Archive for the ‘Challenges’ Category

What Pruning & Cleaning Clutter Teaches Me

May 3, 2017
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Last week, when I wasn’t coaching, I was outside doing yardwork.

Before that, I cleaned every single paper off my desk (yikes, that took weeks of chipping away at it), deleted or filed hundreds of emails (still got more to go), cleared out pockets of clutter around my house and completed projects I’ve been meaning to get to for seemingly forever.

I finally washed 40 jars and bought new spices for a rack I bought three years ago.

I updated my password list. I’ve been receiving regular bodywork to support my back, now that it’s aligned. I glued the lining of a favorite shoe. I’m deepening my meditations.

We leak our energy when there are things that need our attention, but we put off or ignore them.

In my twenties, I sat very close to the stage and watched the late, great motivational speaker Zig Ziglar. He gave everyone in the audience a wooden round Tuit to remind us to get around to it – whatever we’ve been putting off.
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As I gaze out my window, sunlight shines throughout the day on areas that used to be completely covered in shade. What a metaphor. I learned that the shadows disappeared by allowing more light to come through because I cleared out the clutter and dead branches. Life can grow in places it couldn’t before.

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Spring cleaning my office, home and yard opens space for my next steps.

While doing in-depth sessions, I had the inner space to remember and use techniques I learned decades ago that are helping clients break free of their egos’ self-sabotage.

Beyond mulching and clearing, I’m planting what a neighbor calls jewelry – pretty flowers in my yard.

Step at a time, I’m preparing my soil for future growth in all areas of my life.

Sometimes the old gets cleared out through nature and evolution. Fires clear weaker trees and debris and returns health to the forest. Challenges clear out limiting thinking and beliefs that sabotage greater success and happiness.

Last year at this time, my biggest goal was to sleep. For a year, I was the caretaker for my cat who woke me throughout the night to cope with her illness, which left me feeling like a sleep-deprived zombie. Before that, my attention was focused on getting rid of a devastating mold caused by torrential rains that affected my body, head, home and finances. That was two years ago this month. _____________________________

Since my cat passed last June, I realized the energy of “catching up” and feeling “overwhelmed with so much to do” were visualizations that would only create my having to dig out of a bigger hole.

I would have liked everything in my life to be in order yesterday.

Instead, I see myself being “in front of” my life, business and finances. This focus has placed me on a new trajectory.

It’s working. Things are getting done. I’m feeling good. I see new horizons.

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If you’re clearing out the old through challenges, may you find greater peace with a perspective of gratitude and see light that graces your life in ways it couldn’t before. Blue skies follow storms.

If you’ve been putting off taking care of things that you wish were over and done, consider getting around to it. One step at a time will do.

Begin. The rest is easy.

P.S. Know someone who might be uplifted by reading this? You’re invited to pass this on.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Is God Doing This to You?

April 27, 2017

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Do you feel that at your core you’re chopped liver – a bumbling incompetent who’s made irredeemable mistakes?

Do you think you might be a candidate for the Guinness Book of World Records for “worst blunders ever made by anyone anywhere?”

Do you believe it’s justifiable, then, for others to look down or laugh at you?

That would be a kinda harsh opinion of yourself, ya think?

Now what if you amped up this judgmental blather a notch to believe this is how God or the universe sees you?

As a result of this thinking, an all-loving Prime Creator of life would laugh at you, too.

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A woman, who’s experiencing big challenges, quoted Woody Allen: “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.”

She felt her best thinking and plans got her to this turning point, and she’s made a mess of it.

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By this statement, she expanded her focus from those who are judgy and laugh at others’ expense to include a mean-spirited God laughing at her.

What a great example of the ego’s Jedi Mind Trick. It loves to make you wrong and compare you and your success and money (or so-called lack of them) to others – you’re not good enough or certainly not as good as “them.”

Ponder this:

If you’re a parent, do you want your kids to wait for your permission before doing things?

Would you want to train them to be afraid of making mistakes and decisions? Because of this, they’d doubt themselves and procrastinate.

After a while, you might suggest they stand on their own feet and make their own choices. Even if they screw up, which inevitably everyone does, they’re learning.

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How can you stay true to your spiritual roots and make good decisions?
Empower yourself by aligning with your inner spirit first.
Find your anchor inside of you.
Breathe.
Detach from others’ opinions of what you should do as well as your reaction to life’s circumstances.
How does something feel – good or not so much?
Then make decisions and take action.
This world is designed for everyone to make mistakes.
It’s perfectly impossible to be perfect.
The lesson is not about giving up on your plans but on being true to you.

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Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #3 is “I trust my Self and listen to the voice within.”

The second half of Principle #4 is “…I take action by following through with my inspiration and guidance.”

It goes on to give a TIP:

“If you doubt and don’t trust your Self because of past mistakes, consider this. If you listened to and trusted your Self, instead of your fears and others’ opinions, you wouldn’t have made the mistakes.”

A healthy parent loves a child even though mistakes are made.

We are children of a loving God, a supportive universe.

The plans you make are backed up by an unconditionally loving Supreme Being – even if your plans leave something to be desired. That’s how you’re learning.

You are loved. You are supported. You are cared for deeply.

Live your life with kind compassion, starting with yourself.

P.S. Know someone who’s beating themselves up? They might appreciate you sharing this post with them.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

This Abba Song Can Change Your Future

February 20, 2017

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You weren’t meant to do this trip, multiple orbits of 365 days around the sun, alone.

To start your journey, a Supreme Being didn’t say, “Check it out, and tell me about it when you get back.”

There is support beyond what your physical eyes can see now.

You may wonder why I’m writing about this and how it’s relevant to your business/work and life.

Several people I talked with this week had challenges. Some nearly unbearable.

Can you relate? I know how tough that can feel because I’ve been there, too.

Like them, whatever’s currently going on in your life or business/work is a consequence of your old thoughts and feelings.

How could you possibly have set up something unpleasant for yourself?

No, I’m not trying to throw salt on a wound. The idea is for you to understand how you created the good, the bad and the ugly in your life so you can transform your future.

Intentionally or unconsciously, your energy attracts similar energy. For example, if you felt frustrated in the past, you will continue to attract frustrating situations. This would bring you to your current and potentially future frustration.

Now is your big moment because you can change the direction you’re heading.

Observe how you typically react. Do you emotionally respond the same way but find that you’re gong nowhere fast?

Your responses and subsequent results are like you running on a hamster wheel – repeating the same emotional patterns such as despair, frustration, depression, helplessness, confusion, anger, worry, lack or joy, peace, self-confidence, abundance and courage.

You can continue to react the same way you’ve always done.

OR you can find a way to stop going in circles by responding to life in more constructive ways. Where there’s “something good in everything” you see.

So what’s this got to do with Abba?

Last week, I wrote “The Best Place To Find Love” and shared my experience of helping a senior citizen get home. Because I took the time to do this, I thought I forfeited a front row seat at a concert. However, in spite of the room being halfway full, my prime seat was waiting for me.

What I didn’t tell you is that a song was running through my head so much that, after I dropped him off at his house, I played it on YouTube while driving.

It was Abba’s “I Have A Dream,” and by focusing on the words and concepts, my future changed and so can yours.

If you see the wonder of a magical fairy tale, then your power of imagination can take the future. It doesn’t matter if you’ve failed or not. Your past and present circumstances don’t matter.

Your dream, although it can seem like a fantasy, will not only help you cope with anything and help you through reality, it will help you push through the darkness.

When you focus on your dreams, the destination you envisioned becomes your reality and will make your efforts worth the while.

Your vision will help you cross over any obstacle.

There are angels to help you along the way. Some have a physical presence. Most are unseen energies rooting for you, having your back, playing the role of master organizers so your dreams can come true.

“I believe in angels,” and I strongly felt that a front row seat was saved for me.

And when my intention was to increase my income to satisfy specific goals, new business came out of the blue.

These ideas can change your future.

You’re not alone.

Allow yourself to have a dream and let it push you through… anything.

Believe in yourself and your dreams.

The time is right for you.

The destination is worth your while.

Below are the lyrics and link to Abba’s “I Have A Dream.”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_HMjOiHqE18

I Have A Dream by Abba

I have a dream, a song to sing

To help me cope with anything

If you see the wonder of a fairy tale

You can take the future even if you fail

I believe in angels

Something good in everything I see

I believe in angels

When I know the time is right for me

I’ll cross the stream – I have a dream

I have a dream, a fantasy

To help me through reality

And my destination makes it worth the while

Pushing through the darkness still another mile

I believe in angels

Something good in everything I see

I believe in angels

When I know the time is right for me

I’ll cross the stream – I have a dream

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_HMjOiHqE18

TIP: What Were You Thinking and How It Affects You Now

December 5, 2016
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A woman I’ve known for decades, who used to be very involved with a spiritual practice, has been sending toxic emails.

She doesn’t check information to see if it’s true. Or they’re about disgruntled people who are challenged with a world that changed. Or she’ll take a positive message and skew it to be negative. And, I suppose, there are some valuable ideas, but to find them means wading through venom.

I replied to one of her emails that this is a season of unconditional love, and a way to it is being non-judgmental.

She answered, “Judgmental, unconditional love, spiritual beliefs… I definitely don’t fall under the PC situation… I have to keep it real for me, my truth. It may ruffle some people’s feathers but that’s what this world is for, experiences and finding out what we need to find out.”

Bah humbug. The spirit of Christmas is now just another way of being politically correct.

Gee, and here I thought that, underneath it all, the world is for Love.

How does her worldview affect her?

In other emails, she shared that she can get depressed.

Yet, she feels compelled that others see life through her passionate yet angry rants – under the guise of keeping it real and telling her truth.

In the past, I would listen endlessly to people’s sad stories and emotionally charged viewpoints.  I thought I was helping by holding space for them to share and be heard.

I’ve since learned that an extended focus on what doesn’t work is a disservice and adds fuel to a perspective that caused them distress. It only helps them to pick up momentum toward what they don’t like, which affects their health, finances, relationships or happiness.

This includes not validating sob stories I might conjure up about what I don’t like in my life or what’s not working the way I think it should.

If gently redirecting the conversation doesn’t work, I do what I can to exit with grace and ease.

My clients learn how to notice resistance and shift it, too.

To live with good feeling mojo is a simple concept. Feel good.

The more you think and feel good, the better your life becomes… your dreams magically start coming true. 

This weekend, I had the privilege of being invited on a trip to enjoy rock art (pictographs the ancients painted on cave walls).

Although we were rained out from that part of our trip, we enjoyed a wonderful walk, a night in a cabin perched above the lower Pecos River plus a day in Mexico.

I listened to stories of how the rock art and area in and around Seminole Canyon State Park in south Texas transformed my friend after a personal family tragedy.

Since then, not only is she deeply passionate about rock art, she breathes a respect and reverence for life.

As a result, she’s created a loving life in alignment with her values and goals.

Your TIP is to observe your thinking and notice how it’s affecting you.

I’ll give you a BIG hint.

If there are parts of your life and business you don’t like as well as how it’s affecting you, observe what you’re thinking and feeling.

I know it can seem crazy, that forces beyond your control are the real culprit, but your energy is at the core. Like energy attracts like energy. Only you choose your perspective.

The good news is that wherever you are and for however long it took you to get here, regardless of how hopeless or frustrating aspects of your life, finances, business, relationships or health may seem at times, you can change it.

Look for what brings you joy instead of addictively focusing on anxiety, pain, suffering, who done you wrong or who’s doing something wrong.

This includes what feels unchangeable, like actor Michael J. Fox who went from having “everything” to having Parkinson’s.

He turned it around from the worse experience to the best wake up call. It changed his life for the better.

P.T. Barnum went bankrupt and didn’t enter the circus business until age 60.There goes the “I’m too old” argument of limitation.

By 1983, the millions made by boxer, heavyweight champion and Olympic gold medalist George Foreman were almost gone. He turned it around. In 2014, Foreman topped The Richest list of top athlete entrepreneurs of all time.

What isn’t working for you?

You can realign your thinking and feeling so your biggest challenge becomes your biggest asset.

You’ll feel happier, too.

By the way, I just returned from a Christmas concert. At the end, the chorus formed a circle around the entire audience and sang, “Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me.” It’s quite a concept, especially during the holiday season.

I work with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming masterminding teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

Copyright © 2016 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

TIP: Benefits of a Breakdown

September 13, 2016

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What was up with last week’s TIP with *|FNAME}* written instead of your name?

Things don’t always go the way we think they would or should.

Regardless of appearances, if we look, we’ll find a silver lining.

I lost my internet connection early Friday afternoon, and the service provider already left for the holiday weekend.

Benefit: I took the weekend off to play and do other things instead of focusing on a deadline for my new Soulgoals website.

Monday morning I received a call from my ISP. Ah, just in time to send you my TIP.

As I was ready to hit send, the connection dropped again.

No worries, I’ll use my cell phone. Simple.

Instead, I deleted it.

My neighbor let me use her computer.

I printed what I had written on my PC and retyped it on her small screen… which is how I ended up writing *|FNAME}* instead of your name.

As the TIP was about not making things laborious, and this became a three-hour process, I decided to take a short cut.

I cut the number of words to 1/3rd.

Benefit: Every week, I had an intention to shorten my TIPS, and it didn’t quite happen. Using my fatigue as “inspiration,” life showed me how.

Your TIP is to see how your life is being rearranged to make things better.

Breakdowns or things falling apart often precede breakthroughs.

Don’t beat yourself up.

Dump the guilt and blame.

This is a moment when you can let go of your resistance and open to new perspectives.

Redirect your focus from the breakdown to the benefits.

Benefit: My breakdown provided the idea to share today’s TIP with you.

When you go through a hard period,

When everything seems to oppose you,

… When you feel you cannot even bear one more minute,

NEVER GIVE UP!

Because it is the time and place that the course will divert!

Jalaluddin Rumi

TIP: Spring Into Action

March 22, 2016

Today is a new day

What would happen if you truly realized your power and focused it? How would your life change?

How great would your relationships and home life be? Your business and finances? Your health and vitality? How much better would you feel?

What would more insight, balance and innate intelligence do?

You send out energy and a universal force matches it – you see the results in your world. Life isn’t arbitrary. It’s the effect of your clarity, thoughts, beliefs and feelings.

Spring is in the air regardless of what the weather’s doing. It reveals opportunities for change.

A woman shared that her husband, who’s the major breadwinner, lost his job last month. She was encouraged when reminded what happened during the weekend. First, there was a storm with hail, rain and strong winds. The next day brought blue skies and sun.

No matter what’s going on in your life, what you might consider good or bad, there’s always an opportunity for growth and something better with blue skies.

You’re the creator of what your next chapter looks like. Spring offers a new chapter for you to write.

A key is to hold a clear image and feeling of what you choose.

When doubt sneaks in, you tarnish the image and produce tarnished results.

Then, take inspired action.

TIP: Spring Into Action

Tap into the energy of spring as an opportunity to renew your business and life.

Revisit your dreams and goals. How are you doing? Are you making any progress?

In a way, your answer doesn’t matter as it reflects your past.

It’s your current decision that makes a difference.

Every day take a step in the direction of your goals.

Believe you can create something fun and wonderful, and you can.

When you tap into this feeling, you create good feeling mojo.

The more you enjoy this energy, the easier it is for you to be richly compensated doing what you love.

This or something better.

Regardless of your circumstances, you have a choice about how you feel about you, your goals and your life.

No calamities, people or experiences can dictate how you respond and feel.

Learn. Grow. Move on. Spring into action.

Be richly compensated doing what you love.

One more thing…

Maybe you’re thinking I know all this, but there must be a disconnect because I’m so ready for new and better.

To spring into action and your awesomeness, contact me for a free, one-hour Do What You Love Break Free Session at vg@ResolvedForResults.com.

TIP: My 12 Survival Lessons from Challenging Times

February 29, 2016

Sometimes when things fall apart, they may actually be falling into place.

I’m sharing gifts from one of the most challenging times I’ve ever had. Throughout my life, there were lessons that I stubbornly hadn’t learned, and my experience gave me an opportunity to get them in a condensed amount of time… or potentially lose everything.

I later recognized that these were a shortcut in preparation for me to do what I love in a bigger way. Without really getting their value, I would’ve stayed where I was and sabotaged my future success.

Last year, many in my community were hit by a devastating flood that washed away both homes and people. I was fortunate not to be affected by this directly. However, over the second half of last year, the effects of a mold outbreak wreaked havoc with my home, walls, furniture, health and income.

While listening to several people this week, I thought some of my insights may help you, too.

  1. A positive attitude with fear running underneath doesn’t cut it. I had to live in “good feeling mojo” and focus only on what’s working and on what feels good to me – with no luxury to slip into low energy emotions. Feeling good creates momentum for things to work out for the better. Otherwise, because for a while I could barely think straight or talk coherently (sometimes I could only smile, nod and not speak), I could’ve lost everything while immersed in the haze of mold.
  2. One morning, panic completely enveloped me. Knowing that chewing on and regurgitating my problems was a dead end, I shifted to look for solutions and found them. I had to do this for months, often looking at only the next step at a time.
  3. Through this I really learned how to dump fear, even that which runs in the background like a low-grade fever. That I did this still blows my mind… which is where fear lies. Fear isn’t real; it’s in your head. If there’s a situation to be addressed, fear and worry won’t bring you solutions. Plus, if you’re afraid, you open yourself up to others controlling you for their benefit.
  4. I’d been service-minded, caring more about others and putting their needs before mine. To survive, I had to put me first. Only then could I be of any help to others. This was a HUGE lesson that I was forced to get. By the way, if you’ve always put yourself first, your lessons may be the reverse – to see the value of giving. Ultimately, it’s about balance between giving and receiving.
  5. I learned not to care about others’ opinions of me. What others think about me is their issue. I have to do what’s right for me. That released an emotional burden of guilt and second guessing myself.  A Johnny Depp quote says it well: “Just keep moving forward and don’t give a s— about what others think. Do what you have to do for you.” Sometimes people want to keep you at their level of mediocrity because they’re afraid you’re outpacing them and might kick them to the curb. Don’t buy into others’ fears.
  6. As I was forced to funnel my energy toward taking care of me (if you’re drowning, you’re not in a position to swim over to help others), I became better at discriminating NOMB – None of My Business – and listened to people instead of coaching them to solve their problems. Not that they wouldn’t have wanted help. I didn’t have the energy to give myself away and not have enough left for myself.
  7. I finally valued my feelings so much, that I no longer allowed myself to be around negatively directed energy, mine or others, even when people didn’t realize what they were doing. If they didn’t shift, I didn’t judge them. I moved on.
  8. To balance this, creating smooth experiences with others is way, way better. Watch my manners and use my social skills, even if I was exhausted, became a mantra.
  9. I stopped trying to explain or defend myself so people would understand where I was coming from. Many were so locked into their viewpoint that they weren’t able to hear what I was saying anyway. I also learned (the hard way) not to listen to them once I realized they were rude or dumping their negative opinions on me. They were neither interested nor able to consider another perspective.
  10. Believing things will work out is an essential foundation for them actually to work… then to shift into knowing everything always works out in my favor.
  11. Maintain my dignity even when I didn’t feel I had any because of my circumstances.
  12. I realized that a reason for occasional light headedness and unexplainable fatigue I’ve had for years was a residual of a severe mold experience from 17 years ago. It would sporadically (good word for mold spores) show up. I had prayed for an answer. I got it and got rid of it.

TIP: 12 Survival Lessons from Challenging Times

You’re reading this, so I know you’re alive and therefore have been through challenging times. What did you learn? Maybe hard to see when you’re in the middle of it, but why is this a blessing in disguise?

There’s always a silver lining. You can see it if you look in the right direction.

When you redirect your focus to create good feeling mojo, you’ll create miracles and successes beyond your wildest expectations.

Step back and allow yourself to see how your business and life are actually falling into place.

By the way, if you’d like help to learn how to release beliefs that don’t serve you and be supported to do what you love in a bigger way, contact me for a free, one-hour Do What You Love Break Free Session at vg@ResolvedForResults.com.

I work with people who long to share their gifts with the world in a bigger way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them find their passion and be richly compensated doing what they love.

You Already Know What to Do

December 14, 2015

inspiration you seekA woman was given a week’s notice that her job, which included a place to live and a car, was terminated. After releasing her fear and asking for help within, she quickly learned about another position. Grateful, she was happy that her new employment seemed better than her old one.

Needing results fast and desperately, though, doesn’t always allow for the ideal results. Soon after, she realized the job was a trap. She received far less pay, had more stress, her boss rudely intruded on what little free time she had, and all she could manage was work and sleep.

Anger grew from a spark to a blaze. Once again, she was in a dead end situation. Not enough resources to make a move. People using her and not appreciating her talents. Upset with herself. No life other than work. Unhappy. Stuck. Not making what she’s worth. At the mercy of others. Not living her dream. inn

She thought she could deal with it, but the stress, including her emotional reaction to it, exhausted her body, mind and spirit. She had little choice but to shift her focus to regaining her strength.

Recognizing that resisting her circumstances was harming her, she paused, got quiet and listened.

A new perspective inspired her.

Stop investing her emotions on being upset. Take time to recoup and feel better. Stop hoping her boss would see the light. Wake up to see that years were passing her by while waiting for conditions to be just right to live her dreams. There is no more perfect time than now. Make a plan to move forward. Take action.

She felt at peace and is now patiently following what she learned from her inner guidance.

Be at peace. Go within. Listen. Act.

You don’t need to be a psychic to hear the inner whispers of wisdom and direction. Your messages will be skewed, though, when charged by emotions. Go into the silence to hear. It’s your natural state. Listen to its insight.

“Inner guidance is heard like soft music in the night by those who have learned to listen.” Vernon Howard

TIP: You Know What to Do

Confused about your next step? Unclear how to move your business or career forward?  Wondering why some people act certain ways?

Create a space where you feel connected and peaceful. Take a walk. Breathe deeply. Meditate. Journal. Enjoy a cup of tea or coffee while alone and muse.

Think of yourself as a receiver, like a satellite dish. The channel with answers to your questions is available.

Turn the dish in the direction where you’re open to receive them.

How? Go into the stillness. Ask, and it will be given.

Although a part of you may be clueless, another part of you knows what to do. Be patient and allow the answers to come.

If you’d enjoy support, validation or additional insights, you are welcome to receive a one-hour complimentary Do What You Love Break Free Session. Leave me a comment for more information.

TIP: Be Master of Your Fate

December 3, 2015

Master Your Fate

A family man in his early thirties was happily employed at a well-paying job for seven years. The young couple was ecstatic when they were able to purchase their own home. Six months later, the business closed its doors. Tired and scared, his three replacement jobs weren’t generating enough income to meet expenses.

During our casual conversation, he detailed reasons why his former job was ideal and unique… and he hasn’t been and wouldn’t be able to find anything that would replace it. His story centered on loss and lack.

An undercurrent of fear crashed against his quiet desperation.

Unbeknownst to him, his portrayal of “telling it like it is” was launching him on a hopeless trajectory of not enough, dooming himself to repeat his cycle of things not working.

I gently brought up alternate perspectives. Other possibilities were available. It would be hard to find them if he thought they didn’t exist.

A couple of days later, I was told that his attitude was much lighter and optimistic. Feeling stuck shifted to how he could find better employment. He started writing plans to follow his passion as a musician.

Don’t fall for the ego’s seduction!

The ego is a false identity and a clever bugger. It knows how to bamboozle you into feeling bad about yourself, regret your choices and wonder if your life has any more meaning than a slug.

When you believe your sad emotions are telling you the truth, you can get lost in thinking, thinking, thinking, and trying to figure out what you’re going to do about… anything. Everything. That’s the ego for you; but it’s NOT you!

The ego will lure you to doubt yourself into believing that you can’t break free of your situation.

When you buy into negative “logic,” you feel bad. You can feel like you’re on a hamster wheel of you’re not enough, nothing you do is good enough, and you don’t have enough. You obsess and feel like chopped liver (especially unpalatable to vegetarians). You then attract more of the same. The cycle continues.

Remember, you are master of your fate.

Stop arguing with your thoughts of doubt, limit, confusion and fear. Instead, boost your confidence, and appreciate yourself! Look at the good you do and have done. If you’re not finding positives in your finances or work, look to what you might consider simple things, such as being kind to animals. Build from there. Little steps add up to big ones.

 

It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley, 1849 – 1903

TIP:  Be Master of Your Fate

Listen to conversations that repeat in your head. Journal to let them go AND continue to write to gain perspective. Set an intention that insights and direction will emerge. When they do, take action.

Your Ship Didn’t Sail – That Wasn’t Your Ship!

November 10, 2015
 

Ever feel that your ship has sailed?

Aka, you missed your opportunity. You blew it. Circumstances are stacked against you, and now what? Humpty Dumpty can’t be put together again. Do not pass Go because your life is one big frustration that’s taking a nosedive from a high diving board into a shallow pool.

Forget this mental noise. Dump all these beliefs because they’re so not true.

You can bounce back from wherever you are, only not in the way you probably thought. (It’s a blessing although it may not seem it.) There are other financial opportunities. That wasn’t the only person or deal in the world. You’re not too old or too stupid. You can get out of a hole if you stop digging.

Despite appearances, there are more ships at YOUR port. You’ll see them if you stop looking at the ones that left.

The universe isn’t limited and neither are you! Life isn’t designed for you, your business, your choices, and the loonies to be perfect. Life is designed for you to grow and expand. This is how shiFt happens.

You have countless chances.

If your dream “ticket to paradise” was eaten by the dog, or you screwed things up so badly that there’s no turning back, different but better opportunities are waiting for you. And you’re all the wiser because of it.

We learn; we move on. Exit stage left the drama king or queen in us who plays the victim as we beat ourselves up or feel sorry for ourselves. Our good takes its bow on center stage as we open and are willing to receive something better.

So, if you missed my talk last week (or would like to hear an even better version), you can see me plus network at NWABC – Northwest Austin Business Connections – this Wednesday, November 11, 11:30 AM – 1 PM.

That’s where you’ll hear my presentation: From Burnt Out to Turned On – Be Richly Compensated Doing What You Love Faster and Easier than You Dreamed Possible!

Come to Mangia Pizza in Gracy Farms Shopping Center 12001 Burnet Rd., Ste D • Austin, TX 78758

http://www.nwabc.net/ has more details.

I’ve relaunched my life so much, often like a phoenix rising from the ashes, that I lost count of the times I rebooted emotionally, financially and physically. I’m sure you’ve had your share, too.

Lao Tzu said: “New Beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” Got it?  They aren’t failures. In the words of former Navy Seal Richard “Mack” Machowicz: Not dead. Can’t quit.

If not for one of the seemingly endless, painful times of my life, I would neither be coaching nor writing you now. My experiences gave me new direction. They groomed me to do what I do well and draw on my history of accomplishments more meaningfully.

What gifts did your challenges bring  you? Learn more about my story and how what I discovered can help you find your other ships by joining us this Wednesday.

TIP: Your Ship Didn’t  Sail – That Wasn’t Your Ship!

The stories you tell yourself about your business and life are what create your feelings of loss, failure, frustration, suffering… or success.

To see the bigger picture with a more positive viewpoint, look back to a time when things went you-know-where in a handbasket. What good came from it?

No, don’t think about last week’s mishaps or unresolved issues you haven’t been able to wrap your brain (or heart) around.

Look back far enough so you have the benefit of hindsight without the emotional charge.

If you’re stuck, instead of tuning into your defiant side, ask the wise part of you for perspective.

Learn. Be confident knowing that life is on your side. Good comes out of seeming bad just as fire brings necessary ecological change. Google “benefits of fire” if you doubt this.

How has your business or you emerged better for it? What ships did you board instead? If you can come on Wednesday, hearing about mine may put yours in perspective.