Archive for April, 2017

Is God Doing This to You?

April 27, 2017

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Do you feel that at your core you’re chopped liver – a bumbling incompetent who’s made irredeemable mistakes?

Do you think you might be a candidate for the Guinness Book of World Records for “worst blunders ever made by anyone anywhere?”

Do you believe it’s justifiable, then, for others to look down or laugh at you?

That would be a kinda harsh opinion of yourself, ya think?

Now what if you amped up this judgmental blather a notch to believe this is how God or the universe sees you?

As a result of this thinking, an all-loving Prime Creator of life would laugh at you, too.

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A woman, who’s experiencing big challenges, quoted Woody Allen: “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.”

She felt her best thinking and plans got her to this turning point, and she’s made a mess of it.

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By this statement, she expanded her focus from those who are judgy and laugh at others’ expense to include a mean-spirited God laughing at her.

What a great example of the ego’s Jedi Mind Trick. It loves to make you wrong and compare you and your success and money (or so-called lack of them) to others – you’re not good enough or certainly not as good as “them.”

Ponder this:

If you’re a parent, do you want your kids to wait for your permission before doing things?

Would you want to train them to be afraid of making mistakes and decisions? Because of this, they’d doubt themselves and procrastinate.

After a while, you might suggest they stand on their own feet and make their own choices. Even if they screw up, which inevitably everyone does, they’re learning.

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How can you stay true to your spiritual roots and make good decisions?
Empower yourself by aligning with your inner spirit first.
Find your anchor inside of you.
Breathe.
Detach from others’ opinions of what you should do as well as your reaction to life’s circumstances.
How does something feel – good or not so much?
Then make decisions and take action.
This world is designed for everyone to make mistakes.
It’s perfectly impossible to be perfect.
The lesson is not about giving up on your plans but on being true to you.

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Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #3 is “I trust my Self and listen to the voice within.”

The second half of Principle #4 is “…I take action by following through with my inspiration and guidance.”

It goes on to give a TIP:

“If you doubt and don’t trust your Self because of past mistakes, consider this. If you listened to and trusted your Self, instead of your fears and others’ opinions, you wouldn’t have made the mistakes.”

A healthy parent loves a child even though mistakes are made.

We are children of a loving God, a supportive universe.

The plans you make are backed up by an unconditionally loving Supreme Being – even if your plans leave something to be desired. That’s how you’re learning.

You are loved. You are supported. You are cared for deeply.

Live your life with kind compassion, starting with yourself.

P.S. Know someone who’s beating themselves up? They might appreciate you sharing this post with them.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

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Resurrection

April 17, 2017

 

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resurrect
1. to raise from the dead 2. to bring to view, attention, or use again.
(Merriam Webster Dictionary)

A friend is a live-in manager who’s responsible for the people who reside there.

She’s on call 24/7, months on end. With little downtime to revitalize, it’s tiring to say the least.

It appeared that all her clients would be gone for a long, holiday weekend.

However, while we were talking on the phone, she learned that one wouldn’t be leaving after all. To add to her stinging disappointment, her situation worsened as they informed her of an intermittent schedule, on and off daily, over the next few days.

At first discouraged, she decided to change her focus to another direction.

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She remembered that she’s an excellent manifester. When she makes a choice and places her attention on it with the right attitude, she gets results.

She had forgotten about her ability because she’s been so distracted by her circumstances.

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Instead of energizing what she didn’t want by feeling bad about it, she started thinking about having the house to herself.

Fifteen minutes later, she called back to tell me her client would leave soon and not return for almost a week.

To make it all the sweeter, and even though she didn’t mention to them their lack of concern for her well-being, she was personally acknowledged. She received recognition and appreciation for the service she gives by going above and beyond for her clients.
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She redirected her thinking by telling herself this: Tell the truth faster. __________________________________________________________________________

When she told herself the truth instead of reacting to what wasn’t working for her, she became clear and shifted her focus.

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She didn’t “do” anything except become non-reactive emotionally and mentally.

After she let go of her sad story, she remembered she’s an energy being. She then tapped into this inner source to shape her life.

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The experience inspired her to resurrect her alignment with her  inner power. From her fatigue, she  had been reacting to others instead of changing her life by changing her focus.

Tell the truth faster.

After looking at options for months which culminated in a few tear-filled  days, a woman had no choice but  to move. A couple of days later, she told me the place had a lot of unpleasant memories attached to it, and she was relieved to be out of there.

Now, she’s resurrecting a new life while looking forward to where her future will take her.

Tell the truth faster.

What’s been bothering you about your life, work or business?

You have a choice.

Complain and be annoyed, frustrated, depressed or angry.

Distracting yourself by regularly  reacting to what you don’t want only keeps you on a hamster wheel of regret and unfulfillment.

Or you can raise yourself up from that deadening energy.

Resurrect your inner power and bring into view your strength and vision.

If you’ve been feeding a habit of focusing on what doesn’t work, you may need practice or support.

Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #1 says: “I believe there’s an energy created when two or more gather in harmony.”

Being part of a supportive mastermind team can transform your energy as you see your life with fresh perspectives and belief in yourself to create your ideal life, work or business.

Resurrect your dreams. You can turn them or something even better into reality.

You have the ability to design and create your life, work or business to exceed your wildest expectations.

So be it!

With gratitude,
Virginia

P.S. Know others who could use help to create a better life and business? Please share this blog.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support.
I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.
Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

What’s Spring Doing to You?

April 10, 2017

I’ve lived through a few “dark nights of
the soul.” Life or circumstance created
feelings and thoughts that cloaked me
with a heavy pall taking months to release.

Then, just as spring arises from the
barren winter, signs of life within me
determinedly emerged like a phoenix
rising from the ashes.

I understand when people can’t seem to
throw off pervasive feelings that run in
the background like a software program
that’s been slowly and covertly draining
their energy, often for a very long time.

Finally, as if they were running on a low
battery but getting by, the charge is
gone. They can’t take it anymore and
have to do something.

As I ponder what to write to you
today, all I can think about are
several, recent coaching sessions:

People identified specters that lurked
in their shadows for years, haunting
them with their convincing influence
of limitation and disapproval.

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They courageously pulled back
the curtain that hid their inner
tormenters, which were revealed to
be nothing more than Wizard of Oz
imposters, and freed themselves.
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Previously, the ego’s dictates filled
their thoughts and feelings like smoke
in a room on fire with little space for
breathing freely.

When the air cleared, the peace
and empowerment of the present
moment shined like the sun on a clear,
cloudless day.

True freedom.

This freedom comes from no longer
being thrashed by past pain or fear
of the future or the hollow echoes that
they, what they do or their lives aren’t
good enough.

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Maybe you’ve heard those voices in
your head, too – the worrisome talk 
that creates fear, doubt and anxiety
disguised as the voice of reason.

You obediently listened, and now you
don’t take risks or you fritter away your 
energy distracted by blame, shame,
regret, doubts, grief, frustration or
lack that leave you too exhausted to
create the life you really want.
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Living in the Now even for a moment
brings relief.

The heart freed of shackles, that were
locked in restraint by misty, forgotten
memories, is free to rejoice in renewal,
like the season of spring.

Or is it the spring that can recoil and
stretch to accommodate life’s demands?

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Living in the Now takes practice, and it
helps to have positive support to
counter the ego’s seduction that tries
to hook you into believing that you can’t
attain the life, business, finances and
happiness you really want.
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Inevitably, the ego tries to lure you
again with its hypnotic trance of anxiety,
lack, fear, doubt and limit, which results
in dissatisfaction.

However, once the taste of freedom
is savored, it’s proof that peace and
happiness are more than a wishful
hope.

Years of habit have etched neural
pathways in the brain spawning ruts
of discontent.

That all changes when being nurtured
by living in present time as new
pathways gain dominance.

A friend texted for me to write about
never giving up on your dreams.

With an unencumbered
spirit, your dreams or something
even better can come true.

Believe.

P.S. Know others who could use help to be free so they can create a better life and business? Please forward this post.
I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

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I Got Miffed When My Coach Did This to Me

April 4, 2017
 
During a year-long, business training, we were given one, 30-minute, private coaching session per month. I skipped some months so I could invest in  extended, one-hour sessions.

The short sessions felt like a race. But, ahhh, finally I’d be able to really explore some topics in depth.

My coach had a different idea that day. Not only was she was on a roll  about subjects she wanted to communicate, but they were off-track for me.

I was blind-sided. Annoyed. I felt like an irritated cat who observed but was silent.

I couldn’t think of a way to derail her  without being rude, even though she was taking away time from my agenda, and I didn’t care about what she was saying. I was left a bit flabbergasted and without words to express myself. (Yeah, I know, weird for me.)

This bugged me so much that later I discussed it with another coach. I wasn’t placing blame on my biz coach, but I wondered why I was bothered. Why couldn’t I turn the session into what I wanted instead of just responding to her direction? ________________________________

The root of my miffedness? I was so focused on trying to be nice to her that I wasn’t nice to ME! I put her feelings above mine.

It was a huge lesson. Don’t  allow other people’s feelings and opinions to have more value than my own.

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By the way, later when I listened to the recording of our session, what she said wasn’t as bad as I thought. I really needed to hear her in a skewed way to get this lesson!

Recently, I facilitated a coaching session with a masterminder who’s successful, positive and very aware that whatever she focuses on multiplies.

When it seemed impossible to achieve her numbers by the next day to get a bonus, a new client appeared out-of-the-blue. She always wins door prizes. After a break-up from a long-term relationship, a chance meeting landed her an invite to spend the next week at a condo on the coast with wonderful and supportive women – for free!

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She’s learned the power of masterminding: how to choose what she wants and, with the dynamic of group energy, manifest beyond her wildest expectations. Not only is she  aware of the power of her focused attention, she’s living proof that her thoughts and feelings become reality.

However, there are people in her personal life who see things differently – they believe in a lack philosophy

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The cup is half full. No sense in making plans because they never work. They complain about how there’s not enough money.

When they expressed their negative views and even dismissed her approach, she politely didn’t say anything. Everybody has a right to their opinion.

Then she woke up, and it felt like a weight was lifted from her when she heard this:

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Your outer world is shaped by your thoughts and feelings. If you allow others to surround you with their negative energy, it can affect the way you feel. In doing so, you’ve given them power to create YOUR world – for better or worse.

Care about the way you feel. Make feeling good a priority if you care about your business, health, life and ability to prosper.

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Why let strangers in a car who drive in some loopy way bother you and affect your mood, which can affect your day.. because this can affect your wallet and ability to create the life you choose?

Why allow your energy, the way you feel, to be infused by limiting views on the way life works because you’re trying to be nice or afraid to speak up?

Sounds good, but how?

Sure to bomb: “My well being is a  key to my success. So you need to shut up so I can feel good.”

Delicious in the moment, but that won’t bring you positive results.

Effective: Opt to express yourself with grace and ease.

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Creatively communicate without making the other person wrong.

How can you take a stand for yourself while being kind? You’re worth it.

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Yes, play it smart, too. Your boss, friends or family may require a lot of creativity.

I pondered how to inform a health practitioner to stop his limited thinking about the results I could get.

I found a creative way, but that’s another story.

With gratitude,
Virginia

P.S. Know others who could use help in standing up for themselves or changing the way they feel so they can attain greater success? Please forward this post.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.