Posts Tagged ‘fear’

Does Life Suck During Covid Times?

November 16, 2020

Life sucks? Wonder where your road is taking you? Read on.

Here’s an edited excerpt from November 29, 2012, Soulgoals’ Archives about how to reshape your destiny.

If you’re happy with your life, maybe you’d like it to be even better. If you’re not happy with your life, you can change it.

Maybe you feel it would take a miracle.

Well, here’s how to create them!

The reason people are able to create miracles is they ask for them, believe they can receive them, are open to receive, and have faith and confidence life will provide.

I know. It sounds like a tall order.

Me? I have experience in resisting them even though I longed for a way out.

I got a Ph.D. in 11th hour saves. Why? Because it took me that long to let go and trust.

I used worry as a strategy.

Spoiler alert: worry only makes things worse.

Strong emotional reactions skew perspective. By the way, they have nothing to do with what you think you’re upset about. They’re often from unresolved pain or the irritation of having given away your power. Blaming others is giving your power away, too. Take responsibility. Look deeper.

Everyone has childhood experiences where fear ruled. My highly charged, emotional upbringing with screaming parents introduced me to fear as my companion. Like holding onto a childhood blanket, I continued the legacy of anxiety into adulthood by attracting stressful situations.

It really didn’t matter what it was: health; relationships; financial; whatever. As long as something went wrong, I could feel that ole, familiar, sickening dread.

Like everyone else, I have stuff to deal with, but I’m not entertaining emotions of fear-worry-stress as houseguests anymore.

What emotional instant replays do you have?

What emotions do you usually feel when you’re down for the count? Awareness leads to freedom.

Instead of automatically giving your power to an emotion, your taste buds, the next shiny object, any Homo sapiens, the internet, a calendar date, scientists, politicians or habits, take a deep breath and question.

Question everything, including cherished beliefs.

What’s the truth underneath? Find quiet time and journal. Write about your thoughts and feelings. Get “it” off your chest. Amazing insights emerge, and your self-confidence rises.

This is especially true during Covid times.

You’re not alone in this process. You know the rug that stuff got swept under? Life is forcing everyone to clear out those dust bunnies and move on.

Make a clean sweep by seeing through illusions and making empowering choices. 

It’s never too late to reshape your destiny.

Would you like to reshape your destiny?
Really, it’s possible.

Contact me to find out how:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.”

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Please Read: Dr. Emoto’s Messages From Water and Amazing COVID-19 PHOTOS!

August 10, 2020

Words were written in Japanese on containers that held water. The water was frozen creating crystals.
“Water has memory and transmits information, and everything is vibration.”
“Do you want to use negative energy or negative words or positive words?” Michiko Hayashi

 

May the copyright gods forgive me for not getting permission to publish these photos, but I feel this is too important not to share. (I’ve given attribution by means of website links at the bottom of this post.)

Your thoughts, words, emotions and intentions affect your immune system, and below are photos that illustrate this.

Last week, 50,000 people from around the world signed up for the online Sound Healing Global Summit. I watched all 35 leaders share their expertise during approximately 45-minute presentations each, and many were experiential. I took extensive notes.

Have you ever immersed yourself in an eye-opening experience where life revealed itself to you in new ways so clearly that you felt like a stretched rubber band that can never go back to its old shape again?

I wrote in my notes a modern interpretation of a Shakespearean quote that came to me about how I was feeling.

“What’s past is prologue.”

Whatever happened in my life before, seemingly good or bad, with its pain or joys, merely set the stage. Like the prologue of a play, my past is not my story but the introduction of what’s to come as I boldly and consciously create my future anew. It’s an opportunity to stop old, unsupportive ways and start healthier ones with a new vision.

This Covid time is a reset moment for each of us, a reset to the next chapter of our lives. We can create it to be a dynamic manifesting of our dreams.

Throughout my transformation, you were in my heart as I thought of ways to share this with you. Stay tuned for more on that to come.


Onward now to excerpts from Thursday’s presentation by Michiko Hayashi, who worked as a personal assistant to Dr. Masaru Emoto for over 10 years and is the successor of his legacy.

Dr. Emoto was a Japanese scientist and water researcher who revolutionized the idea that our thoughts, human words, sounds and intentions impact the physical world.

His 2005 New York Times bestseller The Hidden Messages in Water demonstrates how loving, benevolent and compassionate intentions and words imprint the physical, molecular structure of water to create beautiful crystal formations. Conversely, fearful and discordant human intentions create ugly, disfigured and “unpleasant” molecular formations.

He accomplished this through through Magnetic Resonance Analysis technology and high speed photographs of frozen water after playing music, writing words and using prayers of gratitude by people surrounding polluted bodies of water. Then he observed the water crystals.

Everything in life is vibration, and vibration is energy, or what they call HADO.

Consciousness, thoughts and emotion = HADO.

There is a phrase in Japanese that says every word has its own spirit, its own energy.  

The words Love, Gratitude and Thank you build our immune system.

Immune destruction comes from hatred and grudges.

This is the essence of the Law of Attraction.

Dr. Emoto discovered that water has memory. As our planet and ourselves are 70% water, we are impacted by our own and others’ words, thoughts, emotions and intentions.


 

THE EFFECT OF MUSIC


 

HERE’S WHAT THE WORD COVID-19 ON WATER LOOKS LIKE.  SOME DISTORTION BUT NOT UGLY.


 

COVID-19 AND FEAR CREATE THE UGLY DISTORTION!

This is what happens with the addition of the word Fear to Covid-19. “Fear is the one that made the ugly crystal. It really shows that we should stop being fearful or being worried. That it’s really negative energy that is creating the reality. If we are not really fearful to corona virus, it’s not really that [much] negative energy. If people are not really that fearful or worried or scared, it doesn’t really do much. That is what water is showing… Fear is what makes it really worse.” 

Michiko Hayashi


 

COVID WITH LOVE AND GRATITUDE CREATE A MORE BEAUTIFUL CRYSTAL.

“But if we show Covid-19 with Love and Gratitude together, that starts to create really beautiful crystals…

Here we see that our thoughts are powerful and affect even viruses.” Michiko Hayashi


Michiko shared that the opposite of love and gratitude is hatred and grudges.
We resonate with whatever we focus on, and then we attract more of the same energy.
Love and gratitude cancel out hatred, anger and grudges, and then Covid will not be harmful. Its energy will be canceled. That’s how vibration works.


 

WHAT WE CAN DO TO CHANGE OUR FIELD OF ENERGY

Feel stress? Think the word “relax.”

 

Learn more about Dr. Emoto and his work: www.EmotoPeaceProject.net

Learn more about the Sound Healing Global Summithttps://soundhealingglobalsummit.com/program

Sign up for free to The Shift Network, the host of the summit and transformational events!! 

Perhaps they’ll have a free replay of the summit this coming weekendhttp://theshiftnetwork.com

Be Healthy and Sound!

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I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.
I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning with
their Soul’s goals.

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The Chicken Little Story – Is the Worst Going to Happen?

August 3, 2020

“Chicken Little was in the woods when an acorn fell on her head. It scared her so much she trembled all over. She shook so hard, half her feathers fell out. “Help! Help! The sky is falling! I have to tell the king!”

What if? What if? What if the worst would happen?

No. Chicken Little assumed the worst already happened and then sounded the alarm to others.

Sounds like today’s news.

There are other options.

During the Gulf War, a reporter posed a question to then Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher at a press conference. To paraphrase, “What if the enemy makes a certain move? What would England do?”

I couldn’t imagine how she would tactfully respond. Would she give away their strategy? Would she cut the reporter off at his knees and be rude? Would she walk away or ignore him and make believe the subject wasn’t asked?

She replied that she doesn’t answer hypothetical questions.

How many times do we corner ourselves by entertaining some dastardly event that may or may not occur in the future that someone else or our mind asks?

There are times when we need to plan ahead.

However, often we set ourselves up for failure or become frozen into inaction because of a worst-case scenario, imaginary future.

I’m reminded of an interaction I heard at an estate sale. A woman asked the cost of a television and was told it wasn’t for sale.

Her reply was, “If it was for sale, how much would it be?”

Golly, lady, what difference does it make? It’s not for sale.

Alright, so it was my mom who asked, but still…

Hypothetical situations.  Engrained from old programming, the brain creates problems through projecting the worse possible future outcomes. Fear and worry are patterns about future and imagined problems that often have no meaning or may never happen.

What if I lose my job? What if the kids get hurt? What if catastrophe strikes? What if I get sick?

If it does, you’ll deal with it. You’ll find a way.

And what if it doesn’t happen?


Before my mother’s time came to leave this earthly experience, she went into a coma. I knew the end was near.

It was also a time when my health and energy were as poor as my pocketbook. I knew she wanted to be buried in New York, but I had no idea from where the money would come for the funeral and to move her body from Texas.

As I ruminated aloud about my dilemma next to her near-lifeless body, she came out of her coma and said, “You’ll find a way,” and immediately slipped away again.

These were the last words I ever heard from my mother.

Interestingly, a phrase she repeatedly voiced throughout her life was “where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

I got creative and found a way. It was surprisingly easy to arrange for several thousands of dollars of expenses and transportation costs although I had no money at the time.

Reportedly, a mother found strength to lift a car to save her child who was underneath. If asked earlier, she would’ve scoffed at the possibility of doing such a thing.

In real emergencies, the mind and its limitations step aside, and the brilliance of our true spirit shines its light to guide us. The light is always here to show the way if we turn it on.

In the children’s story of Chicken Little, Foxy-Woxy took advantage of animals that were afraid. They were so pre-occupied with their concerns of the sky falling that they became prey for the fox to escort them one by one into his hole and make a fine dinner of them.

Your challenge, if you choose to accept it, is to outsmart Foxy-Woxy’s tricks:

  • What have you been “what ifing” about? What brings you fear if you think the worst might happen?
  • Consider possibilities of what you could do if the situation arises.
  • Take any precautions and actions necessary to take care of others, yourself and property.
  • Consider what your life would be like if your “what if” doesn’t happen.
  • Following due diligence to address your needs, let go of your concerns. Enjoy your life. You’ve done all you can do.

Whatever you’re facing, there’s always a way out. You’ll find a way.

Adapted from Soulgoal Missive, Year 1, No. 17

 Is there someone you know who might appreciate Chicken Little’s Story? Please share.

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I work with people
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or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.
I help them be richly compensated
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All is NOT Lost! What to do if Things Don’t Work the Way You Thought.

September 24, 2019

What do you do when you’ve invested a lot of energy into results that don’t happen?

You were really counting on that contract to come through, but now it’s up-in-the-air. A friend said she’d help you move but bailed at the last minute. Your relationship falls apart.

Things just didn’t work out the way you thought they should or would.

A freelancer counted on her big client to provide a steady flow of income. She had a realistic expectation this would continue.

Suddenly, she was let go.

After the initial shock, she put it in perspective. She used a journaling exercise found on my blog and had a CEO meeting with God. https://soulgoals.wordpress.com/category/ceo-meeting-with-god/  (Scroll down to the post on October 2, 2009.)

She realized she now had time to focus on projects and business ideas she’d put off.

Things don’t always work as expected. But change always makes way for something better, regardless of how it appears in the moment.

Your income, love, support, health and results don’t come from only one source. God, the Divine, is your supply. God or the universe, whatever word is in alignment with your beliefs, is never lost and offers infinite possibilities. Therefore, if something doesn’t work, new ways are found.

Maybe the change is what it took for you to let go and allow new possibilities to occur.

Sometimes you have to let go to free yourself.

Remember the proverbial monkey who grasps something in a vase but can’t remove it? The neck of the vase is so narrow that he has to release his grip just to get his hand out.

You’ll get results: your expectation, goal or something better. However, you may need to change your perspective or approach.

You may need to let go of your emotional and mental grasp to allow something better to come in.

What you focus on grows. In the past, have you chosen anxiety? Instead, enjoy a childlike trust and curiosity. Look for how the universe is assisting you. Consider it a mystery, and you delight in discovering an answer.

Believe there’s a happy ending, and focus on it. Why not? You probably tried fear and worry (over and over again), and they don’t produce lasting and fulfilling outcomes.

By the way, about out freelancer. All was far from lost. New jobs appeared through happenstance, and her big client came back a few months later. Her job situation worked out when she let go and shifted her perspective.

 

This is a reprint from February 7, 2011, of one of my most popular posts.

 

If you’d like to discover
how you can change
your losses to gains,

contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

Copyright © 2019 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

You Don’t Own Me – Enough of Crazy-Makers and Annoying Thoughts

September 16, 2019

“If you do not run your subconscious mind yourself,
someone else will run it for you.”
Florence Scovel Shinn

This is a reprint of an email I sent to my clients on March 31, 2014. Now I’m sharing it with you.

While driving, a client told me that he had to pull over to the side of road to scream at his thoughts to shut up.

It reminds me of these lyrics: “You don’t own me. I’m not just one of your many toys… And don’t tell me what to do. And don’t tell me what to say… So just let me be myself. That’s all I ask of you.”

Few welcome being controlled, yet most are controlled by feelings and thoughts they don’t want.

Have you ever been plagued by beating yourself up with worry and fear over money; stress about time or relationships; grief; suffering over the way you look or feel; confusion over what to do; sadness or countless other ways of feeling bad? That’s why many turn to drugs, alcohol, food, over-working and blaming others.

What to do?


Gotta DO something. Ah yes, the default response: analyze, take time to process, wrap your brain around it or intellectually understand.  

But here’s the trickster’s game of your ego, which is the false identity you think is you.

Because our computer/ brain was never programmed with how to get rid of these feelings and thoughts, we end up feeling worse because we can’t find answers.

Or we get ideas that we can’t get to make work, blame ourselves… but keep trying ineffective approaches.


As a client said, it’s like going to a dry well looking for a drink of water, and the well is toxic anyway.

Regardless, most have a habit of trying to figure out how to let go of the way they feel, and they often can’t allow themselves to hear anything that doesn’t center around mental solutions. If you’ve done this, it’s an indicator that you’ve given your power to your ego to control you, own you, instead of knowing how to gain mastery of your life.

Results? As like attracts like, if you’re feeling negative you’ll attract more negativity. Positive attracts positive.

If you feel unwanted emotions, who’s having you feel this way?  They may have started with childhood messages or emerged because of circumstances, but there’s no one in your head telling you to think or feel this way.

As you’re the one who’s doing it, you CAN choose to do something differently.

Before you start beating yourself up about having beaten yourself up, there’s NOT something pathetically wrong with you. It’s the way the ego works, and we all have one.  BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO CONTROL YOUR LIFE,  MAKE YOU FEEL MISERABLE, DRIVE YOU NUTS OR HOLD YOU BACK FROM MAKING YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE!

Everything is energy, and the energy from thoughts or feelings can be released. They’re only feelings. They don’t have to own you.

Years ago while we were talking, a friend of mine felt anxiety about her upcoming divorce. I suddenly felt anxiety in my gut, but hers was gone. I said I didn’t want it and gave it back to her. We laughed as we bounced the sick in the gut feeling back and forth between us before deciding to let it go. In other words, we could control the presence and absence of this gut-wrenching feeling which meant we could simply let it go.

This includes any feeling!

You can do the same.


Instead of acting helpless in the grips of Robo-Ego, know that you’re in charge and undesirable feelings can leave.

Here are a few tips:

  • If you want or need something, you’re coming from lack. You’ll be perpetually in a place of wanting instead of having what you choose.
  • What you resist persists. Although it sounds counter-intuitive, if you don’t like something, you’re holding onto it.
  • When you let go of trying to control, wanting validation or desiring safety, you can have them.

Ever notice when men or women want a relationship? The objects of their desire want to run. Same thing with money, health or anything.

The freedom everyone longs for breezes in when we let go because then we allow our spirit, our wise self within, to be in charge. It can happen in seconds not years. But we block ourselves from having what we really, really want when we clutch onto yucky feelings in our chest or gut or when we’re stuck in our heads.

There are underlying beliefs we’ve tucked away that impact us, but they can be prompted to surface and be released.

Everyone has the ability to let go although some resist. So, we come back to who owns you?

You DO have a choice.


The ego is at the core of all the lack of success and suffering we experience.

I’m more than happy to share phenomenally effective tools I’ve learned and created to unravel patterns and help you release their incessant drone of control, disapproval and insecurity so you experience true freedom and make your dreams come true.

Those dreams can be anything from financial success to living a better life.

What would feel better? Feeling anxiety or having peace? Wanting success or having success?

If you’d like to learn more about letting go so you can master your feelings and have what you really, really want, please contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com.



I received this email from Kathryn Brown, CEO of Adventure Más, describing results from a recent VIP Letting Go Session. (She creates zip lines and more. How cool is that!)  Here’s a practical demonstration of what letting go can do about relationships and money:

Toward the end of my second time participating in Virginia’s program, I decided to try one of her sessions designed to help clear the ego of its default “methods of operation.” At first I resisted. I didn’t want to add anything more to my plate, even knowing that it would more than likely exponentially assist me in clearing old programs that were blocking my progress. I thought, “I can do this later.” It was really no surprise, given the success I had with her program, when I witnessed the synchronicity of events on the day I agreed to do the session.

I realized when I arrived at Virginia’s that I had forgotten my card I had written my issues on for our session. No problem—Virginia picked up on the issues I had forgotten.

It was a great session, and Virginia was very gracious with her time. It was sometime after I got home that I found the card I wrote my issues on and noticed my husband’s handwriting on the back of it. Although I hadn’t gone into any details about what I was going to talk about, he had picked up on many of the issues Virginia and I had discussed and very sensitively and lovingly addressed them bringing me to tears. The issues were about control and security although we had what I considered to be a good relationship.

One of the great blessings was realizing on a much deeper level that everything we think and feel about someone, they know, whether spoken or not.

Our judgments have a big impact on our lives and can block our progress. I began to see how my judgments driven by ego, no matter how quickly I thought I let them go, were really hanging around. My need for control and security was larger than I had imagined.


Additionally, I had a business contract that was ready to renew. Not only did it renew but I was offered more money than before!

What I walked away with were:

  • Skills I can use in my everyday life when I catch myself in my own ego traps.
  • I feel much more at peace in situations.
  • I am very much at ease with who I am.
  • I’m comfortable with my need for control and security at times—I just love them unconditionally and release them unconditionally.
  • I have learned to let go of many things I had so tightly hung onto out of an unconscious fear.
  • The world keeps spinning but I don’t have to.

I would recommend this session to anyone whether you think you are “ready or not”!

Kathryn Brown
President & CEO of Adventure Más

If you’d like to learn more about letting go so you can master your feelings and make room to have what you really, really want, please contact me at virginia@soulgoals.com

With gratitude,
Virginia


If you’d like to find out
more about how you can
be free of what’s 
holding you back so
you can live a more
wonderful life,

contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

 


I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
living a life they love.

The BEST New Year’s Resolution

January 1, 2018

happy new year 2018

When I was a little girl, I asked my mother what should I be. I wanted her answer to be about my future profession, like a butcher, a baker or candlestick maker.

She always replied that she wanted me to be happy, which seemed at the time a lame response.

The older I get and the more I know about life, though, I realize what a wise answer it was.

Why being happy matters

As like attracts like, the more we’re happy, the more happy experiences we’ll attract.

Feeling good allows us not only to achieve our goals but continue to manifest more.

We can be rich, powerful, famous and living the dream, but if we’re not happy, well, life isn’t much fun. Living in stress, worry, fear, sadness or struggle can destroy our physical, financial, mental and emotional health and well-being.

Happiness doesn’t come because we have everything we want; we won’t enjoy them and may find that they slip away if we don’t feel good.

Stress, anxiety and worry are only habits that don’t serve you or anyone else. 

Feeling afraid because of lack of money, love or health won’t change when you have everything money can and can’t buy. If these ways of thinking are habitual, you’d find something to get you bent out of shape.

Ever notice people (maybe you) who always have a reason to complain or feel bad? Even when things are great, they find something that’s not good enough.

Be happy. Find a silver lining no matter what.

You might be thinking that I don’t understand. You’ve got a lot of problems. You’ve been done wrong. You’ve experienced loss, and you’re afraid the proverbial other shoe might fall. You’ve been living in pain. You’ve had the worse things happen to you.

I really do get it because when everything in my life was falling apart, I knew I’d lose it all if I stepped onto the slippery slope of fear. My negativity would have made things go from bad to worse.

So I made a decision to feel good. To feel good in spite of it all.

Step at a time, sometimes baby steps, my life got better and better and better.

 


 

The BEST New Year’s resolution is to resolve to feel good. With this decision all things or something better are possible.

It really is a choice.

You have complete control over your perspective, regardless of the situation. Your interpretation of events, your life, your success or manifesting your dreams is your key to the door of happiness, misery or getting what you most want.

Your energy will draw to you more of how you feel.

How in the world can you feel good in spite of the odds? Be grateful.


 

A client gifted me a handmade journal with an embroidered peacock on the cover that she bought in one of my favorite museums. It’s so beautiful that I decided I only wanted beautiful words in it. Another client on her team suggested a journaling exercise that makes her feel good.

Write what’s working in your life.

Soon after, on a day when everything was uncharacteristically out-of-synch, I couldn’t leave town to go to a party for me!  Instead of having a hissy fit, I grabbed my new journal and wrote on the entire first page the many things that are going well.

Focusing on gratitude shifted my energy, allowed me to let go of the stress and be in present time. Of course, the change in plans turned out to be way better.

HAPPY New Year to you.

Hint: the clue is in the greeting. The first word is HAPPY.

The BEST New Year’s resolution is to feel good and be happy.

You can use feeling good as your inner GPS to know if you’re on the right track or not. It may be that the only thing needed for you to be happy is an attitude adjustment. Also, how you feel can be an indicator that you’re on the right path or heading in a direction that no longer serves you or maybe never did.

If you decide a change is needed, feel good about where you are, even if you don’t like it. Then line up your energy by feeling good about your new direction and take actions for something better.

Happy New Year! It’s your choice to parrot the words or make them come true for you!

May you enjoy your happiest year ever!

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I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

FEEL STUCK? 4 TIPS TO GET OUT OF YOUR RUT – PART 2

July 6, 2010

Sometimes we can’t make peace with ourselves, no matter what. We hold on tight to our fear and anxiety as long as we can, in spite of our best intentions. However, cliff hanging makes us prime candidates for an eleventh hour save.

That’s exactly what happened to me. For weeks I simply couldn’t create a workbook for an afternoon workshop. Finally, I gave up trying. I’d go without.

Only after thoroughly letting go, literally at the eleventh hour the night before, I started to write. A 19 page book flowed out of me. I wrote all night and, with no sleep, still felt energized to give and enjoy the workshop, too. But what I put myself through beforehand!

TIP #2: Choose to let go. If you hold onto your fear and anxiety, you’ll block your flow.

If you have whatever it takes to move forward at the eleventh hour, you probably have it before then, too. You can choose to let go of the pressure earlier, and save yourself from useless agony and guilt. If you choose, you can get out of the habit of eleventh hour saves.