Want People to Like You More?

Electromagnetic Wave

“Everything in life is vibration.”

Albert Einstein

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I reconnected with an old friend who told me he had been in a funk for quite a while because of events that caused him to question himself.

This led to a discussion about how our energy attracts people and circumstances and how gratitude can shift the way we feel.

A couple of months later, he told me this:

“When I’m positive, I’m like a magnet, and more people want to talk with me. When I was in a funk and not smiling, people avoided me.

“I went to a conference where I was overflowing with good energy and made new friends.

“It’s interesting how it works. This positivity thing is attractive to others. It makes sense because I wouldn’t want to talk to someone who’s sitting in a corner and scowling, unless it was a friend. Then I’d ask, ‘What’s up?’ Otherwise, I’d stay away.

“When there’s nothing there for people, why would they come up to you?”

If you want others to like you more, begin by being aware of the energy you‘re emanating. 

In most people’s lives, there are things that could go better. Maybe you want a better job or improvements in your business or you’re ready for a change of fortune or you’d like to enjoy life more.

It may be too big of a leap to go from funk to feeling good, but you can do it in increments by focusing on simple things.

Feel good because you have a roof over your head or can read, and build from there. What you take for granted would be a profound blessing for many.

Start to feel good by making peace with your current circumstances, and watch how your life begins to change for the better. 

You may find that annoying people will find your positive energy annoying and eventually not stick around, but others will be attracted to you like a magnet.

How do you know what energy you’re emanating? Tune in to how you feel.

Not feeling good is a sign that you’re in opposition to how your inner Essence is guiding you. It’s a clue that your thinking and perspective are off track.

How can you change it?

“Hold the faith and purpose of increase… in such a way that every person who comes in contact with you… will feel the power of purpose radiating from you; so that everyone will get the sense of advancement and increase from you.”

Wallace D. Wattles, The Science of Getting Rich 

Excerpt from Soulgoals’ Blog January 8, 2018

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Is Peace Really Possible? If So, How??

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Much of the world is lost in their wanting of something.

As a result, people feel bad or create conflict over what they perceive as lack – what they want but don’t have. In essence, they want things like better health or relationships or weight, a better life, more money, people to behave and believe differently and on and on.

This also means that whatever they have or feel is not good enough. Not enough. The real nemesis.

Could this possibly apply to you, too?

When you feel anxiety, ask yourself what you’re wanting. Even in simple things, such as:

• Feeling stressed because you want to give the perfect gift? You’re more likely to find it if you’re relaxed.
• Anxious because you want to get your house in order before company comes or want to land a business deal? If you’re feeling good, you’ll spread holiday cheer to your guests or clients – and they’ll feel better around you.
• Worried about wanting more money, better health, your ideal partner or better relationships? When you’re emotionally calm, you’re more receptive to insights. Ideas and opportunities will be drawn to you like Santa Claus finds cookies.

Can li’l ole YOU make a difference in this big, crazy world?

YES!

With each person who feels greater peace within, the world becomes more peaceful. Just like anger is infectious, so is the feeling of peace. 

Which do you choose to propagate? Fear, anger, worry, frustration OR peace?

You have a choice. Sound impossible?

Do you think that you can’t help the way you feel because it’s someone else’s fault or your challenging circumstances are to blame? Wouldn’t everybody complain if they were in your shoes?

Here’s how you can begin to break that cycle, change your attitude and create a life of greater peace.

What’s the source that creates such stress?

Lack of peace comes from:

• wanting approval from others
• wanting to control circumstances (that are sometimes out of your control) or others’ choices and how they show up in the world
• wanting to be free of a fear of lacking safety and security.

Can these really be the culprits of all that suffering? Yep. These three wants are the roots of what create any lack of peace!

The secret is switching your energy from wanting to having… then what you choose can come to you with grace and ease.

You can choose to experience greater peace!

First, decide that being at peace is your highest priority, more than wanting approval and love, wanting security or wanting control. (In other words, more than unconsciously wanting things that end up making you feel miserable, depressed, stressed, frustrated, fearful, worried or any crappy feeling you do NOT want.)

How?

• Let go of wanting approval and love so you can discover that you already have approval and love. It’s an inside job, not something anyone can give you.
• Let go of wanting to be safe and secure so you can realize you already are. If you’re trying to get this from others or feel you need more money, things, love, etc. to be happy, remember that they could be taken from you anyway. You’ll discover that you’re already safe and secure as long as you stop fearing that you’re not.
• Let go of wanting control. No amount of trying to control external sources will ever be satisfying. You already have control, but it’s within you.
• Let go of the need to defend yourself. What are you defending except a false sense of self? 

If you make peace your highest priority, you’ll experience greater success in all areas of your life.

You’ll find that you’ll attract those who are more peaceful, and peace will ripple to others. Li’l ole you changing the world toward greater peace.

As I’m not going to try to control what you believe, may you enjoy your holiday season in a way that’s meaningful to you and your faith.

Peace be unto you, my friend.

Edited excerpt from Soulgoals’ post of December 22, 2015

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Tired of stress, frustration, and suffering? There are tools to help you! Contact me at: virginia@soulgoals.com I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way Or choose to enjoy a better life… but don’t know how, feel stuck or could  use new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

When a Saudi Prince Wanted to Meet Me

Law of Attraction: a magnet and its magnetic field.

After the universe’s exuberant response to my calamitous focus of “What else can go wrong?” I discovered there was a lot more that could go wrong.

You know, ask and you shall receive. I received what I asked for but definitely didn’t want.

I realized, too, that I’d better focus on more positive choices.

One choice was to open to receive… let’s say certain relationships in my life. I didn’t dwell, need, beg or long for it. 

Instead, I stated my intentions with conviction, and let them go.

I was soon reminded what my intentions set in motion.

I received a Twitter Direct Message (DM) from a handsome and distinguished-looking, young man.

Miss Virginia how r u? I like u…plz add me on (Skype and email address).

I messaged that I added him to my mailing list. OK?

He responded quickly, but before I had time to read it I received this tweet.

@Soulgoal answer about direct message 🙂

The DM said:

Ok..but how old r u? I prince from saudi arabia..living in U.S….I wanna meet u.

I didn’t think “me Tarzan, you Jane” would mean much. So I pro-actively opted for: I’m old enough to know that a prince from Saudi Arabia wouldn’t be interested.

Add to this another result of my intention.

A construction worker saw my photo and decided all on his own that I would move to Ohio to be his wife and raise his teen-age son. He was a sweet, single Brit who wants to “huk up and be my best friend, lovely connections from friends,” etc.

I respect the vulnerability and courage it took for some to reach out. Even though some of these didn’t work for me, here’s what I learned.

My intentions created movement!

Suddenly people I know and don’t know are contacting me. Because my energy is open to receive, I activated the Law of Attraction. People who responded to my search beam of intention first were those within reach online – more are coming.

Creating a laser focus to be more specific about what I’m asking for helps, too.

As you can tell, the process isn’t always perfect, which allows room for refinement but NOT giving up.

Think about the implications for YOU: the doors it opens, the possibilities of miracles, the practical application in your work, finances and personal life. 

You don’t have to know where or how it works anymore than you have to know how electricity works to turn on a light.

There is a key to success, though. Ask believing you can and do receive, and take action.

To turn your dreams to reality, feel light-hearted as you launch your clear intentions, trusting that this or something better is yours. 

We are energy beings. Life is a reflection of our thoughts, words, feelings and attitudes. These = energy. You can consciously use this energy to allow the Law of Attraction to work on your behalf.

What do you CHOOSE to create?

• CLARIFY what you choose. 
• Feel good as if you already received your choice.
• Ask for what you choose.
• Let go of your intentions emotionally and mentally.
• Trust the universe is working on your behalf.
• Anticipate the best.
• Recalibrate your request, if needed.

Have fun creating a wonderful life!

And to yet another charming man who’s showered me with messages, a text and phone call – consider using the Law of Attraction to find someone, who mutually would enjoy company for walks and talks, through an online dating service.

If you’re ready to improve your skills to attract a better version of what you really, really want,
contact me to learn how at virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.
I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.”

Reposted from Soulgoal Blog, September 25, 2012

Copyright © 2021 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Are the Turkeys Getting You Down?

Wouldn’t you rather soar with the eagles?

 

You’re feeling great and in the flow. You can do it. This is your time. Nobody can stop you… until some turkeys start pecking away at you, and you want to run.

Experiencing this way too often, and although she’s at the top of her business, competent and relatively young, my client told me that she couldn’t stop focusing on retirement.

She felt that she could no longer handle the stress created from customers’ unrealistic demands and exhausting herself to get them to see reason.

During her Soulgoals session, she realized that she was attracting people who brought out a quality in her that was like her father – being judgmental. People weren’t acting the way she thought they should.

As like attracts like, she was magnetizing people who would bug her so that she could be “justifiably” judgmental.

To counterbalance her father’s inflexible attitude, she played the role of the peacemaker throughout her life. Now that he’s passed and she’s tired of “battling,” she thought those days were over.

However, his judgmental attitude was still alive inside her because she absorbed his energy, and she continued to attract people that required her to be the peacemaker.

She connected the dots and saw that unless she made inner changes, these patterns would follow her wherever she went – even into retirement.

She was on the verge of letting go of a great career instead of letting go of the unwanted energy she harbored within. It was time to stop blaming others and her business as they weren’t the problem.

Done with attracting challenging people who were like her father, she decided to release her judgmental energy and change her perspective.

“I don’t want to put up with other people’s stuff… my big insight is that if you leave, you’re not going to get away from your issues. Deal with it through journaling.”

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Another client found herself consistently attracting unqualified clients.

One got nastily irate when she told him that his application didn’t go through.  Although she quickly let him go as a client, she knew she had to change her focus to stop attracting turkeys.

Whatever is focused upon grows.

In the past, she complained about how many applicants didn’t qualify, so she kept having more applicants who didn’t qualify.

Now, she focuses her attention on having great applicants who both qualify and purchase her high end products, all with grace and ease.

Her new perspective is working.

Are there the same (annoying) types of people or circumstances showing up in your life again and again?

Journal about how you feel when the turkeys get you down.

• Does how you feel remind you of people from your past?
• When you notice the patterns, choose to let them go.
• Replace them with a new perspective.
• After, refocus on your wonderful dreams and goals instead of what you don’t want.

It’s time to soar with the eagles. You deserve it.

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

If you’d like help to soar with the eagles, contact me at 
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

Original posting on July 31, 2017

Read This If You Don’t Like How Some People Treat You

The generation before my Soulgoal Blog was Soulgoal Missives. This week, while updating my PC’s software, this missive from July 24, 2002, popped up on my screen out of nowhere. It provided insight into a situation I’d just witnessed. It’s about understanding why people react to each other the way they do. Your issue may be different from mine during my college years, but the concept still holds. People respond to others’ energy.

Soulgoal Missive, Year 1, No. 23

Speak From Your Strength

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

Dr. Seuss

My wake up call started by accident, in spite of myself. It was the moment I realized that what I said and the way I said it affected the way other people acted and reacted to me. The chef in the restaurant, where I waitressed while in college, always intimidated me. If I said, “I’m sorry, I made a mistake,” I became an even greater target for him. One day I was so busy that I dashed into the kitchen with no time for apologies or excuses. I plunked down a dish of vegetables and said, “I wanted peas not beans.” Oh, I really didn’t mean to be what I thought of as bossy or imply that he made a mistake. And I really would have given him a story, an explanation about my error, if I had an opportunity. However, “I wanted peas not beans,” were the words that began to change my life. He thought he was at fault so he didn’t lecture me. He quickly replaced the order, and I had an epiphany. No, it wasn’t to trick people to take the blame for something I did. I had been setting myself up for him to pick on me, and I didn’t even realize it. I used to think that if I acted nicer or downplayed myself, then people would respond accordingly. They did – they were at the other end of a seesaw that I created. I was on one side with sweetness, so they balanced me out with anger, control, domination, or intimidation. Through my lack of self-confidence and under the guise of being nice, I subconsciously tried to manipulate others so they would change their behavior and be nice to me. It’s a technique that ultimately does not work. Instead, speaking our truth, coming from the center of our strength, getting out of our “story” and the drama it creates, is empowering. This not only makes life more fun and stress-free, it attracts the people and circumstances needed to accomplish our goals. It’s authentic living. Anything less gives our power away to other people. We often have so much trepidation about expressing our truth and what we feel inside that we diminish our effectiveness and ourselves. We place a fear filter over every experience – past, present, and future. We no longer see life for what it is. Instead, we warp our perspective and act less than we really are. I asked participants of one of my success groups about their last year’s goals – what they were and what they actually accomplished. A woman had a financial goal that she said she didn’t come anywhere near reaching. An earlier goal was to find the right career. As she spoke, she made herself sound like a failure. One by one the team members got into their “story” about how they didn’t do the things they wanted and underplayed their successes. “Yes, I accomplished my year-long goal of cleaning my desk, (giggle) but now it’s messy again.” (By the way, we saw her results earlier in the year and held a meeting at her house to acknowledge her accomplishment.) Their inner computers were programmed to make excuses, lack clarity and be afraid to let people know who they are, under the pretext of not wanting to sound like they were bragging. I gave them a second chance to tell us about their year. They were to report what happened and speak from the heart without the “story,” be emotionally neutral, and talk from a positive, broader perspective. We then learned that even though it was a bad year financially, during the second half she found a career she enjoys. In four months, she earned 65% of her annual income!  The reason the other member let her desk get messy is that she is so busy surpassing her business goal, which previously she thought was unattainable, that she didn’t have time to clean her desk. I reminded her that her goal was to clean the desk, not clean AND maintain it. When asked if she wanted to have that as a goal for next year, she said she didn’t feel that having a clean desk is a priority anymore. This is so different from what they first told themselves and then us. They said it felt very unusual to talk about themselves in a positive, accomplished way. We’re so trained by society to hide ourselves and the beautiful light we shine. We bury it and forget. What filter do you use to tell your story about your life, your accomplishments and what you expect for your future? Make yourself the hero/heroine of your dreams. Your challenge, if you choose to accept it, is to have the courage and confidence to exchange with a friend each other’s successes from last month or last year. Speak from your strength using a positive perspective. Report on your wins, benefits and lessons learned. Talk from your heart without the story, and be emotionally neutral. With a zest for Life, Virginia                                                                      Success Thought Be mindful of the words that you use and the actions that you live and who you are and how it is you use your power. In other words, as you say what you say, as you make commitments, as you form the power of your life, keep clear at all times that you are what you say you are, that you put your force behind what you say, and monitor that accordingly. Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul   Virginia Goszewska, the founder of Soulgoals, believes each person and business has a way to contribute to life. The coaching systems she developed that help people find clarity, take action and experience personal and professional success are based on decades of research and experience. As a regional manager with a worldwide, top ten, Inc. 500 company and at top-level executive positions of international corporations, Virginia received awards in sales, training, management and business development. From Southeast Asia to the United Kingdom, people around the world have benefited from her expert coaching, compassionate insights and common sense.  Virginia offers complimentary Break-Free sessions by phone, holds workshops, seminars, team building programs and is a keynote speaker. She can be contacted at virginia@soulgoals.com  or (512) 842-1231. Please feel free to forward this to friends and associates in its entirety.

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Do This Instead of Trying so Hard

Have you noticed that when you push to make things happen, try hard to get something, have to have things work out in a certain way or feel desperate, what you want eludes you or is hard to get?  Other times, often when you casually say you want something, it appears effortlessly.

If a door opens by allowing it to come toward you, pushing against it only closes it more.

The same principle applies to creating your ideal business and life, too.

Imagine this. If someone is chasing you for business, to be their friend or lover, what are you inspired to do?

Run. Far away. Or, because I’m inspired by watching an old TV series Gunsmoke, “get out of Dodge.”

Your dreams and goals are here, now, waiting for you. Be willing and open to receive them.

Recently while out dancing, my friend and I met a man whose company we were enjoying. We liked the band and learned that he hired them to play at his birthday party at his beautiful, country home close to where I live.

My friend whispered to me, “Let’s get an invitation.” I tuned into the idea and felt it would be fun. Within five minutes, he invited us without our saying a word to him about it.

Earlier that night, amidst a sea of people at a month-long event held on six acres, I found myself face to face with a former client. I’d been thinking about reconnecting with her as we hadn’t talked for a couple of years.

We enjoyed catching up by phone the following day. At the end of our conversation, she inquired about my current business offerings. Poised to launch a new direction in her career, she’s ready to let go of limiting beliefs that could hold her back.

She’ll start her program with me this month.

Right place. Right time. Right energy. In the flow. Great results.

No struggle. No trying. Being a magnet for intentions and good things by relaxing and being open to receive.

Note: this is 180 opposite from worrying about what if things don’t work out.

Life is magical when we allow it.

We’ve been trained to think no pain, no gain. Do more. Work harder.

Yes, actions can produce results.

Releasing is one of the highest and most effective actions. This means letting go of anxiety, doubt, fear as well as limiting thoughts and emotions. It’s like a tuning fork emitting a vibration; this frequency naturally harmonizes with complementary notes.

Relaxing and trusting open us to inspired action which allows success to occur naturally.

Your action has nothing to do with your abundance! Your abundance is a response to your vibration. Of course, your belief is part of your vibration. So if you believe that action is part of what brings your abundance, then you’ve got to unravel that.

Abraham-Hicks

TIP: Stop Trying so Hard. Start Allowing.

In Soulgoals’ masterminding, we set our intention for success by saying: I choose and I am willing to receive this or something better. Then we state our goals.

You can do this daily by writing or saying this phrase followed by your goals.

Supercharge your intentions by accessing mastermind energy.  Ask for and allow support from a Divine Source, God, the universe, whatever works for you.

Some have had tremendous success by looking in the mirror daily, masterminding with the Divine, stating the above intention followed by their goal.

Be open and willing to receive.

It works.

Experiment, and you’ll experience.

Reprinted from December 7, 2015

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in how to let go and
have more of what you really want,
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Do What You Love Break Free Session.
If it’s been a while since you’ve had one,
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Email me at:

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I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

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What Happened When I Decided to Date Again

Please enjoy this previously unpublished Soulgoal Missive that I wrote in 2005.

We’ve been led to believe we’re limited and weak. That’s accurate only if we buy into this belief.

We’ve been told we have access to only 10% of our brain and spirit, and we bought into this limitation. However, when we choose to invoke our Soul energy, the 90% of us that is from the Divine Source, we have access to a power and ability that is our heritage, as long as it is used for good… or good play!

Saying we are limited to 10% of our abilities is just part of a tribal belief we accepted as true.

It reminds me of the story about generations of women who cut the ends off a roast before baking. Upon questioning, they learned this technique wasn’t to improve the flavor but to allow the meat to fit into a smaller pan.

We can choose to access the 90% of our Soul energy to assist in any change we desire.

We can choose to invoke Soul energy that resides in the invisible realm by accessing our spiritual self.

This is not mystical or hokey. We do this in the same way a mother was able to rally her strength to lift a car off her baby during a crisis, which previously would’ve been impossible.

Our greatness and ability to change our lives are here for the taking.

Here’s what happened to me:

After weeks of sequestering myself to write, I felt a need for more social contact. Although I hadn’t dated for months and rarely left my neighborhood, I considered having a man in my life.

In less than a week three men appeared:

• First, I saw an old friend while shopping – he invited me out to dinner.
• Second, a friend stopped by to drop something off as I was leaving for a movie. He joined me, and we had a spontaneous night on the town. He had such a good time he asked me out again.
• The third was a suitor from last year.

A casual thought impressed on life’s ethers energetically attracted whoever was closest and available to respond. Hmm, how much more specific do I want to be?

How about this? I choose to increase my income significantly with grace and ease. Let’s see what this brings.

Note: shortly after writing this choice about income, one of my clients asked for daily coaching to support him in an important work project!

God did not plop us on earth and say good luck. We have all the tools we need to be free.

We may complain, beg for and want something different, but for change to happen we must choose. 

What do you choose? Now start by imagining you already have it.

Want to learn how to
invoke Soul energy to 
live your ideal life?
It IS possible!!

Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.

I Deleted 200 Phone Contacts

My contact list cleansing started innocently when my journaling meandered to an experience that happened a few months ago. On multiple occasions, I had conversations and hugs with a woman who works at a local store. We enjoyed some similar interests.

Longer story short, I invited her to my home; she was going to give me ideas about colors to paint my rooms. I thought it would be a nice opportunity to know her better, too.

She was to arrive at 2 PM. An hour earlier, I started to prepare food dishes that I planned for her visit.

At 2:01, she texted me: “Hey Virginia. This date won’t work.”

Mmmm, like she just realized this one minute after she was supposed to arrive? No other comment?

I texted a cordial reply.

Next I invited my 79-year old neighbor to join me as I lured her with a change of beverage from tea to wine. We savored my array of appetizers and our conversation.

While journaling, it occurred to me that the name of the woman who was a no-show started with an “A,” was at the beginning of my phone Contacts, and I saw it practically every time I opened my list.

As I don’t plan on needing this woman’s number anymore — she’s changing jobs, I’m unlikely to see her again, there’s no reason for her to call me and the thought of her was attached to this experience — why was I keeping her phone number?

Delete contact.

Ms. “A” was the beginning of 200 more contacts who met their expunged destinies. After a while, I realized I was following a method similar to cleaning closets. If I haven’t talked with them for a long while and we no longer share mutual interests… DELETE CONTACT! If I really need their numbers, I could find a way to get them.

• I no longer have anything in common with this person. Delete.
• Most people in this organization and I are on different wavelengths. Delete. Delete. Delete.
• These people are unkind, in general and to me. Others have already blocked them. Delete. Delete.
• For years, I’ve neither talked with nor do I have any interest in communicating with these people, who I’ve known since before the invention of the telephone. Delete. Delete.
• Do I really think they’re going to realize they were the jerks and owe me an apology? Wake up! Delete. Delete.
• These people are dead! Find another way to remember them. Delete. Delete.

And so the process began with a keen consideration about why I kept them on my list.

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As clarity came once I got into the swing of why and how to let go, it became easier to release.

Letting go was liberating. I felt empowered. 

I discovered that a part of me had been holding myself back.

Until I finished letting go of them on my list, I didn’t realize that I also deleted unconscious thoughts and feelings that I should be the person that some of them wanted me to be. I let go of ugly interactions.

Especially if I hadn’t talked with them for years and didn’t believe there’d be future contact, what was I holding onto? 

In part, I’d been holding onto memories or a vision of rewriting who we are together, that our lives hadn’t drifted in different directions.

For others, it meant that for me to have a mutually satisfying relationship with them, I’d have to be who I used to be or someone else to fit in.

That’s no longer an option, and this exercise let go of old energy to make room for me to be ME in a bigger way.

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Before computerization, I pulled out cards with contact info of people I knew when I lived on the other side of the country. I didn’t want to let them go, but we hadn’t talked because we were no longer involved with mutual activities. I secured the cards with a rubber band and filed them with other papers.

When I found the pile of cards later, I couldn’t even remember who they were.

We grow. We move on.

No longer seeing certain names so frequently helps to refocus on the now and the future instead of the past.

I often feel profound gratitude to be with friends and clients who have traveled life’s roads with me, or our paths have periodically intersected, sometimes for decades. I’ve also discovered that the caliber of these individuals is often worlds apart from those who I attracted 10, 20 or more years ago. With my current peeps, I can more fully be myself. They understand my heart and what I teach. As a result their lives, and mine because of them, have gotten better and better.

Removing those 200 contacts created space, and the universe doesn’t like a vacuum. This means I’m attracting those who are in greater energetic alignment with who I am now.

What are you willing to let go of so you can move on to bigger and better things?

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy this post? Please share.

Looking to let go of who or what
doesn’t serve you and open
to greater success?
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.

 

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What Do You Have to Have?

 

What do you have to have? It might be more money, love, health, harmony, happiness or anything.

You feel you need this so much that inside your head you’re practically begging for it.

Consider this quote by Abraham-Hicks. Even though the focus is about money, it applies to whatever you want.

“Most people have put anything that earns money in the category of the things that I HAVE to do. And that is why the money often comes so hard.”  

Have ta, gotta. Seems quite desperate. Sounds obligatory, not fun… and hard to get.

“Have to” makes what you want so BIG that it can seem a very daunting task to ever get it. A goal you want but can’t possibly achieve.

Here’s another point. Think about someone, imaginary or real, who has to have you in their life. They need you. Chase after you. They just gotta have you or else their life will fall apart.

Makes you want to run the other way, right?

Same thing applies to money, love, happiness or anything.

Desperate energy repels the very thing you want.

“Have to” can make you feel like a rebellious kid running away from what you believe you have to do.

Hard feels like a daunting task that you might not be up to do.

Instead, be empowered.

Choose.

Annoyed, a woman challenged me when I told her this. “I have to have a job because I have to have money. What do you want me to do, lose my house?”

I responded to choose to keep her house. “Shift your focus, and your desperation won’t chase away prospective employers who could hire you.”

She found a job.

Like attracts like. What is your energy attracting?

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Break the habit of saying that you “have to” have or “have to” do something.

Instead, substitute the word “choose.” By doing this, you tap into a higher, creative energy within you to make more money or achieve any goal.

Test the difference now by using these words in a sentence. Think of something you desire. Put it in a sentence by using a variety of words, found in the examples below.

• I want more money. (This is pretty weak and generic. Not a strong statement.)
• I gotta have more money. (Sounds a bit desperate with underlying energy to match.)
• I have to have more money. (Feels like you could add “or else all is lost” – desperate again.)
• I don’t know what I’ll do if I don’t get more money. (Poor little, pitiful you.)
• I choose to have more money. (Can you feel how this determination is empowering?)

When you feel empowered, you have the energy to find clarity and do what it takes to attract, create or find the money or anything you choose!

Create a new habit of stopping yourself, even mid-sentence, so you speak words in a conscious way.

Every word you speak is an affirmation. Your energy and words are attracting whatever you say. From your lips to God’s ears.

Additionally, you’re reprogramming your brain to shift to actually having what you choose instead of just wishing you had it or feeling desperate or like a victim.

When you tune into this energy more and more, you’ll naturally stop your language of limitation and replace it with those that manifest results.

Be vigilant with your words because they reflect your thoughts and feelings and thereby create your outer world.

Wonder why you don’t quite get what you want or have to have sometimes? Learn how to recognize and change the words you speak.

 

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business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or
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Do You Have a Shortage of What You Want?

 

There’s a saying that goes like this: from your lips to God’s ears. Do you realize the power of your words and thoughts, even casual ones? Do you realize your own power? You are not a victim of life’s circumstances. Most people have a habit of talking about what they don’t have, don’t want, what’s too expensive, how they can’t afford something, what they hope for but wonder if it’s possible that it could happen, or simply complain about what’s not working. Where’s the focus? On lack. On shortage. As Job said in 3:25-26 of the New International Version (NIV) of the Bible: What I feared has come upon me; what I dreaded has happened to me. I have no peace, no quietness; I have no rest, but only turmoil.” Buddha is quoted to have said: “The mind is everything. What you think is what you become.” The good news is that you can change your circumstances starting now by shifting your perspective from lack, shortage, fear and worry to focusing on what makes you happy and what you choose. In doing so, you’ll discover your ability to shape your outer world to enjoy what you really, really want. First, believe in yourself and realize, the best you can in this moment, that you have access to a power that creates all the universes and that which it contains.  Below are quotes from two teachers who add more perspective. These ideas are applicable to money or anything!   ABRAHAM-HICKS “Continuing to tell stories of shortage only continues to contradict your desire for abundance, and you cannot have it both ways: you cannot focus upon unwanted and receive wanted. You cannot focus upon stories about money that make you feel uncomfortable and allow into your experience what make you feel comfortable. A different story will bring different results.” “If you are feeling a shortage of time or money, your best effort would be to focus upon better-feeling thoughts, and do more things that make you feel good.”   BOB PROCTOR “One thing you should never, never do, is worry about whether or not you’ll get the amount of money you desire, because we tend to manifest that which we focus on, so if we’re focused and worried about not having money then we tend to attract more of that way of life, as opposed to if we focus on what we do want and what’s possible and what we can achieve, then we tend to gravitate towards that.” “You will attract everything that you require. If it’s money you need you will attract it. If it’s people you need you’ll attract it. You’ve got to pay attention to what you’re attracted to, because as you hold images of what you want, you’re going to be attracted to things and they’re going to be attracted to you. But it literally moves into physical reality with and through you. And it does that by law.” I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or could use new tools or support. I help them be richly compensated doing what they love.

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