Archive for November, 2019

Stop Giving Your Power Away!

November 11, 2019

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Before you read this post, I’d like to thank the veterans for their service on today’s celebration of Veterans Day in the U.S.A.

“Why can’t you be more like ­­­­­­­­­­your cousins?” was one of my mother’s mantras.

Translated: who you are isn’t good enough.

A funny twist is when I told this to my cousin, she said her mother implied she should have been more like me!

My mother passed away in 1988, and I still remember her mantras verbatim. Early programming is powerful. It creates one of the voices that chatters in the back of our heads.

Families share attitudes, perspectives and behaviors. The next generation perpetuates how they’ve been raised by passing it on to their children – until someone like you decides to wake up and make more conscious choices.

This pattern is referred to in Exodus 34:7. “Visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children and the children’s children, to the third and the fourth generation.”

You can break the patterns. It starts by becoming aware of them and making new choices… and realizing you are more than good enough.

Here’s another of mom’s favorites: “Where did you get those crazy ideas? You certainly didn’t get them from anyone on my side of the family.”

Translated: there’s something wrong with you and the way you think.

The underlying message?

You’re making me uncomfortable, so stop it. I might have to think or change. That ain’t gonna happen if I can help it. It’s easier for me to lay guilt or blame on you rather than look at myself. A tool I know to keep you in line is to shame you into humble submission. So I can try to control the way you think to make it more like what I’m used to.  So I can maintain my false sense of empowerment.

This isn’t a fault of my mom or anyone else (and we’ve all done things like this in the past). She replicated what she was taught and did the best she could.

What do you do when someone tries to make you feel uncomfortable about being you and living your dreams?

Do you stuff what you feel and tow the line?

This may be what you’ve been taught to do from infancy. You try to fit in because, as a little kiddo, you knew you needed help from others to survive.

If the family says you’re stupid, out comes the crowd-pleasing town idiot. You learned to dumb down.

If the family wants you to follow their traditions, you’ll do whatever it takes to belong and be loved. Even if it means you just get crumbs of love. Even if you’re drowning in what floats their boat.

Remember, you’ll rarely be able to please others as they’ll keep changing the hoop they want you to jump through.

In the early days of protest, the Yemenis chanted: “If, one day, a people desires to live, then destiny will answer their call.”

Do you desire to live, I mean really live? That means, not living to please other people.

Are you not living your truth, what’s in your heart, because you’re afraid of the consequences?  Instead, take time for you, your goals and your life.

If you’re existing, just getting by, you’re not living.

To live instead of exist, you must stop giving your power away.

Stop giving away your power by:

  • Trying to please others and worrying about what they think. Instead, follow your inner guidance, your heart, your gut.
  • Living in worry and fear. Instead of thinking what’s wrong or what could go wrong, think about what’s right or could go right.
  • Talking about others and blaming them. Instead, take responsibility for your actions and life.
  • Feeling sorry for yourself, regardless of your circumstances. Instead, look at “what is” and make new choices and actions.
  • Avoiding situations or not telling the truth. Instead, speak up – at least to yourself!
  • Making excuses, aka reasons, to not live your dreams. Instead, stand up for your passion and take action, even small steps. If it doesn’t work one way, do it another.

Don’t make yourself wrong, feel guilty or have regrets about what you haven’t done or your past. What you learned brought you to where you are today.

Instead, make a decision to make new choices. You are so powerful that when you say “I choose,” you set forces in motion to redirect your life.

Use your power to live, really LIVE.

Talk with your inner Essence to discover the best path for you: 

  1. Go within and ask your question.
  2. Listen and write your answers.
  3. Ask for clarity and/or action steps to take.
  4. Take action – consistently.

Take a moment now to breathe and do these four steps.

The Beginning

Reprinted from my May 13, 2011 post.

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Tired of Same Ole? Supercharge Your Life!

November 4, 2019

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A few months ago, my client agreed to incorporate Oola essential oils in her session… that’s short for Oo la la.

Oola was inspired by two chiropractors, now known as the Oola guys. Once college buddies, one overcame challenges with the help of the other by balancing 7 key areas of life.

The 7 Oola essential oil blends were formulated by the late Gary D. Young, founder of Young Living Essential Oils.

Little did I realize the magical experiences that would follow.

First, a little background.

What is Oola?

From the Oolalife website…

“We are on this planet to help you FIND BALANCE and live a life of less stress and greater purpose – the OOLALIFE.”

Oo´• la \ n. adj. \ 1 a : a state of awesomeness b : a life that is balanced and growing in the key areas of health, finances, career, relationships, and well-being c : a destination (i.e., getting to Oola) 2 a : describing actions, insights and goals that lead to a balanced life (ex: That’s so Oola.) 3 a : the ultimate plan for achieving balance in an unbalanced world.

Oolalife is based on their international, bestselling book, Oola: Find Balance in an Unbalanced World.

“The Oola Lifestyle has become a literal phenomenon—a dynamic movement… [the Oola guys] travel the world collecting dreams and helping people find balance and growth in the 7 key areas of life (the 7 F’s of Oola) – Fitness, Finance, Family, Field (career), Faith, Friends, and Fun. By revealing how to remove the stress related to a life out-of-balance, they unlock the greatness that is inside all of us.”

What happened when we used my Oola protocol?

It occurred to me that there are 7 oils. We have 7 chakras (energy centers in our bodies)… and a protocol emerged to consciously apply the oils with intention along with my coaching.

After experiencing the protocol, which includes clarifying goals and dreams, everyone saw themselves differently.

They awakened to their inner spirit. Some had visions. Confidence reignited. They felt naturally happy, even joyous.

They described spontaneous, inner scenarios playing out in their thoughts where they were directing/ living/ getting assistance with their ideal lives.

Each one experienced something unique, which could be described in Oolalife terms as awesomeness.

Change the way we feel, and we attract amazing experiences. The Law of Attraction in demonstration.

I’ve implemented this protocol several times, and every time people felt a natural yet significant inner shift followed by a positive change that manifested dynamic, new opportunities and miracles.

What if we added masterminding to amplify this experience even more?

When two or more gather together in harmony, there’s an energy created, which we call mastermind energy. The mastermind energy can and does manifest goals we choose or something better. Imagine supercharging Oola-inspired goals and dreams even more!

What happened when I connected the dots?

Open and align energy centers + Oola essential oils  + Goal setting for 2020 + Masterminding + Coaching =
The Oola Goal Experience!

You and Your Friends are Invited

My clients have been hearing me talk about our Oola experience, and many got on board when they learned they could tap into this, too. Everyone who already experienced it and could fit it into their schedules have registered for it again.

Following her experience, a client emailed me this: “Thank you! I always love spending time with you but yesterday was over the top!.. I appreciate you and all you do for me and with me.” Not long after, an unanticipated, life-changing, huge opportunity presented itself, which she’s now pursuing. Life purpose to the nth degree!
So far, we have TWO Oola Goal Experiences scheduled.

The groups are small, so space is limited.

Saturday, November 16, 1-6 PM in Wimberley, TX.
Wednesday, November 20, 1-6 PM in Wimberley, TX.
Registration for the afternoon is $250.

Interested? Contact me, and we’ll discuss your questions or registration for the Oola Goal Experience! Consider bringing a friend, too!

virginia@soulgoals.com
As not everyone can make these dates, other Experiences may be scheduled in the future. If this might be for you, let me know and suggest times that could work.

I’d love to help you clarify and supercharge your goals! You deserve it!

You can reach me at virginia@soulgoals.com

With gratitude,

Virginia

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