Is This YOUR Time of Freedom? Special 4th of July Message

July 4, 2020

In recognition of the Fourth of July, I’m reposting a previous blog, with a few changes, that received great feedback. Note that you can see some of the highlighted words etched into the wall behind Thomas Jefferson – “mind of man.” May you enjoy the spirit of freedom! Virginia

While living in Washington, D.C., I often parked my car, ran up 58 steps and gazed in awe at the towering and erect presence of one of the great men who founded the United States of America. Thomas Jefferson also served as our third President from 1801 to 1809.

Open around the clock, sometimes I visited the Jefferson Memorial late at night when I could be alone in this hallowed sanctum.

Standing amidst the white marble steps and building, my eyes would gaze at the 129′ bronze statue as well as excerpts of the Declaration of Independence, whose principal author was Jefferson.

However, the reason I kept returning was to slowly turn in a circle to read the inscription under the dome:

I have sworn upon the altar of God eternal hostility against every form of tyranny over the mind of man.”  Thomas Jefferson to Dr. Benjamin Rush, September 23, 1800.

I didn’t realize at the time how these words, which still bring tears to my eyes, would be emblazoned within me. They inspired my lifetime passion, “upon the altar of God,” to help others and myself live in freedom through liberation of the “tyranny over the mind of man.”

The definition of tyranny includes the oppression, often cruel, of people or a government over others. Another aspect of tyranny is an unreasonable or arbitrary use of power or control.

For me, there’s a twist to this. It reminds me of a quote by American Navy Commodore Oliver Hazard Perry in 1813.  Most famously, it was quipped by cartoonist Walt Kelly on a couple of Earth Day posters when Pogo said:

The voice in your head, motivated by an insecure ego, can be your enemy and create the greatest form of tyranny.

These inner rants, such as you’re not good enough, you don’t deserve better and feeling full of regrets or fear, can be cruel, unreasonable, oppressive and arbitrary. If you allow this to dominate your thoughts and feelings, you relinquish control of your life to a limiting belief – because it’s a lie! 

Know that you have the power of choice! 

You can choose to listen to your inner essence/ soul/ spirit, whatever you choose to call the wise part within, instead.


Especially those familiar with my teachings about making conscious choices, you might be interested in this. When I was thirty years old, I had the first sentence of the following quote by Jefferson on a wall plate of a light switch:

“Freedom is the right to choose: the right to create for oneself the alternatives of choice. Without the possibility of choice, and the exercise of choice, a man is not a man but a member, an instrument, a thing.”

Pondering this message regularly, I knew there was more to it than I could understand at the time. I’m now aware of this:

We are free to choose. We are free to choose how we think and feel and believe! We are so free, we can choose fear or freedom.

We choose our thoughts, which impact our emotions, which create our lives. What hinders our freedom is allowing our minds to be tyrannized by any limiting beliefs. From anyone. From any circumstance or condition. From a part of our inner voice, our ego’s voice, that’s tyrannical.

 


A client showed me a picture of a tow truck driver who quickly and skillfully used multiple cables to turn upright a parked truck that had been hit by a car and had completely flipped over.

The driver was very good-natured, and his demeanor radiated a cheerful attitude and peace.

Both of his arms stopped below his elbows.

He had a prosthetic leg, too.

He is a living demonstration of choosing his attitude and outlook on life. He wasn’t tyrannized by his physical condition and whatever caused it.


 

We in America celebrate our country’s birthday on the Fourth of July, our Independence Day. It’s a time of freedom.

While talking with others about a life-changing break for freedom I made during the week of July 4th when I was 20, others shared their stories of freedom that happened around this time, too.

I broke free from a physically, mentally, emotionally and controlling abusive relationship. It took me seven times over two years to leave him without being hunted down and brought back. I made a decision to be free, and I started a new life the week of July fourth.

Soon the French will celebrate their day of freedom on July 14, Bastille Day. July is a time of freedom.

Tyranny or freedom? 

You can choose to hold in your mind’s eye the freedom and intentions that our forefathers envisioned while founding the United States.

What freedom and independence do you choose for you?

Start with freeing yourself from the tyranny of your mind, where no circumstance, nothing and nobody can touch you.

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Don’t Be Afraid Of COVID-19… Or Anything Else, For That Matter

June 29, 2020

“Life is a controllable thing.”
Neville Goddard, 
Awakened Imagination

You are not a victim.

You are more in control of your life than you might imagine.

Ahh, therein lies the key. How do you use your imagination? 

Do you imagine the worse? Are you afraid of what might happen in the future?

Are you wading through life in a sea of “what if” my fears come to pass? What if I get sick?

“For the thing I greatly feared has come upon me,
And what I dreaded has happened to me.”
Job 3:25,  New King James Version

What if you go through the pandemic without getting sick?  Or what if you get sick and get through it?

And if you succumb to it, you’ll be happy on the other side of this earthly world. It won’t matter.

By the way, this is your life. Do you want to live it in fear and anxiety or being courageous and at peace? Your choice!

“The whole secret of existence is to have no fear.
Never fear what will become of you.” 
Swami Vivekananda, 1895 talk in the U.S.

Your soul/ spirit/ essence, whatever you choose to call that wise part of you, is stronger than COVID. It has greater awareness and can guide you, if you listen.

You are not powerless with this virus. You’re not losing control.

“You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so.
For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.”
Dale Carnegie

How to be safe from COVID-19

1. Know you are stronger than a virus.
2. Make a decision! Say, “I choose not to contract the corona virus.” And mean it. Period. 
3. Use common sense, like masks, social distancing and hand washing.
4. Trust you’ll be guided from within to be safe.

Here’s a technique I observed myself doing at the start of the pandemic.

Animals have a sixth sense about people and upcoming natural disasters. Bark or lick your hand? They intuitively know.

Bats use a type of radar to determine distance from objects.

Recently, when I’m around people, a sixth sense radar spontaneously activates in me. It’s like beams between others and myself bounce back and forth, back and forth, back and forth to sense if there is a COVID threat. If it didn’t feel right, I’d move to somewhere else. However, tuning in before I go places, I haven’t found myself in any attack zones.

If you’re in fear, you may not be able to pick up accurate messages. You’ll either doubt yourself or think everything is spooky.

It may take practice, but there’s no harm in experimenting with this technique. Plus, you’ll improve your ability to sense what other people are really thinking and feeling, too, beyond the words they say.

Enjoy using your imagination by seeing yourself safe, happy, at peace and anything else you desire.

So be it!

TIPS for today include:

  1. Realize you’re not a victim. You have control over your life with good use of your imagination.
  2. Only your thinking and imagination create fear. You have a choice to be in fear or not.
  3. Decide you won’t contract COVID.
  4. To be safe, tune into your environment first so you avoid COVID situations.
  5. Use your imagination to see yourself safe, happy, at peace and anything else you desire.

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Trending in Today’s News: I’m Right and They’re Not

June 23, 2020

Christmas trees remind me of how pendulums move. The shape of the tree is larger at the base. A pendulum starts with a wider side to side motion, too. Then the oscillations become smaller. There’s not a direct ascent but a spiral upward. The top lights up. It mirrors how we learn, personally and as a society. At first, we have wide swings in the way we think. In time, we reach a greater equilibrium and enlightenment.

 

Recently, a woman told me about a situation with two family members and herself. She described it and then read me a letter she wrote to one of them. She wanted my opinion about what she wrote.

The letter was perfect and logical.

However, she wasn’t really getting that the others had their viewpoints and emotional needs, too.

What she really wanted was someone to tell her she was right.

When I watch the news, I observe some people dug into their perspectives and completely ignoring the other side’s viewpoints. They present their logical views, make fun of the others through name calling and jokes. 

The issues aren’t really the issues. It’s grandstanding to show “I’m right, and they’re not.”

Learning is like a Christmas tree. We start at the bottom with one idea then make a pendulum swing to another side.

We spiral up the tree of awakening, and each time we don’t swing as far to the other side.

Once upon a century, Christians being thrown to the lions was great entertainment.

Additionally, the best gladiators, who were the rock stars of the day, were those who killed other gladiators. The crowds especially loved it if they showed no mercy.

It took several pendulum swings to persuade people that these weren’t good ideas. I mean, taking away these sports was like banishing football, ice cream and mom’s apple pie.

According to church historian Theodoret, Saint Telemachus was a monk who tried to stop a gladiatorial fight in a Roman amphitheater. He was stoned to death by the crowd.

Blood lust still exists. Parts of society still like cock fighting, for example, but that’s spiraling up from weekly, government-sanctioned, human slaughter for sport.

My apologies for being gruesome, but do you get the point?

No matter how bad things look now, they have a way of working themselves out over time.

We’re making progress.

It takes time to be able to step back and appreciate there are many perspectives… and needing to feel emotionally satisfied by being right is part of the pendulum swing of the process.

South Africa and Germany made progress on resolving their pasts.

We can, too. It starts by listening and hearing.

 

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Change and Healing Can Be Messy

June 18, 2020
 

Dear Friend,

Things often fall apart before they come together… in a new and better way.

I know life looks crazy now, but consider this.

If there’s an infected wound, it must be cleaned first before it can heal properly.

There is a silver lining to our current time of changes, from a virus that put the world in quarantine to Black Lives Matter protests to a damaged economy and upcoming elections.

Time will reveal more of what that lining looks like after a much needed, overdue cleaning.

The clarion call to respect life is finally being heard. What’s a life worth? Let’s put things in perspective.

  • Respect life of those who are more susceptible to a virus or reopen an economy? Do older lives matter? I watched the Texas Lieutenant Governor Dan Patrick say that older people should be willing to give up their lives for the sake of young people’s economy.
  • I read about a saddened college student because of Covid. He couldn’t graduate, get a job and had to live with his parents. I thought about the movie I’d seen earlier this year, 1917, when men his age were getting blown apart in WWI. Not for months, but for over four years.
  • For centuries, the cries and despair of slaves and black people have been ignored by white people and others who are privileged. Then came the tipping point where enough is enough. Actually, it’s been more than enough for too long of a time.

The process of change and healing often is messy.

Have you ever cleaned a room, or anything, and partway through the process found it looked even messier than when you began? Stuff got moved around, some piled up to be discarded. But then a reorganization shifted the environment to something better.

As we watch this time of change, remember that all of us have things to learn personally and collectively during challenging times.

What are you learning?

With gratitude,

Virginia

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Need Answers? Here’s How to Get Them.

June 9, 2020

During this time of challenges and changes, we can start to question. What’s happening to my life and the world? Am I on the right track? So many choices… what should I do?  Is there something for me to contribute, especially amidst such universal unrest? Is there a higher perspective to make sense of it all?

There are as many answers and opinions as there are people.

A key to life, though, is being able to listen to your Self – not your outer swirl of emotions or trying to fit into to others’ ideas about how you should live your life.

There is a way to be empowered by finding your own answers. The more you practice listening to your Self, the better you’re able to hear with clarity.

Here’s a repost from a Soulgoals’ Archive, April 29, 2011, that may help.

 

When something went wrong, my old response was to gasp and think: “Oh no. What am I going to do? I don’t know what to do.” I’d repeat it again and again – but I didn’t even realize I was saying it.

Next came the sickish anxiety in my gut. Fear clutched me like tentacles from a sci-fi film. Solutions had no way to penetrate that thick gunk of worry.

One afternoon, I discovered that I went over a credit card limit that day. All I could think about were the fees, marks on my credit report and a higher interest rate.

I noticed a broken record playing in my head. What was it? “What am I going to do? I don’t know what to do.”

Funny how that mantra sounded like my mother!

When I heard it, I changed my tune.

I said to myself, “There’s a part of me that doesn’t have a clue about what to do. There’s another part that knows. I ask my wise self to pop in an answer.”

I Got What I Asked For

After my request, I relaxed, let the situation go, and left for an appointment. As I walked to my car after my meeting, an idea popped in my head. Drive straight to the bank and pay the overage before the end of the business day.

When I did and the bank heard my concern, they also extended my credit limit. Problem solved; benefits gained.

Learning to relax and trust that all will be taken care of, no matter what, helps to wash away the goo of confusion. After all, if God takes care of the flowers and birds, surely you and I rate, too. But what about getting answers?

A theme found in several Biblical references offers age old wisdom.

Ask, and it shall be given to you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.

Put These Together:  Don’t Worry.  Ask for Help.

Now, when I need answers, I place a simple request: POP IT IN.

For example, I’m writing and get stuck. What I used to do was:

  • Whine: You know the mantra I used.
  • Worry: “What if I don’t get an answer?”
  • Get angry and complain: “I don’t have time for this.”
  • Feel like a helpless victim: “Why is this happening to me?”

Now, I ask inwardly for help: “I need a headline. POP IT IN.”

The answer comes – either immediately or after it incubates for a while.

Prayers are always answered in divine right timing, Therefore, I let the concern go and do something else. This takes care of the seeking and knocking.

Taking action refocuses me. It helps me to detach from fixating on results and when they should arrive.

Easy. Simple. Clear.

Only Supportive Ideas Are Welcome.

By the way, if an unsupportive idea pops in your head, pop it out. It’s your head, so claim dominion of it. Don’t give your power away to negative thinking. You have the power to pop in or out what goes in it.

When those supportive ideas pop in, even if they’re a little outside-the-box, act on them. This is a key.

Remember, everything is given according to your belief. If you allow the possibility, this really works.

I invite you to experiment. Need answers? Relax and ask inwardly to “POP IT IN!”

 

 

Virginia Goszewska, the founder of Soulgoals, believes each person and business has a way to contribute to life. The coaching systems she developed that help people find clarity, take action and experience personal and professional success are based on decades of research and experience. As a regional manager with a worldwide, top ten, Inc. 500 company and at top-level executive positions of international corporations, Virginia received awards in sales, training, management and business development. From Southeast Asia to the United Kingdom, people around the world have benefited from her expert coaching, compassionate insights and common sense.

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Virginia offers complimentary Break-Free sessions by phone, holds workshops, seminars, team building programs and is a keynote speaker. She can be contacted at virginia@soulgoals.com  or (512) 842-1231.

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Families Count, too!

May 25, 2020
flag and boys

Jim traced back his family’s military history to the American Revolution and to Europe before then. Continuing with the tradition, his kids are either in military service or married to someone who is.

Military through and through, he was the ideal person for me to ask about a Memorial Day message.

His lightning fast response:

“They also serve who remain behind.”

“Nowadays, the military gets recognition. Slowly, people are recognizing that the families undergo great hardships. They’re in the military, too, but they don’t get paid by the government.”

When Jim was 13 years old, his father, a military advisor, was sent to Saudi Arabia.

“All the manly stuff fell on my shoulders from what to do when the car broke down to family emergencies. It’s traumatic for a family to be on their own while worrying about the safety of a loved one stationed far away.”

“The dandelion is the official flower of the military brat.”

“The seeds of dandelions scatter as the wind blows, and they put down roots wherever they land.

“Military brats are raised with suitcases in both hands.

“In the old days, people were transferred every couple of years.

“In 1951, my parents drove the whole family from West Palm Beach, Florida, to Fairbanks, Alaska. It took 30 days, and much of it was on dirt roads.

“Imagine doing that with a carload of kids.”

The families are unsung heroes.

And Memorial Day is a time of remembrance.

On Memorial Day, you can send a prayer of acknowledgment to all those who take or have taken a stand for liberty so we can enjoy our freedom.

Send a prayer of appreciation to the warriors inspired to serve on the front lines or to help behind the lines in whatever capacity.

Send a prayer to honor those who serve or have served as well as to honor their families who’ve made countless personal and emotional sacrifices while supporting them.

Because of their service, we have greater freedom to pursue our dreams and goals.

We give thanks.


During this time of change, can you see that you’re no longer willing
to put up with some of the old ways you’ve been doing things?
Do you know you can consciously change your life for the better?
If you’d like to learn about a complimentary Break-Free Session so you can start fresh, contact me at:

virginia@soulgoals.com

http://www.soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.  I help them be richly compensated in whatever is meaningful to them by aligning with their Soul’s goals.


Reprinted from May 30, 2016 Archives

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Wonder What Your Future Will Bring?

May 18, 2020

Jekyl hyde

“When you get to be my age, everything scares you,” an 82-year-old told me. “Just watching TV is enough to make you afraid. You’ll see.” Because I’ve heard similar comments over my lifetime of “when you get to be my age” followed by limited thinking, I paused.I noticed how she shared her negativity in a joking way while her attitude depressed and sucked the life out of people around her.

This time instead of reacting, I replied, “I made a decision not to be afraid.”

Silence.

In contrast, I had a delightful conversation with Ms. Belle, a 79-year-old. She commented that looking at the way we’re talking, anyone would think we’re old friends. We met only 20 minutes earlier in a small, neighborhood store.

She told me, “You’ve got to be positive. Life is short.”

She’s amazed at how she meets lovely people wherever she goes, and that there are so many wonderful people in the world.

She goes to the gym and rides a bicycle. One day, she realized that she loves to exercise. She enjoys talking and having fun with others while there, too.

Ms. Belle shared with me the importance of keeping our memory, especially as some people will take advantage of you if you don’t remember things.

Hint: Just like you can make a decision not to be afraid, you can choose to retain your memory, even if you feel it’s not as good as you’d like it to be now. Start by no longer talking about and focusing on how you don’t have a good memory! What you talk about becomes your reality, joking or not.

So much of life and business are about decisions and perspectives.

  • Which attitudes, behaviors and actions of yours (and others) are you willing to tolerate?
  • Do you see people (including you) and life as inherently bad and evil or good?

Your answers will determine your success.

Negativity won’t breed positivity.

You can’t have a happy ending while feeling miserable along the way.

Everyone has beliefs. Many are held onto so dearly that you might feel that if you stopped believing them, you’ll go straight to that inferno down below.

Some beliefs upon which you base your life may be the very ones that are holding you back!

If you allow fear and a habit of complaining to control you, you could find yourself on a slippery slope that doesn’t lead to success or happiness.

Many blame others, blind to connecting the dots of how their own choices and beliefs created their circumstances.

Wonder what your future will bring? It will bear the fruit of your current and past thoughts, feelings and attitudes, as the two above-mentioned women demonstrate.

Your future will bring you the products of your beliefs and thinking just as your present is a reflection of your past ones.

Wonder what your beliefs and thinking have been? Look around you.

You have the power within you to choose to be afraid of your own shadow or to be courageous.

In this moment, you can change the way you feel about you and the mental picture you carry about yourself and your future.

You can decide nothing will stop you from living the life and having the business or work of your dreams, in spite of the odds… regardless of the effects that a pandemic or other circumstances have had on your life.

You see, you’re giving others too much power as you even acknowledge how they make you feel. What you’ve got to decide is how I’m going to feel. We would go to a Virtual Reality and we would practice feeling good. Manifestations come on the heels of what you’ve conjured in thought.

Abraham-Hicks, Excerpted from North Los Angeles, CA on 3/2/02

Think about you on the other side of the pandemic.
Can you see that you’re no longer willing
to put up with some of the old ways you’ve been doing things?
Do you know you can consciously change your life for the better?
If you’d like to learn about a complimentary session so
you can start fresh, contact me at

virginia@soulgoals.com

http://www.soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.  I help them be richly compensated in whatever way is meaningful to them by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

Updated from Soulgoals’ Archives posted on October 14, 2017

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Guilt, Know-It-Alls, Being #1 and Challenging Times

May 11, 2020

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Are you in a self-imposed prison with freedom in view?

 

Feeling guilty had been drilled into her by her family throughout her life.

It was a way others could control her. If they could disempower her through feeling guilty, she could kowtow to their ways and do and be what they wanted.

Because she was used to feeling guilty, especially when my client became #1 in her territory, business associates and family triggered those familiar feelings.

She felt that she was doing something wrong by being successful.


Unconsciously, here’s the message others sent: if I make you doubt yourself or feel bad about yourself, I’ll bring you down to a place where your success no longer makes me feel uncomfortable. Who do you think you are? What’s wrong with you? Be more like me… and whine about how life’s unfair.


People in her family had jobs. Furthermore, what’s a woman doing being successful and making more money than them, especially in her own business?! They had to work hard in their employment; why should she be any different?

Not feeling good about the price she paid for her success (she received negative input from others), her sales slipped. A part of her was trying to stop being a target that resulted in guilty feelings.

She didn’t realize it was their own jealousy, insecurity, a need to control and their fear and disappointment in themselves for not going after their dreams that were the underlying culprits of others’ manipulative behaviors.

Ever hear of the lobster syndrome or the crab mentality?

When either of these is alone in a lidless container, it can escape.

However, when sharing their enclosure, none can get out because they will be pulled back down, even into boiling water.

In society or business, this can happen when people are bettering themselves and others try to bring them down.

How can they do that? Through guilt, fear, anger, making others feel they’re doing something wrong, shunning, shaming and the threat of being ostracized if they don’t fit in with the community.

Some religions exert control by indoctrinating their followers with the fear of damnation or how their future lives will be affected.

Previously, my client couldn’t stay away from her cell phone out of a concern of missing calls from prospective customers. Her belief was that working hard is the road to success.

So when she fulfilled her goal of a five-week vacation, and still remained #1, it was at the expense of others’ disparaging remarks.

Even though at the top of her game and years away from what most consider retirement age, she couldn’t stop thinking about leaving the business world behind.

She told me about a close friend and business associate. “There’s something about him lately that rubs me the wrong way – so I’ve distanced myself — although we’re working on a deal together. With him, it’s a debate or he knows some expertise about things. He’s done and knows everything.”

She was exhausted by critical people: if it’s not done their way, then in their way of looking at things, it’s being done wrong.

“Because I am surrounded by that thinking and attitude, my cup runneth over with this. My response is to disassociate with people who have these behaviors.”

When I asked where she’s seen those patterns before in childhood, she recalled that her mother and brother had the same habit of being critical know-it-alls. Both parents ruled by creating guilt in others.

We discussed that no matter where you go, there you are. If she continued to react, she’d attract more people who would act the same, wherever she went.

She realized that unless she changed, even if she left her business, she’d continue to run into similar, annoying behaviors from others.


Programmed from childhood, traits like lack of confidence, guilt and worry can prompt you to continue brainwashing yourself with limiting beliefs, even when those who put these ideas in your head aren’t around. 

Don’t listen to your inner, critical voice that bullies you and makes you question your ability to succeed or be happy. It lies.

That nagging voice reflects how the people who told you that nonsense feel about themselves. It’s not about you.

Your true essence guides you with a kind, non-judgmental and supportive voice.


Her insight: this coaching session made her step back and look at the bigger picture.

She realized that she won’t be affected by others when she has a different perspective. And when her buttons are no longer pushed, she won’t attract people who think like that.

By the way, she’s back to being #1 and having her best year ever. Life is more fun, and she feels free now that she no longer reacts to guilt trips and know-it-alls in the way she did before.

You can step out of your self-imposed prison of any limiting beliefs, even if you don’t know what’s holding you back.

Start by having confidence that believing in yourself brings.

Remember, those voices to the contrary are figments of someone else’s imagination that they projected on you.

There are many ways you can feel imprisoned, especially during a pandemic.

But good things can emerge during challenging times.

Freedom and success are yours if you’re open to receive them.

Make the most of this moment. Isolation can give birth to unimaginable heights.


You think you’re challenged? Look at Nelson Mandela’s life (1918 – 2013; passed away at 95):

  • Mandela, as a young lawyer, joined the African National Congress (ANC) in 1944 to advocate for an end to South African apartheid, an oppressive system of government built on racial segregation. 
  • In 1963, he and other cohorts were sentenced to life in prison.
  • He spent 18 years in the cell, seen above, that was 43 square feet.
  • The floor was his bed, and he used a bucket for a toilet.
  • He was forced to do hard labor in a quarry.
  • He was allowed one visitor a year for 30 minutes.
  • He could write and receive one letter every six months.
  • In 1990, having served 27 years in prison, he was released by South African President de Klerk.
  • In 1993, he won the Nobel Peace Prize with de Klerk.
  • Mandela became president of South Africa in 1994.

 

P.S. Know someone who might benefit from this post? Please share.

Think about you on the other side of the pandemic.
Can you see that you’re no longer willing
to put up with the old way you’ve been doing things?
Do you know you can consciously create your life?
If you’d like to learn about a complimentary session so 
you can start fresh, contact me at

virginia@soulgoals.com

http://www.soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Updated from Soulgoals’ Archives posted on November 6, 2017

 

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Do You Wish Your Life Had Turned Out Differently?

May 4, 2020

Not happy with her life, she felt depressed for quite a while.

Although her current employment has gratifying moments, she’s caught in a dead-end job that’s light years away from the passion that lights her up.


 

Why did she stay in a funk for so long?

She kept reflecting on her past and projecting it on her future.

 


In her egoic mind’s way of limited thinking, success would continue to elude her no matter how hard she tried. “Nothing will ever work, so why bother?”

Another watched big parts of her life and years-long business eclipse into oblivion, and she felt that she was “losing everything.”

Yet another looked back at a lifetime of accomplishments and compared them to others. She thought life (and money) had passed her by while she was preoccupied drudging through drama, mediocrity and poor choices in relationships and affiliations.

Ignoring the good stuff, she felt her grand total added up to not being good enough.

The ego likes to judge and compare and creates suffering in the process.

However, when all of them looked deeper, their perspectives changed.

Your interpretation of events determines if you see and experience life as having mostly peaks or mostly valleys.


 

To sum it up in a few words, that was then and this is now.

Now each is focused on starting a new chapter.

 


Life is full of twists and turns, and the longer you live, the more ups as well as downs occur. Regardless, you’re always learning, and that’s progress. (Even if the learning seems to take forever!)


 

Regret is a complete waste of time and energy and actually stops your forward movement.

Regret is like being on a train that’s going in the wrong direction. In an attempt to compensate, you walk down the aisle of the train in the direction from which the train has just come. No matter how fast you walk, you’ll never get closer to where you want to go.

 


Once, while talking to one of my teachers, I said I felt like several years of my life were a wasteland. With a big world out there, my world felt barren.

He asked, “What did you learn?”

Interestingly, while outwardly my life lacked adventure, it produced many of my biggest growth experiences.

What I thought was a dry desert was a turning point. That time was actually part of my schooling to more effectively help people get unstuck and, instead, be richly compensated doing what they love – in relationships, health, finances and life! 

When momentum from my former, fast-paced activities slowed down, I thought my life had stalled. I later realized I had been on a fast train heading in the wrong direction. Shifting gears provided an opportunity to let go of my old ways that I erroneously thought were my “right” ways.

My new track was the route to greater authenticity, fulfillment and success.

You are scripting your life and business.

You don’t have to try to defend or justify why you are where you are now because of your past history.

Simply live in the present and move forward.

If you don’t like parts of it, how can you put them in a more empowered perspective?


Ask your inner wisdom how everything that’s happened in your life and business has all been a foundation for your next chapter.

 


If you wished your life or business had turned out differently, this is your moment to gain insight and, as if you’re writing a play, create your next act. Script it so that the best is yet to come.

What’s your next chapter?

 

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Reprinted from Soulgoals Archives posted August 7, 2017.

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