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Who Do You Believe More – You or Others? 

November 13, 2017

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Recently while flying, I sat next to a woman who was miserable and distraught because she needed to change, but she didn’t know how or what to do. 

A junk business was dumped on her that she had no interest in but had to run for the last five years. She wanted out of a long-term, unhappy marriage where most of their time was spent fighting. Before our conversation, she had zero clarity of direction and no idea at all what to do for income if she left. Plus, they had so much debt that she felt trapped with few options available.

It soon became obvious how she cornered herself. She had a multitude of flawed beliefs that she clung to and wasn’t open to seeing other perspectives… even though these ideas were holding her back!

She was adamant that she couldn’t believe in herself because she, like all people, are transgressors, and her head was filled with negative self-talk.

I asked her if she couldn’t believe in herself, how would she be able to trust what God wanted her to do? She was the one who was listening and watching for a sign, and she proclaimed herself to be untrustworthy.

She lived in fear, unhappiness, frustration, confusion and hopelessness. Her hamster-wheel thinking lacked clarity, and her life mirrored her misguided notions.

Society grooms us not to trust or believe in ourselves. Instead, we’ve been trained in self-doubt and to believe we’re wrong.

We’ve been taught to elevate the opinion of others and feel helpless compared to the power of spiritual forces, experts, leaders, books, spouses, family, friends, bosses, teachers, doctors, world events and even TV commercials.

However, if we don’t learn to trust and believe in ourselves, we’ll be at the mercy of the whims and, very often, limited ideas of others.



If you think there’s something wrong with you, you’ll attract experiences to validate that your beliefs are true.

If you shift your perspective to see yourself as a divine child of God or the holy spirit, or a child of an unlimited universe, you open yourself to receive greater abundance, success, love, happiness and health. 

97% of human bodies are made of stardust, and an analysis of over 150,000 stars in our Milky Way galaxy proved this is literally true.

The Crosby, Stills & Nash song was right: “We are stardust, we are golden. We are billion year old carbon.”

So stop making yourself small. Your heritage is divinely celestial! 

If you don’t believe in you, why should anyone else?

If you don’t believe in you, how will you be able to tune in to your inner guidance, the sweet whispers of direction from within? How will you be able to distinguish it from the nagging voice in your head of fear, worry, doubt and self-belittlement?

If you’re waiting for others, many who live by flawed beliefs, to recognize your worth, you may be better served by going within to recognize your value.

If others don’t believe in themselves, they aren’t capable of fully believing in you.


Be vigilant about how you picture yourself.

Do you see yourself as not good enough? Can you see how your life would change if you believed you have access to infinite possibilities, even if you don’t have a clue as to how to manifest them?

Right now, breathe and take a moment for yourself. Breathe and go beyond the chatter of others and your thoughts.

The more you practice this, the more you’ll discover your self-worth and that you are deeply loved.

When you tap into this essence of you, you’ll feel good about yourself.

When you feel good about yourself, you open to receive abundance and success as you go beyond lack– lack of love, money, time, health, business, fun, acceptance, respect and happiness.

And you believe in you!

This is why I created the Liberation of Lunacy (LoL technique), because when the ego is in charge, and limiting beliefs only come from the ego, we’re all a little bit crazy.

When your ego is in charge, you can’t see a way out.

When your essence is in charge, you tap into an infinite source within. You trust and believe in yourself.

You’re golden.

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I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

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Hurricane Irma & Know You Are A Force of Nature, Too

September 11, 2017

Bastrop County Complex Fire

Aerial view of the Bastrop County Complex Fire —
Doesn’t it look like a claw of a beast with sharp nails?

Friend,

The day before Hurricane Irma arrived in Florida, I had a long talk with a friend who was on its projected path but decided to ride it out.

I shared with her empowering stories, found below, of people who were in the eye of hurricanes or surrounded by fire and created a different experience than others.

Irma thrashed her city with very intense wind and rain for 28 hours. However, the eye of Irma’s original path shifted to the west of her, the tornadoes were north, and she was in an area with the lowest amount of anticipated storm surge than anywhere on either coast.

She texted me to say she got through it unscathed with the exception of losing two palm trees and power.

As everyone in Florida felt Irma’s force and destruction, please take a moment now to send your positive energy, blessings and prayers.

The South of the U.S. has had its share of natural disasters with hurricanes and fire.

There were Hurricanes Katrina, Ike and Rita, amongst many others.

On September 4, 2011, three separate fires ignited as a result of powerful winds from Tropical Storm Lee. These individual fires joined forces to create one massive blaze in September and October 2011.

The Bastrop County Complex fire, located in Central Texas about 45 minutes east of Austin, became the most destructive wildfire in Texas history.

Especially with hurricane and fires careening across America, here’s a reprint of a Soulgoals’ blog post that show how some people helped to protect themselves from disaster.

With gratitude, Virginia

 

September 26, 2011 —  Reposting from Soulgoals’ Blog:

If disasters scare you or you’re inspired by people making empowered choices, then read these astounding stories. Learning from them may, one day, save you from harm.

You, too, can overcome ANY challenge in your life.

You Are a Force of Nature

A friend who survived Hurricanes Rita and Katrina told me:

“Recognize you are a vortex of power and have as much energy to create in your life as a tornado or hurricane. You are a force of nature. Don’t put yourself as a lesser being that can be jostled about.

“Where I’m living and standing is sacred and remains that way. If there are earth changes taking place, that’s one thing. But my choices of what I experience are different.”

Instead of fear she chose:

  • Safety for her family and their property
  • To feel calm and peaceful (the opposite of a raging hurricane) instead of fearful
  • To ask for divine protection and trust it.

Results: The only damage she incurred from being in the eye of Hurricane Katrina was that part of a gutter was knocked down. While devastation rained on the community and most roofs needed repair, including a nearby house that was split in two by a fallen tree, my friend’s and her neighbors’ homes were safe. Trees fell but missed their houses and vehicles. A shingle flew off and broke someone’s window pane without breaking the window.

How Can This Happen? All Life Is Energy.


Energy reacts to energy. Hurricanes react to swirling emotions. Raging and confused fires react to rage and confusion. Both also react to thoughts of peace, calm and love. 


My friend’s experience isn’t an isolated incident.

  • She had two other properties that remained untouched, including a dock where everyone’s shingles blew off their roofs but hers.
  • A friend told me about a little girl in Houston who hugged her favorite tree and told it to be safe before Hurricane Ike struck. That tree was the only one in the yard that survived.
  • I was at a restaurant with friends when they learned that fires broke out next to their home. We all remained calm, ordered and ate dinner as we asked for divine intervention and focused on prayers of protection. They received phone updates that the fire burned over a mile of trees including their next door neighbor’s home, but it stopped at the edge of their property only scorching some tree branches and grass.

How One Woman Avoided the Raging Texas Wildfires

I received a request to send positive energy to Sheera Rexroad, a phenomenal body worker I’ve used for many years, and her farm near Bastrop, TX, where over 1300 homes were destroyed.  Later, I received the results of her focused intention and trust in a force far greater than the fires.

Most people would go into fear and survival and hope things would work out while being filled with terror and doubt. Sheera made different decisions with miraculous results.

Fascinated with Sheera’s story, I’ve communicated with her through several phone conversations and emails. I’ve chronicled her experience, and now you can read it in her own words:

I saw the fire’s magnitude and told my brother we had to pray for protection. 

Smoke filled the not too distant area.  I called a neighbor who answered and, over the roar of his bulldozer cutting firebreaks, he told us these fires were bad and to warn all of our neighbors to pack and prepare.

At that moment, I knew that informing others and seeing to the safety of livestock were more important than immediately going home to pack. I called people with positive strength and awareness asking for their help.

I asked that they join me in visualizing the bubble of protection, the impenetrable force field, that the property, houses and animals of One Girl Farm and Ranch de Kris are safe. That I was not being selfish, that we needed a safe and secure base to serve from.  That we had much to do to help humanity.

We stopped and shared the message along our road and called the rest of the neighbors.

My only fear was that I might pick the wrong stuff to take with me or I’d take too long and wouldn’t make it to my brother.

I told the cows to have no fear – that if we have fear, they win. Others have fear; don’t give in to their fears. Their fears are not ours.

The Ravenous, Hungry Fire-Beast

We could clearly see the massive flames in front of us to the west.  They were large, like the flames of an oil derrick when it blows.

Torches of orange were leaping into the early evening sky already heavy with smoke.  White smoke, yellow smoke, black smoke.

The sirens of fire engines, sheriff and emergency vehicles competed with the blasting walkie-talkies, the moos of cattle and the roar of bulldozers ripping at the earth.  My senses were full. My heart was full as well.

I knew, I just knew that my immediate world was safe and secure.

Once we were off of the land and on ‘safely higher ground’ I was able to access my vision of the fire. This is what I saw:

This fire is a ravenous, hungry beast with a huge desire to indiscriminately consume mass amounts.  It raced thru the countryside gobbling up all in its path. It charged at the north boundary fence of One Girl Farm. The hot-flamed tongue of the fire-beast attempted to chomp thru the fence – it stopped. It shook its mouth and spat out what it thought it had desired like a toddler that bites something yucky.

The NO BURN ZONE that we were holding solid with our requests, our prayers, our positive thoughts did not taste good.

In Part 2, you’ll find out what happened to the fire as it traveled along her western fence, what she said to create the NO BURN ZONE and the power of group thought and prayer.

Click here to read her fascinating story: https://soulgoals.wordpress.com/2011/10/

By the way, know someone who might like to read this? Please forward.

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.  

 

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My Personal Experience During a Flood plus a Labor Day of Love with Hurricane Harvey 

September 4, 2017

Hurricane Harvery dog rescue (2)

A little over two years ago, a friend and I enjoyed dinner in a nearby town and casually talked after in the parking lot.

The weather had been unusually beautiful for weeks, and living in a safe community, I even left the back door open to my screened back porch when I was gone.

On my way home that night, the unexpected happened. I turned the corner onto Ranch Road 12 in San Marcos, Texas, and in an instant started driving through forty minutes of treacherous, torrential rain, the likes I had never seen.

I knew if I stopped, the low-water crossings would be flooded, and I might not be able to get back home.

Focus. Focus. Breathe. Relax. Pull over when driving got ridiculously so bad that I couldn’t see a thing. But I couldn’t pause for long; another car might hit me if blinded by rain while on that hilly, winding, country road.

I tapped into the energy of my client John, who likes storm chasing, so I would stop white knuckling the steering wheel.

Arriving home safely, I later learned that neighbors pitched in during the middle of the storm to create a protective barricade. A deluge of water surged from across the street attempting to enter a home two houses away from mine.

The next morning, I awoke with my chest wheezing heavily, gasping for air and sounding like a zombie when I spoke. At first, I thought it was bronchitis.

Even so, I assumed the worse was over. After all, no water had entered my house.

However a few days later, I wondered why my furniture suddenly had a wide swath of green that looked like someone had painted a nearly foot-wide stripe – – and then I found the same streaks across my kitchen cabinets and bathroom. I soon discovered that it got inside my drywall, furniture, kitchen cupboard and on most of the items in my living room, too.

The ferocious, pounding rain and wind hit the ground with such force that it dislodged mold and sent it flying through my open, back door and into my home. When the heat rose to a certain temperature, the mold bloomed.

It took me many months to remove mold from my drywall and home as well as recover from the mental stupor, lack of energy and ill health that mold creates. Add to that the financial impact of not having been able to work beyond taking care of my clients.

It definitely was one of the most challenging times of my entire life. But I got off way easy!!

Twenty miles away on the Blanco River of that Memorial Day weekend, a log jam was created from felled trees and branches… until they let loose. Within three hours, the river rose 33′, cresting at 40′.

People, including a family, were washed away.

Riverside homes, even those out of the flood zone, were ripped apart from their foundations when the force and volume of rising water overwhelmed them. When the flood carried those houses away, and they bobbed down the river, their roofs were knocked off by trees. With nothing to hold the structures together, the houses just fell apart and became rubble.

Overflowing great distances beyond its banks, the rushing water damaged bridges, countless homes and businesses. The landscape changed as huge trees that previously had lined streets no longer existed. FEMA took residence in my small community for months.

  • I was so incapacitated from the mold that I didn’t have the energy to drive a quarter mile out of the way, during my trip to town, to look at where some of the worst disaster hit, let alone help others. The effects of the mold sometimes made it challenging to speak or have the mental clarity to respond during conversations or get out of bed to eat. For a while, with the mold inhabiting my body and mind, I was zoned out as if I was on an opiate drug and couldn’t think or care about anything. It was a rude and frightening awakening when I was able to swim out of my daze. I felt like I’d been under water and had to push myself to the surface and to breathe air again, only to witness the catastrophe that was happening around me in my home, health, personal and financial life.

Years ago, I heard that natural disasters are life’s way of creating a personal growth program. There are gains to be made amidst the crisis.

As bad as it was at the time for me, it was a blessing in disguise.


I can attest that, out of necessity, my harrowing experience forced me to let go of both beliefs that I considered sacrosanct as well as people who I discovered were out for themselves, not for me.

When I did release them, my life became better than ever because some of what I thought were “good and positive” ways of showing up in the world were the very things that had held me back.

When drowning, a survival instinct kicks in. I had to take care of myself or go under. I had no energy to babysit others’ issues or their unconscious, self-serving ways.

Part of my Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #6 states, “I choose to use my personal empowerment on my behalf, which allows me to serve life more fully.” 

Instead of taking years to understand lessons like this more deeply, I condensed my learning curve into months… including the necessity of letting go of worry and fear.

As life reflects back the energy of our thoughts and feelings, why did I create this? I had been deeply concerned about a business challenge, so I created something else to worry about instead.

And, yes, because I had no energy to hold onto the original issue, the solution manifested during my months-long experience.

“Soulutions” came when I let go of the worry and fear that bound me, making room to be open to answers for which I’d been asking.

Another lesson, ask for breakthroughs with grace and ease.


 

My community recovered as it pulled together in new ways, too. Strong. Compassionate. Having received help from others.

Now during the aftermath of Hurricane Harvey, while remembering that help, individuals, businesses and the local police are returning the goodwill of love to help those in need who are a few hours down the road.

Everyone who’s experienced Harvey will have their own story to tell, what they (had to) let go of, what they learned.

Labor Day is a celebration dedicated to the strength and prosperity of American workers.

On this national holiday of Labor Day, in my part of the world, are demonstrations of labors of love.

How will you celebrate your labors?

With gratitude, Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.
Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved

Your Money: Feast or Famine

July 10, 2017

A few months of very sparse sales motivated a former client to once again join one of my mastermind teams to jumpstart his business.

In the last two months, his commission-based income increased dramatically. During a 1:1 session, he outlined every deal he’s closing this summer, totaling over $60,000.

He made a budget before we talked. “The money I’m making will carry me to the end of the year. With it I’ll pay my bills and taxes, buy a new vehicle that I need for my job, set money aside for savings and an emergency fund and get me out of worry.”

Choosing to be fiscally responsible, he felt he could only plan for what he knows for sure that he’ll have.

There were a couple of big telltale signs that he was setting himself up to go from feast to famine. 

First, he reminded me of a bear getting ready for hibernation. The way he talked, it was as if his business would go into a long sleep following the roll he’s now on.

What you see is what you get.

With his vision only focused on generating sales from his current pipeline, his business would only generate sales from his current pipeline. There was no mention of any future business.

Because of his past business scarcity, he was trying to protect himself from another financial shortage. In the process, though, he energetically designed plans for impending famine.

Second, an essential key to manifesting is feeling good first, not waiting until outer circumstances change before you feel good! Like attracts like. Worry does not attract experiences that leave you feeling good.

When we look around at circumstances that suck, it feels natural to complain, whine, get frustrated and angry. But that approach does NOT get us what we want.

I know because I’ve invested much of my life into this strategy. I’ve watched others try to improve their lives by talking about how bad things are.

Things only got worse.

This really is just a habit that digs a deeper hole of misery. It does not create success or financial flow.

Whatever you focus on grows. You’ll feel better focusing on what you choose, not on what you don’t like. (Unless you do that silly “yes BUT” routine of moaning because you’re not there yet… that’s not focusing on what you choose.)

He asked, “How can I know if more money will come if I can’t see it?”

Consider this. Life has a natural flow, and there’s an assumption it will continue without worrying about it.

You trust the sun rises and sets, even if you can’t see it because there are clouds in the sky.

We know, as Jim Morrison said, “No one here gets out alive.” Eventually your heart will stop beating.

Until that time comes, your heart continues to beat. There are steps to take for heart health. Do those. However, there’s no sense living your entire life as if your heart will stop in a few months.

Air is essential to breathe. If there are air issues, address those. However, there’s no sense living your entire life as if you won’t have air to breathe in a few months.

Life has its own flow.

Money has a flow, too.

My client got it. He said, “the beauty is its simplicity. In the past, my thinking about worry created limit.”

He saw how he could trust that the flow will continue in his finances just as the flow in nature continues… unless he stops it by worry.

“It’s insane to be whining, fretting and complaining. Instead, let abundance expand instead of raining on it with negativity.”

He decided “it makes more sense to have clarity, focus and appreciation.”

Allow yourself to trust that you can tap into a money flow. Focus on this flow, not that your money will get divided into little pieces leaving you with nothing.

You are powerful!! Making a choice to be in financial flow, without diluting your energy through worry and negative emotions, can make it so.

If you’re experiencing financial famine, change your focus by looking for natural flows of life.

Connect the dots. If the whole universe runs on flows, you can tap into the flow of financial abundance.

Focus on what you choose.

In the words of Star Trek’s Mr. Spock, “Live long and prosper!”

 

Not Good Enough in La La Land

February 6, 2017

dream-bigger

Do you know the #1 issue for everyone on the planet?

It even showed up in the #1 nominated movie La La Land when a main character lost all confidence before going for the BIG dream – exhausted from trying, past rejections and feeling positive it wouldn’t work.

At some point, it’s had a starring role in your life, too.

It’s what prevents you from believing in yourself.

It’s hounded you to despair and disappointment creating doubt, anger, fear, lack, anxiety and every limitation.

No, you’re not the only one who thinks other people’s lives are better and, after objective and/or emotional comparison, you reached the conclusion there’s something’s wrong with you.

This is the #1 issue.

You feel you’re not good enough, and you have living proof because (fill in the blank of how you feel you and your life are messed up).

“Not good enough” is only a program in your head that was put there a while ago – when you were a little kid.

This is NOT you.

It’s just a program, and it can be changed!

What does it look like when your software program produces this error message?

Here are some ways people have tried to bolster their spirits to find peace, feel good and create success. You’ve probably used some of these well-worn strategies, too, only to find you’re basically in the same place you started.

Do any of these fixes sound familiar?

  • Trying to control situations or others and getting upset or anxious when it doesn’t work. Trying to control means you feel out of control. You can feel frustrated if things don’t go the way you think they should. After a while, you can give up and might go into depression because this fix has more holes in it than Swiss cheese.
  • Wanting others’ approval by people pleasing; looking for self-worth by rescuing others; holding yourself back because of what others might think; or stuffing your emotions and desires. Dream big? Forget it. Too risky.
  • Feeling insecure because you don’t have enough love, money, health, respect, direction, time, contacts, etc. Playing it safe seems like a good reason to hold yourself back, but you can end up unfulfilled where even you get bored with yourself.
  • Feeling bad about you, what you’ve accomplished, what you’re doing and your future prospects. Oh, what’s the use of trying. Bingo – you’re chasing your tail and going nowhere.
  • Playing the victim so others feel sorry for you even though you sincerely express you don’t want them to and you’re not a victim… but silently craving that someone will make all your problems go away.

What’s a key to break free?

Breaking free is an inside job. Nobody can save you but you. Begin by changing your perspective.

You’ve been looking for love in all the wrong places.

Shift your focus to what you have instead of what you don’t have.

Instead of the agonizing feeling of wanting what you don’t have, recognize the feelings of love, safety and fulfillment you long for are already within you.

You can’t move a car forward and backwards at the same time without spinning in circles.

Likewise, you can’t have and want at the same time.

When you shift your focus to what you have, you’ll discover you are more than enough.

When your energy aligns with this feeling, you can write your ticket to success.

Shift happens!

Feeling you’re not enough is simply a habit.

To help you shift gears, write daily 10-15 things you’re grateful for.

Shifting takes practice, but you’re more than capable of changing your perspective.

Invest a few minutes daily to focus on how things are working out for you.  

Size doesn’t matter – got out of bed, conquered fear of calling a client, landed a promotion. Any acknowledgement will help you change your habit so you feel better about you as you rewrite the trash talk that goes on in your head.

Change your energy, change your life.

Bring on your dreams, and dream BIGGER!

TIP: My 12 Survival Lessons from Challenging Times

February 29, 2016

Sometimes when things fall apart, they may actually be falling into place.

I’m sharing gifts from one of the most challenging times I’ve ever had. Throughout my life, there were lessons that I stubbornly hadn’t learned, and my experience gave me an opportunity to get them in a condensed amount of time… or potentially lose everything.

I later recognized that these were a shortcut in preparation for me to do what I love in a bigger way. Without really getting their value, I would’ve stayed where I was and sabotaged my future success.

Last year, many in my community were hit by a devastating flood that washed away both homes and people. I was fortunate not to be affected by this directly. However, over the second half of last year, the effects of a mold outbreak wreaked havoc with my home, walls, furniture, health and income.

While listening to several people this week, I thought some of my insights may help you, too.

  1. A positive attitude with fear running underneath doesn’t cut it. I had to live in “good feeling mojo” and focus only on what’s working and on what feels good to me – with no luxury to slip into low energy emotions. Feeling good creates momentum for things to work out for the better. Otherwise, because for a while I could barely think straight or talk coherently (sometimes I could only smile, nod and not speak), I could’ve lost everything while immersed in the haze of mold.
  2. One morning, panic completely enveloped me. Knowing that chewing on and regurgitating my problems was a dead end, I shifted to look for solutions and found them. I had to do this for months, often looking at only the next step at a time.
  3. Through this I really learned how to dump fear, even that which runs in the background like a low-grade fever. That I did this still blows my mind… which is where fear lies. Fear isn’t real; it’s in your head. If there’s a situation to be addressed, fear and worry won’t bring you solutions. Plus, if you’re afraid, you open yourself up to others controlling you for their benefit.
  4. I’d been service-minded, caring more about others and putting their needs before mine. To survive, I had to put me first. Only then could I be of any help to others. This was a HUGE lesson that I was forced to get. By the way, if you’ve always put yourself first, your lessons may be the reverse – to see the value of giving. Ultimately, it’s about balance between giving and receiving.
  5. I learned not to care about others’ opinions of me. What others think about me is their issue. I have to do what’s right for me. That released an emotional burden of guilt and second guessing myself.  A Johnny Depp quote says it well: “Just keep moving forward and don’t give a s— about what others think. Do what you have to do for you.” Sometimes people want to keep you at their level of mediocrity because they’re afraid you’re outpacing them and might kick them to the curb. Don’t buy into others’ fears.
  6. As I was forced to funnel my energy toward taking care of me (if you’re drowning, you’re not in a position to swim over to help others), I became better at discriminating NOMB – None of My Business – and listened to people instead of coaching them to solve their problems. Not that they wouldn’t have wanted help. I didn’t have the energy to give myself away and not have enough left for myself.
  7. I finally valued my feelings so much, that I no longer allowed myself to be around negatively directed energy, mine or others, even when people didn’t realize what they were doing. If they didn’t shift, I didn’t judge them. I moved on.
  8. To balance this, creating smooth experiences with others is way, way better. Watch my manners and use my social skills, even if I was exhausted, became a mantra.
  9. I stopped trying to explain or defend myself so people would understand where I was coming from. Many were so locked into their viewpoint that they weren’t able to hear what I was saying anyway. I also learned (the hard way) not to listen to them once I realized they were rude or dumping their negative opinions on me. They were neither interested nor able to consider another perspective.
  10. Believing things will work out is an essential foundation for them actually to work… then to shift into knowing everything always works out in my favor.
  11. Maintain my dignity even when I didn’t feel I had any because of my circumstances.
  12. I realized that a reason for occasional light headedness and unexplainable fatigue I’ve had for years was a residual of a severe mold experience from 17 years ago. It would sporadically (good word for mold spores) show up. I had prayed for an answer. I got it and got rid of it.

TIP: 12 Survival Lessons from Challenging Times

You’re reading this, so I know you’re alive and therefore have been through challenging times. What did you learn? Maybe hard to see when you’re in the middle of it, but why is this a blessing in disguise?

There’s always a silver lining. You can see it if you look in the right direction.

When you redirect your focus to create good feeling mojo, you’ll create miracles and successes beyond your wildest expectations.

Step back and allow yourself to see how your business and life are actually falling into place.

By the way, if you’d like help to learn how to release beliefs that don’t serve you and be supported to do what you love in a bigger way, contact me for a free, one-hour Do What You Love Break Free Session at vg@ResolvedForResults.com.

I work with people who long to share their gifts with the world in a bigger way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them find their passion and be richly compensated doing what they love.

It’s About Peace, My Friend

December 22, 2015

peace - let there beDuring one of my most challenging times, when things went from bad to worse, the pain became unbearable.

A quiet voice within asked why I was upset. Well, I thought, look at my life. Each crisis flashed before me, and I felt justified drowning in my anguish.

Yes, came the voice again, but why are you upset?  Because, I argued, I don’t like any of this, and I want things to be different.

Then, I realized the pain wasn’t caused by my circumstances. My suffering was because I wanted. I wanted things to change.

Wanting comes from lack. What we don’t have. Never enough. My wanting created unimaginable hurt.

Like magnetic fields, we can’t have and want at the same time because they’re opposing energies. Positive and negative fields repel each other.

The moment I switched from wanting to remembering I have all my needs within, my torment stopped.

Looking to others and circumstances, while wanting approval, love, security, empowerment or validation, drives us to beat ourselves up and feel like a nobody.

When quiet and at peace, answers come.

When there’s recognition of having, we don’t need to seek safety from an outside source.

We’re not safe when we focus on fear.  As like attracts like, that’s how we become a magnet to be terrorized and a victim.

No person or group, no client or job, no house or amount of money holds our security. God is the Source of our supply. If something doesn’t work, something better will, especially if we allow it and are open to believe it can.

As we clear the energy of lack and replace it with what we choose, positive results follow.

We can be safe, in the right place, at the right time.

If we think we won’t be, we won’t. If we wonder what if we’re not, we probably won’t be. If we’re basically positive but wonder what if things don’t work out, they may not. If we allow ourselves to be afraid because of what others might think, say or do, we’ve given control to others.

If a lock on the door is a good idea, install a lock. Creating a drama or fear about what might occur if there isn’t a lock doesn’t help – unless this type of attention or emotions it creates is the actual desired outcome.

If we believe everything always works out, get ready for miracles and abundance!

Christmas is a time of love and celebration.

This is your opportunity to go beyond lip service and be the change. Demonstrate peace and goodwill toward men. Not just the ones you like. Or those who look or act or believe like you.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, these quotes from the King James Bible offer wisdom:

“Judge not, that ye be not judged.”
“For unto us a child is born… and his name shall be called …The Prince of Peace.”
“Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.”
“Then said Jesus to them again, Peace be unto you: as my Father has sent me, even so send I you.”  

TIP: It’s About Peace, My Friend

Much of the world is lost in wanting and creating conflict over what they perceive they don’t have. You can be a bringer of peace.

Let there be peace on earth, let it begin with you.

When you feel anxiety, ask yourself what you’re wanting.

The perfect gift? You’re more likely to find it if you’re relaxed.

Getting the house in order or landing a business deal? If you have good feeling mojo, you’ll spread holiday cheer to your guests or clients – and they’ll feel better around you.

Want more business or money? When you’re emotionally calm, you’re more receptive to ideas that will bring you both. Or, they’ll be drawn to you like Santa Claus to cookies.

Choose peace over wanting approval and love, wanting security, wanting control.

Let go of wanting approval and love so you can have approval and love.

Let go of wanting to be safe and secure to realize you already are. It can’t be given to you.

Let go of the need to defend. Take action to take care of yourself; the rant of fear gets in the way of effectiveness.

Let go of wanting control. Nobody can give it to you. You already have it.

Make peace your highest priority, and experience greater success.

Merry Christmas and a wonderful holiday season to you!

May peace be unto you, my friend.

 

 

TIP: Be Master of Your Fate

December 3, 2015

Master Your Fate

A family man in his early thirties was happily employed at a well-paying job for seven years. The young couple was ecstatic when they were able to purchase their own home. Six months later, the business closed its doors. Tired and scared, his three replacement jobs weren’t generating enough income to meet expenses.

During our casual conversation, he detailed reasons why his former job was ideal and unique… and he hasn’t been and wouldn’t be able to find anything that would replace it. His story centered on loss and lack.

An undercurrent of fear crashed against his quiet desperation.

Unbeknownst to him, his portrayal of “telling it like it is” was launching him on a hopeless trajectory of not enough, dooming himself to repeat his cycle of things not working.

I gently brought up alternate perspectives. Other possibilities were available. It would be hard to find them if he thought they didn’t exist.

A couple of days later, I was told that his attitude was much lighter and optimistic. Feeling stuck shifted to how he could find better employment. He started writing plans to follow his passion as a musician.

Don’t fall for the ego’s seduction!

The ego is a false identity and a clever bugger. It knows how to bamboozle you into feeling bad about yourself, regret your choices and wonder if your life has any more meaning than a slug.

When you believe your sad emotions are telling you the truth, you can get lost in thinking, thinking, thinking, and trying to figure out what you’re going to do about… anything. Everything. That’s the ego for you; but it’s NOT you!

The ego will lure you to doubt yourself into believing that you can’t break free of your situation.

When you buy into negative “logic,” you feel bad. You can feel like you’re on a hamster wheel of you’re not enough, nothing you do is good enough, and you don’t have enough. You obsess and feel like chopped liver (especially unpalatable to vegetarians). You then attract more of the same. The cycle continues.

Remember, you are master of your fate.

Stop arguing with your thoughts of doubt, limit, confusion and fear. Instead, boost your confidence, and appreciate yourself! Look at the good you do and have done. If you’re not finding positives in your finances or work, look to what you might consider simple things, such as being kind to animals. Build from there. Little steps add up to big ones.

 

It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley, 1849 – 1903

TIP:  Be Master of Your Fate

Listen to conversations that repeat in your head. Journal to let them go AND continue to write to gain perspective. Set an intention that insights and direction will emerge. When they do, take action.

TIP of the Week: How A Client Is Making $43K This Month

November 3, 2015

Here’s a great (and profitable) update on a recent TIP: How To Make Your Life What YOU Want.

It started like this:

“During his short ride to the office, a client’s daily routine was looking for annoying drivers. After starting the day with this momentum, his attention shifted to work.”

“When asked to share recent business success, his reply was, ‘It’s hard to find wins…mostly going backwards.'” He was working on deals, but they were filled with complications and some looked like they’d fall apart.

“He recognized his perspective wasn’t helping and reframed it. He continued working on the deals but let go of the emotional stress and negative attitude.”

Successes TWO weeks later, a partial list sent to his mastermind team:

  • Partnering with another agent on a $1.7M listing. The other agent is the lead. I will get 30%, which equals a $550K listing for me.
  • I expect to close 6 transactions in November for $1.8 million. One closing set for December.
  • Listed a home for $199K on Friday…expect to sell this week, which would be added to the December closings.
  • Got two buyer referrals the past two days from past clients.
  • November take home will be around $43,000!

He turned his business around when he:

  1. Stopped complaining, feeling discouraged and fighting against what he didn’t like.
  2. Got quiet, went to a clear space within and discovered new solutions.
  3. Believed his deals would work and he’d be successful.
  4. Looked for what was working instead of dwelling on what wasn’t.
  5. Aligned his thinking and feelings with mastermind team support and concepts.

TIP: How A Client Is Making $43K This Month Choose two ideas from this list and apply them to making your goals and dreams come true.

For more ideas, review the TIP: How To Make Your Life What YOU Want.

ANTICIPATE  SUCCESS! 

YOU DON’T OWN ME

March 31, 2014

While driving, a friend told me that he had to pull over to the side of road to scream at his thoughts to shut up. It reminds me of these lyrics: “You don’t own me. I’m not just one of your many toys… And don’t tell me what to do. And don’t tell me what to say… So just let me be myself. That’s all I ask of you.”

Few welcome being controlled, yet most are controlled by feelings and thoughts they don’t want. Who hasn’t been plagued by beating themselves up with worry and fear over money; stress about time or relationships; grief; suffering over the way they look or feel; confusion over what to do; sadness or countless other ways of feeling bad? That’s why many turn to drugs, alcohol, food, and blaming others.

What to do? Gotta DO something. Ah yes, the default response: analyze, take time to process, wrap your brain around it or intellectually understand.

But here’s the trickster’s game. Because our computer/ brain was never programmed with how to get rid of these feelings and thoughts, we end up feeling worse because we can’t find answers by looking there. Or we get ideas that we can’t make work… but we keep trying anyway. As a client said, it’s like going to a dry well looking for a drink of water, and the well is toxic anyway.

Regardless, most have a habit of trying to figure out how to let go of the way they feel, and they often can’t allow themselves to hear anything that doesn’t center around mental solutions. If you’ve done this, it’s an indicator that you’ve given your power to your ego to control you, own you, instead of claiming mastery of your life.

Results? As like attracts like, if you’re feeling negative you’ll attract more negativity. Positive attracts positive.

If you feel unwanted emotions, who’s having you feel this way? They may have started with childhood messages or emerged because of circumstances, but there’s no one in your head telling you to think or feel this way.

As you’re the one who’s doing it, you CAN choose to do something differently.

Before you start beating yourself up about having beaten yourself up, there’s NOT something pathetically wrong with you. It’s the way the ego works, and we all have one. BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO CONTROL YOUR LIFE, MAKE YOU FEEL MISERABLE, DRIVE YOU NUTS OR HOLD YOU BACK FROM MAKING YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE!

Everything is energy, and the energy from thoughts or feelings can be released. They’re only feelings. They don’t have to own you.

Years ago while we were talking, a friend of mine felt anxiety about her upcoming divorce. I suddenly felt anxiety in my gut, but hers was gone. I said I didn’t want it and gave it back to her. We laughed as we bounced it back and forth between us before deciding to let it go. In other words, we could control the presence and absence of this gut-wrenching feeling which meant we could simply let it go. This includes any feeling! You can do the same.

Instead of acting helpless in the grips of Robo-Ego, know that you’re in charge and feelings can leave.

Here are a few tips:

  • If you want or need something, you’re coming from lack. You’ll be perpetually in a place of wanting instead of having what you choose.
  • What you resist persists. Although it sounds counter-intuitive, if you don’t like something, you’re holding onto it.
  • When you let go of trying to control, wanting validation or desiring safety, you can have them.

Ever notice when men or women want a relationship? The objects of their desire want to run. Same thing with money, health or anything.

The freedom everyone longs for breezes in when we let go because then we allow our spirit, our wise self within, to be in charge. It can happen in seconds not years. But we block ourselves from having what we really, really want when we clutch onto yucky feelings in our chest or gut or being stuck in our heads.

There are underlying beliefs we’ve tucked away that impact us, but they can be prompted to surface and be released. Everyone has the ability to let go although some resist. So, we come back to who owns you? You DO have a choice.

Because the ego is at the core of all the lack of success and suffering we experience, I’m more than happy to share phenomenally effective tools I’ve recently learned. These allow you to unravel patterns and release the ego’s incessant drone of control, disapproval and creating insecurity so instead you experience true freedom and make your dreams come true.

What would feel better? Feeling anxiety or having peace? Wanting success or having success?

If you’d like to learn more about letting go so you can master your feelings and have what you really, really want, please contact me by either:

  • any of my current ways of contact you already have OR
  • leaving me a comment after this post

I received this email from Kathryn Brown, CEO of Adventure Más describing results from a recent VIP session (She creates zip lines and more. How cool is that?)

Here’s a practical demonstration of what letting go can do about relationships and money:

Toward the end of my second time participating in the Resolved for Results (RFR) course, I decided to try one of Virginia’s sessions designed to help clear the ego of its default “methods of operation.”

At first I resisted. I didn’t want to add anything more to my plate, even knowing that it would more than likely exponentially assist me in clearing old programs that were blocking my progress. I thought, “I can do this later.” It was really no surprise, given the success I had with RFR, when I witnessed the synchronicity of events on the day I agreed to do the session.

I realized when I arrived at Virginia’s that I had forgotten my card I had written my issues on for our session. No problem—Virginia picked up on the issues I had forgotten.

It was a great session and Virginia was very gracious with her time. It was sometime after I got home that I found the card I wrote my issues on and noticed my husband’s handwriting on the back of it. Although I hadn’t gone into any details about what I was going to talk about, he had picked up on many of the issues Virginia and I had discussed and very sensitively and lovingly addressed them bringing me to tears. The issues were about control and security although we had what I considered to be a good relationship.

One of the great blessings was realizing on a much deeper level that everything we think and feel about someone, they know, whether spoken or not. Our judgments have a big impact on our lives and can block our progress. I began to see how my judgments driven by ego, no matter how quickly I thought I let them go, were really hanging around. My need for control and security was larger than I had imagined.

Additionally, I had a business contract that was ready to renew. Not only did it renew but I was offered more money than before!

What I walked away with were skills that I can use in my everyday life when I catch myself in my own ego traps. I feel much more at peace in situations and very much at ease with who I am. I’m comfortable with my need for control and security at times—I just love them unconditionally and release them unconditionally. I have learned to let go of many things I had so tightly hung onto out of an unconscious fear. The world keeps spinning but I don’t have to. I would recommend this session to anyone whether you think you are “ready or not”!

Kathryn Brown
President & CEO of Adventure Más

Again, if you’d like to learn more about letting go so you can master your feelings and have what you really, really want in life, please contact me by either:

  • any of my current ways of contact you already have OR
  • leaving me a comment after this post