A mastermind team did an exercise called “Strategy for Success,” which included prioritizing personal and professional goals, identifying obstacles, followed by strategies to overcome each one. If there was a roadblock, what could they do about it?
Procrastination was a big obstacle. Many delays were due to questioning themselves. Are they capable? Are they good enough? Are they doing the right thing?
Avoidance happened when their goals involved new activity and knowledge that differed from how they’d done things in the past. They were growing their businesses in new ways, which meant doing things they’d never done before.
Venturing into an arena unknown to them brought on self-doubt, which immobilized them from moving forward.
One woman, who took on a new-to-her project, didn’t know how to complete it. She simply didn’t have the expertise to finish the job. With deadlines looming, she held herself back from doing a pile of other work, that she easily knows how to do, until she finished her worrisome project.
It turned out that a business associate had already offered, completely free of charge, to help her every step of the way. He also told her point blank that she was fully capable of doing this work on her own once she learned the steps.
All she really needed was help to walk through each step. Then she’d have it.
After she completed his initial instructions, she felt that she should know how to finish it on her own. However, because she had no prior experience with it, there’s no way she could know.
She was stuck because her self-esteem felt jeopardized.
She didn’t want to call him for help because that made her feel there was something wrong with her abilities and herself. That she wasn’t good enough.
So she remained frozen for way too long, which meant she wasn’t receiving income for a stack of work she could do.
By changing her perspective, she was able to see how asking for help had nothing to do with her self-worth, and she was willing to contact him again.
When going outside the known and our comfort zone, when choosing to take ourselves to another level, it’s likely new tools and skills will be needed. This has nothing to do with not being good enough or a reason to be afraid of rejection!
Once we get over our “yes, buts,” “you don’t understand,” “I was told this is the way it is (or I am),” “there’s nothing that can be done” and countless other reasons we try to legitimize why we do things the way we’ve always done, new solutions can appear.
The answers to get you through any challenge live within you. You’ll either get pointed in a direction, a direct insight will come, you’ll overhear something by chance… somehow your personal GPS will show you the way.
Pay attention to your inner nudges. They provide clues.
Be open to step back and see things in a new perspective. The seemingly impossible may actually be possible with a different approach.
“Every great and deep difficulty bears in itself its own solution. It forces us to change our thinking in order to find it.”
Niels Bohr, who won the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1922
Bohr, who contributed to understanding atomic structure and quantum theory, tapped into his creativity to use outside the box thinking, which allowed him to be part of breakthrough discoveries.
Expand your territory. Change your perspective. Open to support and breakthroughs.
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Original Soulgoals’ Blog was posted on March 26, 2018.
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