Posts Tagged ‘Quote’

You Know More Than You Think You Do… A 2-minute read with a message from Dr. Spock

November 2, 2020

You’re programmed for low self-esteem and to give away your power.

Not just you. Everyone’s brainwashed living in their own hypnotic trance.

Part of the gig on earth is to snap out of it.

It starts innocently enough with directives like “draw inside the lines.”

We obediently follow to fit in. That’s the hook. Fit in to survive. I mean, how else can a little kid make it in this world without going along with family and society’s customs – even if they’re wacky and don’t make sense?

Here’s a popular one: “When you’re under my roof, you’ll do what I say.” Then, somehow miraculously, when you move out you turn on a switch and think for yourself.

More likely, the programmed voice in your head continues until you realize it’s an old recording.

Then you begin to see that you’ve been wanting others’ approval and someone to tell you what to do so you won’t make a mistake.

Myths start early. Do you know anyone who stepped on a sidewalk crack and broke their mother’s back?

Step back from your emotions, opinions, the way you’ve always seen things, knee jerk reactions, fear, anger, stress, anxiety, and worry.

Instead of responding to old, recorded messages in your brain that say you’re not good enough, listen to your heart and gut. Those whispers will never put you down.

In the words of Dr. Benjamin Spock,
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”


Edited excerpt from Soulgoal Archives –  November 29, 2012

Ready to break free of that limiting voice in your head?
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I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.”

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To Risk or Not to Risk

October 26, 2020
Dynamic Beauty Before the Storm – Guadalupe River State Park. Change is here.

“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

Anaïs Nin

No one really likes to change. Well, we say we do, but we only want the so-called bad things to change. We’d like other things to stay just the way they are, including our own attitudes and beliefs, thank you very much.

We want to go back to the way things were.

However, when one part of a system changes, everything is affected. It’s like when the body gets hurt – the right leg may be injured, but the other side of the body compensates. Likewise, when the “good” changes come, everything shifts. In the process, it can be uncomfortable.

We resist the change. Call it bad.

But when it becomes too painful to stay the same and remain tight, we’re willing to risk in ways that we may have thought too painful otherwise.

Oh, why not? If you know you’re going to make a change anyway, put yourself out of your misery or discomfort. Take a risk. Be willing to go for the change.

Enjoy blossoming!


If you’d like help with making a change,
I can help!
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.


I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.”

Originally posted on October 18, 2010

Wonder What Your Future Will Bring?

May 18, 2020

Jekyl hyde

“When you get to be my age, everything scares you,” an 82-year-old told me. “Just watching TV is enough to make you afraid. You’ll see.” Because I’ve heard similar comments over my lifetime of “when you get to be my age” followed by limited thinking, I paused.I noticed how she shared her negativity in a joking way while her attitude depressed and sucked the life out of people around her.

This time instead of reacting, I replied, “I made a decision not to be afraid.”

Silence.

In contrast, I had a delightful conversation with Ms. Belle, a 79-year-old. She commented that looking at the way we’re talking, anyone would think we’re old friends. We met only 20 minutes earlier in a small, neighborhood store.

She told me, “You’ve got to be positive. Life is short.”

She’s amazed at how she meets lovely people wherever she goes, and that there are so many wonderful people in the world.

She goes to the gym and rides a bicycle. One day, she realized that she loves to exercise. She enjoys talking and having fun with others while there, too.

Ms. Belle shared with me the importance of keeping our memory, especially as some people will take advantage of you if you don’t remember things.

Hint: Just like you can make a decision not to be afraid, you can choose to retain your memory, even if you feel it’s not as good as you’d like it to be now. Start by no longer talking about and focusing on how you don’t have a good memory! What you talk about becomes your reality, joking or not.

So much of life and business are about decisions and perspectives.

  • Which attitudes, behaviors and actions of yours (and others) are you willing to tolerate?
  • Do you see people (including you) and life as inherently bad and evil or good?

Your answers will determine your success.

Negativity won’t breed positivity.

You can’t have a happy ending while feeling miserable along the way.

Everyone has beliefs. Many are held onto so dearly that you might feel that if you stopped believing them, you’ll go straight to that inferno down below.

Some beliefs upon which you base your life may be the very ones that are holding you back!

If you allow fear and a habit of complaining to control you, you could find yourself on a slippery slope that doesn’t lead to success or happiness.

Many blame others, blind to connecting the dots of how their own choices and beliefs created their circumstances.

Wonder what your future will bring? It will bear the fruit of your current and past thoughts, feelings and attitudes, as the two above-mentioned women demonstrate.

Your future will bring you the products of your beliefs and thinking just as your present is a reflection of your past ones.

Wonder what your beliefs and thinking have been? Look around you.

You have the power within you to choose to be afraid of your own shadow or to be courageous.

In this moment, you can change the way you feel about you and the mental picture you carry about yourself and your future.

You can decide nothing will stop you from living the life and having the business or work of your dreams, in spite of the odds… regardless of the effects that a pandemic or other circumstances have had on your life.

You see, you’re giving others too much power as you even acknowledge how they make you feel. What you’ve got to decide is how I’m going to feel. We would go to a Virtual Reality and we would practice feeling good. Manifestations come on the heels of what you’ve conjured in thought.

Abraham-Hicks, Excerpted from North Los Angeles, CA on 3/2/02

Think about you on the other side of the pandemic.
Can you see that you’re no longer willing
to put up with some of the old ways you’ve been doing things?
Do you know you can consciously change your life for the better?
If you’d like to learn about a complimentary session so
you can start fresh, contact me at

virginia@soulgoals.com

http://www.soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.  I help them be richly compensated in whatever way is meaningful to them by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

Updated from Soulgoals’ Archives posted on October 14, 2017

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Angry? Frustrated? Here’s What I Wrote To My Client.

April 20, 2020

Whatever thoughts you have that don’t feel good, whatever fears you have… they’re not about you!! They’re also not about the economy, a virus or any other circumstance!

We all created, everyone of us, a false identity, which is known as the ego. Some call it the mind – or monkey mind.

No, the ego isn’t just about those who we consider braggadocios.

It’s the part of us that feels fear, doubt, anxiety, lack, sorrow, sadness and wonders about “what if” the worse happens. What if you get sick? What about your finances? And on and on.

It’s the part that berates us for not feeling good enough, regretting the past and is fearful about the future – and, oh, how it disapproves of you in countless ways.

However, the greater part of us, an invisible yet far more powerful Essence, is within, too.

How can you access that place of calm, peace and happiness?

Soon I’ll offer a teleconference to help you understand and LET GO of your ego being in charge of your life.

You’ll learn how to allow your innate, inner mastery to be in control, new ways to set goals and MANIFEST THEM!

Interestingly, by letting go of negative emotions, we open to receive whatever we choose into our lives. Money. Health. Love. Peace. 

In the meantime, I’m sharing a Soulgoals’ post from my August 12, 2019 archive about the ego.

It’s just a hint of what it is and how it impacts you.

With gratitude,

Virginia

 

Here’s an excerpt of an email I sent a client who’s been experiencing challenges.

Recently, I’ve observed people transitioning from the way their life has been to something new and different. That can bring up a variety of feelings, some pleasant and others not so much.

I remember thinking in the early 1990s that my entire life was about frustration. There wasn’t any part of it that worked, from health, finances and career to my marriage. All were falling apart. And why was God allowing me and others to suffer?

This perfect storm became the springboard that has shaped the rest of my life of personal discovery and helping people like you.

 

Change is in the air, welcoming it, liking it, wanting it or not.

For some, it’s an exciting adventure.

For others, a dark cloud hangs overhead.

You, like the rest of us, have had a lifetime of listening to the false guidance of your ego, that façade of an identity. For you, it includes difficult emotions like anger and frustration. These emotions are like software glitches.

Here’s what Wikipedia says about glitches… computer glitches are incorrectly written software, incorrect instructions given by the operator, undetected invalid data, undetected communications errors…

You are not your software.

In contrast, your Essence is prompting you to listen within. This is the part of you that knows “all is well.”

 

Abraham-Hicks said:

“Your emotions are your indicator of how your active thought blends, or doesn’t blend, with the thought Source is thinking about the same subject in the same moment.”     

The inner turmoil you’re experiencing is the conflict between your ego’s perspective and that of the Source within you.

 

Naturally, your ego is taking an all out stand for you to listen to its lies, lies that lead you to feel frustrated, angry and needing to sort things out.

To protect itself, it uses a type of logic in which it’s already trained you, indoctrinated into you, so you believe that it’s telling you the truth. It presents its case that leaves you feeling anger and frustration.

The logic only works if you see things from its limited and fearful point of view.

Habitual thinking creates entrenched neural pathways in the brain. These become your default, your easy “go to” ways you react. These reactions, instead of responses, don’t always serve you.

Just because ideas are in your head does NOT make them true!

However, you can most assuredly access your true Essence instead, as it is YOU!

A key is to differentiate between the whispers of your ego and your Essence.

The ego certainly doesn’t want you to be around positive people that shed light on how it manipulates you. This way it has you, back where you can be controlled by the stress and chaos of unsupportive emotions.

In defense of the ego, it thinks it’s protecting you. But these patterns were created from a child’s approach to survival.

When presented with adult situations, the peace of your Essence offers greater insight and direction.

Ask your Essence to step forward to be heard, and choose to listen to its guidance.

 

If you’d like help for 
your life to be easier
and more satisfying,
contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2020 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

When Fear Takes Over

March 23, 2020

 

 

I’ve lived through a few “dark nights of
the soul” at the turn of this century.

An age-old term, Eckhart Tolle calls
the dark night of the soul, “a collapse of a
perceived meaning in life…
an eruption into your life of a deep
sense of meaninglessness. The inner state
in some cases is very close to what is
conventionally called depression. Nothing
makes sense anymore, there’s no purpose
to anything.”

“It can happen if something happens that
you can’t explain away anymore, some
disaster which seems to invalidate the
meaning that your life had before.
Really what has collapsed then is the whole
conceptual framework for your life, the
meaning that your mind had given it.
So that results in a dark place.”

At that time, life and circumstances created
feelings and thoughts that cloaked me
with a heavy pall taking months to release.

Then, just as spring arises from the
barren winter, signs of life within me
determinedly emerged like a phoenix
rising from the ashes.

I understand when people can’t seem to
throw off pervasive feelings that run in
the background like a software program
that’s been slowly and covertly draining
their energy, often for a very long time.

When they can’t take it anymore
and have to do something, they let go.

Finally, as if those feelings had been
running on a low battery, the charge
is gone.

As I ponder what to write to you
today, all I can think about are
several, recent coaching sessions.

People identified specters that lurked
in their shadows for years, haunting
them with their convincing influence
of limitation and disapproval.

______________________________

They courageously pulled back
the curtain that hid their inner
tormentors, which were revealed to
be nothing more than Wizard of Oz
impostors… and freed themselves.
______________________________

Previously, the ego’s dictates filled
their thoughts and feelings with negativity
like smoke in a room on fire with little
space for breathing freely.

The ego is the false identity, the voice
in our heads that we think is real
.

If you believe this nonsense
of hopelessness or not good
enough, you’re being scammed!!

Eventually these images or false
identities that we based our life on
begin to crumble.

It can be devastating when we discover that
many of our core beliefs have been an illusion.

For me, when the air cleared, the peace
and empowerment of the present
moment shined like the sun on a clear,
cloudless day.

True freedom.

This freedom comes from no longer
being thrashed by past pain or fear
of the future or the hollow echoes that
you, what you do or life isn’t good enough.

Your happiness doesn’t depend on others,
the latest crisis or the news.
______________________________

Maybe you’ve heard those voices in
your head, too – the worrisome talk
that creates fear, doubt and anxiety
disguised as the voice of reason.

You became used to listening to it, so
now you don’t take risks. You fritter away
your energy distracted by blame, shame,
worry, regret, doubts, grief, frustration or
lack that leave you too exhausted to
create the life you really want.
______________________________

Living in the past brings regrets, sorrow
and suffering.

Living in the future brings worry and
fear of “what if… the worse happens?”

Living in the Now, even for a moment,
brings relief and peace. You can always 
handle the present moment.

How can you be present and free
of the tyranny of fear?

Start by making a decision. Choose to!

Yes, you are that powerful.

Your Essence, not your whiny, doubting
ego, is so powerful that when you make a
decision you change your life!! 


The heart freed of shackles, that were
locked in restraint by misty, forgotten
memories, is free to rejoice in renewal,
like the season of spring.

______________________________

Living in the Now takes practice, and it
helps to have positive support to
counter the ego’s seduction that tries
to hook you into believing that you can’t
attain the life, business, finances and
happiness you really want… or be
protected against a virus!
______________________________

Inevitably, the ego tries to lure you
again with its hypnotic trance of anxiety,
worry, lack, fear, doubt and limit, which
results in dissatisfaction.

However, once the taste of emotional
freedom is savored, it’s proof that peace
and happiness are more than a wishful
hope for you.

Years of habit etch neural
pathways in the brain spawning ruts
of discontent.

That all changes when being nurtured
by living in present time as new
pathways gain dominance.

A friend texted for me to write about
never giving up on your dreams.

With an unencumbered
spirit, your dreams or something
even better can come true.

You are stronger than a pesky virus! You can get through this!

Believe.

Reposted from Soulgoals Archives April 10, 2017 with present time edits

 

P.S. Know others who could use help to be free so they can create a better life? Please forward this post.

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You are Stronger than the Coronavirus!

March 16, 2020

FIRST, I’ll share information about bacteria and viruses in your oral cavity and what it does to the body. Hang in there with me because I’ll connect the dots so you can see how this all fits together to help you be safe now.

SECOND, I’ll share ideas about how you are, or can be, more powerful than any illness.

THIRD, I’ll share specific information about what China is doing, that the media doesn’t want you to know, to effectively stop COVID-19. Steps you can take, too.

 

FIRST:

Viruses enter the body through any opening, but primarily through the mouth and nose.  That’s why we’re directed to keep our hands away from these places.

I’m now watching a free docu-series from Gateway to Health about the oral cavity and its impact on our health.

What goes on in the mouth affects many chronic health issues, from lung issues, like pneumonia, type 2 diabetes, Alzheimer’s and cancer to heart disease, memory problems, strokes, certain types of dementia, gut issues, depression, inflammation and more. It’s quite a list.

The mouth is the entrance to your body. What starts in the mouth, be it bacteria or viruses, can then travel throughout the GI tract and the rest of the body.

From Gateway to Health I learned that:

We co-exist with bacteria and viruses all the time. The problem occurs when an imbalance is created. 

The environment in your mouth is called the Oral Microbiome — this includes the gums, tongue, cheek, periodontal pockets and, of course, the teeth.

“There are 800 species of organisms in the mouth, and we swallow a trillion bacteria everyday.”

We are more bacteria than human; I’ve heard anywhere from 43% bacteria as well as 10 to 1 bacteria to human… but who’s counting?

It’s a symbiotic relationship. We give microbes a place to live, and they help us, too. For example, they help us digest our food and form a wall of defense against bad bacteria and viruses from entering our bodies.

We have a “similar destiny. We each want to survive. It’s a system.”

In other words, if we die, they die. They don’t want to kill us because they need a place to live.

Get this: “Bad bacteria only make up about 1% of the total population in the mouth — but when out of balance, they wreak havoc.”

Given the right conditions, the good bacteria are on the side of us humans and protect us.

“A healthy mouth has all the bacteria in the right proportions and equilibrium creating a right environment.”

As the mouth is the entry way to our gut, the rest of our body and our health, it has an important role to play.

We can control our Oral Microbiome by eating healthy foods, like leafy green vegetables, and getting our teeth cleaned.

Here’s a link where you can watch the next episodes of this series from Gateway to Health this week for free.

The episodes begin by offering a basic foundation of information and then build on it the more you watch.  Episode one is always available; you can find it by scrolling down the page.

https://episodes.gatewaytohealthseries.com/

What’s the point of my sharing this now when a virus is spreading like crazy?

The coronavirus, too, is looking for hosts. You don’t have to set yourself up to be one of them! 


SECOND:

You can create a belief that you are healthy, protected and strong.

How? Choose it! SO BE IT!

You can create your own vaccine by the way you think.

Instead of stepping into other people’s fear, step into your connection within.

How? Here’s a quote by Abraham-Hicks:

In the absence of negative emotion—and therefore the allowance of complete alignment and communication with Source Energy—your physical body can reclaim its balance and recover from any imbalance. And once balance has resumed, it is easy to maintain with consistently good-feeling thoughts.

Your sophisticated physical body exists because of the intelligence of your cells. And the intelligence of your cells exists because of their Connection to Source Energy.

When doctors and scientists try to find cures for diseases without taking into consideration the Vibrational relationship between the physical Being and Source Energy, they are looking for cures in all the wrong places. If the resistance that disallowed the Well-Being to begin with is not released, it will show up in the form of another and another disease.

Your cells, because of their connection to the intelligence of Source Energy, know exactly what to do in order to become the incredible variety of functioning cells in your magnificent physical body. And in the absence of the hindrance that is caused by your resistant negative thought, that communication stays open to clear, up-to-the-moment interaction, keeping your physical body at peak and perfect performance.

Excerpted from Getting into the Vortex Guided Meditation CD and User Guide on 11/1/10


THIRD:

Did you know that China is effectively combating COVID-19 through giving people Vitamin C intravenously?

Check out these facts:

  • There’s an 80% reduction of death from pneumonia by taking Vitamin C. (As a reminder, COVID-19 affects the respiratory system creating pneumonia.)
  • Put another way: “Even a small amount of Vitamin C stops people from dying, eight out of ten times, from pneumonia or Sars.”

The top video, which is 10 minutes and 40 seconds long, found on the following link is an eye-opener! Also there’s a doctor in China discussing what the Chinese are now doing to effectively stop the virus… and what you can do, too!

Just ingesting Vitamin C saves lives!

There’s no money in us healing ourselves as there is in vaccines or keeping us continually watching the news.

By the way, I’ve read about the benefits of boosting the immune system and taking Vitamin C from numerous health-oriented sites. Their message, too, is don’t panic!

From the Truth about Cancer:

“Dr. Andrew Saul blows the whistle on how the media is either silent or actively suppressing the fact that intravenous vitamin C is already being employed in China against COVID-19 coronavirus, and the government of Shanghai has announced its official recommendation that COVID-19 should be treated with high amounts of intravenous vitamin C. That’s right!The coronavirus can be dramatically slowed, or stopped, with the use of high doses of vitamin C.

Check this out:

https://thetruthaboutcancer.com/three-intravenous-vitamin-c-research-studies-approved-treating-covid-19/?utm_campaign=purathrive-vit-c&utm_medium=email&utm_source=weekly-digest-ttav&utm_content=three-intravenous-vitamin-c-research-studies-approved-treating-covid-19&a_aid=5903de82cac79


You can be proactive:
  1. Follow the common sense wisdom of the CDC – hand washing, social distancing, etc.
  2. COVID-19 most strongly affects people who are older or have preexisting conditions. Why? Because some in that demographic have weakened immune system.
  3. So strengthen your immune system, such as taking good doses of vitamin C as well as eating healthy.
  4. Go for a walk or exercise to relieve stress and not go stir crazy.
  5. Fear weakens your immune system.
  6. So decide, yes, I mean make a decision, to focus on your good health and that you’re simply not going to let other people’s fear affect you.

Like attracts like. Be stronger than any virus, because you are. If it comes to visit you, don’t answer the door. After all, it’s your “house,” your body. 

You CAN do this!

With gratitude,

Virginia

http://www.soulgoals.com

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who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools or support.
I help them be richly compensated doing what they love
by tuning into 
their Soul’s goals.

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What to Do When There’s Not Enough

February 3, 2020

During her mastermind meeting, a team member shared that she wasn’t getting new business although she previously had momentum and success.

Instead of wallowing in the doldrums of what wasn’t enough, she refocused on her goals – what she really wanted. She tweaked them, felt good about them and energized them with her positive attention.

Very soon after, she received two new contracts from people who came out of the blue. Keep in mind, she hadn’t had activity in this part of her business for months. She and her husband talked about it being a miracle… one she triggered because of how she changed her focus.

You, too, have complete power to redirect your focus and turn any part of your life or business onto the path of success.

Your focus inspires your feelings which, in turn, creates results. Are they the ones you choose?

What’s not enough for you? Money? Business? Relationships? Time? Energy? Health?

Do you feel yucky when you think about what you feel isn’t enough? Oops. You don’t want to stay there too long because that’s the energy that creates not having enough.

Focusing on what’s not enough can be a familiar habit, but it will NOT get you what you want.

If you were heading off a cliff, do you stay the course or turn the vehicle in another direction? You turn the wheel if you want to live.

Dwelling on low energy thoughts and feelings will only bring you more of what’s not working.

TIP: What to Do When There’s Not Enough

Imagine how you’d feel if you saw a laughing baby or playful puppy. A happy smile comes over your face. That creates good feeling mojo.

Find anything in your life or business that can bring a happy smile to you. C’mon, it’s there. Look for it instead of the yucky stuff.

What creates a feeling of gratitude? You’re alive and breathing, so you have the gift of life to go forth another day. I’m sure there’s a lot more. You may feel abundantly full of them.

1. Shift your focus by listing ten reasons why you’re grateful.
2. Quickly look at what’s not enough in your life or business.
3. Next, redirect your focus and feelings. What do you choose instead?

Not enough business or money? Focus on having more instead of the lack of it.

What would more look and feel like? You happy with clients, biz associates and relationships you love. Feeling empowered because you’re watching your bank account grow. Feeling healthy, energized and great in your body. Loving your vacation with family or friends. Satisfied with where you live. Reveling in the time and freedom to enjoy life more. Feels good, right?

Friends or clients feeling like life-sucking, energy vampires? See yourself enjoying the friendship of supportive and positive people where there’s mutual respect, a well-balanced give and take… they exist.

Focus on what you choose with good feeling mojo. Yes, yes. The “not enough stuff” is still there, but that’s not a wise place to invest your attention. Otherwise, you’ll get more of the same.

The way out of not having enough is to redirect your focus.

As Socrates said:  “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”

You have control of how you feel regardless of the circumstances. Even if they’re dire.

You can choose your focus!! Use it. Don’t abuse it, and you’ll have way more than enough.

When you see any positive success at all, focus on that and let the momentum snowball. If you give your new focus a chance, you could see success faster than you thought possible.

By the way, if you’d like clarity and support to get freedom from the not enoughs in your life, contact me for a free Do What You Love Break Free Session at virginia@soulgoals.com

Reprinted from Soulgoals Archives February 8, 2016 

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

To Risk, or Not to Risk, that is the Question

December 3, 2019

anais-nin-quote-blossom-copy

No one really likes to change. Well, we say we do, but we only want the so-called bad things to change. We’d like other things to stay just the way they are, thank you very much.

We often want others and situations to change and for us to stay the same. 

However, when one part of a system changes, everything is affected. It’s like when the body gets hurt – the right leg may be injured, but the other side of the body compensates.

We often resist change. Call it bad. Likewise, when the “good” changes come, everything shifts. In the process, it can feel uncomfortable.

But when it becomes too painful to stay put and remain tight, we’re willing to risk in ways that we may otherwise have thought too painful.

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Dynamic scene before the storm.
Guadalupe River State Park

Oh, why not? If you know you’re going to make a change anyway, put yourself out of your misery or discomfort. Take a risk. Be willing to go for the change. Enjoy blossoming!

Reprinted from October 18, 2010

 

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them be richly compensated doing what they love.

For information on a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email me at virginia@soulgoals.com  

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Why Is Your Life Happening The Way It Is?

September 30, 2019

 

Your thoughts and feelings are engines that generate results. If you don’t like what you see, you can recreate something better.

What I’m about to tell you may be a game changer.

Let’s start with the law of attraction, like attracts like – when it works positively.

A skin care specialist visualized lots of people calling for appointments.

  • Results? Shortly after, the receptionist reported that she booked several sessions for her – just as she asked for in her visualization.

However, she didn’t specify what kind of appointments.

  • Results? One was for a bikini wax, and she really doesn’t like to give them.

Because of her busy schedule, the client couldn’t get a wax as soon as she wanted but made the appointment anyway. In the meantime, the visualizer mused about how she didn’t want to do the wax.

  • Results? The client cancelled.

This is a classic case of cause and effect where thoughts become things, but your experience may differ.

So let’s get to what matters most to you. Why is your life happening the way it is?

Do you sometimes feel like you’re drowning and looking for a life saver?

Is this you?

I don’t know if I believe in this stuff. I tried it, and it didn’t work. I did everything right. I visualized, masterminded, had a positive attitude, created a vision board, and still no results.

Could it be that one part of you did “all the right things” and another part freaked out with anxiety? Were you feeling frustrated, angry, desperate, scared or doubtful?

Your world reflects what you predominantly think and feel. 

If so, no need to worry. Neville Goddard in Your Faith Is Your Fortune wrote this:

“Just as a branch withers and dies if the sap of the vine ceases to flow towards it, so do things and qualities pass away if you take your attention from them; because your attention is the sap of life which sustains the expression of your life.”

When you fuss and fret, your attention is on what you don’t want. Instead, change your focus, including emotionally, to what you choose.

TIP: Don’t EXPECT results. 

Say again. Isn’t that what you’re supposed to do?

Expecting results in a specific way is a booby trap, and you’re no boob. Here’s how it can foil your efforts.

When we mastermind, we ask for “this or something better.” Why? Because God, or if you’re more comfortable using the word the universe, may have a better way to bring results.

Energetic clinging repels results. Imagine a girl focused on finding a boyfriend. Guys sense this as dogs sense fear and run for the hills. Once she lets go of the search, there’s room for her dream to come true. 

I’m an expert on expectation… not bringing me results.

I can trick myself into thinking I let go when I’m really WAITING FOR, aka EXPECTING, a result from a SPECIFIC source. 

For example, in the past, while putting a group together, I expected my next event would fill it. If I had a financial goal, I expected a particular client would fulfill it.

I said I let it go, but I tried to control the outcome: I patiently relaxed to manifest my goals the way I expected. I knew how I thought it would happen. I took action to make it happen.

Here’s the telltale downside that I was in expectation. When it didn’t happen as expected, I got disappointed. Next came fear and my default program: Oh no, what am I going to do?

This started a vicious circle of expectation and disappointment which attracted more things that made me feel discouraged.

Now, I still hold events and have clients that could bring results. But, if they don’t, it’s called next. God will supply from other sources.

God is your supply. 

Don’t expect your supply to come from a person, event or anything in particular. You are ALWAYS taken care of by God, but results often come differently than you think they SHOULD. Results come when you let go and let God. Allow the universe to bring your answers.

Feeling dejected, rejected or injected with fear is not trusting. 

Trust is not giving up or moaning about what’s not working. These are childhood responses.

Instead, trust by ANTICIPATING RESULTS.

Anticipate your needs are fulfilled beyond your wildest expectations. Adopt a childlike curiosity of wonder instead of dictating an expectation.

It’s your job to:

  • Make a choice.
  • Pay attention to your nudges.
  • Take action on what you’re inwardly guided to do.

Let God fill in the HOW and why and where and by whom.

Remember:

  • Anticipate, don’t expect.
  • Trust that a divine energy can and does manifest goals you choose or something better.

Don’t like your new creation? Don’t create a story about how you never get what you want, etc. Choose again.

When you anticipate the best, you change the way your life is happening.

This is a reprint from May 26, 2011.

If you’d like to change
the way your life is going,
contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:

virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

Copyright © 2019 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

 

 

 

 

 

You Don’t Own Me – Enough of Crazy-Makers and Annoying Thoughts

September 16, 2019

“If you do not run your subconscious mind yourself,
someone else will run it for you.”
Florence Scovel Shinn

This is a reprint of an email I sent to my clients on March 31, 2014. Now I’m sharing it with you.

While driving, a client told me that he had to pull over to the side of road to scream at his thoughts to shut up.

It reminds me of these lyrics: “You don’t own me. I’m not just one of your many toys… And don’t tell me what to do. And don’t tell me what to say… So just let me be myself. That’s all I ask of you.”

Few welcome being controlled, yet most are controlled by feelings and thoughts they don’t want.

Have you ever been plagued by beating yourself up with worry and fear over money; stress about time or relationships; grief; suffering over the way you look or feel; confusion over what to do; sadness or countless other ways of feeling bad? That’s why many turn to drugs, alcohol, food, over-working and blaming others.

What to do?


Gotta DO something. Ah yes, the default response: analyze, take time to process, wrap your brain around it or intellectually understand.  

But here’s the trickster’s game of your ego, which is the false identity you think is you.

Because our computer/ brain was never programmed with how to get rid of these feelings and thoughts, we end up feeling worse because we can’t find answers.

Or we get ideas that we can’t get to make work, blame ourselves… but keep trying ineffective approaches.


As a client said, it’s like going to a dry well looking for a drink of water, and the well is toxic anyway.

Regardless, most have a habit of trying to figure out how to let go of the way they feel, and they often can’t allow themselves to hear anything that doesn’t center around mental solutions. If you’ve done this, it’s an indicator that you’ve given your power to your ego to control you, own you, instead of knowing how to gain mastery of your life.

Results? As like attracts like, if you’re feeling negative you’ll attract more negativity. Positive attracts positive.

If you feel unwanted emotions, who’s having you feel this way?  They may have started with childhood messages or emerged because of circumstances, but there’s no one in your head telling you to think or feel this way.

As you’re the one who’s doing it, you CAN choose to do something differently.

Before you start beating yourself up about having beaten yourself up, there’s NOT something pathetically wrong with you. It’s the way the ego works, and we all have one.  BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO CONTROL YOUR LIFE,  MAKE YOU FEEL MISERABLE, DRIVE YOU NUTS OR HOLD YOU BACK FROM MAKING YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE!

Everything is energy, and the energy from thoughts or feelings can be released. They’re only feelings. They don’t have to own you.

Years ago while we were talking, a friend of mine felt anxiety about her upcoming divorce. I suddenly felt anxiety in my gut, but hers was gone. I said I didn’t want it and gave it back to her. We laughed as we bounced the sick in the gut feeling back and forth between us before deciding to let it go. In other words, we could control the presence and absence of this gut-wrenching feeling which meant we could simply let it go.

This includes any feeling!

You can do the same.


Instead of acting helpless in the grips of Robo-Ego, know that you’re in charge and undesirable feelings can leave.

Here are a few tips:

  • If you want or need something, you’re coming from lack. You’ll be perpetually in a place of wanting instead of having what you choose.
  • What you resist persists. Although it sounds counter-intuitive, if you don’t like something, you’re holding onto it.
  • When you let go of trying to control, wanting validation or desiring safety, you can have them.

Ever notice when men or women want a relationship? The objects of their desire want to run. Same thing with money, health or anything.

The freedom everyone longs for breezes in when we let go because then we allow our spirit, our wise self within, to be in charge. It can happen in seconds not years. But we block ourselves from having what we really, really want when we clutch onto yucky feelings in our chest or gut or when we’re stuck in our heads.

There are underlying beliefs we’ve tucked away that impact us, but they can be prompted to surface and be released.

Everyone has the ability to let go although some resist. So, we come back to who owns you?

You DO have a choice.


The ego is at the core of all the lack of success and suffering we experience.

I’m more than happy to share phenomenally effective tools I’ve learned and created to unravel patterns and help you release their incessant drone of control, disapproval and insecurity so you experience true freedom and make your dreams come true.

Those dreams can be anything from financial success to living a better life.

What would feel better? Feeling anxiety or having peace? Wanting success or having success?

If you’d like to learn more about letting go so you can master your feelings and have what you really, really want, please contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com.



I received this email from Kathryn Brown, CEO of Adventure Más, describing results from a recent VIP Letting Go Session. (She creates zip lines and more. How cool is that!)  Here’s a practical demonstration of what letting go can do about relationships and money:

Toward the end of my second time participating in Virginia’s program, I decided to try one of her sessions designed to help clear the ego of its default “methods of operation.” At first I resisted. I didn’t want to add anything more to my plate, even knowing that it would more than likely exponentially assist me in clearing old programs that were blocking my progress. I thought, “I can do this later.” It was really no surprise, given the success I had with her program, when I witnessed the synchronicity of events on the day I agreed to do the session.

I realized when I arrived at Virginia’s that I had forgotten my card I had written my issues on for our session. No problem—Virginia picked up on the issues I had forgotten.

It was a great session, and Virginia was very gracious with her time. It was sometime after I got home that I found the card I wrote my issues on and noticed my husband’s handwriting on the back of it. Although I hadn’t gone into any details about what I was going to talk about, he had picked up on many of the issues Virginia and I had discussed and very sensitively and lovingly addressed them bringing me to tears. The issues were about control and security although we had what I considered to be a good relationship.

One of the great blessings was realizing on a much deeper level that everything we think and feel about someone, they know, whether spoken or not.

Our judgments have a big impact on our lives and can block our progress. I began to see how my judgments driven by ego, no matter how quickly I thought I let them go, were really hanging around. My need for control and security was larger than I had imagined.


Additionally, I had a business contract that was ready to renew. Not only did it renew but I was offered more money than before!

What I walked away with were:

  • Skills I can use in my everyday life when I catch myself in my own ego traps.
  • I feel much more at peace in situations.
  • I am very much at ease with who I am.
  • I’m comfortable with my need for control and security at times—I just love them unconditionally and release them unconditionally.
  • I have learned to let go of many things I had so tightly hung onto out of an unconscious fear.
  • The world keeps spinning but I don’t have to.

I would recommend this session to anyone whether you think you are “ready or not”!

Kathryn Brown
President & CEO of Adventure Más

If you’d like to learn more about letting go so you can master your feelings and make room to have what you really, really want, please contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com

With gratitude,
Virginia


If you’d like to find out
more about how you can
be free of what’s 
holding you back so
you can live a more
wonderful life,

contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

 


I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
living a life they love.