Posts Tagged ‘feel stuck’

Change Is in the Air. Are You Wondering if You’re the Problem? (No, there’s nothing wrong with you.)

March 12, 2018

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Their lives were going well, but they felt dissatisfied. Although highly successful and in different professions, the sentiments shared during their individual sessions were the same. They felt unmotivated or they were being held back. Something needed to change, and they didn’t know what or how to move forward.

They thought there was something wrong with themselves. They wanted to “blow out the cobwebs” that left them feeling “blocked, not ready and needing help to get back in the game.”

There was nothing wrong with them.

There’s nothing wrong with you, either.

It’s transition time.

In short, everyone, that includes you, has gone through a lot of changes and learned from them.

You’ve grown from your experiences. Even though things may look like business as usual, they’re not. If you try to do what you’ve always done in the way you’ve always done it, you may find yourself uninspired, confused, stuck, botching deals, making conversational faux pas or wondering if you’re missing the boat.

It’s simply time to move forward in a new way. But how?

Let’s start with the way you think. Thoughts travel on a bandwidth.

If you feel sorry for or bad about yourself, for example, the thoughts that follow will be negative, full of why you can’t do things and how nothing will work. And you’ll prove yourself right. You can’t, and they won’t work.

If you shift your focus to you’re okay, and you’re open to what God or the universe will bring you, then you can receive fresh ideas and directions to create results exceeding your expectations.

This shift can be a tricky bugger because you’ve been receiving ideas for your next step for a while, but subtly. The pointers to your shift may be something you’ve dismissed or thoughts you brushed aside as an interesting possibility. However, these may hold the keys to your future!

Look for what interests you, what makes you curious.

For instance, one of my clients realized it was time to jumpstart her marketing, but she had zero motivation to do it in the way she had in the past. Additionally, although she’s active on Facebook, she’s never approached it as a serious marketing tool.

The more we talked, she realized she had not one but three ideas that had been coming to her about how to use Facebook for business. This piqued her interest and energy to take action.

She also saw that when the world splats her like a bug with what she doesn’t want, she has a choice. Either to let it deflate her or turn it around to clarify and shift her focus to what she does want.

Another woman, who was flatlining about how to approach lucrative and creative business contracts she’d already won, became quite enthusiastic when an idea came to her about a personal project she could pursue.

Here’s why finding something that interests you is important:

Generally, if we have several things working and one that isn’t, we tend to focus on the one that isn’t. This bandwidth pulls us DOWN so we block our creative flow.

By focusing on something that interests us, we open ourselves UP to new visions that can inspire us to take action. When this happens, ideas can come to us about everything, including how to break free from whatever holds us back.

What fleeting thoughts have you had recently about new directions? Maybe they seemed to come from left field, so you didn’t pay much attention to them. However, they could be clues for you.

What interests you?  What excites you? Explore that.

The world awaits your specialness that only YOU have! The discomfort of change is your Inner Essence nudging you forward to your greatness.

Take a step.

There’s always a way out.

P. S. Know someone who might be interested in this?  Please share.

I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.


You’re Not Alone. You Have a Team on the Other Side.

March 5, 2018

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“I’ve gone through so much that I’m not the same person I used to be. My identity has changed. I used to be tied up with a self-image that isn’t me anymore.

“Who I’ve become is so much better. However, included in this shift is that I used to have a business team, people I could go to for help. I don’t have that anymore. Now that I’m starting over… well, it’s different. I’m not sure how to do it by myself, especially with so many options in front of me.”

What I’m going to share next may seem to you comforting, surprising, hopeful or a fantasy. It depends on you and your beliefs.

This is the way my client felt, too, even though she’s had experience with calling on a team on the other side of the veil, the real yet invisible world.

She’s had moments in the past when she was stuck, called on her team and unexplainable outcomes occurred.

She wanted to know more.

“How do I know they exist? How does it work? How do they help? Are they real?”

This begs answers to more questions like these:

Are we alone? Is there anyone watching over us? If so, can non-physicals and loved ones who’ve passed really help us in our everyday lives? When people leave this world, are they dead and gone or do they live on but in a different way than we do on earth? We’re so geared to seeing is believing, if we can’t see them, how do we know we’re not making this stuff up? Are these just coincidences or tricks of the brain?

So she set an intention for a demonstration, and she wanted it to be fast and fun.

Two minutes after our session ended, she received a phone call from an unknown number.

It was a person who she hadn’t seen for a while. He asked if she could do a project. It would be fun to do and lucrative.

The response was fast. They project was fun.

Soon after, I received a joyful call. “I see how this works.”

There is power in the unseen.

Another woman tearfully explained that a new job she was about to start turned out to be ten hours a week instead of full-time, and she was counting on the much needed money. She also saw that her soon-to-be-boss was a slippery character.

She didn’t know any place she could get immediate work or anyone to contact.

“I feel so alone.”

I shared that if she focused on what wasn’t working, she’d get more of the same — more of what’s not working. It’s like listening to a radio station, which is on a certain frequency. Don’t expect to get talk radio if you’re listening to one that plays rap. They’re on different wavelengths.

We discussed the power of letting go of trying to figure it out, a limited activity of the ego. Instead, open to the creativity within and the infinite resources of the team on the other side. Ask them for help.

Feeling discouraged and very tired, she had to take a nap after our call.

Six hours later, I got this text:

“Wow. My previous employer is now trying a way to help me get work and get paid now. Amazing.”

You have unseen resources to help you right now, regardless of whatever’s going on in your life. With these you can access infinite possibilities that you can’t see with your limited perception.

You receive them when you ask for help, let go of the struggle as best you can and are open to receive. Be willing to accept answers and solutions beyond your preconceived ideas of what you can imagine.

It’s okay if it’s an implausible stretch to believe that in this very second you have support beyond what you can see, feel and touch.

I invite you to experiment and be open to create miracles.

P. S. Know someone who might be interested in this?  Please share.


I work with people, at any age,

who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.


This Stops You From Getting What You Want

January 23, 2017


Sacred Cow: an idea, custom, or institution held, especially unreasonably, to be above criticism (with reference to the Hindus’ respect for the cow as a sacred animal).” from Bing

Historically for Hindus, cows provided food, fuel, disinfectant and fertilizer. In other words, cows were needed for survival. Eating the cow for meat works for the moment, but there goes the source of milk, dried cow dung for fuel, fertilizer and more.

How can leaders communicate to the masses not to kill their cows? Make them sacred. Make killing them taboo.

Likewise, we have beliefs that made sense once upon a time, like telling children not to talk with strangers.

However, especially if you’re in business or working with the public as an adult where talking with new people is essential, this pattern can thwart your success.

In humble prayer: God, I’ll do anything you want. Anything. Except see that one little thing? Not that. Otherwise, anything.

God replies: Focusing on that one thing is the only thing I ask of you now.

That which is so sacred to you, that idea or belief that you don’t want to consider, can be the one thing that stops you from getting what you want.

It’s usually some way you’ve always done things, the way you’ve always thought or felt – even if it doesn’t work or makes you feel unhappy.

What if you based your thinking on a few faulty or limited premises?

Don’t you go asking me about my mama. Although therein can lie the key to your self-esteem and ability to set boundaries.

That’s sacred cow/ sacred belief territory. Back off. However, those who have the courage to look can find freedom.

Those type of entrenched neural pathways in your brain can make you feel that you have to chew on distressing thoughts  – that’s just a habit to keep you spinning in circles.

The ego wants to figure things out, and in doing so, you can stay stuck for years wanting to understand and know why… because it’s so complicated.

That habit of thinking is a trap, like the Sirens calling the boats to shore so they’ll crash.

Do what Odysseus did for his crew. Put metaphoric wax in your ears. Restrain yourself from the addictive pull of the way you usually think; it’s easier to do when you refocus your attention on happier things.

Maybe the lesson to be learned is to let go and take your life back.

Beliefs are only thoughts you repeatedly think. You HAVE the power to think other thoughts. Choose to stop letting others and circumstances control what goes on in your head and influence how you feel.

My church tells me such-and-such, so I can’t consider anything else.

Every week as part of the religious service when I was a kid, I thrice hit my heart with my fist as I spoke aloud three times: “Lord, I’m not worthy.”

Talk about pounding a (false) belief into the body.

In my family we always follow tradition. So a man became a lawyer even though his heart wasn’t in it, he wanted to be in another profession, felt miserable – and his wallet reflected it.

When companies go through changes, they often challenge the way things have always been done – the sacred cows of their culture or systems.

What beliefs do you hold so dearly that they’re beyond criticism, beyond your examination that they might not be true?

Your sacred cow beliefs may be the very ones holding you back from getting what you want – happiness, more money and success, better relationships, health and business.

Summon the courage to look. Journal about it.

You can live your dreams, be happy, be richly compensated doing what you love, and invest in yourself instead of taking care of everyone else.

What a concept.

Why not be happy? Only your sacred cow beliefs will tell you a limiting answer because your essence only chooses for you to be free and enjoy life.

P.S. If you feel this sacred cow message might be moo-sic to someone’s ears, please forward.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

TIP: Have More Fun & Adventure for Success

August 1, 2016


Outside on a corner of my roof, wasps like to party – in spite of my calling the flying insect police on them a few times.

Meanwhile, one of the screens on my back porch was knocked down, and a couple of wasps found their way inside.

Although they could have escaped easily the same way they got in, they congregated on a screen that’s near party central and has no way out.

They gravitated toward what they know is home even though they weren’t able to get there from where they were. Even though they have the tools, the wings to fly, their approach wasn’t working.

They escaped when I did a catch and release with them.

It can be like having goals. Some people can know where they want to go, but it’s not possible to get there from where they are.

The business model and all the tools of the trade can be in place. Yet, success, if any, is limited.

If you’re speeding along on a track where you know that your life or business could be greater, it can be challenging to recognize you’re on the wrong track let alone know how to get on the right track for you.  

How can you know if you’re on the right track?

Check out how you feel. Do you have good feeling mojo, momentum created from feeling good?

Here’s how some people from this morning’s mastermind group described it at the end of our call:

  • I have so much energy, I can’t wait to go to work and create.
  • I don’t doubt myself. I own who I am and what I do.
  • I feel anchored, grounded and filled with enthusiasm.
  • What a magical way to start my week.

While masterminding, people share their vision of team members living their dreams. Someone once said, “where else do you go to hear regularly how wonderful you are?”

Which creates better results? The voice in your head doubting your ability to succeed OR being open to infinite possibilities and knowing you will thrive.

“Through others’ words and how they see me, It helps me see and acknowledge my gifts,” a team member commented.

“In the past, I had limiting beliefs about myself which took away from what I’m doing. My thinking was that I didn’t have enough experience, education and more.

“I made up stories from my childhood about how I couldn’t do things.

“Now I know that I and my experiences are more than enough. I have self-confidence, self-worth and self-esteem. I value my own talent whereas before I thought I needed degrees, something other than what I had and be someone different.”

Newton’s First Law of Motion states that a body at rest will remain at rest unless an outside force acts on it, and a body in motion at a constant velocity will remain in motion in a straight line unless acted upon by an outside force.

In other words, we’ll keep doing what we’re doing unless acted up by an outside force, just like the wasps. They knew their goal, but their best instincts were not producing viable results.  

Stuck and limited are boring and not fun, especially when you’re destined for much more.

If you’d love to change your life and business into adventurous success that surpasses your wildest imagination, there’s a new Resolved for Results group starting this week.

Contact me at vg@ResolvedForResults to discover if this is a key to unlock your business and life to be awesome!

Don’t be stuck doing the same thing hoping for different results. Your TIP is identify one way for your business or life to be more fun and adventurous.

Now implement it with the intention that this is your turning point.

If you’re open to receive outside help to have more fun as you create greater success and adventure, contact me at

TIP: Never Give Up – Part 2

May 24, 2016


On the brink of financial ruin – IRS threats, losing big clients, her vendors, office space and beloved home – my client was in a whole heap of trouble. This is the 11th hour.

Here’s Part 2 of the Never Give Up story that I mentioned I’d share on a recent TIP.

It all started when my client bought out her partner for $$$.

She didn’t find out until months later that the IRS would saddle her with her partner’s share of the taxes, and they wanted to take her house.

Not only did she need substantial six figures to pay for taxes and business overhead quickly, expected income from clients was delayed significantly.

The dominoes started falling, and she delayed payments to her vendors (even though she’d always been on time before).

Some vendors started to bug her very big client for money, and he called her office in an outrage. Even though he received great results from her service for over a decade, he was on the verge of wanting out.

An hour before she was scheduled to talk with him one-on-one, she and I had a session.

Panic. Fear. Hopelessness. If he backed out now, she’d barely have a chance for her business to survive. Escape to Mexico was considered.

But during our time together, she did a 180 turnaround.

With little likelihood of coming up with $50K in an hour, we used techniques to change her trajectory of a train wreck that looked inevitable.

Instead of hiding, she decided to talk with his soul, stop avoiding him, take responsibility and walk through her fears. 

She switched from poor me to being proactive.

When he didn’t show up for their appointment, she contacted him.

By the time they talked the following day, she was an empowered woman.

She was sincerely apologetic. However, with strength, she focused on how her company was poised for their best year ever.

He said that he trusted she would handle it. End of crisis.

Very soon after, she was told that eviction proceedings were to begin to boot her out of her office because she was ten days overdue – delivered by management of the building owner with whom she’s had a 13 year business relationship.

Now, she was feeling great about her ability neither to hide nor react in fear to her seemingly disastrous situation.

She said, “I felt that if I’d face things, I’d have to be bitchy. Not true. Being honest, humble and empowered worked.”

Miraculously, she learned that her landlord had been avoiding her. He was mortified that his manager had issued an eviction notice.

Instead of her apologizing, this man who’s worth millions brought her candy to apologize!

Her reaction to the news from the IRS set in motion an energy of fear where she became a magnet for more debacles.

When she let go of what-if-the-worse-happens or resentment of how she got in her situation, she shifted her energy.

When she focused on her crises, more piled up.

When she focused on her successes and positive future, her obstacles dissolved.

“I know God is ready to bless me beyond my wildest dreams, and I went through this to understand profitability, be brave and be responsible instead of avoiding problems.”

Learning about the IRS sent her into despair for a few days.

But, this masterminder decided to use what looked like the death knell of her business to motivate her to greater success.

Recently, major, national businesses have become her clients, transforming her from a falling star to a rock star… which will solve her IRS debt.

And, she’s chosen to be done with 11th hour saves.

Your TIP is to look at something that’s not working for you in your business or life…  change your perspective and shift your energy.

What are you avoiding? How can you deal with it in an empowered way?

No more tail between your legs. No defensiveness. No lashing out. No blaming. No complaining or whining. No being overwhelmed with the seeming inevitability of defeat. No making yourself wrong or beating yourself up.

No more avoiding people or appointments because you don’t want to deal with stuff.

No more making excuses and lying in your attempts to save face.

No more acting like little kids who hold their hands in front of their faces while thinking nobody can see them because they cover their eyes. 

Instead, tap into your inner resources and put things in perspective.


YOU are greater than any problem!

You have infinite power to create and recreate your world.

Look at your bigger picture. See how, in spite of appearances, your life is arranging itself on your behalf.

Believe in you.

Never give up even if it looks like you’re in the 11th hour.

Know that things are always working out for you – because they are!

TIP: What to Do When You DON’T Know What to DO

April 7, 2016

I felt like I backed myself into a corner.

I was running out of time to complete writing projects – and my deadline was already extended.

My cat kept me up half the night because she was sick.

I woke up with a debilitating headache because when I eventually fell asleep, my head was in an awkward position.

I felt miserable.

Not able to focus on my business for a week because of my project.


Then, it occurred to me that I’m creating this.

I forgot to consciously create my day through intention.

Instead, I focused on how I was going to get everything done.

I wondered about what I was going to do.

How I didn’t feel well.

And my approach wasn’t working. I felt stuck.

Then, I remembered.

I forgot to choose to be in Divine Flow.

When I did, I stopped pushing.

Took a nap.

Ideas came how I could resolve obstacles to complete my projects.

I started to feel better – physically and emotionally.

My feline friend felt better, too.

To explain what I mean by divine flow, here’s an excerpt from my program Resolved for Results: A Step-by-Step Guide to Do What You Love… even if you failed before, lost hope, are afraid, stressed or confused.

“If you’re struggling or suffering, change your perspective. The struggle may come because you’re trying to control or swim upstream against the current.

“If the going gets tough, maybe you’re going in the wrong direction.

“Life is designed to be in divine flow. If you’re struggling or suffering, you’re going against the flow. Maybe you think you should be acting and thinking a certain way, but that’s actually what’s holding you back and putting you in a flow that’s other than divine. If you are, choose to be in divine flow; continue to choose this.

“Let go of how you think things should be so your focus can shift to the present moment and what is. Allow new perspectives and options to emerge.”

Today’s TIP is simple – for you to implement and for me to share.

Choose to be in divine flow.

It seems to defy logic that this can make it difference.

A few seconds of setting this intention, choosing a belief, sets your day in a positive direction.

You can do this at any time of the day, especially if things start getting wonky.

Observe how your life changes for the better.

You may notice how things change a lot or step-by-step.

Either way, instead of “if it’s not one thing, it’s another,” you shift your trajectory so the track you’re on is “things get better and better.”

Live the life you’re meant to enjoy.

If you have questions or comments, just ask.

TIP: How I Manifested Tax Money & New Car

March 29, 2016

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April 15 is fast approaching with looming tax deadlines. I thought you might like reassurance that all is well, or can be, with your financials. It’s time to press the easy button.

So, I’m resurrecting segments of some of my popular, archived blogs to remind you of your ability to manifest what you choose – if you allow yourself to stop worrying, let go of struggling, and remember your true worth…

Contrary to my logical thinking, I manifested money to pay taxes and buy a brand new car. All this was done without worrying – or, more accurately, because I didn’t worry.

Conclusion? Don’t stress. Manifest.

Feeling dissatisfied or frustrated while wanting life to be different focuses you in the wrong direction.

Taking action on possibilities with belief attracts results.

Want proof? Here’s how I manifested my:

Money to Pay Taxes: I needed $$ in five weeks to pay taxes. One of many strategies was to ask a client to pay me three months in advance. Before I finished my proposal during a lunch meeting, he cut me off by saying, “I’ll pay you a year in advance.” By the way, it was the first time I’d seen him in person in three years.

During our meeting, I showed him educational tapes I thought he’d like, valued at $50. One of them I picked up from the mailman while in my car as I backed out of the driveway to meet him. My client gave me a $100 bill on the spot so he could listen to them right away.

How?  I followed through on ideas that popped in my head by taking action. An attitude of “success is the only option” focused my intention which produced results beyond what I anticipated.

Car: While focusing on money for taxes, I explored ways to save. Interest on my car loan was nearly 14%. When I looked into refinancing at a dealership, I learned I could get a new car, if I qualified, for 1.9% interest. I told them that I didn’t need the car and would buy only if I got that interest rate. I was approved, and my car payment was only $1 a month more. They took my car as a trade-in and later refunded me $1,000 for its warranty.

There was, however, only one thing they required – an additional $100. I handed them the Ben Franklin my client gave me for the tapes an hour earlier and drove away in my brand new car.

How? I followed through with where I was led although buying a new car seemed like a crazy thing to do. (I only meant to lower the interest rate on my car). I felt neither needy nor desperate to get the car.

Why did I even consider spending money to buy a car when my single-minded focus was on bringing in money for taxes?

Because I consciously chose to take action on ideas rather than over-think and pre-judge them.

I made a decision to live by a new mindset. I acted on and said yes to financial opportunities that I would have otherwise said no to, put off or not bothered with.

My new “uncomfortable comfort zone” mindset allowed me to quickly step into unknowns with no procrastination.

It got me thinking. Why worry?

When I got out of the way and allowed life to do its magic, things worked out.

When they didn’t work is when I put a kibosh on things. I fretted by wondering if enough people would attend an event. I worried if I’d have enough money for something. I got discouraged and frustrated that things might not work out the way I thought they should.

Therefore, I manifested what I focused on – what I didn’t want.

Worry doesn’t pay – especially the bills.

TIP: How I Manifested Tax Money & New Car

Your life has always been blessed with miracles. The near miss from having an accident. A smile from a stranger, an email or a phone call when you felt down and on your way out. Things turned around in your favor. You miraculously manifested a goal.

Here are 5 Steps to Manifest Results:

  1. Refocus your attention by making a list of your miracles and successes.
  2. Breathe and relax.
  3. Set an intention to receive what you choose for your life.
  4. Choose to be in divine flow.
  5. Take action.

Focus on what you’re grateful for, and you’ll multiply your reasons to be grateful.

By the way, for support to help you manifest great results in your business and finances, contact me for a one-hour complimentary Do What You Love Break Free Session at

Happy manifesting!

TIP: Spring Into Action

March 22, 2016

Today is a new day

What would happen if you truly realized your power and focused it? How would your life change?

How great would your relationships and home life be? Your business and finances? Your health and vitality? How much better would you feel?

What would more insight, balance and innate intelligence do?

You send out energy and a universal force matches it – you see the results in your world. Life isn’t arbitrary. It’s the effect of your clarity, thoughts, beliefs and feelings.

Spring is in the air regardless of what the weather’s doing. It reveals opportunities for change.

A woman shared that her husband, who’s the major breadwinner, lost his job last month. She was encouraged when reminded what happened during the weekend. First, there was a storm with hail, rain and strong winds. The next day brought blue skies and sun.

No matter what’s going on in your life, what you might consider good or bad, there’s always an opportunity for growth and something better with blue skies.

You’re the creator of what your next chapter looks like. Spring offers a new chapter for you to write.

A key is to hold a clear image and feeling of what you choose.

When doubt sneaks in, you tarnish the image and produce tarnished results.

Then, take inspired action.

TIP: Spring Into Action

Tap into the energy of spring as an opportunity to renew your business and life.

Revisit your dreams and goals. How are you doing? Are you making any progress?

In a way, your answer doesn’t matter as it reflects your past.

It’s your current decision that makes a difference.

Every day take a step in the direction of your goals.

Believe you can create something fun and wonderful, and you can.

When you tap into this feeling, you create good feeling mojo.

The more you enjoy this energy, the easier it is for you to be richly compensated doing what you love.

This or something better.

Regardless of your circumstances, you have a choice about how you feel about you, your goals and your life.

No calamities, people or experiences can dictate how you respond and feel.

Learn. Grow. Move on. Spring into action.

Be richly compensated doing what you love.

One more thing…

Maybe you’re thinking I know all this, but there must be a disconnect because I’m so ready for new and better.

To spring into action and your awesomeness, contact me for a free, one-hour Do What You Love Break Free Session at

TIP: The 4 P’s Keys to Break Free

March 8, 2016


Are you ready, perhaps beyond ready, to break free from the sameness of your business or life (same money, people, problems, etc.), debt or feeling the drag of whatever’s not working for you?

Wherever you are, there IS a way to free yourself so you can share your gifts with the world in a bigger way and be richly compensated.

Here are four keys that can help:

PLANNING and PERSPECTIVE: Bring on an elixir that brings results – a CEO meeting with the Divine.

Seriously, this really works.

Take time to write your needs and choices (not just talk and beg) and ask God, the universe or however you relate to the Powers That BE for help. By pausing to gain perspective and accessing this source of Love and wisdom, you open yourself to direction and miracles.

Use your meeting to write down plans, insights and ideas. You may not know what to do, but you’re not asking you. Open to receive guidance.

Numerous times when I thought there were no solutions, new paths appeared where they previously hadn’t existed. If you keep the faith, you can gain both perspective and results.

For more details, check out my very first blog post

PROMOTION: To move forward requires connecting with others. Create or foster relationships. Share your ideas. Believe enough in you and what you do to promote your vision to others. Open to new ways to share or market you and your gifts.

If you don’t know how, go back to the CEO meeting with the Divine. If an idea doesn’t pop in immediately, it’s on its way.

Surround yourself with people who have positive energy and care about you. A mastermind team can offer support and focus to stay on track with your goals. Be sure you’re receiving not just giving.

By the way, don’t be so self-centered that you only care about you. Healthy relationships are about balance.

Decades ago, I saw a skit that I still remember. While singing a beautiful opera aria, a woman was surrounded on stage with numerous people. However, she was so preoccupied with her own voice without paying attention to others that, one by one, they left the stage.

At the end of the song, she was alone.

If you’re consumed with your greatness, opinions or problems and consistently share these without a sincere interest in others, you may find your support dwindling.

PERFORMANCE: Take action. Work your business. Improve your skills. Meet with clients and prospects. Spend time on money-generating activities, if that’s your goal. Give your best service to the world in whatever capacity you can in the moment. Allow the universe to meet you half way by being visible and participating in life.  

TIP: The 4 Keys to Break Free

You ARE important, so take time for you.

  • Pull out a pad of paper and have a meeting with your CEO.
  • Reach out and connect. Build relationships. Share your vision with those who might be supportive or can advance you in doing what you love.
  • Five days a week, take action to move you in the direction of your vision. What starts out as a small step can gain momentum – and you’ll be unstoppable.

BONUS: Set an intention that your plans are working. Your ideas might not manifest exactly as you thought, but they may emerge better than imagined. Find a saying that inspires you and repeat it, such as:

Life always work out in my favor. Life always work out in my favor. Life always work out in my favor. 

You can discover it does, if you’re open to believe.

In case your CEO meeting or gut tells you to get more support, clarity or share your gifts in a bigger way, contact me for a free, one-hour Do What You Love Break Free Session at

I work with people who long to share their gifts with the world in a bigger way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them find their passion and be richly compensated doing what they love.

TIP: 4 Ways to Get Unstuck

January 25, 2016

cat yarn

Feeling stuck in your business or life? There are ways to free yourself – like untangling or cutting loose a cat who’s balled up in yarn. By the way, just because it’s stuck, there’s nothing wrong with the cat anymore than there’s anything wrong with you!

To help you unravel your stuckness, here’s an excerpt from the manual of my program Resolved for Results: A Step-by-Step Guide to Live Your Dreams… even if you failed before, lost hope, are afraid, stressed or confused.

A client who emailed a request to her mastermind team wrote, “I have calls out to people, but things seem stuck.” Her goal was well written and specific, including her filling appointments for three cities and a meet and greet.

But I felt the fear under her request and called her. She told me she felt pressure because an out-of-state manager was flying in, and she didn’t have appointments scheduled.

We discussed anticipating the best and letting go of expectation. Part of this letting go was a preoccupation with numbers – the number of bookings. Instead, I recommended she focus on the quality of appointments vs. the quantity.

The next night she sent us a long email. “I woke up fresh and energetic, turned things over to my CEO (God)… I decided that I was not going to “push” to “make” anything happen.” [Her bold print]

Results? Before the end of that day, key people either returned her calls to book or called prospects on her behalf to fill the appointments for her! A big client contacted her to book four trainings. She hosted a successful event that afternoon plus found a perfect venue for a board member retreat following an unsuccessful month-long search.

If you hold onto how you expect life should be, what a person should do, or what’s supposed to fulfill you, you not only limit yourself but block your success and create unnecessary pain and suffering.

It pulls you away from the present moment and foists you into an imagined future of potential disappointment, discouragement, frustration, sadness, anger, or helplessness.

The beauty of the present moment is that it opens you to what’s in alignment with your soul. If one way doesn’t work, there’s a reason. Something better is available… if you allow it into your world.

Instead of longing for what mighta, woulda, coulda or shoulda been, notice the gift of accepting what is.

Anticipating the best instead of expecting specific outcomes makes your words more powerful and opens you to results designed for the highest and best interest for all. It’s an important lesson, and I invite you to consider it in case it’s making the difference between creating difficulties or catapulting you to greater success and abundance.

TIP:  4 Ways to Get Unstuck

Identify where you feel stuck. Feeling stuck is an emotional response that can leave you feeling there’s no way out. Instead, you can find a way to untangle yourself from whatever has gotten you balled up and take productive action. Here are four alternatives that can help:

  1. You’re frustrated because you’re trying to control the outcome by expecting it (or people) to be the way you think it should. Alternative: Relax and anticipate this or something better will occur. Stop trying to micromanage the world. This opens you to tune into new ideas and directions.
  2. You’re beating yourself up with regrets or other limiting thoughts and emotions because of your situation. Alternative: Release judging you, others and your circumstances. Replace it with an empowering perspective that you’re learning, and all is in divine order and timing.
  3. You’re focusing on how things aren’t working. Alternative: focus on what you choose and the good feeling mojo it creates. Good feeling mojo is what opens you to manifest more quickly and with grace and ease.
  4. You’re pushing to make things happen. Alternative: Stop resisting (and exhausting yourself about) what is and allow things to be the way they are. You getting fussy about it won’t change it or help. Let go. Let God. Set new goals for what you choose. Take action from this perspective.

When you shift your energy, you allow life to create miracles and successes beyond your wildest expectations.