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Gratitude Like This WILL Change YOUR Life

November 20, 2017

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I rudely interrupted myself while grumbling in my head about things I didn’t like.

It’s when I remembered that I recently found out that three people, who played significant roles in my life, left the planet a few years ago. In addition, at least 56 of my high school classmates passed on.

Yet, I’m still here, and I am gifted with another day to make more mistakes, learn, change, grow, love, and Be.

You’re reading this, which means you and I are in the same gifted boat. Even if your life has a few or lots of things going on that make you feel like you’re riding on choppy water, you’re alive. There’s definitely hope. Life can get better and greater.

Here’s how you can turn the tide to flow in your favor even more.

Gratitude is a powerful energy that shifts our focus away from what we don’t have, what’s not working, who done us wrong or who’s missing in our lives, how goofy the world is and everyone’s woeful inadequacies.

When we redirect our attention to gratitude, in spite of appearances that seduce us to believe the opposite, we open ourselves to receive beyond our wildest expectations. The impossible becomes possible.

I wondered how different people and religions value gratitude. With the upcoming American holiday of Thanksgiving, and my interest in sharing this attitude of gratitude with you, here are some quotes I found.

These also reflect why gratitude affects your success, money, relationships, life, health, happiness… and everything! As like attracts like, it’s Law of Attraction at its finest.

Be sure to keep reading, because soon I’ll share a way of giving thanks that, when you practice it, WILL change your life.


Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.– Melodie Beattie


 

When I gladden my heart, I awaken the energy of gratitude. It is an energy that elevates and expands, and brings me to a deeper place in my heart. By opening my heart, I can feel gratitude deeply. Gratitude shifts the moment by shifting me. Nothing around me changes; I change.

Things do not create gratitude; the energy of joy inside of me creates gratitude. –  Deepak Chopra

[By the way, just like the sun shines above cloudy skies, underneath the funkiness you might feel at times is joy. Joy is always present; you’ll see it if you choose to look in its direction.]  



Be not like those who honor their gods in prosperity and curse them in adversity.  In pleasure or pain, give thanks! – Judaism.  Midrash, Mekilta to Exodus 20.2



[Here’s why focusing on what you don’t have creates lack. With gratitude, you focus on what you have.]

For whoever has, to him shall be given, and he shall have more abundance: but whoever has not, from him shall be taken away even that he has. – Matthew 13:12, American King James Version 


 

[Look how similar this is.]

If you are grateful, I will give you more.  –  The Koran 14:7



[Don’t wait for one day of the year to be grateful.]

And if your gratitude is strong and constant, the reaction in Formless Substance will be strong and continuous; the movement of the things you want will be always toward you… 

It is necessary, then, to cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you; and to give thanks continuously. Wallace D. Wattles, The Science of Getting Rich

 


What’s the life-changing way to have gratitude?


During a group discussion of the above-mentioned book by Wattles, I suddenly heard this in a new way. It’s not just occasional gratitude, it’s living in a state of gratitude continuous gratitude.

Gratitude, continuous gratitude, will change your life!

I made a decision for this moment, and then extending it to this minute (more moments), this hour, today, this week, lifetime and beyond, to give thanks continuously. 

Will you join me?

I know I will get distracted from my choice to live in continuous gratitude. When I’ve practiced it, though, my life continues to improve.

However, when I catch myself straying into the hinterlands, I can shift my focus away from lack, my pity pot and what’s not working to being grateful instead.

It won’t matter how many times I’ll fall off my wagon of continuous gratitude; I can always get back on.

So can you.

Happy Days of Gratitude and Giving Thanks!

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I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

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Who Do You Believe More – You or Others? 

November 13, 2017

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Recently while flying, I sat next to a woman who was miserable and distraught because she needed to change, but she didn’t know how or what to do. 

A junk business was dumped on her that she had no interest in but had to run for the last five years. She wanted out of a long-term, unhappy marriage where most of their time was spent fighting. Before our conversation, she had zero clarity of direction and no idea at all what to do for income if she left. Plus, they had so much debt that she felt trapped with few options available.

It soon became obvious how she cornered herself. She had a multitude of flawed beliefs that she clung to and wasn’t open to seeing other perspectives… even though these ideas were holding her back!

She was adamant that she couldn’t believe in herself because she, like all people, are transgressors, and her head was filled with negative self-talk.

I asked her if she couldn’t believe in herself, how would she be able to trust what God wanted her to do? She was the one who was listening and watching for a sign, and she proclaimed herself to be untrustworthy.

She lived in fear, unhappiness, frustration, confusion and hopelessness. Her hamster-wheel thinking lacked clarity, and her life mirrored her misguided notions.

Society grooms us not to trust or believe in ourselves. Instead, we’ve been trained in self-doubt and to believe we’re wrong.

We’ve been taught to elevate the opinion of others and feel helpless compared to the power of spiritual forces, experts, leaders, books, spouses, family, friends, bosses, teachers, doctors, world events and even TV commercials.

However, if we don’t learn to trust and believe in ourselves, we’ll be at the mercy of the whims and, very often, limited ideas of others.



If you think there’s something wrong with you, you’ll attract experiences to validate that your beliefs are true.

If you shift your perspective to see yourself as a divine child of God or the holy spirit, or a child of an unlimited universe, you open yourself to receive greater abundance, success, love, happiness and health. 

97% of human bodies are made of stardust, and an analysis of over 150,000 stars in our Milky Way galaxy proved this is literally true.

The Crosby, Stills & Nash song was right: “We are stardust, we are golden. We are billion year old carbon.”

So stop making yourself small. Your heritage is divinely celestial! 

If you don’t believe in you, why should anyone else?

If you don’t believe in you, how will you be able to tune in to your inner guidance, the sweet whispers of direction from within? How will you be able to distinguish it from the nagging voice in your head of fear, worry, doubt and self-belittlement?

If you’re waiting for others, many who live by flawed beliefs, to recognize your worth, you may be better served by going within to recognize your value.

If others don’t believe in themselves, they aren’t capable of fully believing in you.


Be vigilant about how you picture yourself.

Do you see yourself as not good enough? Can you see how your life would change if you believed you have access to infinite possibilities, even if you don’t have a clue as to how to manifest them?

Right now, breathe and take a moment for yourself. Breathe and go beyond the chatter of others and your thoughts.

The more you practice this, the more you’ll discover your self-worth and that you are deeply loved.

When you tap into this essence of you, you’ll feel good about yourself.

When you feel good about yourself, you open to receive abundance and success as you go beyond lack– lack of love, money, time, health, business, fun, acceptance, respect and happiness.

And you believe in you!

This is why I created the Liberation of Lunacy (LoL technique), because when the ego is in charge, and limiting beliefs only come from the ego, we’re all a little bit crazy.

When your ego is in charge, you can’t see a way out.

When your essence is in charge, you tap into an infinite source within. You trust and believe in yourself.

You’re golden.

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy this post? Please share.


I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

God Knows and God Shows

June 19, 2017

 

A woman, accompanied by a supermarket employee, apologized when she bumped into me. As she frantically swooshed by me again moments later, she turned her head to tell me that she was looking for her keys. I responded: “Say ‘God knows, and God shows.'” She saw her keys within seconds next to a weight scale!


A relative misplaced a big check with several zeroes on it for a couple of weeks. When she called me about it, I told her to repeat God knows, and God shows. Within two hours, I received a message that she found it in a dresser drawer.


“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” Albert Einstein


Why saying God knows, and God shows works.

 

  1. Using a practical application of Einstein’s quote, if your thinking is on loss or what you can’t find, then it’s not on the wavelength of finding. It’s like being on an AM station and looking for FM. You can’t find it because looking and finding are different frequencies.
  2. God knows, and God shows is a tool to let go and surrender. It allows you to let go of focusing on lack (what you don’t have or can’t find), and open to receive a higher energy to “solve our problems.” Think of it as surrendering a caterpillar’s perspective so you can enjoy a butterfly’s view.
  3. You release the need to find something, which often has energies like anxiety attached to it. As like attracts like, neediness attracts more reasons to feel anxious or frustrated. Even though it seems that it shouldn’t be this way, you’ll get more of whatever you’re feeling, not what you say you want. God knows, and God shows allows a greater power to refocus you and override limiting beliefs, such as “I don’t know where it is.” “I can’t find it.”

Don’t take my word for it. Experiment. Use these words while being open to the possibility of getting results, instead of being closed with a stubborn defiance of “prove it.”

By the way, you can use language like “the universe knows, and the universe shows,” if this feels more comfortable for you.

Let’s expand the application to business and life.

Looking for new business, your ideal job or to make more money? Don’t know where to find it? God knows, and God shows. You are now on the wavelength to attract new clients, greater wealth and more opportunities.

Feel stuck about anything? Instead of wallowing in disappointment, you’ll get on track faster in any area of your life by proclaiming, “God knows, and God shows.”

Follow the trail to your rainbow, one step at a time.

Happy manifesting.

With gratitude,

Virginia P.S.

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I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

 

I Got Miffed When My Coach Did This to Me

April 4, 2017
 
During a year-long, business training, we were given one, 30-minute, private coaching session per month. I skipped some months so I could invest in  extended, one-hour sessions.

The short sessions felt like a race. But, ahhh, finally I’d be able to really explore some topics in depth.

My coach had a different idea that day. Not only was she was on a roll  about subjects she wanted to communicate, but they were off-track for me.

I was blind-sided. Annoyed. I felt like an irritated cat who observed but was silent.

I couldn’t think of a way to derail her  without being rude, even though she was taking away time from my agenda, and I didn’t care about what she was saying. I was left a bit flabbergasted and without words to express myself. (Yeah, I know, weird for me.)

This bugged me so much that later I discussed it with another coach. I wasn’t placing blame on my biz coach, but I wondered why I was bothered. Why couldn’t I turn the session into what I wanted instead of just responding to her direction? ________________________________

The root of my miffedness? I was so focused on trying to be nice to her that I wasn’t nice to ME! I put her feelings above mine.

It was a huge lesson. Don’t  allow other people’s feelings and opinions to have more value than my own.

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By the way, later when I listened to the recording of our session, what she said wasn’t as bad as I thought. I really needed to hear her in a skewed way to get this lesson!

Recently, I facilitated a coaching session with a masterminder who’s successful, positive and very aware that whatever she focuses on multiplies.

When it seemed impossible to achieve her numbers by the next day to get a bonus, a new client appeared out-of-the-blue. She always wins door prizes. After a break-up from a long-term relationship, a chance meeting landed her an invite to spend the next week at a condo on the coast with wonderful and supportive women – for free!

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She’s learned the power of masterminding: how to choose what she wants and, with the dynamic of group energy, manifest beyond her wildest expectations. Not only is she  aware of the power of her focused attention, she’s living proof that her thoughts and feelings become reality.

However, there are people in her personal life who see things differently – they believe in a lack philosophy

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The cup is half full. No sense in making plans because they never work. They complain about how there’s not enough money.

When they expressed their negative views and even dismissed her approach, she politely didn’t say anything. Everybody has a right to their opinion.

Then she woke up, and it felt like a weight was lifted from her when she heard this:

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Your outer world is shaped by your thoughts and feelings. If you allow others to surround you with their negative energy, it can affect the way you feel. In doing so, you’ve given them power to create YOUR world – for better or worse.

Care about the way you feel. Make feeling good a priority if you care about your business, health, life and ability to prosper.

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Why let strangers in a car who drive in some loopy way bother you and affect your mood, which can affect your day.. because this can affect your wallet and ability to create the life you choose?

Why allow your energy, the way you feel, to be infused by limiting views on the way life works because you’re trying to be nice or afraid to speak up?

Sounds good, but how?

Sure to bomb: “My well being is a  key to my success. So you need to shut up so I can feel good.”

Delicious in the moment, but that won’t bring you positive results.

Effective: Opt to express yourself with grace and ease.

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Creatively communicate without making the other person wrong.

How can you take a stand for yourself while being kind? You’re worth it.

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Yes, play it smart, too. Your boss, friends or family may require a lot of creativity.

I pondered how to inform a health practitioner to stop his limited thinking about the results I could get.

I found a creative way, but that’s another story.

With gratitude,
Virginia

P.S. Know others who could use help in standing up for themselves or changing the way they feel so they can attain greater success? Please forward this post.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

TIP: My Trip on National Day of the Cowboy

July 25, 2016
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National Day of the Cowboy was on July 23rd, and The Briscoe Western Art Museum in San Antonio, Texas, celebrated. As I’ve been watching old westerns on YouTube, I thought I’d check it out.

Among the many paintings, exhibits and artifacts, there was a Wells Fargo stage coach. People traveled in dust, cold and heat with the possibility of being stopped by Indians, robbers or a broken wheel.

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A chuck wagon on display brought images to mind about the trek of the pioneers as they traveled west in their wagons. Why did they do it?

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Then I heard at an audio exhibit: a reason people came west was to change their concept of themselves. 

Think self-concept such as being a city folk versus the imagination of going west.

It was one way to leave behind how they saw themselves and their lives.

And this brought me back to Soulgoals.

A former masterminder and influential professional planned to launch a new career. She said that she knew her results would be defined by what’s going on in her head, so she came to me for help.

In changing her concepts of self-doubt, fear of not being good enough and other mental noise, her current business soared.

Now she decided her new career will be even better if she waits to start it. Because she changed the way she sees herself, she’ll be able to springboard from the phenomenal, new opportunities coming to her.

What concepts do you have of yourself?

For example, if you choose to get in shape, what’s that voice in your head telling you when you look in the mirror? Which do you think will help you attain your hot body faster?

Beating yourself up for the %*@^#! you see in the mirror?

OR

Approving of yourself just the way you are while envisioning your ideal body and taking action?

We’ve been trained to worry and be hard on ourselves with the erroneous belief that it will whip us into shape.

Actually, it will either hold us back or make us unhappy. The movie Whiplash about a drummer in music school is a good example.

Driven success created calamitous results.

You have the ability to change how you see yourself. By doing so, you set your success ceiling.

All your negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs come from your ego – a false identity everyone has. The ego is very wily and knows exactly how to trick you into believing lack, limit, anxiety and fear.

You know if your ego is running your life when you’re not getting the results you choose.

A businessman completed his side of a negotiation, and the transaction was to be finalized at the beginning of the work week.

He gave clear instructions that everyone had to wait for papers to be signed before taking action on the new deal. That weekend, one of the parties brought in carloads of people to help in the transition, and the other party was furious.

They totally blamed him. Although he was faultless, they wouldn’t listen to or believe a word he said.

He played out the situation in his head over and over again about what went wrong, what he could’ve done differently. He put in weeks of work to give outstanding service, going above and beyond the call of duty. Now all that was lost, and he looked like the bad guy.

While in a group session, he connected the dots and had a big aha moment.

A concept emerged that the voice in his head often repeated:  nobody ever listens to him.

His energy had attracted a circumstance even though he wasn’t present.

When he changed his self-concept, he became empowered.

He recognized his worth. No longer would he play the victim.

Weird how he wasn’t even around and this happened to him, right?

It is until you see that you’re more than a physical body.

Your energy creates. Your feelings create. The conversations in your head create.

Want more success? Shift your energy. Change your concept of yourself.

Your TIP is to observe one negative story you tell yourself, and rewrite it.

Any negative way you talk to yourself, any depressing feelings, come from your ego.

Your ego acts as if it’s being rational when it tells you negative things.

Your ego lies.

There’s a perspective to make you the hero of your story.

Find it.

By doing so, you put your core Essence, your Soul, in the driver’s seat of your life and business.

Especially for the masterminders, how high can you open yourself to receive?

You don’t have to leave town or travel across the country in a wagon to change your self-concept… and enjoy the life and business of your dreams.

Copyright © 2016 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

It’s About Peace, My Friend

December 22, 2015

peace - let there beDuring one of my most challenging times, when things went from bad to worse, the pain became unbearable.

A quiet voice within asked why I was upset. Well, I thought, look at my life. Each crisis flashed before me, and I felt justified drowning in my anguish.

Yes, came the voice again, but why are you upset?  Because, I argued, I don’t like any of this, and I want things to be different.

Then, I realized the pain wasn’t caused by my circumstances. My suffering was because I wanted. I wanted things to change.

Wanting comes from lack. What we don’t have. Never enough. My wanting created unimaginable hurt.

Like magnetic fields, we can’t have and want at the same time because they’re opposing energies. Positive and negative fields repel each other.

The moment I switched from wanting to remembering I have all my needs within, my torment stopped.

Looking to others and circumstances, while wanting approval, love, security, empowerment or validation, drives us to beat ourselves up and feel like a nobody.

When quiet and at peace, answers come.

When there’s recognition of having, we don’t need to seek safety from an outside source.

We’re not safe when we focus on fear.  As like attracts like, that’s how we become a magnet to be terrorized and a victim.

No person or group, no client or job, no house or amount of money holds our security. God is the Source of our supply. If something doesn’t work, something better will, especially if we allow it and are open to believe it can.

As we clear the energy of lack and replace it with what we choose, positive results follow.

We can be safe, in the right place, at the right time.

If we think we won’t be, we won’t. If we wonder what if we’re not, we probably won’t be. If we’re basically positive but wonder what if things don’t work out, they may not. If we allow ourselves to be afraid because of what others might think, say or do, we’ve given control to others.

If a lock on the door is a good idea, install a lock. Creating a drama or fear about what might occur if there isn’t a lock doesn’t help – unless this type of attention or emotions it creates is the actual desired outcome.

If we believe everything always works out, get ready for miracles and abundance!

Christmas is a time of love and celebration.

This is your opportunity to go beyond lip service and be the change. Demonstrate peace and goodwill toward men. Not just the ones you like. Or those who look or act or believe like you.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, these quotes from the King James Bible offer wisdom:

“Judge not, that ye be not judged.”
“For unto us a child is born… and his name shall be called …The Prince of Peace.”
“Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.”
“Then said Jesus to them again, Peace be unto you: as my Father has sent me, even so send I you.”  

TIP: It’s About Peace, My Friend

Much of the world is lost in wanting and creating conflict over what they perceive they don’t have. You can be a bringer of peace.

Let there be peace on earth, let it begin with you.

When you feel anxiety, ask yourself what you’re wanting.

The perfect gift? You’re more likely to find it if you’re relaxed.

Getting the house in order or landing a business deal? If you have good feeling mojo, you’ll spread holiday cheer to your guests or clients – and they’ll feel better around you.

Want more business or money? When you’re emotionally calm, you’re more receptive to ideas that will bring you both. Or, they’ll be drawn to you like Santa Claus to cookies.

Choose peace over wanting approval and love, wanting security, wanting control.

Let go of wanting approval and love so you can have approval and love.

Let go of wanting to be safe and secure to realize you already are. It can’t be given to you.

Let go of the need to defend. Take action to take care of yourself; the rant of fear gets in the way of effectiveness.

Let go of wanting control. Nobody can give it to you. You already have it.

Make peace your highest priority, and experience greater success.

Merry Christmas and a wonderful holiday season to you!

May peace be unto you, my friend.