Archive for December, 2015

TIP: How to Ring Out 2015

December 28, 2015

2015-2016 stepsAppreciation means recognition with gratitude as well as increasing value, such as in investments. When you appreciate yourself, you create good feeling mojo.

Good feeling mojo is what gives you the confidence, mindset and vitality to create and attract a wonderful life and business. Plus, don’t you feel better when you feel good about you? It’s time to shift your focus from what you coulda shoulda woulda done differently to reap the benefits of appreciating you.

It’s so important to let go of the past to clear the way for success that I wrote a book Appreciate Yourself which includes exercises that my clients do annually. I’m sharing a few of these as well as excerpts to support you to ring out 2015 and create a space for a happy and prosperous new year.

You Deserve Appreciation

Why bother to take time to appreciate yourself? When you do, it:

  • Affects your physical, emotional and mental health
  • Validates you as you gain more self-esteem and confidence
  • Helps you to let go of the past and come to completion
  • Focuses you in the now as you release old beliefs
  • Creates space for current and future success
  • Opens you to gratitude which creates more blessings.

Recording and assessing what you’ve done also clears a path so you can consciously map out a remarkable future. With all these benefits, it pays to invest your time to discover how this recognition makes a difference in your life. You deserve appreciation, and it’s important for you to see why you’re worthy of it…

The Body Lives in the Past

At a cellular level, the body lives in the past and doesn’t respond as quickly as thoughts do. Your body expresses what you felt years ago. What you experience now does not make an immediate connection with it.

Without creating a written record of who you are and what you’ve done, a part of you can stay emotionally stuck. Because you attract what you focus on, the part of you that’s stuck can recreate a future full of old fears and limitations. Or you can make room for joy and fulfillment surpassing your fondest memories.

When you recognize that your body, which influences your present-day reality, lives in days gone by and currently demonstrates how you used to feel, you can collapse time to bring you into the now. How? Acknowledge what you’ve done and learned. Gratitude transports you from your misty past into the present. Letting go of old emotions improves your well-being in all areas of life…

Being in the moment allows a profound truth to be revealed – that you and your life have meaning and serve a bigger purpose.

TIP: How to Ring Out 2015

Find a quiet place where you have time for yourself… This time is for you to arrange the fabric of your life into a tapestry. To make sense of what may have seemed anything but. To validate you’re on track. To applaud your successes. To recognize your worth and appreciate the blessings.

Assume a higher viewpoint and look for progress – lessons learned, constructive growth or something you can use later.

Enjoy this intimate moment to write, not just think about, as you Appreciate Yourself. 

  • My most significant experiences; events; achievements; activities (positive or seemingly not):
  • My most significant changes and what I learned (inner awareness/outer experiences):
  • My most significant relationships, such as individuals; teams; groups; partners; friends; associates; professionals; family; spiritual connections; teachers:
  • My most fun or outrageous experiences:
  • My most challenging experiences:
  • My most significant successes; promotions; wins; recognitions; how I was honored by anyone; what I’m most proud of; anything I did well or feel good about:

Your Big Picture

What was your year really about? Underneath the activities, what lessons did you learn? Why are you grateful? Regardless of any challenges, how was your year a success?

Celebrate

You don’t have to make your past a drama by turning it into a story of woe. Instead, use the awareness you gained of what not to do to inspire you to make new choices.

Acknowledging yourself creates healthy self-esteem, confidence, value and magnetism. Notice that how others perceive and treat you is the same way you feel about yourself. And when you’re filled with self-worth, you attract success.

Now go and celebrate. You deserve it. You made it through the good, bad, ugly and beautiful. Bravo! You’re worth being appreciated. Allow yourself to receive this gift.

© 1999-2015 Virginia Goszewska  All Rights Reserved

It’s About Peace, My Friend

December 22, 2015

peace - let there beDuring one of my most challenging times, when things went from bad to worse, the pain became unbearable.

A quiet voice within asked why I was upset. Well, I thought, look at my life. Each crisis flashed before me, and I felt justified drowning in my anguish.

Yes, came the voice again, but why are you upset?  Because, I argued, I don’t like any of this, and I want things to be different.

Then, I realized the pain wasn’t caused by my circumstances. My suffering was because I wanted. I wanted things to change.

Wanting comes from lack. What we don’t have. Never enough. My wanting created unimaginable hurt.

Like magnetic fields, we can’t have and want at the same time because they’re opposing energies. Positive and negative fields repel each other.

The moment I switched from wanting to remembering I have all my needs within, my torment stopped.

Looking to others and circumstances, while wanting approval, love, security, empowerment or validation, drives us to beat ourselves up and feel like a nobody.

When quiet and at peace, answers come.

When there’s recognition of having, we don’t need to seek safety from an outside source.

We’re not safe when we focus on fear.  As like attracts like, that’s how we become a magnet to be terrorized and a victim.

No person or group, no client or job, no house or amount of money holds our security. God is the Source of our supply. If something doesn’t work, something better will, especially if we allow it and are open to believe it can.

As we clear the energy of lack and replace it with what we choose, positive results follow.

We can be safe, in the right place, at the right time.

If we think we won’t be, we won’t. If we wonder what if we’re not, we probably won’t be. If we’re basically positive but wonder what if things don’t work out, they may not. If we allow ourselves to be afraid because of what others might think, say or do, we’ve given control to others.

If a lock on the door is a good idea, install a lock. Creating a drama or fear about what might occur if there isn’t a lock doesn’t help – unless this type of attention or emotions it creates is the actual desired outcome.

If we believe everything always works out, get ready for miracles and abundance!

Christmas is a time of love and celebration.

This is your opportunity to go beyond lip service and be the change. Demonstrate peace and goodwill toward men. Not just the ones you like. Or those who look or act or believe like you.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, these quotes from the King James Bible offer wisdom:

“Judge not, that ye be not judged.”
“For unto us a child is born… and his name shall be called …The Prince of Peace.”
“Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.”
“Then said Jesus to them again, Peace be unto you: as my Father has sent me, even so send I you.”  

TIP: It’s About Peace, My Friend

Much of the world is lost in wanting and creating conflict over what they perceive they don’t have. You can be a bringer of peace.

Let there be peace on earth, let it begin with you.

When you feel anxiety, ask yourself what you’re wanting.

The perfect gift? You’re more likely to find it if you’re relaxed.

Getting the house in order or landing a business deal? If you have good feeling mojo, you’ll spread holiday cheer to your guests or clients – and they’ll feel better around you.

Want more business or money? When you’re emotionally calm, you’re more receptive to ideas that will bring you both. Or, they’ll be drawn to you like Santa Claus to cookies.

Choose peace over wanting approval and love, wanting security, wanting control.

Let go of wanting approval and love so you can have approval and love.

Let go of wanting to be safe and secure to realize you already are. It can’t be given to you.

Let go of the need to defend. Take action to take care of yourself; the rant of fear gets in the way of effectiveness.

Let go of wanting control. Nobody can give it to you. You already have it.

Make peace your highest priority, and experience greater success.

Merry Christmas and a wonderful holiday season to you!

May peace be unto you, my friend.

 

 

You Already Know What to Do

December 14, 2015

inspiration you seekA woman was given a week’s notice that her job, which included a place to live and a car, was terminated. After releasing her fear and asking for help within, she quickly learned about another position. Grateful, she was happy that her new employment seemed better than her old one.

Needing results fast and desperately, though, doesn’t always allow for the ideal results. Soon after, she realized the job was a trap. She received far less pay, had more stress, her boss rudely intruded on what little free time she had, and all she could manage was work and sleep.

Anger grew from a spark to a blaze. Once again, she was in a dead end situation. Not enough resources to make a move. People using her and not appreciating her talents. Upset with herself. No life other than work. Unhappy. Stuck. Not making what she’s worth. At the mercy of others. Not living her dream. inn

She thought she could deal with it, but the stress, including her emotional reaction to it, exhausted her body, mind and spirit. She had little choice but to shift her focus to regaining her strength.

Recognizing that resisting her circumstances was harming her, she paused, got quiet and listened.

A new perspective inspired her.

Stop investing her emotions on being upset. Take time to recoup and feel better. Stop hoping her boss would see the light. Wake up to see that years were passing her by while waiting for conditions to be just right to live her dreams. There is no more perfect time than now. Make a plan to move forward. Take action.

She felt at peace and is now patiently following what she learned from her inner guidance.

Be at peace. Go within. Listen. Act.

You don’t need to be a psychic to hear the inner whispers of wisdom and direction. Your messages will be skewed, though, when charged by emotions. Go into the silence to hear. It’s your natural state. Listen to its insight.

“Inner guidance is heard like soft music in the night by those who have learned to listen.” Vernon Howard

TIP: You Know What to Do

Confused about your next step? Unclear how to move your business or career forward?  Wondering why some people act certain ways?

Create a space where you feel connected and peaceful. Take a walk. Breathe deeply. Meditate. Journal. Enjoy a cup of tea or coffee while alone and muse.

Think of yourself as a receiver, like a satellite dish. The channel with answers to your questions is available.

Turn the dish in the direction where you’re open to receive them.

How? Go into the stillness. Ask, and it will be given.

Although a part of you may be clueless, another part of you knows what to do. Be patient and allow the answers to come.

If you’d enjoy support, validation or additional insights, you are welcome to receive a one-hour complimentary Do What You Love Break Free Session. Leave me a comment for more information.

TIP: Stop Trying. Start Allowing.

December 7, 2015

Allow - open to receiveHave you noticed that when you push to make things happen, try hard to get something, have to have things work out in a certain way or feel desperate, what you want eludes you or is hard to get?  Other times, often when you casually say you want something, it appears effortlessly.

If a door opens by allowing it to come toward you, pushing against it only closes it more.

The same principle applies to creating your ideal business and life, too.

Imagine this. If someone is chasing you for business, to be their friend or lover, what are you inspired to do?

Run. Far away. Or, because I’ve been watching an old TV series Gunsmoke, “get out of Dodge.”

Your dreams and goals are here, now, waiting for you. Be willing and open to receive them.

Recently while out dancing, my friend and I met a man whose company we were enjoying. We liked the band and learned that he hired them to play at his birthday party at his beautiful, country home close to where I live.

My friend whispered to me, “Let’s get an invitation.” I tuned into the idea and felt it would be fun. Within five minutes, he invited us without our saying a word to him.

Earlier that night, amidst a sea of people at a month-long event held on six acres, I found myself face to face with a former client. I’d been thinking about reconnecting with her as we hadn’t talked for a couple of years.

We enjoyed catching up by phone the following day. At the end of our conversation, she inquired about my current business offerings. Poised to launch a new, career direction, she’s ready to let go of limiting beliefs that could hold her back.

She’ll start her program with me this month.

Right place. Right time. Right energy. In the flow. Great results.

No struggle. No trying. Being a magnet for intentions and good things by relaxing and being open to receive.

Note: this is 180 opposite from worrying about what if things don’t work out.

Life is magical when we allow it.

We’ve been trained to think no pain, no gain. Do more. Work harder.

Yes, actions do produce results.

Releasing is one of the highest and most effective actions. This means letting go of anxiety, doubt, fear as well as limiting thoughts and emotions. Think tuning fork emitting a vibration. This frequency naturally harmonizes with complementary notes.

Relaxing and trusting open us to inspired action which allows success to occur naturally.

Your action has nothing to do with your abundance! Your abundance is a response to your vibration. Of course, your belief is part of your vibration. So if you believe that action is part of what brings your abundance, then you’ve got to unravel that.

Abraham

TIP: Stop Trying. Start Allowing.

In Resolved for Results masterminding, we set our intention for success by saying: I choose and I am willing to receive this or something better. Then we state our goals.

You can do this daily by writing this phrase followed by your goals.

Supercharge your intentions by accessing mastermind energy.  Ask for and allow support from a Divine Source, God, the universe, whatever works for you.

Some have had tremendous success by looking in the mirror daily, masterminding with the Divine, stating the above intention, followed by their goal.

Be open and willing to receive.

It works.

Experiment, and you’ll experience.

TIP: Be Master of Your Fate

December 3, 2015

Master Your Fate

A family man in his early thirties was happily employed at a well-paying job for seven years. The young couple was ecstatic when they were able to purchase their own home. Six months later, the business closed its doors. Tired and scared, his three replacement jobs weren’t generating enough income to meet expenses.

During our casual conversation, he detailed reasons why his former job was ideal and unique… and he hasn’t been and wouldn’t be able to find anything that would replace it. His story centered on loss and lack.

An undercurrent of fear crashed against his quiet desperation.

Unbeknownst to him, his portrayal of “telling it like it is” was launching him on a hopeless trajectory of not enough, dooming himself to repeat his cycle of things not working.

I gently brought up alternate perspectives. Other possibilities were available. It would be hard to find them if he thought they didn’t exist.

A couple of days later, I was told that his attitude was much lighter and optimistic. Feeling stuck shifted to how he could find better employment. He started writing plans to follow his passion as a musician.

Don’t fall for the ego’s seduction!

The ego is a false identity and a clever bugger. It knows how to bamboozle you into feeling bad about yourself, regret your choices and wonder if your life has any more meaning than a slug.

When you believe your sad emotions are telling you the truth, you can get lost in thinking, thinking, thinking, and trying to figure out what you’re going to do about… anything. Everything. That’s the ego for you; but it’s NOT you!

The ego will lure you to doubt yourself into believing that you can’t break free of your situation.

When you buy into negative “logic,” you feel bad. You can feel like you’re on a hamster wheel of you’re not enough, nothing you do is good enough, and you don’t have enough. You obsess and feel like chopped liver (especially unpalatable to vegetarians). You then attract more of the same. The cycle continues.

Remember, you are master of your fate.

Stop arguing with your thoughts of doubt, limit, confusion and fear. Instead, boost your confidence, and appreciate yourself! Look at the good you do and have done. If you’re not finding positives in your finances or work, look to what you might consider simple things, such as being kind to animals. Build from there. Little steps add up to big ones.

 

It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley, 1849 – 1903

TIP:  Be Master of Your Fate

Listen to conversations that repeat in your head. Journal to let them go AND continue to write to gain perspective. Set an intention that insights and direction will emerge. When they do, take action.