Posts Tagged ‘let go’

Escaping Financial Collapse

April 18, 2022

Be like a powerful river going around obstacles,

A woman came to me on the verge of closing the doors of her office and working from home instead. The economy had taken its toll on a once thriving business, and fear had taken its toll on her spirit.

Recently she shared a story that demonstrates her attitude that turned her business around.

Her company had been courting a prospective client. Although they liked her and what her company brought to the table, in the end, they didn’t want to leave their current, long-time vendor.

The staff grumbled about it for a few minutes and then returned to work. As she sat at her desk, she shook her head and said to herself:

“OK. We’re obviously not supposed to have this contract. I’m letting it go, and something better will come.” This was a departure from her old attitude of worry, fear and images of doom that would have consumed her.

As she clicked the Send and Receive button, an email appeared offering a contract which is now bringing her company three times more profit than the one that turned her down! Although only 1 ½ months into the year, her company surpassed her $250,000 first quarter goal and is bringing in $355,000 with over $150,000 in profits. What a dramatic shift from before when business was at its last gasp of survival.

By the way, her motto this year is Divine flow. Let “stuff” go.

She also learned that God is her supply, not any one person or company. For example, she expected a big client to come through with a contract. She kept waiting and getting frustrated and more desperate. 

When she let go of her expectation and opened up to other possibilities, opened up to the idea that her supply comes from a divine source and not from anyone in particular, then business poured in from many directions.

A year later the big client still hasn’t come through, but her business is flourishing. Without the panic and struggle, she was able to float to the surface of the quicksand of chaos, and success greeted her.

It takes practice to choose to trust instead of giving our power to fear.

Being groomed since childhood with the habit of fear, I’ve had a lifetime of observing the sneaky ways it shows up. My life became shipwrecked when I allowed myself to be seduced by its siren calls.

Eventually, it became harder to hold onto anxiety and easier to let go and trust things will work out – regardless of appearances. I decided to give up worry because it just wasn’t working for me. And when I let go, miracles happen.

Excerpt from March 12, 2012, Soulgoals’ Blog Post


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Does YOUR Economy Need a Boost?

February 21, 2022

Sometimes you have to let go to free yourself.

What do you do when you’re concerned about your finances, and you’re not sure how things are going to work out?

  • You were really counting on that job or deal to come through, but now it’s up-in-the-air or didn’t happen.
  • You have no idea how you’re going to make it financially.
  • You’ve don’t have enough to pay your bills and money left to live.
  • You’re afraid of inflation or changes in your industry. It’s okay now but what if….

A sales rep counted on her big client to provide a steady flow of income. She had a realistic expectation this would continue.

Suddenly, the reverse happened. They let her go.

After the initial shock, she put it in perspective. She did a journaling exercise I recommend: write a CEO letter to God, or the universe, if that’s more comfortable for you.

  • Write about your situation
  • Ask for help
  • Let it go
  • Be open to receive what you wanted or something better.

While writing, she realized she now has time to focus on projects and business ideas she’d put off.


Things don’t always work as you hoped or expected. But change always makes way for something better, regardless of how it appears.

Do not be limited by any individual, others’ opinions, what industry experts say or the government’s economy.
Choose that the source of your economy is not dependent on anything other than God’s economy, and God’s business is always good.

God is the source of your supply.



Maybe your change of events is what it took for you to let go and allow new possibilities to occur.

Remember the proverbial monkey who grasps something in a vase but can’t remove his hand until he lets go of what he’s holding onto? The neck of the vase is so narrow that he has to release his grip just to get his hand out.

You may need to change your perspective by letting go of your emotional and mental grasp to allow something better to come in.

What you focus on grows. In the past, have you experienced anxiety? If so, you’ll attract more experiences that lead you to feel anxious.

Instead, enjoy a childlike trust and curiosity. Look for what’s working and how the universe is assisting you. Consider it a mystery, and you delight in discovering the answer.

Believe there’s a happy ending and focus on it. Why not? You probably tried fear and worry, and they don’t produce lasting and fulfilling outcomes.

By the way, about that sales rep. New contracts appeared through happenstance, and her big client came back a few months later. Her financial situation worked out even better when she let go and shifted her perspective.

Revised excerpt from my Soulgoals’ blog post of February 7, 2011


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YOUR economy,

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TIP: Don’t EXPECT Results. This Works Way Better.

February 7, 2022


Don’t EXPECT results??

Say again. Isn’t that what you’re supposed to do? 

Expecting results is a booby trap, and you’re no boob. Here’s how it can foil your efforts. 

When we mastermind, we ask for “this or something better.” Why? Because God and the universe may have a better way to bring results.

(Note: I know some people align more with the universe than God. Don’t get hung up on a word choice that doesn’t fit your beliefs. Refer to whatever works for you.)

Energetic clinging repels results. Imagine a girl focused on finding a boyfriend. Guys sense this as dogs sense fear and run for the hills. Once she lets go of the search, there’s room for her dream to come true.

Likewise, if we cling to how we expect things will turn out, it repels what we want.

I’m an expert on expectation… and why it doesn’t work.

In the past, I tricked myself into thinking that I trusted everything would work out, when I was actually WAITING FOR, aka EXPECTING, a result from a specific source. 

For example:

  • While putting a group together, I expected my next event would fill it.
  • If I had a financial goal, I expected a particular client to fulfill it.
  • I said I let it go, but I tried to control the outcome by expecting results the way I wanted.

I patiently relaxed to manifest my goals the way I expected. I knew how I thought it would happen… and I took action to make it happen.

Here’s the telltale downside. When life didn’t happen as expected, I got disappointed and depressed. Next came a feeling of hopelessness, fear and my former default program: Oh no, what am I going to do?


This started a vicious circle of expectation and discouragement that attracted more situations that caused me to continue to feel discouraged.


Now, I still hold events and have clients that could bring particular results. But, if they don’t, it’s called NEXT. God and the universe will supply from other sources. 

God is your supply. 

Don’t expect your supply to come from a person, event or anything in particular.

You ALWAYS are taken care of by God and the universe but results often come differently than how you think they SHOULD.

Results come with grace and ease when you, as the saying goes, let go and let God. 

The key is to have faith. TRUST. All you need is the faith of a mustard seed, and they’re very tiny.

Feeling dejected, rejected or injected with fear is not trusting.

Trust is not giving up or moaning about what’s not working. These are childhood responses. 



Trust by ANTICIPATING RESULTS. Anticipate your needs are met beyond your wildest expectations. If one way doesn’t work, it’s okay. Something better is here for you. Adopt a childlike curiosity of wonder instead of dictating an expectation. 


It’s your job to:

  • Make a choice.
  • Pay attention to your nudges.
  • Take action on what you’re inwardly guided to do.

 Let God and the universe fill in the HOW and why and where and by whom.


Anticipate, don’t expect.
Trust that God and the universe can and do manifest goals you choose or something better.

Don’t like your new creation? Don’t create a story about how you never get what you want, etc. Choose again.

Anticipate the best and you change the way your world is happening for you.


Edited excerpt from my Soulgoals’ post of May 26, 2011

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I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. Or maybe would like a more fulfilling life.  I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals. 

Email me at:
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Don’t Give Up. This CAN Help!

January 24, 2022

Do you have challenges that leave you clueless about what to do? Wouldn’t you rather live life on your terms?

My challenges started to multiply and became too numerous and complicated to solve. I felt disheartened as I trudged through them step-by-step.

How could I get large accounts to pay past due invoices they ignored? What would it take to heal my hip that went out and created a painful limp? How could I complete a frustrating project that left me wishing Scotty would beam me up and free me of my misery? And the list went on.

It was time for an elixir that brings results – a CEO meeting with the Divine. Call it God, the Universe, a Non-Physical Source, Infinite Intelligence, or however you choose to refer to an Energy that surpasses our human understanding.

I wrote my needs and asked God for help. Miraculously, everything that was wearing me out got resolved, most by the next day.

Checks finally arrived; my hip suddenly healed; people stepped up to help me complete my projects; and much more – and I felt great!

Whatever you call this Power, know that the biggest and most savvy CEO of all is available upon request to help you. This CEO supports your success, loves unconditionally, and never sleeps.

Think you need to know someone in order to get ahead? This CEO knows everyone and has the best connections.

  • This CEO knows you are worthy and deserve receiving positive results in divine right timing… regardless of what you’ve done in the past; how you’ve screwed up; how confused or exhausted you are; how inadequate you feel; how much doubt you feel – even if you’re angry with or don’t believe in a divine source – or how big (or hopeless) your problem seems.
  • This CEO invites regular communication and collaboration, so forget about the idea that you don’t want to bother God with the small stuff.

You can worry until the 11th hour before letting go and asking for supreme assistance. But why wait until life gets out of control when an all-knowing, caring, hands-on CEO is on-call 24/7?

Asking for divine intervention welcomes miracles into your life.



Got Problems? God’s seen them all and already knows the way out of any situation. So why not ask for help? You’ve got nothing to lose by working in conscious partnership with the Divine, and everything to gain.

  • Ask and it will be given. That’s called a clue. You have to ask.
  • Believe to receive for the most magical results.

Even people who resist journaling say they look forward to these CEO meetings. You can take your problems to your Divine CEO and receive phenomenal results, too.

TIPS:

  • CEO meetings with the Divine work great even if you feel completely stuck.
  • There’s no right or wrong way to have your CEO meeting with the Divine.  Just talk with your Source.
  • WRITING AND ASKING FOR HELP (instead of only thinking and staying lost in your head) is a HIGHLY EFFECTIVE YET SIMPLE TOOL TO LET GO OF YOUR PROBLEMS AND FEARS.
  • The more you believe this can work and are open to receive, the easier answers come.

Say good-bye to worry and challenges. Invite the best CEO to work with you, on your behalf.

Don’t settle for living in silent desperation.

You can live life on your terms, but don’t take my word for it.

Got challenges? Don’t give up!

Choose to create your world in collaboration with divine flow. Have your CEO meeting with the Divine and find out for yourself.


Excerpt from my Soulgoals’ Blog posted on October 2, 2009

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.


I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. Or maybe would like a more fulfilling life.  I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals. 

Beyond not giving up. Thrive!
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break-Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

Is Peace Really Possible? If So, How??

December 20, 2021

Much of the world is lost in their wanting of something.

As a result, people feel bad or create conflict over what they perceive as lack  what they want but don’t have. In essence, they want things like better health or relationships or weight, a better life, more money, people to behave and believe differently and on and on.

This also means that whatever they have or feel is not good enough. Not enough. The real nemesis.

Could this possibly apply to you, too?

When you feel anxiety, ask yourself what you’re wanting. Even in simple things, such as:

  • Feeling stressed because you want to give the perfect gift? You’re more likely to find it if you’re relaxed.
  • Anxious because you want to get your house in order before company comes or want to land a business deal? If you’re feeling good, you’ll spread holiday cheer to your guests or clients – and they’ll feel better around you.
  • Worried about wanting more money, better health, your ideal partner or better relationships? When you’re emotionally calm, you’re more receptive to insights. Ideas and opportunities will be drawn to you like Santa Claus finds cookies.

Can li’l ole YOU make a difference in this big, crazy world?

YES!

With each person who feels greater peace within, the world becomes more peaceful. Just like anger is infectious, so is the feeling of peace. 

Which do you choose to propagate? Fear, anger, worry, frustration OR peace?

You have a choice. Sound impossible?

Do you think that you can’t help the way you feel because it’s someone else’s fault or your challenging circumstances are to blame? Wouldn’t everybody complain if they were in your shoes?

Here’s how you can begin to break that cycle, change your attitude and create a life of greater peace.

What’s the source that creates such stress?

Lack of peace comes from:

  • wanting approval from others
  • wanting to control circumstances (that are sometimes out of your control) or others’ choices and how they show up in the world
  • wanting to be free of a fear of lacking safety and security.

Can these really be the culprits of all that suffering? Yep. These three wants are the roots of what create any lack of peace!

The secret is switching your energy from wanting to having… then what you choose can come to you with grace and ease.

You can choose to experience greater peace!

First, decide that being at peace is your highest priority, more than wanting approval and love, wanting security or wanting control. (In other words, more than unconsciously wanting things that end up making you feel miserable, depressed, stressed, frustrated, fearful, worried or any crappy feeling you do NOT want.)

How?

  • Let go of wanting approval and love so you can discover that you already have approval and love. It’s an inside job, not something anyone can give you.
  • Let go of wanting to be safe and secure so you can realize you already are. If you’re trying to get this from others or feel you need more money, things, love, etc. to be happy, remember that they could be taken from you anyway. You’ll discover that you’re already safe and secure as long as you stop fearing that you’re not.
  • Let go of wanting control. No amount of trying to control external sources will ever be satisfying. You already have control, but it’s within you.
  • Let go of the need to defend yourself. What are you defending except a false sense of self? 

If you make peace your highest priority, you’ll experience greater success in all areas of your life.

You’ll find that you’ll attract those who are more peaceful, and peace will ripple to others. Li’l ole you changing the world toward greater peace.

As I’m not going to try to control what you believe, may you enjoy your holiday season in a way that’s meaningful to you and your faith.

Peace be unto you, my friend.

Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ post of December 22, 2015


Tired of stress, frustration, and suffering?
There are tools to help you!
Contact me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way

Or choose to enjoy a better life…

but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.



Is Your Past Haunting You?

June 28, 2021

A mountain biker rode on a trail she’d been on at least 50 times. During some of those rides, she’d fallen and hurt herself. Because of this history, she was haunted by what the biking community calls “ghosts.”

She remembered the injuries, where the obstacles are located that caused her pain and avoided them.

Her experience changed, though, when she did this very same trail with a group of riders who traveled this way for the first time and were decades younger than her, including a woman who’s a national champion.

Not having negative memories, they tackled the trail with abandon.

While riding she said to herself, “Let’s pretend I haven’t been on this trail before.”

It was a whole new experience. She quickly rode over obstacles, that she’d been avoiding, and was unscathed. Didn’t fall down. Didn’t get hurt.

She told me that it’s the same in business and life.

Don’t let old ghosts from the past, which cause you to hesitate, get in the way of taking action and being successful.

Let go of the bad experiences.

What ghosts can you let go so you can tackle your life, business or work with abandon?

Find a way to create positive momentum so you get through without giving them a second thought.

P.S. Know someone who might like this? Please forward.

If you or anyone you know live with
ghosts of the past that continue to be
a haunting presence, please consider
a complimentary, break-free session.
It is possible to let go and move forward…
and feel the sweet taste of freedom!

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how or feel stuck.

I help them ignite their Souls’ goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.


Originally posted on Soulgoals’ Blog, June 5, 2017, Let Go of Ghosts

Copyright © 2021 Virginia Goszewska, All rights reserved.

When the Going Gets Tough, Maybe You’re Going in the Wrong Direction

April 12, 2021
The blue is really green with blue undertones.

If you’re ready for miracles in your life, it helps to know how to find them.

 Remember this game?  Children look for an object and are told cold, warm or hot as they get further away or closer to it.

 Life gives you clues like this, too, so you’ll know if you’re on the right track.

  • You’re cold when you feel like you’re pushing against a brick wall, and it won’t budge.
  • You’re warm when you feel like you’re in the flow, enjoying a magic carpet ride.
  • You’re hot when you’re manifesting. 

What can that look like in real life? 

Ever make yourself wrong when you don’t have energy to do what you think you “should?”  Yes, sometimes you just have to take action to get your mojo running. 

Sometimes you need a course correction. Even if it’s the right goal, it could be the wrong approach or attitude. 

When you feel like a fish swimming upstream, maybe it’s because you’re going against the flow. 

Another way to know? If you’re moping, whining, angry, frustrated, complaining, fearful or worried, you splashed ashore. You jumped out of the flow and became a fish out of water. 

This is a good time to pause and observe. What makes you happy? Do you really have to force yourself to go in the direction you’re going – and the way you’re doing it? 

Let yourself be guided by the flow instead of trying to make things happen. 

Here’s how I went from cold to hot in manifesting. 

 I decided to get living room furniture. 

 I had mental images of what I wanted. The back of the sofa had curved lines. Because I enjoy holiday decorating, I wanted the sofa to be red or green.

 However, I became irritated while in every store. Shopping was laborious. Spending all that money and not enjoying it didn’t seem right. So, I stopped forcing myself to look.

 Soon after, new neighbors moved in next door. Their previous home was twice the size and several hours away.

 Not knowing which living room set to use until they could try them out, they brought two to their new home. They sold me the sofa from their rarely used formal living room, nicely protected in movers’ plastic. The back? Curved. Colors? Red and green.

 Added to this were two end tables; a coffee table; two lamps; rug; chair; a throw blanket and yards of matching, wooden, Christmas garland.

 Anxious to clear their garage, they sold it all for $175!

 Instead of pricey delivery costs because I live out-of-town from the stores, we only had to move it across the yard.

 My lack of interest and irritation was my guidance telling me not to shop.


 Here are some components that allowed me to manifest the furniture:

  • Made a choice – I decided to have new living room furniture.
  • Identified details – I only had images about the colors and curved back, so I had my attention on those. I worked with what I knew, and that was enough.
  • Took action – Shopping focused my energy. It was an on-the-job visualization.
  • Let it go – I didn’t force myself to do what didn’t bring me joy. This allowed me to relax and open to the flow of possibilities. 

There’s another part of the story.  I almost missed out on this deal. 

At first I was told the sofa was plaid, so I said I wasn’t interested. 

Fortunately, the next morning I woke up and decided it wouldn’t hurt to look. When I did, I discovered it fit the image and feel of what I wanted better than any style I’d looked at in the stores. 

I almost turned my back on this manifestation because I prejudged without even looking into it.

Now it’s your turn. 

  1. Breathe and relax.
  2. Set an intention to receive what you choose for your life.
  3. Choose to be in divine flow.
  4. Take action in the direction of your goal. 
  5. Let it go. I mean really let go of the need or desire to have it. Allow divine timing to work its wonders.

Let me know your results!

If you’d like help in 
making your life work better,
contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people

who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.



Reposted from Soulgoals’ Blog, April 21, 2011

Escape the Quicksand of Fear

September 21, 2020

Fear was my #1 issue during a personal growth session in 1991. It took us two hours to reveal what the particular fear was until I realized it was everything!

It took me years to recognize the insidious ways fear had molded my life since childhood.

Like attracts like, so when the vibration of fear precedes actions, the results reflect that energy. More things to fear.

What follows is lack; struggle; failure; disappointment; frustration; worry; anxiety; loss of business; financial hardship; and that dreadful fear of the future – “what if” things don’t work out and I face a fate worse than death?

Especially when I felt the fear was justified, being afraid grew exponentially; it was like adding sugar to yeast. “Just look at my circumstances. Anyone in them would feel this way.”

Once when my budget was screaming “ouch,” I feared missing a credit card payment. I knew someone this happened to, and her rates skyrocketed. My negative musings caused me unconsciously to pay my bill from an account where I don’t keep money… and I missed my payment.

My preoccupation with my imagined, financial ruin also had me overlook paying my water bill. I opened the top portion of a letter sent to alert me and set it aside thinking it was next month’s bill. Only after coming home from burying my cat who suddenly died and discovering my water had been turned off did I see it was a disconnect notice.

I had the money, but I was so consumed with fearing future disasters that I created them!  As Job said, “For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me.”

You may have been pulled into the quicksand of fear. Once you start sliding down its slippery slope, every frantic breath has you descend into it more deeply.

All my successes occurred when I let go of fear.

What is quicksand, and how does it work?

Quicksand is just a soupy mix of water trapped in ordinary sand that can’t escape. It’s a liquefied soil that can’t support weight. It can occur almost anywhere if the right conditions are present.

Contrary to being the frightening, bottomless pit portrayed in the movies, it rarely is deeper than a few feet.

Stepping into quicksand will not swallow you whole or suck you under, but thrashing about will force you deeper into it. The more you struggle, the faster you sink.

Most people who drown in quicksand or in any liquid are those who panic and start flailing their arms and legs. However, it’s easier to break free of it than you may think.

To escape you have to stop fighting. The key is not to panic.

The way out is to relax and make slow movements back to the surface. Because your body is less dense than the quicksand, you will float to the surface if you let go of the struggle and relax. In fact, it’s easier to float on quicksand than on water. Once afloat, you can find your way back to safety.

Hmm, so similar to fear – how we drown in it and how we can escape its murky mud.

Let go of struggling and relax!

Originally posted on February 26, 2012

 

If you’d like help escaping the quicksand in your life,
contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.”

Short Story: Frustration with a Happy Ending

February 17, 2020

A client manifested nearly doubling the size of her facility for a great price while attracting countless miracles in the process – including her competition wanting to reserve a room there for a weekly group. This could translate to more customers learning about her and expanding her current business.

However, there were so many demands for her new space that opportunity turned to frustration as scheduling became a distressing challenge… until she had a change of heart.

She emailed this to me so I can share it with you.

“I’ve been seriously stressing over how to work this other group into the schedule without upsetting people who currently are taking my classes during those times.

“Of course, I was hearing many opinions on changing to different times and was trying to figure out a way to keep everyone happy – including the other group.

“I realized at some point early Tuesday (somewhere around 3 or 4 AM) that it would work out the way it was meant to, and let it go.

“With or without the other group, my business has a great schedule and a lot to offer.

“By Tuesday afternoon, we easily figured out the schedule with the other group, and it looks great!

I listened to my gut and let it go.

At 8 AM on Friday, she gave me an update that had just occurred within the previous half hour.

“Here’s another miracle.”

She had renovations scheduled so she could open her doors in three days – with the exception of painting. Again, she let it go thinking it could happen after the opening, even though it would require taking down a big wall of mirrors that she was about to have installed.

Until, that is, she casually mentioned her situation to a client who told her, “I can paint it this afternoon!!”

You don’t have to figure things out in advance for them to work out.
When you let go, you open to miracles. 

Reprinted from Soulgoals’ Archives posted on October 29, 2010

Ready to let go to have something even better?

If so, contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break-Free Session at
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to enjoy their lives,
share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2020 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

 

Escaping the Quicksand of Fear

January 20, 2020

Fear was my #1 issue during a personal growth session in 1991. It took us two hours to reveal what the particular fear was: everything! It took me years to recognize the insidious ways fear had molded my life since childhood.

Like attracts like. When the vibration of fear precedes actions, the results reflect that energy. What follows is lack; struggle; failure; disappointment; frustration; worry; anxiety; loss of business; financial hardship; and that dreadful fear of the future – “what if” things don’t work out and I face a fate worse than death?

Especially when I felt justified, being afraid was like adding sugar to yeast – “Just look at my circumstances. Anyone in them would feel this way.” Fear multiplied which attracted more things to be afraid about.

Once when my budget was screaming “ouch,” I feared missing a credit card payment. I knew someone this happened to, and her rates skyrocketed. My negative musings caused me unconsciously to pay my bill from an account where I don’t keep money… and I missed my payment.

My preoccupation with my imagined, financial ruin also had me overlook paying my water bill. I opened the top portion of a letter sent to alert me and set it aside thinking it was next month’s bill. Only minutes after coming home from burying my cat who suddenly died and discovering my water had been turned off did I see it was a disconnect notice.

I had the money, but I was so consumed with fearing future disasters that I created them!  As Job said, “For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me.”

You may have been pulled into the quicksand of fear. Once you start sliding  down its slippery slope, every frantic breath has you descend into it more deeply.

All my successes occurred when I let go of fear.

What is quicksand, and how does it work?

Quicksand is just a soupy mix of water trapped in ordinary sand that can’t escape, a liquefied soil that can’t support weight. It can occur almost anywhere if the right conditions are present. Contrary to being the frightening, bottomless pit portrayed in the movies, it rarely is deeper than a few feet.

Stepping into quicksand will not swallow you whole or suck you under, but thrashing about will force you deeper into it. The more you struggle, the faster you sink.

Most people who drown in quicksand or in any liquid are those who panic and start flailing their arms and legs. However, it’s easier to break free of it than you may think.

To escape you have to stop fighting. The key is not to panic.

The way out is to relax and make slow movements back to the surface.

Because your body is less dense than the quicksand, your body will float to the surface if you let go of the struggle and relax. In fact, it’s easier to float on quicksand than on water. Once afloat, you can find your way back to safety.

Hmm, so similar to fear – how we drown in it and how we can escape its murky mud.

Reprinted from Soulgoals’ Archive  posted on February 26, 2012

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