Change Can Be Messy, Especially in Texas

Dear Friend,

Things often fall apart before they come together and can look quite messy in the process… to a new and better way.

I know life looks crazy now, but consider this.

If there’s an infected wound, it must be cleaned first before it can heal properly.

There is a silver lining to our current time of changes, from a virus that quarantined the world to a damaged economy and an overworked energy grid.

Time will reveal more of what that lining looks like after a much needed, overdue cleaning.

The clarion call to respect life is finally being heard. What’s a life worth? Let’s put things in perspective.

• Respect life of those who are more susceptible to a virus or reopen an economy? Do older lives matter? I watched the Texas Lieutenant Governor Dan Patrick say, in essence, that older people should be willing to give up their lives for the sake of the young people’s future economy.
• I read about a college student who was saddened because of COVID-19. He couldn’t graduate or get a job and had to live with his parents. I thought about the movie I’d seen, 1917, when men his age were getting blown apart in WWI. Not for months, but for over four years.

The process of change and healing often is messy.

Have you ever cleaned a room, or anything, and partway through the process found it looked even messier than when you began? Stuff got moved around, some piled up to be discarded. But then a reorganization shifted the environment to something better.

Some Texans have experienced extreme hardships because of an Arctic blast that left many without power and water. Homes are left flooded. Broken pipes. Broken dreams.

However, although it’s often difficult to see while in the midst of challenges and as many are licking their wounds, somewhere, somehow, this will bring us to better days.

Priorities change. I’ve observed, for example, how many people are taking care of each other more, and there’s a greater sense of community.

If some don’t shift away from thinking about themselves first, they have an opportunity to learn some harsh lessons. This includes politicians.

Things that annoyed us before take a back seat to current needs during stressful times.

Years ago I was in a business transition, and I was worried to tears because I didn’t know what to do. My marketing pipeline of how clients came to me finished months earlier, and I felt emotionally and financially vulnerable, distraught and directionless.

Then a FEMA-level flood came to my town. I ended up with mold in my house and me for six months. This was followed by six months of sleepless nights because of caretaking my sick cat whose weight dropped from 14 1/2# to 4 1/2# in three weeks because of an untreatable thyroid condition.

I asked a teacher of mine in the first few days of what was to be a difficult, year-long journey, “Why did this happen? What was this about?” 

The reply I received was something on the lines of, “You stopped worrying about money.”

I used to have fear running in the background like a software program in a computer that’s always on.

By the end of that year, I learned to let go of fear and worry. They only add to problems and don’t help anything. Amongst other things I learned is to trust that it all works out. Now it’s part of what I coach, and it’s made me a better teacher.

Remember that all of us have things to learn personally and collectively during challenging times.

In addition to people reaching out to each other, could there be other silver linings from the effects of the Texas Arctic blast?

With deep respect for the suffering of my fellow Texans, this event may provide a turning point in the way some Americans consider how we generate energy. While the United States is about to embark on addressing our infrastructure and climate change policies, perhaps more people will be open to alternative energy sources.

What are you learning?

With gratitude,

Virginia

If you’d like help overcoming fear or worry,
so you can enjoy your life more,
contact me for a free consultation at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.”

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Electromagnetic Wave

 

“Everything in life is vibration.” – Albert Einstein

In physics, sound is a vibration that transmits as an audible wave of pressure. These vibrations consist of frequencies that are sent, received and interpreted by the brain.

Every part of life, including you, has its own vibration. From plants to colors, every living element emanates a vibration or frequency, which can be measured in units called hertz (Hz). Every thought, disease and illness as well as food has an electro-magnetic frequency, too.

Animals intuitively tune in to frequencies. Once, I took in a stray kitten who wasn’t welcomed by my resident cat, a self-proclaimed queen of my home. After a month of queen cat taunting princess kitty, it became distressingly evident the newcomer had to go.

A neighbor told me about a woman who was looking for a cat. During their introductions, the princess ran away and hid under furniture. When I coaxed her out of hiding and held her, she wiggled out of my arms and bolted. For thirty minutes, the kitty would have nothing to do with this woman. They weren’t a match, and the little one let us know by her actions.

I then created posters with this precious kitty’s picture and hung them in my small town. A paramedic took interest and paid us a visit.

Instead of trying to chase after the kitty, he sat and waited. He was calm and allowed her to get used to his presence and come to him.

She did, and they got along very well. The little princess found her forever home. When I later saw the man at a local store, he told me how the princess became the queen of his household.

Animals sense energy and respond accordingly. Humans sense energy, too.

I reconnected with an old friend who told me he had been in a funk for quite a while because of events that caused him to question himself. This led to a discussion about how our energy attracts people and circumstances and how gratitude can shift the way we feel.

A couple of months later, he told me this:

“When I’m positive, I’m like a magnet, and more people want to talk with me. When I was in a funk and not smiling, people avoided me.

“I went to a conference where I was overflowing with good energy and made new friends.

“It’s interesting how it works. This positivity thing is attractive to others. It makes sense because I wouldn’t want to talk to someone who’s sitting in a corner and scowling, unless it was a friend. Then I’d ask, “What’s up?” Otherwise, I’d stay away.

“When there’s nothing there for people, why would they come up to you?”

If you want others to like you more, begin by being aware of the energy you ‘re emanating. 

In most people’s lives, there are things that could go better. Maybe you want a better job or improvements in your business or you’re ready for a change of fortune.

It may be too big of a leap to go from funk to feeling good, but you can do it in increments by focusing on simple things. Feel good because you have a roof over your head or can read, and build from there. What you take for granted would be a profound blessing for many.

Start to feel good by making peace with your current circumstances, and watch how your life begins to change for the better. 

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Don’t give up on how you feel as if it doesn’t matter. People and the universe are responding to how you feel even if you try to mask it.

How you feel is a key to your success!

Not feeling good is a sign that you’re in opposition to how your essence is guiding you. It’s a clue that your thinking and perspective are off track.

The more you align your energy with your true self, the more success you’ll attract. When you do this, you’ll feel good because your essence sees the big picture, puts your life in perspective, is 100% non-judgmental, knows the best direction to take and never feels bad!

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You may find that annoying people will find your positive energy annoying and eventually not stick around, but others will be attracted to you like a magnet.

How do you know if your energy is aligned? Tune in to how you feel. This indicates what energy you’re radiating to others, too.

“If you can give increase of life to others and make them sensible of the fact, they will be attracted to you, and you will get rich.” 

“Hold the faith and purpose of increase… in such a way that every person who comes in contact with you… will feel the power of purpose radiating from you; so that everyone will get the sense of advancement and increase from you.”

Wallace D. Wattles, The Science of Getting Rich 

With gratitude,

Virginia

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Are You Having Fun Yet?

 

I was fortunate. I didn’t lose my home or life from floods that caused FEMA to take residence in my town for several months a couple of years ago. However, months of dealing with mold in my house and body took a heavy toll on my health and finances.

Even though three vets told me there was nothing to do for my sick cat, and one suggested I put her to sleep, she decided she wasn’t ready to go and stayed with me for two more years. This translated to round-the-clock caretaking that exhausted me.

After all that passed, including my precious companion, I knew it was essential to go out and participate in life again.

Otherwise, my focus would’ve been stuck on the adversities of my past. As like attracts like, it would’ve put me on a downward spiral to the “same ole, same (challenging) ole.”

A road trip beckoned that awakened me to enjoy life. Since then, I’ve been finding ways to have fun and laugh – from an entertaining drag show to an airboat ride on the Colorado River to a free Bollywood dance class on the same stage that the ballet uses. For months, every week I saw new-to-me performances, including music from around the world to The Temptations and Four Tops.

Additionally, there were art museums, plays, ziplining, hiking at state parks, restaurants, massages and a sake tour.

There are magnets on my fridge holding ticket stubs and flyers from the many programs I attended, reminding me to continue to play.

By the way, thanks to online deals from companies like Groupon, LivingSocial and Travelzoo, fun things to do can be found super cheap. Many museums have a day or weekend every month where you can go for free, and some concert halls offer 2 for 1 specials.

In the process of getting out, I rested, had fun, got my mojo back and felt like I was living again. My business grew, too.

When I decided it was time to settle down and get back to work, and didn’t go out for a few weeks, my business and income slowed down, too! 

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I remember the exact instance, before I started to play, when this thought came to me:  If I died and went to the other side, what would I say I’d done for myself?

My answer was: I almost got caught up. So many things on my To Do list were getting done, but there was so much left to do. And, yes, I’ve helped a lot of people and have accomplishments.

But what about me?

What would you say about how you’ve had fun and taken care of yourself?

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I’ve recognized that when I don’t take time to play, the inflow and outflow of life energy becomes out of balance.

It reminds me of Mastermind Principle #6 from my course Resolved for Results:  I believe I am worthy and deserve to achieve my goals or something better, and I choose to use my personal empowerment on my behalf, which allows me to serve life more fully.

What’s your legacy beyond family, work, accomplishments and making money?

Are you having fun yet?

Life is designed to be satisfying. If it’s not, it’s time to change your perspective, and do something different.

The weird thing is that when we break free from primarily focusing on the dutiful acts that we have to do, and include time to play, our lives, business and work improve.

Old age is no longer another notch on the yearly calendar. Age is a state of mind. A way of being.

Look at life as energy and vibration. When you raise your energy by having fun, you’re on the wavelength to attract longevity, more money, better clients, relationships and health.

If you haven’t already, you now can give yourself permission to play, have fun and enjoy the rich variety that the world has to offer.

Before, I didn’t even know what it meant to play.

Where to start? Find one activity that looks interesting and do it.

Have you ever been not that hungry? Then after a eating few bites, you realized you couldn’t stop. Playing and fun can be like that, too.

By creating more fun, as well as sharing it, you might even spark romance!

Are you ready to make this lifetime count beyond work, duties and survival? Go have fun!

With playful gratitude,

Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

What Pruning & Cleaning Clutter Teaches Me

Last week, when I wasn’t coaching, I was outside doing yardwork. Before that, I cleaned every single paper off my desk (yikes, that took weeks of chipping away at it), deleted or filed hundreds of emails (still got more to go), cleared out pockets of clutter around my house and completed projects I’ve been meaning to get to for seemingly forever. I finally washed 40 jars and bought new spices for a rack I bought three years ago. I updated my password list. I’ve been receiving regular bodywork to support my back, now that it’s aligned. I glued the lining of a favorite shoe. I’m deepening my meditations. We leak our energy when there are things that need our attention, but we put off or ignore them. In my twenties, I sat very close to the stage and watched the late, great motivational speaker Zig Ziglar. He gave everyone in the audience a wooden round Tuit to remind us to get around to it – whatever we’ve been putting off. _____________________________ As I gaze out my window, sunlight shines throughout the day on areas that used to be completely covered in shade. What a metaphor. I learned that the shadows disappeared by allowing more light to come through because I cleared out the clutter and dead branches. Life can grow in places it couldn’t before. _____________________________ Spring cleaning my office, home and yard opens space for my next steps. While doing in-depth sessions, I had the inner space to remember and use techniques I learned decades ago that are helping clients break free of their egos’ self-sabotage. Beyond mulching and clearing, I’m planting what a neighbor calls jewelry – pretty flowers in my yard. Step at a time, I’m preparing my soil for future growth in all areas of my life. Sometimes the old gets cleared out through nature and evolution. Fires clear weaker trees and debris and returns health to the forest. Challenges clear out limiting thinking and beliefs that sabotage greater success and happiness. Last year at this time, my biggest goal was to sleep. For a year, I was the caretaker for my cat who woke me throughout the night to cope with her illness, which left me feeling like a sleep-deprived zombie. Before that, my attention was focused on getting rid of a devastating mold caused by torrential rains that affected my body, head, home and finances. That was two years ago this month. _____________________________ Since my cat passed last June, I realized the energy of “catching up” and feeling “overwhelmed with so much to do” were visualizations that would only create my having to dig out of a bigger hole. I would have liked everything in my life to be in order yesterday. Instead, I see myself being “in front of” my life, business and finances. This focus has placed me on a new trajectory. It’s working. Things are getting done. I’m feeling good. I see new horizons. _____________________________ If you’re clearing out the old through challenges, may you find greater peace with a perspective of gratitude and see light that graces your life in ways it couldn’t before. Blue skies follow storms. If you’ve been putting off taking care of things that you wish were over and done, consider getting around to it. One step at a time will do. Begin. The rest is easy. P.S. Know someone who might be uplifted by reading this? You’re invited to pass this on.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love. Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

I Got Miffed When My Coach Did This to Me

During a year-long, business training, we were given one, 30-minute, private coaching session per month. I skipped some months so I could invest in  extended, one-hour sessions. The short sessions felt like a race. But, ahhh, finally I’d be able to really explore some topics in depth. My coach had a different idea that day. Not only was she was on a roll  about subjects she wanted to communicate, but they were off-track for me. I was blind-sided. Annoyed. I felt like an irritated cat who observed but was silent. I couldn’t think of a way to derail her  without being rude, even though she was taking away time from my agenda, and I didn’t care about what she was saying. I was left a bit flabbergasted and without words to express myself. (Yeah, I know, weird for me.) This bugged me so much that later I discussed it with another coach. I wasn’t placing blame on my biz coach, but I wondered why I was bothered. Why couldn’t I turn the session into what I wanted instead of just responding to her direction? ________________________________ The root of my miffedness? I was so focused on trying to be nice to her that I wasn’t nice to ME! I put her feelings above mine. It was a huge lesson. Don’t  allow other people’s feelings and opinions to have more value than my own. ________________________________ By the way, later when I listened to the recording of our session, what she said wasn’t as bad as I thought. I really needed to hear her in a skewed way to get this lesson! Recently, I facilitated a coaching session with a masterminder who’s successful, positive and very aware that whatever she focuses on multiplies. When it seemed impossible to achieve her numbers by the next day to get a bonus, a new client appeared out-of-the-blue. She always wins door prizes. After a break-up from a long-term relationship, a chance meeting landed her an invite to spend the next week at a condo on the coast with wonderful and supportive women – for free! ________________________________ She’s learned the power of masterminding: how to choose what she wants and, with the dynamic of group energy, manifest beyond her wildest expectations. Not only is she  aware of the power of her focused attention, she’s living proof that her thoughts and feelings become reality. However, there are people in her personal life who see things differently – they believe in a lack philosophy.  ________________________________ The cup is half full. No sense in making plans because they never work. They complain about how there’s not enough money. When they expressed their negative views and even dismissed her approach, she politely didn’t say anything. Everybody has a right to their opinion. Then she woke up, and it felt like a weight was lifted from her when she heard this: ________________________________ Your outer world is shaped by your thoughts and feelings. If you allow others to surround you with their negative energy, it can affect the way you feel. In doing so, you’ve given them power to create YOUR world – for better or worse. Care about the way you feel. Make feeling good a priority if you care about your business, health, life and ability to prosper. ________________________________ Why let strangers in a car who drive in some loopy way bother you and affect your mood, which can affect your day.. because this can affect your wallet and ability to create the life you choose? Why allow your energy, the way you feel, to be infused by limiting views on the way life works because you’re trying to be nice or afraid to speak up? Sounds good, but how? Sure to bomb: “My well being is a  key to my success. So you need to shut up so I can feel good.” Delicious in the moment, but that won’t bring you positive results. Effective: Opt to express yourself with grace and ease. ________________________________ Creatively communicate without making the other person wrong. How can you take a stand for yourself while being kind? You’re worth it. ________________________________ Yes, play it smart, too. Your boss, friends or family may require a lot of creativity. I pondered how to inform a health practitioner to stop his limited thinking about the results I could get. I found a creative way, but that’s another story. With gratitude, Virginia P.S. Know others who could use help in standing up for themselves or changing the way they feel so they can attain greater success? Please forward this post. I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love. Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

TIP: Congrats to Carol Warkoczewski!

Success at its BEST is an apt description of the City Architect of San Antonio, Texas.

Since January 2000, Carol Warkoczewski’s mastermind teams have supported her goals and dreams every step of the way:

• When she created her consultancy business of Synergy Builders
• While getting her Masters in Organization Leadership & Ethics
• At the conception of her founding the Institute for Leadership in Capital Projects (I-LinCP) and later developing it into a non-profit 501(c)(3) with multiple chapters
• During a nationwide search which resulted in her being chosen as the City Architect of the 7th largest city in the U.S.
• Reveling in her being a speaker at AIA Conventions (American Institute of Architects)
• And enjoying a wonderful family life and travels.

Now, she’s featured in American Builders Quarterly. Here’s the article about her. Go take a peak.

http://americanbuildersquarterly.com/2016/city-of-san-Antonio/

“I think you have to have a heart for public work, and my heart is towards helping people live their life, so being a city architect, you really get to have an influence on the city of San Antonio and its citizens.”

Carol, in addition to it being your birthday, we congratulate you for your many successes – personally and professionally.
You’re a stellar example of having a heart of service and caring. You change people’s lives, and the world is immensely better with you sharing your gifts in BIGGER ways!

So be it!

Your TIP for today is to consider your heart of service.
Good works, commerce, making money or making friends all involve relationships.

Whenever your results and creativity involve others, it’s about relationships – even if you’re sitting in a room by yourself designing ideas or number crunching.

People feel and know your intentions and respond accordingly.

When you take action inspired by a heart of service, people feel it.

You have a choice when you engage in a relationship. When you make a phone call or meet with a client or friend, you can:

• Feel emotions like worrying about if you don’t get the deal or job, obsessing over a fear of rejection or what-if things don’t work out OR
• Focus on an intention of your heart of service – how can you help?

Which one would you enjoy experiencing from others? 

That’s how they feel about you and the energy that precedes you. 

You have a choice. 

UPDATE ON MY CAT MICHA:

Thanks for everyone’s well wishes! YOU made a difference by sending her love from your heart of service.

I really didn’t know if she was going to make it.

Now, she’s doing great and eating a lot to make up for when she ate a little.

Personally, I’m in awe of her determination and belief in herself. Her actions demonstrated that it wasn’t her time to go.

She wasn’t willing to give up. So, I didn’t give up. 

Don’t you give up on you. Don’t give up believing in you and your dreams, either! 

Miracles happen… everyday.

TIP: Defy the Odds. She Lives!

In my last TIP, I asked people to send love to my cat Micha.

It worked.

Your energy helped her cross the chasm from pain and a seemingly assured, immediate passing to, quite miraculously, staying in the land of the living.

 

Her ordeal brought up questions.

Why, I thought, did she become so ill at midnight on Saturday when there was little I could do – like she did late Saturday night, December 26? Repeated other times, too, this was a pattern.

Then, I realized, it’s because I couldn’t do anything.

She needed time to rebound, and if I had a choice to rush her to the vet, I might come to the wrong conclusion. She wasn’t ready to go. How soon or late that will be is her choice.

She has an innate sense of timing.

I wondered why she insisted that I be in her vicinity when she ate.

I joked with myself that it was a conspiracy to get me in the kitchen to prepare food instead of snacking. When I made enough headway in soup preparation so it didn’t make sense to stop, she’d finish eating.

Then, I remembered. I told her she had to eat foodies to live.

She wanted to show me she got the message, and this is her answer. She’s eating.

Communication comes in a variety of ways. Verbal language is only one form.

Here’s more of what I learned.

Micha’s not encumbered by limitations of human logic about what is or isn’t possible.

For over two years, in spite of numerous doctors saying her thyroid numbers were so high that there was no point to her staying alive, she decided to live.

She does what we are all capable of doing but often don’t.

She instinctively tunes in instead of overthinks.

I knew that people would send love and blessings if I asked.

I knew it would make a difference.

Your love strengthened her while she was making her choice to stay or go.

Your blessings helped her beat the odds beyond meds not working and the doctor’s death sentence.

Your energy boosted her spirit so she could more easily focus on healing her body.

Your TIP is to defy the odds.

• Tune in to what’s true for you.
• Believe in your dreams.
• Trust in your innate sense of timing and instincts.
• Don’t put all your trust in naysayers, even if they’re experts.
• Pay attention to messages life is communicating.
• Immerse yourself in a vortex of positive, supportive energy to energize whatever is important to you.

I consciously created a mastermind by asking for your support with Micha.

Thank you.

Allow your intentions to turn into results with grace and ease – surpassing your wildest imagination.

Defy the odds of what you think is possible.

For Micha, please keep your love and blessings coming.

TIP: My Cat’s 2+ Year of Miracles – RIP?

“The world steps aside for the man who knows where he is going.”  James Allen

After her health episode, a vet told me a few days ago during an examination of my 16+ year old cat Micha (pronounced ME-cha), basically, it was time to let her go. In the last two years, I’ve been told this several times.

Along with detailing her issues, the doctor said we can’t know an animal’s “mentation,” aka their mental activity.

I decided to be polite and refrain from saying maybe you can’t.

It requires quieting one’s own mentation and tuning in to theirs.

Instead of the TIP I said I’d post about a woman’s big miracles (stay tuned for that), I’m going to share some that are big to me.

It’s about my cat’s mentation. You might relate it to your own mental activity. It determines your motivation.

With nose to the grindstone crazy busy. While in the midst of endless To Do lists. Why are you doing any of this? Why do you choose to live?

Knowing this puts you on the path to ignite your Soul’s goals.

Then, anything is possible.

Background:

Over two years ago, Micha dropped from 15# to 7# in three weeks.

A vet said her thyroid was the highest he’d ever seen.

Normal thyroid T4 levels are .7 – 5.2.

Micha’s were 19.4.

No drugs could help. I was told through lurid examples to put her to sleep.

What he and other vets didn’t account for is that she wasn’t ready to go.

Her mentation demonstrated a strong will to live and belief in herself. And a belief that I’d catch on, too.

Animals “think” in pictures. Simple images, not long sentences and ideas.

Actually, our brains work the same way. It’s the reason to keep goals simple.

Having lost a desire to eat, I told Micha that if she wanted to stay with me she’d have to eat foodies. To live, she’d have to tell her body to work.

She’s tapped into her inner power and turned her health around from the brink countless times.

Like many pets who have humans, Micha and I have a strong bond.

She’s got a good gig with me that inspires her to stay – lots of love; good food; sleep whenever; peaceful; friends; outdoors to explore; a safe, enclosed back porch. It’s the cat’s meow.

Just because many don’t understand the language of cat doesn’t mean they don’t understand human.

Cats spend time in quiet meditation while we’re in our busy mentation.

They tune in to things we might overlook.

Like most cats, Micha is smart, reads energy and is an excellent teacher.

Once, a couple came to visit for a few days. After our warm hello, they went to their car to get luggage.

While outside, Micha relieved herself on their bed! She’d never done that before.

They were lovely people but the worse house guests because of their nasty arguments. Once, their yelling woke me up, and I coached them at 2 AM.

Another time, Micha brought in a dead, baby rat and placed it under where a guy I dated was sitting. Again, something she’d never done.

Tune in, human. I’m teaching here. Get the message?

A week later, as more of who he was revealed itself to me, I broke up with him.

When I thought it was time to put her to sleep, she hid and then got better.

It wasn’t about me letting her go.

With her strong will to live and belief in herself, she’s communicated her mentation.

James Allen, the world steps aside for the cat who knows where she’s going, too.

Your TIP is to consider your mentation.

What’s your gut level reason to live and do what you love?

With a strong belief, in spite of any odds against you, you’ll find a way.

Really, if my cat can pull off miracles, so can you!

So, because of Micha’s recent health episode, I’m tuning in to her mentation – hang out with us on planet earth or join the cat party in the sky.

You’re invited to send her love. She’s so tuned in to energy, she’ll feel and be supported by your prayers no matter where she is.

Like us, she doesn’t die when her body does.

While you’re at it, send some lovin’ to your mentation of belief, too. You deserve it.

TIP: 4 Ways to Get Unstuck

Feeling stuck in your business or life? There are ways to free yourself – like untangling or cutting loose a cat who’s balled up in yarn. By the way, just because it’s stuck, there’s nothing wrong with the cat anymore than there’s anything wrong with you!

To help you unravel your stuckness, here’s an excerpt from the manual of my program Resolved for Results: A Step-by-Step Guide to Live Your Dreams… even if you failed before, lost hope, are afraid, stressed or confused.

A client who emailed a request to her mastermind team wrote, “I have calls out to people, but things seem stuck.” Her goal was well written and specific, including her filling appointments for three cities and a meet and greet.

But I felt the fear under her request and called her. She told me she felt pressure because an out-of-state manager was flying in, and she didn’t have appointments scheduled.

We discussed anticipating the best and letting go of expectation. Part of this letting go was a preoccupation with numbers – the number of bookings. Instead, I recommended she focus on the quality of appointments vs. the quantity.

The next night she sent us a long email. “I woke up fresh and energetic, turned things over to my CEO (God)… I decided that I was not going to “push” to “make” anything happen.” [Her bold print]

Results? Before the end of that day, key people either returned her calls to book or called prospects on her behalf to fill the appointments for her! A big client contacted her to book four trainings. She hosted a successful event that afternoon plus found a perfect venue for a board member retreat following an unsuccessful month-long search.

If you hold onto how you expect life should be, what a person should do, or what’s supposed to fulfill you, you not only limit yourself but block your success and create unnecessary pain and suffering.

It pulls you away from the present moment and foists you into an imagined future of potential disappointment, discouragement, frustration, sadness, anger, or helplessness.

The beauty of the present moment is that it opens you to what’s in alignment with your soul. If one way doesn’t work, there’s a reason. Something better is available… if you allow it into your world.

Instead of longing for what mighta, woulda, coulda or shoulda been, notice the gift of accepting what is.

Anticipating the best instead of expecting specific outcomes makes your words more powerful and opens you to results designed for the highest and best interest for all. It’s an important lesson, and I invite you to consider it in case it’s making the difference between creating difficulties or catapulting you to greater success and abundance.

Identify where you feel stuck. Feeling stuck is an emotional response that can leave you feeling there’s no way out. Instead, you can find a way to untangle yourself from whatever has gotten you balled up and take productive action. Here are four alternatives that can help:

1. You’re frustrated because you’re trying to control the outcome by expecting it (or people) to be the way you think it should. Alternative: Relax and anticipate this or something better will occur. Stop trying to micromanage the world. This opens you to tune into new ideas and directions.
2. You’re beating yourself up with regrets or other limiting thoughts and emotions because of your situation. Alternative: Release judging you, others and your circumstances. Replace it with an empowering perspective that you’re learning, and all is in divine order and timing.
3. You’re focusing on how things aren’t working. Alternative: focus on what you choose and the good feeling mojo it creates. Good feeling mojo is what opens you to manifest more quickly and with grace and ease.
4. You’re pushing to make things happen. Alternative: Stop resisting (and exhausting yourself about) what is and allow things to be the way they are. You getting fussy about it won’t change it or help. Let go. Let God. Set new goals for what you choose. Take action from this perspective.

When you shift your energy, you allow life to create miracles and successes beyond your wildest expectations.

THE CAT (LITTER) BURGLAR!

Let’s say you’re a cat.  Like a good kitty, you do your duty in a litter box and then leave to do other important cat business – like sleep. Later, as nature demands, you return to the box, and your signature kitty bon bons are gone! You might think someone stole my poop. From your human servants’ point of view, they’re doing their duty by removing yours.

Life. Are you living it or is it a living hell? It depends on your perspective.

In the past, I embraced a popular belief: you spot it; you got it. Aka: if you point your finger at someone, there are three fingers pointing back at you. While this is often true, it’s hard to believe an infinite God has limited life to only one reason for why all things happen.

I used to psyche myself out when I believed everything is a reflection of me. When street lights flickered as I walked by, I thought my inner light was on the fritz, and my self-confidence fluttered.  After discussing this with a mentor, he pointed out that the world doesn’t revolve around me.

Wiser, when this phenomena happened again, I noticed that street light poles have numbers and reported those that needed new bulbs.

This awakening may be a relief, especially for those in abusive relationships searching for how they’re a schmuck, too. The lesson may be that you’re not a sicko. The cad may be teaching you to find your inner cojones and not allow others to manipulate you into feeling inferior because of their controlling tactics.

It also works when people phone and assume you have a responsibility to listen to their incessant fears or problems.

When it becomes evident they want an audience and someone to rescue them from their own negativity instead of changing, it’s not a lack of compassion to cancel membership from the Dump-of-Collecting-Others’-Pain Club. I mean, would you open the door to your home to let someone unload their garbage? Why allow others to dump their emotional junk… except fear of their reaction that there’s something wrong with you?

Here’s a perspective:

If you think you’re usually the one who’s wrong, it’s probably them.

If you think others are usually the ones who are wrong, it’s probably you.

How’s your perspective working for you? Don’t let your beliefs or others’ opinions deter you from trusting your inner voice and truth. Then again, if you think the world centers around you, you won’t really care.