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Escaping the Quicksand of Fear

January 20, 2020

Fear was my #1 issue during a personal growth session in 1991. It took us two hours to reveal what the particular fear was: everything! It took me years to recognize the insidious ways fear had molded my life since childhood.

Like attracts like. When the vibration of fear precedes actions, the results reflect that energy. What follows is lack; struggle; failure; disappointment; frustration; worry; anxiety; loss of business; financial hardship; and that dreadful fear of the future – “what if” things don’t work out and I face a fate worse than death?

Especially when I felt justified, being afraid was like adding sugar to yeast – “Just look at my circumstances. Anyone in them would feel this way.” Fear multiplied which attracted more things to be afraid about.

Once when my budget was screaming “ouch,” I feared missing a credit card payment. I knew someone this happened to, and her rates skyrocketed. My negative musings caused me unconsciously to pay my bill from an account where I don’t keep money… and I missed my payment.

My preoccupation with my imagined, financial ruin also had me overlook paying my water bill. I opened the top portion of a letter sent to alert me and set it aside thinking it was next month’s bill. Only minutes after coming home from burying my cat who suddenly died and discovering my water had been turned off did I see it was a disconnect notice.

I had the money, but I was so consumed with fearing future disasters that I created them!  As Job said, “For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me.”

You may have been pulled into the quicksand of fear. Once you start sliding  down its slippery slope, every frantic breath has you descend into it more deeply.

All my successes occurred when I let go of fear.

What is quicksand, and how does it work?

Quicksand is just a soupy mix of water trapped in ordinary sand that can’t escape, a liquefied soil that can’t support weight. It can occur almost anywhere if the right conditions are present. Contrary to being the frightening, bottomless pit portrayed in the movies, it rarely is deeper than a few feet.

Stepping into quicksand will not swallow you whole or suck you under, but thrashing about will force you deeper into it. The more you struggle, the faster you sink.

Most people who drown in quicksand or in any liquid are those who panic and start flailing their arms and legs. However, it’s easier to break free of it than you may think.

To escape you have to stop fighting. The key is not to panic.

The way out is to relax and make slow movements back to the surface.

Because your body is less dense than the quicksand, your body will float to the surface if you let go of the struggle and relax. In fact, it’s easier to float on quicksand than on water. Once afloat, you can find your way back to safety.

Hmm, so similar to fear – how we drown in it and how we can escape its murky mud.

Reprinted from Soulgoals’ Archive  posted on February 26, 2012

Tired of fighting your fears? If so, contact me for a Break-Free Session at virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way (or just feel better) but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.
I help them be richly compensated by tuning into their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2020 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Be Careful What You Ask for – Here’s What Happened to This Woman

January 13, 2020

Three months prior, a woman set intentions. However, she didn’t realize at the time how her casual thoughts and wishes would actually turn into things.

Specific things.

One day, she woke up thinking about doing karaoke, singing at weddings or with a band a couple of times a month. After that, she let the thought go and didn’t think about it.

A couple of days later, she complained about how she doesn’t get what she asks for.

Then she mused, “All I want is a date so I know I’ve still got it.”

She also thought about her neighbors and wondered why they put an odd-shaped, kiddie pool on their sloped yard.

Two to three days after that, three guys, who she wasn’t interested in, asked her out.

She told me that she needed to be more specific while setting intentions.

The good news is that mutual friends introduced her to a band, and she became their lead singer.

She enjoyed learning the ropes of being on stage and liked her band members. Being with them opened doors.

“Everything we think sets an intention, whether we know it or not.”

She also noted, “God has a sense of humor.”

The neighbor’s kiddie pool flew from their yard over the fence into her yard.

She pondered: “God brought it to me, so it’s mine.” Instead, she decided to give it back to her neighbors. She has a sense of humor, too.

As they say, from your lips to God’s ears.

What are you asking for – intentionally or not?

P.S. Know others who could use help in setting clear intentions that bring results? Please share this post.

Reprinted from March 27, 2017 Soulgoals’ Blog Archives 

Would you like help in creating your life to be even better in 2020? If so, contact me for a Break-Free Session at virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated living a life they love.

 

Copyright © 2020 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

What to Do When You DON’T Know What to Do

January 6, 2020

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I felt like I backed myself into a corner.

I was running out of time to complete writing projects – and my deadline was already extended.

My cat kept me up half the night because she was sick.

I woke up with a debilitating headache because, when I eventually fell asleep, my head was in an awkward position.

I felt miserable.

Not able to focus on my business for a week because of my project.

Exhausted.

Then, it occurred to me that I’m creating this.

I forgot to consciously create my day through intention.

Instead, I focused on how I was going to get everything done.

I wondered about what I was going to do.

How I didn’t feel well.

And my approach wasn’t working. I felt stuck.

Then, I remembered.

I forgot to choose to be in Divine Flow.

When I did, I stopped pushing.

Took a nap.

Ideas came how I could resolve obstacles to complete my projects.

I started to feel better – physically and emotionally.

My feline friend felt better, too.

To explain what I mean by divine flow, here’s an excerpt from my program Soulgoals: A Step-by-Step Guide to Do What You Love… even if you failed before, lost hope, are afraid, stressed or confused.

“If you’re struggling or suffering, change your perspective. The struggle may come because you’re trying to control or swim upstream against the current.

“If the going gets tough, maybe you’re going in the wrong direction.

“Life is designed to be in divine flow. If you’re struggling or suffering, you’re going against the flow. Maybe you think you should be acting and thinking a certain way, but that’s actually what’s holding you back and putting you in a flow that’s other than divine. If you are, choose to be in divine flow; continue to choose this.

“Let go of how you think things should be so your focus can shift to the present moment and what is. Allow new perspectives and options to emerge.”

Spoiler alert: Your essential nature is divine, regardless if you feel and have acted like the lowest of lowest. Your essence (and everyone else’s) IS your true nature.

Today’s TIP is simple – for you to implement and for me to share.

Choose to be in divine flow.

It seems to defy logic that this can make it difference.

A few seconds of setting this intention, choosing a belief, sets your day in a positive direction.

You can do this at any time of the day, especially if things start getting wonky.

Observe how your life changes for the better.

You may notice how things change a lot or step-by-step.

Either way, instead of “if it’s not one thing, it’s another,” you shift your trajectory so the track you’re on is “things get better and better.”

Live the life you’re meant to enjoy.

If you have questions or comments, just ask. virginia@soulgoals.com

Reprinted from April 7, 2016 Soulgoals’ Blog Archives

Would you love your life to flow more smoothly in 2020? If so, contact me for a Break-Free Session at virginia@soulgoals.com  

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way (or just feel better) but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2020 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

My New Year’s Gift to You!

December 31, 2019

2020 Vision in gold

My New Year’s gift to you is one I give but only you can allow yourself to receive.

My gift to you in 2020 and always is to remember who YOU are.

When you step back from the illusion of weight created by worry and woes of the world, Love, Peace, Joy and Prosperity shine more brightly in your life.

With this light you have clarity because your direction and choices are illuminated.

Just as when you have your eyes checked with 20-20 vision being the ideal benchmark, 2020 can be your year of clear vision.

As you follow your path of illumination, you attract your New Year’s intentions with grace and ease.

What appears to be miracles to some can be a way of life for you!

How can your New Year intentions become your present day reality? 

Let go of what doesn’t serve you: your self-doubt, problems, emotional upheavals, things you don’t like. Redirect your focus to happier thoughts and how you choose your life to be.

No, this isn’t Pollyanna thinking.

It’s wisdom through understanding how the world works.

It’s a choice.

Energy flows where attention goes. You attract more of where your focus goes.

If you focus on what’s not working, you energize and receive more of it.

If you have a wound, you won’t feel better or heal better by beating it up.

Likewise, let go of beating yourself up and focusing on what you don’t like.

How can you let go of emotions and focusing on what can make your life not… fun?

Remember.

Remember that you only see about 10% of YOU in your daily life.

Tap into the 90% that’s unseen, the greater percentage of YOU, and there you’ll discover your power to create a wonderful 2020.

The Biblical description of Lot’s wife demonstrated what happened when she looked back to the past. She turned into a pillar of salt.

So let go emotionally of 2020 and your past.

Fixating on any limited, current conditions keeps you stuck, too.

What you see now is only the result of old thinking solidifying in this moment!

You have the ability to change because only 10% of YOU gets caught in the illusion and cares about negativity.

How can you change your life by focusing on what you choose?

Believe.

Believe in your inner spirit, a greater part of YOU that’s unseen.

Align with YOU for clarity, confidence and courage.

You can revel in a most wonderful 2020.

Choose to remember what a gift you are.

You are literally made of stardust.

You are a Divine child of a loving Creator.

Therefore, coming from infinite potential, you are unlimited – regardless of your past or current limitations and beliefs.

Choose now to remember YOU.

Dream BIG.

Have fun!

Create your 2020 to be an even better year than ever before.

So be it!

Reprinted with revisions from December 28, 2016 Soulgoals’ Blog Archives

Would you love having 20-20 clarity and direction in 2020? If so, contact me for a complimentary Clear Vision Session at virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

 

My Gift to You

December 23, 2019

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Dear Friend,

My gift to you is one I give but only you can allow yourself to receive.

My gift to you is Peace and Joy.

Peace in your heart where nobody or nothing disturbs you.

Peace that comes from not judging others or yourself lest you be judged.

Peace that comes from not participating in criticism by speaking or listening to it from yourself or others, especially about yourself.

Peace that comes from not taking on world problems and carrying them as your burden.

Peace that comes from putting life in perspective and not letting the little stuff bother you – and it’s all little stuff.

Peace that comes from compassion that others are doing the best they can even if it doesn’t meet your standards or if you don’t feel satisfied with whatever they have to give.

Peace that comes from making a decision to feel good instead of focusing on irritations, challenges and who done you wrong… or that there’s something wrong with you. (There isn’t!!!)

Peace that comes from choosing to stop worrying and living in fear but instead trusting in a Divine Presence that’s on your side, got your back and helps you to pave your future.

Peace that comes from kindness: kind words, kind actions, kind thoughts, kind intentions, kind feelings.

Peace that comes from the spirit of Christmas.

Peace that starts with you and spreads to the world.

And when the veils of illusion that cloud your Peace are replaced by Love, Joy fills your heart.

Believe that more Peace is available for you in this very moment.

Everyday you experience one or more moments of Peace and Joy, like when you see a baby, kitten, puppy or beautiful sunset.

So you know the feeling of Peace.

Simply expand on that, a little more each day.

Just like turning on a radio station, you can align your frequency to send and receive Peace and Joy.

It’s easier now to do this by tuning into the spirit of Christmas, whatever your personal beliefs, because Peace, Joy and Love are very much in the air.

May you drink deeply of this wonderful elixir of the Soul.

Enjoy your gift!

With gratitude,

Virginia

Reprinted from Soulgoals Blog Archives: December 13, 2016

Would you love having 20-20 clarity and more peace in 2020? If so, start your year on track by contacting me for a complimentary Break-Free Session at virginia@soulgoals.com … so you can Live the life you LOVE!

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2019 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

What Money and My Telling a Guy I Didn’t Need Him Have in Common

December 16, 2019

Chase

We met by chance when he was house hunting, and I just happened to be outside a home I hadn’t moved into yet.

After our brief meeting, he bought the house next door because he created a fantasy about the two of us getting married.

This sweet man desperately wanted a woman.

Even as time went on, he didn’t have an interest to know me, my beliefs, what I do or if I cared about him. I was “nice,” and that’s all that mattered.

He so needed to feel loved. It was really all about him.

Needy people try to get fulfillment from something outside of themselves that they haven’t found within.

When he put serious moves on me, I told him that I didn’t need him.

He heard this before when his ex-wife said the same thing on her way out the door.

I didn’t say it to hurt him. I’ve learned to guide my life by choice not neediness, especially when it comes to relationships.

Eventually, he found someone in a place of hardship who literally needed help. They got married, and he moved.

I see them on occasion. Now that the crisis has passed, they don’t look too happy together.

Whatever you chase after, because you need it, runs in the other direction.

This can appear to be a brain twister, but follow along because it’s a key to life.

It’s the reason you can have good relationships and, well, everything.

If you want or need a relationship, it means you don’t have one. Energetically, something’s missing. Lack attracts lack. You’re left wanting but not having.

However, when you come from a place of having, you attract to you more of what you have.  From an energy perspective, it doesn’t matter if you actually have it. The key is that you have the feeling within that you do.

It’s the same with needing business or money. If you need it, you push it away.

You can have anything you choose, as long as you don’t want it.

I told you this can be a brain twister. The more you get it, though, changes your life for the better.

When you want something, you’re sending out the energy of lack or not enough, what you don’t have.

Lack energy implies what you want is out there somewhere, but you don’t have it. You’re incomplete. So it will always be out there somewhere.

Ever run after a child or pet? They run the other way.

Ever have someone want you and chase after you? You feel like running and hiding.

Your goals and money will run away from you, too, if they’re out there somewhere and you’re chasing them.

Do you choose to want more or to actually have it?

This isn’t double talk. Consider it this way. Wanting and having are opposing energies.

You can’t drive forward and in reverse at the same time. At best, you’d go in circles.

The way out of this conundrum?

Let go.

This is why I created my Liberation of Lunacy (LoL) technique.  Because we’re all a little crazy when the ego takes over and fills us with fear, anxiety, neediness, limit and doubt.

Instead of needing more money, business, time or a relationship, come from a place of “all your needs are met beyond your wildest expectation.”

That’s a first step in letting go.

Today is your day.

Total eclipse.

Ready to have your life eclipse for the better?

Claim it.

Be sure to include having fun and living with gusto!

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

Reprinted from Soulgoals Blog Archives: August 21, 2017

Are your ready to actually HAVE what you’ve been wanting? Would you love to start the new year knowing your life is on track? If so, contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com 

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

TIP: Going in 2 Directions Takes You Nowhere

December 9, 2019

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Arms outstretched with people gently pulling from either side, participants of my workshop this weekend felt what it’s like to go in opposite directions.

The results: they swayed a bit to the left and right, but stayed in the same position, going nowhere.

Your contradictory thoughts can keep you stuck, a part of you wants to go forward while another holds you back.

For example:

You choose success, but there are those pesky, opposing thoughts.

  • You worry about things, like what if you don’t succeed. Remember how things didn’t work out before and how disappointed you felt? Maybe people who pointed out your limitations were right. And who are you to make more money than your parents?
  • Better play it safe. Save yourself from discouragement. You long for better, but your thoughts keep you where you are.

You choose to be in a relationship, but…

  • Oh, get real. They start out great, and then they’re more trouble than they’re worth. Look at your history. However, you feel desperate for a loving partner. But if you haven’t found “the one” by now, it’s too late. They probably won’t like the way you look, anyway.
  • Even if you meet Mr. or Ms. Right, it might not go anywhere with attitudes like these or the relationship you’re in remains unsatisfying.

When your energy goes in opposite directions:

  1. You feel discouraged, and your confidence wanes. Then you don’t have what it takes to share your gifts or business in a bigger way.
  2. Your energy is like Pigpen from the Charlie Brown comics, who’s pictured above. Your doubt and low self-opinion swirl around you. People can feel it, which motivates them to run in the other direction.

Your TIP is to focus on one direction by believing in yourself, your dreams, your goals.

On average, people only access 10% of who they are. That’s the personality seen in everyday life that’s filled with doubts and negativity.

Choose to tap into the rest of you, the 90% that’s your inner Self, and you’re unlimited!

Ask, right now, for 100% of you to be present, and your life begins to be on track to be happier, more focused, single-minded, Soul-directed.

It takes practice, especially if you’re in the habit of complaining about others, your past or current conditions. Nonetheless, you can align more and more with your inner Self.

With empowered energy, you can go where you choose or someplace better!

 Reprinted from post on December 13, 2016

I work with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For greater clarity and direction, contact me for a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session at virginia@soulgoals.com

 

BOYS MEET GIRL – LAW OF ATTRACTION ACTION

September 9, 2019
Magnetic Field Around a Magnet

This is a Reprint from September 25, 2012

After the universe’s exuberant response to my calamitous question of “what else can go wrong,” I realized how literally life listens to us. I observed multiple demonstrations of more things going wrong, emphasizing that our words matter.

I made new choices. One was being open to receive… let’s say certain relationships in my life. I didn’t dwell, need, beg or long for it. I stated my intentions with conviction and let them go.

Soon, I was reminded what I set in motion.

Here’s an example: I received a Twitter Direct Message (DM) from a handsome and distinguished young man.

Miss Virginia how r u? I like u…plz add me on (Skype and email address).

I messaged that I added him to my mailing list. OK?

He responded quickly, but before I had time to read it I received this tweet.

@Soulgoal answer about direct message

Here’s what it said:

Ok..but how old r u? I prince from saudi arabia..living in U.S….I wanna meet u.

I didn’t think “me Tarzan, you Jane” would mean much. Instead, I pro-actively opted for: I’m old enough to know that a prince from Saudi Arabia wouldn’t be interested.

Add to this the construction worker who saw my photo and decided I would move to Ohio to be his wife and raise his teen-age son.

Add to this a sweet Brit who wants to “huk up” and be my best friend, lovely connections from friends, etc. His stunning, pick up line: “What did you have for dinner?”

I respect the vulnerability and courage it took for some to reach out. Even though these didn’t work for me, here’s what I learned.

My intentions created movement! Suddenly, people I know and don’t know are contacting me. My energy is open to receive, which activated the Law of Attraction (like attracts like). People who responded to my search beam first were those within reach of it, and others are coming. Being more specific would help, too.

The process is not always perfect initially, which allows room for refinement… but a key is NOT giving up.

Think about the implications for YOU: the doors it could open, pending miracles, the practical use in your work, finances and personal life. You don’t have to know where or how it works. Ask believing you can receive, and then take action.

To manifest, launch light-hearted energy with trust and clear intentions. This wavelength is conducive to receive positive results on the return swing of the pendulum. Feel good energy goes out; similar-feeling experiences come back, which creates more things about which to feel good.

We are energy beings. Life is a reflection of thoughts, words, feelings and attitudes = energy. You can use this energy consciously to allow the Law of Attraction to work on your behalf.

What do you want to create? Imagine what would be your ideal situation.

  • First, decide what you want, then choose to create it in your life.
  • Energize your choices with good feelings.
  • Ask for what you choose.
  • Let go of your choices emotionally.
  • Trust life is working on your behalf and will bring you results in divine right timing
  • Anticipate the best.
  • Recalibrate your request, if needed.

Have fun creating a wonderful life!

And to the charming man who’s showered me with messages, a text and phone call – consider using the Law of Attraction to find someone where there would be mutual enjoyment of each other’s company for walks and talks through an online dating service.

If you’d like help to
create the life or
business you choose
while enjoying yourself,
contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

Copyright © 2019 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Replay to Keys to Happiness

April 27, 2018

 

I loved being this week’s guest on DuAnne Redus‘ On River Time radio show… and I thoroughly enjoy DuAnne, too! The replay is available until next Thursday. You can listen to our conversation on Keys to Happiness and 3 Steps to Manifesting by clicking on the following link to KWVH’s archive vault, and scrolling down to ON RIVER TIME – THURSDAY https://www.wimberleyvalleyradio.org/archive-vault

 

TIP: Never Give Up – Part 1

April 27, 2016

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Small or LARGE, life presents challenges that sometimes feel impossible to solve.

Have you ever wondered how in the world you could get out of a fix you were in? Or maybe you were closing in on the 11th hour, and your dreams – or life – were falling apart in front of you. Or you felt discouraged because no matter how hard you tried, you didn’t get past first base, if even that far.

Or maybe that’s happening to you now.

Every week, I marvel at the amazing stories I hear during mastermind meetings.To offer you encouragement to see what’s possible for you, I’m sharing one of them.

During her team meeting, a woman masterminded to receive a bonus.

Just two more high dollar transactions to log in by the end of the week, and she’d receive it.

With deals in the pipeline, she had good reason to believe the $$ was hers.

But, the last deal didn’t come together.

The masterminder said that in the past she would have been disappointed and doubted.

Instead, she decided she was going to believe she’d receive her bonus in spite of all appearances that pointed to the contrary.

She didn’t have a clue how to do it.

She had less than a day with no prospects in sight.

It reminds me of a quote texted to me a few days ago. “A friend recently told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn.”

That’s what it can look like to others (and maybe you) who think you must be crazy to believe something will work when all logical options have evaporated like the morning fog. Or you’re offered advice to give up.

Believe anyway.

While talking with her BFF the night before her deadline, she mentioned what happened… at which point her friend said she’d been meaning to make this investment for a while.

She ran a credit check, which often can be problematic for people especially with her friend’s credit history, and it worked.

With a looming deadline hours away, she made her numbers and got her bonus!

Everything is given according to your belief.

If you believe it, you can create it.
This or something better.

Your TIP is never give up.

If one way doesn’t work, it may be because something better is coming.

Focus on this instead of grumbling about something you don’t like, how you think things should be or who done you wrong.

This belief creates:

All my needs and more are met beyond my wildest expectation and imagination now!


Be sure to read Part 2 in next week’s TIP, as the story I’ll share is phenomenal.

It’s about a masterminder who was on the brink of financial ruin and losing her home.

Instead, her crisis turned her from a falling star to a rock star.

May you enjoy a miracle-filled week.

If your belief could use a pick me up, I invite you to contact me to learn more about a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session.