Archive for the ‘Attitude’ Category

When Things Fall Into Place… In Spite of How It Looks to the Contrary

October 2, 2017

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I had a list of deadlines, and I didn’t know how to accomplish them.

As getting worried and trying to make things work just flusters me and makes my actions ineffective, I skipped that step.

So, I observed rather than reacted. I had a few gasps of what’s-going-on when surprises came, and then I let them go. And when I did, things worked out.

Room and car rental reservations went askew, then came together improved.

People showed up from unexpected sources when it looked like they wouldn’t. Not always the way I thought they would but usually better.

Support magically came my way on a hodgepodge of issues, one after the other.

Without fanfare or praying to be saved, I let go and let God.

Being open to receive and an attitude of “things either are going to work or not work” allowed me to let go emotionally.

Why bother getting upset over things not happening the way I think they should or didn’t happen yet?

Trying to control the uncontrollable never helps.

Even though I felt emotionally detached, I held a clear vision of my outcomes manifesting while I released the need to know how.

Step at a time, they worked out! Sometimes minutes after I realized I had an issue, the answer appeared.


The day after a life-changing event, someone shared with me potentially bigger changes. Practically speaking, the prospects didn’t look good.

The consensus of everyone in power was this is a done deal. It would be easier on them if they could just close out the issue and move on.

That seemed better for everyone except the woman who was told she’d have to sell her car, move out of town, live away from friends and neighbors, and lose her home she’s lived in for decades. 

My suggestion: ultimately, if you can’t find a solution, then let it go. 

However, don’t start with the premise that nothing can be done. With this perspective, solutions won’t be found. Instead, start with the end in mind.

See that this can work, then look for ways how. The answers present themselves in divine right timing.

I received an update a few minutes ago. A week after she was told she’d have to give up her home and car, ways were found to keep them! 


There’s always a soulution to a problem. In fact, it exists before we become aware of the issue.

Know that within you are your new directions, answers and clarity — for your business, work and life. You can reveal these by allowing the swirl of emotions to calm so you can hear your quiet voice within.

Instead of trying to make things happen, allow yourself to receive.

Focus on a solution, and things can fall into place, in spite of how it looks to the contrary.

With gratitude,

Virginia

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

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Are Crazy People Taking Over Your Life?

September 18, 2017

 

 

Homer's scream

One afternoon, while on Broadway in midtown Manhattan, New York City, I walked a few people behind a man who was having an animated argument with someone. Speaking in a loud voice with gesticulating hands, I wondered who was the recipient of such a tirade.

It was just him battling with himself.

Someone and something really got to this guy, and he allowed it to drive him to act crazy.

Throughout your life, some people have done you wrong, and some may have gotten to you.

In the past (or maybe present), you’ve been:

  • abused, misused, ignored, rejected, undermined, betrayed, robbed, disappointed, manipulated, misunderstood, humiliated, put down or the focal point of someone’s greedy, crazy, unconscious, demeaning, insecure, unfair or malevolent intent.

Often the perpetrators have been those most trusted and least expected to turn on you, such as:

  • close friends, family, significant others, church members, neighbors, co-workers, clients, bosses or business associates.

The results may have left you feeling that you’ve lost:

  • hope, your confidence, your spark of life, your capacity to find joy, your ability to ever succeed again or even care about it, your connection to the universe or your faith in God.

“The most important question you can ever ask is if the world is a friendly place.”  Einstein


It’s a big question to ponder. Your answer determines if you’re going to let the crazies, past and present, or less-than-favorable circumstances get to you, and consequently, impede your ability to be open to the success and enjoyment you richly deserve.

Are you letting undesirable memories occupy your attention so much that you won’t allow yourself to see that the world is a friendly place?

Often we’re attached to how we expect people and things are supposed to be. When they go haywire, our ego/ brain loves to binge watch reruns of movies about our sad stories over and over again.

Instead, change the channel and focus on something in your life that works.

Relitigating your past by vacillating between trying to prove how you’re right and “how dare they” doesn’t help. Have you noticed? You won’t end up feeling better, and feeling good is important as it’s a key to attract success.

Personally, instead of letting go of my faith in life and humanity, I (eventually) learned to have greater discernment.

As Kenny Rogers sang in “The Gambler:”

You’ve got to know when to hold ’em

Know when to fold ’em

Know when to walk away

And know when to run.

Some people in my life who appeared to be helpful, trustworthy, supportive, emotionally healthy, well-meaning and even spiritually awake… I came to realize were toxic.

I could grumble about them incessantly, which I’ve done. I found it more useful, though, to see them as my teachers: learn my lessons, chalk it off to another life experience and move on.


It took me a while to see people for who they are, not for who I thought they were or wanted them to be.   


Here’s an interesting twist.

Underneath this crazymaking, there’s a whole lot of disapproval going on.

Sometimes the other person starts it, and we respond back with disapproval and judgment, or vice versa.

When we enmesh ourselves in disapproval energy, we give others the power to control our happiness — from complete strangers whose driving we don’t like to annoying people in our day-to-day lives.

When we expect others to behave or show up in a certain way so we can feel good about ourselves, in essence we’re saying:

You need to change so I don’t have to change. My caring about you is conditional. It’s dependent on you acting the way I think you should. Otherwise, I might feel that I’ve lost control.

When the awareness comes that we alone have control of our attitude, then we don’t need others to be different so we can feel good.

Of course, do what’s wise to take care of yourself, but you get to choose your attitude.

Energy changes when practicing this. The crazies start to evaporate from your life like the morning fog when the sun comes up.

Do you allow others to affect your psyche, your joy of living, your success, your ability to pick yourself up and start again regardless of whoever or whatever happened or is happening to you?

It’s your choice.

With gratitude,

Virginia

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.  

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

My Personal Experience During a Flood plus a Labor Day of Love with Hurricane Harvey 

September 4, 2017

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A little over two years ago, a friend and I enjoyed dinner in a nearby town and casually talked after in the parking lot.

The weather had been unusually beautiful for weeks, and living in a safe community, I even left the back door open to my screened back porch when I was gone.

On my way home that night, the unexpected happened. I turned the corner onto Ranch Road 12 in San Marcos, Texas, and in an instant started driving through forty minutes of treacherous, torrential rain, the likes I had never seen.

I knew if I stopped, the low-water crossings would be flooded, and I might not be able to get back home.

Focus. Focus. Breathe. Relax. Pull over when driving got ridiculously so bad that I couldn’t see a thing. But I couldn’t pause for long; another car might hit me if blinded by rain while on that hilly, winding, country road.

I tapped into the energy of my client John, who likes storm chasing, so I would stop white knuckling the steering wheel.

Arriving home safely, I later learned that neighbors pitched in during the middle of the storm to create a protective barricade. A deluge of water surged from across the street attempting to enter a home two houses away from mine.

The next morning, I awoke with my chest wheezing heavily, gasping for air and sounding like a zombie when I spoke. At first, I thought it was bronchitis.

Even so, I assumed the worse was over. After all, no water had entered my house.

However a few days later, I wondered why my furniture suddenly had a wide swath of green that looked like someone had painted a nearly foot-wide stripe – – and then I found the same streaks across my kitchen cabinets and bathroom. I soon discovered that it got inside my drywall, furniture, kitchen cupboard and on most of the items in my living room, too.

The ferocious, pounding rain and wind hit the ground with such force that it dislodged mold and sent it flying through my open, back door and into my home. When the heat rose to a certain temperature, the mold bloomed.

It took me many months to remove mold from my drywall and home as well as recover from the mental stupor, lack of energy and ill health that mold creates. Add to that the financial impact of not having been able to work beyond taking care of my clients.

It definitely was one of the most challenging times of my entire life. But I got off way easy!!

Twenty miles away on the Blanco River of that Memorial Day weekend, a log jam was created from felled trees and branches… until they let loose. Within three hours, the river rose 33′, cresting at 40′.

People, including a family, were washed away.

Riverside homes, even those out of the flood zone, were ripped apart from their foundations when the force and volume of rising water overwhelmed them. When the flood carried those houses away, and they bobbed down the river, their roofs were knocked off by trees. With nothing to hold the structures together, the houses just fell apart and became rubble.

Overflowing great distances beyond its banks, the rushing water damaged bridges, countless homes and businesses. The landscape changed as huge trees that previously had lined streets no longer existed. FEMA took residence in my small community for months.

  • I was so incapacitated from the mold that I didn’t have the energy to drive a quarter mile out of the way, during my trip to town, to look at where some of the worst disaster hit, let alone help others. The effects of the mold sometimes made it challenging to speak or have the mental clarity to respond during conversations or get out of bed to eat. For a while, with the mold inhabiting my body and mind, I was zoned out as if I was on an opiate drug and couldn’t think or care about anything. It was a rude and frightening awakening when I was able to swim out of my daze. I felt like I’d been under water and had to push myself to the surface and to breathe air again, only to witness the catastrophe that was happening around me in my home, health, personal and financial life.

Years ago, I heard that natural disasters are life’s way of creating a personal growth program. There are gains to be made amidst the crisis.

As bad as it was at the time for me, it was a blessing in disguise.


I can attest that, out of necessity, my harrowing experience forced me to let go of both beliefs that I considered sacrosanct as well as people who I discovered were out for themselves, not for me.

When I did release them, my life became better than ever because some of what I thought were “good and positive” ways of showing up in the world were the very things that had held me back.

When drowning, a survival instinct kicks in. I had to take care of myself or go under. I had no energy to babysit others’ issues or their unconscious, self-serving ways.

Part of my Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #6 states, “I choose to use my personal empowerment on my behalf, which allows me to serve life more fully.” 

Instead of taking years to understand lessons like this more deeply, I condensed my learning curve into months… including the necessity of letting go of worry and fear.

As life reflects back the energy of our thoughts and feelings, why did I create this? I had been deeply concerned about a business challenge, so I created something else to worry about instead.

And, yes, because I had no energy to hold onto the original issue, the solution manifested during my months-long experience.

“Soulutions” came when I let go of the worry and fear that bound me, making room to be open to answers for which I’d been asking.

Another lesson, ask for breakthroughs with grace and ease.


 

My community recovered as it pulled together in new ways, too. Strong. Compassionate. Having received help from others.

Now during the aftermath of Hurricane Harvey, while remembering that help, individuals, businesses and the local police are returning the goodwill of love to help those in need who are a few hours down the road.

Everyone who’s experienced Harvey will have their own story to tell, what they (had to) let go of, what they learned.

Labor Day is a celebration dedicated to the strength and prosperity of American workers.

On this national holiday of Labor Day, in my part of the world, are demonstrations of labors of love.

How will you celebrate your labors?

With gratitude, Virginia

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I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.
Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved

How Do You Know If You’re on the Right Track?

August 15, 2017

You don’t have to hit bottom before making changes. Instead, there’s a way to read the signs to know when it’s time to go in another direction.

These people were ready to go off the deep end and drown in a pool of their own outrage.

• A businesswoman got upset when she received information that stopped an important deal in its tracks.
• Because her boss has it in for her, another woman wondered if she should leave her job.
• Ready to begin his vacation, a man got angry when he arrived and discovered his property had been trashed.

However, when they noticed their emotions were getting the best of them, each stepped back, observed and course corrected by changing their attitudes.

What was the sign that alerted them to shift?

They didn’t feel good because they were angry, so they knew they were on the wrong track and out-of-alignment with their inner GPS.

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A clue that let’s you know if you’re on track or not is how you’re feeling.

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What can you do about it? If you’re not happy, release the emotions and be open to take action on new options.

That can take some practice, and it’s an acquired skill.

Yet the faster you notice you’re off track, before momentum runs away to the point of no return, the easier it is to redirect your focus to more empowering perspectives and solutions.

By the way, that’s what each one in the above examples did.

Each discovered great resolutions to their issues. How? They made conscious choices not to let their emotions get the best of them. They pivoted and headed in a new direction.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a new challenge or you’re wondering how the heck your life got to this point; you can choose now to change tracks.

Don’t feel bad and spin your wheels wondering why you’re on a particular track. Just make a decision to change.

No sense in beating yourself up, either, as it doesn’t help.

You’re definitely not alone in needing to change direction. It’s so common, we have lots of way of saying it.

• Get a fresh start
• Begin a new chapter
• Do-over
• Turn this ship around
• Turn a new leaf
• Pivot
• Course correct
• Shift gears

The good news is that you’re alive, so there’s time for a change, even if it’s just your attitude.

Are you on the right track?

Well, are you having fun yet?

Sometimes all it takes is changing the way you see things for the answers to make themselves known.

With gratitude,

Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might
enjoy reading this? Please forward.

I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

 

Fly with the Eagles and Don’t Let the Turkeys Get You Down

July 31, 2017

 

You’re feeling great and in the flow. You can do it. This is your time. Nobody can stop you… until some turkeys start pecking away at you, and you want to run.

Experiencing this way too often, and although she’s at the top of her business, competent and relatively young, my client told me that she couldn’t stop focusing on retirement.

She felt that she could no longer handle the stress created from customers’ unrealistic demands and exhausting herself to get them to see reason.

During her Soulgoals session, she realized that she was attracting people who brought out a quality in her that was like her father – being judgmental. People weren’t acting the way she thought they should.

As like attracts like, she was magnetizing people who would bug her so that she could be “justifiably” judgmental.

To counterbalance her father’s inflexible attitude, she played the role of the peacemaker throughout her life. Now that he’s passed and she’s tired of “battling,” she thought those days were over.

However, his judgmental attitude was still alive inside her because she absorbed his energy, and she continued to attract people that required her to be the peacemaker.

She connected the dots and saw that unless she made inner changes, these patterns would follow her wherever she went – even into retirement.

She was on the verge of letting go of a great career instead of letting go of the unwanted energy she harbored within. It was time to stop blaming others and her business as they weren’t the problem.

Done with attracting challenging people who were like her father, she decided to release her judgmental energy and change her perspective.

“I don’t want to put up with other people’s stuff… my big insight is that if you leave, you’re not going to get away from your issues. Deal with it through journaling.”


Another client found herself consistently attracting unqualified clients.

One got nastily irate when she told him that his application didn’t go through.  Although she quickly let him go as a client, she knew she had to change her focus to stop attracting turkeys.

Whatever is focused upon grows.

In the past, she complained about how many applicants didn’t qualify, so she kept having more applicants who didn’t qualify.

Now, she focuses her attention on having great applicants who both qualify and purchase her high end products, all with grace and ease.

Her new perspective is working.

Are there the same (annoying) types of people or circumstances showing up in your life again and again?

Journal about how you feel when the turkeys get you down.

  • Does how you feel remind you of people from your past?
  • When you notice the patterns, choose to let them go.
  • Replace them with a new perspective.
  • After, refocus on your wonderful dreams and goals instead of what you don’t want.

It’s time to soar with the eagles. You deserve it.

With gratitude,

Virginia

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P.S. All stories about my clients’ experiences are shared after having received their permission in advance. Their intention and mine is that others may benefit.

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

How You Speed Up (or Slow Down) Money Coming to You

May 15, 2017

A saleswoman told me that people were irritating her – a lot. She was both “losing her cool” and her patience with small thinking, ridiculous behavior and demonstrations of a lack of kindness, consideration and common sense.

To make things worse, she was baffled by her client’s petty issues that almost blew a $1.5 million deal.

It reminds me of the country western lyrics by Billy Currington: “God is great. Beer is good. And people are crazy.”

Recognizing that she’s attracting whatever is going on in her life, she wondered how she created this.

She pieced together cause and effect and saw that her frustration with annoying people was magnetizing others with disgruntled attitudes. Her energy was drawing negative people to her!

By the way, the saleswoman later discovered that the sale represented to her client family disappointments. She was like a volcano ready to explode at anything that could go wrong – or she’d make something wrong to blow off steam.

According to Abraham-Hicks, it only takes 17 seconds to create a thought that attracts more of what you’re thinking and feeling.

Yikes. That’s about a quarter of a minute to design your world – consciously or not.

This is a universal principle. Positive attracts positive; negative attracts negative.

Thoughts build upon each other by attracting other thoughts of a like nature creating thought forms. 17 seconds + 17 seconds + 17 seconds…

Complaining, being hard on yourself, sharing your sad story with others, which invites them to feel as sorry for you as you feel sorry for yourself, attract more circumstances to make you want to pull your hair out.


“When you give your attention to it, if you maintain your focus for as little as 17 seconds, you begin to include its vibration, whatever it is, in your vibration. When you see something you want, and you give it your attention, and you say yes to it, you are including whatever its vibration is in your vibration. When you see something you do not want, and you shout no at it, you are including whatever its vibration is in your vibration.”   


“Most everybody is looking around and vibrating in response to what they are seeing. So, what is the solution? Look around less. Imagine more. Look around less. Imagine more. Until your imagery is the most familiar vibration that you have.”

Abraham-Hicks  


What’s your brain chewing on?

Feel bad because you don’t have more money? You slow down or stop money flowing to you.

Feel good about the idea of having more money? You speed up money coming to you.

Your choice. 

The way out is to decide what would inspire you to feel happy. Then whenever your thoughts turn to the not-so-sunny side of the street, redirect your focus on what creates good feelings.

“I have to face reality” can be the very attitude that holds you back from your heart’s desires.

If your current conditions aren’t what you want, and you continue to focus on them and feel miserable, you’ll get more of the same.

Take care of business, but focus your energy on what you choose to create not on what you don’t like.

You control the way you feel. Don’t give your power away to others or to circumstances.

How would having more money feel? Next focus on other positive ideas about money. Let yourself go to another like-thought. And on and on.

With gratitude,

Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck.
I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Resurrection

April 17, 2017

 

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resurrect
1. to raise from the dead 2. to bring to view, attention, or use again.
(Merriam Webster Dictionary)

A friend is a live-in manager who’s responsible for the people who reside there.

She’s on call 24/7, months on end. With little downtime to revitalize, it’s tiring to say the least.

It appeared that all her clients would be gone for a long, holiday weekend.

However, while we were talking on the phone, she learned that one wouldn’t be leaving after all. To add to her stinging disappointment, her situation worsened as they informed her of an intermittent schedule, on and off daily, over the next few days.

At first discouraged, she decided to change her focus to another direction.

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She remembered that she’s an excellent manifester. When she makes a choice and places her attention on it with the right attitude, she gets results.

She had forgotten about her ability because she’s been so distracted by her circumstances.

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Instead of energizing what she didn’t want by feeling bad about it, she started thinking about having the house to herself.

Fifteen minutes later, she called back to tell me her client would leave soon and not return for almost a week.

To make it all the sweeter, and even though she didn’t mention to them their lack of concern for her well-being, she was personally acknowledged. She received recognition and appreciation for the service she gives by going above and beyond for her clients.
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She redirected her thinking by telling herself this: Tell the truth faster. __________________________________________________________________________

When she told herself the truth instead of reacting to what wasn’t working for her, she became clear and shifted her focus.

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She didn’t “do” anything except become non-reactive emotionally and mentally.

After she let go of her sad story, she remembered she’s an energy being. She then tapped into this inner source to shape her life.

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The experience inspired her to resurrect her alignment with her  inner power. From her fatigue, she  had been reacting to others instead of changing her life by changing her focus.

Tell the truth faster.

After looking at options for months which culminated in a few tear-filled  days, a woman had no choice but  to move. A couple of days later, she told me the place had a lot of unpleasant memories attached to it, and she was relieved to be out of there.

Now, she’s resurrecting a new life while looking forward to where her future will take her.

Tell the truth faster.

What’s been bothering you about your life, work or business?

You have a choice.

Complain and be annoyed, frustrated, depressed or angry.

Distracting yourself by regularly  reacting to what you don’t want only keeps you on a hamster wheel of regret and unfulfillment.

Or you can raise yourself up from that deadening energy.

Resurrect your inner power and bring into view your strength and vision.

If you’ve been feeding a habit of focusing on what doesn’t work, you may need practice or support.

Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #1 says: “I believe there’s an energy created when two or more gather in harmony.”

Being part of a supportive mastermind team can transform your energy as you see your life with fresh perspectives and belief in yourself to create your ideal life, work or business.

Resurrect your dreams. You can turn them or something even better into reality.

You have the ability to design and create your life, work or business to exceed your wildest expectations.

So be it!

With gratitude,
Virginia

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I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support.
I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.
Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

I Was Shocked When I Learned This about My Mother

March 13, 2017

My mother, who passed away 29 years ago this month, used what I call mantras –  words she repeated so many times that I still know them verbatim.

Because of regular reiteration, I believed and didn’t question some of them. It was  like learning arithmetic tables, but these were impressed on me with far more feeling.

“When I was young, I used to be happy-go-lucky. Then I met your father.”

Because they argued intensely, she started her day with this mantra: “I wonder what that S.O.B. is going to do to make my life miserable today.”  (Note – she didn’t use initials.)

Obviously, she had no idea that her daily proclamations and emotions were what made her life miserable, not anything my father did or didn’t do.

She thought her suffering was my father’s fault, and I accepted it as true, too. I didn’t have an attitude about him. I liked and loved him. At the same time, I saw her perspective and believed her woeful declarations.

Then about 15 years ago, I was talking to one my teachers about how I felt sorry for them. He knew my parents and replied,

“Your mother wanted your father to change so she wouldn’t have to change.”

What?!!??

This was a throw-a-bucket-of-cold-water-in-my-face moment.

It was his fault. That was a given. Never questioned it. She lived a miserable life because of him.

Here’s the kicker.

As long as she complained about and blamed him, she didn’t have to take responsibility for her own emotions and actions. It was his fault. She was the victim.  Pointing her finger at what she decided were his failings absolved her of cleaning up her attitudes, feelings and thoughts.

In a flash, I realized the blaming wasn’t true. She could’ve been happy if she stopped giving him power over the way she felt.

In a shocking moment, for the first time,  I stopped feeling sorry for them.

I realized that my pity (vs. compassion) was condescending and disrespectful of their choices. They decided how to interact with each other. They had complete control over the way they felt. If they chose to argue as a way of life, and if she chose to feel miserable, those were their decisions.

As emotions create reality, she created a “living hell” for herself where she felt “like a prisoner in my own home.” Her life was a self-fulfilled prophecy.

Think about the implications in your life. Who are you blaming for what doesn’t work and how you feel?

  • Do you want others to behave the way you think they should so you can feel good? In other words, do you want others or situations  to change so you can feel happy? Or will you decide to be happy anyway?
  • Do you let others shape your future by getting angry at strangers who drive weird, crazy acting people, politicians or past hurts? Are you blaming yourself? Or will you take command of your own energy because, if you don’t, you block your dreams coming true?
  • What mantras run through your head? I can’t afford it. There’s never enough. What if  I run out of money? Nothing I do ever works out. My life would be so much better if only…

Even if they’re “wrong,” you still can choose  your attitude and how you respond. As like attracts like, how you feel shapes your future.

What does this have to do with your business or work?

Your feelings and thoughts magnetize your experience, so don’t hand the keys of your  emotions to others and “if only” things would be different. Don’t give your power away.

Allowing others to affect how you feel relinquishes the keys to your kingdom   – or queendom – of success, happiness  and ability to enjoy financial freedom.

By the way, blame is one of ego’s greatest tools; no matter where it’s directed, it holds you back.

You choose how you react and feel.

Your future depends on it.

“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change”  Thích Nhất Hạnh

 

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TIP: What Were You Thinking and How It Affects You Now

December 5, 2016
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A woman I’ve known for decades, who used to be very involved with a spiritual practice, has been sending toxic emails.

She doesn’t check information to see if it’s true. Or they’re about disgruntled people who are challenged with a world that changed. Or she’ll take a positive message and skew it to be negative. And, I suppose, there are some valuable ideas, but to find them means wading through venom.

I replied to one of her emails that this is a season of unconditional love, and a way to it is being non-judgmental.

She answered, “Judgmental, unconditional love, spiritual beliefs… I definitely don’t fall under the PC situation… I have to keep it real for me, my truth. It may ruffle some people’s feathers but that’s what this world is for, experiences and finding out what we need to find out.”

Bah humbug. The spirit of Christmas is now just another way of being politically correct.

Gee, and here I thought that, underneath it all, the world is for Love.

How does her worldview affect her?

In other emails, she shared that she can get depressed.

Yet, she feels compelled that others see life through her passionate yet angry rants – under the guise of keeping it real and telling her truth.

In the past, I would listen endlessly to people’s sad stories and emotionally charged viewpoints.  I thought I was helping by holding space for them to share and be heard.

I’ve since learned that an extended focus on what doesn’t work is a disservice and adds fuel to a perspective that caused them distress. It only helps them to pick up momentum toward what they don’t like, which affects their health, finances, relationships or happiness.

This includes not validating sob stories I might conjure up about what I don’t like in my life or what’s not working the way I think it should.

If gently redirecting the conversation doesn’t work, I do what I can to exit with grace and ease.

My clients learn how to notice resistance and shift it, too.

To live with good feeling mojo is a simple concept. Feel good.

The more you think and feel good, the better your life becomes… your dreams magically start coming true. 

This weekend, I had the privilege of being invited on a trip to enjoy rock art (pictographs the ancients painted on cave walls).

Although we were rained out from that part of our trip, we enjoyed a wonderful walk, a night in a cabin perched above the lower Pecos River plus a day in Mexico.

I listened to stories of how the rock art and area in and around Seminole Canyon State Park in south Texas transformed my friend after a personal family tragedy.

Since then, not only is she deeply passionate about rock art, she breathes a respect and reverence for life.

As a result, she’s created a loving life in alignment with her values and goals.

Your TIP is to observe your thinking and notice how it’s affecting you.

I’ll give you a BIG hint.

If there are parts of your life and business you don’t like as well as how it’s affecting you, observe what you’re thinking and feeling.

I know it can seem crazy, that forces beyond your control are the real culprit, but your energy is at the core. Like energy attracts like energy. Only you choose your perspective.

The good news is that wherever you are and for however long it took you to get here, regardless of how hopeless or frustrating aspects of your life, finances, business, relationships or health may seem at times, you can change it.

Look for what brings you joy instead of addictively focusing on anxiety, pain, suffering, who done you wrong or who’s doing something wrong.

This includes what feels unchangeable, like actor Michael J. Fox who went from having “everything” to having Parkinson’s.

He turned it around from the worse experience to the best wake up call. It changed his life for the better.

P.T. Barnum went bankrupt and didn’t enter the circus business until age 60.There goes the “I’m too old” argument of limitation.

By 1983, the millions made by boxer, heavyweight champion and Olympic gold medalist George Foreman were almost gone. He turned it around. In 2014, Foreman topped The Richest list of top athlete entrepreneurs of all time.

What isn’t working for you?

You can realign your thinking and feeling so your biggest challenge becomes your biggest asset.

You’ll feel happier, too.

By the way, I just returned from a Christmas concert. At the end, the chorus formed a circle around the entire audience and sang, “Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me.” It’s quite a concept, especially during the holiday season.

I work with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming masterminding teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

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TIP: Ignite Your Passion

November 1, 2016

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What turns you on?

Do you dutifully go through day-to-day living?

Are you simply trying to make the best of your lot in life or do you complain about it and others?

Or do you know that, if you allow yourself to redirect your focus, your life can be sensational?

A few minutes ago, I returned from a tango performance by an Argentinian dance company.

The audience was wild with excitement.

The precision talent of the dancers, singers and musicians was inspiring.

However, unlike most everyone who watched, it didn’t ignite my passion.

If you’ve read my TIPS lately, you know I’ve attended several performances that sent me soaring.

The common denominator is that each uplifted me. Coupled with extraordinary talent, I walked away smiling a big YES to life.

Here’s what I noticed doesn’t turn me on.

Watching a drunk destroy his life and lose his disheartened woman after causing her misery.

Forcing a woman to be with him against her will – even dragging her.

Rivalry, jealousy and an uncaring spirit.

People being mean and cold to each other.

Violent knife fights.

Yes, this is art, and, of course, there’s freedom of expression.

Perhaps this was all to make a point to demonstrate consequences.

Yes, worse exists in this world.

Personally, I don’t find watching these uplifting or life-affirming.

The energy we fill ourselves with – drama or joy or fear – is what we’ll find mirrored in daily life, too.

I’ve learned a secret.  It’s why some succeed and others struggle.

The secret is found in what you focus on and how it makes you feel.

If you focus on misery and what makes you feel bad, you attract misery in your life.

Focusing on what makes you feel good brings you more things that make you feel good.

A friend told me that she’s turning into her mother – complaining.

The result? My friend felt depressed and hopeless.

She said she was whining and wine-ing too much.

Her mother died of cancer in her fifties. She believes her attitudes ate away at her, just like the cancer.

My friend woke up to what she was doing and made a decision to choose life – change her own attitude; watch what she was putting in her body; take care of herself better; focus on her goals and dreams instead of her limiting situation.

Focusing on negatives or mediocrity can keep you stuck.

You can focus on the bad and the ugly or the good and beautiful.

Remember, where your attention goes, energy flows. You’ll create more of the same.

If you focus on what makes you happy, your life is waay more enjoyable, too.

Feeling good is the master key to manifest the life and business of your dreams.

Life sucks for everyone at times. But where you focus and how you respond is a CHOICE.

Your TIP is to identify one or more things that ignite your passion… and go for it.

Yeah, yeah. You’re busy and have a lot of responsibilities. You gotta make money. You gotta do a lotta things. You really don’t have time. You feel exhausted. Others are depending on you.

You are depending on you, too!

This is your life. What are you doing to enjoy it?

What are you doing to take care of yourself?

What turns you on?

The company of supportive people who unconditionally care about you is a godsend.

This is one of the benefits of our mastermind teams.

For me, I love what I do helping people do what they love so their dreams come true.

And I believe my passion will be ignited when later this week I see The Temptations and The Four Tops in concert. I’ll let you know on my next TIP.

 

Virginia works with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. She helps them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming mastermind teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email Virginia at vg@ResolvedForResults.com