Getting Blamed and It’s Not Your Fault?

In The Wizard of Oz, the young girl Dorothy had to deal with many challenges to find her way back home, most of them created by a Wicked Witch.

It was rough going until she realized that she always had the power within her to return.

One turning point came when it appeared there was no way out of a fiery disaster. I mean, that wicked witch was going to kill them all, including Toto the dog! She started by setting on fire Dorothy’s dear friend the Scarecrow, who was made of straw.

Forgetting I’d seen this story countless times, I was shocked. How could they get out of this predicament? There seemed to be none. I couldn’t think of any.

Here’s where the magic of life steps in.  There was a solution, but one they couldn’t have figured out.

To save her friend from the flames, Dorothy threw a bucket of water on him; some of it landed on the witch. Dorothy had no idea what her action would do.

Even if it appears that there’s no way out, there is. Life can step in and provide solutions that you couldn’t imagine.

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Wicked Witch of the West: 

“Don’t throw that water. (The witch screams.) You cursed brat! Look what you’ve done! I’m melting, melting. Oh what a world, what a world! Who would have thought a good little girl like you could destroy my beautiful wickedness! I’m going! Oh! Oh!”

And the witch was dead!

Surrounded by the Wicked Witch’s minions, Dorothy apologized for this unintended consequence. However, everyone rejoiced and broke into song, “Ding Dong! The Wicked Witch is dead.”

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Notice how the Wicked Witch blamed Dorothy, as if Dorothy was the one who did something wrong, forgettting it was the witch who set her friend on fire!

This is such a common strategy of people lost in their own convoluted thinking. They want others to change so they can continue their goofy, limited approach to life.

By the way, blame is one way the egoic mind operates: You… You… You’re wrong! It’s your fault. Apologize. (I certainly won’t look at how I might be the cause of a problem.)

You don’t have to fall for this attempt to doubt yourself!

Just like in Star Wars where a ragtag group defeated the Empire. Just like how a good, little girl like Dorothy and her friends melted the witch…

You can get over any hurdles in your path, too.

There are ways of breaking free to enjoy the life, business or work of your dreams. There is a better way than trying to make things happen, trying to figure things out or getting tired of trying.

You have the power within you!

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To learn more about how to break free, contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com

I help women to tune in to their true Selves, see life clearly and live their personal and professional dreams.

Edited from Soulgoals June 25, 2018 post

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Wonder What Your Future Will Bring?

“When you get to be my age, everything scares you,” an 82-year-old told me. “Just watching TV is enough to make you afraid. You’ll see.” Because I’ve heard similar comments over my lifetime of “when you get to be my age” followed by limited thinking, I paused.I noticed how she shared her negativity in a joking way while her attitude depressed and sucked the life out of people around her. This time instead of reacting, I replied, “I made a decision not to be afraid.” Silence. In contrast, I had a delightful conversation with Ms. Belle, a 79-year-old. She commented that looking at the way we’re talking, anyone would think we’re old friends. We met only 20 minutes earlier in a small, neighborhood store. She told me, “You’ve got to be positive. Life is short.” She’s amazed at how she meets lovely people wherever she goes, and that there are so many wonderful people in the world. She goes to the gym and rides a bicycle. One day, she realized that she loves to exercise. She enjoys talking and having fun with others while there, too. Ms. Belle shared with me the importance of keeping our memory, especially as some people will take advantage of you if you don’t remember things. Hint: Just like you can make a decision not to be afraid, you can choose to retain your memory, even if you feel it’s not as good as you’d like it to be now. Start by no longer talking about and focusing on how you don’t have a good memory! What you talk about becomes your reality, joking or not. So much of life and business are about decisions and perspectives. Which attitudes, behaviors and actions of yours (and others) are you willing to tolerate? Do you see people (including you) and life as inherently bad and evil or good? Your answers will determine your success. Negativity won’t breed positivity. You can’t have a happy ending while feeling miserable along the way. Everyone has beliefs. Many are held onto so dearly that you might feel that if you stopped believing them, you’ll go straight to that inferno down below. Some beliefs upon which you base your life may be the very ones that are holding you back! If you allow fear and a habit of complaining to control you, you could find yourself on a slippery slope that doesn’t lead to success or happiness. Many blame others, blind to connecting the dots of how their own choices and beliefs created their circumstances. Wonder what your future will bring? It will bear the fruit of your current and past thoughts, feelings and attitudes, as the two above-mentioned women demonstrate. Your future will bring you the products of your beliefs and thinking just as your present is a reflection of your past ones. Wonder what your beliefs and thinking have been? Look around you. You have the power within you to choose to be afraid of your own shadow or to be courageous. In this moment, you can change the way you feel about you and the mental picture you carry about yourself and your future. You can decide nothing will stop you from living the life and having the business or work of your dreams, in spite of the odds… regardless of the effects that a pandemic or other circumstances have had on your life. You see, you’re giving others too much power as you even acknowledge how they make you feel. What you’ve got to decide is how I’m going to feel. We would go to a Virtual Reality and we would practice feeling good. Manifestations come on the heels of what you’ve conjured in thought. Abraham-Hicks, Excerpted from North Los Angeles, CA on 3/2/02 Think about you on the other side of the pandemic. Can you see that you’re no longer willing to put up with some of the old ways you’ve been doing things? Do you know you can consciously change your life for the better? If you’d like to learn about a complimentary session so you can start fresh, contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com http://www.soulgoals.com I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.  I help them be richly compensated in whatever way is meaningful to them by aligning with their Soul’s goals. Updated from Soulgoals’ Archives posted on October 14, 2017 Copyright © 2020 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Wonder What Your Future Will Bring?

“When you get to be my age, everything scares you,” an 82-year-old told me. “Just watching TV is enough to make you afraid. You’ll see.” Because I’ve heard similar comments over my lifetime of “when you get to be my age” followed by limited thinking, I paused. I noticed how she shared her negativity in a joking way while her attitude depressed and subdued people around her. This time instead of reacting, I replied, “I made a decision not to be afraid.” Silence. In contrast, I had a delightful conversation with Ms. Belle, a 79-year-old. She commented that looking at the way we’re talking, anyone would think we’re old friends. We met only 20 minutes earlier in a neighborhood store. She told me, “You’ve got to be positive. Life is short.” She’s amazed at how she meets lovely people wherever she goes, and that there are so many wonderful people in the world. She goes to the gym and rides a bicycle. One day, she realized that she loves to exercise. She enjoys talking and having fun with others while there, too. Ms. Belle shared with me the importance of keeping our memory, especially as some people will take advantage of you if you don’t remember things. Hint: Just like you can make a decision not to be afraid, you can choose to retain your memory, even if you feel it’s not as good as you’d like it to be now. Start by no longer talking about and focusing on how you don’t have a good memory! So much of life and business is about decisions and perspective. Which attitudes, behaviors and actions of yours (and others) are you willing to tolerate? Do you see people (including you) and life as inherently bad or good? Your answers will determine your success. Negativity won’t breed positivity. Everyone has beliefs. Many are held onto so dearly that you might feel that if you stopped believing them, you’ll go straight to that inferno down below. Some beliefs upon which you base your life may be the very ones that are holding you back! If you allow fear and a habit of complaining to control you, you could find yourself on a slippery slope that doesn’t lead to success. Many blame others, blind to connecting the dots of how their own choices and beliefs created their circumstances. Wonder what your future will bring? It will bear the fruit of your current and past thoughts, feelings and attitudes, as the two above-mentioned women demonstrate. Your future will bring you the products of your beliefs just as your present is a reflection of your past ones. You have the power within you to choose to be afraid of your own shadow or to be courageous. In this moment, you can change the way you feel about you and the mental picture you carry about yourself and your future. You can decide nothing will stop you from living the life and having the business or work of your dreams, in spite of the odds.   I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.  I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

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