Are You Jumping to the Right Conclusion?

February 4, 2019

Are your conclusions a stretch of your imagination?

 

After sitting through a couple of traffic lights behind a car that wouldn’t budge, my friend got very annoyed.

He thought, what’s wrong with these people along with several choice expletives.

Finally, he angrily swerved around to get in the lane next to them. In the car was a man and a child in the passenger seat.

As my friend turned to the driver to give him a piece of his mind, the man asked, “Which way to the hospital? I have to take my child to the hospital, and I don’t know if I need to turn right or left.”

With this new information and perspective, his annoyance instantly left. He became fully engaged in helping.

Recently, a woman explained how she was quite bothered by something I’d said. She felt upset for months, since we had our last conversation. When we finally talked again, she told me that she didn’t know how I could’ve said such a thing and made analogies all pointing to why she should be indignant.

She assumed the story she was telling herself was correct, and therefore she was justifiably angry with me.  

A couple of minutes into her explanation, when I realized she had totally misinterpreted the point I was making, I clarified what I was saying. Very quickly, the story and irritation at me that she’d been holding onto for so long evaporated.

I suggested that, in the future, she talk with me if she had an issue rather than jump to conclusions.

If you find yourself upset about something and jumping to conclusions, take a step back and observe. Is this a one-time or ongoing occurrence? Might there be a different way of connecting the dots? There may be a different way of handling this.

Perhaps there’s a lesson for you to learn. Maybe there’s a different story you can tell about it and discover a new conclusion.

Are you using or misusing your imagination?

With gratitude,

Virginia

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How My Client Lost His $100 Million Empire

January 28, 2019

Here’s a blurry picture that he took of me next to his Lamborghini in his parking garage. See the angled object to the left? The doors open up to reveal the steering wheel and car’s interior. It’s one powerful beast of a car to ride in.

 

I remember the day he told me that he “got it.” While driving after a team meeting, the words he’d been hearing woke him up. His imagination creates his world, and he controls his imagination. That was his turning point.

Joining one of my first Success Teams in 1995, he was so brilliant then that I sometimes took notes when he spoke.

He started as a small business owner and then moved out-of-state where he built an empire valued around $100 million in a cutthroat industry. His personal monthly take home, not including his business profits, was $40,000 a month.

Looking to pass on techniques that created his success, he flew me in to train his salesmen. Sitting at one end of the conference table, he introduced me as the reason he achieved what he did.

There’s a 1970’s commercial that says, “When EF Hutton talks, people listen.” When he finished talking, not only did everyone turn 180 degrees to hear what I had to say, I literally heard the swish as their heads swung in my direction.

That month, he hit his first million dollar month.

However, his focus changed, and he wanted to be free to fulfill… well, anything he wanted.

After that, we lost contact for three years. It wasn’t until his lifestyle behaviors, let’s say of wine, women, song and ego gratification, created such heavy, negative consequences that he reached out to me again.

Being very conscious of his physical appearance, he worked out a lot. He told me later that he knew alcohol put on weight… so he started to use cocaine instead.

With dramatic personality changes, he felt that as long as he paid people well, including close family members who worked for him, he could be verbally abusive and treat them however he wanted.

As time went on, things became very bad. That’s when he contacted me to fly in and work for him.


Once, while looking for validation, he said to me, “Come on, Virginia, I’m your most successful client. Right?” For him, money was the penultimate symbol of success.


The drugs rewired his brain, and I slowly began to acknowledge that he wasn’t the same man I once knew. Too slowly. I still bought into his reasoning, his excuses.

I still saw him as the awesome man he used to be. I’d known this man for decades and saw him through that filter. Even after I bailed him out of jail. Even as I was asked to sit outside his office the next day when I went to work and discovered the law put on locks to bar entry.

His family staged clever, false, illegal strategies against him. However, the way he reacted and handled it nailed his own coffin.

There was always an explanation that it was someone else’s fault. This included when he railed against the judge in a long letter to all his clients that the judge was in cahoots with the other side.

We were shopping in Whole Foods when he told me that, earlier in the day, in a court in another state, a judge officially stripped him of it all. His $100 million empire — gone.

This occurred during the time I invited him into my home to offer a safe haven and supportive modalities to help him get back on track.

At least, that’s what I thought was happening.

That week, I watched him sit in a chair in my living room, lost in a world of his own, angrily and vulgarly name-calling siblings who did him wrong.

On the fifth day of his visit, his welcome abruptly ended when he viciously shouted at me like a repeating rifle, in my own home where he was a guest, accusing me of trying to get him killed. How much were they paying me? How could I betray him like that? Why was I lying?

With a drug-addled brain, his former good discernment was replaced with a dark and out-of-control imagination. Earlier in the week, he shared with me how he was paranoiac, afraid and suspicious of people.

It reminded me of when I walked behind a man on a sidewalk in Times Square, New York City, who was having an angry conversation with someone who didn’t exist physically but was very alive in his head, like an endless, repetitive loop of a broken record.


My client, my friend, became a cherry on top of my life lesson of the year, ranging from business to an intimate relationship:

See people for who they are and how they’re showing up NOW — not how they used to be, not who their words tell you they are, not as a fantasy of how you’d like them to be.


I realized how I did this in a relationship, too. I saw a man that I was dating not for how he was showing up in the world. I believed the image he was projecting to me.

The worst part is that he believed his own lies.

Once, I told him, “I don’t trust you.” He replied, “You don’t trust yourself.” 

He was redirecting my attention so I would doubt myself, but I think he believed he was communicating some insightful truth. Later I realized: yes, he was right. I didn’t trust myself that he wasn’t a man to be trusted.

Not long after he spoke those words, drama from his emotional dishonesty overflowed into my life.

When I asked one of my teachers what those experiences were all about, he told me, “People hear and believe what they want to believe.” He added to see people for how they’re showing up, not how you want them to be or their potential.

That was my HUGE wake-up call!!

People Hear and Believe What They Want to Believe. 

I wasn’t paying attention to what is but living out of past images that were!

I see the same things in today’s world.

When politicians’ true colors start to show, some people remain in denial. They won’t separate their wishful thinking about who they thought the politicians were from how they’re actually showing up. Evidence to the contrary be damned.

May you wake up to SEE.  May you have the courage to set aside your filters, those oh so comforting protective mechanisms, to see whatever there is in your life that would benefit from your clear sight.

 

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On a Dark, Desolate Road in Spain, This Happened to Me

January 21, 2019

The landscape looked like this, but the night sky was much darker.

After enjoying a month on the island of Ibiza in Spain, I traveled across the Mediterranean Sea to the eastern city of Valencia and then hitchhiked south along the coast to catch a boat and meet a friend in Tangiers. From there, we would travel across northern Morocco on his classic British Matchless motorcycle.

Hitchhiking in Europe was common when I was in my early twenties, and I met many people who graciously acted as if they were personal European hosts to foreigners.

Late afternoon, following a day of quick rides, a man treated me to my first experience of tapas, a Spanish appetizer, at a busy tapas bar.

After eating, I continued my journey as I put out my thumb for the next part of my journey, this time with a trucker.

Soon the sunny day turned to a gorgeous sunset, which turned to a dimly lit evening, and the vacation-spirited, coastal road turned inland. I missed the implications of that shift on the map.

During my 1 1/2 years in Europe and surrounding countries, I only ran into two potential problems while hitchhiking. The night after my transatlantic flight was the first potentially ugly episode. This was to become the second.

Although I couldn’t understand his Spanish while conversing, there was no problem in communication when he stopped at the side of the road.

I had a choice: sex or get out.

Of course, I got out. Then I saw where I was — desolate, surrounded by sand and what looked like a semi-arid desert with the outline of mountains in the distance, miles and miles away from anything or anybody.

I secretly opened my pocket knife, chipping off part of my tooth in the process.

Of course, I thought, he couldn’t possibly leave me here alone, so I went back into the truck’s cab.

Of course, he thought, this meant I agreed to have a romp with him.

Of course, I got out again. And he drove off and left me.

I was alone in the silent dark, in the middle of nothingness and nowhere, in the literal midst of no man’s land… and captivated by the still moment of exquisite Presence. Someone was watching out for me because I felt awe instead of fear.

Not too long after, I saw small lights undulating their way to me on the curvy road. In the several minutes that followed, I wondered how a speeding vehicle could see me in the dark and stop, and who was in the vehicle?

I decided to trust fate about the passengers — most people I met weren’t loonies like that trucker. Anyway, I didn’t have a lot of choices.

About how to highlight my physical existence, I remembered I had a matchbook with fewer than 20 matches in my backpack. As the lights drew closer, I lit one, single match, after another.

The driver stopped.

Much to my delight, the man spoke fluent English and was a perfect gentleman. He told me that all hotels in the port city would be booked by now. He dropped me off at a hotel in a nearby town where I could easily catch a ride the next morning in time for a boat.

Then he paid for my hotel room. No strings attached!

Actually, even though I never asked, countless people I met along the way gave me accommodations during my European trek. In addition to paying for several hotel rooms, twice I was given an apartment to myself for an entire month, once in Paris and another in Vienna, plus extended weeks at people’s homes. I believe they understood the travel adventure and wanted to help a young sojourner. All for free, asking nothing in return.

I can’t imagine how I would’ve spent the night in a port city with no vacancies and the endless time trying to figure out what to do if it weren’t for the incident with the trucker and the kind man who helped. Blessings are often in disguise.

I didn’t let fear persuade me to make a bad choice, and it worked out for the best.

Bullies, no matter what their position, don’t have to win unless we let them.


“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”
Martin Luther King Jr.


Perhaps there’s a seemingly impossible situation where you feel stuck and don’t know what to do. Maybe it appears to be someone else’s fault.

Somehow you got yourself into it, and somehow you can get yourself out.

There’s always a way out. Trust yourself and listen to the voice within for guidance.

My mother frequently said, “Where there’s a will there’s a way.”

As you’re finding your way, look for the silver lining, too. It’s there. 

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iT waz oNe of tHOse Dayz… and I Feel Great Anyway!

January 14, 2019

I’ve given countless workshops, but I never had more enthusiasm than I had while putting the one together last week. In addition to preparing for the workshop, I lovingly made food for nine people, cleaned and decided it was time for several house upgrades, etc., etc.

The night before the workshop, I awoke way early with less than two hours of sleep, but I didn’t feel tired.

I LOVED the workshop on Saturday, had an essential time out on Sunday and then Monday I jumped right into a full schedule.

Apparently because of all my activity, I wasn’t firing on all cylinders, and things got wonky.

Usually, I write this blog in advance, with a couple of days to edit and mail it to my list a little after 7 AM.

I didn’t get up until 7:30 and had no writing done at all.

A rough draft came together, and I edited between coaching sessions… only to discover after I mailed it that I completely wrote the wrong last name of a dear client.

The client in my first session had a brilliant insight that was so good I was going to write a blog about it. I mean, it even mirrored what I was learning last year. I carefully wordsmithed her ideas as she talked and wrote them down. At the end of her session, I hurried off the phone because of a scheduled call, a woman who’s always on time.

No call came.

Nonetheless, I was in my rush to send the client’s notes from the first session to her. I mixed up her last month’s and this month’s files I was closing and didn’t save her current one. All those wonderful ideas I carefully crafted for her and my future writing — poof! Gone.

While waiting for the call that was very late, another client called to reschedule. We did that, and then I commented about an experience that was happening to him. I soon realized I had been talking to myself. I don’t know if my phone disconnected or his. I called back and got his voicemail.

The woman who was supposed to call me got the time zones mixed up. We had a great conversation. We were starting to talk about her registering for my program when her baby did what babies do after they eat… everywhere. Yes, let’s talk another day.

And so the day continued to go.

However, what interested me throughout the day is the way I felt.

It’s probably a combination of getting tired of years of reacting to a lifetime of crazies and, as a consequence, what I’ve learned about being in present time, that I didn’t trigger an emotional OMG response to any of these.

Add to that the weekend workshop where we were aligning with a higher level of focus, and this was definitely small stuff.

Whatever the reason, it didn’t register that I should be upset or feel self-judgment. I was quite familiar with how those felt having mastered those responses in my past. Instead, I cleaned up the missteps and moved on.

I could’ve been sunning or watching a movie or going to the dentist.

Emotionally, it felt all the same. No charge but interesting to observe. Clean it up and go on to the next thing. I later realized how the missteps were piling up, and I needed a break because I was leaving behind an atypical pile of weirdness.

I felt that I’d been riding a large wave that came to shore, and what a ride it was. However, there were signs it was time to take a breather. Simultaneously, I was able to rearrange my schedule to take a few days for myself.

I know there are things you think you screwed up or aren’t working like you thought they would. Maybe they’re things that didn’t come out right when you said or did them. Some may be big whoppers.

Today you can start fresh. The crazy stuff will one day be a distant memory. No reason to self-flagellate. Realign your energy: be kind, learn and it’s called Next.

If life is working as you imagined, enjoy it guilt-free. You deserve it.

You’re really doing all right. You’re becoming aware of new things. Life moves on, and so can you.

You have a choice. Suffer and make it hard on yourself or choose to live your life with grace and ease.

Hint: the latter takes a load off your shoulders.

With all the missteps I made, I felt better making a decision to take a time out and regroup.

Getting upset is optional and doesn’t help anything.

How can you take a time out for yourself to gain perspective, even if it’s just to take a pause in your own thinking?

 

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but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.

Decide that this is your year!
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break-Free Session.

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These Conscious Creators’ Designed Their 2019

January 7, 2019

Top row, left to right: Melinda Everett, Howard Hestand, LisaBeth (LB) Thomas Bottom row, left to right: Lisa Schnitzer, Carol Warkoczewski, Virginia Goszewska, Lisa Bargsley, Suzy Schwartz, Emily Werbow

Upon meeting, this community of kindred spirits quickly bonded. They gathered from Santa Fe, NM and the Texas cities of Dallas, San Antonio, Austin, Marble Falls, Blanco and Wimberley.

Having enjoyed my Soulgoals and Conscious Creators’ programs, they came together to launch their new year at the Conscious Creators’ 2019 Blast Off!

The day began with introductions by everyone sharing some of their best manifestations. It was inspiring to hear their stories and how they transformed their lives in a few months following their challenges, and some of those challenges had been considerably significant and long-term.

  • From debilitating pain to being pain-free
  • From decades of depression to being extraordinarily happy living a fulfilling life
  • From being left flat due to devastating losses, personal and financial, to enjoying her true love and soaring in business with millionaires and billionaires
  • From lack of confidence and monetary upsets because of a business transition to feeling satisfaction while enjoying a new approach that’s bringing financial success
  • From investment losses because of head overriding gut-level guidance to a significant spiritual awakening
  • And overall amazing successes and manifestations!

Conscious manifesting begins with the recognition of one’s true Essence. Following exercises that deepened their connections to the Source within and their Divine Blueprint, they activated their Soul-inspired awareness to design their ideal year.

We ate together and laughed a lot. It was heart warming to feel the love, caring and support everyone had for each other to clarify and bring chosen goals to fruition.

I started the day setting our intention on goal setting from a higher bandwidth.

Entropy describes the physical world where energy dissipates, order decreases and structures disintegrate.

Syntropy describes life.

“Syntropy consists in a force, opposed to entropy, which attracts living systems towards higher levels of organization and order.”  Albert Szent-Gyorgyi, Nobel Laureate

Throughout the day our energy lifted to this higher organization and order of awareness, being and the world of possibilities, a world they could now embrace as their own…

And from this higher level of thinking and being, they designed their new year. They did this with confidence and seeing how their goals were right for them and completely doable. They aligned with their most cherished goals, not from their head or ego-driven desires, but from the inside out.

LisaBeth Thomas wrote, “I see my goals coming to fruition now — it’s so exciting knowing that all is possible and I deserve it! Virginia… well, she just rocks.”

Emily Werbow wrote: “Clarity. Encouragement to continue. Validation. Everyone regardless of their station are striving to evolve… Evolution happens.”

Carol Warkoczewski wrote: “Once again, today’s workshop brought amazing insights for my 2019-2020 goals. The energy among the participants was palpable, and I feel a sense of peace, clarity and surety about my life.” FANTASTIC!”

Lisa Bargsley wrote, “I always have ah ha moments whenever I participate in a workshop with Virginia. The Conscious Creators’ workshop opened my thinking to new possibilities to another level, another bandwidth. Thank you again!”

Melinda Everett wrote:” Today’s workshop was full of wonderful energy. The love and support help me clarify my goals for 2019. Virginia always designs exercises that help you delve into what your true goals in life are all about.”

Suzy Schwartz wrote: “The Conscious Creators’ workshop left me calmer, at ease, knowing all is set in motion for me to have a successful year. The group energy was palpable, and the exercises gave life to increasing our own individual energy to a place of manifestation.”

Howard Hestand wrote: “The Conscious Creators’ workshop gave me confidence to believe my goals will be accomplished. It was great to be around like-minded individuals and share ideas. Very inspirational.”

Lisa Schnitzer wrote: “Virginia’s Conscious Creators’ workshop was a vortex of energy and spiritually uplifting. There is strength in being around that energy… we are creating our best lives thanks to Virginia.”

If you’re interested in designing your ideal life this year… and beyond… contact me for a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session at virginia@soulgoals.com

Visit my website and get a copy of my free book at http://www.soulgoals.com

May you enjoy your best year ever!

Quick Solutions to Your Resolutions

December 31, 2018

 

It’s that time when people make resolutions for the new year… most of which they won’t keep.

So let’s keep it simple AND effective.

You’ll have greater success if you focus on doing what you love instead of trying to do something you think you have to do, should do, or trying to please others.

When you’re ruminating about what you’d like your resolutions and life to be, may these words of wisdom guide you… and be sure to include fun and doing what you love.

“If you do follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.”
 
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”
― Joseph Campbell

“People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.”
― Dale Carnegie

“If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased.”
― Katharine Hepburn

May you enjoy a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year!

Virginia

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doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.

Decide that this is your year!
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My Spxcial Sxason’s Grxxtings to You!

December 24, 2018

SXASON’S GRXXTINGS!

I wantxd to sxnd you and your family this holiday grxxting. Unfortunatxly, thx only computxr kxyboard I had availablx at thx timx was this onx with a brokxn kxy. I didn’t think it would bx too bad bxcausx the othxr twxnty fivx lxttxrs function pxrfxtly. Actually, I guxss onx kxy doxs makx a diffxrxnce. Somxtimxs it sxxms that our progrxss is somxwhat likx this kxyboard –  not xvxrything sxxms to bx working propxrly.

Wx may say to oursxlvxs, “Wxll, I am only onx pxrson. I won’t makx or brxak a diffxrxncx in thx biggxr scxmx of lifx. But it doxs makx a diffxrxncx. YOU makx a diffxrxncx!

So thx nxxt timx you think you arx only onx pxrson and that you and your xfforts don’t mattxr, rxmxmbxr this old kxyboard and say to yoursxlf, “I am a kxy pxrson, and I am nxxdxd vxry much!!”

I apprxciatx you vxry much! You makx a diffxrxncx!!

HAPPY HOLIDAYS, IN WHATXVXR TRADITION YOU CHOOSX TO CXLXBRATX!  MAY YOU XNJOY A MOST HAPPY AND PROSPXROUS NXW YXAR!!!

Virginia
 

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YOU Matter and Make a Difference! You Really Have a Wonderful Life!

December 17, 2018

 

Need a lift? Life getting you down? Mistakes or questionable choices you’ve made seem to be piling up? Or perhaps you’re doing great and would love to feel even better.

It’s that time of year when the 1946 movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” can put your life in perspective.

In case you missed it, when George Bailey, played by Jimmy Stuart, hit rock bottom and was ready to jump off a bridge and end his life, Clarence the angel appeared. In the midst of his profound discouragement, George thought that maybe it would’ve been better if he was never born.

Words being powerful, Clarence got the idea to show him what life would be like for others if that were true.

 
Here are some quotes from the movie:

CLARENCE (to himself): Hmm, this isn’t going to be so easy. (to George) So, you still think killing yourself would make everyone feel happier, eh?

GEORGE (dejectedly): Oh, I don’t know. I guess you’re right. I suppose it would have been better if I’d never been born at all.

CLARENCE: What’d you say?

GEORGE: I said I wish I’d never been born.

CLARENCE: Oh, you mustn’t say things like that. You … wait a minute. Wait a minute. That’s an idea. (glances up toward heaven) What do you think? Yeah, that’ll do it. All right. You’ve got your wish. You’ve never been born.

Scenes followed where George was able to see the difference he made in people’s lives. Here are some examples.

CLARENCE: Your brother, Harry Bailey, broke through the ice and was drowned at the age of 9.

GEORGE: That’s a lie! Harry Bailey went to war! He got the Congressional Medal of Honor! He saved the lives of every man on that transport.

CLARENCE: Every man on that transport died! Harry wasn’t there to save them because you weren’t there to save Harry.

You see, George, you’ve really had a wonderful life. Don’t you see what a mistake it would be to throw it away?

George began to see the difference his life made when he saw the impact he’s had, not only on his brother’s life, but on the lives of friends, family and others.

GEORGE (exasperated while talking with a dear friend who doesn’t recognize him… because he hadn’t been born): Seen your wife? I’ve been to your house a hundred times.

ERNIE: Look, bud, what’s the idea? I live in a shack in Potter’s Field, and my wife ran away three years ago and took the kid … and I ain’t never seen you before in my life.

George discovered that without keeping his well-meaning but scattered Uncle Billy on track, he didn’t do so well. 

MA BAILEY: When’d you see him last?

GEORGE: Today, over at the house.

MA BAILEY: That’s a lie. He’s been in the insane asylum ever since he lost his business. And, if you ask me, that’s where you belong.

CLARENCE: Strange, isn’t it? Each man’s life touches so many other lives. When he isn’t around, he leaves an awful hole, doesn’t he?

GEORGE: Clarence! Clarence! Help me, Clarence! Get me back! Get me back, I don’t care what happens to me! Get me back to my wife and kids! Help me Clarence, please! Please! I want to live again. I want to live again. Please, God, let me live again.

And when George returned to his life, he found that his crisis was solved with help from friends.

Regardless of your ups or downs, you make a difference.

If you have pets, they know it. So do many others.

Even if you think you’re all alone, that stranger who you smiled at felt better. Or maybe you extended a kindness by letting someone’s car go in front of you, and they felt grateful — only you didn’t know it. Or you took a moment to listen to someone who needed to be heard.

In small ways and big ones, you do matter and make a difference.

If you look past outer experiences, circumstances and limiting perceptions of yourself, you can let yourself see that you matter and you really do have a wonderful life.

Even if we’ve never met, I’m grateful for you, too! You’re alive, which means you have a purpose for being here.

With gratitude,

Virginia

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I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals. 

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That Thing that Upset You… Here’s Why!

December 3, 2018

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I know. I know. There’s no way you would EVER want this experience or someone to do to you what happened.

Obviously, someone or something else is to blame. How could you have caused this? It happened outside of you, out of your control. Wouldn’t anyone feel the same way?

If I elaborate on the idea that your thoughts and feelings are things, and they shape your world, you might want to land a punch on me if I were close to you. You might believe I don’t understand this situation. I’m delusional. Or perhaps you think that you already know we attract experiences through our thinking, but you had nothing to do with causing this fill in the blank issue.

Instead, I’ll share two examples, leaving you to evaluate if this idea might have any credibility. It might make more sense if you’ve spent years being angry or blaming others or wondering why things keep happening to you… and perhaps you’re coming to the awareness that those approaches haven’t gotten you what you want.

First is a woman who had COPD and several other physical disabilities that necessitated someone to be with her 24/7. She shared with me that she used to end up being the one to take care of people. She used to say to herself, when’s it going to be my turn to be taken care of? She got her answer, although not in the way she wanted.

Another woman left a position she’d had for several years when she realized the job was literally killing her. The business she planned on starting when she left her job never took off, which was a good thing because she was unwell and extremely weak.

Having no money, she went back to work at a job she had decades before – delivering pizzas. Not her dream job at the age of 60, to say the least.

The job actually had many redeeming qualities for her. She built up her strength. Finally, she was surrounded by a supportive and caring manager and team of co-workers. She made money she desperately needed.

For a while, she did a lot of complaining. Delivering pizzas was a far cry from living her dream. “I’m too old for this. A few months ago I could hardly walk, and now I’m slowly carrying heavy boxes of pizza and soda up flights of stairs, and sometimes I don’t even get tips.” She couldn’t see well while driving at night, had a hard time on access roads and finding places, and she hated those stairs and delivering to apartment buildings. To top it off, she decided that people of her race never tipped. She saw that as a fact.

These upsetting things appeared completely out of her control.

She couldn’t govern the randomness of which orders were next in line to deliver, who they’d go to, if they were tippers and where people lived.

Everything changed when she realized she was using her imagination to dwell on annoyances instead of what she chooses to experience.

She decided to change her focus and found that her outcomes improved the more she directed her thinking to what she wanted.

This success inspired her to become very intentional, with her thinking being the only thing that changed. This is what happened on that shift.

  1. All her deliveries were to houses except one to an apartment building, and they lived on the first floor.
  2. She had no need to travel on any access roads.
  3. Locations were easy to find.
  4. People of her own race always gave her great tips.
  5. She had her best night of tips ever, nearly doubling the tips she made on any good night in the entire three months she worked there.
  6. Everyone was friendly and nice.

The following week, she decided to leave that job. She’s now the happiest she’s ever been. She’s confident that financial opportunities she’s considering are going to work out because she’s learned the power of using her imagination wisely.

She discovered that effectively using one’s imagination is more real than the so called “reality” of outer circumstances. 

Now, she’s no longer worried or depressed.

She’s relaxed because she knows money will come and she’ll have time to pursue her dream. Based on opportunities coming her way, she has good reason to continue to believe things will work out.

You’re bigger than anything or anyone that’s upsetting you.

Rearrange your thinking. You are the change that changes your world.

Pay attention to what you’re telling yourself, the conversations in your head, during the day.

It’s not that you won’t be aware of your outer circumstances, but don’t freak out about them! Don’t give in to thinking nothing will ever change. Instead, focus on how you choose your life or business to be.

Take a breath. Shift gears. Imagine your life, really imagine it with your thoughts and feelings, as if it’s the way you choose and that everything’s working out in divine right timing.

And remember to tip well your servers and delivery folks. That’s how they earn their living.

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Forget Age. I Just Saw Petula Clark Perform at 86 Years Old!

November 26, 2018

Petula.

Performing since the age of nine, and with England giving her the beloved name of their Pet, Petula Clark has had a wide and varied career — from singing for the troops during WW2 to an international pop icon, the movies, TV, radio, stage, clubs and touring. It doesn’t seem to be ending soon, either.

I saw Petula sing the day after Thanksgiving at the One World Theatre in Austin. She didn’t need pyrotechnics or props to make her show a WOW.

She was herself, with her music and us, playing to a full house. The audience adored her, and she loved us back. She was more than enough. In fact, she and her performance were stunning in a depth beyond words.

Somewhere in the back of our thoughts was the realization that we were privileged to see her shine at 86 years old. Her voice is strong. She adapted songs to fit her current vocal range. She moved a bit stiffly at times, but she still could do a wee jig as she did in the movie Finian’s Rainbow with another icon, Fred Astaire, while singing one of its tunes.

Following a story about Peggy Lee and herself, she sensuously sang Ms. Lee’s cover song “Fever.”

While she sang some of her classics, she made it a point to intersperse her repertoire with the present, starting the show with a song on happiness and later singing one she co-wrote about living in the now. She doesn’t want to be defined by the sixties and her most famous song “Downtown.”

She shared memories of needing advice when she visited John Lennon and Yoko Ono in Montreal during their Bed-In for Peace. There was no security, and she walked in. There they were sitting in bed. John said, “Hi Petula.”

She wouldn’t repeat his words, but I later read she was troubled about protests in Canada where she was giving bi-lingual concerts.

“I explained what was going on and asked him what I was supposed to do. John replied: ‘F*** ’em.'” He said it didn’t matter, and to let them get over it.

Petula is known as a great interpreter of songs. When she followed this story by singing “Imagine,” she brought us beyond just imagining to being in this imagined world.

When she sang the Beatles’ “Blackbird” and gently, meaningfully gestured with her arms as if they were wings, we were healed and rose up with her:

Blackbird singing in the dead of night
Take these broken wings and learn to fly
All your life
You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Eva Peron talked to us from her heart when we listened to her sing “Don’t Cry for Me Argentina” from Evita.

Petula Clark brought with her a lifetime of experience, caring, humanity, intelligence, emotion and sensitivity that a young pop icon wouldn’t know, couldn’t access. Now she can and does blend all of this with her talent and entertainment skill and gives birth to this combined force in a way she never could have done before.

Yes, we were there to be entertained. In addition, we saw a role model who spoke through example. Go beyond tribal thinking of limitation regarding age. There may need to be adaptations, like Ms. Clark did with her vocal range. But her voice is still very strong. What she may have lacked in body movement, she gained with her spirit and emotion that came from the depth of her being.

She is a living example to never give up. She knows life changes, so change with it. Petula Clark demonstrates that age can bring benefits that youth wouldn’t know, and one’s gifts can be shared even more richly.

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who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.