Posts Tagged ‘don’t know what to do’

Has This Kept You Up at Night?

May 9, 2017

Awake at night

Have any of these kept you up at night?

Procrastination. Fear of making a (wrong) decision or making a mistake. Trying to figure out what you’re going to do. Indecisive. Avoid people or dealing with things. Have trouble marketing yourself or asking for the sale. Averse to taking risks. Don’t stand up for yourself. Afraid to speak up. Let others control you. Need to fit in. Turn into a chameleon to blend in with others. Let people run over you. Have a hard time being yourself (whoever that is). Wonder what people will say or think. Say yes when you want to say no.

What bogeyman lies beneath this thinking? Personal honesty reveals a deeper insight beyond blaming circumstances.

During multiple mastermind group meetings, I noticed a theme that held people back until they got wise to a game the ego was playing.

It reminds me of a scene from the 1986 comedy The Money Pit with Tom Hanks (who played Walter) and Shelly Long.

Rock star, 12-year-old Benny lounged in his mansion smoking a cigarette while chics waited for him in the Jacuzzi. His help feared him, and his mother wore a maid’s uniform while waiting on him hand and foot.

His temper tantrum, when he refused to loan Walter money, revealed a spoiled, insecure, little boy.

Walter: There is a house I want to buy.

Benny: Let’s cut to the chase, okay? What do you want?

Walter: I want you to loan me $200,000 in cash.

Benny: No.

Walter[raising his voice] Benny.

Benny: You shout at me?

Walter: I shout at you! I need that money, and you are going to loan it to me.

Benny: No, I won’t!

Walter: Yes, you will!

Benny: No, no, no!

Walter: Yes, you will! I saved you ten times that in taxes last year.

Benny: So what?

Walter: Benny, if you don’t loan me that money. I’ll…

Benny: You’ll what? Huh? You’ll what?

Walter: I’ll…not like you anymore! [Long pause and subdued.]

Benny: …All right.

Walter: Thanks.

Here’s the funny clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LY5dV3xghY

A leading cause of fear is wanting approval, so people limit themselves by worrying about what others will think.

A client procrastinated making a big decision. During a session, she realized she was afraid of her family’s disapproval if she didn’t get it right… again.

When the light turned on for her, she was able to research her options. She got clarity, aligned her energy with her decision by feeling good about her choice, and then took action.

Even if she made another unwanted mistake, she knew she could choose again.

She chose wisely. Since then, her business is at the highest it’s been in years.

Several clients realized that they were so intent on being nice to others that they weren’t nice to themselves.

Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #3 provided guidance:

“I trust my Self and listen to the voice within.”

This served as a valuable GPS instead of the need to people please.

Nobody can please everybody.

There will always be those who won’t like you or what you do. How much simpler life is to accept that instead of resisting it.

Don’t let fear of disapproval hold you down. Keep moving forward anyway with good intentions.

You have no control over what others think, but you can tune in to your Self and take charge of what you think about you.

Listening to your Self is part of your innate intelligence, so you can do this.

How? Choose to redirect your focus to hear You. With practice, your ability improves.

A key is to love and accept yourself just the way you are.

You’ll sleep better at night, too.

With gratitude,
Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might be uplifted by reading this? Please forward.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck.
I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Black Friday Oscar the Grouch Special

November 27, 2015

Oscar peeping out of trash can (2)

Can you relate? You’re basically a happy person. But lately, a part of you has been turning into Oscar the Grouch because you need a change.

Put another way, what once felt like treasure, now for one reason or another, is starting to feel like you’d rather trash it. Things aren’t working the way the way you choose.

  • You can no longer deny you want more cha-ching action.
  • Your prized clients/job disappeared, turned weird… or never made it from your dreams to reality.
  • Your ideal business and life are somewhere over the rainbow, and you want your pot of gold now.
  • You feel like you’re stuck in Oz and don’t know the way out.

Ready or not, it’s time to move on. But where to and how?

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin

While writing my Thanksgiving gratitude list, the unexpected appeared:

  • People are struggling to understand what’s going on in their lives. 
  • They’re spinning in circles trying to figure things out on their own. 
  • They feel stuck or don’t know how to break free from where they are. 
  • They’re losing confidence and belief in themselves.
  • People could use more clarity and direction.

Offer a Black Friday Special.

I felt like I was receiving marching orders. The information kept coming.

They need help. Focus the sessions on solutions to their challenges.

How much? Use the power of 7s. For a 1 ¼ hour session, their investment is $77. I got out my calculator. That’s over a 60% savings!

As people are out-of-town for the holiday, appointments can be scheduled until Wednesday, December 2nd and completed this year.

After enjoying a wonderful Thanksgiving with friends, I forgot about what I’d written yesterday. I don’t believe I’ve ever done a Black Friday Special before. This morning, it occurred to me to read my notes.

 “I take action by following through with my inspiration and guidance.” Mastermind Principle #3

The message was clear. I’m taking action. I invite you to take action if this is for you. Virginia@TeamingWithSuccess.com

If you’re tired of wishing on stars and hoping for life to change, contact me to schedule your Black Friday Special.

Sessions are by phone. Credit card payments accepted.

If you feel this might be for you, I invite you to listen to your nudges. “Just getting to know me,” current and former clients, whatever your history, are included.

I look forward to supporting you in your choices to break free so you can share your gifts with the world in a bigger way. If you’re wondering if you have any, YOU are a gift.

Feel relief as you discover solutions. Take care of yourself. Be heard non-judgmentally. To schedule your Black Friday Special, email me at  Virginia@TeamingWithSuccess.com

There’s someone who’s supposed to get this message. I’m curious. Is it you?

One more thing. This is getting funny for me. I thought I was complete, and this popped in to add: please share this with those you feel might benefit.

This may be given as holiday gift certificates for you or others.