You’re feeling great and in the flow. You can do it. This is your time. Nobody can stop you… until some dodo bird starts pecking away at you, and you want to run. (Note: dodo birds are extinct, flightless birds.)
Experiencing this way too often, and although she’s at the top of her business, competent and relatively young, my client told me that she couldn’t stop focusing on retirement.
She felt that she could no longer handle the stress created from customers’ unrealistic demands and exhausting herself to get them to see reason.
During her Soulgoals Session, she realized that she was attracting people who brought out a quality in her that was like her father – being judgmental. People weren’t acting the way she thought they should.
As like attracts like, she was magnetizing people who would bug her so that she could be “justifiably” judgmental.
To counterbalance her father’s inflexible attitude, she played the role of the peacemaker throughout her life. Now that he’s passed and she’s tired of “battling,” she thought those days were over.
However, his judgmental attitude was still alive inside her because she absorbed his energy, and she continued to attract people that required her to be the peacemaker.
She connected the dots and saw that unless she made inner changes, these patterns would follow her wherever she went – even into retirement.
She was on the verge of letting go of a great career instead of letting go of the unwanted energy she harbored within. It was time to stop blaming others and her business as they weren’t the problem.
Done with attracting challenging people who were like her father, she decided to release her judgmental energy and change her perspective.
“I don’t want to put up with other people’s stuff… my big insight is that if you leave, you’re not going to get away from your issues. Instead, deal with them through journaling.”
How to journal? Write what you’re feeling and thinking on paper, which helps to release the emotional charge on the issue. Then other perspectives have an opportunity to emerge and be considered.
Another client found herself consistently attracting unqualified clients.
One got nastily irate when she told him that his application didn’t go through. Although she quickly let him go as a client, she knew she had to change her focus to stop attracting dodo birds.
Whatever is focused upon grows.
In the past, she complained about how many applicants didn’t qualify, so she kept having more applicants who didn’t qualify.
Now, she focuses her attention on having great applicants who both qualify and purchase her high end products, all with grace and ease.
Her new perspective is working.
Are there the same (annoying) types of people or circumstances showing up in your life again and again?
Journal about how you feel when the dodo birds get you down.
- Does how you feel remind you of people from your past?
- When you notice the patterns, choose to let them go.
- Replace them with a new perspective.
- After, refocus on your wonderful dreams and goals instead of what you don’t want.
“Complaining about anything holds you in the place of refusing to receive the things you’ve been asking for. Justifying about anything holds you in the place of refusing to let in the very things that you’ve been asking for. Blaming someone holds you in the place of refusing to let in the things that you’ve been asking for. Feeling guilty, feeling angry, it doesn’t matter what you call it; it is a refusal, not a conscious one. You’re asking; you can’t help but ask. The Universe is yielding; it must yield. It’s a big question, folks: why aren’t you letting it in?”
Abraham-Hicks
By the way, all stories about my clients’ experiences are shared after having received their permission in advance. Their intention and mine is that others may benefit.
Original Soulgoals’ Blog was posted on July 31, 2017.
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