose in your life, too!
There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe.
A thought, in this substance, produces the thing that is imaged by the thought.
A person can form things in his thought, and, by impressing his thought upon Formless Substance, can cause the thing he thinks about to be created…
Our gratitude liberates an energy within us that immediately expands into the Formless Substance, where it is instantly returned to us in kind…
And if your gratitude is strong and constant, the reaction in Formless Substance will be strong and continuous; the movement of the things you want will be always toward you…
It is necessary, then, to cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you; and to give thanks continuously.
Wallace D. Wattles,The Science of Getting Rich
What’s the life-changing way to have gratitude?
During a group discussion of the above-mentioned book by Wattles, I suddenly heard this quote in a new way. It’s not just occasional gratitude, it’s living in a state of gratitude – continuous gratitude.
Gratitude, continuous gratitude, will change your life!
I made a decision for this moment, and then extending it to this minute (more moments), this hour, today, this week, lifetime and beyond, to give thanks continuously.
Will you join me?
Inevitably, I will get distracted from my choice to live in continuous gratitude. I do know that the more I practice it, my life continues to improve.
However, when I catch myself straying into the hinterlands, I’m not going to get upset with myself. I can shift my focus away from lack, worries, any kind of pain, my pity pot, complaining or what’s not working to being grateful for what’s working and what I have, instead.
It won’t matter how many times I fall off my wagon of continuous gratitude; I can always get back on.
So can you.
Sometimes all you need is to look at life from a different perspective.
Happy Days of Continuous Gratitude and Giving Thanks!
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog posted on November 20, 2017
In gratitude for yourself, is it time to change your life, business or work so it’s even better?
A simple message. No sticky notes needed. Be grateful…. even those things that you can’t imagine how there’s anything good about them. There’s always a silver lining, and you have the ability to find it.
Something shifts making the way for something better.. if not now, maybe later. There’s always something to learn. Observe.
I’m grateful to you! Thanks for reading my blogs.
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” Willie Nelson
If you’re looking for an abundance of business, money, love, support or health, focusing on what’s working with gratitude will bring you more of what’s working.
“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” Eckhart Tolle
Gratitude Causes You to Feel Good
Especially during this time of giving thanks, take time to reflect on what you’re grateful for. The more you’re grateful, the more good feeling mojo you create. The more good feeling mojo you have, the more success you experience.
“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.” Buddha
In gratitude for yourself, is it time to be good to you?
Earlier this year, I watched a show called The Home Edit on Netflix. It inspired me to massively reorganize my home.
I let go of 2/3rds of my clothes and shoes. I threw away bags of stuff, sold some, and brought countless carloads to Goodwill.
For a variety of reasons, they no longer fit who I am now.
I categorized what was left (grouping similar items together in the same area). I bought containers so everything on my shelves had their own place. I stepped back to look at all my rooms, closets, drawers and cupboards with an eye for them to be aesthetically pleasing. The end goal is to maintain the system.
There’s not a paper on my desktops.
Following was the yard edit. I cut and dumped the equivalent of truckloads of pruned trees and branches.
Months of this focus led me to ask questions about editing my life.
How was I using my time? Why were individuals in my life? I paid attention to attitudes, beliefs, patterns, actions of myself and others. When did I feel unhappy or stressed?What did I like or just put up with?
When I honestly paused to see, I admitted to myself what didn’t serve me.
I saw where I was taking care of others above taking care of me. For logical reasons: they needed me, my help, something.
…and regularly being on that vibrational frequency was interfering with my ability to create a life that I choose.
It was time for me to draw the line and stop tolerating the vibrational dissonance.
“Use whatever excuse you can to vibrate in harmony with those things you’ve been saying you want. And when you do, these things that are a vibrational equivalent flow into your experience in abundance… That which is like unto itself is drawn.“
Abraham-Hicks
Why did some drain my energy?
I learned from YouTuber Richard Grannon regarding narcissists that “you’re dealing with a performance to elicit a response from you that caused you to serve them.”
Whaaat?
Some people try to pull you in, to do things for them and satisfy their needs, with their stories, neediness or emotions in order to elicit a response from you. This is how they caused you to serve them, in ways you wouldn’t had done if they hadn’t played on your emotions somehow.
They may want your money, your time, your stuff, your sex, your advice, your doing things for them, your emotional support, and on and on.
At the same time, they can be sooo grateful to you for helping them. Yes. It feels good to make a difference by helping others. Until their needs surface again. And again.
I realized I wasn’t helping. They were using me as a band-aid.
Are you rescuing or trying to fix others? You might believe you should do this to be a loving and good friend or family member. However, you may be holding others back from learning their lessons!
If you try to “teach” them, aka rescue or fix them instead of being an example, you may be holding them back spiritually.
Consequence: they keep coming back to you for help, and your enabling doesn’t motivate them to learn their lessons.
Ask yourself. Is the relationship 50-50 or more like 90-10, you giving more than receiving?
You can let go of the toxicity and drama in your life. Maybe you’ve outgrown that, and it’s no longer a fit.
Of course, be willing to extend a helping hand!! However, if your hand gets tired from the repetitive performance, here’s an option.
HAVE COMPASSION.BLESS OTHERS.
LET THEM KNOW YOU BELIEVE IN THEM TO FIND A WAYTHROUGH THEIR SITUATION.
BUT DON’T DO THE WORK FOR THEM.
Be empowered. Happy. Surround yourself with supportive people who love you for who you are, not because of how you can serve them.
Ready to be free of helping others more and helping yourself less? Contact me to learn how at:
get frustrated if things don’t work out the way they should…
…what you want eludes you or is hard to get?
Other times, often when you casually say you want something, it appears effortlessly.
If a door opens that allows things to come to you, pushing against it only closes your ability to be open to receive.
The same principle applies to creating your ideal life, business and work, too.
If someone is chasing you for business, to be their friend or lover, to give them more time with you than you’re willing to share, what are you inspired to do?
If their energy is intense, needy, negative or draining, what do you want to do?
Run. Far away.
Your dreams and goals are here, now, waiting for you. Don’t chase them. Be willing and open to receive them or something better.
Amidst a sea of people at a month-long, holiday event held on six acres, I found myself face to face with a former client. I’d been thinking about reconnecting with her as we hadn’t talked for a couple of years.
We enjoyed catching up by phone the following day. At the end of our conversation, she inquired about my current business offerings. Poised to launch a new, career direction, she was ready to let go of limiting beliefs that could hold her back.
She’ll start her coaching program with me this month.
Right place. Right time. Right energy. In the flow. Great results.
No struggle. No trying. Being a magnet for intentions and good things by relaxing and being open to receive.
Note: this is 180 opposite from worrying about “What if things don’t work out?”
Life is magical when we allow it.
We’ve been trained to think no pain, no gain. Do more. Work harder.
Yes, actions do produce results. Inspired action. Not action based on fear, loss or neediness.
Releasing is one of the highest and most effective actions. This means letting go of anxiety, doubt and fear as well as other limiting thoughts and emotions.
Think tuning fork emitting a vibration. This frequency naturally harmonizes with complementary notes.
Relaxing and trusting open us to inspired action which allows success to occur naturally.
Your action has nothing to do with your abundance! Your abundance is a response to your vibration. Of course, your belief is part of your vibration. So if you believe that action is part of what brings your abundance, then you’ve got to unravel that.
Abraham – Hicks
Edited excerpt from a Soulgoals’ blog on December 7, 2015
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Deepak Chopra standing next to me as he prepared to enter the stage.
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success – A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams by Deepak Chopra is a transformational work. May you enjoy manifesting your heart’s desires, be they business or personal, with ease and grace.
“Desperate striving isn’t necessary or even desirable. In the natural world, creation comes forth with ease. A seed doesn’t struggle to become a tree―it simply unfolds in grace.”
“The Ego, however, is not who you really are. The ego is your self-image; it is your social mask; it is the role you are playing. Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control, and it is sustained by power, because it lives in fear.”
“At the moment you consciously make a choice, pay attention to your body and ask your body, “If I make this choice, what happens?” If your body sends a message of comfort, that’s the right choice. If your body sends a message of discomfort, then it’s not the appropriate choice.”
“Attachment to money will always create insecurity no matter how much money you have in the bank.”
“Consciously put your attention in the heart and ask your heart what to do.”
“When you struggle against this moment, you’re actually struggling against the entire universe.”
“Attention energizes, and intention transforms. Whatever you put your attention on will grow stronger in your life. Whatever you take your attention away from will wither, disintegrate, and disappear.”
“Success in life could be defined as the continued expansion of happiness and the progressive realization of worthy goals.”
“Least effort is expended when our actions are motivated by love, because nature is held together by the energy of love.”
“What does responsibility mean? Responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for your situation, including yourself. Having accepted this circumstance, this event, this problem, responsibility then means the ability to have a creative response to the situation as it is now. All problems contain the seeds of opportunity, and this awareness allows you to take the moment and transform it to a better situation or thing.”
“When you seek power and control over other people, you waste energy. When you seek money or power for the sake of the ego, you spend energy chasing the illusion of happiness instead of enjoying happiness in the moment. When you seek money for personal gain only, you cut off the flow of energy to yourself, and interfere with the expression of nature’s intelligence. But when your actions are motivated by love, there is no waste of energy. When your actions are motivated by love, your energy multiplies and accumulates — and the surplus energy you gather and enjoy can be channeled to create anything that you want, including unlimited wealth.”
“But when our internal reference point is our spirit, our actions are motivated by love, and there is no waste of energy. Our energy multiplies, and the surplus energy we gather can be channeled to create anything we want, including unlimited wealth. When we harness the power of harmony and love, we use our energy creatively for the experience of affluence and evolution.”
“By looking at the behavior of the cells in our own body, we can observe the most extraordinary and efficient expression of The Seven Spiritual Laws. This is the genius of nature’s intelligence. These are the thoughts of God – the rest are details.”
“We have stopped for a moment to encounter each other, to meet, to love, to share. This is a precious moment, but it is transient. It is a little parenthesis in eternity. If we share with caring, lightheartedness and love, we will create abundance and joy for each other. And then this moment will have been worthwhile.”
Previously posted on Soulgoals’ Blog on September 24, 2018.
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After sitting through a couple of traffic lights behind a car that wouldn’t budge, my friend got very annoyed.
He thought, what’s wrong with these people along with several choice expletives.
Finally, he angrily swerved around to get in the lane next to them. In the car was a man and a child in the passenger seat.
As my friend turned to the driver to give him a piece of his mind, the man asked, “Which way to the hospital? I have to take my child to the hospital, and I don’t know if I need to turn right or left.”
With this new information and perspective, his annoyance instantly left. He became fully engaged in helping.
Recently, a woman explained how she was quite bothered by something I’d said. She felt upset for months, since we had our last conversation. When we finally talked again, she told me that she didn’t know how I could’ve said such a thing and made analogies all pointing to why she should be indignant.
She assumed the story she was telling herself was correct, and therefore she was justifiably angry with me. She saw the story through her filter, and therefore she felt she had good reason to feel upset with me!
A couple of minutes into her explanation, when I realized she had totally misinterpreted the point I was making, I clarified what I had said. Very quickly, the story and irritation at me that she’d been holding onto for so long evaporated.
I suggested that, in the future, she talk with me if she had an issue rather than jump to conclusions.
Do you find yourself upset about something and jumping to conclusions? Take a step back and observe. Is this a one-time or ongoing occurrence? Might there be a different way of connecting the dots? There may be a different way of handling this.
Perhaps there’s a lesson for you to learn. Maybe there’s a different story you can tell about it and discover a new conclusion.
Are you using or misusing your imagination?
Reprinted from Soulgoals’ Archives, February 4, 2019
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In The Wizard of Oz, the young girl Dorothy had to deal with many challenges to find her way back home, most of them created by a Wicked Witch.
It was rough going until she realized that she always had the power within her to return.
One turning point came when it appeared there was no way out of a fiery disaster. I mean, that wicked witch was going to kill them all, including Toto the dog! She started by setting on fire Dorothy’s dear friend the Scarecrow, who was made of straw.
Forgetting I’d seen this story countless times, I was shocked. How could they get out of this predicament? There seemed to be none. I couldn’t think of any.
Here’s where the magic of life steps in. There was a solution, but one they couldn’t have figured out.
To save her friend from the flames, Dorothy threw a bucket of water on him; some of it landed on the witch. Dorothy had no idea what her action would do.
Even if it appears that there’s no way out, there is. Life can step in and provide solutions that you couldn’t imagine.
Wicked Witch of the West:
“Don’t throw that water. (The witch screams.) You cursed brat! Look what you’ve done! I’m melting, melting. Oh what a world, what a world! Who would have thought a good little girl like you could destroy my beautiful wickedness! I’m going! Oh! Oh!”
And the witch was dead!
Surrounded by the Wicked Witch’s minions, Dorothy apologized for this unintended consequence. However, everyone rejoiced and broke into song, “Ding Dong! The Wicked Witch is dead.”
Notice how the Wicked Witch blamed Dorothy, as if Dorothy was the one who did something wrong, forgettting it was the witch who set her friend on fire!
This is such a common strategy of people lost in their own convoluted thinking. They want others to change so they can continue their goofy, limited approach to life.
By the way, blame is one way the egoic mind operates: You… You… You’re wrong! It’s your fault. Apologize. (I certainly won’t look at how I might be the cause of a problem.)
You don’t have to fall for this attempt to doubt yourself!
Just like in Star Wars where a ragtag group defeated the Empire. Just like how a good, little girl like Dorothy and her friends melted the witch…
You can get over any hurdles in your path, too.
There are ways of breaking free to enjoy the life, business or work of your dreams. There is a better way than trying to make things happen, trying to figure things out or getting tired of trying.
What you want and what inspires you to feel happy changes over time.
Your focus as a baby is different from when you’re a young adult ready to launch a new phase of this human adventure, and it varies at every stage of you being alive.
Likewise, what satisfies you shapeshifts.
Perhaps you are on or have had a financially safe and profitable career path, and you keep telling yourself that you should be happy. However, if you’re honest with yourself, it may be unfulfilling and you want more — something different, more meaningful with more money, more time and more fun.
Maybe you’re unsatisfied and are ready to make a change, but you believe it’s too impractical, you’re too old in today’s market to do something different, you don’t have the time it takes to make a change or you don’t know what else you’d do that will pay you enough.
So you settle.
Once I met a man at a party who had to close his business a couple of years prior to our conversation.
He was an adamant advocate of his limited beliefs: It was too late to start anything else. It took him twenty years to build his old business, and it would take that long to do it again. That’s a fact. Period. There was no other way of looking at it.
He couldn’t see that maybe, in his re-creation of his next step, it could be easier and success could come faster. His adamant view was that this was impossible.
He was fixated, stuck and limited in his vision that the only way things could be done is how they were done in the past. He had absolutely shut down his imagination. He was depressed. End of story!
I remembered the saying, don’t try to teach a pig how to fly. First, pigs can’t fly. Second, you just irritate the pig.
Mind you, he wasn’t a pig. But I could see that he got irritated thinking beyond his self-imposed doom.
Although he appeared to be a nice man, he was one of the unhappiest and most negative people I’ve ever met.
While there are simple steps to clarify and align yourself with what you really, really want, the soul of your goal, here’s something that may help you to start. This is from my Soulgoals’ program:
“Clear and conscious intentions create a blueprint of what you choose.They replace unconscious pictures you carry from limited, default programming.
“You attract what you energize with clarity and feeling.
“Your brain may not be able to fathom how your goals can occur. However, if your intention is in alignment with the soul of your goal, miracles happen.“
You don’t have to settle! You can go beyond trying to find yourself, a better life, career or business and actually do it. You can be satisfied by consciously creating your ideal life or something better!
Ever feel that you want to crawl into bed with the covers pulled over your head? Feelings arise when thoughts add interpretation to emotions… which lead to beliefs… which can create those yucky feelings like frustration, disappointment and suffering. Hey, it’s not just you. We’re all wired like this, and we can change it!
Eckhart Tolle said “the ego believes it is real and tries hard to maintain its supremacy.” He shares that negative states of mind, such as anger, resentment, fear, worry and envy are products of the ego. When it’s in control, these appear to be justified and usually another person is blamed for these feelings. The true cause of this skewed thinking is not found in your life but in the very structure of the egoic mind.
How Can You Tell If You’ve Been Invaded Like The Walking Dead?
Ask if what you believe is true. You’re right, they’re wrong. You have an emotional charge. You can’t shake negative feelings and mind chatter. Your filter believes you see clearly, but your vision is clouded by a finger pointing at inductees into your Villains’ Hall of Fame.
If you’re reading this, in this moment, your ego has taken a hike. Left to its own devices, this information does not compute.
Trekkie Talk
Data, an enlightened artificial intelligence life form, gets it as he talks with a primitive clone of himself in Star Trek Nemesis:
Data: You have been programmed to gather information that can be used against this ship.
Clone: I do not understand.
Data: I know.
And Data detached the clone from its power source.
When the ego’s program is running, there’s little understanding. It’s like seeing through a glass darkly as the person becomes a pawn to do the ego’s bidding. When YOU are in charge, you’ve got the bandwidth, clarity and energy to make your dreams real.
Liberation of Lunacy (LoL)
You can experience a tool I created called Liberation of Lunacy (LoL) to free yourself of doubt, limit, fear and lack through your power of choice, perspective and putting your Essence in charge. We’re all a little bit crazy when the ego takes charge. To help you break free of your ego’s lunacy, here’s how to start freeing yourself when the siren sings you’ve really got a hold on me.
You’re More Than Enough
Don’t fall for lies of limitation. The ego is a tool and will echo what you think and say. So, quit beating yourself up. Instead, shift your focus to you are more than enough. Actually, you’re awesome! Look for what’s good in you. You can do this. You’ll feel lighter making it easier to take action on what’s important to you.
I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or could use new tools or support.I help them connect with their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.
Original Soulgoals’ Post was on September 22, 2015
“Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.”
Eleanor Roosevelt, First Lady of the United States, 1933-1945
“I’m the man of the house (although he didn’t act like a responsible one, financially or otherwise), and you need to follow me and support me in everything I do.”
However, she wasn’t considered by him to be a good wife because she started to say “no.”
In the end, she lost her house that she bought before she married, lost her car, lost her savings, nearly lost her mind, plus the police showed up so often that they knew her by name – because when she disagreed, the beatings would begin.
For him, it was a personal affront that she wouldn’t agree with him. She told me, “I was brought up to be compliant with my husband. But he was an idiot, and the results proved it. He was misogynistic and would never take any advice – but instead would do the opposite.
“I was going in two different directions. How can you follow someone if they’re taking you to a dead end, and all the time you know that direction is wrong?
“Even a rat has enough sense to jump off a sinking ship. I had to leave the relationship. I had to save my life.”
Just because people you “should” believe say something, demand your obedience to follow, repeatedly lie to fit their own purpose but call it the truth, doesn’t make it true.
The good news. If it weren’t for him, she never would have the clarity she has now to speak her truth, especially in a male-dominated industry where she works.
Her ex trained her to no longer be a wimp and not value others’ reactions more than trusting herself.To stop being a people pleaser.
She knew better. But she allowed herself to be bullied by someone who was metaphorically blind and demanded unreasonable loyalty.
Eventually, she allowed herself to act on what she knew, what she had the courage to honestly see, and leave him.
Sounds crazy? You think you wouldn’t do something like that?
This is what belief systems can do. If a person believes something, even though the belief is false or doesn’t make sense or can be harmful, people often stick with it.
Her belief was she was to be compliant with her husband. See where that belief brought her?
What erroneous beliefs might you have? I know I erroneously believed my share. You can get past yours, too.
Previously posted on Soulgoals’ Blog on November 1, 2021
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“All unhappiness is caused by our trying to be limited, to be an ego. The more we are our Self, the happier we are. We will never be completely happy until we are completely being our Self.”
Lester Levenson
I’m writing this today because I’ve observed many people UNCONSCIOUSLY giving their power away. But they think their thinking is logical.
We give our power away when we allow others, the news, work, relationships, health, money, events, politics, etc. to upset or limit us or emotionally react in a negative way. In doing so, we deplete our energy – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
The ego is a false identity that we think is real. It’s the part of us that’s fearful, worries, complains, gets angry and more.
I created the Liberation of Lunacy technique to help people gain mastery over the tyranny of our minds… that which we think is real, but it’s not!
Here’s an excerpt:
Can you remember times when you felt afraid, stuck, taken advantage of, frustrated, judgmental, overwhelmed, resistant, critical, hard on yourself, worried, stressed, confused, addicted or powerless – you’ve done it all and nothing helps? These are moments you were manipulated by the ego.
Just like all your bites can come from one mosquito, all of your negative emotions come from one source – the ego.
Liberation of Lunacy (LoL) Technique
Examples about truly lovely, nice people:
A man felt uncomfortable complaining with me. He wanted to spend endless time analyzing his complaints or, if we looked at them from a more positive perspective, he’d change the subject. He resisted attempts to let go of his negativity and be free of the control his ego had on him. Even though his fears prompted him to make decisions that created financial losses, he continued to take actions based on his fears. But, despite evidence of how negativity literally doesn’t pay, he didn’t believe being positive and the Law of Attraction works – like attracts like.
A sweet woman got terribly upset while sharing an experience with me and told me to “F” off when she became increasingly, emotionally unhinged. She felt she wasn’t being heard, and what she raged about was blaming someone else, her fears, self-justified anger and negativity. She was completely closed off to hearing a more expansive perspective, which she translated to my not hearing her. Later when I communicated with her about it, her response showed that she whitewashed her memory and changed her story about what she previously shared at length. What happens is that in the moment the ego is in control, it can’t hear what doesn’t affirm it. Then it can attack.
A woman was distraught, crying and ranting, because she didn’t have a million dollar podcast contract like Joe Rogan. It was 10 AM on a Saturday, and it sounded like she’d been drinking. She really tried to get me to react and agree with her. I told her I wasn’t going to allow her to manipulate me emotionally the way she wanted. In response, she squealed in pain like an alien in the movies. She doesn’t even have a podcast or a blog.
Several others dished out excuses. Excuses that were based on limited thinking. We’d address one, and 30 minutes later another would appear. Address that, but actually there was another issue that popped up soon after. On and on. Some felt quite self-justified, too. As I believe in these people (I wouldn’t continue that conversation with just anyone), I showed another way at looking at their concerns. Some were able to connect the dots and see their own games or at least change their behavior and be proactive.
Some created a story about their (mis)interpretation of an experience or event, believed their own perception/ lies, then copped an attitude based on their limited perspectives. Of course, someone else is to blame. Drama ensues. The ego doesn’t like to be wrong.
Can you see why it’s lunacy? Have things like this happened to you? Have you done some variation of these to others? Probably.
That’s what occurs until we learn to break free of the ego’s control, replaced by emotional mastery and an observer or Soul perspective.
The ego tries to pull others into its illusions and can get upset when they won’t play their games…. especially if they won’t go along with them as they did in the past.
I write these stories so that you might see how the ego controls. Because your ego is the source of every time you limit yourself or feel limiting emotions. Also, you can see how others try to control you.
Fear not. You are more courageous than you may believe.
Peace is a Soul-sourced emotion, the real You, that’s more powerful than anger, blame, frustration, confusion, doubt, negative storytelling, excuses and more. When you find peace within, you’ll find answers to your most bothersome questions. You go beyond limited thinking about what’s possible to discovering freedom and infinite possibilities.
How? Start by recognizing the ego’s patterns. Take your power back. You don’t have to sell yourself out.
A definition of labor in Dictionary.com is “productive activity, especially for the sake of economic gain.”
As Americans celebrate Labor Day, here are quotes that offer a perspective about labor aside from hard work.
The Confucius’ quote shares a key to how you never have to work again.
With gratitude,
Virginia
The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.” Steve Jobs
Steve Jobs was an American entrepreneur and business magnate who was a pioneer of the microcomputer revolution of the 1970s and 1980s, along with Apple co-founder Steve Wozniak.
“A mind always employed is always happy. This is the true secret, the grand recipe, for felicity.” Thomas Jefferson
Thomas Jefferson was an American Founding Father who was the principal author of the Declaration of Independence and later served as the third president of the United States.
“Inspiration usually comes during work, rather than before it.” Madeleine L’Engle
Madeleine L’Engle was an American writer of young adult fiction, including A Wrinkle in Time and its sequels.
“A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life depend on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving.” Albert Einstein
Albert Einstein was the most influential physicist of the 20th century who developed the theory of relativity.
“My grandfather once told me that there were two kinds of people: those who do the work and those who take the credit. He told me to try to be in the first group; there was much less competition.” Indira Gandhi
Indira Gandhi was the only female Prime Minister of India, daughter of Jawaharlal Nehru, the first prime minister of India.
“A man is not paid for having a head and hands, but for using them.” Elbert Hubbard
Elbert Hubbard was an American writer, publisher, artist, and philosopher .
“The supreme accomplishment is to blur the line between work and play.” Arnold J. Toynbee
Arnold J. Toynbee was a British economic historian also noted for his social commitment and desire to improve the living conditions of the working classes.
“Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.” Confucius
Confucius was a Chinese teacher, editor, politician. The philosophy of Confucius, also known as Confucianism, emphasized personal and governmental morality, correctness of social relationships, justice and sincerity.
Originally posted on Soulgoals’ Blog September 6, 2021
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I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.
You don’t have to hit bottom before making changes. Instead, there’s a way to read the signs and know when it’s time to go in another direction.
These people were ready to go off the deep end and drown in a pool of their own outrage.
• A businesswoman got upset when she received information that stopped an important deal in its tracks. • Because her boss has it in for her, another woman wondered if she should leave her job. • Ready to begin his vacation, a man got angry when he discovered his property had been trashed.
However, when they noticed their emotions were getting the best of them, each stepped back, observed and course corrected by changing their attitudes.
What was the sign that alerted them to shift?
They didn’t feel good because they were angry. From this awareness, they knew they were on the wrong track and out-of-alignment with their inner GPS. When emotions are high, it clouds our ability to hear guidance accurately that comes from our Essence.
A clue that let’s you know if you’re going in the right direction is how you feel.
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What can you do if you’re not happy about something? Empower yourself by releasing the emotions and be open to take action on new options.
That can take some practice, and it’s an acquired skill.
Yet the faster you notice you’re not feeling good, before momentum runs away to the point of no return, the easier it is to redirect your focus to more productive perspectives and solutions.
By the way, that’s what each one in the above examples did.
Each discovered great resolutions to their issues. How? They made conscious choices not to let their emotions get the best of them. They paused, pivoted and headed in a new direction.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a new challenge or if you’re wondering how the heck your life got to this point; you can choose now to change direction.
Don’t feel bad and spin your wheels wondering why you’re on a particular track. Just make a decision to change.
No sense in beating yourself up, either, as it doesn’t help.
You’re definitely not alone in needing to change direction. It’s so common, we have lots of way of saying it.
• Get a fresh start • Begin a new chapter • Do-over • Turn this ship around • Turn a new leaf • Pivot • Course correct • Shift gears
The good news is that you’re alive so there’s time for a change, even if it’s just your attitude.
Are you going in the right direction?
Well, are you having fun yet?
Sometimes all it takes is changing the way you see things for the answers to make themselves known.
Edited Soulgoals’ Blog originally posted on August 15, 2017
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Have you ever felt dissatisfied and wished your life could be different? That’s inevitable because life is always calling us to advance.
“Every living thing must continually seek for the enlargement of its life, because life, in the mere act of living, must increase itself.”
The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles
Within every seed is a blueprint for growth on its journey from an atomic structure to maturity. Likewise, within you is planted your blueprint for increase — your success.
Curious about your blueprint of success?
Everyone’s idea of success is different.
For some, success is financial freedom to do whatever they want when they want. It could be to achieve a specific net worth in business or work.
For others, it’s a harmonious family, a companion or wonderful health.
After a life of being plagued by negative people or drama, the greatest success might not only be about enjoying physical things.
Success could include feeling peace and reveling in personal empowerment, to master one’s emotions and destiny, regardless of what’s happening in the world.
Your Soulgoals is an expression of your deepest, heartfelt desires. It’s unique to you, and it doesn’t matter if it fits anyone else’s image of success.
To birth success into reality, the first step is to gain clarity.
Take a few deep breaths and shift your focus to within.
Set an intention that ideas will come to you – now or later.
Ask what success means to you.
Be open to receive insights.
Write your answers because it’s more powerful than just thinking about them!
Let’s take this another step. What does Super Successful look like to you?
Once you allow yourself to see a bigger picture, here are other questions you can ask yourself:
What would it take for you to be Super Successful?
What’s holding you back?
What are steps you can take to be Super Successful?
Use your answers as a springboard to continue onto greater success, one step at a time.
Begin. The rest is easy.
“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, who coined the word mastermind – accessing the energy created when two or more gather in harmony.
Your future holds limitless possibilities. Success can be yours.
Why not? Why not you? You deserve it!
Have fun. Think big.
Original Soulgoals’ blog posted on September 27, 2017
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We’ve been wowed by dreams coming true for Olympian glory. Just ask David Boudia from Abilene, Texas, who won the gold for diving in 2012.
He interviewed with an Indianapolis Star reporter and shared insights about what “separates your cream of the crop Olympians to the ones who don’t make it as far.”
The difference, he said, is understanding and respecting fear.
Initially, anyone would be terrified of diving head first into the water, and Boudia was no exception as a kid.
“I worked hard mentally to approach it so I was able to control my thoughts a little better. To be able to understand how to visualize it and see it in my head.”
David Boudia, Olympian Gold Medalist
He drew stick figures to be able to see his success and overcome his fears.
Let’s consider one way that fear affects the brain.
The striatum is a part of the brain that works like muscle memory. It operates on autopilot – an emotional and mental default program that reacts the same way over and over again.
For example:
Do you have a tendency to respond repeatedly to situations with anger and frustration or by seeing the silver lining?
Is the glass half empty or half full?
Do you think what if things don’t work out or what if they do?
Is fear something to be avoided at all cost or befriended?
Your responses comprise some of your automatic programs.
According to Dr. Sanjay Gupta, athletes train their amygdala, the memory center of the brain, to make the connection of stress with success, and theydon’t even consider failure.
The amygdala is the integrative center for emotions, emotional behavior, and motivation.
To be richly compensated doing what you love involves creating a vortex of energy where you are a magnet of success.
Connecting the dots, when you’ve trained your brain and emotions for success, you can overcome fear and attract your ideal outcomes like an Olympian.
If you’d like help to create the success of your dreams, contact me for a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-free Session at: virginia@soulgoals.com
I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or could use new tools or support.
I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.
Originally posted on Soulgoals’ blog on August 16, 2016
In the first week of its release in 1988, only one person bought a copy from a local bookseller of the now classic The Alchemist by Brazilian writer Paulo Coelho. One more copy was bought from that same person six months later. After one year, his publisher cancelled Coelho’s contract.
He was 41 and desperate.
However, this living legend never lost faith in his dream or his book, in spite of ingrained beliefs of failure.
“We are told from childhood that everything we want to do is impossible. We grow up with this idea, and as the years accumulate, so too do the layers of prejudice, fear, and guilt. There comes a time when our personal calling is so deeply buried in our soul as to be invisible. But it’s still there.”
Paulo Coelho in introduction to The Alchemist
Despite defeats and his fears, he went from one publisher to the next, and his book was picked up by U.S. publisher HarperCollins.
After a time, President Bill Clinton was photographed with a copy. Julia Roberts commented about The Alchemist during an interview for Vanity Fair magazine. With acclaims from Rush Limbaugh to Will Smith, The Alchemist became a phenomena. The book hit a milestone by being on the New York Times bestseller list for over 300 weeks and is now an international bestseller translated into more than 80 languages.
“A man sets out on a journey, dreaming of a beautiful or magical place, in pursuit of an unknown treasure. At the end of his journey, he realizes the treasure was within him the entire time.”
Paulo Coelho in introduction to The Alchemist
Each year, hundreds of thousands walk the Camino through France, Spain or Portugal. I became enchanted with this quest in another of his international bestsellers The Pilgrimage, a novel that blends adventure with self-mastery.
Regardless if you choose to fulfill your heart’s desire or enjoy better health, a loving relationship, financial prosperity or happiness, may you be inspired to live your dream!
Enjoy these quotes by Paulo Coelho.
“It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.”
“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”
“Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.”
“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.”
“Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.”
“If you want to be successful, you must respect one rule – Never lie to yourself.”
“When I had nothing to lose, I had everything. When I stopped being who I am, I found myself.”
“There is one great truth on this planet: whoever you are, or whatever it is that you do, when you really want something, it’s because that desire originated in the soul of the universe. It’s your mission on earth.”
“One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.”
If you’d like help to create the success of your dreams, contact me for a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-free Session at: virginia@soulgoals.com
I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or could use new tools or support.
I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.
Original Soulgoals’ Blog was posted on August 18, 2018
It is possible for you to fulfill your dreams, do what lights you up or makes your heart sing… and be richly compensated for it.
For you, richly compensated may mean making money doing what you love or the compensation may come by enjoying better health or a happier home life.
“Your mind may not know what to do today, but your heart does. Follow your heart.”
Joe Vitale
Joe Vitale is a living example of making dreams come true. He went from being homeless to a multimillionaire doing what he loves. After releasing limiting beliefs, he now inspires countless people as an author, speaker and performer to do the same.
If you’re open to receive new ideas instead of insisting how you think things should be (but haven’t been working as well as you thought they would), you can discover ways of living your dreams while being richly compensated doing what you love.
Your inner Essence is guiding you every step of the way. It’s up to you to listen and follow its gentle nudges. If you choose to do this with grace and ease, you’ll find it will take you on a grand adventure.
Yes, you can make money doing what you love, and you can do it abundantly.
Enjoy what these four experts found below have to say about it.
With gratitude,
Virginia
“Do what you love and the money will follow.”
Marsha Sinetar
“There’s no sense in working at something you hate. If you are currently at a job you don’t like, find a way to enjoy it for the time you are there while working towards doing your passion. Following your passion is the greatest secret of all when it comes to attracting wealth.”
JOE VITALE
“Many of you shun the path of your greatest creativity, joy, and aliveness, thinking that you will not be able to make enough money from it. We want to help you believe that you can have an abundance of money doing what you love to do; we want you to recognize that you do not have to stay in jobs that do not serve you.”
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance by Sanaya Roman
“What we really want to do is what we are really meant to do. When we do what we are meant to do, money comes to us, doors open for us, we feel useful, and the work we do feels like play to us.“
Julia Cameron
If you’d like help to create a life or business you love, contact me for a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-free Session at: virginia@soulgoals.com
I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or could use new tools or support.
I help them be richly compensated by connecting with their Soul’s goals.
Originally posted on Soulgoals’ blog October 22, 2018
A client’s business was doing great when suddenly her success screeched to a halt with only one completed transaction in nearly six months!
Being someone who looks on the positive side, she regularly reported having several deals that were pending or appeared to be sure bets. However, it turned out that each one fell apart for one reason or another.
To top it off, she gave several, well-received marketing presentations that were supposed to bring referrals but didn’t work out.
While talking about it during a 1:1 session, she connected the dots.
Her momentum stopped the same month she became the leader of a church group that helps the homeless.
In addition to their poverty thinking, she noticed that the conversation of her volunteer group always drifted into drama about their own lives.
Add to this a new boss who complains a lot, motivating my client to schedule appointments so she and her manager are together in the office as little as possible.
At the end of her session, she realized she had to take better care of her energy.
Three days later, she shared the following. Instead of driving with others to do their charitable work, and thinking about butterflies and rainbows to tune out their whining, she took care of herself by driving her own car.
She said, “We have to guard our energy as if our life depends on it, because it does.”
The following day, only four days after her aha moments and after months of setbacks, I received her enthusiastic voicemail.
“I want to let you know it has been a fantastic, fantastic day.”
“I met a client last night after we got off our call. He submitted all his documentation immediately, and he’s ready for approval.”
Another client of hers had a significant issue that miraculously got resolved, so his deal is moving along.
Another woman’s deal is now in the process of closing, too.
Plus, she received a call to present to 35 professionals in her target market.
She ignited her momentum by releasing other people’s negative energy and being more attentive to taking care of her own.
“Get rich; that is the best way you can help the poor. And you cannot hold the mental image which is to make you rich if you fill your mind with pictures of poverty.”
Wallace D. Wattles, The Science of Getting Rich
Poverty can come in many forms, such as money, spirit, focus, associations, confidence and beliefs.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t associate with people who are experiencing challenges. However, be aware if you are vibrationally aligning with their condition instead of allowing them to shift into one that’s more beneficial.
Pay attention to the energy others are weaving in your life. How can you take better care of your energy? What unseen energy of others might be taking a toll on you and your finances?
Wondering what to do about it? Ask your Essence. It has your “soulution.”
With gratitude,
Virginia
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Tired of riding on a money yo-yo or being the effect of others’ energies?
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I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.
Last week, I received a message on my contact form from a man named Jeremi.
“Hi Virginia, I have spinal stenosis and was reading your blog. Would love for someone to share their experience with healing. Hope to hear from you soon.”
Although important to him, he left no contact information.
I know from personal experience how painful stenosis is; every time I turned my neck, I pinched nerves. Doctors told me the only remedy is surgery.
Then a YouTube video showed up (and I wasn’t even looking for this),
In less than nine months and less than $40, my symptoms were completely gone. Over four years later, and without continuing the treatment, I have zero indication of stenosis.
It occurred to me that others might benefit from this alternative. Maybe it wasn’t a mistake that Jeremi didn’t include his contact information.
So Jeremi, if you’re reading this, know that the inspiration for this blog is because of you. May it help you and others, too.
There are often natural solutions to health beyond what the medical profession proclaims. Perhaps you’ll find them through research. Perhaps with a heartfelt intention to find answers, a way opens up to get results beyond your wildest expectations.
Have you ever wondered why you don’t have more money? Actually, you could ask the same question about love, health, happiness or anything.
Maybe you realized there’s something you can do to change this… but how? Why are you blocked?
Before going any further, set an intention that by reading the words of the teachers found below, you’ll discover insights to unravel your mystery.
Awareness is the first step. Then, it’s up to you to find the next steps of how to let go of what no longer serves you.
As Jim Rohn said,
“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find excuses.”
Often, it helps to have expert support to gain clarity and release old patterns. If you’re tired of going in circles on your hamster wheel of limitation, I invite you to experience a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-Free Session.
Furthermore, consider this quote by Joe Vitale of The Secret:
“Be around people who can keep your energy and inspiration high. While you can make progress alone, it’s so much easier when you have support.”
To find out how you can receive support in a free session, contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com
With gratitude,
Virginia
ABRAHAM-HICKS
“Most people have put anything that earns money in the category of the things that I HAVE to do. And that is why the money often comes so hard.”
MY NOTE: Break the habit of saying that you “want” something or you “have to” have or have to do something. Instead, substitute the word “choose.” By doing this, you tap into a higher and more empowered energy within you to attract more money or achieve any goal.
Test the difference now by using these words. Think of something you desire. Put it in a sentence by using a variety of words, found in the example below.
I want more money. (This is pretty weak and generic. Not a strong statement.)
I gotta have more money. (Sounds a bit desperate with underlying energy to match.)
I have to have more money. (Feels like you could add “or else all is lost” – desperate again.)
I choose to have more money. (Can you feel how this is more empowering?)
Create a new habit of stopping yourself, even mid-sentence, of speaking words in a conscious way. By doing this you’re reprogramming your brain.
When you tune into this energy more and more, you’ll naturally stop your language of limitation and replace it with those that manifest results. Be vigilant with your words because they reflect your thoughts and feelings and thereby create your reality. Wonder why you don’t quite get what you want sometimes? Learn how to recognize and change the words you speak.
JOE VITALE
“What can you do right now to begin to turn your life around? The very first thing is to start making a list of the things you are grateful for.”
“Leave your excuses behind, and you will begin to attract wealth.”
“Remember that: Money will always match your mindset.”
“Your part in the co-creation process to attract more money in your life is to act on the ideas that are coming to you.”
SANAYA ROMAN
“If you are in a calm or flat state, where money is coming in and going out in equal amounts or there isn’t any movement, look at where your own energy might not be moving. You want both money and your personal energy to flow. By unblocking your energy, you can create more money in your life. Blocks in money can be caused by places where your energy isn’t flowing, such as in your physical body, your emotions, or your relationships with other people… Observe your life for a while and ask your higher self to show you where your energy needs to flow more… When you observe an area that feels blocked you can ask, ‘What specific action can I take to create more flow in this area?’” It need not be a major act; it can be simple… One area in which you are not happy with may affect every other area of your life.”
Creating Money, Keys to Abundance
JULIA CAMERON
“So much of our mythology around money centers on the illusion that if we had ‘more,’ we would be more comfortable and more able to access our creativity. But creativity and prosperity are spiritual matters, not fiscal ones.“
JIM ROHN
“Money is usually attracted, not pursued.”
“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find excuses.”
Ready for more? Contact me for a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-Free Session at: virginia@soulgoals.com
I work with people who choose to enhance their lives or business but don’t know how, feel stuck or could use new tools or support… by connecting with their Soul’s goals.
Seeing yourself succeeding is a way to get your ducks in a row.
Once I talked with a man who said he submitted 50 job applications, but he didn’t get any job offers.
When I asked if he saw himself getting a job from his efforts, he said no. At the time of submissions, he told himself he didn’t think he’d get a job.
If you think you don’t have time to set intentions for success because you’re too busy, observe your results.
Society teaches that action brings results. It doesn’t.
Inspired action does.
Your thoughts and feelings create energy, and your energy creates failure or success.
First, align your energy for success, then take action.
Not enough time or money?
Feeling happy or frustrated, discouraged, stressed or disappointed?
Start by giving yourself permission to be kind to yourself and to feel good.
See things working out. Anticipate and feel that you’ll succeed.
Gain perspective.
You may benefit from taking a vacation from the way you usually see things.
Be open and willing to receive what you choose or something better!
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog July 12, 2016
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While living in Washington, D.C., I’d park my car, run up 58 steps and be in awe at the towering and erect presence of one of the great men who founded the United States of America. Thomas Jefferson also served as our third President from 1801 to 1809.
I sometimes visited the Jefferson Memorial late at night when I could be alone in this hallowed sanctum. It was possible to do because it’s open around the clock.
Standing amidst the white marble steps and building, my eyes would gaze at the 129′ bronze statue as well as excerpts of the Declaration of Independence, whose principal author was Jefferson.
However, the reason I kept returning was to slowly turn in a circle to read the inscription under the dome:
“I have sworn upon the altar of God eternal hostility against every form of tyranny over the mind of man.” Thomas Jefferson to Dr. Benjamin Rush, September 23, 1800.
I didn’t realize at the time how these words, which still bring tears to my eyes, would be emblazoned within me. They inspired my lifetime passion, “upon the altar of God,” to help others and myself live in freedom through liberation of the “tyranny over the mind of man.”
The definition of tyranny includes the oppression, often cruel, of people or a government over others. Another aspect is an unreasonable or arbitrary use of power or control.
For me, there’s a twist to this. It reminds me of a quote by American Navy Commodore Oliver Hazard Perry in 1813. Most famously, it was quipped by cartoonist Walt Kelly on a couple of Earth Day posters when Pogo said:
The voice in your head, motivated by an insecure ego, can be your enemy and create the greatest form of tyranny.
These inner rants can be cruel, unreasonable, oppressive and arbitrary. If you allow this to dominate, you relinquish control of your life.
Know that you have thepower of choice!
You can choose to listen to your inner guidance, your Essence, instead.
Especially those familiar with my teachings about “choosing,” you might be interested in this. When I was thirty years old, I had the first sentence of the following quote by Jefferson on a wall plate of a light switch:
“Freedom is the right to choose: the right to create for oneself the alternatives of choice. Without the possibility of choice, and the exercise of choice, a man is not a man but a member, an instrument, a thing.”
Pondering this message regularly, I knew there was more to it than I could understand at the time. I’m now aware of this:
We are free to choose. We are so free, we can choose fear or freedom.
We choose our thoughts, which impact our emotions, which create our lives. What hinders our freedom is allowing our minds to be tyrannized by any limiting beliefs. From anyone. From any circumstance or condition. From the tyrannical inner voice.
A client showed me a picture of a tow truck driver who quickly and skillfully used multiple cables to turn upright a parked truck that had been hit by a car and had completely flipped over.
The driver was very good-natured, and his demeanor radiated a cheerful attitude and peace.
Both of his arms stopped below his elbows.
He had a prosthetic leg, too.
He is a living demonstration of choosing his attitude and outlook on life. He wasn’t tyrannized by his physical condition and whatever caused it.
We in America celebrate our country’s birthday on the Fourth of July, our Independence Day. It’s a time of freedom.
While talking with others about a life-changing break for freedom from a highly abusive relationship I made during the week of July 4th when I was 20, others shared their stories of freedom that happened around this time, too.
Soon, the French will celebrate their day of freedom on July 14, Bastille Day.
Tyranny or freedom?
You can choose to hold in your mind’s eye the freedom and intentions that our forefathers envisioned while founding the United States.
What freedom and independence do you choose for you?
Start with freeing yourself from the tyranny of your mind, where nothing and nobody can touch you.
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A woman, accompanied by a supermarket employee, apologized when she bumped into me. As she frantically swooshed by me again moments later, she turned her head to tell me that she was looking for her keys. I responded: “Say ‘God knows, and God shows.’” She saw her keys within seconds next to a weight scale!
A relative misplaced a big check with several zeroes on it for a couple of weeks. When she called me about it, I told her to repeat God knows, and God shows. Within two hours, I received a message that she found it on top of a dresser drawer.
By the way, you can use language like “the universe knows, and the universe shows,” if this feels more comfortable for you.
“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” Albert Einstein
Why saying God knows, and God shows works.
Using a practical application of Einstein’s quote, if your thinking is on loss or what you can’t find, then it’s not on the wavelength of finding. It’s like being on an AM station and looking for FM. You can’t find it because looking and finding are different frequencies.
God knows, and God shows is a tool to let go and surrender. It allows you to let go of focusing on lack (what you don’t have or can’t find), and open to receive a higher energy to “solve our problems.” Think of it as surrendering a caterpillar’s perspective so you can enjoy a butterfly’s view.
You release the need to find something, which often comes with energies such as anxiety attached to it. As like attracts like, neediness attracts more reasons to feel fearful or frustrated. (Oh no, what if I can’t find it? The what ifs are fear-based traps to keep you wanting but not having.)
Even though it seems that it shouldn’t be this way, you’ll get more of whatever you’re feeling, not what you say you want.
God knows, and God shows allows a greater power to refocus you and override limiting beliefs, such as “I don’t know where it is“ or “I can’t find it.”
Don’t take my word for it. Experiment. Use these words while being open to the possibility of getting results instead of being closed with a stubborn defiance of “prove it.”
Let’s expand the application to money, jobs, business and life.
Looking for new business, your ideal job or to make more money? Don’t know where to find it? God knows, and God shows. RELAX. You are now on the wavelength to attract new clients, greater wealth and more opportunities.
Feel stuck about anything? Feel like you’re losing your mind? Instead of wallowing in disappointment or any less than positive emotion, you’ll get on track faster in all areas of your life by proclaiming, “God knows, and God shows.”
Follow the trail to the pot of gold at the end of your rainbow, one step at a time.
Happy manifesting.
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I help them be richly compensateddoing what they love by connectingwith their Soul’s goals.
Your thoughts are powerful! That means if you look around at your life and either like or don’t like what you see, know that you can change it by changing the way you think.
Need inspiration to even consider something that may seem impossible? And why should you go to the bother of changing your thinking because you’re not sure if it will make a difference anyway?
Listen up. You 100% have the ability to look at things differently, change your perspective and therefore think differently about what’s going on in your life.
When you change how you think about things, your feelings about stuff will change, and you’ll act differently. You’ll take different actions. As a result, your experiences and outcomes will change.
It’s way better than suffering unnecessarily, feeling like you’re a victim, enduring constant pain, being cowered by fear, anger or worry, and any other miserable emotion you may feel you’re stuck with and can’t help.
How can you empower yourself and change your everyday life and future?
Consider these quotes from James Allen’s classic book As a Man Thinketh to inspire you to improve YOUR world. Italics are mine.
“All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts.”
“As he thinks, so he is; as he continues to think, so he remains.”
“A person is limited only by the thoughts that he chooses.”
“Let a man radically alter his thoughts, and he will be astonished at the rapid transformation it will effect in the material conditions of his life.”
“Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.”
“As a man thinketh in his heart, so shall he be.”
“Thoughts of doubt and fear never accomplished anything, and never can. They always lead to failure.”
“Suffering is always the effect of wrong thought in some direction. It is an indication that the individual is out of harmony with himself, with the Law of his being.”
Following are more great quotes, especially for those who’ve ever been chastised for daydreaming by others who perhaps didn’t realize how all great ideas and manifestations start with a dreamer.
Everyone else follows in the shadow of someone’s dream or gets paid by people who had a vision and used their imagination to turn their dreams to reality.
Dream on. Create the life you choose.
“The greatest achievement was at first and for a time a dream. The oak sleeps in the acorn; the bird waits in the egg; and in the highest vision of the soul a waking angel stirs. Dreams are the seedlings of realities.”
“The dreamers are the saviors of the world. As the visible world is sustained by the invisible, so men, through all their trials and sins and sordid vocations, are nourished by the beautiful visions of their solitary dreamers. Humanity cannot forget its dreamers; it cannot let their ideals fade and die; it lives in them; it knows them as the realities which it shall one day see and know. Composer, sculptor, painter, poet, prophet, sage, these are the makers of the after-world, the architects of heaven. The world is beautiful because they have lived; without them, laboring humanity would perish.He who cherishes a beautiful vision, a lofty ideal in his heart, will one day realize it. Columbus cherished a vision of another world, and he discovered it; Copernicus fostered the vision of a multiplicity of worlds and a wider universe, and he revealed it; Buddha beheld the vision of a spiritual world of stainless beauty and perfect peace, and he entered into it.”
Curious how you can turn your dreams to reality?Contact me to learn if a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-free Session would help you.
I work with peoplewho choose to enhance their lives or share their giftsor business in a BIGGER waybut don’t know how, feel stuckor would benefit from new toolsor support.
I help them be richly compensateddoing what they love by connectingwith their Soul’s goals.
If you choose to get in shape, what’s that voice in your head telling you when you look in the mirror? Which do you think will help you attain your hot body faster?
Beating yourself up for the %@#! you see in the mirror?
OR
Approving of yourself just the way you are while envisioning your ideal body and taking action?
We’ve been trained to worry and be hard on ourselves with the erroneous belief that it will whip us into shape. Instead, that critical voice will either hold us back or make us unhappy..
You have the ability to change how you see yourself. By doing so, you set your success ceiling.
All your negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs come from the ego – a false identity everyone has. The ego is very wily and knows exactly how to trick you into believing lack, limit, anxiety, fear and you’re not good enough.
You know if your ego is running your life when you’re not getting the results you choose.
Your energy creates. Your feelings create. The conversations in your head create.
Want more success? Shift your energy. Change your concept of yourself.
Any negative way you talk to yourself, any depressing feelings, that critical voice in your head, all come from your ego.
Your ego acts as if it’s being rational when it tells you negative things. It says its being realistic and just telling you the way it really is. It advises you to be afraid, very afraid, and to worry.
Just because you’re thinking something doesn’t make it true!
Your ego lies.
Your TIP is to rewrite a negative story you tell yourself.
There’s a perspective to make you the hero of your story. Not an egotistical one. But one that feels like, when you’re living it, you’re satisfied and grateful.
Find it. It’s there!
By doing so, you put your core Essence, your Soul, in the driver’s seat of your life and business. Results? Whatever YOU choose!
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ blog posted on July 25, 2016
I work with peoplewho choose to share their giftsor business in a BIGGER waybut don’t know how, feel stuckor would benefit from new toolsor support.
I help them be richly compensateddoing what they love by connectingwith their Soul’s goals.
How can you stop that critic in your head?
Contact me for information about a complimentary Soulgoals’ Break-free Session.
May you enjoy this excerpt from my Soulgoal Missive that I wrote in July 2008, which includes a first date that happened years earlier. Reading it was a good reminder to me about the value of change and how we can resist it. Do you need a whack to your thinking?
After two years of flying solo following my marital separation, somebody asked me out on a date. I could pick any restaurant I wanted – so off we went to a salsa club to dine and take my second dance lesson.
As our discussion progressed during dinner, the topic of relationships arose. Remember, this was my first foray into the dating arena in many a year.
“No, I didn’t notice the tan line on your ring-free, left hand finger signifying you wear a wedding ring and you’re married,” I said to the “gentleman.”
Did I let this throw me? I made a choice to course correct. I was not willing to let this bozo mar the memory of my first date.
I remained undaunted and had a great night with excellent conversation. Turned out he was a lucid and prophetic dreamer with juicy peeks into the aeries of the dream world.
The next and final time we met, I gave him a book on spiritual dreaming and the number of a therapist.
I could handle change like this, but why did I buck at smaller things?
I picked up a message at 11 PM from my hairdresser, the night before my 10 AM appointment, which informed me she moved.
My monkey mind whined. Instead of her being 45 minutes away, she would be an hour away. Wrong. Travel time was only 35 minutes – and the new place was definitely nicer. Why did she move locations? She needed a change.
Then there was the lawn sprinkler. Not having an automated system necessitated moving the sprinkler several times. A friend bought and installed timers. I graciously accepted them but said to myself, “This is a waste; I have to be outdoors to move them around anyway.” Wrong. They are wonderful.
I changed the way I do things. Now I water automatically and forget about it. Later when I have the time, I water the rest.
If you want something you never have had, you have to be willing to do something you never have done.
We want our lives to be different, but we want things to remain the same. We want others to change so we don’t have to.
We often evaluate our options logically and make a decision based on the best knowledge our minds have to offer. But our thinking is so limited compared to the world of possibilities.
“Discovery consists of looking at the same things as everyone else and thinking something different… Those ideas or situations that cause you to get off your routine paths and ‘think something different’ are whacks to your thinking.”
Roger von Oech A Whack on the Side of the Head – How You Can Be More Creative
CHANGE is hard when we say we want it, but we don’t want to change ourselves.
We have to make changes to allow our heart’s desires to enter our lives.If we do not respond to the gentle nudges that always precede a change, the two by four whack eventually will bonk us.
Your challenge, should you choose to accept it, is to identify where you have been resisting change in your life and look at it from another viewpoint. Take a chance; make a change in your approach.
With a zest for Life, Virginia
Success Thought
“Life moves on, whether we act as cowards or heroes. Life has no other discipline to impose, if we would but realize it, than to accept life unquestioningly. Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate or despise, serves to defeat us in the end. What seems nasty, painful, evil, can become a source of beauty, joy and strength, if faced with an open mind. Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognize it as such.”
Henry Miller
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“All we have of freedom, all we use or know – This our fathers bought for us long and long ago.”
Rudyard Kipling, The Old Issue, 1899
While you enjoy the liberty to do whatever you choose today – be with friends and family, catch up on your to do list, have fun, work, kick back and do nothing – there are those who risked their lives so we can enjoy these freedoms.
Memorial Day is a time to recognize what others have given in service for us to live in democracy in the U.S.A. Although imperfect at times (well, lots of times), we are on a quest to create what the Preamble to the Constitution calls “a more perfect union.”
The Preamble is a short, introductory statement of the Constitution’s fundamental purposes and guiding principles.
It posits what the Founding Fathers’ intentions were regarding the Constitution’s meaning and what they hoped it would achieve:
We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defence, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.
The Preamble to the Constitution of the United States.
Each year on Memorial Day, a national moment of remembrance takes place at 3 PM local time.
As you go about your life, will you take a moment to give a sacred nod of appreciation to those who cared enough about us and this ideal of democracy to serve their country?
A moving tribute to those who made the ultimate sacrifice is “Hymn to the Fallen” by John Williams.
“In honor of the soldiers who give us the freedoms we have today.”
My mother, who passed in 1988, used what I call mantras – words she repeated so many times that I still know them verbatim.
Because of regular reiteration, I believed and didn’t question some of them. It was like repetition used to learn arithmetic tables, but these were impressed on me with far more feeling.
“When I was young, I used to be happy-go-lucky. Then I met your father.”
Because they argued intensely, she started her day with this mantra: “I wonder what that S.O.B. is going to do to make my life miserable today.” (Note – she didn’t use initials.)
She had no idea that her daily proclamations and choice of emotions were what made her life miserable, not anything my father did or didn’t do.
She thought her suffering was my father’s fault, and I accepted it as true, too. I didn’t have an attitude about him. I liked and loved him. At the same time, I saw her perspective and believed her woeful declarations.
Then around 2002, I was talking to one my teachers about how I felt sorry for them. He knew my parents and replied,
“Your mother wanted your father to change so she wouldn’t have to change.”
What?!!??
This was a throw-a-bucket-of-ice-cold-water-in-my-face moment.
It was his fault. That was a given. Never questioned it. She lived a miserable life because of him.
Here’s the kicker.
As long as she complained about and blamed him, she didn’t have to take responsibility for her own emotions and actions. It was his fault. She was the victim. Pointing her finger at what she decided were his failings absolved her of cleaning up her attitudes, feelings and thoughts.
In a flash, I realized the blaming wasn’t true. She could’ve been happy if she stopped giving him power over the way she felt.
In a shocking moment, for the first time, I stopped feeling sorry for them.
I realized that my pity (vs. compassion) was condescending and disrespectful of their choices. They decided how to interact with each other. They had complete control over the way they felt. If they chose to argue as a way of life, and if she chose to feel miserable, those were their decisions.
As emotions create reality, she created a “living hell” for herself where she felt “like a prisoner in my own home.” Her life was a self-fulfilled prophecy.
Think about the implications in your life. Who are you blaming for what doesn’t work and how you feel?
Do you want others to behave the way you think they should so you can feel good? In other words, do you want others or situations to change so you can feel better? Or will you decide to feel better anyway?
As you create your future by how you feel,do you allow others to affect how you feel by reacting to strangers who drive weird, crazy acting people, politicians or past hurts?
Are you blaming yourself? Or will you take command of your own energy because, if you don’t, you block your dreams coming true? Guilt, regrets, bemoaning your past, blaming yourself and others are false narratives… and an insult to your divine nature. Everyone’s learning. It’s okay.
What mantras run through your head? I can’t afford it. There’s never enough. What if I run out of money or time? Nothing I do ever works out. My life would be so much better if only…
Even if they’re “wrong,” you still can choose your attitude and how you respond. As like attracts like, how you feel shapes your future.
What does this have to do with your life, business or work?
Your feelings and thoughts magnetize your experience, so don’t hand the keys of your emotions to others and “if only” things would be different. Don’t give your power away.
Allowing others to affect how you feel relinquishes the keys to your kingdom – or queendom – of success, happiness and ability to enjoy personal, financial and emotional freedom.
By the way, blame is one of ego’s greatest tools; no matter where it’s directed, it holds you back.
Youchoose how you react and feel.
Your now and future depend on it.
“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.
Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce.
Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience.
No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change”
Thích Nhất Hạnh
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ post of March 13, 2017.
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