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Why Is Your Life Happening The Way It Is?

September 30, 2019

 

Your thoughts and feelings are engines that generate results. If you don’t like what you see, you can recreate something better.

What I’m about to tell you may be a game changer.

Let’s start with the law of attraction, like attracts like – when it works positively.

A skin care specialist visualized lots of people calling for appointments.

  • Results? Shortly after, the receptionist reported that she booked several sessions for her – just as she asked for in her visualization.

However, she didn’t specify what kind of appointments.

  • Results? One was for a bikini wax, and she really doesn’t like to give them.

Because of her busy schedule, the client couldn’t get a wax as soon as she wanted but made the appointment anyway. In the meantime, the visualizer mused about how she didn’t want to do the wax.

  • Results? The client cancelled.

This is a classic case of cause and effect where thoughts become things, but your experience may differ.

So let’s get to what matters most to you. Why is your life happening the way it is?

Do you sometimes feel like you’re drowning and looking for a life saver?

Is this you?

I don’t know if I believe in this stuff. I tried it, and it didn’t work. I did everything right. I visualized, masterminded, had a positive attitude, created a vision board, and still no results.

Could it be that one part of you did “all the right things” and another part freaked out with anxiety? Were you feeling frustrated, angry, desperate, scared or doubtful?

Your world reflects what you predominantly think and feel. 

If so, no need to worry. Neville Goddard in Your Faith Is Your Fortune wrote this:

“Just as a branch withers and dies if the sap of the vine ceases to flow towards it, so do things and qualities pass away if you take your attention from them; because your attention is the sap of life which sustains the expression of your life.”

When you fuss and fret, your attention is on what you don’t want. Instead, change your focus, including emotionally, to what you choose.

TIP: Don’t EXPECT results. 

Say again. Isn’t that what you’re supposed to do?

Expecting results in a specific way is a booby trap, and you’re no boob. Here’s how it can foil your efforts.

When we mastermind, we ask for “this or something better.” Why? Because God, or if you’re more comfortable using the word the universe, may have a better way to bring results.

Energetic clinging repels results. Imagine a girl focused on finding a boyfriend. Guys sense this as dogs sense fear and run for the hills. Once she lets go of the search, there’s room for her dream to come true. 

I’m an expert on expectation… not bringing me results.

I can trick myself into thinking I let go when I’m really WAITING FOR, aka EXPECTING, a result from a SPECIFIC source. 

For example, in the past, while putting a group together, I expected my next event would fill it. If I had a financial goal, I expected a particular client would fulfill it.

I said I let it go, but I tried to control the outcome: I patiently relaxed to manifest my goals the way I expected. I knew how I thought it would happen. I took action to make it happen.

Here’s the telltale downside that I was in expectation. When it didn’t happen as expected, I got disappointed. Next came fear and my default program: Oh no, what am I going to do?

This started a vicious circle of expectation and disappointment which attracted more things that made me feel discouraged.

Now, I still hold events and have clients that could bring results. But, if they don’t, it’s called next. God will supply from other sources.

God is your supply. 

Don’t expect your supply to come from a person, event or anything in particular. You are ALWAYS taken care of by God, but results often come differently than you think they SHOULD. Results come when you let go and let God. Allow the universe to bring your answers.

Feeling dejected, rejected or injected with fear is not trusting. 

Trust is not giving up or moaning about what’s not working. These are childhood responses.

Instead, trust by ANTICIPATING RESULTS.

Anticipate your needs are fulfilled beyond your wildest expectations. Adopt a childlike curiosity of wonder instead of dictating an expectation.

It’s your job to:

  • Make a choice.
  • Pay attention to your nudges.
  • Take action on what you’re inwardly guided to do.

Let God fill in the HOW and why and where and by whom.

Remember:

  • Anticipate, don’t expect.
  • Trust that a divine energy can and does manifest goals you choose or something better.

Don’t like your new creation? Don’t create a story about how you never get what you want, etc. Choose again.

When you anticipate the best, you change the way your life is happening.

This is a reprint from May 26, 2011.

If you’d like to change
the way your life is going,
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or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

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All is NOT Lost! What to do if Things Don’t Work the Way You Thought.

September 24, 2019

What do you do when you’ve invested a lot of energy into results that don’t happen?

You were really counting on that contract to come through, but now it’s up-in-the-air. A friend said she’d help you move but bailed at the last minute. Your relationship falls apart.

Things just didn’t work out the way you thought they should or would.

A freelancer counted on her big client to provide a steady flow of income. She had a realistic expectation this would continue.

Suddenly, she was let go.

After the initial shock, she put it in perspective. She used a journaling exercise found on my blog and had a CEO meeting with God. https://soulgoals.wordpress.com/category/ceo-meeting-with-god/  (Scroll down to the post on October 2, 2009.)

She realized she now had time to focus on projects and business ideas she’d put off.

Things don’t always work as expected. But change always makes way for something better, regardless of how it appears in the moment.

Your income, love, support, health and results don’t come from only one source. God, the Divine, is your supply. God or the universe, whatever word is in alignment with your beliefs, is never lost and offers infinite possibilities. Therefore, if something doesn’t work, new ways are found.

Maybe the change is what it took for you to let go and allow new possibilities to occur.

Sometimes you have to let go to free yourself.

Remember the proverbial monkey who grasps something in a vase but can’t remove it? The neck of the vase is so narrow that he has to release his grip just to get his hand out.

You’ll get results: your expectation, goal or something better. However, you may need to change your perspective or approach.

You may need to let go of your emotional and mental grasp to allow something better to come in.

What you focus on grows. In the past, have you chosen anxiety? Instead, enjoy a childlike trust and curiosity. Look for how the universe is assisting you. Consider it a mystery, and you delight in discovering an answer.

Believe there’s a happy ending, and focus on it. Why not? You probably tried fear and worry (over and over again), and they don’t produce lasting and fulfilling outcomes.

By the way, about out freelancer. All was far from lost. New jobs appeared through happenstance, and her big client came back a few months later. Her job situation worked out when she let go and shifted her perspective.

 

This is a reprint from February 7, 2011, of one of my most popular posts.

 

If you’d like to discover
how you can change
your losses to gains,

contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

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Wayne Dyer: “What if it Doesn’t Work?

March 18, 2019

Life’s challenges can make it hard to imagine how it’s possible to achieve and enjoy something better.

You might muse about what you really want, then pivot to see what’s actually going on in your life and think that you must be crazy. “How can I get there from here? Don’t kid yourself. Reality check. It’s impossible.”

That sets the stage for an age old question waiting in the shadows of your unconscious to speak: If I try, what if it doesn’t work?

Here’s another question… What if it does? What if it does work?!

A client, having just finished an excruciating year where her life bottomed out leaving her deflated and her energy flat lined, set goals that included $2 million in investments.

Especially considering what her life looked like at the time, that could seem like a pretty far fetched goal.

A year later, like a phoenix rising from the ashes of her disheartening past, she was hired by a company that previously had contracted with her for specific tasks. Part of her benefits include company stock valued over $2 million and earning more money than she ever made before.

She let go of enough of her painful adversities, doubt and fear. Now, she’s able to use her imagination to focus on what she wants and believing in herself. It worked.

Here’s Wayne Dyer explaining “What if it doesn’t work” and what to do about it on his PBS special. 

The student should constantly remind yourself if it doesn’t feel natural, if it doesn’t feel natural, it isn’t going to work.

Now I was being interviewed on a national television show, by a guy who was about five foot seven and weighed about 140#, and he did this long, intensive interview with me. And he said, “You mean to tell me that if I do everything that you say that I can become a linebacker for the New York Giants’ professional football team?” …

And I said, “Does it feel natural for you to be a linebacker for the New York Giants? Does that feel natural to you?” And he said, “No. It doesn’t.”

And if it just doesn’t feel natural to you, then all of the rest of this is just a waste of your energy.”

Now the question isn’t whether you’re going to become a linebacker on a professional football team, but does it feel natural for you to say:

  • I deserve prosperity?
  • Does it feel natural for you to say: I deserve to be in a state of well-being?
  • I deserve for my body to weigh exactly what I want it to weigh – what it is supposed to weigh?
  • Does it feel natural for you to say I am beautiful?
  • I am strong?
  • I am capable?
  • I am loved?

If it doesn’t feel natural, you’ve got a real problem going with your subconscious mind.

How can this naturalness be achieved? The secret lies in one word.

Imagination  

 

My latest program, Conscious Creators, highlights how to recognize and let go of limiting beliefs. Then you can more proficiently use… or misuse… your imagination and receive amazing results in all aspects of your life.

If you’re wondering what you’ve been imagining, look at your life.

Everything is given according to your belief.   

If you’d like to learn more about how to effectively re-imagine your life or business so you can LIVE it, and dump what you don’t want, email me at virginia@soulgoals.com

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy this post? Please share.

Ready to create your ideal
life or business
?
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
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I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

 

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How I COMPLETELY Missed My Goal

October 29, 2018

 

mountainIt felt as if I were about to climb a BIG mountain without the gear.

 

Small things can be easy to manifest, especially those that don’t come with a risk, like finding a convenient parking spot.

A while ago, I bought several boxes of a particular type of supplement on clearance at a supermarket. Recently, I noticed that I’d run out in a couple of days and casually thought that I’d find something to replace them.

It was an easy intention without any emotional fanfare. A few hours later, I found on clearance at the same market several boxes of a similar supplement by the same company. They may even be better than my original ones.

I had another goal. It was a BIG goal with a quick deadline. I felt pressure because it was important that I reach it; there would be consequences if I didn’t. To achieve it felt as if I were about to climb a mountain without the gear.

While other goals related to it manifested easily, I didn’t even scratch the surface of my BIG goal.

This is why.

I put so much monumental importance on it, and I made it such a BIG thing, that I blew the energy to manifest it. To turn a dream into reality requires a light touch. That’s the opposite of what I had. I couldn’t even imagine attaining my goal beyond giving it lip service.

Here’s more of how I completely missed my goal.

  • While I knew I wanted the goal, I had contradictory thoughts that I could achieve it. I made it so BIG in my thoughts that I doubted my ability to manifest it quickly.
  • Emotionally, I didn’t anticipate achieving it.
  • I couldn’t see myself achieving it.
  • When I thought about it, I couldn’t imagine HOW I could accomplish it. (Another big faux pas – let life figure out the how part).
  • While intellectually I knew it was possible, I didn’t believe I would do it.

So I didn’t manifest it.

Even though it looked like a window closed, the experience prompted me to open a door that I’d been slow to approach in the past. I mean, I could’ve opened Door #1 so long ago that the hinges now had become creaky. However, the door opened once I focused my attention on it.

Regardless of how it appeared, this turned into an opportunity that inspired me to change direction. Although I missed one goal, I learned a lot. I’m now better positioned to create positive results from even bigger ones.

I knew what I’d done, and then I read a quote by Abraham-Hicks to clarify even more. Here’s the quote:

“All the resources you will ever want or need are at your fingertips. All you have to do is identify what you want to do with it, and then practice the feeling-place of what it will feel like when that happens. There is nothing you cannot be or do or have. You are blessed Beings; you have come forth into this physical environment to create. There is nothing holding you back, other than your own contradictory thought. And your emotion tells you you’re doing that. Life is supposed to be fun—it is supposed to feel good! You are powerful Creators and right on schedule.

“Savor more; fix less. Laugh more; cry less. Anticipate positively more; anticipate negatively less. Nothing is more important than that you feel good. Just practice that and watch what happens.”  

 

 
I work with people who choose to share their gifts or
business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or
could use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love. 

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“PROSPERITY is God’s Idea” – 10 quotes

September 10, 2018

prosperity blessing
In the introduction of the book PROSPERITY is God’s Idea by Dr. Margaret M. Stevens is written:

“If you have struggled, perhaps for years, trying to make your available money cover all your needs… If you have felt cheated out of life’s blessings… If you have envied another’s possessions or life-style… If you think that poverty and limitation are God’s idea, and that you might as well get used to living without the luxuries and comforts of abundant living… Read on!!! This book was written for you.”

Following are quotes from the book. For some, you may be more comfortable substituting the word God for the universe or another word of your choice.

“True prosperity incudes an abundance of all the good things in life… good health, right relationships, satisfying work AND a more than ample supply of money.”

“Have you ever felt that you are unworthy? Remember that you are a child of God and therefore you inherit His bounty in the form of every good thing.”

“No person, place, thing or condition can keep your good from you… Nothing outside yourself denies you your good. Your own negative belief is the culprit. Deny that belief and replace it with a deep conviction in your good already manifested, and you will see that good flowing to you.”

“The power of the spoken word cannot be emphasized too strongly. By the words shalt thou be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned. Matthew 12:37″

“Emmet Fox, that great Truth teacher, said this about blessing: Bless a thing and it will bless you. Curse it and it will curse you. If you put your condemnation on anything in life, it will hit back at you and hurt you. If you bless a situation, it has no power to hurt you, and even if it is troublesome for a time, it will gradually fade out if you sincerely bless it.”

“Bless your money, your debts, your problems, your food, your body, your family, your business, your friends. You can improve every condition in your life by blessing it. Could anything be simpler? Try it!”

“There is no true prosperity unless the bank account is accompanied by health and happiness. Prosperity must involve the whole person.”

“If you think you need more money in order to be secure, your real need is to know God as your only source and supply.”

“You are here to express God through your particular talents and abilities.”

“The moment you start to fill your mind with these prosperous ideas, your transformation begins.”

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or
business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or
could use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love by discovering their Soul’s goals.

 

Copyright © 2018 Virginia Goszewska. All rights reserved.

12 Quotes to Inspire Your Thinking

July 16, 2018

“A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind.”

James Allen, As a Man Thinketh
James Allen (1864-1912) wrote what was to become a classic inspirational book As a Man Thinketh in 1903. However, his fame spread posthumously as he became regarded as a pioneer in modern inspirational thought.

Here is a collection of quotes from As a Man Thinketh. The italicized comments are mine.

Nobody can limit you unless your thinking makes it so…
“A person is limited only by the thoughts that he chooses.”

Regardless of what your outer circumstances look like, if you want to change them, change the way you think about your life now…
“You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.”

If you need energy for your goals, let go of dwelling on yesterday…
“Do not dwell upon the sins and mistakes of yesterday so exclusively as to have no energy and mind left for living rightly today.”

Time to stop blaming…
“The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state…Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.”

F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real…
“Doubt and fear are the great enemies of knowledge, and he who encourages them, who does not slay them, thwarts himself at every step.”

This is a good one for us as well as politicians…
“A man only begins to be a man when he ceases to whine and revile, and commences to search for the hidden justice which regulates his life. And he adapts his mind to that regulating factor, he ceases to accuse others as the cause of his condition, and builds himself up in strong and noble thoughts; ceases to kick against circumstances, but begins to use them as aids to his more rapid progress, and as a means of the hidden powers and possibilities within himself.”

If you don’t like aspects of your life, here’s how to change them…
“A particular train of thought persisted in, be it good or bad, cannot fail to produce its results on the character and circumstances. A man cannot directly choose his circumstances, but he can choose his thoughts, and so indirectly, yet surely, shape his circumstances.”

Improving your life is an inside job…
“Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves.”

And you have the ability to change your thoughts…
“All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts.”

Even if you want to help others, they have to be willing to receive…
“A strong man cannot help a weaker unless the weaker is willing to be helped, and even then the weak man must become strong of himself; he must, by his own efforts, develop the strength which he admires in another. None but himself can alter his condition.”

This is James Allen’s classic quote…
“As a man thinketh in his heart, so shall he be.”

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I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck, could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Copyright © 2018 Virginia Goszewska, All rights reserved.

Your Money: Feast or Famine

July 10, 2017

A few months of very sparse sales motivated a former client to once again join one of my mastermind teams to jumpstart his business.

In the last two months, his commission-based income increased dramatically. During a 1:1 session, he outlined every deal he’s closing this summer, totaling over $60,000.

He made a budget before we talked. “The money I’m making will carry me to the end of the year. With it I’ll pay my bills and taxes, buy a new vehicle that I need for my job, set money aside for savings and an emergency fund and get me out of worry.”

Choosing to be fiscally responsible, he felt he could only plan for what he knows for sure that he’ll have.

There were a couple of big telltale signs that he was setting himself up to go from feast to famine. 

First, he reminded me of a bear getting ready for hibernation. The way he talked, it was as if his business would go into a long sleep following the roll he’s now on.

What you see is what you get.

With his vision only focused on generating sales from his current pipeline, his business would only generate sales from his current pipeline. There was no mention of any future business.

Because of his past business scarcity, he was trying to protect himself from another financial shortage. In the process, though, he energetically designed plans for impending famine.

Second, an essential key to manifesting is feeling good first, not waiting until outer circumstances change before you feel good! Like attracts like. Worry does not attract experiences that leave you feeling good.

When we look around at circumstances that suck, it feels natural to complain, whine, get frustrated and angry. But that approach does NOT get us what we want.

I know because I’ve invested much of my life into this strategy. I’ve watched others try to improve their lives by talking about how bad things are.

Things only got worse.

This really is just a habit that digs a deeper hole of misery. It does not create success or financial flow.

Whatever you focus on grows. You’ll feel better focusing on what you choose, not on what you don’t like. (Unless you do that silly “yes BUT” routine of moaning because you’re not there yet… that’s not focusing on what you choose.)

He asked, “How can I know if more money will come if I can’t see it?”

Consider this. Life has a natural flow, and there’s an assumption it will continue without worrying about it.

You trust the sun rises and sets, even if you can’t see it because there are clouds in the sky.

We know, as Jim Morrison said, “No one here gets out alive.” Eventually your heart will stop beating.

Until that time comes, your heart continues to beat. There are steps to take for heart health. Do those. However, there’s no sense living your entire life as if your heart will stop in a few months.

Air is essential to breathe. If there are air issues, address those. However, there’s no sense living your entire life as if you won’t have air to breathe in a few months.

Life has its own flow.

Money has a flow, too.

My client got it. He said, “the beauty is its simplicity. In the past, my thinking about worry created limit.”

He saw how he could trust that the flow will continue in his finances just as the flow in nature continues… unless he stops it by worry.

“It’s insane to be whining, fretting and complaining. Instead, let abundance expand instead of raining on it with negativity.”

He decided “it makes more sense to have clarity, focus and appreciation.”

Allow yourself to trust that you can tap into a money flow. Focus on this flow, not that your money will get divided into little pieces leaving you with nothing.

You are powerful!! Making a choice to be in financial flow, without diluting your energy through worry and negative emotions, can make it so.

If you’re experiencing financial famine, change your focus by looking for natural flows of life.

Connect the dots. If the whole universe runs on flows, you can tap into the flow of financial abundance.

Focus on what you choose.

In the words of Star Trek’s Mr. Spock, “Live long and prosper!”

 

TIP: Ignite Your Passion

November 1, 2016

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What turns you on?

Do you dutifully go through day-to-day living?

Are you simply trying to make the best of your lot in life or do you complain about it and others?

Or do you know that, if you allow yourself to redirect your focus, your life can be sensational?

A few minutes ago, I returned from a tango performance by an Argentinian dance company.

The audience was wild with excitement.

The precision talent of the dancers, singers and musicians was inspiring.

However, unlike most everyone who watched, it didn’t ignite my passion.

If you’ve read my TIPS lately, you know I’ve attended several performances that sent me soaring.

The common denominator is that each uplifted me. Coupled with extraordinary talent, I walked away smiling a big YES to life.

Here’s what I noticed doesn’t turn me on.

Watching a drunk destroy his life and lose his disheartened woman after causing her misery.

Forcing a woman to be with him against her will – even dragging her.

Rivalry, jealousy and an uncaring spirit.

People being mean and cold to each other.

Violent knife fights.

Yes, this is art, and, of course, there’s freedom of expression.

Perhaps this was all to make a point to demonstrate consequences.

Yes, worse exists in this world.

Personally, I don’t find watching these uplifting or life-affirming.

The energy we fill ourselves with – drama or joy or fear – is what we’ll find mirrored in daily life, too.

I’ve learned a secret.  It’s why some succeed and others struggle.

The secret is found in what you focus on and how it makes you feel.

If you focus on misery and what makes you feel bad, you attract misery in your life.

Focusing on what makes you feel good brings you more things that make you feel good.

A friend told me that she’s turning into her mother – complaining.

The result? My friend felt depressed and hopeless.

She said she was whining and wine-ing too much.

Her mother died of cancer in her fifties. She believes her attitudes ate away at her, just like the cancer.

My friend woke up to what she was doing and made a decision to choose life – change her own attitude; watch what she was putting in her body; take care of herself better; focus on her goals and dreams instead of her limiting situation.

Focusing on negatives or mediocrity can keep you stuck.

You can focus on the bad and the ugly or the good and beautiful.

Remember, where your attention goes, energy flows. You’ll create more of the same.

If you focus on what makes you happy, your life is waay more enjoyable, too.

Feeling good is the master key to manifest the life and business of your dreams.

Life sucks for everyone at times. But where you focus and how you respond is a CHOICE.

Your TIP is to identify one or more things that ignite your passion… and go for it.

Yeah, yeah. You’re busy and have a lot of responsibilities. You gotta make money. You gotta do a lotta things. You really don’t have time. You feel exhausted. Others are depending on you.

You are depending on you, too!

This is your life. What are you doing to enjoy it?

What are you doing to take care of yourself?

What turns you on?

The company of supportive people who unconditionally care about you is a godsend.

This is one of the benefits of our mastermind teams.

For me, I love what I do helping people do what they love so their dreams come true.

And I believe my passion will be ignited when later this week I see The Temptations and The Four Tops in concert. I’ll let you know on my next TIP.

 

Virginia works with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. She helps them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming mastermind teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email Virginia at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

 

TIP: How Doubt Sabotages You

September 27, 2016

 

A photo by Oscar Keys. unsplash.com/photos/AmPRUnRb6N0

Doubt is like a blindfold that hides your success.

Consider these scenarios:

#1 You want something you believe you can have. This alignment feels good.

  • Results: Life brings you outcomes that match your feelings. What you imagined or something better manifests.

#2 You want something, but you begin to doubt and wonder “what if” it doesn’t work. This gap in alignment between what you want but think you can’t have feels bad. Or you’re so disappointed from past failures, you’re afraid to believe.

  • Results:  Life brings you outcomes that match your feelings. Things go haywire and don’t work just as you said they wouldn’t. Just as they haven’t been.

Why does positive expectation create positively and doubt sabotage?

Think of playing notes on an instrument.

  • Let’s say, in #1, you’re a note and your goal’s a note. When you feel good, there’s harmony. Energy aligns. You attract success.
  • When you introduce doubt, as in #2, you’re playing two notes that are in discord. Discord isn’t a vibrational match for you and your goal. Things go kerflooey (yes, this actually is a word).

Negative energy occurs when your thoughts and feelings are in opposition to your goals.

Your soul tells you one thing (yes, you can do it); your ego tells you the opposite (maybe… no, you can’t).

When you feel doubt, your energy is adversarial to what you want and hinders your success.  

Your TIP is to feel good, let go of doubting that you can succeed – and focus on this belief regardless of appearances.

Don’t believe your doubt.

Don’t buy into whatever is yucky in your life and act like that’s the ultimate truth.

The yuck was created because of your focus on limiting beliefs like doubt.

You CAN change your focus by making a decision to change it.

This video takes eight seconds to watch, and then repeats a few times in slow motion so you can witness this astonishing, holographic effect. Thanks to my friend Pat for sharing it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZRFcGrrsyc

Actually, this isn’t even a hologram. It’s an illusion of an illusion called augmented reality.

Don’t be blinded by your world of illusion and feel down because you don’t like what you see, then fill yourself with doubt because you can’t figure out how something can work.

There’s always a way out.

Believe.

TIP: The Happier Choice

June 7, 2016

anger

A man tried to passive-aggressively manipulate a woman, by attempting to get her to doubt herself, so she would do what he wanted.

An insecure woman controls her friend’s behavior by using her illness and fearful threats of taking away something he needs. He goes along with it because the intimidation clouds his ability to believe in himself and that he can find a solution elsewhere.

A therapist got angry with a peer who didn’t buy into her fear-based bullying which she communicated by demeaning words, raised voice, blaming others and mocking tone.

When change occurs, some people feel they’re losing control. It can feel as if their very life is threatened, and they’ll do whatever it takes to survive.

Chances are the perpetrators won’t see or believe what they’re doing.

Stand at arm’s length if you try to tell them lest they throw a punch. Ever hear the adage about not trying to teach a pig how to fly? A pig can’t fly, and you’ll just irritate the pig.

Yes, forgive them for they know not what they do… and take care of yourself! You have a responsibility to be steward of YOUR life.

You have a choice to be a follower of someone else’s fears and expectations, and give away your power, or think for yourself.

You won’t be truly happy unless you follow the rhythm of your own drum.

In avoiding dealing with situations like these (and there are countless variations), you might believe that when the people disappear into the sunset, it will be happy trails forever more. Not true.

Unless you address your “stuff,” you carry this vibration, these feelings, in your energy field. You’ll attract more of the same type of people and experiences in the future, even if your current situation goes away.

Why?

Life offers you opportunities to grow, release what’s not serving you and be free.

What does this have to do with you and your goals?

If you succumb to fear, you may find yourself doubting your ability to be richly compensated doing what you love.

You deserve much more.

Your TIP is to make the happier choice.

  • Trust yourself. Listen to the voice within and what your gut is telling you. Don’t elevate others’ opinions over your own.
  • Believe in your Self. YOU have a hotline to the Divine. Don’t diss that connection by letting others convince you that they know what’s good for you more than you do.
  • Don’t give away your power to fear and self-doubt (others or your own).

How can you do this?

  • Make choices on your behalf instead of trying to please people or kowtowing to fear. Your choices matter. You matter.
  • Listen to your inner guidance. Even if you’ve been ignoring it for a while doesn’t mean your spirit isn’t available 24/7 to give you nudges as well as to light up the best direction for you to take.
  • Pay attention to how you feel not to what you think you should do based on others’ opinions. Let good-feeling mojo be your guide.
  • Be in the now. The ego will have you long for or regret the past or be afraid of future what-ifs and worse-case scenarios. In the present, you can change your thinking and handle anything. Your power is in this moment.
  • Anticipate the best! Why not? It’s the attitude that brings positive results.

You can achieve your dreams in ways that surpass your wildest imagination. However, you must be a vibrational match to them.

Fear, manipulation, doubt and worry create more of the same. None of these are real.

Remember your Source, the real You, and make the happier choice: loving, supportive, creative, growing, free and in the Now.

Remember this, and you’re unstoppable!

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