May you enjoy this excerpt from my Soulgoal Missive that I wrote in July 2008, which includes a first date that happened years earlier. Reading it was a good reminder to me about the value of change and how we can resist it. Do you need a whack to your thinking?
After two years of flying solo following my marital separation, somebody asked me out on a date. I could pick any restaurant I wanted – so off we went to a salsa club to dine and take my second dance lesson.
As our discussion progressed during dinner, the topic of relationships arose. Remember, this was my first foray into the dating arena in many a year.
“No, I didn’t notice the tan line on your ring-free, left hand finger signifying you wear a wedding ring and you’re married,” I said to the “gentleman.”
Did I let this throw me? I made a choice to course correct. I was not willing to let this bozo mar the memory of my first date.
I remained undaunted and had a great night with excellent conversation. Turned out he was a lucid and prophetic dreamer with juicy peeks into the aeries of the dream world.
The next and final time we met, I gave him a book on spiritual dreaming and the number of a therapist.
I could handle change like this, but why did I buck at smaller things?
I picked up a message at 11 PM from my hairdresser, the night before my 10 AM appointment, which informed me she moved.
My monkey mind whined. Instead of her being 45 minutes away, she would be an hour away. Wrong. Travel time was only 35 minutes – and the new place was definitely nicer. Why did she move locations? She needed a change.
Then there was the lawn sprinkler. Not having an automated system necessitated moving the sprinkler several times. A friend bought and installed timers. I graciously accepted them but said to myself, “This is a waste; I have to be outdoors to move them around anyway.” Wrong. They are wonderful.
I changed the way I do things. Now I water automatically and forget about it. Later when I have the time, I water the rest.
If you want something you never have had, you have to be willing to do something you never have done.
We want our lives to be different, but we want things to remain the same. We want others to change so we don’t have to.
We often evaluate our options logically and make a decision based on the best knowledge our minds have to offer. But our thinking is so limited compared to the world of possibilities.
“Discovery consists of looking at the same things as everyone else and thinking something different… Those ideas or situations that cause you to get off your routine paths and ‘think something different’ are whacks to your thinking.”
Roger von Oech
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CHANGE is hard when we say we want it, but we don’t want to change ourselves.
We have to make changes to allow our heart’s desires to enter our lives. If we do not respond to the gentle nudges that always precede a change, the two by four whack eventually will bonk us.
Your challenge, should you choose to accept it, is to identify where you have been resisting change in your life and look at it from another viewpoint. Take a chance; make a change in your approach.
With a zest for Life,
Virginia
Success Thought
“Life moves on, whether we act as cowards or heroes.
Life has no other discipline to impose, if we would but realize it, than to accept life unquestioningly.
Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate or despise, serves to defeat us in the end.
What seems nasty, painful, evil, can become a source of beauty, joy and strength, if faced with an open mind.
Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognize it as such.”
Henry Miller
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