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Fear Causing You Problems? My Dream of Paralyzing Fear May Give You Courage

March 30, 2020

The gorge in my dream was far below, like this one in Blyde River Canyon, South Africa. See how deep the river is? However, in my dream, there were dense walls of trees on either side of the river gorge

 

The emotions we feel in dreams are real.
Dreams reveal what we harbor beneath our conscious thinking.
They teach us.
Fear can be turned around.
How?
Here’s what I discovered.

 

It was like a ropes course without ropes.

The entire group of people and instructor were in front of me straddling and scurrying across a log that bridged a deep, deep ravine, without a safety net below.

I looked down and saw I was above a cavernous gorge lined with trees, but soon I’d be above a river that was far below as it cut a path through the wood-filled cliffs.

Before I didn’t think anything about crossing this life-threatening divide. Now there still was no thinking, just the inability to move a muscle.

Suddenly I felt two hands around my waist steadying me, firmly stabilizing me. I didn’t turn around to see who it was. I knew there was no one behind me as I was the last one to cross.

The feeling reminds me of when I was a little girl. I learned to ride my new bike with my father at my side steadying me, acting like training wheels so I couldn’t wobble and fall.

With these invisible hands, I very quickly glided across the log on my way to join the others. 

But then I saw that the log ended abruptly before I got to the other side, and the gap was filled with water.

I was traveling so fast that I barely had time to stop, and I thought I would slip over the edge into the abyss. 

I began to demand, “How am I supposed to…”  until I noticed that the water there was shallow, around ankle-deep.

Although initially it looked like I hadn’t reached my destination, I realized all I had to do was step onto land.

Then I woke up remembering this vivid dream.

Now while thinking about it, tears come to my eyes.

Things aren’t always (as bad as) what they seem.

I literally can feel how I’m taken care of.

There is a power, call it God or the universe, whatever works for you, that has its invisible hands of safety around us. 

It keeps us steady as we bravely, or even if we feel completely incapacitated, go forward.

Whatever your destination in life, including being healthy or keeping afloat financially, you can get there or someplace better.

Even if it looks like you don’t know how you can do it or feel you can’t make it, there is a way.

Ask and be open to receive instead of blocking your good through doubt.

You can move forward successfully with bold decisions, even though you don’t think you have a safety net and the stakes are high.

You are watched over and taken care of!

It can be better (and easier) than you may imagine.

TRUST things are working out for you.

If you don’t BELIEVE you can, to start, make believe you can.

TRUST and BELIEF transform outcomes.

Hold the vision of your ideal outcome AS IF it is already done. 

Think from the END result not about it.

You are more in CONTROL of your life and health than you might believe possible. 

What you think about and FEEL are what you attract. 

ANTICIPATE the best outcome!

Don’t misuse but use your IMAGINATION in ways that support YOU.

THINK healthy, positive thoughts.

You are NOT ALONE.

You have a TEAM on the other side.

Claim this, and it’s YOURS.

SO BE IT!  SO BE IT!  SO BE IT!

Reposted with updates from Soulgoals Archives, July 1, 2019

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When Fear Takes Over

March 23, 2020

 

 

I’ve lived through a few “dark nights of
the soul” at the turn of this century.

An age-old term, Eckhart Tolle calls
the dark night of the soul, “a collapse of a
perceived meaning in life…
an eruption into your life of a deep
sense of meaninglessness. The inner state
in some cases is very close to what is
conventionally called depression. Nothing
makes sense anymore, there’s no purpose
to anything.”

“It can happen if something happens that
you can’t explain away anymore, some
disaster which seems to invalidate the
meaning that your life had before.
Really what has collapsed then is the whole
conceptual framework for your life, the
meaning that your mind had given it.
So that results in a dark place.”

At that time, life and circumstances created
feelings and thoughts that cloaked me
with a heavy pall taking months to release.

Then, just as spring arises from the
barren winter, signs of life within me
determinedly emerged like a phoenix
rising from the ashes.

I understand when people can’t seem to
throw off pervasive feelings that run in
the background like a software program
that’s been slowly and covertly draining
their energy, often for a very long time.

When they can’t take it anymore
and have to do something, they let go.

Finally, as if those feelings had been
running on a low battery, the charge
is gone.

As I ponder what to write to you
today, all I can think about are
several, recent coaching sessions.

People identified specters that lurked
in their shadows for years, haunting
them with their convincing influence
of limitation and disapproval.

______________________________

They courageously pulled back
the curtain that hid their inner
tormentors, which were revealed to
be nothing more than Wizard of Oz
impostors… and freed themselves.
______________________________

Previously, the ego’s dictates filled
their thoughts and feelings with negativity
like smoke in a room on fire with little
space for breathing freely.

The ego is the false identity, the voice
in our heads that we think is real
.

If you believe this nonsense
of hopelessness or not good
enough, you’re being scammed!!

Eventually these images or false
identities that we based our life on
begin to crumble.

It can be devastating when we discover that
many of our core beliefs have been an illusion.

For me, when the air cleared, the peace
and empowerment of the present
moment shined like the sun on a clear,
cloudless day.

True freedom.

This freedom comes from no longer
being thrashed by past pain or fear
of the future or the hollow echoes that
you, what you do or life isn’t good enough.

Your happiness doesn’t depend on others,
the latest crisis or the news.
______________________________

Maybe you’ve heard those voices in
your head, too – the worrisome talk
that creates fear, doubt and anxiety
disguised as the voice of reason.

You became used to listening to it, so
now you don’t take risks. You fritter away
your energy distracted by blame, shame,
worry, regret, doubts, grief, frustration or
lack that leave you too exhausted to
create the life you really want.
______________________________

Living in the past brings regrets, sorrow
and suffering.

Living in the future brings worry and
fear of “what if… the worse happens?”

Living in the Now, even for a moment,
brings relief and peace. You can always 
handle the present moment.

How can you be present and free
of the tyranny of fear?

Start by making a decision. Choose to!

Yes, you are that powerful.

Your Essence, not your whiny, doubting
ego, is so powerful that when you make a
decision you change your life!! 


The heart freed of shackles, that were
locked in restraint by misty, forgotten
memories, is free to rejoice in renewal,
like the season of spring.

______________________________

Living in the Now takes practice, and it
helps to have positive support to
counter the ego’s seduction that tries
to hook you into believing that you can’t
attain the life, business, finances and
happiness you really want… or be
protected against a virus!
______________________________

Inevitably, the ego tries to lure you
again with its hypnotic trance of anxiety,
worry, lack, fear, doubt and limit, which
results in dissatisfaction.

However, once the taste of emotional
freedom is savored, it’s proof that peace
and happiness are more than a wishful
hope for you.

Years of habit etch neural
pathways in the brain spawning ruts
of discontent.

That all changes when being nurtured
by living in present time as new
pathways gain dominance.

A friend texted for me to write about
never giving up on your dreams.

With an unencumbered
spirit, your dreams or something
even better can come true.

You are stronger than a pesky virus! You can get through this!

Believe.

Reposted from Soulgoals Archives April 10, 2017 with present time edits

 

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To Risk, or Not to Risk, that is the Question

December 3, 2019

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No one really likes to change. Well, we say we do, but we only want the so-called bad things to change. We’d like other things to stay just the way they are, thank you very much.

We often want others and situations to change and for us to stay the same. 

However, when one part of a system changes, everything is affected. It’s like when the body gets hurt – the right leg may be injured, but the other side of the body compensates.

We often resist change. Call it bad. Likewise, when the “good” changes come, everything shifts. In the process, it can feel uncomfortable.

But when it becomes too painful to stay put and remain tight, we’re willing to risk in ways that we may otherwise have thought too painful.

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Dynamic scene before the storm.
Guadalupe River State Park

Oh, why not? If you know you’re going to make a change anyway, put yourself out of your misery or discomfort. Take a risk. Be willing to go for the change. Enjoy blossoming!

Reprinted from October 18, 2010

 

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Do This Instead of Trying so Hard

November 18, 2019

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Have you noticed that when you push to make things happen, try hard to get something, have to have things work out in a certain way or feel desperate, what you want eludes you or is hard to get?  Other times, often when you casually say you want something, it appears effortlessly.

If a door opens by allowing it to come toward you, pushing against it only closes it more.

The same principle applies to creating your ideal business and life, too.

Imagine this. If someone is chasing you for business, to be their friend or lover, what are you inspired to do?

Run. Far away. Or, because I’m inspired by watching an old TV series Gunsmoke, “get out of Dodge.”

Your dreams and goals are here, now, waiting for you. Be willing and open to receive them.

Recently while out dancing, my friend and I met a man whose company we were enjoying. We liked the band and learned that he hired them to play at his birthday party at his beautiful, country home close to where I live.

My friend whispered to me, “Let’s get an invitation.” I tuned into the idea and felt it would be fun. Within five minutes, he invited us without our saying a word to him about it.

Earlier that night, amidst a sea of people at a month-long event held on six acres, I found myself face to face with a former client. I’d been thinking about reconnecting with her as we hadn’t talked for a couple of years.

We enjoyed catching up by phone the following day. At the end of our conversation, she inquired about my current business offerings. Poised to launch a new direction in her career, she’s ready to let go of limiting beliefs that could hold her back.

She’ll start her program with me this month.

Right place. Right time. Right energy. In the flow. Great results.

No struggle. No trying. Being a magnet for intentions and good things by relaxing and being open to receive.

Note: this is 180 opposite from worrying about what if things don’t work out.

Life is magical when we allow it.

We’ve been trained to think no pain, no gain. Do more. Work harder.

Yes, actions can produce results.

Releasing is one of the highest and most effective actions. This means letting go of anxiety, doubt, fear as well as limiting thoughts and emotions. It’s like a tuning fork emitting a vibration; this frequency naturally harmonizes with complementary notes.

Relaxing and trusting open us to inspired action which allows success to occur naturally.

Your action has nothing to do with your abundance! Your abundance is a response to your vibration. Of course, your belief is part of your vibration. So if you believe that action is part of what brings your abundance, then you’ve got to unravel that.

Abraham-Hicks

TIP: Stop Trying so Hard. Start Allowing.

In Soulgoals’ masterminding, we set our intention for success by saying: I choose and I am willing to receive this or something better. Then we state our goals.

You can do this daily by writing or saying this phrase followed by your goals.

Supercharge your intentions by accessing mastermind energy.  Ask for and allow support from a Divine Source, God, the universe, whatever works for you.

Some have had tremendous success by looking in the mirror daily, masterminding with the Divine, stating the above intention followed by their goal.

Be open and willing to receive.

It works.

Experiment, and you’ll experience.

Reprinted from December 7, 2015

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Why Is Your Life Happening The Way It Is?

September 30, 2019

 

Your thoughts and feelings are engines that generate results. If you don’t like what you see, you can recreate something better.

What I’m about to tell you may be a game changer.

Let’s start with the law of attraction, like attracts like – when it works positively.

A skin care specialist visualized lots of people calling for appointments.

  • Results? Shortly after, the receptionist reported that she booked several sessions for her – just as she asked for in her visualization.

However, she didn’t specify what kind of appointments.

  • Results? One was for a bikini wax, and she really doesn’t like to give them.

Because of her busy schedule, the client couldn’t get a wax as soon as she wanted but made the appointment anyway. In the meantime, the visualizer mused about how she didn’t want to do the wax.

  • Results? The client cancelled.

This is a classic case of cause and effect where thoughts become things, but your experience may differ.

So let’s get to what matters most to you. Why is your life happening the way it is?

Do you sometimes feel like you’re drowning and looking for a life saver?

Is this you?

I don’t know if I believe in this stuff. I tried it, and it didn’t work. I did everything right. I visualized, masterminded, had a positive attitude, created a vision board, and still no results.

Could it be that one part of you did “all the right things” and another part freaked out with anxiety? Were you feeling frustrated, angry, desperate, scared or doubtful?

Your world reflects what you predominantly think and feel. 

If so, no need to worry. Neville Goddard in Your Faith Is Your Fortune wrote this:

“Just as a branch withers and dies if the sap of the vine ceases to flow towards it, so do things and qualities pass away if you take your attention from them; because your attention is the sap of life which sustains the expression of your life.”

When you fuss and fret, your attention is on what you don’t want. Instead, change your focus, including emotionally, to what you choose.

TIP: Don’t EXPECT results. 

Say again. Isn’t that what you’re supposed to do?

Expecting results in a specific way is a booby trap, and you’re no boob. Here’s how it can foil your efforts.

When we mastermind, we ask for “this or something better.” Why? Because God, or if you’re more comfortable using the word the universe, may have a better way to bring results.

Energetic clinging repels results. Imagine a girl focused on finding a boyfriend. Guys sense this as dogs sense fear and run for the hills. Once she lets go of the search, there’s room for her dream to come true. 

I’m an expert on expectation… not bringing me results.

I can trick myself into thinking I let go when I’m really WAITING FOR, aka EXPECTING, a result from a SPECIFIC source. 

For example, in the past, while putting a group together, I expected my next event would fill it. If I had a financial goal, I expected a particular client would fulfill it.

I said I let it go, but I tried to control the outcome: I patiently relaxed to manifest my goals the way I expected. I knew how I thought it would happen. I took action to make it happen.

Here’s the telltale downside that I was in expectation. When it didn’t happen as expected, I got disappointed. Next came fear and my default program: Oh no, what am I going to do?

This started a vicious circle of expectation and disappointment which attracted more things that made me feel discouraged.

Now, I still hold events and have clients that could bring results. But, if they don’t, it’s called next. God will supply from other sources.

God is your supply. 

Don’t expect your supply to come from a person, event or anything in particular. You are ALWAYS taken care of by God, but results often come differently than you think they SHOULD. Results come when you let go and let God. Allow the universe to bring your answers.

Feeling dejected, rejected or injected with fear is not trusting. 

Trust is not giving up or moaning about what’s not working. These are childhood responses.

Instead, trust by ANTICIPATING RESULTS.

Anticipate your needs are fulfilled beyond your wildest expectations. Adopt a childlike curiosity of wonder instead of dictating an expectation.

It’s your job to:

  • Make a choice.
  • Pay attention to your nudges.
  • Take action on what you’re inwardly guided to do.

Let God fill in the HOW and why and where and by whom.

Remember:

  • Anticipate, don’t expect.
  • Trust that a divine energy can and does manifest goals you choose or something better.

Don’t like your new creation? Don’t create a story about how you never get what you want, etc. Choose again.

When you anticipate the best, you change the way your life is happening.

This is a reprint from May 26, 2011.

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All is NOT Lost! What to do if Things Don’t Work the Way You Thought.

September 24, 2019

What do you do when you’ve invested a lot of energy into results that don’t happen?

You were really counting on that contract to come through, but now it’s up-in-the-air. A friend said she’d help you move but bailed at the last minute. Your relationship falls apart.

Things just didn’t work out the way you thought they should or would.

A freelancer counted on her big client to provide a steady flow of income. She had a realistic expectation this would continue.

Suddenly, she was let go.

After the initial shock, she put it in perspective. She used a journaling exercise found on my blog and had a CEO meeting with God. https://soulgoals.wordpress.com/category/ceo-meeting-with-god/  (Scroll down to the post on October 2, 2009.)

She realized she now had time to focus on projects and business ideas she’d put off.

Things don’t always work as expected. But change always makes way for something better, regardless of how it appears in the moment.

Your income, love, support, health and results don’t come from only one source. God, the Divine, is your supply. God or the universe, whatever word is in alignment with your beliefs, is never lost and offers infinite possibilities. Therefore, if something doesn’t work, new ways are found.

Maybe the change is what it took for you to let go and allow new possibilities to occur.

Sometimes you have to let go to free yourself.

Remember the proverbial monkey who grasps something in a vase but can’t remove it? The neck of the vase is so narrow that he has to release his grip just to get his hand out.

You’ll get results: your expectation, goal or something better. However, you may need to change your perspective or approach.

You may need to let go of your emotional and mental grasp to allow something better to come in.

What you focus on grows. In the past, have you chosen anxiety? Instead, enjoy a childlike trust and curiosity. Look for how the universe is assisting you. Consider it a mystery, and you delight in discovering an answer.

Believe there’s a happy ending, and focus on it. Why not? You probably tried fear and worry (over and over again), and they don’t produce lasting and fulfilling outcomes.

By the way, about out freelancer. All was far from lost. New jobs appeared through happenstance, and her big client came back a few months later. Her job situation worked out when she let go and shifted her perspective.

 

This is a reprint from February 7, 2011, of one of my most popular posts.

 

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Angry? Frustrated? Here’s What I Wrote to my Client.

August 12, 2019
Here’s an excerpt of an email I sent a client who’s been experiencing challenges.

Recently, I’ve observed people transitioning from the way their life has been to something new and different. That can bring up a variety of feelings, some pleasant and others not so much.
 
I remember thinking in the early 1990s that my entire life was about frustration. There wasn’t any part of it that worked, from health, finances and career to my marriage. All were falling apart. This perfect storm became the springboard that has shaped the rest of my life of personal discovery and helping people like you.



   
Change is in the air, welcoming it, liking it, wanting it or not.
 
For some, it’s an exciting adventure.
 
For others, a dark cloud hangs overhead.
 
You, like the rest of us, have had a lifetime of listening to the false guidance of your ego, that façade of an identity. For you, it includes difficult emotions like anger and frustration. These emotions are like software glitches.
 
Here’s what Wikipedia says about glitches… computer glitches are incorrectly written software, incorrect instructions given by the operator, undetected invalid data, undetected communications errors…
 
You are not your software.
 
In contrast, your Essence is prompting you to listen within. This is the part of you that knows “all is well.”

Abraham-Hicks said:

“Your emotions are your indicator of how your active thought blends, or doesn’t blend, with the thought Source is thinking about the same subject in the same moment.”


The inner turmoil you’re experiencing is the conflict between your ego’s perspective and that of the Source within you.

Naturally, your ego is taking an all out stand for you to listen to its lies, lies that lead you to feel frustrated, angry and needing to sort things out.

To protect itself, it uses a type of logic in which it’s already trained you, indoctrinated into you, so you believe that it’s telling you the truth. It presents its case that leaves you feeling anger and frustration.

The logic only works if you see things from its limited and fearful point of view.

Habitual thinking creates entrenched neural pathways in the brain. These become your default, your easy “go to” ways you react. These reactions, instead of responses, don’t always serve you.

Just because ideas are in your head does NOT make them true!

However, you can most assuredly access your true Essence instead, as it is YOU!

A key is to differentiate between the whispers of your ego and your Essence.

The ego certainly doesn’t want you to be around positive people that shed light on how it manipulates you. This way it has you, back where you can be controlled by the stress and chaos of unsupportive emotions.

In defense of the ego, it thinks its protecting you. But these patterns were created from a child’s approach to survival. When presented with adult situations, the peace of your Essence offers greater insight and direction.

Ask your Essence to step forward to be heard, and choose to listen to its guidance.



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while getting results,
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their Soul’s goals.
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My Tip to Get Over Overwhelm

July 9, 2019
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Feeling stressed and overwhelmed are times when it helps to be the most centered emotionally and mentally, but it’s often when we feel the worse. 

For those who may not be familiar with my story, first, here’s background on why I was on the brink of not knowing how to handle everything. Then, onto my confirmation that this super simple tip works.

The background


One of the most challenging years in my life (and to reach that height is saying something) began Memorial Day weekend four years ago. 

Unprecedented flooding occurred when the Blanco River rose to a record 40.21 feet before it knocked out the flood gauge. It took 2 1/2 hours for the water to rise 31 feet as it washed away homes and people to their demise.

Although my house wasn’t part of that disaster, little did I realize this was the beginning of my personal nightmare for six months followed by another six months of new challenges.

I had dinner with a friend in a neighboring town, and left my back door open to the screened porch, when weeks of sunny skies suddenly turned to a violent storm. The rain hit the ground with such ferocity that it jettisoned mold spores into my home.

Long story short, I suffered from mold throughout my house: in my furniture, dry wall, cupboards and me. Inhaling mold not only had me breathing like a zombie but created an opiate effect on my brain so I couldn’t think straight, laid in bed like I was drugged, and sometimes I couldn’t put a sentence together to talk to people.

When I woke up out of this stupor and realized what a fix I was in, I panicked.

Miraculously, instead of years, I managed to get somewhat back on track in six months. 

I had about a month of normalcy and then the next crisis came. My cat became very ill.

I suppose most people would have put her to sleep after being told by multiple vets there was nothing to be done when her thyroid levels were over four times what they should be and her weight dropped from 15# to 7# in three weeks.

But she made it clear to me that she wasn’t ready to leave yet.

That came with a price.

For six months, I was awakened by her every night, cleaning up because of her illness, so I could only get three hours of sleep at a time. I can assure you that sleep deprivation over so many months takes its toll. Finally, she let me know it was time to go.

At that point I was exhausted, and my life felt like it was in near shambles.

A trusted coach, who I thought understood my situation and had my back, thought I liked the drama, which she mentioned during a guided meditation for me. Ouch! Maybe she thought because it was just a cat and not a parent that I should’ve put her to sleep against her will.

That was the best and worst of times. The best because years of lessons were condensed in months, not a lifetime. 

Talk about overwhelm! My life was assaulted on every level: my physical and brain health, financially, emotionally, unsupported by so-called trusted confidants, my home in disarray, unknown business direction and on and on.

So many things to deal with. I wanted to get my life back and have everything in order yesterday. Every effort seemed so miniscule compared to the task at hand.

How could I ever turn it around?

Just take a step at a time.


Focusing on this simple tip got me out of that deep hole, step at a time.

As simplistic as it sounds, focusing on one project at a time both relieves pressure and fosters progress, as reported by my clients’ experiences, too. 

It still works for me.

For example, in the beginning of this year I focused on educating myself with 45 hours of a variety of free, online health docuseries. The result is that I went on a keto diet, my weight is 25# less than it was a few months ago, the arthritis in my lower back is completely gone and I feel the best I’ve felt in decades.

I focused. I was patient with my progress and myself.

Instead of pacing ourselves, we often want to do everything at once, but life usually doesn’t work like that in the long run. Or we end up doing little or nothing except complain about how much we have to do.


During stressful times, it’s easy to feel like a failure. The step at a time approach redirects attention to what’s working and how you’re moving forward and doing well.

If you’re like most people, you’ve got a stockpile of things that need to be done. Maybe you feel discouraged and that you’ll never get ahead.

You can.

Hold the VISION of seeing your ideal life that’s on the other side of your To Do lists or crises, and STEP AT A TIME you’ll arrive at your destination or someplace better.


Could you use support in
what steps to take?
Contact me
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who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
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My Dream of Paralyzing Fear That May Give You Courage!

July 1, 2019
The gorge in my dream was far below, like this one in Blyde River Canyon, South Africa. See how deep the river is? However, in my dream, there were dense walls of trees on either side of the river gorge.

It was like a ropes course without ropes. The entire group of people and instructor were in front of me straddling a log that bridged a deep, deep ravine, without a safety net below.

I looked down and saw I was above a cavernous gorge of trees, but soon I’d be above a river that was far below as it cut a path through the wood-filled cliffs.

Before I didn’t think anything about crossing this divide. Now there still was no thinking, just the inability to move a muscle.

Suddenly I felt two hands around my waist steadying me, firmly stabilizing me. I didn’t turn around to see who it was. I knew there was no one behind me as I was the last one to cross.

The feeling reminds me of when I was a little girl. I learned to ride my new bike with my father at my side steadying me, acting like training wheels so I couldn’t wobble and fall.

With these invisible hands, I very quickly glided across the log to join the others. 

But the log ended abruptly before getting to the other side, and the gap was filled with water.

I was traveling so fast that I barely had time to stop, thinking I would slip over the edge and into the water. 

I began to ask how was I supposed to get across until I noticed that the water there was shallow, around ankle-deep. 

Although initially it looked like I hadn’t reached my destination, I realized all I had to do was step onto land.

Then I woke up remembering this vivid dream.

Now while thinking about it, tears come to my eyes.

I literally can feel how I’m taken care of.

There is a force of life, call it God or the universe, whatever works for you, that has its invisible hands of safety around us. 

It keeps us steady as we bravely (or even if we feel completely incapacitated) go forward in life.

Whatever your destination, you can get there or some place better. Even if it looks like you don’t know how you can do it or feel you didn’t quite make it, there is a way.

You can move forward successfully with bold decisions, even though it looks like you don’t have a safety net and the stakes are high.

You are watched over and taken care of!

Maybe it will be better (and easier) than you imagine.



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Stop Fear in Its Tracks

June 3, 2019

Please enjoy my Soulgoal Missive, which I resurrected from my July 2002 archives. This was the year after the September 11 terrorist attacks, and fear was rampant.

“Nothing ever happened in the past; it happened in the Now.
Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now.”

Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

Anxiety and worry reside in many like a low-grade fever that won’t go away.

People work, live, and don’t notice fear most of the time because it’s so familiar. It can lurk in the background like a gnawing in back of the mind that something might happen… a feeling of anticipation, waiting for the other shoe to fall.

There are countless ways to mask it, such as using power over others, escapes like too much television, overuse of substances, addictions, sex, being controlling, seeking approval, and anger.

Fear. It’s often fear of the future, the unknown, that somehow, something might happen, and we won’t be able to handle it.

We can never cope with the future. When our mental imaginings run rampant into what danger might be lurking, we incapacitate ourselves.

We can always cope in the now, in this present moment of time. Remember the adage that we are only given what we can handle.

We always have the ability to make it to the next stage of life. Always.

“So let me assert my belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself – nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.” 

Franklin D. Roosevelt, U.S. President during World II

What else can be done to diminish fear?

If you want yeast to multiply, feed it sugar. If you want fear to grow, feed it fear.

If you want to reduce fear, take a deep breath and surround what you fear with love. I know this can sound crazy, but consider this.

The aim of terrorists is to create fear and terror. Generating fear in others makes them stronger as it’s their food, their energy source. Instilling fear is the outcome they’re trying to create, so our feeling fear encourages them to create more terror.

Unconditional love short-circuits them. They become like the Wicked Witch of the West and their power to create fear in others starts to melt. The fury of anger cannot ride on love.

Overcoming the domination of fear IS possible! Here’s a recent Success Story of one of my clients, LisaBeth Thomas:

 “With Virginia’s coaching my world totally changed.  She showed me how to let go of the fears and let in my success. Now I am getting new business and opportunities each month!  My energy and enthusiasm are through the roof, and there is no stopping me or the growth of my company!”


  LisaBeth (LB) Thomas, The Big Cheese.TV, LLC; Producer, Speaker, Leading Brand and Media Strategist; Founding Member & Past President of Texas Women in Business (TWIB); an Austin Business Journal’s Top 25 Woman of Influence

Thoughts, feelings, and prayers are real and are felt around the world.

We have the ability to impact life by living in this moment of time with the spirit of love. 

Right now as you read this, you can offer love and goodwill to the Life Force and let it be distributed wherever It chooses. Now, you just made a difference.

That which we fear diminishes and eventually disappears as we wake up to this awareness.

Who do you trust, a Higher Power or fear? Hint: Who do you know is the biggest kid on the block, every block, everywhere, throughout eternity?

Maybe you’ve been wearing your fear like an irreversible tattoo when it’s only a rub-on that can be removed. Switch your attention to the now rather than worry about an unknown future, and the fear washes off.

Fear is your interpretation of events, a misuse of your imagination, and you have the power to change your perspective.

Fill the now with love, and not only is there no room left for fear within you, but that which you fear dwindles. 

It doesn’t mean you agree with what others do or a situation. It does mean you don’t give them the power to control you.

There’s a Zen story about a Japanese warrior waiting in prison after capture. The fear of interrogation, torture, and execution overwhelmed him, and he couldn’t sleep. Then he remembered the words of his spiritual master, “Tomorrow is not real. It is an illusion. The only reality is now.” He fell peacefully asleep. 

Your challenge, if you choose to accept, is to live in the moment with love.

Observe your reaction when fear arises in you and recognize that the fear has nothing to do with this moment in time.

Instead of worrying and being afraid of what might happen, redirect your attention to the now. Replace the feelings of fear with gratitude, love, and goodwill to Life.

Success Thought

“Focus on what you want. Dwelling on your fears will bring them upon you…We need to enjoy what we have right now and live right now. Fearing loss is not living in the now. Fearing loss is living in the future.”

Andrew Matthews, Being Happy! A Handbook to Greater Confidence & Security

Want to be free of the influence of fear
so you can live your ideal life?
It IS possible!!

Contact me for a complimentary
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but don’t know how, feel stuck
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