Archive for the ‘Failure’ Category

How I COMPLETELY Missed My Goal

October 29, 2018

 

mountainIt felt as if I were about to climb a BIG mountain without the gear.

 

Small things can be easy to manifest, especially those that don’t come with a risk, like finding a convenient parking spot.

A while ago, I bought several boxes of a particular type of supplement on clearance at a supermarket. Recently, I noticed that I’d run out in a couple of days and casually thought that I’d find something to replace them.

It was an easy intention without any emotional fanfare. A few hours later, I found on clearance at the same market several boxes of a similar supplement by the same company. They may even be better than my original ones.

I had another goal. It was a BIG goal with a quick deadline. I felt pressure because it was important that I reach it; there would be consequences if I didn’t. To achieve it felt as if I were about to climb a mountain without the gear.

While other goals related to it manifested easily, I didn’t even scratch the surface of my BIG goal.

This is why.

I put so much monumental importance on it, and I made it such a BIG thing, that I blew the energy to manifest it. To turn a dream into reality requires a light touch. That’s the opposite of what I had. I couldn’t even imagine attaining my goal beyond giving it lip service.

Here’s more of how I completely missed my goal.

  • While I knew I wanted the goal, I had contradictory thoughts that I could achieve it. I made it so BIG in my thoughts that I doubted my ability to manifest it quickly.
  • Emotionally, I didn’t anticipate achieving it.
  • I couldn’t see myself achieving it.
  • When I thought about it, I couldn’t imagine HOW I could accomplish it. (Another big faux pas – let life figure out the how part).
  • While intellectually I knew it was possible, I didn’t believe I would do it.

So I didn’t manifest it.

Even though it looked like a window closed, the experience prompted me to open a door that I’d been slow to approach in the past. I mean, I could’ve opened Door #1 so long ago that the hinges now had become creaky. However, the door opened once I focused my attention on it.

Regardless of how it appeared, this turned into an opportunity that inspired me to change direction. Although I missed one goal, I learned a lot. I’m now better positioned to create positive results from even bigger ones.

I knew what I’d done, and then I read a quote by Abraham-Hicks to clarify even more. Here’s the quote:

“All the resources you will ever want or need are at your fingertips. All you have to do is identify what you want to do with it, and then practice the feeling-place of what it will feel like when that happens. There is nothing you cannot be or do or have. You are blessed Beings; you have come forth into this physical environment to create. There is nothing holding you back, other than your own contradictory thought. And your emotion tells you you’re doing that. Life is supposed to be fun—it is supposed to feel good! You are powerful Creators and right on schedule.

“Savor more; fix less. Laugh more; cry less. Anticipate positively more; anticipate negatively less. Nothing is more important than that you feel good. Just practice that and watch what happens.”  

 

 
I work with people who choose to share their gifts or
business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or
could use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love. 

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11 Inspirational Quotes on Success & Your Dreams by Paulo Coelho

August 20, 2018

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In the first week of its release in 1988, only one person bought a copy from a local bookseller of the now classic The Alchemist by Brazilian writer Paulo Coelho. One more copy was bought from that same person six months later. After one year, his publisher cancelled Coelho’s contract. He was 41 and desperate.

However, this living legend never lost faith in his dream or his book, in spite of ingrained beliefs. He writes in his introduction, “we are told from childhood that everything we want to do is impossible. We grow up with this idea, and as the years accumulate, so too do the layers of prejudice, fear, and guilt. There comes a time when our personal calling is so deeply buried in our soul as to be invisible. But it’s still there.”

Despite defeats and his fears, he went from one publisher to the next, and his book was picked up by U.S. publisher HarperCollins. After a time, President Bill Clinton was photographed with a copy. Julia Roberts commented about The Alchemist during an interview for Vanity Fair magazine. With acclaims from Rush Limbaugh to Will Smith, The Alchemist became a phenomena. The book hit a milestone by being on the New York Times bestseller list for over 300 weeks and is now an international bestseller translated into more than 80 languages.

As Coelho describes in the Introduction, “A man sets out on a journey, dreaming of a beautiful or magical place, in pursuit of an unknown treasure. At the end of his journey, he realizes the treasure was within him the entire time.”

Each year, hundreds of thousands walk the Camino in Spain or Portugal. I became enchanted with this quest in another of his international bestsellers The Pilgrimage, a novel that blends adventure with self-mastery.

Regardless if you choose to fulfill your heart’s desire or enjoy better health, a loving relationship, financial prosperity or happiness, may you be inspired to live your dream!

Enjoy these quotes by Paulo Coelho.

“It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.”

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”

“Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.”

“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.”

“Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.”

“If you want to be successful, you must respect one rule – Never lie to yourself.”

“When I had nothing to lose, I had everything. When I stopped being who I am, I found myself.”

“There is one great truth on this planet: whoever you are, or whatever it is that you do, when you really want something, it’s because that desire originated in the soul of the universe. It’s your mission on earth.”

“One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.”

 
I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or could use new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what
they love by discovering their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2018 Virginia Goszewska.  All rights reserved.

TIP: You’re a Winner

June 22, 2016

Im a Winner

 

Did you ever have any of these thoughts?

I’m not good enough. If people knew what I feel behind my confident smiles or where I came from, they’d be surprised. I’m afraid of failure and success. I’m waiting for the other shoe to fall – yeah, it’s good now but it probably won’t last. What if I make (another) mistake and lose it all? There’s either not enough money or, when I have enough, I’m afraid it’s going to run out. Maybe there’s something wrong with me.

I’ve lost count of how many people have told me stories like this.

A woman was burdened with similar perspectives throughout her life. They played in the background of her thoughts like a persistent, low-grade fever.

Even though her business more than quadrupled in four months, she was afraid of not having enough time and that her success might be short-lived.

During her Belief Release session, she woke up to her personal power and let go of clouded thinking.

How? She replaced doubt, limit, fear, anxiety and lack through her power of choice, perspective, love and putting her Essence in charge.

She felt happy and freer than ever before.

Your TIP is to recognize YOU’RE A WINNER RIGHT NOW!

Take one instance where you don’t feel good about your life or business, and change your perspective.

Reframe you and your situation from being a loser to a winner.

What did you learn?

How did you become stronger?

Choose to let go of the past.

Now, with you as the artist of your business and life, what do you choose? What does your ideal business or life look like?

When you clear out your inner cobwebs, you’re able to hear the inner whisperings of your Essence and receive guidance and direction for your next step and greater success.

Stop listening to others’ fears and limitations about yourself that you may have believed were true.

Recognize you were born a winner regardless of circumstances then or now… and YOU STILL ARE A WINNER!

This is a new moment.

Go forth and create something wonderful.

TIP: How to Stay Motivated

January 11, 2016

What's Your Why

What would you like your year to bring? More money and time? Smoother family life? Fun and friends? Relaxation and vacations? Better health? Big dreams coming true?

Without knowing “your why,” the reason your goal is important to you, your motivation can become like a wind-up toy that ran out of its wind-up. Soon after, you return to the same ole, same ole way you’ve always done things. Add to this frustration and disappointment.

More money is appealing. But money for money’s sake may not provide enough incentive to create more cha-ching in your life.

In the movie Joy, Jennifer Lawrence’s character was highly motivated not to quit. Against all odds, she dug deep and found reasons to keep going. Because she knew her “why,” she found a way out of overwhelming failure to experience success.

Interestingly, sometimes a reason to accomplish goals is a gut-level determination to take care of yourself or stop playing small. The line is drawn in the sand. You’re no longer going to tolerate what’s not working. You’re inspired.

Following are excerpts from my Resolved for Results course to help you stay motivated and get in touch with your why – the soul of your goal:

Have you ever desired something and, when you got it, realized it wasn’t what you really wanted? You asked for a specific outcome but didn’t clarify the soul of your goal, its essence.

Well, that explains the divorce rate.

Have you ever desired something, got something else instead, and then realized it was better than what you asked for? You tapped into the soul of your goal.

Sally’s ideal scenario included very specific details, including marrying a 6’ 2” red- haired man who owned a 10,000 acre ranch.

I asked if she would like to have several employees around all day because, with a spread that size, she could attract a working ranch.

That was absolutely not her intention. She wanted the acreage for privacy. She could have received what she asked for and not been happy… along with a man who fit her description but didn’t share her values. She didn’t mention any.

When I looked for a house, the soul of my goal included a low maintenance, wooded area offering privacy but not seclusion.

I bought a home at the end of a cul-de-sac in a country subdivision with a Xeriscaped lawn. It’s surrounded by trees, a greenbelt in the back, and a fenced-in 1000 acre, exotic wildlife ranch next to a neighboring tree-filled lot.

Have you pursued a goal, got discouraged or sidetracked, then lost energy to keep going? If you don’t have a compelling reason, “your why” that underlies your goal, it’s easy to get off-track, lose motivation, and quit.

TIP: How to Stay Motivated

Be still and go within. Ask your soul why your goal is important to you.  Intend to get an answer. Now write about it so that you tap into your gut-level reason of why you choose this. Write so authentically that it can bring tears to your eyes.

Your brain may not be able to fathom how your goals can occur. However, if your intention is in alignment with the soul of your goal, miracles happen.

Be open to receive.

TIP: Quotes To Inspire You To Live Your Dreams

November 17, 2015

In your teens, life is in front of you. You feel that you have all the time in the world with infinite possibilities. As you get older, time and potential carry a different meaning.

Recently at a party, I listened to several people’s life stories. In retrospect, they shared how they spent their years while inhabiting planet earth.  There were times devoted to their professions, characters met along the way, and relationships/sagas with family and friends.

Currently, all of them were following an inner impulse, even though they didn’t know how or where it would lead them. One didn’t relate to “retirement” and took action on a marketing idea. A mom decided to get out and socialize with new people. Another creatively discovered solutions to projects.

What about you? Whatever you’re experiencing now is both an all-encompassing, attention grabber for you as well as part of your book of life that you’re writing.

In this moment, you’re literally writing this chapter. Its foundation is built upon your vision as well as how you interpret what you’re seeing, the emotions you feel, and actions you take.

The great news is that you can complete this chapter and design the next any way you choose. There are key elements to have your results match your intention which include:

  • Believe in yourself
  • Surround yourself with supportive people
  • Get clear on what you choose – your dream and direction
  • Stop trying to figure everything out in your head first
  • Let go of limiting beliefs
  • Take a calculated risk on you and your dreams
  • Create a momentum of energy through action

Virginia’s TIP: Quotes To Inspire You To Live Your Dreams

It’s never too late to fulfill your cherished desires. Your journey and destination may look differently from what you thought. However, you have a dream in your heart for a reason. Following are quotes to help you live your dreams:

“If you ask the ‘how’ question before the ‘what’ question, all you can ever hope to create are variations of what you already have.” Robert Fritz

“Faith is taking the first step even when you can’t see the whole staircase.” Martin Luther King Jr.

“Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” –e. e. Cummings

“Keep away from people who belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” –Mark Twain

“You can’t outwit fate by trying to stand on the sidelines and place little side bets about the outcome of life. Either you wade in and risk everything to play the game, or you don’t play at all. And if you don’t play, you can’t win.” –Judith McNaught

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” –Steve Jobs

“Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.” –Oprah Winfrey

“Often the difference between a successful man and a failure is not one’s better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on his ideas, to take a calculated risk, and to act.” –Maxwell Maltz

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” –Michael Jordan

“Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Risk more than others think is safe. Care more than others think is wise. Dream more than others think is practical. Expect more than others think is possible.” –Cadet maxim

“We are condemned to live out what we cannot imagine.” Thomas Moore in Care of the Soul

“Life is a ‘choose your own ending’ book- you can take whatever adventures you want.” Erika Towles, Age 12

How do you choose this chapter of your book to end? Go for it!