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Has This Kept You Up at Night?

May 9, 2017

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Have any of these kept you up at night?

Procrastination. Fear of making a (wrong) decision or making a mistake. Trying to figure out what you’re going to do. Indecisive. Avoid people or dealing with things. Have trouble marketing yourself or asking for the sale. Averse to taking risks. Don’t stand up for yourself. Afraid to speak up. Let others control you. Need to fit in. Turn into a chameleon to blend in with others. Let people run over you. Have a hard time being yourself (whoever that is). Wonder what people will say or think. Say yes when you want to say no.

What bogeyman lies beneath this thinking? Personal honesty reveals a deeper insight beyond blaming circumstances.

During multiple mastermind group meetings, I noticed a theme that held people back until they got wise to a game the ego was playing.

It reminds me of a scene from the 1986 comedy The Money Pit with Tom Hanks (who played Walter) and Shelly Long.

Rock star, 12-year-old Benny lounged in his mansion smoking a cigarette while chics waited for him in the Jacuzzi. His help feared him, and his mother wore a maid’s uniform while waiting on him hand and foot.

His temper tantrum, when he refused to loan Walter money, revealed a spoiled, insecure, little boy.

Walter: There is a house I want to buy.

Benny: Let’s cut to the chase, okay? What do you want?

Walter: I want you to loan me $200,000 in cash.

Benny: No.

Walter[raising his voice] Benny.

Benny: You shout at me?

Walter: I shout at you! I need that money, and you are going to loan it to me.

Benny: No, I won’t!

Walter: Yes, you will!

Benny: No, no, no!

Walter: Yes, you will! I saved you ten times that in taxes last year.

Benny: So what?

Walter: Benny, if you don’t loan me that money. I’ll…

Benny: You’ll what? Huh? You’ll what?

Walter: I’ll…not like you anymore! [Long pause and subdued.]

Benny: …All right.

Walter: Thanks.

Here’s the funny clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LY5dV3xghY

A leading cause of fear is wanting approval, so people limit themselves by worrying about what others will think.

A client procrastinated making a big decision. During a session, she realized she was afraid of her family’s disapproval if she didn’t get it right… again.

When the light turned on for her, she was able to research her options. She got clarity, aligned her energy with her decision by feeling good about her choice, and then took action.

Even if she made another unwanted mistake, she knew she could choose again.

She chose wisely. Since then, her business is at the highest it’s been in years.

Several clients realized that they were so intent on being nice to others that they weren’t nice to themselves.

Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #3 provided guidance:

“I trust my Self and listen to the voice within.”

This served as a valuable GPS instead of the need to people please.

Nobody can please everybody.

There will always be those who won’t like you or what you do. How much simpler life is to accept that instead of resisting it.

Don’t let fear of disapproval hold you down. Keep moving forward anyway with good intentions.

You have no control over what others think, but you can tune in to your Self and take charge of what you think about you.

Listening to your Self is part of your innate intelligence, so you can do this.

How? Choose to redirect your focus to hear You. With practice, your ability improves.

A key is to love and accept yourself just the way you are.

You’ll sleep better at night, too.

With gratitude,
Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might be uplifted by reading this? Please forward.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck.
I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.
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TIP: Going in 2 Directions Takes You Nowhere

December 13, 2016

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Arms outstretched with people gently pulling from either side, participants of my Supercharge Your 2017 workshop this weekend felt what it’s like to go in opposite directions.

The results: they swayed a bit to the left and right, but stayed in the same position, going nowhere.

Your contradictory thoughts can keep you stuck, a part of you wants to go forward while another holds you back.

For example:

You choose success, but there are those pesky, opposing thoughts.

  • You worry about things, like what if you don’t succeed. Remember how things didn’t work out before and how disappointed you felt? Maybe people who pointed out your limitations were right. And who are you to make more money than your parents?
  • Better play it safe. Save yourself from discouragement. You long for better, but your thoughts keep you where you are.

You choose to be in a relationship, but…

  • Oh, get real. They start out great, and then they’re more trouble than they’re worth. Look at your history. However, you feel desperate for a loving partner. But if you haven’t found “the one” by now, it’s too late. They probably won’t like the way you look, anyway.
  • Even if you meet Mr. or Ms. Right, it might not go anywhere with attitudes like these or the relationship you’re in remains unsatisfying.

When your energy goes in opposite directions:

  1. You feel discouraged, and your confidence wanes. Then you don’t have what it takes to share your gifts or business in a bigger way.
  2. Your energy is like Pigpen from the Charlie Brown comics, who’s pictured above. Your doubt and low self-opinion swirl around you. People can feel it, which motivates them to run in the other direction.

Your TIP is to focus on one direction by believing in yourself, your dreams, your goals.

On average, people only access 10% of who they are. That’s the personality seen in everyday life that’s filled with doubts and negativity.

Choose to tap into the rest of you, the 90% that’s your inner Self, and you’re unlimited!

Ask, right now, for 100% of you to be present, and your life begins to get on track to be happier, more focused, single-minded, Soul-directed.

It takes practice, especially if you’re in the habit of complaining about others, your past or current conditions. But you can align more and more with your inner Self.

With empowered energy, you can go where you choose or someplace better.

 

I work with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming masterminding teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

TIP: Are Foolish Consistencies Keeping You Stuck?

November 28, 2016

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“A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.” Ralph Waldo Emerson from his essay “Self-Reliance”
Are you thinking for yourself?Or are you making current choices based on past decisions or on what other people think?

Holding onto fixed ideas and not being open to new ones is an example of a foolish consistency, and it can keep you stuck.

A foolish consistency can affect your heart.

A man, who places a high value on keeping his word, made a promise to repair expensive equipment and gift it to a friend.

Personally, giving this gift meant a great deal to him.

After several months, he realized the equipment couldn’t be repaired.

He tried really hard to make the unworkable workable.

When he couldn’t, it meant he couldn’t keep his word and couldn’t give this gift, both of which caused him extreme, emotional stress.

He took this to heart.

He took a lot of things to heart.

Including a heart attack.

He let go of the foolish consistencies and now is doing great.

A foolish consistency can affect your goals.

Years ago, I had a plan of how I thought things should work.

First, I’d write my course, and then I’d buy a house.

What happened is that moving came first, and this allowed me to be in a better environment.

A foolish consistency would’ve been to insist on living in a space that wasn’t conducive to writing.

To this day, I’m careful not to be misled by my preconceived ideas, aka foolish consistencies, about what comes first and who’s on second. 

See what life is presenting at the moment. New ways often exceed one’s wildest expectation about how things can work out.

A foolish consistency can affect your money.

In spite of her best efforts and through no fault of her credit report, a silly regulation stopped a woman from refinancing to get money she needed.

At first, she was disappointed.

Not being bogged down with a foolish consistency, she refocused her thinking on this or something better.

Her business skyrocketed, and she made $18,000 in one month (far exceeding her past, monthly incomes) with many more deals in her pipeline.

Little minds worry about a foolish consistency.

Greater minds align with the moment.

Your TIP is to use your great mind! Let go of your limiting, foolish consistencies, and be open to new ideas to receive what you want.

Challenge the way you think and usually do things, especially if you feel stuck or you’re trying to break free into something better.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.

If you’ve tried something new and you’re beating yourself up because it didn’t work the way you thought – stop it!

Getting down on yourself is not helping.

Give yourself a chance to align with a different track to success, and be open to receive something better.

Breathe. Listen within.

Your inner wisdom is 100% on your side to guide you from stuck to success.

Be willing to receive its messages.

I work with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming masterminding teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

Copyright © 2016 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

TIP: My Staycation in Mexico

July 19, 2016

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Don’t have time or money to travel? I enjoyed a trip to Mexico minutes from my home and discovered traditions and a rich culture that I never knew existed – especially meaningful in our divisive times.

Guelaguetza is a like a big party of cultural exchange. Indigenous folkloric dances and performances honor the diversity of traditions from eight distinct regions of the Mexican state of Oaxaca.

After two years of planning, this festival was proudly shared for the first time in Austin, Texas.

The audience spontaneously sang beloved songs and stood while they sang the national anthems of the United States and Mexico.

Between a couple of the performances, colorfully costumed women served mezcal, a cousin to tequila, in orange peppers that were the size of jalapeno peppers.

Another first for me, just one sip went down very warm and smooth.

When we finished the drink, we ate the pepper.

Well over 50% of Oaxaca’s population is native indigenous, compared to 20% of Mexico as a whole.

Another way of seeing this, more than half of the people come from distinctly different cultures.

As it was described to me, “these tribes gather annually to celebrate good wishes, goodwill, friendship and love between each other.”

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This photo was taken as the women completed their dance. Each wore a different costume representing her region. Their headdresses represent food they brought to share. Apologies for the fuzzy picture. I thought it better for you to see it rather than not include it because it wasn’t perfect.

“This event celebrates cooperation with each other instead of war.

“Our planet is filled with people who are different. Guelaguetza acknowledges and revels in our differences.”

What a gift we’re given in our modern times to witness people who honor their differences through celebration!

Let that sink in a moment.

If other humans on our planet can co-exist, respect and honor differences, so can we.

We don’t have to be afraid of people who aren’t like us.

What if we had conversations that opened us to each other’s uniqueness?

Think what this can mean in your business and life.

Instead of feeling anxious because you don’t know somebody and don’t know what to expect because they might be different than you, enjoy the contrast.

What are your chances of creating a better business or personal relationship if you approach people in the spirit of appreciating their uniqueness?

Here’s an example of this giving spirit before the event began.

My friends and I arrived early, and I ordered a Oaxacan specialty dish from a food trailer.

Although there was no line when I ordered, it took 15 minutes to receive my food.

When my friend inquired about the delay, she reacted uncharacteristically with a disapproving tone.

I received my food and found a place in the shade to eat it.

But where were my friends?

I watched an ever growing line of people waiting for food.

When my friend saw that the guy was working by himself because he wasn’t expecting a crowd, she felt she needed to help him.

He didn’t look at the long line of people standing in the direct sun of over 100 degree heat; he wanted to cook.

But he couldn’t do it all by himself.

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It was taking 15 minutes per person to receive food as people waited in the hot sun.

She didn’t ask if he wanted help as she went into the little trailer.

She told the overwhelmed, young man that she’d take orders, and he could focus on cooking.

For the next two hours, she worked in the “sauna” taking orders and managing the kitchen as family members came to help.

Her older brother stood by the side door. Instead of going to watch the performances, he cheerily said he was standing there to be entertained.

Actually, he was watching out for his sister and smoothing the emotions of the customers who questioned the wait time.

Later, when I asked why she did it, she replied.

“I had a feeling that someone had to help him. When you’re some place, there’s a reason. I felt in the moment, I need to help him. And, I enjoyed the experience of taking orders.”

She refused any payment and accepted some soda and water for us.

We had lots of laughs about it later, and no one even hinted at a word or sentiment of complaint.

Your TIP is to take inspired action by doing something you feel guided to do. Be open to allow your inner spirit to lead you… not because of duty or what you think you should do.

Let’s take it another step.

When you take action have a feeling of goodwill and appreciation in your heart.

Imagine how powerful, productive, compassionate and loving your business and personal interactions can be.

Do this often enough and you’ll feel so great that your life can be as if you’re on a perpetual vacation.

TIP: The Happier Choice

June 7, 2016

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A man tried to passive-aggressively manipulate a woman, by attempting to get her to doubt herself, so she would do what he wanted.

An insecure woman controls her friend’s behavior by using her illness and fearful threats of taking away something he needs. He goes along with it because the intimidation clouds his ability to believe in himself and that he can find a solution elsewhere.

A therapist got angry with a peer who didn’t buy into her fear-based bullying which she communicated by demeaning words, raised voice, blaming others and mocking tone.

When change occurs, some people feel they’re losing control. It can feel as if their very life is threatened, and they’ll do whatever it takes to survive.

Chances are the perpetrators won’t see or believe what they’re doing.

Stand at arm’s length if you try to tell them lest they throw a punch. Ever hear the adage about not trying to teach a pig how to fly? A pig can’t fly, and you’ll just irritate the pig.

Yes, forgive them for they know not what they do… and take care of yourself! You have a responsibility to be steward of YOUR life.

You have a choice to be a follower of someone else’s fears and expectations, and give away your power, or think for yourself.

You won’t be truly happy unless you follow the rhythm of your own drum.

In avoiding dealing with situations like these (and there are countless variations), you might believe that when the people disappear into the sunset, it will be happy trails forever more. Not true.

Unless you address your “stuff,” you carry this vibration, these feelings, in your energy field. You’ll attract more of the same type of people and experiences in the future, even if your current situation goes away.

Why?

Life offers you opportunities to grow, release what’s not serving you and be free.

What does this have to do with you and your goals?

If you succumb to fear, you may find yourself doubting your ability to be richly compensated doing what you love.

You deserve much more.

Your TIP is to make the happier choice.

  • Trust yourself. Listen to the voice within and what your gut is telling you. Don’t elevate others’ opinions over your own.
  • Believe in your Self. YOU have a hotline to the Divine. Don’t diss that connection by letting others convince you that they know what’s good for you more than you do.
  • Don’t give away your power to fear and self-doubt (others or your own).

How can you do this?

  • Make choices on your behalf instead of trying to please people or kowtowing to fear. Your choices matter. You matter.
  • Listen to your inner guidance. Even if you’ve been ignoring it for a while doesn’t mean your spirit isn’t available 24/7 to give you nudges as well as to light up the best direction for you to take.
  • Pay attention to how you feel not to what you think you should do based on others’ opinions. Let good-feeling mojo be your guide.
  • Be in the now. The ego will have you long for or regret the past or be afraid of future what-ifs and worse-case scenarios. In the present, you can change your thinking and handle anything. Your power is in this moment.
  • Anticipate the best! Why not? It’s the attitude that brings positive results.

You can achieve your dreams in ways that surpass your wildest imagination. However, you must be a vibrational match to them.

Fear, manipulation, doubt and worry create more of the same. None of these are real.

Remember your Source, the real You, and make the happier choice: loving, supportive, creative, growing, free and in the Now.

Remember this, and you’re unstoppable!

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TIP: Defy the Odds. She Lives!

May 10, 2016

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In my last TIP, I asked people to send love to my cat Micha.

It worked.

Your energy helped her cross the chasm from pain and a seemingly assured, immediate passing to, quite miraculously, staying in the land of the living.

 

Her ordeal brought up questions.

Why, I thought, did she become so ill at midnight on Saturday when there was little I could do – like she did late Saturday night, December 26? Repeated other times, too, this was a pattern.

Then, I realized, it’s because I couldn’t do anything.

She needed time to rebound, and if I had a choice to rush her to the vet, I might come to the wrong conclusion. She wasn’t ready to go. How soon or late that will be is her choice.

She has an innate sense of timing.

I wondered why she insisted that I be in her vicinity when she ate.

I joked with myself that it was a conspiracy to get me in the kitchen to prepare food instead of snacking. When I made enough headway in soup preparation so it didn’t make sense to stop, she’d finish eating.

Then, I remembered. I told her she had to eat foodies to live.

She wanted to show me she got the message, and this is her answer. She’s eating.

Communication comes in a variety of ways. Verbal language is only one form.

Here’s more of what I learned.

Micha’s not encumbered by limitations of human logic about what is or isn’t possible.

For over two years, in spite of numerous doctors saying her thyroid numbers were so high that there was no point to her staying alive, she decided to live.

She does what we are all capable of doing but often don’t.

She instinctively tunes in instead of overthinks.

I knew that people would send love and blessings if I asked.

I knew it would make a difference.

Your love strengthened her while she was making her choice to stay or go.

Your blessings helped her beat the odds beyond meds not working and the doctor’s death sentence.

Your energy boosted her spirit so she could more easily focus on healing her body.

Your TIP is to defy the odds.

  • Tune in to what’s true for you.
  • Believe in your dreams.
  • Trust in your innate sense of timing and instincts.
  • Don’t put all your trust in naysayers, even if they’re experts.
  • Pay attention to messages life is communicating.
  • Immerse yourself in a vortex of positive, supportive energy to energize whatever is important to you.

I consciously created a mastermind by asking for your support with Micha.

Thank you.

Allow your intentions to turn into results with grace and ease – surpassing your wildest imagination.

Defy the odds of what you think is possible.

For Micha, please keep your love and blessings coming.

TIP: My Cat’s 2+ Year of Miracles – RIP?

May 2, 2016

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“The world steps aside for the man who knows where he is going.”  James Allen

After her health episode, a vet told me a few days ago during an examination of my 16+ year old cat Micha (pronounced ME-cha), basically, it was time to let her go. In the last two years, I’ve been told this several times.

Along with detailing her issues, the doctor said we can’t know an animal’smentation,” aka their mental activity.

I decided to be polite and refrain from saying maybe you can’t.

It requires quieting one’s own mentation and tuning in to theirs.

Instead of the TIP I said I’d post about a woman’s big miracles (stay tuned for that), I’m going to share some that are big to me.

It’s about my cat’s mentation. You might relate it to your own mental activity. It determines your motivation.

With nose to the grindstone crazy busy. While in the midst of endless To Do lists. Why are you doing any of this? Why do you choose to live?

Knowing this puts you on the path to ignite your Soul’s goals.

Then, anything is possible.

Background:

Over two years ago, Micha dropped from 15# to 7# in three weeks.

A vet said her thyroid was the highest he’d ever seen.

Normal thyroid T4 levels are .7 – 5.2.

Micha’s were 19.4.

No drugs could help. I was told through lurid examples to put her to sleep.

What he and other vets didn’t account for is that she wasn’t ready to go.

Her mentation demonstrated a strong will to live and belief in herself. And a belief that I’d catch on, too.

Animals “think” in pictures. Simple images, not long sentences and ideas.

Actually, our brains work the same way. It’s the reason to keep goals simple.

Having lost a desire to eat, I told Micha that if she wanted to stay with me she’d have to eat foodies. To live, she’d have to tell her body to work.

She’s tapped into her inner power and turned her health around from the brink countless times.

Like many pets who have humans, Micha and I have a strong bond.

She’s got a good gig with me that inspires her to stay – lots of love; good food; sleep whenever; peaceful; friends; outdoors to explore; a safe, enclosed back porch. It’s the cat’s meow.

Just because many don’t understand the language of cat doesn’t mean they don’t understand human.

Cats spend time in quiet meditation while we’re in our busy mentation.

They tune in to things we might overlook.

Like most cats, Micha is smart, reads energy and is an excellent teacher.

Once, a couple came to visit for a few days. After our warm hello, they went to their car to get luggage.

While outside, Micha relieved herself on their bed! She’d never done that before.

They were lovely people but the worse house guests because of their nasty arguments. Once, their yelling woke me up, and I coached them at 2 AM.

Another time, Micha brought in a dead, baby rat and placed it under where a guy I dated was sitting. Again, something she’d never done.

Tune in, human. I’m teaching here. Get the message?

A week later, as more of who he was revealed itself to me, I broke up with him.

When I thought it was time to put her to sleep, she hid and then got better.

It wasn’t about me letting her go.

With her strong will to live and belief in herself, she’s communicated her mentation.

James Allen, the world steps aside for the cat who knows where she’s going, too.

Your TIP is to consider your mentation.

What’s your gut level reason to live and do what you love?

With a strong belief, in spite of any odds against you, you’ll find a way.

Really, if my cat can pull off miracles, so can you!

So, because of Micha’s recent health episode, I’m tuning in to her mentation – hang out with us on planet earth or join the cat party in the sky.

You’re invited to send her love. She’s so tuned in to energy, she’ll feel and be supported by your prayers no matter where she is.

Like us, she doesn’t die when her body does.

While you’re at it, send some lovin’ to your mentation of belief, too. You deserve it.

TIP: How to Stay Motivated

January 11, 2016

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What would you like your year to bring? More money and time? Smoother family life? Fun and friends? Relaxation and vacations? Better health? Big dreams coming true?

Without knowing “your why,” the reason your goal is important to you, your motivation can become like a wind-up toy that ran out of its wind-up. Soon after, you return to the same ole, same ole way you’ve always done things. Add to this frustration and disappointment.

More money is appealing. But money for money’s sake may not provide enough incentive to create more cha-ching in your life.

In the movie Joy, Jennifer Lawrence’s character was highly motivated not to quit. Against all odds, she dug deep and found reasons to keep going. Because she knew her “why,” she found a way out of overwhelming failure to experience success.

Interestingly, sometimes a reason to accomplish goals is a gut-level determination to take care of yourself or stop playing small. The line is drawn in the sand. You’re no longer going to tolerate what’s not working. You’re inspired.

Following are excerpts from my Resolved for Results course to help you stay motivated and get in touch with your why – the soul of your goal:

Have you ever desired something and, when you got it, realized it wasn’t what you really wanted? You asked for a specific outcome but didn’t clarify the soul of your goal, its essence.

Well, that explains the divorce rate.

Have you ever desired something, got something else instead, and then realized it was better than what you asked for? You tapped into the soul of your goal.

Sally’s ideal scenario included very specific details, including marrying a 6’ 2” red- haired man who owned a 10,000 acre ranch.

I asked if she would like to have several employees around all day because, with a spread that size, she could attract a working ranch.

That was absolutely not her intention. She wanted the acreage for privacy. She could have received what she asked for and not been happy… along with a man who fit her description but didn’t share her values. She didn’t mention any.

When I looked for a house, the soul of my goal included a low maintenance, wooded area offering privacy but not seclusion.

I bought a home at the end of a cul-de-sac in a country subdivision with a Xeriscaped lawn. It’s surrounded by trees, a greenbelt in the back, and a fenced-in 1000 acre, exotic wildlife ranch next to a neighboring tree-filled lot.

Have you pursued a goal, got discouraged or sidetracked, then lost energy to keep going? If you don’t have a compelling reason, “your why” that underlies your goal, it’s easy to get off-track, lose motivation, and quit.

TIP: How to Stay Motivated

Be still and go within. Ask your soul why your goal is important to you.  Intend to get an answer. Now write about it so that you tap into your gut-level reason of why you choose this. Write so authentically that it can bring tears to your eyes.

Your brain may not be able to fathom how your goals can occur. However, if your intention is in alignment with the soul of your goal, miracles happen.

Be open to receive.

You Already Know What to Do

December 14, 2015

inspiration you seekA woman was given a week’s notice that her job, which included a place to live and a car, was terminated. After releasing her fear and asking for help within, she quickly learned about another position. Grateful, she was happy that her new employment seemed better than her old one.

Needing results fast and desperately, though, doesn’t always allow for the ideal results. Soon after, she realized the job was a trap. She received far less pay, had more stress, her boss rudely intruded on what little free time she had, and all she could manage was work and sleep.

Anger grew from a spark to a blaze. Once again, she was in a dead end situation. Not enough resources to make a move. People using her and not appreciating her talents. Upset with herself. No life other than work. Unhappy. Stuck. Not making what she’s worth. At the mercy of others. Not living her dream. inn

She thought she could deal with it, but the stress, including her emotional reaction to it, exhausted her body, mind and spirit. She had little choice but to shift her focus to regaining her strength.

Recognizing that resisting her circumstances was harming her, she paused, got quiet and listened.

A new perspective inspired her.

Stop investing her emotions on being upset. Take time to recoup and feel better. Stop hoping her boss would see the light. Wake up to see that years were passing her by while waiting for conditions to be just right to live her dreams. There is no more perfect time than now. Make a plan to move forward. Take action.

She felt at peace and is now patiently following what she learned from her inner guidance.

Be at peace. Go within. Listen. Act.

You don’t need to be a psychic to hear the inner whispers of wisdom and direction. Your messages will be skewed, though, when charged by emotions. Go into the silence to hear. It’s your natural state. Listen to its insight.

“Inner guidance is heard like soft music in the night by those who have learned to listen.” Vernon Howard

TIP: You Know What to Do

Confused about your next step? Unclear how to move your business or career forward?  Wondering why some people act certain ways?

Create a space where you feel connected and peaceful. Take a walk. Breathe deeply. Meditate. Journal. Enjoy a cup of tea or coffee while alone and muse.

Think of yourself as a receiver, like a satellite dish. The channel with answers to your questions is available.

Turn the dish in the direction where you’re open to receive them.

How? Go into the stillness. Ask, and it will be given.

Although a part of you may be clueless, another part of you knows what to do. Be patient and allow the answers to come.

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TIP of the Week: How To Skate Through Life

October 27, 2015

Wouldn’t you rather skate through life than be burdened by it?

My dream this morning gave me a roadmap how.

Let’s say you wanted to ice skate in winter, but there wasn’t a place to do it.

However, you had a place where water could be added to create a pond.

So, you filled that space with an available water source.

Gave it time to freeze.

Now you can skate.

Makes sense. But what does this have to do with anything?

Where’s your focus?

Mulling over problems is how we believe we’re being responsible, but that’s looking in the wrong direction for answers. Habits can be hard to break. You have choices. You could:

  • whine about not being able to skate because there isn’t a place to do it.
  • blame wildlife for drinking the water that could’ve frozen.
  • feel sorry for yourself or tell your story so others can feel sorry for you.

Regardless, you still can’t skate.

You can’t have a problem without already having the answer!

If you keep looking at the problem and feeling bad about it, you won’t see the solution.

You have a place within, your Essence, that already has the solution – the space for the pond.

If you’re open to receive, your inner guidance will fill you with answers – your available water.

If you allow answers time to transform from fluid to solid – thoughts and feelings materialize. Focus on good feelings.

Here’s where Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #3 comes in handy:

I trust my Self and listen to the voice within.

Breathe. Listen.

What if you stay loyal to the what-if-it-doesn’t-work thinking?

Same ole, same ole. Success goes up and down like a see saw. Frustration, anger, blame, struggle, complications and disappointment. Familiar? Here’s what else you can do.

TIP of the Week: How to Skate Through Life Notice how you greet situations.

Is it with fear, doubt, discouragement or other negative feelings?

Instead, focus on any positive experiences you’ve ever had about this.

If you don’t have one, imagine how you’d like it to be.

Before a sales presentation or any transaction, remember ones that went great. It doesn’t matter if you’ve put your foot in your mouth a hundred times before. But once, your long lost uncle bought a candy bar you were selling in grade school, and you felt happy. Go to those thoughts and feelings.

Feeling weak in the knees because you’re about to talk with someone? Recall moments of empowering interactions.

If you’re used to feeling the other shoe is going to drop, feeling good may seem downright unnatural. With practice and positive results, you’ll feel more comfortable.

Feeling good IS your natural state. Forget what you may have heard otherwise. That was misery wanting company