Archive for the ‘Empowerment’ Category

Do You Wish Things Had Turned Out Differently?

August 7, 2017

Not happy with her life, she felt depressed for quite a while.

Although her current employment has gratifying moments, she’s caught in a dead-end job that’s light years away from the passion that lights her up.

Why did she stay in a funk for so long? She kept reflecting on her past and projecting it on her future.

In her ego’s way of thinking, success would continue to elude her no matter how hard she tried.  “Nothing will ever work, so why bother?”

Another watched big parts of her life and years-long business eclipse into oblivion, and she felt that she was “losing everything.”

Yet another looked back at a lifetime of accomplishments and compared them to others. She thought life (and money) had passed her by while she was preoccupied dredging through drama, mediocrity and poor choices in relationships and affiliations. Ignoring the good stuff, she felt her grand total added up to not being not good enough.

The ego likes to judge and compare and creates suffering in the process.

However, when each looked deeper, their perspectives changed.

To sum it up in a few words, that was then and this is now.


Now, each is focused on starting a new chapter.

 


Life is full of twists and turns, and the longer you live, the more ups as well as downs occur. Your interpretation of them determines if you see these as mostly peaks or mostly valleys.

Regret is a complete waste of time and energy.

Once, while talking to one of my teachers, I said I felt like several years of my life were a wasteland. With a big world out there, my world felt barren.

He asked, “What did you learn?”

Interestingly, while outwardly my life lacked adventure, it produced one of my biggest growth experiences.

What I thought was a dry desert was actually part of my schooling to more effectively help people get unstuck and, instead, be richly compensated doing what they love. 

When momentum from my former, fast-paced activities slowed down, I thought my life had stalled. I later realized I had been on a fast train heading in the wrong direction. Shifting gears provided an opportunity to let go of my old ways that I thought were my “right” ways.

My new track was the route to greater authenticity, fulfillment and success.

You are scripting your life and business.

You don’t have to try to defend or justify why you are where you are now because of your past history.

Simply live in the present and move forward.

If you don’t like parts of it, how can you put them in a more empowered perspective?


Ask your inner wisdom how everything that’s happened in your life and business has all been a foundation for your next chapter.

 


If you wished your life or business had turned out differently, this is your moment to gain insight and, as if you’re writing a play, create your next act. Script it so that the best is yet to come.

With gratitude,

Virginia

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P.P.S. All stories are shared after having received permission. Their intention and mine is that others may benefit.

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

Not enough time? This story may help you.

July 25, 2017

“I don’t have enough time” was a client’s mantra for a very long time.

On the surface, it was tempting to agree with him.

There’s a side-business where he invests several hours of nearly daily training and research before making decisions on actions to be taken.

Later in the day, he starts his high-level and demanding, Monday – Friday, day job for 10-11 hours each day. This can spill over into weekends for special projects.

Because of past health conditions, it’s essential that he exercises and pays attention to eating well and sleep.

After these long hours, he returns home late to family and household responsibilities.

Maybe you can relate to his busyness in your own way.

As he discovered, there was far more to his lack of time than appearances would suggest.

Unbeknownst to him, it wasn’t his schedule that caused his stress, but the guidance coming from his ego.

Wayne Dyer expressed it well: “The ego is only an illusion, but a very influential one. Letting the ego-illusion become your identity can prevent you from knowing your true self. Ego, the false idea of believing that you are what you have or what you do, is a backwards way of assessing and living life.”

How he set himself up for stress

While discussing his strategy on how he approached tasks, he said that he feels the strong need to jump from one to another in order to keep up with them. He also has an underlying feeling that if he lines up tasks and plans them out, they’d seem too predictable and boring.

Ironically, it’s this strategy that creates predictable and boring outcomes: not enough time, the pressure of a deadline looming over him and stress.

Furthermore, when he completed his tasks under duress, he then had justification, in his mild-mannered way, to drop hints to others about how hard he worked… to get their validation and approval.

His ego loves an audience. By the way, this is a common trait of the ego – whine, albeit subtle and with proven evidence, to get attention and sympathy – even if it’s just your own! Ever feel sorry for yourself?

After reading this, so he could include his comments before posting, he added the following insights:

“I learned as a child that I’d receive attention if I was very upset or sick from headaches. For me, pressure leads to stress, headaches or some physical issue. I learned to keep the pressure off by keeping expectations low.  Then, I’d surprise them with a good result. It is all related.”

As an adult, stress still garnered him attention.  Others could see him as a martyr for working hard.

One more pay-off. The stress of not enough time created an adrenalin rush.

In other words, he became addicted to the drama that stress created because the adrenalin rush was like a drug.

An alternative

Recently, a top supervisor asked him to complete a detailed project.

At first, he didn’t enjoy it. Then, he got into it and “was in the flow” of getting it done.

A co-worker just happened to call.

When his colleague learned about the project, he made a recommendation that saved my client lots of time and allowed him to meet his deadline much faster and easier.

Here are his discoveries about his relationship with time:

  • Even though initially he thought the opposite, jumping from one project to another was predictable and created boring results. It usually caused stress with a hope of getting praise for his valiant efforts.
  • Instead, when he was in the flow while doing projects, miracles unpredictably happened, like someone calling for an unrelated reason and providing solutions.
  • By being in the flow, rather than motivated by stress, he actually saved time because he was open to receive unexpected, better and more time-effective solutions.
  • In the past, he strongly held the belief that the only way he wanted to take action was if he felt fear or worry. Now, he realizes his self-created drama fed a stress addiction, which according to the American Institute of Stress, can be as addictive as drugs.

If you find yourself stressed for success with never enough time, what’s your emotional pay off? 

Release this pattern, and you open the way to greater abundance – in business, money, relationships and a satisfying life.

Start releasing patterns through awareness 

  • Notice when the mind chatter begins, and you want to react the same way you usually do.
  • Instead of dutifully listening to and following your ego’s guidance as if it’s the authority on your life, begin to recognize your old habits when they arise.
  • Know you have a choice – blindly follow the ego like you’ve done in the past or consciously choose to take more empowering action.
  • Choose to be in the flow instead of defending your limited thinking.
  • Create a new story about time. Change your affirmation from “I don’t have enough time” to “I have plenty of time.”

When you cast light on shadows, the shadows disappear.

What do you have to lose? If the other way isn’t helping you, why not try something that might?

With gratitude,

Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

Your Money: Feast or Famine

July 10, 2017

A few months of very sparse sales motivated a former client to once again join one of my mastermind teams to jumpstart his business.

In the last two months, his commission-based income increased dramatically. During a 1:1 session, he outlined every deal he’s closing this summer, totaling over $60,000.

He made a budget before we talked. “The money I’m making will carry me to the end of the year. With it I’ll pay my bills and taxes, buy a new vehicle that I need for my job, set money aside for savings and an emergency fund and get me out of worry.”

Choosing to be fiscally responsible, he felt he could only plan for what he knows for sure that he’ll have.

There were a couple of big telltale signs that he was setting himself up to go from feast to famine. 

First, he reminded me of a bear getting ready for hibernation. The way he talked, it was as if his business would go into a long sleep following the roll he’s now on.

What you see is what you get.

With his vision only focused on generating sales from his current pipeline, his business would only generate sales from his current pipeline. There was no mention of any future business.

Because of his past business scarcity, he was trying to protect himself from another financial shortage. In the process, though, he energetically designed plans for impending famine.

Second, an essential key to manifesting is feeling good first, not waiting until outer circumstances change before you feel good! Like attracts like. Worry does not attract experiences that leave you feeling good.

When we look around at circumstances that suck, it feels natural to complain, whine, get frustrated and angry. But that approach does NOT get us what we want.

I know because I’ve invested much of my life into this strategy. I’ve watched others try to improve their lives by talking about how bad things are.

Things only got worse.

This really is just a habit that digs a deeper hole of misery. It does not create success or financial flow.

Whatever you focus on grows. You’ll feel better focusing on what you choose, not on what you don’t like. (Unless you do that silly “yes BUT” routine of moaning because you’re not there yet… that’s not focusing on what you choose.)

He asked, “How can I know if more money will come if I can’t see it?”

Consider this. Life has a natural flow, and there’s an assumption it will continue without worrying about it.

You trust the sun rises and sets, even if you can’t see it because there are clouds in the sky.

We know, as Jim Morrison said, “No one here gets out alive.” Eventually your heart will stop beating.

Until that time comes, your heart continues to beat. There are steps to take for heart health. Do those. However, there’s no sense living your entire life as if your heart will stop in a few months.

Air is essential to breathe. If there are air issues, address those. However, there’s no sense living your entire life as if you won’t have air to breathe in a few months.

Life has its own flow.

Money has a flow, too.

My client got it. He said, “the beauty is its simplicity. In the past, my thinking about worry created limit.”

He saw how he could trust that the flow will continue in his finances just as the flow in nature continues… unless he stops it by worry.

“It’s insane to be whining, fretting and complaining. Instead, let abundance expand instead of raining on it with negativity.”

He decided “it makes more sense to have clarity, focus and appreciation.”

Allow yourself to trust that you can tap into a money flow. Focus on this flow, not that your money will get divided into little pieces leaving you with nothing.

You are powerful!! Making a choice to be in financial flow, without diluting your energy through worry and negative emotions, can make it so.

If you’re experiencing financial famine, change your focus by looking for natural flows of life.

Connect the dots. If the whole universe runs on flows, you can tap into the flow of financial abundance.

Focus on what you choose.

In the words of Star Trek’s Mr. Spock, “Live long and prosper!”

 

How You Speed Up (or Slow Down) Money Coming to You

May 15, 2017

A saleswoman told me that people were irritating her – a lot. She was both “losing her cool” and her patience with small thinking, ridiculous behavior and demonstrations of a lack of kindness, consideration and common sense.

To make things worse, she was baffled by her client’s petty issues that almost blew a $1.5 million deal.

It reminds me of the country western lyrics by Billy Currington: “God is great. Beer is good. And people are crazy.”

Recognizing that she’s attracting whatever is going on in her life, she wondered how she created this.

She pieced together cause and effect and saw that her frustration with annoying people was magnetizing others with disgruntled attitudes. Her energy was drawing negative people to her!

By the way, the saleswoman later discovered that the sale represented to her client family disappointments. She was like a volcano ready to explode at anything that could go wrong – or she’d make something wrong to blow off steam.

According to Abraham-Hicks, it only takes 17 seconds to create a thought that attracts more of what you’re thinking and feeling.

Yikes. That’s about a quarter of a minute to design your world – consciously or not.

This is a universal principle. Positive attracts positive; negative attracts negative.

Thoughts build upon each other by attracting other thoughts of a like nature creating thought forms. 17 seconds + 17 seconds + 17 seconds…

Complaining, being hard on yourself, sharing your sad story with others, which invites them to feel as sorry for you as you feel sorry for yourself, attract more circumstances to make you want to pull your hair out.


“When you give your attention to it, if you maintain your focus for as little as 17 seconds, you begin to include its vibration, whatever it is, in your vibration. When you see something you want, and you give it your attention, and you say yes to it, you are including whatever its vibration is in your vibration. When you see something you do not want, and you shout no at it, you are including whatever its vibration is in your vibration.”   


“Most everybody is looking around and vibrating in response to what they are seeing. So, what is the solution? Look around less. Imagine more. Look around less. Imagine more. Until your imagery is the most familiar vibration that you have.”

Abraham-Hicks  


What’s your brain chewing on?

Feel bad because you don’t have more money? You slow down or stop money flowing to you.

Feel good about the idea of having more money? You speed up money coming to you.

Your choice. 

The way out is to decide what would inspire you to feel happy. Then whenever your thoughts turn to the not-so-sunny side of the street, redirect your focus on what creates good feelings.

“I have to face reality” can be the very attitude that holds you back from your heart’s desires.

If your current conditions aren’t what you want, and you continue to focus on them and feel miserable, you’ll get more of the same.

Take care of business, but focus your energy on what you choose to create not on what you don’t like.

You control the way you feel. Don’t give your power away to others or to circumstances.

How would having more money feel? Next focus on other positive ideas about money. Let yourself go to another like-thought. And on and on.

With gratitude,

Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck.
I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Is God Doing This to You?

April 27, 2017

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Do you feel that at your core you’re chopped liver – a bumbling incompetent who’s made irredeemable mistakes?

Do you think you might be a candidate for the Guinness Book of World Records for “worst blunders ever made by anyone anywhere?”

Do you believe it’s justifiable, then, for others to look down or laugh at you?

That would be a kinda harsh opinion of yourself, ya think?

Now what if you amped up this judgmental blather a notch to believe this is how God or the universe sees you?

As a result of this thinking, an all-loving Prime Creator of life would laugh at you, too.

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A woman, who’s experiencing big challenges, quoted Woody Allen: “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.”

She felt her best thinking and plans got her to this turning point, and she’s made a mess of it.

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By this statement, she expanded her focus from those who are judgy and laugh at others’ expense to include a mean-spirited God laughing at her.

What a great example of the ego’s Jedi Mind Trick. It loves to make you wrong and compare you and your success and money (or so-called lack of them) to others – you’re not good enough or certainly not as good as “them.”

Ponder this:

If you’re a parent, do you want your kids to wait for your permission before doing things?

Would you want to train them to be afraid of making mistakes and decisions? Because of this, they’d doubt themselves and procrastinate.

After a while, you might suggest they stand on their own feet and make their own choices. Even if they screw up, which inevitably everyone does, they’re learning.

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How can you stay true to your spiritual roots and make good decisions?
Empower yourself by aligning with your inner spirit first.
Find your anchor inside of you.
Breathe.
Detach from others’ opinions of what you should do as well as your reaction to life’s circumstances.
How does something feel – good or not so much?
Then make decisions and take action.
This world is designed for everyone to make mistakes.
It’s perfectly impossible to be perfect.
The lesson is not about giving up on your plans but on being true to you.

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Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #3 is “I trust my Self and listen to the voice within.”

The second half of Principle #4 is “…I take action by following through with my inspiration and guidance.”

It goes on to give a TIP:

“If you doubt and don’t trust your Self because of past mistakes, consider this. If you listened to and trusted your Self, instead of your fears and others’ opinions, you wouldn’t have made the mistakes.”

A healthy parent loves a child even though mistakes are made.

We are children of a loving God, a supportive universe.

The plans you make are backed up by an unconditionally loving Supreme Being – even if your plans leave something to be desired. That’s how you’re learning.

You are loved. You are supported. You are cared for deeply.

Live your life with kind compassion, starting with yourself.

P.S. Know someone who’s beating themselves up? They might appreciate you sharing this post with them.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

I Got Miffed When My Coach Did This to Me

April 4, 2017
 
During a year-long, business training, we were given one, 30-minute, private coaching session per month. I skipped some months so I could invest in  extended, one-hour sessions.

The short sessions felt like a race. But, ahhh, finally I’d be able to really explore some topics in depth.

My coach had a different idea that day. Not only was she was on a roll  about subjects she wanted to communicate, but they were off-track for me.

I was blind-sided. Annoyed. I felt like an irritated cat who observed but was silent.

I couldn’t think of a way to derail her  without being rude, even though she was taking away time from my agenda, and I didn’t care about what she was saying. I was left a bit flabbergasted and without words to express myself. (Yeah, I know, weird for me.)

This bugged me so much that later I discussed it with another coach. I wasn’t placing blame on my biz coach, but I wondered why I was bothered. Why couldn’t I turn the session into what I wanted instead of just responding to her direction? ________________________________

The root of my miffedness? I was so focused on trying to be nice to her that I wasn’t nice to ME! I put her feelings above mine.

It was a huge lesson. Don’t  allow other people’s feelings and opinions to have more value than my own.

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By the way, later when I listened to the recording of our session, what she said wasn’t as bad as I thought. I really needed to hear her in a skewed way to get this lesson!

Recently, I facilitated a coaching session with a masterminder who’s successful, positive and very aware that whatever she focuses on multiplies.

When it seemed impossible to achieve her numbers by the next day to get a bonus, a new client appeared out-of-the-blue. She always wins door prizes. After a break-up from a long-term relationship, a chance meeting landed her an invite to spend the next week at a condo on the coast with wonderful and supportive women – for free!

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She’s learned the power of masterminding: how to choose what she wants and, with the dynamic of group energy, manifest beyond her wildest expectations. Not only is she  aware of the power of her focused attention, she’s living proof that her thoughts and feelings become reality.

However, there are people in her personal life who see things differently – they believe in a lack philosophy

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The cup is half full. No sense in making plans because they never work. They complain about how there’s not enough money.

When they expressed their negative views and even dismissed her approach, she politely didn’t say anything. Everybody has a right to their opinion.

Then she woke up, and it felt like a weight was lifted from her when she heard this:

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Your outer world is shaped by your thoughts and feelings. If you allow others to surround you with their negative energy, it can affect the way you feel. In doing so, you’ve given them power to create YOUR world – for better or worse.

Care about the way you feel. Make feeling good a priority if you care about your business, health, life and ability to prosper.

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Why let strangers in a car who drive in some loopy way bother you and affect your mood, which can affect your day.. because this can affect your wallet and ability to create the life you choose?

Why allow your energy, the way you feel, to be infused by limiting views on the way life works because you’re trying to be nice or afraid to speak up?

Sounds good, but how?

Sure to bomb: “My well being is a  key to my success. So you need to shut up so I can feel good.”

Delicious in the moment, but that won’t bring you positive results.

Effective: Opt to express yourself with grace and ease.

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Creatively communicate without making the other person wrong.

How can you take a stand for yourself while being kind? You’re worth it.

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Yes, play it smart, too. Your boss, friends or family may require a lot of creativity.

I pondered how to inform a health practitioner to stop his limited thinking about the results I could get.

I found a creative way, but that’s another story.

With gratitude,
Virginia

P.S. Know others who could use help in standing up for themselves or changing the way they feel so they can attain greater success? Please forward this post.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

I Was Shocked When I Learned This about My Mother

March 13, 2017

My mother, who passed away 29 years ago this month, used what I call mantras –  words she repeated so many times that I still know them verbatim.

Because of regular reiteration, I believed and didn’t question some of them. It was  like learning arithmetic tables, but these were impressed on me with far more feeling.

“When I was young, I used to be happy-go-lucky. Then I met your father.”

Because they argued intensely, she started her day with this mantra: “I wonder what that S.O.B. is going to do to make my life miserable today.”  (Note – she didn’t use initials.)

Obviously, she had no idea that her daily proclamations and emotions were what made her life miserable, not anything my father did or didn’t do.

She thought her suffering was my father’s fault, and I accepted it as true, too. I didn’t have an attitude about him. I liked and loved him. At the same time, I saw her perspective and believed her woeful declarations.

Then about 15 years ago, I was talking to one my teachers about how I felt sorry for them. He knew my parents and replied,

“Your mother wanted your father to change so she wouldn’t have to change.”

What?!!??

This was a throw-a-bucket-of-cold-water-in-my-face moment.

It was his fault. That was a given. Never questioned it. She lived a miserable life because of him.

Here’s the kicker.

As long as she complained about and blamed him, she didn’t have to take responsibility for her own emotions and actions. It was his fault. She was the victim.  Pointing her finger at what she decided were his failings absolved her of cleaning up her attitudes, feelings and thoughts.

In a flash, I realized the blaming wasn’t true. She could’ve been happy if she stopped giving him power over the way she felt.

In a shocking moment, for the first time,  I stopped feeling sorry for them.

I realized that my pity (vs. compassion) was condescending and disrespectful of their choices. They decided how to interact with each other. They had complete control over the way they felt. If they chose to argue as a way of life, and if she chose to feel miserable, those were their decisions.

As emotions create reality, she created a “living hell” for herself where she felt “like a prisoner in my own home.” Her life was a self-fulfilled prophecy.

Think about the implications in your life. Who are you blaming for what doesn’t work and how you feel?

  • Do you want others to behave the way you think they should so you can feel good? In other words, do you want others or situations  to change so you can feel happy? Or will you decide to be happy anyway?
  • Do you let others shape your future by getting angry at strangers who drive weird, crazy acting people, politicians or past hurts? Are you blaming yourself? Or will you take command of your own energy because, if you don’t, you block your dreams coming true?
  • What mantras run through your head? I can’t afford it. There’s never enough. What if  I run out of money? Nothing I do ever works out. My life would be so much better if only…

Even if they’re “wrong,” you still can choose  your attitude and how you respond. As like attracts like, how you feel shapes your future.

What does this have to do with your business or work?

Your feelings and thoughts magnetize your experience, so don’t hand the keys of your  emotions to others and “if only” things would be different. Don’t give your power away.

Allowing others to affect how you feel relinquishes the keys to your kingdom   – or queendom – of success, happiness  and ability to enjoy financial freedom.

By the way, blame is one of ego’s greatest tools; no matter where it’s directed, it holds you back.

You choose how you react and feel.

Your future depends on it.

“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change”  Thích Nhất Hạnh

 

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I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

The Voice in Your Head Lies

February 1, 2017
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Even if you appear coordinated and that your life fits together, what’s going on in your thinking might leave you feeling like a shell with a confused head.

Or maybe you’ve been telling yourself that your life is a mess no matter which way you look at it.

Or you feel blessed that all is well, but you wonder how to elevate your set point to a higher altitude you’ve never experienced before.

Conflicting voices in your head can torment you.

Do any of these sound familiar?

You and nothing you do is good enough. What’s wrong with you? You’re never going to get ahead. You screwed up, again. What a loser. What makes you think anything’s gonna change? It’s not going to work, so why chance it? You’ve tried before and you remember how bad it turned out, so what’s the use of trying again? You oughta be a lot further ahead than where you are now… especially at your age.

There are countless ways to beat yourself up.

What if a “friend” said things to you like this, on and on and on?

For a while, you might feel immobilized – how could you do anything with this weight on you?

Why bother taking action? With the wind taken out of your sails, you’re left with no energy.

Instead, procrastinate. Lose interest.  Be indecisive. Watch too much TV. After all, you might make another mistake. Play it safe. Do nothing.

Another option is feeling vengeful and lashing out against the world. How dare they?! How can you do this to me?

Or be arrogant and proud. They think they’re all that and then some. Well, I’ll put them in their place.

When you snapped out of your stupor from getting way too many demoralizing hits below the belt, you’d either want to leave, give them a piece of your mind or shorten any air time you’d give them.

You don’t have to put up with this from others. Most importantly, you don’t have to put up with badgering thoughts that are on instant replay in your brain!

How can you stop the momentum of that train on its way to become a wreck?

When you stop to listen to the conversation in your head and observe it, you might notice something very important.

It lies. That negativity is not the truth.

Do you like liars? Probably not. So stop listening to these horror stories. They’re NOT true!

Instead of acting like an obedient servant to lunacy – yours or others – choose to stop it.

That’s why I named my technique Liberation of Lunacy because when the ego takes over, we’re all a little crazy.

Instead, ASK for your essence to be in the driver’s seat of your life and business.

You’re a Divine child. You’re more than good enough. If you diss you, you diss your Creator.

The rest of that silly stuff is only a program in your head, and you can replace that software.

You can start by making a choice. What thoughts, ideas or outcomes do you choose instead?

I choose _________________________.

You’re that powerful so if you choose, it makes a difference. Really. Choose to let go of the burdensome yoke of enslavement you’ve been carrying.

Choose to be free.

Now don’t go straddling the fence between listening to goofy ideas and choosing. Perching on pointy fence tops is very uncomfortable.

You have a choice to listen to those inane voices in your head or not.

How do I know they’re not telling you the truth? Because your essence never talks to you like this. Your spirit is always supportive. It may lovingly ask what you learned, but it never disparages you.

Here’s another approach.

The next time the dictator/ victim/ bully/ procrastinator/ naysayer in your head tells you that you can’t do something, say with resolve, “Watch me do it. Watch me.”

With gratitude,

Virginia

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Are You Running Away From Your Fear?

January 17, 2017

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Your success accelerates and happiness blooms when you let go of fear and the ego’s grasp.

Fear subtly whispers what if the worse happens. It can have you look calm or cheerful, but inside quiet trepidation runs like a persistent, low grade fever. It can breed a full-blown panic humbling you to beg a divine power for help – hoping/doubting if anyone is listening to your prayers or wondering if they’ll bother to answer them.

Fear can masquerade as anger, frustration, pain, avoidance, blaming, complaining, feeling like a victim, sadness, apathy, bullying, guilt, rescuing, suffering as well as every facet of unhappiness.

Fear creates lack of clarity and direction while triggering procrastination or immobilizing you from taking action, dreading that you’ll make a mistake and then you-know-what will hit the fan.

Although miserable to experience, these outcomes provide a compelling distraction from looking at the culprit – your underlying fear.

However, just like in the Wizard of Oz when the curtain was pulled back, there’s nothing substantive to fear.

  1. Fear is only a scary story in your head.
  2. You can more effectively deal with real issues when you’re not emotionally clouded.
  3. You continue to attract unwanted circumstances until you stop running away from your fear, let it go and see it for what it is: a no-thing.
  4. You only attract what you can handle, so there’s no reason to fear anything. 

When you stop thinking and talking about your problems as if you’re in a Stephen King novel, you stop generating your real-life, horror stories.

FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real.

The ego will lead you to believe that you’ll have more pain if you look at your fear.

However, it’s the embellished, painful narratives of what horrible fate might happen in the future or remembering what happened in the past that snags you.

When you focus on the past and future, you bypass present time, and this is where your personal empowerment dwells.

How can you know if you’re doing this? Listen to your own stories. What’s the timeline – past, present or future?

Ego will play you like a fiddle – directing your attention to what you don’t have (like enough money, time, love, health, direction or success), past and future worries, anywhere but the Now.

If you allow yourself to look at your inner bogeyman, with an intention of letting it go, you’ll find freedom.

Ask for your inner spirit to shine your courage so you can let go of fear and find the tools and support to release what’s holding you back.

You can begin now:

  • Be willing to let go.
  • Ask for help – inwardly and outwardly.
  • Journal to bring clarity and with the intention of letting go.
  • Open to receive a life and business that exceeds your wildest expectations.

When you feel afraid you give your power away. Choose to take it back.

If you don’t get this job or deal, you can get another.

If one way doesn’t work, it’s not the end of the world. Another can be even better. (By the way, I used to be a master at making mountains out of molehills, so I know how much anxiety, pain and self-destruction this habit generates.)

No person, circumstance, financial condition, politician, economic outlook, industry predictions, threats, doctor’s diagnosis, the past or unknown future can affect you unless you let it.

Dwelling on fear or what doesn’t work is emotional quicksand that sabotages your success.

A woman told me about a dream she had with a ferocious lion. Instead of running away, she walked toward it and through it. It had no substance.

You pay a high price for letting fear run your life. Drama. Stress. Challenging relationships. Attracting more fear than money. Confusion. Unconsciously repelling business. Poor health. A life that doesn’t feel like it’s worth living.

You can change now.

Make a decision that instead of listening to the nagging, fear-based story in your head, and judging yourself for having it, you’ll focus on what you choose and what’s working.

Results? You’re happier. Your business and finances grow. You attract love from all the right places. Your health improves.

You’re worth it.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

TIP: Going in 2 Directions Takes You Nowhere

December 13, 2016

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Arms outstretched with people gently pulling from either side, participants of my Supercharge Your 2017 workshop this weekend felt what it’s like to go in opposite directions.

The results: they swayed a bit to the left and right, but stayed in the same position, going nowhere.

Your contradictory thoughts can keep you stuck, a part of you wants to go forward while another holds you back.

For example:

You choose success, but there are those pesky, opposing thoughts.

  • You worry about things, like what if you don’t succeed. Remember how things didn’t work out before and how disappointed you felt? Maybe people who pointed out your limitations were right. And who are you to make more money than your parents?
  • Better play it safe. Save yourself from discouragement. You long for better, but your thoughts keep you where you are.

You choose to be in a relationship, but…

  • Oh, get real. They start out great, and then they’re more trouble than they’re worth. Look at your history. However, you feel desperate for a loving partner. But if you haven’t found “the one” by now, it’s too late. They probably won’t like the way you look, anyway.
  • Even if you meet Mr. or Ms. Right, it might not go anywhere with attitudes like these or the relationship you’re in remains unsatisfying.

When your energy goes in opposite directions:

  1. You feel discouraged, and your confidence wanes. Then you don’t have what it takes to share your gifts or business in a bigger way.
  2. Your energy is like Pigpen from the Charlie Brown comics, who’s pictured above. Your doubt and low self-opinion swirl around you. People can feel it, which motivates them to run in the other direction.

Your TIP is to focus on one direction by believing in yourself, your dreams, your goals.

On average, people only access 10% of who they are. That’s the personality seen in everyday life that’s filled with doubts and negativity.

Choose to tap into the rest of you, the 90% that’s your inner Self, and you’re unlimited!

Ask, right now, for 100% of you to be present, and your life begins to get on track to be happier, more focused, single-minded, Soul-directed.

It takes practice, especially if you’re in the habit of complaining about others, your past or current conditions. But you can align more and more with your inner Self.

With empowered energy, you can go where you choose or someplace better.

 

I work with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming masterminding teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com