It’s that time when people make resolutions for the new year… most of which they won’t keep.
But you can make ones that you CAN fulfill.
How? Let’s keep it simple AND effective.
You’ll have greater success if you focus on doing what you LOVE instead of making resolutions to please others, those you think you have to do or should do. This includes earning money because you need to instead of receiving money for doing what you love. (Yes, YOU CAN DO BOTH!)
When you’re ruminating about what you’d like your resolutions and life to be, may these words of wisdom guide you… and be sure to include fun and doing what you love.
“If you do follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.”
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.” ― Joseph Campbell
(my underline)
“People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” ― Dale Carnegie
“If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased.” ― Katharine Hepburn
May you enjoy a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year!
Virginia
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Much of the world is lost in their wanting of something.
As a result, people feel bad or create conflict over what they perceive as lack – what they want but don’t have. In essence, they want things like better health or relationships or weight, a better life, more money, people to behave and believe differently and on and on.
This also means that whatever they have or feel is not good enough.Not enough. The real nemesis.
Could this possibly apply to you, too?
When you feel anxiety, ask yourself what you’re wanting. Even in simple things, such as:
Feeling stressed because you want to give the perfect gift? You’re more likely to find it if you’re relaxed.
Anxious because you want to get your house in order before company comes or want to land a business deal? If you’re feeling good, you’ll spread holiday cheer to your guests or clients – and they’ll feel better around you.
Worried about wanting more money, better health, your ideal partner or better relationships? When you’re emotionally calm, you’re more receptive to insights. Ideas and opportunities will be drawn to you like Santa Claus finds cookies.
Can li’l ole YOU make a difference in this big, crazy world?
YES!
With each person who feels greater peace within, the world becomes more peaceful. Just like anger is infectious, so is the feeling of peace.
Which do you choose to propagate? Fear, anger, worry, frustration OR peace?
You have a choice. Sound impossible?
Do you think that you can’t help the way you feel because it’s someone else’s fault or your challenging circumstances are to blame? Wouldn’t everybody complain if they were in your shoes?
Here’s how you can begin to break that cycle, change your attitude and create a life of greater peace.
What’s the source that creates such stress?
Lack of peace comes from:
wanting approval from others
wanting to control circumstances (that are sometimes out of your control) or others’ choices and how they show up in the world
wanting to be free of a fear of lacking safety and security.
Can these really be the culprits of all that suffering? Yep. These three wants are the roots of what create any lack of peace!
The secret is switching your energy from wanting to having… then what you choose can come to you with grace and ease.
You can choose to experience greater peace!
First, decide that being at peace is your highest priority, more than wanting approval and love, wanting security or wanting control. (In other words, more than unconsciously wanting things that end up making you feel miserable, depressed, stressed, frustrated, fearful, worried or any crappy feeling you do NOT want.)
How?
Let go of wanting approval and love so you can discover that you already have approval and love. It’s an inside job, not something anyone can give you.
Let go of wanting to be safe and secure so you can realize you already are. If you’re trying to get this from others or feel you need more money, things, love, etc. to be happy, remember that they could be taken from you anyway. You’ll discover that you’re already safe and secure as long as you stop fearing that you’re not.
Let go of wanting control. No amount of trying to control external sources will ever be satisfying. You already have control, but it’s within you.
Let go of the need to defend yourself. What are you defending except a false sense of self?
If you make peace your highest priority, you’ll experience greater success in all areas of your life.
You’ll find that you’ll attract those who are more peaceful, and peace will ripple to others. Li’l ole you changing the world toward greater peace.
As I’m not going to try to control what you believe, may you enjoy your holiday season in a way that’s meaningful to you and your faith.
Peace be unto you, my friend.
Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ post of December 22, 2015
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I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
Or choose to enjoy a better life…
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could use new tools or support.
I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.
In 1988, when my mother went into a coma, I knew the end was near.
It was also a time when my health and energy were as poor as my pocketbook. I knew she wanted to be buried in New York next to my father, but I had no idea where the money would come from for the funeral and to move her body from Texas.
As I ruminated aloud about my dilemma with her near-lifeless body next to me, she came out of her coma and said, “You’ll find a way,” and immediately slipped away again.
These were the last words I ever heard from my mother. “You’ll find a way.”
Interestingly, a phrase she repeatedly voiced throughout her life was “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”
I got creative and found a way. It was surprisingly easy to arrange for several thousands of dollars of expenses and transportation costs although I barely had money for food at the time.
Reportedly, a mother found strength to lift a car to save her child who was underneath. If asked earlier, she probably would’ve scoffed at the possibility of doing such a thing.
In real emergencies, the mind and its limitations step aside, and the brilliance of our true spirit shines its light to guide us.
We don’t have to have an emergency to access this.
The light is always here to show the way if we turn it on.
Whatever you’re going through now, you’ll find a way through!
“Lie to no one. If there’s somebody close to you, you’re gonna’ ruin it with a lie. If they’re a stranger, who the f— are they you gotta’ lie to?”
Willie Nelson in Thief
It’s easier to speak our truth simply, although people who don’t want to do something or feel the need to hide often go into avoidance or denial, tell lies, get angry, complain, project blame on others, or make up stories – variations on defensiveness.
A man I knew was “speaking-his-truth challenged.” He made excuses when he didn’t return calls, didn’t keep his word, and disappeared for months when he said he’d call in a couple of days. He left several relationships without a word of goodbye.
Once he phoned to say he was house hunting and asked if I knew any homes for sale in my part of town. I suggested he contact a realtor. I made a three-way call with him, and we left a message for a client of mine who’s in the business.
She told me she returned his call two times but never heard back. A month later, I saw him at the post office, inquired about his search, and commented how he never returned my client’s call. He said he thought he called her back two or three times.
“No. You didn’t.”
This college instructor then claimed forgetfulness expecting me to believe he was the absent-minded professor.
Busted, and he still couldn’t come clean.
To his credit, three months later he left a message on my voicemail to apologize for “some behaviors he acted out with me, the last one being about the realtor, realized after doing some soul searching.”
Tell the truth. Keep it simple. When we do we keep our self-respect, our personal power, and integrity.
Sometimes blatant truth telling is unwise. Telling your boss he’s an idiot may not be the best choice unless you’re ready to walk out the door for good.
Silence or responding with kindness may be the more gracious approach… instead of trying to shove truth down someone’s throat who you perceive isn’t capable of digesting it at that moment. (Another lesson I’ve learned after realizing some people are quite oblivious, and I end up looking like a fool in their eyes if I try to press the point.) Diplomacy and kindness go a long way to effective communication. Well, at least the best you can in the moment. Sometimes journaling or talking to someone else about it first can take off the emotional edge.
The egoic mind feels that it needs to defend itself and wear a mask it wants the world to see; the real you doesn’t.
Your challenge, if you choose to accept, is to speak your truth without defensiveness.
Identify a situation where you’ve been holding back on expressing yourself because of fear of what someone might say, think, or do.
Decide if telling the whole truth is the wisest course of action.
Invoke your Soul energy for courage, wisdom, divine right timing, and effective communication skills. How? Just ask within for help.
Speak your truth diplomatically but straight from your heart, with as much grace as you can muster. Your truth is good enough, with or without explanation.
Be prepared to accept the consequences, knowing that the way out of a situation is often to go through it rather than avoiding it or being defensive.
With a zest for Life,
Virginia
Struggling to tell the truth… even to yourself? Contact me at: virginia@soulgoals.comI work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or could use new tools or support.I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.
Originally posted as an excerpt from my Soulgoal Missive a long time ago.
Virginia Goszewska (go-SHEF-ska) awakens people to be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.
Based on decades of extensive research and personal discoveries, Virginia created the unique mastermind and success program Soulgoals: A Step-by-Step System to Do What You Love – even if you failed before, lost hope, are afraid, stuck, stressed or confused. The mastermind is an energy created when two or more gather in harmony for the attainment of a shared, definite objective.
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