Archive for May, 2018

Who’s Memorialized on Memorial Day

May 28, 2018

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Happy Memorial Day! Here’s a reprint from a previous blog post.

Sacred reverence came upon me in hushed whispers when years ago I visited Arlington National Cemetery in Virginia.

Headstones of honor placed with care began in May 1864 with Civil War soldiers. I was impressed with how the planning was precise, and the headstones created patterns no matter which direction I looked.

As of June 9, 2016, Arlington contained the remains of more than 400,000 people from the United States and 11 other countries – about the population of Minnesota.

Each headstone represents a life someone gave because they believed in an idea so great that they were willing to give the ultimate sacrifice – themselves.

In recognition of those who believed in the idea of freedom, here’s approximately how many Americans have given their lives for their country’s freedom starting from the beginning of the United States until present time.

If you’re from a country other than the U.S.A., you have compatriots who have given their lives for you to be free, too.

Here are statistics from www.awesomestories.com.

  • Mexican War:  13,283 Deaths; 4,152 wounded
  • U.S. Civil War:  620,000 deaths; 476,000 wounded; 400,000 captured or missing
  • Persian Gulf War (1990-91):  382 deaths; 467 wounded
  • Global War on Terror, including the Iraq and Afghanistan Wars:  +6,800 deaths; more than 970,000 disability claims registered as of March 31, 2014

By Memorial Day, 2015, at least 1,266,304 people had died fighting for America.

 


Consider this:

  • You are not living under dictators like North Korea’s Kim Jong-un demanding that people treat him like a God or be executed. You are so free that you have a choice to care if others fought for freedom or not.
  • You can choose freedom of thought or bondage to old hurts and conditioning. You are so free that you have a choice to be a prisoner of your past and be afraid of the future – or live in the now.
  • You can create a life of choice or be a victim of limitation. You are so free that you can make a decision to change your life for the better… and do it.

Get it? You are free to create your life however you choose… to be happy or otherwise.


What life do you choose? Have you considered you have a choice? You do.

In the United States, we designate Memorial Day to honor those who fought for our ability to be free.

Living your best life honors those who believed so strongly in this ideal that they gave of themselves for your freedom.
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I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how or feel stuck.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

 

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Do People Bug You? Maybe I’m One of Them.

May 21, 2018

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We’re interested in our self-image at a very young age.
The possibilities of how we’d like the world to see us are endless.

 

I’ve had an uncanny knack of what I used to perceive as saying the wrong thing at the wrong time.

My tendency is to hear unhelpful thought patterns, what people are thinking and feeling (instead of what they’re actually saying) or maybe trying to hide from others as well as themselves. This can really bug people because we all have a self-image, belief or emotional need we try to communicate, but I’m responding to what others unconsciously project or the issues they’ve suppressed.

Then I may say things, usually unintentionally, that trigger and expose that part of them that they’re trying to hide or ignore.

We all have a self-image that we’ve created, and this is what we want the world to see. When someone empathically sees through the projection and instead sees what people are really thinking and feeling… well, most don’t see themselves as having the problem. They believe the fault lies with others.

Our thoughts and feelings are found in a field of energy that emanates from us. They create a filter through which we see the world.

Even when we we’re hiding something or trying to act positive when we’re really not, others can sense it. This is especially true if the others are empathic, which means they can feel people’s energies, hear and see beyond others’ spoken words.


You may have felt this, too, when people give you an excuse for not wanting to do something that you know isn’t the truth. They expect you to buy their inauthentic story, but your gut knows better. 


Sometimes I say things that annoy others, which can lead to their breakthrough.

Years ago when my mom was alive, she used a walker after a hospital stay. One day, she got so mad at me for something I said that she threw the walker aside just to show me how angry she was.

And that was the end of her using the walker.

Inadvertently, I said something that triggered her to release the need for her walker, which then freed her to walk on her own. 

My uncanny ability to say things that might annoy people has happened so frequently in my life that I asked one of my teachers about it. I have a knack for highlighting truths that people don’t want to look at even though it could help them.

He replied, “I know this may sound strange, but God wants you to say these things.”

OK, but still it’s rather awkward because people usually don’t want to connect the dots to reveal what they’ve been hiding even to themselves, and I don’t get informed in advance of how I’m being used to awaken people.

Granted, this doesn’t exclude me from saying or doing dumb things because I’m fully capable of saying and doing dumb things all on my own. But now I don’t beat myself over it like I used to because often those seemingly dumb things may serve a bigger purpose of bringing up people’s issues that they can release, if they choose. If they’re ready.

My clients have experienced this during coaching sessions when I say something that really bothers them.

At first they might believe it’s my fault for saying things or not saying things in a way that pleases them. I’ll say or do something that triggers their issue. (Oh what a gift… is it too late to apply for one that’s more glamorous?)

For the ego, blame must be placed on something or someone outside oneself.

However, we’re never mad for the reasons we think we’re mad, and the irritation opens an opportunity for a breakthrough.

During an upset, a crossroads emerge. Choice point: react and finger point or pause and reflect? When have I had this emotional reaction I’m feeling before? Maybe starting in childhood? Is this a pattern? Do I often react in the same way?

If one is willing, the aha moment arises. Perhaps because they see it, they can start to let go of this pattern.

At the moment the ego starts to act out, there’s a choice: be a victim, blame others, defend one’s viewpoint, get irritated or see and release patterns that have been holding them back.

What can be revealed is that very mysterious something that may have been holding them back throughout their entire lives!

For issues to be released they usually surface first, and those moments before one has clarity and breaks free can be f@*%#!!! irritating.

However, emotional and mental releasing of stuffed issues has assisted my clients to soar to greater heights personally and professionally.

I don’t heal, but I help clients remove blocks that in the past prevented them from healing themselves.

For example:

If you’re upset because you feel you’re not being heard or understood or you feel you’re being pushed into doing things you don’t want to do, maybe you felt suppressed as a child. If you’re really over the issue, you wouldn’t be bothered by others’ behaviors and would articulate your feelings without anger, blame or frustration. Maybe this is your break-free opportunity.

Perhaps you feel uncomfortable around arrogant people who have greater wealth or status than you. At the root of why you feel this way, you discover your self-worth feels jeopardized. You may choose not to be around those braggadocious pygmies. But instead of being aggravated while you’re with them, you can observe and be silently entertained at their self-centered actions.


“We would like to help you to understand that neither the good feeling you find when you observe wanted behavior, nor the bad feeling you find when you observe unwanted behavior, is actually the reason that you feel good or bad. The way you feel is only ever about your alignment, or misalignment, with the Source within you. It is only your relationship with the Source within you (with your own Inner Being) that is the reason for the emotions that you feel.”

“When you think about other people and what they think of you, do you understand that what they think of you has very little to do with what you are? It has mostly to do with the habits of thought that they have developed. It has more to do with them as thinkers than it does with you as the subject of their thought.”

Abraham-Hicks


If you’re bugged by somebody or something, what pattern are you on the verge of releasing?

 
I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Are We There Yet? (Stop Waiting for Things to Get Better.)

May 14, 2018

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Think about little kids who can’t wait to get to their destination and miss most everything that’s happening on the ride.

We can be like those children, too.

Lately, I’ve been observing people who are in the middle of transitions – starting new businesses; hoping to get work; ready for change; trying to heal faster; wanting more; needing different; can’t take living with tormenting thoughts any longer.

It can be challenging and discouraging, especially when there’s no going back and the future calls. But how does one get there?  There’s a need to get there because that’s where survival and happiness seem to be.

And the present… well, this is the painful part. Because the perception is that success and well-being appear to live in the future or in a memory of the past when everything will be or was better. Now is full of worry, anxiety, stress and suffering.

Actually, the miserable feelings come from living in the future or past: being here and wishing we were there. It’s an inner battle with time and a (mis)perception of how things are supposed to be.

We often get frustrated because we want everything to be the way we want it now, but it isn’t.

It’s okay. Just take things a step at a time. With each step, you’ll be closer to your destination. It helps a lot if you stop judging yourself and your situation with disapproval… and you’ll feel much better, too!

If we’re waiting for better days, we’re missing the only place they exist – in the present moment.

Your past and future only consist of other moments. If you’re not happy in this moment, you’ll repeat the patterns of stress and dissatisfaction in your future or your reflections of the past.

Furthermore, you’ll attract more experiences that will give you more of the same feelings you have now, regardless of how much you hate them. Like attracts like.

Here are some quotes by Eckhart Tolle that may help you take your power back or realize that you always had it but gave it away to ill-conceived perceptions of time.


“Waiting is a state of mind. Basically, it means that you want the future; you don’t want the present. You don’t want what you’ve got, and you want what you haven’t got. With every kind of waiting, you unconsciously create inner conflict between your here and now, where you don’t want to be, and the projected future, where you want to be. This greatly reduces the quality of your life by making you lose the present.”

“Waiting is a state of mind that says we want what we don’t have…  Are you a ‘habitual waiter’?”

“It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living.”


Are you there yet?

Or are you here?

 

I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals. 

Follow Your Passion: My Impromptu Chat with Musician Ali Pervez Mehdi

May 7, 2018

Sangeet Millineum

 

Doing what you love makes it easier to enjoy a happy life.

I was inspired while talking with Ali, who performed this weekend at the Energies Balanced Spring Yoga Retreat and is singing in the above photo.

My dear friend Amie Maciszewski introduced us. She’s pictured above playing her sitar with the group she founded, Sangeet Millennium.

“It’s all positive.”

“Even the negative is positive,” Ali told us, as I realized I better grab paper and start taking notes. This man exudes happy energy with a ready smile that lights up a room.

He said he knows we’ve heard this before, but it’s about the journey and not the destination.

As he explained, life is the journey. The idea is to enjoy it now and not wait for happiness in the future.

“I used to work in IT and a lot of other jobs, but I wasn’t really happy. So I decided to follow my passion and do what my family has done for generations – play music.”

When he agreed that I could write about him, I wrote the spelling of his name. Ali Pervez Mehdi.

I casually mentioned that I have a CD of beautiful music by a man named Mehdi, and Ali shared a story that he was Mehdi’s grandson.

Really. Wow! They were serious when they told me Ali comes from generations of musicians.

In case you’re not familiar with Mehdi, I did a quick search for you. His gold selling albums have earned him world-wide recognition, which led him to open for Cirque Du Soleil and the California Philharmonic Orchestra amongst other honors. My experience is that his breathtaking music transports us body, mind and spirit.

Music has been Ali’s passion, but he had never committed to it… until he did. “Even though my jobs paid well, I realized this is not me. So I left them.”

Now he travels the world from an array of U.S. cities to Dubai and beyond, singing, performing and being a crew member for other leading musicians.

The pay isn’t the same but he LOVES every minute of it. He’s one of the happiest people I’ve ever met.

To hear the purity of his voice and joyous performance made the audience happy with his choice, too.

He said last year’s problems don’t matter.

When Amie asked which problems, he replied “any problem!”

Are you doing what you love?

Your happiness depends on it.

If happiness and doing what you love have been playing hide and seek, you can bring them to light by a simple shift of focus. Instead of concentrating on what you don’t like, look for what you’re grateful for, what lights you up or feels fun.

Be easy on yourself and enjoy the ride. This is a track that leads to doing what you love.

 

 

I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

 

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Ready to De-stress? I’m Talking at a Yoga Retreat this Saturday.

May 1, 2018

yoga retreat

Join me at the Energy Balanced Yoga Retreat

  • Friday, May 4, 2018 2:00 PM through Sunday, May 6, 2018 1:00 PM

If you enjoy yoga or would simply love to de-stress, give yourself a mental break or take time to center yourself, I invite you to consider attending a fabulous yoga retreat this weekend or even for one day at the legendary Davis Mountain Ranch Retreat in Bastrop County, Texas.

The community, food, beauty, nature, hay ride, meditation, high quality yoga and classes make it an ideal experience to regroup and just Be.

Lisa Johnson teaches some of the best yoga classes I’ve ever experienced, and there are a other yoga teachers who will be giving classes, too.

Last fall, I had the privilege of facilitating a workshop there, and I’ll be giving one again on Saturday 11:30 – 12:30 AM:

3 Keys to Manifest Your Heartfelt Desires 

Here’s where you can find more information and purchase tickets:

http://www.energiesbalanced.com/yoga-retreats/2018/1/23/energies-balanced-2018-spring-yoga-retreat

If you can make it, I’d love to see you there!


I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

 

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.