Does Life Suck During Covid Times?

Life sucks? Wonder where your road is taking you? Read on.

Here’s an edited excerpt from November 29, 2012, Soulgoals’ Archives about how to reshape your destiny.

If you’re happy with your life, maybe you’d like it to be even better. If you’re not happy with your life, you can change it.

Maybe you feel it would take a miracle.

Well, here’s how to create them!

The reason people are able to create miracles is they ask for them, believe they can receive them, are open to receive, and have faith and confidence life will provide.

I know. It sounds like a tall order.

Me? I have experience in resisting them even though I longed for a way out.

I got a Ph.D. in 11th hour saves. Why? Because it took me that long to let go and trust.

I used worry as a strategy.

Spoiler alert: worry only makes things worse.

Strong emotional reactions skew perspective. By the way, they have nothing to do with what you think you’re upset about. They’re often from unresolved pain or the irritation of having given away your power. Blaming others is giving your power away, too. Take responsibility. Look deeper.

Everyone has childhood experiences where fear ruled. My highly charged, emotional upbringing with screaming parents introduced me to fear as my companion. Like holding onto a childhood blanket, I continued the legacy of anxiety into adulthood by attracting stressful situations.

It really didn’t matter what it was: health; relationships; financial; whatever. As long as something went wrong, I could feel that ole, familiar, sickening dread.

Like everyone else, I have stuff to deal with, but I’m not entertaining emotions of fear-worry-stress as houseguests anymore.

What emotional instant replays do you have?

What emotions do you usually feel when you’re down for the count? Awareness leads to freedom.

Instead of automatically giving your power to an emotion, your taste buds, the next shiny object, any Homo sapiens, the internet, a calendar date, scientists, politicians or habits, take a deep breath and question.

Question everything, including cherished beliefs.

What’s the truth underneath? Find quiet time and journal. Write about your thoughts and feelings. Get “it” off your chest. Amazing insights emerge, and your self-confidence rises.

This is especially true during Covid times.

You’re not alone in this process. You know the rug that stuff got swept under? Life is forcing everyone to clear out those dust bunnies and move on.

Make a clean sweep by seeing through illusions and making empowering choices. 

It’s never too late to reshape your destiny.

Would you like to reshape your destiny?
Really, it’s possible.
Contact me to find out how:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.”

Copyright © 2020 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

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Read This If You Don’t Like How Some People Treat You

The generation before my Soulgoal Blog was Soulgoal Missives. This week, while updating my PC’s software, this missive from July 24, 2002, popped up on my screen out of nowhere. It provided insight into a situation I’d just witnessed. It’s about understanding why people react to each other the way they do. Your issue may be different from mine during my college years, but the concept still holds. People respond to others’ energy.

Soulgoal Missive, Year 1, No. 23

Speak From Your Strength

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

Dr. Seuss

My wake up call started by accident, in spite of myself. It was the moment I realized that what I said and the way I said it affected the way other people acted and reacted to me. The chef in the restaurant, where I waitressed while in college, always intimidated me. If I said, “I’m sorry, I made a mistake,” I became an even greater target for him. One day I was so busy that I dashed into the kitchen with no time for apologies or excuses. I plunked down a dish of vegetables and said, “I wanted peas not beans.” Oh, I really didn’t mean to be what I thought of as bossy or imply that he made a mistake. And I really would have given him a story, an explanation about my error, if I had an opportunity. However, “I wanted peas not beans,” were the words that began to change my life. He thought he was at fault so he didn’t lecture me. He quickly replaced the order, and I had an epiphany. No, it wasn’t to trick people to take the blame for something I did. I had been setting myself up for him to pick on me, and I didn’t even realize it. I used to think that if I acted nicer or downplayed myself, then people would respond accordingly. They did – they were at the other end of a seesaw that I created. I was on one side with sweetness, so they balanced me out with anger, control, domination, or intimidation. Through my lack of self-confidence and under the guise of being nice, I subconsciously tried to manipulate others so they would change their behavior and be nice to me. It’s a technique that ultimately does not work. Instead, speaking our truth, coming from the center of our strength, getting out of our “story” and the drama it creates, is empowering. This not only makes life more fun and stress-free, it attracts the people and circumstances needed to accomplish our goals. It’s authentic living. Anything less gives our power away to other people. We often have so much trepidation about expressing our truth and what we feel inside that we diminish our effectiveness and ourselves. We place a fear filter over every experience – past, present, and future. We no longer see life for what it is. Instead, we warp our perspective and act less than we really are. I asked participants of one of my success groups about their last year’s goals – what they were and what they actually accomplished. A woman had a financial goal that she said she didn’t come anywhere near reaching. An earlier goal was to find the right career. As she spoke, she made herself sound like a failure. One by one the team members got into their “story” about how they didn’t do the things they wanted and underplayed their successes. “Yes, I accomplished my year-long goal of cleaning my desk, (giggle) but now it’s messy again.” (By the way, we saw her results earlier in the year and held a meeting at her house to acknowledge her accomplishment.) Their inner computers were programmed to make excuses, lack clarity and be afraid to let people know who they are, under the pretext of not wanting to sound like they were bragging. I gave them a second chance to tell us about their year. They were to report what happened and speak from the heart without the “story,” be emotionally neutral, and talk from a positive, broader perspective. We then learned that even though it was a bad year financially, during the second half she found a career she enjoys. In four months, she earned 65% of her annual income!  The reason the other member let her desk get messy is that she is so busy surpassing her business goal, which previously she thought was unattainable, that she didn’t have time to clean her desk. I reminded her that her goal was to clean the desk, not clean AND maintain it. When asked if she wanted to have that as a goal for next year, she said she didn’t feel that having a clean desk is a priority anymore. This is so different from what they first told themselves and then us. They said it felt very unusual to talk about themselves in a positive, accomplished way. We’re so trained by society to hide ourselves and the beautiful light we shine. We bury it and forget. What filter do you use to tell your story about your life, your accomplishments and what you expect for your future? Make yourself the hero/heroine of your dreams. Your challenge, if you choose to accept it, is to have the courage and confidence to exchange with a friend each other’s successes from last month or last year. Speak from your strength using a positive perspective. Report on your wins, benefits and lessons learned. Talk from your heart without the story, and be emotionally neutral. With a zest for Life, Virginia                                                                      Success Thought Be mindful of the words that you use and the actions that you live and who you are and how it is you use your power. In other words, as you say what you say, as you make commitments, as you form the power of your life, keep clear at all times that you are what you say you are, that you put your force behind what you say, and monitor that accordingly. Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul   Virginia Goszewska, the founder of Soulgoals, believes each person and business has a way to contribute to life. The coaching systems she developed that help people find clarity, take action and experience personal and professional success are based on decades of research and experience. As a regional manager with a worldwide, top ten, Inc. 500 company and at top-level executive positions of international corporations, Virginia received awards in sales, training, management and business development. From Southeast Asia to the United Kingdom, people around the world have benefited from her expert coaching, compassionate insights and common sense.  Virginia offers complimentary Break-Free sessions by phone, holds workshops, seminars, team building programs and is a keynote speaker. She can be contacted at virginia@soulgoals.com  or (512) 842-1231. Please feel free to forward this to friends and associates in its entirety.

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You Don’t Own Me – Enough of Crazy-Makers and Annoying Thoughts

“If you do not run your subconscious mind yourself,
someone else will run it for you.”
Florence Scovel Shinn

This is a reprint of an email I sent to my clients on March 31, 2014. Now I’m sharing it with you.

While driving, a client told me that he had to pull over to the side of road to scream at his thoughts to shut up.

It reminds me of these lyrics: “You don’t own me. I’m not just one of your many toys… And don’t tell me what to do. And don’t tell me what to say… So just let me be myself. That’s all I ask of you.”

Few welcome being controlled, yet most are controlled by feelings and thoughts they don’t want.

Have you ever been plagued by beating yourself up with worry and fear over money; stress about time or relationships; grief; suffering over the way you look or feel; confusion over what to do; sadness or countless other ways of feeling bad? That’s why many turn to drugs, alcohol, food, over-working and blaming others.

What to do?

Gotta DO something. Ah yes, the default response: analyze, take time to process, wrap your brain around it or intellectually understand.  

But here’s the trickster’s game of your ego, which is the false identity you think is you.

Because our computer/ brain was never programmed with how to get rid of these feelings and thoughts, we end up feeling worse because we can’t find answers.

Or we get ideas that we can’t get to make work, blame ourselves… but keep trying ineffective approaches.

As a client said, it’s like going to a dry well looking for a drink of water, and the well is toxic anyway.

Regardless, most have a habit of trying to figure out how to let go of the way they feel, and they often can’t allow themselves to hear anything that doesn’t center around mental solutions. If you’ve done this, it’s an indicator that you’ve given your power to your ego to control you, own you, instead of knowing how to gain mastery of your life.

Results? As like attracts like, if you’re feeling negative you’ll attract more negativity. Positive attracts positive.

If you feel unwanted emotions, who’s having you feel this way?  They may have started with childhood messages or emerged because of circumstances, but there’s no one in your head telling you to think or feel this way.

As you’re the one who’s doing it, you CAN choose to do something differently.

Before you start beating yourself up about having beaten yourself up, there’s NOT something pathetically wrong with you. It’s the way the ego works, and we all have one.  BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO CONTROL YOUR LIFE,  MAKE YOU FEEL MISERABLE, DRIVE YOU NUTS OR HOLD YOU BACK FROM MAKING YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE!

Everything is energy, and the energy from thoughts or feelings can be released. They’re only feelings. They don’t have to own you.

Years ago while we were talking, a friend of mine felt anxiety about her upcoming divorce. I suddenly felt anxiety in my gut, but hers was gone. I said I didn’t want it and gave it back to her. We laughed as we bounced the sick in the gut feeling back and forth between us before deciding to let it go. In other words, we could control the presence and absence of this gut-wrenching feeling which meant we could simply let it go.

This includes any feeling!

You can do the same.

Instead of acting helpless in the grips of Robo-Ego, know that you’re in charge and undesirable feelings can leave.

Here are a few tips:

• If you want or need something, you’re coming from lack. You’ll be perpetually in a place of wanting instead of having what you choose.
• What you resist persists. Although it sounds counter-intuitive, if you don’t like something, you’re holding onto it.
• When you let go of trying to control, wanting validation or desiring safety, you can have them.

Ever notice when men or women want a relationship? The objects of their desire want to run. Same thing with money, health or anything.

The freedom everyone longs for breezes in when we let go because then we allow our spirit, our wise self within, to be in charge. It can happen in seconds not years. But we block ourselves from having what we really, really want when we clutch onto yucky feelings in our chest or gut or when we’re stuck in our heads.

There are underlying beliefs we’ve tucked away that impact us, but they can be prompted to surface and be released.

Everyone has the ability to let go although some resist. So, we come back to who owns you?

You DO have a choice.

The ego is at the core of all the lack of success and suffering we experience.

I’m more than happy to share phenomenally effective tools I’ve learned and created to unravel patterns and help you release their incessant drone of control, disapproval and insecurity so you experience true freedom and make your dreams come true.

Those dreams can be anything from financial success to living a better life.

What would feel better? Feeling anxiety or having peace? Wanting success or having success?

If you’d like to learn more about letting go so you can master your feelings and have what you really, really want, please contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com.

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I received this email from Kathryn Brown, CEO of Adventure Más, describing results from a recent VIP Letting Go Session. (She creates zip lines and more. How cool is that!)  Here’s a practical demonstration of what letting go can do about relationships and money:

Toward the end of my second time participating in Virginia’s program, I decided to try one of her sessions designed to help clear the ego of its default “methods of operation.” At first I resisted. I didn’t want to add anything more to my plate, even knowing that it would more than likely exponentially assist me in clearing old programs that were blocking my progress. I thought, “I can do this later.” It was really no surprise, given the success I had with her program, when I witnessed the synchronicity of events on the day I agreed to do the session.

I realized when I arrived at Virginia’s that I had forgotten my card I had written my issues on for our session. No problem—Virginia picked up on the issues I had forgotten.

It was a great session, and Virginia was very gracious with her time. It was sometime after I got home that I found the card I wrote my issues on and noticed my husband’s handwriting on the back of it. Although I hadn’t gone into any details about what I was going to talk about, he had picked up on many of the issues Virginia and I had discussed and very sensitively and lovingly addressed them bringing me to tears. The issues were about control and security although we had what I considered to be a good relationship.

One of the great blessings was realizing on a much deeper level that everything we think and feel about someone, they know, whether spoken or not.

Our judgments have a big impact on our lives and can block our progress. I began to see how my judgments driven by ego, no matter how quickly I thought I let them go, were really hanging around. My need for control and security was larger than I had imagined.

Additionally, I had a business contract that was ready to renew. Not only did it renew but I was offered more money than before!

What I walked away with were:

• Skills I can use in my everyday life when I catch myself in my own ego traps.
• I feel much more at peace in situations.
• I am very much at ease with who I am.
• I’m comfortable with my need for control and security at times—I just love them unconditionally and release them unconditionally.
• I have learned to let go of many things I had so tightly hung onto out of an unconscious fear.
• The world keeps spinning but I don’t have to.

I would recommend this session to anyone whether you think you are “ready or not”!

Kathryn Brown
President & CEO of Adventure Más

If you’d like to learn more about letting go so you can master your feelings and make room to have what you really, really want, please contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com

With gratitude,
Virginia

If you’d like to find out
more about how you can
be free of what’s 
holding you back so
you can live a more
wonderful life,
contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
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I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
living a life they love.

Neville Goddard on Why You Fail… or Succeed

A friend, who’s been going through challenging times, told me that she got a nudge to open the book The Power of Awareness by Neville Goddard to receive inspiration and direction. She opened it to any page.

She landed on this quote, which she said was the cause of every problem she’s ever had:

“If your concept of yourself is that you are a failure, you would encounter in your imagination a whole series of incidents in conformance to that concept.

“Thus it is clearly seen how you, by your concept of yourself, determine your present, that is, the particular portion of creation which you now experience, and your future, that is, the particular portion of creation which you will experience.” page 43

How can you dissipate a negative self-concept? With your imagination.

Earlier in this chapter on “Creation,” he gives an example.

“What determines the events which you encounter? And the answer is your concept of yourself. Concepts determine the route that attention follows. Here is a good test to prove this fact. Assume the feeling of your wish fulfilled and observe the route that your attention follows. You will observe that as long as you remain faithful to your assumption, so long will your attention be confronted with images clearly related to that assumption. For example; if you assume that you have a wonderful business, you will notice how in your imagination your attention is focused on incident after incident relating to that assumption. Friends congratulate you, tell you how lucky you are… From there your attention goes to larger offices, bigger bank balances, and many other similarly related events. Persistence in this assumption will results in actually experiencing in fact that which you assumed.”

So, dear friend, consider how you can improve your self-concept.

A low opinion of your self is simply a lie that got drilled into your head. Because you believed it, your energy attracted like experiences to you. Then you had visual proof that others or yourself were right.

Likewise, your success is a reflection of your self-concept.

No ideas can rent space in your thinking unless you let it.

Starting right now, think of one way you can change your self-concept, and live more fully the life you love.

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I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Are Negative People Dragging You Down?

“What caused you to generate over $7.6 million in sales in just the first five months of this year but only $3.5 million in sales last year,” I asked.

He replied, “I didn’t realize what a downer my employee was on my attitude. What a negative drag on me! I didn’t want to deal with her. When she quit, a dark cloud lifted.”

“After she left, I had to step up my game, starting with my attitude that was in a funk. I used to spend days frustrated and mad at her, which stopped me from doing positive things.

“I had a choice: be positive and grateful or stay in a funk, which equaled less productivity. I chose to embrace my new freedom and move forward.

“Was I going to operate by myself or replace her? I decided I didn’t need a crutch nor did I need to hire anybody. Instead, I decided to have a better attitude.”

The reason he held onto his employee for so long is that he didn’t have her computer skills, which are essential in his business. So he leaned on her, although it was an ongoing struggle. She acted like she owned the business and he was her employee, even though he is a well-seasoned expert in his field!

“I’m way happier now. I changed from being needy, clutchy, clingy and dependent. My confidence is back.”

He continued by saying, “The Law of Attraction is real. Asking the universe is real.”

Life reflected back to him what was in his attitude and focus – lack and frustration or abundance and happiness.
 

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“The difference between the last five months and the previous 18 months is a slow creep of frustration, despair and anger, which had weaved its web around me.

“Now I’m blessed with an abundance of opportunities because of a change in my current attitude, mindset and outlook.

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He got his lesson about negative people dragging him down:

“Two weeks ago, I even fired a client who was disrespectful, unappreciative and not following my recommendations.”

After he explained the circumstances, it was clear that their business relationship had been headed for a miserable dead end. Now, not feeling needy for money or anything else, he no longer was willing to put up with the client’s attitude, which increasingly would’ve become an unproductive and unsatisfying investment of his own time and energy.

He learned his lesson about how negative people can drag him down and how it becomes a slippery slope that can leave a person hitting bottom wondering, “What just happened? How did I get here?”

Are you allowing negative people in your life?  If so, what price are you paying for that choice? What are you learning?

It’s okay if you are. We all learn by discovering that a choice of action may not produce the results for which we hoped. However, you can make new choices. Again. And again…

You have options, such as a change in attitude, a change in people or circumstances.

Or maybe you’ll discover that there’s something about you that’s creating a downer for others.

Einstein is quoted to have said: “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

A common trap is to expect solutions to come in a way using familiar thinking, even though that thinking is what created our problems. We sometimes look for validation that we’re right instead of being willing to receive new ideas, tools and insights.

Howard Hestand, a client who improved his portfolio 80% in three months, expressed his shift in thinking like this. Although he’s referring to my Soulgoals program, I mention it because these are key elements for anyone looking to change for the better.

“This course taught me a different way of thinking, how to listen to myself, be more observational about the ego and set effective goals and intentions.”

To solve problems, regardless if you’ve been “downed” or the downer, the way out is being open to new approaches. As Einstein implies, the new thinking will be different from how we believe life works.

P.S. Know someone who might
like this? Please forward.

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck, could
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

You Don’t Have to Push Yourself Harder

What I’m about to tell you is opposite to what most of us learned is the way to achieve success. Forget about: No pain, no gain. You have to work hard for what you want. Put your nose to the grindstone. Success requires sacrifice, suffering and struggle. Beliefs like these often don’t create sustainable results nor do they lead to a happy life. Furthermore, trying hard is exhausting. When we align our positive energy first and then take inspired action with grace and ease, we can create better outcomes while feeling good, too.  A client, whose career is in the fitness industry, shared how his life is working better. “I let go of pushing harder. I had the kind of personality to be hard on myself, more disciplined. It left me feeling out of control, especially about things I can’t do anything about. “I had mind-numbing, self-critiquing all the time. I was looking for approval.  “Now I see how when I’m softer and centered, I’m in control. It’s easier to be in my own skin. People are more at ease around me because I’m more at ease with myself. “I make choices moment-to-moment instead of worrying about the future and what others think. “I catch myself a lot quicker instead of having long periods of anxiety. I chart my course by mentally creating my ideal scenario and letting go of the pushing. “Week by week, this new way of living life is sinking in as I allow myself to go from efforting to grace and ease.  “I’ve reclaimed my natural power and feel myself evolving to my true potential as I achieve my goals.” There was more joy, confidence and lightness in his voice as well. You can tap into a zone where you won’t need to push yourself. By getting out of your own way, you can get more done with better results and even go beyond limits. It starts by shifting from trying to relaxing into a flow of doing what you love. Olympic athletes center and focus themselves before taking action. The winners go beyond worry and ride the wave of their event – even when changing winds seem to be against them. They’re at the right place at the right time to avoid the hazards. You can, too. P.S. Know someone who might enjoy this post? Please share. I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Are Crazy People Taking Over Your Life?

 

 

One afternoon, while on Broadway in midtown Manhattan, New York City, I walked a few people behind a man who was having an animated argument with someone. Speaking in a loud voice with gesticulating hands, I wondered who was the recipient of such a tirade. It was just him battling with himself. Someone and something really got to this guy, and he allowed it to drive him to act crazy. Throughout your life, some people have done you wrong, and some may have gotten to you. In the past (or maybe present), you’ve been: abused, misused, ignored, rejected, undermined, betrayed, robbed, disappointed, manipulated, misunderstood, humiliated, put down or the focal point of someone’s greedy, crazy, unconscious, demeaning, insecure, unfair or malevolent intent. Often the perpetrators have been those most trusted and least expected to turn on you, such as: close friends, family, significant others, church members, neighbors, co-workers, clients, bosses or business associates. The results may have left you feeling that you’ve lost: hope, your confidence, your spark of life, your capacity to find joy, your ability to ever succeed again or even care about it, your connection to the universe or your faith in God. “The most important question you can ever ask is if the world is a friendly place.”  Einstein It’s a big question to ponder. Your answer determines if you’re going to let the crazies, past and present, or less-than-favorable circumstances get to you, and consequently, impede your ability to be open to the success and enjoyment you richly deserve. Are you letting undesirable memories occupy your attention so much that you won’t allow yourself to see that the world is a friendly place? Often we’re attached to how we expect people and things are supposed to be. When they go haywire, our ego/ brain loves to binge watch reruns of movies about our sad stories over and over again. Instead, change the channel and focus on something in your life that works. Relitigating your past by vacillating between trying to prove how you’re right and “how dare they” doesn’t help. Have you noticed? You won’t end up feeling better, and feeling good is important as it’s a key to attract success. Personally, instead of letting go of my faith in life and humanity, I (eventually) learned to have greater discernment. As Kenny Rogers sang in “The Gambler:” You’ve got to know when to hold ’em Know when to fold ’em Know when to walk away And know when to run. Some people in my life who appeared to be helpful, trustworthy, supportive, emotionally healthy, well-meaning and even spiritually awake… I came to realize were toxic. I could grumble about them incessantly, which I’ve done. I found it more useful, though, to see them as my teachers: learn my lessons, chalk it off to another life experience and move on. It took me a while to see people for who they are, not for who I thought they were or wanted them to be.    Here’s an interesting twist. Underneath this crazymaking, there’s a whole lot of disapproval going on. Sometimes the other person starts it, and we respond back with disapproval and judgment, or vice versa. When we enmesh ourselves in disapproval energy, we give others the power to control our happiness — from complete strangers whose driving we don’t like to annoying people in our day-to-day lives. When we expect others to behave or show up in a certain way so we can feel good about ourselves, in essence we’re saying: You need to change so I don’t have to change. My caring about you is conditional. It’s dependent on you acting the way I think you should. Otherwise, I might feel that I’ve lost control. When the awareness comes that we alone have control of our attitude, then we don’t need others to be different so we can feel good. Of course, do what’s wise to take care of yourself, but you get to choose your attitude. Energy changes when practicing this. The crazies start to evaporate from your life like the morning fog when the sun comes up. Do you allow others to affect your psyche, your joy of living, your success, your ability to pick yourself up and start again regardless of whoever or whatever happened or is happening to you? It’s your choice. With gratitude, Virginia I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.   Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Are Others Affecting How Much Money You Make?

A client’s business was doing great when suddenly her success screeched to a halt with only one completed transaction in nearly six months!

Being someone who looks on the positive side, she regularly reported having several deals that were pending or appeared to be sure bets. However, it turned out that each one fell apart for one reason or another.

To top it off, she gave several, well-received marketing presentations that were supposed to bring referrals, but that didn’t work out.

While talking about it during a 1:1 session, she connected the dots.

Her momentum stopped the same month she became the leader of a service group that helps people who are, shall I say, challenged in their housing situations.

In addition to their poverty thinking, she noticed that when her group is together, their conversations drift into drama about their lives.

Add to this a new boss who complains a lot, which motivates my client to schedule appointments so she and her manager are together in the office as little as possible.

At the end of our session together, she realized she had to take better care of her energy.

Three days later during her mastermind team meeting by phone, she shared the following.

Instead of driving with others to do their charitable work, and thinking about butterflies and rainbows to tune out their whining, she took care of herself by driving her own car.

She said, “We have to guard our energy as if our life depends on it, because it does.”

The following day, only four days after her aha moments and after months of setbacks, I received her enthusiastic voicemail.

“I want to let you know it has been a fantastic, fantastic day.”

• “I met a client last night after we got off our call. He submitted all his documentation immediately, and he’s ready for approval.”
• Another client of hers had a significant issue that miraculously got resolved, so his deal is moving along.
• Another woman’s deal is now in the process of closing, too.
• Plus, she received a call to present to 35 professionals in her target market.

She ignited her momentum by releasing other people’s negative energy and being more attentive to taking care of her own.

Her mastermind team member commented, “The energy of others weaves its way into our lives.”

Wallace D. Wattles wrote in his classic book The Science of Getting Rich, “Get rich; that is the best way you can help the poor. And you cannot hold the mental image which is to make you rich if you fill your mind with pictures of poverty.”

Poverty can come in many forms, such as money, spirit, focus, associations, confidence and beliefs.

Pay attention to the energy others are weaving in your life. How can you take better care of your energy? What unseen energy of others might be taking a toll on you and your finances?

Wondering what to do about it? Ask your Essence. It has your “soulution.”  

With gratitude,

Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.
I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

TIP: My First Drag Show

 

I didn’t know what to expect at my first drag show. What I found were three women who love entertaining and what they do while letting the audience join in on the fun. What a weekend to be free to be yourself as the USA celebrated our national Independence Day of freedom. Freedom for what? Freedom to enjoy barbecues. Freedom to do whatever we want as long as we’re not interfering with others. Freedom of speech. Freedom to be who we are – whatever that means. Freedom to express ourselves. Some feel you should have freedom so you can think they way they do, but that’s not true freedom. While watching the show, I thought about how these who were men at birth considered their gender identity and made a decision. They chose to align their outer lives with what they felt within. Imagine that. Living true to you. Doing what you love instead of what’s expected or feeling stuck. These women found freedom from judgments, the risk of disappointing others and what some feel they should be. They do what it takes to be in alignment with themselves in spite of the inconvenience and expense of surgery, hormone injections and more. They stopped hiding and instead revel in their difference – even capitalize on it. If they can live true to themselves and their dreams, why not you? If they can overcome society’s opinions and turn it into an art form, what’s stopping you? What’s holding you back from really expressing yourself and your gifts? Why not really show up for who you are, shine and play big? What excuse is so big that you can’t find a way? Some hold back, question themselves, play weak, and hesitate when opportunities to break free present themselves. Some come up with seemingly logical reasons (busy schedules, money, family, health, not the right time) why they can’t move forward on living their dreams. Because they buy into their stories, they think others believe their limited beliefs, too. But they’re just keeping themselves back from greater freedom. Some are afraid of living, really living life to the fullest, and don’t believe in themselves and that they can do it. Some are afraid of possible pain and discouragement – projecting the past onto the future. Others are afraid of getting hurt, rejected or exhausted from trying – what if one more thing doesn’t work? This is how the ego works – it tricks you into thinking you’re playing it safe by keeping you in status quo or worse – sliding backwards. You are much greater than this. You have everything it takes to tune into who you are, share your gifts with the world and be richly compensated doing what you love. Your TIP is to express yourself with no limit and live your destiny, not someone else’s, NOW. You can make a decision to be alive and awake in this moment – not live in past regrets or fear of the future. You can make a decision to take action now and not put off your freedom to be the greatest you that you can be. You can decide there’s no better time to do what you love rather than put it off for some better time that never comes. Or if it does, you find another excuse to put it off. You can make a stand for YOU to express the you that’s been hiding out. You can do what you love and let go of the seemingly rational excuses and procrastination that keep you stuck. You can tap into your courage with confidence and claim your freedom to express who you are and live your dreams. You do have a choice. There’s no better time than now. Happy freedom and independence to you.

TIP: A Shortcut to Success

Thomas Edison & Henry Ford

 

Be sure to scroll to the bottom about a time-sensitive opening.

Would you love to benefit from a phenomenal shortcut that boosts creativity and success and has been used regularly by icons like Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, Benjamin Franklin, J.R.R. Tolkien and Bill Gates?

I just got off a Mastermind Success Team call with graduates from my Resolved for Results program. This is not your typical mastermind team of brainstorming and accountability.

Our intention is to use our clarity and focus to tap into a vortex of energy that manifests success surpassing our wildest dreams.

Those on this morning’s call with their new team are movers and shakers in diverse industries… and the vortex of dynamic energy we created was palpable, filled with respect and appreciation for each other as we shared this remarkable experience together. You’ll read their comments in a moment.

First, if you’re wondering what I mean by masterminding, here’s an excerpt from my program Resolved for Results: A Step-by-Step Guide to Do What You Love… even if you failed before, lost hope, are afraid, stressed or confused.

“Napoleon Hill introduced the term masterminding in the early 1900s in his classic book Think and Grow Rich as ‘the coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people for the attainment of a definite purpose... No two minds ever come together without thereby creating a third, invisible intangible force,  which may be likened to a third mind.‘

“You’ve heard how most people use 10% or less of their brain. Similarly, you only require less than 10% of your spirit to function in your daily life.

“Masterminding invokes the soul, which is 100% of your spirit, to assist you to design a life of your choice.  Multiply this by the number of people in a harmonious mastermind group and place the Prime Creator at the center.

“This is the mastermind energy.  ….  It’s no surprise, then, that the mastermind creates results beyond what you can do using just 10% or less of ordinary thinking and effort.”

Here are a few comments resulting from bathing in the vortex of mastermind energy this morning. If you tune into the energy behind the words, it can lift you out of feeling stuck and into creative power where you allow yourself to be richly compensated doing what you love:

• I could feel and see my goals happening. I got a boost of energy and confidence to say, “Yes. Fulfilling my dream is right and the right time to do this.” I’m speechless. It’s an amazing feeling.
• Business can be a struggle because of the drama created that’s part of my industry. It’s natural for me now to create the business volume I choose with certainty and joy.
• Love the small, intimate group with people who have a personal foundation which includes dignity, grace, professionalism and an intention of getting things done. It makes our time on the call very efficient with a minimum of fluff.
• Knowing other people believe in me gives me confidence to move forward. Here I go. Taking a big step together makes it easier. I’m not so alone.
• We can manifest our dreams and turn them into reality – it’s up to us.

For you to create greater success in your business and life requires your focused attention and what I call “good feeling mojo.” Good energy creates success!

Your thoughts and feelings magnetize results… positive or negative. If you’re wondering what you’re attracting, look around you. If you’re frustrated, depressed, worried, stressed, afraid or wondering how you’re going to do something, your world will reflect that and bring you more reasons to feel the way you do.

When your attention is on what’s working, the positive image of where you’re going and the good feelings it creates opens you to success quickly and with grace and ease.

Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

Form or find a mastermind group of two or more people to gain clarity and focus on turning your cherished dreams and goals to reality.

Isn’t it time you received effective supportive energy to help you get what you really, really want?

A new Resolved for Results mastermind team starts next week, and we have two openings for you and/or your friends. The program also includes a personal Belief Release session as a bonus! 

If you know people who might be interested in raising their business or creative expression to a higher level and transforming their lives, please forward this email to them.

To find out more, contact me with questions or for a free, one-hour Do What You Love Break Free Session at vg@ResolvedForResults.com.