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Wonder What Your Future Will Bring?

October 14, 2017

Jekyl hyde

“When you get to be my age, everything scares you,” an 82-year-old told me. “Just watching TV is enough to make you afraid. You’ll see.”

Because I’ve heard similar comments over my lifetime of “when you get to be my age” followed by limited thinking, I paused.

I noticed how she shared her negativity in a joking way while her attitude depressed and subdued people around her.

This time instead of reacting, I replied, “I made a decision not to be afraid.”

Silence.

In contrast, I had a delightful conversation with Ms. Belle, a 79-year-old. She commented that looking at the way we’re talking, anyone would think we’re old friends. We met only 20 minutes earlier in a neighborhood store.

She told me, “You’ve got to be positive. Life is short.”

She’s amazed at how she meets lovely people wherever she goes, and that there are so many wonderful people in the world.

She goes to the gym and rides a bicycle. One day, she realized that she loves to exercise. She enjoys talking and having fun with others while there, too.

Ms. Belle shared with me the importance of keeping our memory, especially as some people will take advantage of you if you don’t remember things.

Hint: Just like you can make a decision not to be afraid, you can choose to retain your memory, even if you feel it’s not as good as you’d like it to be now. Start by no longer talking about and focusing on how you don’t have a good memory!

So much of life and business is about decisions and perspective.

Which attitudes, behaviors and actions of yours (and others) are you willing to tolerate? Do you see people (including you) and life as inherently bad or good?

Your answers will determine your success. Negativity won’t breed positivity.

Everyone has beliefs. Many are held onto so dearly that you might feel that if you stopped believing them, you’ll go straight to that inferno down below.

Some beliefs upon which you base your life may be the very ones that are holding you back!

If you allow fear and a habit of complaining to control you, you could find yourself on a slippery slope that doesn’t lead to success.

Many blame others, blind to connecting the dots of how their own choices and beliefs created their circumstances.

Wonder what your future will bring? It will bear the fruit of your current and past thoughts, feelings and attitudes, as the two above-mentioned women demonstrate.

Your future will bring you the products of your beliefs just as your present is a reflection of your past ones.

You have the power within you to choose to be afraid of your own shadow or to be courageous.

In this moment, you can change the way you feel about you and the mental picture you carry about yourself and your future.

You can decide nothing will stop you from living the life and having the business or work of your dreams, in spite of the odds.

 

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.  I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

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My Personal Experience During a Flood plus a Labor Day of Love with Hurricane Harvey 

September 4, 2017

Hurricane Harvery dog rescue (2)

A little over two years ago, a friend and I enjoyed dinner in a nearby town and casually talked after in the parking lot.

The weather had been unusually beautiful for weeks, and living in a safe community, I even left the back door open to my screened back porch when I was gone.

On my way home that night, the unexpected happened. I turned the corner onto Ranch Road 12 in San Marcos, Texas, and in an instant started driving through forty minutes of treacherous, torrential rain, the likes I had never seen.

I knew if I stopped, the low-water crossings would be flooded, and I might not be able to get back home.

Focus. Focus. Breathe. Relax. Pull over when driving got ridiculously so bad that I couldn’t see a thing. But I couldn’t pause for long; another car might hit me if blinded by rain while on that hilly, winding, country road.

I tapped into the energy of my client John, who likes storm chasing, so I would stop white knuckling the steering wheel.

Arriving home safely, I later learned that neighbors pitched in during the middle of the storm to create a protective barricade. A deluge of water surged from across the street attempting to enter a home two houses away from mine.

The next morning, I awoke with my chest wheezing heavily, gasping for air and sounding like a zombie when I spoke. At first, I thought it was bronchitis.

Even so, I assumed the worse was over. After all, no water had entered my house.

However a few days later, I wondered why my furniture suddenly had a wide swath of green that looked like someone had painted a nearly foot-wide stripe – – and then I found the same streaks across my kitchen cabinets and bathroom. I soon discovered that it got inside my drywall, furniture, kitchen cupboard and on most of the items in my living room, too.

The ferocious, pounding rain and wind hit the ground with such force that it dislodged mold and sent it flying through my open, back door and into my home. When the heat rose to a certain temperature, the mold bloomed.

It took me many months to remove mold from my drywall and home as well as recover from the mental stupor, lack of energy and ill health that mold creates. Add to that the financial impact of not having been able to work beyond taking care of my clients.

It definitely was one of the most challenging times of my entire life. But I got off way easy!!

Twenty miles away on the Blanco River of that Memorial Day weekend, a log jam was created from felled trees and branches… until they let loose. Within three hours, the river rose 33′, cresting at 40′.

People, including a family, were washed away.

Riverside homes, even those out of the flood zone, were ripped apart from their foundations when the force and volume of rising water overwhelmed them. When the flood carried those houses away, and they bobbed down the river, their roofs were knocked off by trees. With nothing to hold the structures together, the houses just fell apart and became rubble.

Overflowing great distances beyond its banks, the rushing water damaged bridges, countless homes and businesses. The landscape changed as huge trees that previously had lined streets no longer existed. FEMA took residence in my small community for months.

  • I was so incapacitated from the mold that I didn’t have the energy to drive a quarter mile out of the way, during my trip to town, to look at where some of the worst disaster hit, let alone help others. The effects of the mold sometimes made it challenging to speak or have the mental clarity to respond during conversations or get out of bed to eat. For a while, with the mold inhabiting my body and mind, I was zoned out as if I was on an opiate drug and couldn’t think or care about anything. It was a rude and frightening awakening when I was able to swim out of my daze. I felt like I’d been under water and had to push myself to the surface and to breathe air again, only to witness the catastrophe that was happening around me in my home, health, personal and financial life.

Years ago, I heard that natural disasters are life’s way of creating a personal growth program. There are gains to be made amidst the crisis.

As bad as it was at the time for me, it was a blessing in disguise.


I can attest that, out of necessity, my harrowing experience forced me to let go of both beliefs that I considered sacrosanct as well as people who I discovered were out for themselves, not for me.

When I did release them, my life became better than ever because some of what I thought were “good and positive” ways of showing up in the world were the very things that had held me back.

When drowning, a survival instinct kicks in. I had to take care of myself or go under. I had no energy to babysit others’ issues or their unconscious, self-serving ways.

Part of my Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #6 states, “I choose to use my personal empowerment on my behalf, which allows me to serve life more fully.” 

Instead of taking years to understand lessons like this more deeply, I condensed my learning curve into months… including the necessity of letting go of worry and fear.

As life reflects back the energy of our thoughts and feelings, why did I create this? I had been deeply concerned about a business challenge, so I created something else to worry about instead.

And, yes, because I had no energy to hold onto the original issue, the solution manifested during my months-long experience.

“Soulutions” came when I let go of the worry and fear that bound me, making room to be open to answers for which I’d been asking.

Another lesson, ask for breakthroughs with grace and ease.


 

My community recovered as it pulled together in new ways, too. Strong. Compassionate. Having received help from others.

Now during the aftermath of Hurricane Harvey, while remembering that help, individuals, businesses and the local police are returning the goodwill of love to help those in need who are a few hours down the road.

Everyone who’s experienced Harvey will have their own story to tell, what they (had to) let go of, what they learned.

Labor Day is a celebration dedicated to the strength and prosperity of American workers.

On this national holiday of Labor Day, in my part of the world, are demonstrations of labors of love.

How will you celebrate your labors?

With gratitude, Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.
Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved

TIP: My 12 Survival Lessons from Challenging Times

February 29, 2016

Sometimes when things fall apart, they may actually be falling into place.

I’m sharing gifts from one of the most challenging times I’ve ever had. Throughout my life, there were lessons that I stubbornly hadn’t learned, and my experience gave me an opportunity to get them in a condensed amount of time… or potentially lose everything.

I later recognized that these were a shortcut in preparation for me to do what I love in a bigger way. Without really getting their value, I would’ve stayed where I was and sabotaged my future success.

Last year, many in my community were hit by a devastating flood that washed away both homes and people. I was fortunate not to be affected by this directly. However, over the second half of last year, the effects of a mold outbreak wreaked havoc with my home, walls, furniture, health and income.

While listening to several people this week, I thought some of my insights may help you, too.

  1. A positive attitude with fear running underneath doesn’t cut it. I had to live in “good feeling mojo” and focus only on what’s working and on what feels good to me – with no luxury to slip into low energy emotions. Feeling good creates momentum for things to work out for the better. Otherwise, because for a while I could barely think straight or talk coherently (sometimes I could only smile, nod and not speak), I could’ve lost everything while immersed in the haze of mold.
  2. One morning, panic completely enveloped me. Knowing that chewing on and regurgitating my problems was a dead end, I shifted to look for solutions and found them. I had to do this for months, often looking at only the next step at a time.
  3. Through this I really learned how to dump fear, even that which runs in the background like a low-grade fever. That I did this still blows my mind… which is where fear lies. Fear isn’t real; it’s in your head. If there’s a situation to be addressed, fear and worry won’t bring you solutions. Plus, if you’re afraid, you open yourself up to others controlling you for their benefit.
  4. I’d been service-minded, caring more about others and putting their needs before mine. To survive, I had to put me first. Only then could I be of any help to others. This was a HUGE lesson that I was forced to get. By the way, if you’ve always put yourself first, your lessons may be the reverse – to see the value of giving. Ultimately, it’s about balance between giving and receiving.
  5. I learned not to care about others’ opinions of me. What others think about me is their issue. I have to do what’s right for me. That released an emotional burden of guilt and second guessing myself.  A Johnny Depp quote says it well: “Just keep moving forward and don’t give a s— about what others think. Do what you have to do for you.” Sometimes people want to keep you at their level of mediocrity because they’re afraid you’re outpacing them and might kick them to the curb. Don’t buy into others’ fears.
  6. As I was forced to funnel my energy toward taking care of me (if you’re drowning, you’re not in a position to swim over to help others), I became better at discriminating NOMB – None of My Business – and listened to people instead of coaching them to solve their problems. Not that they wouldn’t have wanted help. I didn’t have the energy to give myself away and not have enough left for myself.
  7. I finally valued my feelings so much, that I no longer allowed myself to be around negatively directed energy, mine or others, even when people didn’t realize what they were doing. If they didn’t shift, I didn’t judge them. I moved on.
  8. To balance this, creating smooth experiences with others is way, way better. Watch my manners and use my social skills, even if I was exhausted, became a mantra.
  9. I stopped trying to explain or defend myself so people would understand where I was coming from. Many were so locked into their viewpoint that they weren’t able to hear what I was saying anyway. I also learned (the hard way) not to listen to them once I realized they were rude or dumping their negative opinions on me. They were neither interested nor able to consider another perspective.
  10. Believing things will work out is an essential foundation for them actually to work… then to shift into knowing everything always works out in my favor.
  11. Maintain my dignity even when I didn’t feel I had any because of my circumstances.
  12. I realized that a reason for occasional light headedness and unexplainable fatigue I’ve had for years was a residual of a severe mold experience from 17 years ago. It would sporadically (good word for mold spores) show up. I had prayed for an answer. I got it and got rid of it.

TIP: 12 Survival Lessons from Challenging Times

You’re reading this, so I know you’re alive and therefore have been through challenging times. What did you learn? Maybe hard to see when you’re in the middle of it, but why is this a blessing in disguise?

There’s always a silver lining. You can see it if you look in the right direction.

When you redirect your focus to create good feeling mojo, you’ll create miracles and successes beyond your wildest expectations.

Step back and allow yourself to see how your business and life are actually falling into place.

By the way, if you’d like help to learn how to release beliefs that don’t serve you and be supported to do what you love in a bigger way, contact me for a free, one-hour Do What You Love Break Free Session at vg@ResolvedForResults.com.

I work with people who long to share their gifts with the world in a bigger way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them find their passion and be richly compensated doing what they love.

HOW I TURNED MY LIFE AROUND

September 14, 2012

Willie Nelson sings about life going from one crazy thing to another in his lyrics “last thing I needed first thing this morning was to have you walk out on me.” Welcome to what my world – was.

It started innocently a few months ago with my cat waking me up daily at 4:45 AM to go out. I couldn’t get back to sleep, didn’t stop to take naps, and stayed up until midnight. Too many activities and long days fried my adrenals, and I had to take a couple of weeks off from work. With my energy at its lowest and pain from a jammed hip bone at its highest, I received shocking news about a friend that left me reeling.

Because of my exhaustion I was more susceptible to things affecting me, and the downward spiral began. My computer broke. I ordered a new PC only to learn most of my address book had to be manually replaced – this saga continued for five weeks. My AC stopped working in 100° weather. Meantime, my cell phone went awry, and I missed a group coaching call. My headset, mouse and income went kaput, and even my toilet clogged. To say working was a challenge is an understatement.

I kept positive by going to sleep and waking up focused on gratitude and journaled about what was working. However, during the day, I thought about what wasn’t working.

I felt sad resignation as I listened almost imperceptibly to my deceased mother’s mantra “if it’s not one thing, it’s another.” An old program of what-else-can-go-wrong ran in the background.

After a while I lost interest in bouncing back and thought I’d ride it out to the bottom.

HERE’S WHAT I MISSED

Imagine going to work wearing a great pair of shoes and tie or handbag… dressed in shabby pajamas. Likewise, I thought I was upbeat because I gave verbiage to being positive and practiced gratitude in the morning and night. However, my beat up attitude was running like a computer program in the background.

Sandwiched throughout the day between my positive focus, I visualized and felt what I didn’t want – what next? I used my attention and depleted energy to spin around what was wrong instead of what I chose to happen. So, I created more problems.

God was neither punishing or ignoring me. Life didn’t have it in for me. There wasn’t a metaphoric lesson or karma catching up. I wasn’t cursed, and Satan wasn’t interfering. I wasn’t doing anything wrong that needed a pause to redirect. I was enough and doing enough, and I wasn’t doomed for failure. I wasn’t doing any of the gazillion conclusions people erroneously come to when they wonder why is this happening to me. Why aren’t things working?

No outside force was responsible for my life. I created results from my attitude and attention. The universe energetically matched my thoughts and feelings.

Energy flows where attention goes. What else can go wrong? My prayers were answered. The universe replied with new calamities.

Visualizing isn’t just what happens during a visualization exercise. It includes predominant feelings and thoughts during the day.

You, too, create more of what you focus on and can make new choices. You can do it without owies from beating yourself up or building a case to support the stories you tell about your life.

THESE 5 STEPS CAN HELP YOU THROUGH CHALLENGES:

  1. Ask your inner powerhouse, your soul energy, to empower you.
  2. Visualize with feeling what you choose throughout the day.
  3. Take one step at a time.
  4. Find and implement ways to rest and take care of yourself instead of tolerating fatigue.
  5. Talk with supportive people. Masterminding your goals and dreams empowers you and refocuses your vision.

Remember, the fastest way out of a hole is to stop digging it. No matter what’s going on, it’s not going to last forever. This too shall pass.

Now it’s your turn. What are your predominant thoughts and feelings throughout the day? Any old programs running in the background? How about dumping those pjs?


You Are A Force Of Nature – Part 2

October 4, 2011

Part 1 shares how a NO BURN ZONE was created in the midst of the Texas fires. Results? People, their property and animals were unharmed. Read Part 2 to learn more about how they did it. Sheera Rexroad’s account of her personal experience with the ravenous, fire beast continues.

The Texas fires had to move on.

The fire had a huge hunger as it traveled along the fence line to the west.  It would dart in for a quick taste with its fire tongue here and there.  It shook off each taste and moved on along the north fence of Ranch de Kris.

By now the big, mean fire was weak and floundering; it needed tasty bits and soon to feed its rage.

We had NONE to offer.

It slithered further to the west and jumped through the fence into the neighboring property west of Ranch de Kris. It burned there but, not satisfied, it continued westward to the next property and beyond.

This Delhi fire was powerful and fast. It jumped containment lines and roads several times before it came close to where we live.  One of the fire balls grazed the heads of the all volunteer firefighters when it jumped a firebreak.

I knew that the land that I live on and steward was untouched.  I knew that the land where my brother lives was untouched. This I felt, and this I knew.

Gratitude and the power of intention 

This is Sheera’s email a few days after the fire continued its rampage. Her powerful belief and invocation created the mold for the NO BURN ZONE. The fire was confused; she was not. 

First, I would like to thank each and every one of you for your powerful and positive thoughts.

Your prayers and requests are holding safe space for us.

I ask and know that the property that we both live on and take care of will make it through the fires unharmed.

I ask and know that the houses that we shelter in will be unharmed.

I ask and know that the animals that we steward are secure and safe.

I know that there is much designed for me to do, and that what I have been involved in so far is not to be taken by some confused flames.

I know that I, Sheera of One Girl Farm, and my brother, Kris – of Ranch de Kris, are to be safe and cared for.

I ask that you continue in your vigils.  We can feel it.  We can see the evidence of asking for protection.

We are strong.  We are determined. We know that what we ask for, pray for, request is answered.

Your efforts and energies are dynamic.

Please do not stop.

My thoughts

Sheera made choices that spared her family, farms and animals from personal disaster when she:

  • Invoked an inner determination and strength
  • Knew her family, their property and animals would be safe
  • Affirmatively spoke forth the outcome she chose
  • Visualized a NO BURN ZONE of protection from the fire
  • Was motivated by her request that served a bigger purpose
  • Created an impromptu mastermind group to send prayers, love, safety and protection before she packed to evacuate.

What about the properties that burned? 

My neighbor’s home burned down a year after her lake house succumbed to fire. A couple of months later, she was calm and peaceful when she told me it was a blessing. Huh?

Before then she lived in a world where people didn’t care about one another, only themselves. That changed when total strangers, organizations, churches and the community helped with clothing, food and more.

Her heart and mind opened to the love and care of others. For her, it was a lesson that had more value than worldly goods.  

What benefit could come from burned farm land? Farmers couldn’t collect insurance because of the drought. However, many could from fire. 

Every experience teaches. It’s all good, regardless of appearance. Look for the gift.

By the way, a week after the Texas fires, during a drought with no rain, amidst the ashes, here and there, sprigs of green grass appeared. Renewal and rebirth heralded a new cycle.

You can choose your reactions and actions.

You do NOT have to give your power away to fear or discouragement.  The flames of anger, doubt and confusion do not have to eat away at you.

You may have what appear to be unstoppable forces occurring in your life. Remember: “You are a force of nature. Don’t put yourself as a lesser being that can be jostled about.”

You Are a Force of Nature – Part 1

September 26, 2011

If disasters scare you or you’re inspired by people making empowered choices, then read these astounding stories. Learning from them can empower you and  may one day save you from harm.

 You, too, can overcome ANY challenge in your life. 

You Are a Force of Nature 

 A friend who survived Hurricanes Rita and Katrina told me: 

 “Recognize you are a vortex of power and have as much energy to create in your life as a tornado or hurricane. You are a force of nature. Don’t put yourself as a lesser being that can be jostled about.

 “Where I’m living and standing is sacred and remains that way. If there are earth changes taking place, that’s one thing. But my choices of what I experience are different.” 

Instead of fear she chose:

  • Safety for her family and their property
  • To feel calm and peaceful (the opposite of a raging hurricane) instead of fearful
  • To ask for divine protection and trust it.

 Results: The only damage she incurred from being in the eye of Hurricane Katrina was that part of a gutter was knocked down. While devastation rained on the community and most roofs needed repair, including a nearby house that was split in two by a fallen tree, my friend’s and her neighbors’ homes were safe. Trees fell but missed their houses and vehicles. A shingle flew off and broke someone’s window pane without breaking the window.

 How Can This Happen? All Life Is Energy.

 Energy reacts to energy. Hurricanes react to swirling emotions. Raging and confused fires react to rage and confusion. They also react to thoughts of peace, calm and love.

 My friend’s experience isn’t an isolated incident.

  •  She had two other properties that remained untouched, including a dock where everyone’s shingles blew off the roof but hers. 
  • A friend told me about a little girl in Houston who hugged her favorite tree and told it to be safe before Hurricane Ike struck. That tree was the only one in the yard that survived. 
  • I was at a restaurant with friends when they learned that fires broke out next to their home. We all remained calm, ordered and ate dinner as we asked for divine intervention and focused on prayers of protection. They received phone updates that the fire burned over a mile of trees including their neighbor’s home, but it stopped at the edge of their property only scorching some tree branches and grass.  

How One Woman Avoided the Raging Texas Wildfires

 I received a request to send positive energy to Sheera Rexroad, a phenomenal body worker I’ve used for many years, and her farm near Bastrop, TX where over 1300 homes were destroyed.  Later, I received the results of her focused intention and trust in a force far greater than the fires.

 Most people would go into fear and survival and hope things would work out but be filled with terror and doubt. Sheera made different decisions with miraculous results. 

 Fascinated with Sheera’s story, I’ve communicated with her through several phone conversations and emails. I’ve chronicled Sheera’s experience, and now you can read it in her own words:

 I saw the fire’s magnitude and told my brother we had to pray for protection.  

 Smoke filled the not too distant area.  I called a neighbor who answered and, over the roar of his bulldozer cutting firebreaks, he told us these fires were bad and to warn all of our neighbors to pack and prepare.

 At that moment, I knew that informing others and seeing to the safety of livestock were more important than immediately going home to pack.

 I called people with positive strength and awareness asking for their help

 I asked they join me in visualizing the bubble of protection, the impenetrable force field, that the property, houses and animals of One Girl Farm and Ranch de Kris are safe. That I was not being selfish, that we needed a safe and secure base to serve from.  That we had much to do to help humanity. 

 We stopped and shared the message along our road and called the rest of the neighbors.

 My only fear was that I might pick the wrong stuff to take with me or I’d take too long and wouldn’t make it to my brother.

 I told the cows to have no fear – that if we have fear, they win. Others have fear; don’t give in to their fears. Their fears are not ours.

The Ravenous, Hungry Fire-Beast

 We could clearly see the massive flames in front of us to the west.  They were large, like the flames of an oil derrick when it blows.

 Torches of orange were leaping into the early evening sky already heavy with smoke.  White smoke, yellow smoke, black smoke.

 The sirens of fire engines, sheriff and emergency vehicles competed with the blasting walkie-talkies, the moos of cattle and the roar of bulldozers ripping at the earth.  My senses were full. My heart full as well.  

 I knew, I just knew that my immediate world was safe and secure.

 Once we were off of the land and on ‘safely higher ground’ I was able to access my vision of the fire. This is what I saw:

 This fire is a ravenous, hungry beast with a huge desire to indiscriminately consume mass amounts.  It raced thru the countryside gobbling up all in its path. It charged at the north boundary fence of One Girl Farm. The hot-flamed tongue of the fire-beast attempted to chomp thru the fence – it stopped. It shook its mouth and spat out what it thought it had desired like a toddler that bites something yucky. 

  The NO BURN ZONE that we were holding solid with our requests, our prayers, our positive thoughts did not taste good. 

In Part 2, you’ll find out what happened to the fire as it traveled along her western fence, what she said to create the NO BURN ZONE and the power of group thought and prayer.