A woman I knew took personal, salsa dancing lessons from a friend of mine who was a popular, salsa teacher in town. While the woman enjoyed dancing, she had little dance training nor did she have experience in the rhythm or style of Latin dance.
However, that didn’t stop her from telling my friend how she was teaching her wrong and what the steps were supposed to be. She wouldn’t listen to anything other than what she wanted to hear, wouldn’t see how the dance actually looked other than her impression of how she thought it was supposed to look, wouldn’t talk about anything other than her interpretation of what the dance was.
After a couple of classes, she decided to stop the lessons.
She wasn’t teachable, and she wouldn’t allow herself to listen or learn beyond her preconceived ideas.
Several years ago, another woman was desperate to join one of my mastermind programs. Part of the experience is 1:1 partnering sessions where every couple of weeks team members switch partners.
In the first week, this woman went to each of five team members to share her story.
After politely listening, each member then redirected her attention to solutions. She wasn’t interested.
Her intention was on others hearing her story and feeling validated. Her focus was centered on her confusion, her circumstances and how what she wanted to do wasn’t working, not on getting on track or creating actual results.
Five people called me individually to tell me how they really tried to help her, but she wasn’t open. Not getting the type of attention she wanted, she left the group after the second week.
“Listen, be teachable. Laugh at good stories and learn to tell them. For as long as you are green, you can grow.”
Mother Teresa
“Be teachable. That is the whole secret.”
Vernon Howard
Being heard by others is a gift. Are you also open to receive?
What can you do to be teachable? Choose to be open to the guidance that life brings you moment by moment. Sounds too simple, but your intention will open you to learn.
Are you open to receive ideas and solutions or is your focus on having your story heard? Are you reliving familiar feelings when you repeat your story?
Are you teachable?
First posted on Soulgoals’ Blog, April 23, 2018
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