Much of the world is lost in wanting as well as creating conflict over what they perceive they don’t have.
However, you can be a bringer of peace.
Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me and you.
When you feel anxiety, ask yourself what you’re wanting.
The perfect gift? You’re more likely to find it if you’re relaxed.
Getting the house in order or landing a business deal? If you’re feeling good, you’ll spread holiday cheer to your guests or clients – and they’ll feel better around you.
Want more business or money? When you’re emotionally calm, you’re more receptive to ideas that will bring you both. Or they’ll be drawn to you like Santa Claus to cookies.
Choose peace over:
Wanting approval and love from others.
Wanting things to be a certain way so you’ll feel safe.
Trying to get power by controlling stuff that’s out of your control.
When you recognize that you have ALL of these – approval, safety, and control – within you now, there’s no need to chase after them.
Imagine the peace you can feel when you:
Let go of people pleasing as well as wanting approval and love from others. You’ll be more able to discover that you already have approval and love within you. It’s an inside job.
Let go of wanting to feel safe and secure so you can realize you already are. No amount of money, nothing, and noone can make you feel safe if you don’t allow yourself to feel secure within yourself.
Let go of the need to defend and explain yourself. Take action to take care of yourself, and observe that fearful, inner ranting gets in the way of effectiveness.
Let go of wanting to control others and situations. Nobody can give you power because you are already empowerd from within.
Make peace your highest priority, and experience greater success.
Don’t take my word for it. Test it out for yourself.
Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah, a Blessed Kwanzaa, and a wonderful holiday season to you!
May peace be unto you, my friend.
THE PERFECT GIFT: being and sharing peace. And you don’t have to be perfect to share the perfect gift.
With gratitude,
Virginia
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ blog posted on December 22, 2015
We may feel tired or extremely fatigued from hard work or putting in long hours, but exhaustion comes from emotions. Exhaustion stems from suppressing worries, anger, fear, and concerns, often telling ourselves we’ll deal with them later. But we don’t. By stuffing and not looking at them, we emotionally sabotage ourselves.
Dragging ourselves home from work may result from not dealing with the stress of situations or associating with certain people. Exhaustion at home may occur by not wanting to admit what our feelings are trying to tell us and that something needs to change.
We can exhaust ourselves from not wanting to look at the reasons we feel pain or fear.
I was present at the moment a woman made a connection about her unfulfilling relationship with her father. As a little girl, she regularly hit her head against the wall rather than face that emotional pain.
As an adult in her twenties, she no longer hit her head. Instead she had migraines. Although painful, migraines were easier for her to deal with than looking at the pain she felt from being emotionally abandoned by her father.
Note: Please continue to the end to read another perspective on migraines and exhaustion in the BONUS below.
People sometimes drive themselves through grueling physical activity, long work hours or constant busyness rather than looking at the pain and frustration they feel about negative experiences or things their parents did or didn’t do, revealing their personal bogeyman or why they tolerate intolerable situations and people now.
If you’re exhausted or in pain and torment yourself about how you feel because of it, you have a good excuse reason not to think, change your perspective and discover that there are better options available to you.
Here are examples of underlying fears that may drive you.
If I leave my job/ spouse, I won’t have enough money.
If I leave my church/ social circle, I’ll be all alone.
If I stop being so busy, I’ll have to slow down and look at what kind of a life I have – the people, circumstances, drama, unfulfilling work, my fears, my lack, my body, my very happiness and so on.
Another emotional payoff might include the sympathy and attention others give you. Pain, illness or exhaustion can become a badge of courage… “You’re exhausted from what you’re going through, you poor thing.”
Pain’s survival depends on part of us remaining unconscious. This is how it continues to hold power over us. This is what causes us to relive variations of emotionally charged situations repeatedly.
Because our spirit desires a release of unsupportive energy, we continue to attract similar situations (even if they suck). They serve as opportunities for us to wake up and be free.
If we avoid releasing unsupportive energy, we look to gain power elsewhere. We settle for jobs, relationships and unsatisfying lives. This is exhausting.
Had enough? Where are you losing your power? Who or what did you give your power to?
A first step to freedom is self-awareness, and sometimes it helps to ask for help to see our blind spots as well as learn new ways to release energy that doesn’t serve us.
Edited excerpt from August 30, 2021, Soulgoals’ post.
BONUS!
MIGRAINES, EXHAUSTION and MORE
Alert: This may go against everything you believe to be helpful and good.
When we emotionally feel sorry for or bad about others going through challenges or try to save them from their suffering, we energetically tie into their pain. We plug our energy circuitry into their emotions and how they feel, aligning ourselves with their vibrational wavelength.
Any suffering we alleviate by doing this doesn’t help them to learn their lessons and actually holds them back.
Empaths (people who feel others’ feelings as if they are their own) can unconsciously take on others’ pain, illness, lack, confusion, stress, depression and fatigue. That kind of sensitivity can be exhausting.
Ever feel good and then drained after talking with certain people?
Here’s another consideration. Do you think someone is a headache or a pain in your neck or another part of your lower anatomy? Well, that literally can be what happens to you.
Are you struggling, stuck, have issues? Know someone around you that often feels the same? They may, for example, struggle in one way, you in another. It’s still struggling. Maybe you unintentionally took on what they’re going through.
A woman volunteered as a leader to help the homeless. While we talked she had a realization. Since riding in a car with others from her church and their negative chatter for a couple of hours to visit this community, she hadn’t closed one deal in six months! She decided to drive her own car and started closing deals.
Another example, people who don’t drink might be dealing with an alcoholic family member. However, both may be dealing with fear but coping in different ways. One drinks and the other lives in fears like expecting the worse to happen.
Look for similar feelings not identical circumstances.
Warning! If you try to share ideas before others are ready to understand, they can turn on you and make you the bad guy. People often filter information based on their past experiences and resist believing that another perspective is valid.
So how can you help? Be compassionate. Acknowledge them and where they’re at non-judgmentally. Communicate how you believe in them and their ability to get through their circumstances. But no pity, feeling sorry for them or meeting them at their emotional level of drama.
Again, you’re not uplifting others while feeling troubled about them. And you may be opening yourself to take on what they’re going through.
It works in reverse, too. Being around positive people aligns you vibrationally to live your personal and professional dreams.
Would you like to learn how to release unwanted energy?
I wrote this to a client who was going through challenges:
I really know what it’s like when we feel our lives are sinking, and we’re drowning in a sea of wondering if things will ever work out — or if we’ll be submerged too long and sink before a lifesaver comes to save us.
That being said, regardless of this eddy of emotion, we simply have to believe and will eventually know that there’s always at least a piece of driftwood to carry us to the shore. That’s part of the lesson.
Often, we’re so preoccupied splashing about and gasping for air that we don’t divert our attention to see the Coast Guard has been calling our name to let us know we’re safe.
Our journey involves shifting from panicking to looking for and being grateful for what’s available at this very moment.
Then we refocus our vision and see that help is on the way. Now.
You can:
Sit in anyone’s drama, your complaining, frustration, anger, confusion, blame, regret, worry, disappointment, or beating yourself or others up. These can not bring you results you choose and are self-defeating frequencies. That’s like being tuned to a heavy metal radio station wondering when classical music will start to play.
Alternatively, even if you don’t have a clue how, trust that help is on the way. In doing so, you align yourself with and are open to miracles, fortuitous coincidences and being in the right place at the right time while feeling that success can happen for you. Yes, you.
The first step to your success can be this idea:Things are working out for you, you know what to do, and help is on the way.
Then tune in to your next step, because one is always available for you.
It may be taking action on something that’s been rolling around your head for a while or asking for help.
Maybe it’s to pause and do nothing in the moment because the timing isn’t right. Or chill out, and take a nap.
Keep it simple.
You probably tried not trusting yourself or life. From direct experience you saw the results, which is why you may wonder if things will work out. Why not approach things from a different perspective?
Believe and trust it will. Take action by following through with your inner guidance instead of your fears.
You won’t need a crystal ball.
Things are working out for you!
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog posted October 25, 2017
Could you use help for life to work out better for you?
Virginia Goszewska (go-SHEF-ska) awakens people to be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.
Based on decades of extensive research and personal discoveries, Virginia created the unique mastermind and success program Soulgoals: A Step-by-Step System to Do What You Love – even if you failed before, lost hope, are afraid, stuck, stressed or confused. The mastermind is an energy created when two or more gather in harmony for the attainment of a shared, definite objective.
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