Posts Tagged ‘put things in perspective’

Fly with the Eagles and Don’t Let the Turkeys Get You Down

July 31, 2017

 

You’re feeling great and in the flow. You can do it. This is your time. Nobody can stop you… until some turkeys start pecking away at you, and you want to run.

Experiencing this way too often, and although she’s at the top of her business, competent and relatively young, my client told me that she couldn’t stop focusing on retirement.

She felt that she could no longer handle the stress created from customers’ unrealistic demands and exhausting herself to get them to see reason.

During her Soulgoals session, she realized that she was attracting people who brought out a quality in her that was like her father – being judgmental. People weren’t acting the way she thought they should.

As like attracts like, she was magnetizing people who would bug her so that she could be “justifiably” judgmental.

To counterbalance her father’s inflexible attitude, she played the role of the peacemaker throughout her life. Now that he’s passed and she’s tired of “battling,” she thought those days were over.

However, his judgmental attitude was still alive inside her because she absorbed his energy, and she continued to attract people that required her to be the peacemaker.

She connected the dots and saw that unless she made inner changes, these patterns would follow her wherever she went – even into retirement.

She was on the verge of letting go of a great career instead of letting go of the unwanted energy she harbored within. It was time to stop blaming others and her business as they weren’t the problem.

Done with attracting challenging people who were like her father, she decided to release her judgmental energy and change her perspective.

“I don’t want to put up with other people’s stuff… my big insight is that if you leave, you’re not going to get away from your issues. Deal with it through journaling.”


Another client found herself consistently attracting unqualified clients.

One got nastily irate when she told him that his application didn’t go through.  Although she quickly let him go as a client, she knew she had to change her focus to stop attracting turkeys.

Whatever is focused upon grows.

In the past, she complained about how many applicants didn’t qualify, so she kept having more applicants who didn’t qualify.

Now, she focuses her attention on having great applicants who both qualify and purchase her high end products, all with grace and ease.

Her new perspective is working.

Are there the same (annoying) types of people or circumstances showing up in your life again and again?

Journal about how you feel when the turkeys get you down.

  • Does how you feel remind you of people from your past?
  • When you notice the patterns, choose to let them go.
  • Replace them with a new perspective.
  • After, refocus on your wonderful dreams and goals instead of what you don’t want.

It’s time to soar with the eagles. You deserve it.

With gratitude,

Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

P.S. All stories about my clients’ experiences are shared after having received their permission in advance. Their intention and mine is that others may benefit.

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

TIP: Dance. Yes, You!

October 24, 2016

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Like a phoenix taking flight from the ashes of war, Sierra Leone’s Refugee All Stars radiate how the human spirit prevails.

Their music offers us the gift of perspective. Through unimaginable hardships, we can still rejoice in faith, joy and optimism.

Years ago, I watched a documentary about them twice in a row (first for the story, second to listen to their music). I looked them up online and discovered they were on tour performing at a nearby, small club the next day!

Instead of sleeping, I drove an hour to see their 11:30 PM performance and was able to meet them back stage. As I shook hands with each of them, I said what an honor it was to hear them play, and I had respect for them and all they went through.

They emerged from a horrific eleven year civil war in their West African country and unexpectedly spent years in a refugee camp. Now, instead of wallowing in bitterness and victimhood, they share joy through their upbeat music.

This weekend, I had an opportunity to see them perform again. This time in a big theater.

The stirring sounds pulsed from the stage begging us to dance or at least tap our feet or sway.

Almost everyone sat rigidly unmoved as if to say: I expect you to entertain me. It’s your job to make me feel. Move me… in spite of myself.

In spite of my problems or mind-numbing job. Dealing with family. Being stressed or bored with life.

But the band wouldn’t let us sit as passive participants. 

The drummer stood up, walked to the microphone at the front of the stage only to say these words:

Ladies and gentlemen, I invite you to dance.

My friend didn’t want to at first. “I don’t know how to dance like they do.”

“Just move,” I told her. “Let the music move through you and dance.”

Soon half the audience was on their feet. Smiling. Waving their arms.

We followed directions to “shake it.”

There were periodic check-ins with the audience: Are you happy?

For those who didn’t allow the music to move them, the rhythms taunted like an annoying beggar. Some left.

Allowing the music to flow through us, a joy of spirit broke free into happiness and remembering how much fun life can be.

Your TIP is to dance!

Don’t be a passive bystander to your life.

When you let the life force move through you, you remember joy.

When you feel good, you’re in alignment with your true self.

When you’re in alignment, you’re in Divine Flow – and this is how you receive all good things for your life and business.

Go ahead, dance. Dance in your room or office. Bounce to the beats in your car. Shake your booty by yourself or ignite a friend’s passion to play along.

Allow energy to flow through you, the same energy that allows your business and life to soar to greater heights.

Dance. Yes, you!

Are you happy?

It’s your life. It’s never to late to dance, be happy and allow your dreams to come true.

TIP: Having an I Love Lucy moment?

September 20, 2016

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You’ve probably talked with someone who suddenly went off on you for no good reason. You’re like whaaa… what just happened?

Lately, getting a knee jerk reaction is easy if you mention something that others perceive to be opposed to their political viewpoint. Many have linked their well being and ability to be free on somebody outside themselves.

By the way, the only person who can make you happy and fulfilled is you. So don’t give away your power to anyone.

Now that you’ve got an idea of what I’m talking about, let’s bring it closer to home with your goals and some of your reactions.

Maybe you don’t lash out like Lucy did in her skit “Slowly I Turn,” which is found at the end of this TIP, but you feel that way inside.

For example, what response do you feel in your gut or heart when you hear or think about any of these:

  • You need money that you don’t have, and then you have visions of being in a stagecoach heading off the cliff (okay, I’m still watching a lot of old westerns).
  • You compare your success to others and decide you’re not keeping up with the Joneses, whoever they are – and what do they have to do with your life anyway?
  • You think you’re not accomplishing your goals fast enough and want to cry in your beer over remorse for not having had a better life – particularly disconcerting if you don’t drink beer.

These very emotions then attract more emotions to match!

And that’s why, if your life or business suck in some way, it starts with you.

To manifest anything other than the uglies, it’s essential to feel good REGARDLESS of your outer circumstances.

If you’re ready for something better, then change your perspective  This is 100% in your power to do.

When you see life from a different vantage point, your feelings change.

This creates Good Feeling Mojo, and you ignite your momentum for more things that will inspire you to feel good.

Most people react emotionally to circumstances.

You can use your head, too.

How do you know what you’re doing? Look at your life.

Ready for something more or better?  

Your TIP is to let go of ONE trigger to which you reflexively react.

Why only one? Because by releasing one pattern, there’s an entourage of others attached to it that will go away, too.

If you continue to get results you don’t want, I invite you to contact me about how to break free of going in circles at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

Now to demonstrate triggers, watch this funny, classic I Love Lucy clip.

It’s only 3 1/2 minutes. You can find the time.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTnGpaY3VKY

TIP: Benefits of a Breakdown

September 13, 2016

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What was up with last week’s TIP with *|FNAME}* written instead of your name?

Things don’t always go the way we think they would or should.

Regardless of appearances, if we look, we’ll find a silver lining.

I lost my internet connection early Friday afternoon, and the service provider already left for the holiday weekend.

Benefit: I took the weekend off to play and do other things instead of focusing on a deadline for my new Soulgoals website.

Monday morning I received a call from my ISP. Ah, just in time to send you my TIP.

As I was ready to hit send, the connection dropped again.

No worries, I’ll use my cell phone. Simple.

Instead, I deleted it.

My neighbor let me use her computer.

I printed what I had written on my PC and retyped it on her small screen… which is how I ended up writing *|FNAME}* instead of your name.

As the TIP was about not making things laborious, and this became a three-hour process, I decided to take a short cut.

I cut the number of words to 1/3rd.

Benefit: Every week, I had an intention to shorten my TIPS, and it didn’t quite happen. Using my fatigue as “inspiration,” life showed me how.

Your TIP is to see how your life is being rearranged to make things better.

Breakdowns or things falling apart often precede breakthroughs.

Don’t beat yourself up.

Dump the guilt and blame.

This is a moment when you can let go of your resistance and open to new perspectives.

Redirect your focus from the breakdown to the benefits.

Benefit: My breakdown provided the idea to share today’s TIP with you.

When you go through a hard period,

When everything seems to oppose you,

… When you feel you cannot even bear one more minute,

NEVER GIVE UP!

Because it is the time and place that the course will divert!

Jalaluddin Rumi

TIP: My Trip to the Texas Panhandle

July 12, 2016

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Last week, on the hottest days of the year, I vacationed in the Texas Panhandle, the northernmost region of Texas. Even the wild buffalo that roam on thousands of acres stayed hidden in the shade.

Some sites we saw were truly spectacular, such as the dramatic vistas of Cap Rock Canyon and Palo Duro Canyon, the second largest canyon in the United States, which is pictured above.

There were ghost towns of previously thriving communities. Changing tides in weather and economy created their demise.

The people native to the panhandle left the greatest impression on me – their friendliness, values and interests.

While America reeled from the deaths of two black men and five police officers, some shared their feelings about it.

A cattle rancher, whose wife is an attorney, said he’d been glued to the news. In his community, they stand behind the police, and he demonstrated his beliefs by sharing stories. His viewpoint centered on the senseless killing of policemen and felt that the movement from those who were protesting would disappear and go the way of ghost towns.

On the other hand, a professional woman, while in no way condoning the killing of policemen, shared her frustration by focusing on how a pattern of police behavior triggered five officers being shot by an unstable person.

Both were open to explore different perspectives.

A benefit of traveling is the opportunity to witness life from a variety of viewpoints.

We always have a choice to step back and see different perspectives. Sometimes our thinking is lazy, though. We become rigid, and we just want to see things the way we see them.

If people are open to solutions, instead of bolstering habitual, emotional reactions like fear or anger, discussions can foster understanding and lead the way to new solutions.

Likewise, when you change your perspective about yourself, you can more readily transform your life and business from stuck to abundance.

It reminded me of recent conversations with people who told me that change is their highest priority. Some shared sad stories of their circumstances.

But when an opportunity to change was presented, they weren’t ready. They advocated for their limitations and why they had to stay the same.

I then learned an interesting lesson from one of my teachers:

Just because people ask for answers or want things to be different doesn’t mean they’re open to receive them. 

If they have a high tolerance to emotional suffering, pain, struggle, stress or pressure or have a strong identification with the story they tell about their lives or business, they may not be ready for solutions… although they long for it.

Even if they’re positive people.

Even if they act or talk positively, they often complain inside their heads. Hence, they attract more of what they think about and feel.

Having the right tools makes all the difference.

To set the intention of receptivity, masterminders start energizing their goals by saying: I am willing to receive this or something better.

One new masterminder who experienced one of these tools said, after months (years) of trying to figure things out on her own, “Thanks for not giving up on me.”

During her session, she had huge break-free moments. The next business day, deals that had been stuck for months suddenly came together. Additionally, she handled a crisis at work with grace and ease and got fast results. Previously, it would’ve put her in a tailspin.

Her energy shifted and the gate to her success opened wide.

Crazy busy and working harder aren’t the keys that unlock your doors to success.

YOU are.

All in divine right timing.  When we’re truly ready to receive, miracles happen.

Your TIP is to align your energy FIRST before taking action.

Society teaches that action brings results.

It doesn’t.

Inspired action does.

Your energy creates failure or success.

First, align your energy for success, then take action.

If you think you don’t have time for this because you’re too busy, observe your results.

Not enough time or money?

Feeling happy or frustrated, discouraged, stressed or disappointed?

Start your shift by giving yourself permission to be kind to yourself and to feel good.

Focus on what you love instead of your problems.

Good feeling mojo creates success.

Gain perspective.

Take a vacation from the way you usually see things.

Be open and willing to receive what you choose or something better!

Annoyed? Frustrated? Worried?

April 19, 2016
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Thoughts can be like a dog with a bone where you just can’t let go, incapable to stop chewing on them for hours, days, weeks. Or a lifetime. The same story replayed over and over in your head.

We’re all programmed with certain emotions. I call them emotional defaults.

For example, annoyance, frustration or worry could rule. Even if a problem is solved, something else will be the cause for more frustration, annoyance or worry.

If you notice, it’s a habit. It’s the same emotion you feel over and over again. If one of your defaults is frustration, for example, there will often be something around to frustrate you.

Newton’s first law of motion is inertia. A body in motion tends to stay in motion unless acted on by an external force. So it is with your thinking, too.

Unless something stops this trajectory, people could be annoyed, frustrated or worried, complaining non-stop in their heads or to others, often about people, circumstances or beating themselves up.

Once on a long, solo road trip, I grumbled about the same thoughts and “justifiable” anger… repeatedly… for hours. Finally, on an open stretch of road in West Texas, I became bored and tired of my internal conversation.

There was no one around to talk/whine to which often acts like a pressure release valve, so I took responsibility for my own thoughts and emotions.

Because I was willing to let go, an idea came to play a game called “Change Your Perspective.”  Then, other perspectives emerged, new ways to look at the situation.

I stopped being upset and acting like a victim by blaming.

I was able to let it go and move on.

Since then, I’ve learned that this negative thinking cycle is a function of the ego. If we let it have its way, it will consume us with misery.

When you’re obsessed with negative thoughts, you’ve turned your life over to your ego.

Everyone has a choice of how to think and feel regardless of their circumstances. So do you.

After a disaster, people with different viewpoints talk about their experience. Some focus on what they’ve lost, others are grateful for what they still have.

Your TIP is that you don’t have to be a prisoner of your own mind.

Just as trees next to a lake are reflected in the water, your attitudes are reflected in your life.

If you don’t like what you see, you CAN change it. Write about what you’re thinking and feeling.

Write how you can change your perspective. To let it go, burn or shred it.

Writing by hand and not the computer brings more clarity, perspective and releases negative energy. Set an intention that you’re open to receive answers and break free.

You may have resistance at first because your ego wants your thoughts to hold you in old, familiar patterns.

Stuck? Ask for divine assistance.

This works in business, too.

An employee came to her manager, who’s a masterminder, about a complaint.  She told him to write about it and then shred it in the office shredder. He said that no one ever told him that before.

She used to get upset about office politics. She shifted her perspective so now it no longer affects her.

When you clear mental and emotional space, you have room for your goals to manifest and for greater peace and happiness to flourish.

Why did I choose this topic today? Because when I realized I was rehashing the same topic in my thoughts for a couple of days, I knew it was time to write.

I resisted. I didn’t want to journal. Didn’t think it would do any good. And in a few minutes after writing – POOF, I let it go.

By the way, if you have recurring patterns and could use more help, ask me about an LoL session – Liberation of Lunacy – because we’re all a little crazy when our ego is in charge.

TIP: The 4 P’s Keys to Break Free

March 8, 2016

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Are you ready, perhaps beyond ready, to break free from the sameness of your business or life (same money, people, problems, etc.), debt or feeling the drag of whatever’s not working for you?

Wherever you are, there IS a way to free yourself so you can share your gifts with the world in a bigger way and be richly compensated.

Here are four keys that can help:

PLANNING and PERSPECTIVE: Bring on an elixir that brings results – a CEO meeting with the Divine.

Seriously, this really works.

Take time to write your needs and choices (not just talk and beg) and ask God, the universe or however you relate to the Powers That BE for help. By pausing to gain perspective and accessing this source of Love and wisdom, you open yourself to direction and miracles.

Use your meeting to write down plans, insights and ideas. You may not know what to do, but you’re not asking you. Open to receive guidance.

Numerous times when I thought there were no solutions, new paths appeared where they previously hadn’t existed. If you keep the faith, you can gain both perspective and results.

For more details, check out my very first blog post https://soulgoals.wordpress.com/2009/10/

PROMOTION: To move forward requires connecting with others. Create or foster relationships. Share your ideas. Believe enough in you and what you do to promote your vision to others. Open to new ways to share or market you and your gifts.

If you don’t know how, go back to the CEO meeting with the Divine. If an idea doesn’t pop in immediately, it’s on its way.

Surround yourself with people who have positive energy and care about you. A mastermind team can offer support and focus to stay on track with your goals. Be sure you’re receiving not just giving.

By the way, don’t be so self-centered that you only care about you. Healthy relationships are about balance.

Decades ago, I saw a skit that I still remember. While singing a beautiful opera aria, a woman was surrounded on stage with numerous people. However, she was so preoccupied with her own voice without paying attention to others that, one by one, they left the stage.

At the end of the song, she was alone.

If you’re consumed with your greatness, opinions or problems and consistently share these without a sincere interest in others, you may find your support dwindling.

PERFORMANCE: Take action. Work your business. Improve your skills. Meet with clients and prospects. Spend time on money-generating activities, if that’s your goal. Give your best service to the world in whatever capacity you can in the moment. Allow the universe to meet you half way by being visible and participating in life.  

TIP: The 4 Keys to Break Free

You ARE important, so take time for you.

  • Pull out a pad of paper and have a meeting with your CEO.
  • Reach out and connect. Build relationships. Share your vision with those who might be supportive or can advance you in doing what you love.
  • Five days a week, take action to move you in the direction of your vision. What starts out as a small step can gain momentum – and you’ll be unstoppable.

BONUS: Set an intention that your plans are working. Your ideas might not manifest exactly as you thought, but they may emerge better than imagined. Find a saying that inspires you and repeat it, such as:

Life always work out in my favor. Life always work out in my favor. Life always work out in my favor. 

You can discover it does, if you’re open to believe.

In case your CEO meeting or gut tells you to get more support, clarity or share your gifts in a bigger way, contact me for a free, one-hour Do What You Love Break Free Session at vg@ResolvedForResults.com.

I work with people who long to share their gifts with the world in a bigger way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them find their passion and be richly compensated doing what they love.

TIP: 4 Ways to Get Unstuck

January 25, 2016

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Feeling stuck in your business or life? There are ways to free yourself – like untangling or cutting loose a cat who’s balled up in yarn. By the way, just because it’s stuck, there’s nothing wrong with the cat anymore than there’s anything wrong with you!

To help you unravel your stuckness, here’s an excerpt from the manual of my program Resolved for Results: A Step-by-Step Guide to Live Your Dreams… even if you failed before, lost hope, are afraid, stressed or confused.

A client who emailed a request to her mastermind team wrote, “I have calls out to people, but things seem stuck.” Her goal was well written and specific, including her filling appointments for three cities and a meet and greet.

But I felt the fear under her request and called her. She told me she felt pressure because an out-of-state manager was flying in, and she didn’t have appointments scheduled.

We discussed anticipating the best and letting go of expectation. Part of this letting go was a preoccupation with numbers – the number of bookings. Instead, I recommended she focus on the quality of appointments vs. the quantity.

The next night she sent us a long email. “I woke up fresh and energetic, turned things over to my CEO (God)… I decided that I was not going to “push” to “make” anything happen.” [Her bold print]

Results? Before the end of that day, key people either returned her calls to book or called prospects on her behalf to fill the appointments for her! A big client contacted her to book four trainings. She hosted a successful event that afternoon plus found a perfect venue for a board member retreat following an unsuccessful month-long search.

If you hold onto how you expect life should be, what a person should do, or what’s supposed to fulfill you, you not only limit yourself but block your success and create unnecessary pain and suffering.

It pulls you away from the present moment and foists you into an imagined future of potential disappointment, discouragement, frustration, sadness, anger, or helplessness.

The beauty of the present moment is that it opens you to what’s in alignment with your soul. If one way doesn’t work, there’s a reason. Something better is available… if you allow it into your world.

Instead of longing for what mighta, woulda, coulda or shoulda been, notice the gift of accepting what is.

Anticipating the best instead of expecting specific outcomes makes your words more powerful and opens you to results designed for the highest and best interest for all. It’s an important lesson, and I invite you to consider it in case it’s making the difference between creating difficulties or catapulting you to greater success and abundance.

TIP:  4 Ways to Get Unstuck

Identify where you feel stuck. Feeling stuck is an emotional response that can leave you feeling there’s no way out. Instead, you can find a way to untangle yourself from whatever has gotten you balled up and take productive action. Here are four alternatives that can help:

  1. You’re frustrated because you’re trying to control the outcome by expecting it (or people) to be the way you think it should. Alternative: Relax and anticipate this or something better will occur. Stop trying to micromanage the world. This opens you to tune into new ideas and directions.
  2. You’re beating yourself up with regrets or other limiting thoughts and emotions because of your situation. Alternative: Release judging you, others and your circumstances. Replace it with an empowering perspective that you’re learning, and all is in divine order and timing.
  3. You’re focusing on how things aren’t working. Alternative: focus on what you choose and the good feeling mojo it creates. Good feeling mojo is what opens you to manifest more quickly and with grace and ease.
  4. You’re pushing to make things happen. Alternative: Stop resisting (and exhausting yourself about) what is and allow things to be the way they are. You getting fussy about it won’t change it or help. Let go. Let God. Set new goals for what you choose. Take action from this perspective.

When you shift your energy, you allow life to create miracles and successes beyond your wildest expectations.

You Already Know What to Do

December 14, 2015

inspiration you seekA woman was given a week’s notice that her job, which included a place to live and a car, was terminated. After releasing her fear and asking for help within, she quickly learned about another position. Grateful, she was happy that her new employment seemed better than her old one.

Needing results fast and desperately, though, doesn’t always allow for the ideal results. Soon after, she realized the job was a trap. She received far less pay, had more stress, her boss rudely intruded on what little free time she had, and all she could manage was work and sleep.

Anger grew from a spark to a blaze. Once again, she was in a dead end situation. Not enough resources to make a move. People using her and not appreciating her talents. Upset with herself. No life other than work. Unhappy. Stuck. Not making what she’s worth. At the mercy of others. Not living her dream. inn

She thought she could deal with it, but the stress, including her emotional reaction to it, exhausted her body, mind and spirit. She had little choice but to shift her focus to regaining her strength.

Recognizing that resisting her circumstances was harming her, she paused, got quiet and listened.

A new perspective inspired her.

Stop investing her emotions on being upset. Take time to recoup and feel better. Stop hoping her boss would see the light. Wake up to see that years were passing her by while waiting for conditions to be just right to live her dreams. There is no more perfect time than now. Make a plan to move forward. Take action.

She felt at peace and is now patiently following what she learned from her inner guidance.

Be at peace. Go within. Listen. Act.

You don’t need to be a psychic to hear the inner whispers of wisdom and direction. Your messages will be skewed, though, when charged by emotions. Go into the silence to hear. It’s your natural state. Listen to its insight.

“Inner guidance is heard like soft music in the night by those who have learned to listen.” Vernon Howard

TIP: You Know What to Do

Confused about your next step? Unclear how to move your business or career forward?  Wondering why some people act certain ways?

Create a space where you feel connected and peaceful. Take a walk. Breathe deeply. Meditate. Journal. Enjoy a cup of tea or coffee while alone and muse.

Think of yourself as a receiver, like a satellite dish. The channel with answers to your questions is available.

Turn the dish in the direction where you’re open to receive them.

How? Go into the stillness. Ask, and it will be given.

Although a part of you may be clueless, another part of you knows what to do. Be patient and allow the answers to come.

If you’d enjoy support, validation or additional insights, you are welcome to receive a one-hour complimentary Do What You Love Break Free Session. Leave me a comment for more information.

Your Ship Didn’t Sail – That Wasn’t Your Ship!

November 10, 2015
 

Ever feel that your ship has sailed?

Aka, you missed your opportunity. You blew it. Circumstances are stacked against you, and now what? Humpty Dumpty can’t be put together again. Do not pass Go because your life is one big frustration that’s taking a nosedive from a high diving board into a shallow pool.

Forget this mental noise. Dump all these beliefs because they’re so not true.

You can bounce back from wherever you are, only not in the way you probably thought. (It’s a blessing although it may not seem it.) There are other financial opportunities. That wasn’t the only person or deal in the world. You’re not too old or too stupid. You can get out of a hole if you stop digging.

Despite appearances, there are more ships at YOUR port. You’ll see them if you stop looking at the ones that left.

The universe isn’t limited and neither are you! Life isn’t designed for you, your business, your choices, and the loonies to be perfect. Life is designed for you to grow and expand. This is how shiFt happens.

You have countless chances.

If your dream “ticket to paradise” was eaten by the dog, or you screwed things up so badly that there’s no turning back, different but better opportunities are waiting for you. And you’re all the wiser because of it.

We learn; we move on. Exit stage left the drama king or queen in us who plays the victim as we beat ourselves up or feel sorry for ourselves. Our good takes its bow on center stage as we open and are willing to receive something better.

So, if you missed my talk last week (or would like to hear an even better version), you can see me plus network at NWABC – Northwest Austin Business Connections – this Wednesday, November 11, 11:30 AM – 1 PM.

That’s where you’ll hear my presentation: From Burnt Out to Turned On – Be Richly Compensated Doing What You Love Faster and Easier than You Dreamed Possible!

Come to Mangia Pizza in Gracy Farms Shopping Center 12001 Burnet Rd., Ste D • Austin, TX 78758

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I’ve relaunched my life so much, often like a phoenix rising from the ashes, that I lost count of the times I rebooted emotionally, financially and physically. I’m sure you’ve had your share, too.

Lao Tzu said: “New Beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” Got it?  They aren’t failures. In the words of former Navy Seal Richard “Mack” Machowicz: Not dead. Can’t quit.

If not for one of the seemingly endless, painful times of my life, I would neither be coaching nor writing you now. My experiences gave me new direction. They groomed me to do what I do well and draw on my history of accomplishments more meaningfully.

What gifts did your challenges bring  you? Learn more about my story and how what I discovered can help you find your other ships by joining us this Wednesday.

TIP: Your Ship Didn’t  Sail – That Wasn’t Your Ship!

The stories you tell yourself about your business and life are what create your feelings of loss, failure, frustration, suffering… or success.

To see the bigger picture with a more positive viewpoint, look back to a time when things went you-know-where in a handbasket. What good came from it?

No, don’t think about last week’s mishaps or unresolved issues you haven’t been able to wrap your brain (or heart) around.

Look back far enough so you have the benefit of hindsight without the emotional charge.

If you’re stuck, instead of tuning into your defiant side, ask the wise part of you for perspective.

Learn. Be confident knowing that life is on your side. Good comes out of seeming bad just as fire brings necessary ecological change. Google “benefits of fire” if you doubt this.

How has your business or you emerged better for it? What ships did you board instead? If you can come on Wednesday, hearing about mine may put yours in perspective.