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What’s Spring Doing to You?

April 10, 2017

I’ve lived through a few “dark nights of
the soul.” Life or circumstance created
feelings and thoughts that cloaked me
with a heavy pall taking months to release.

Then, just as spring arises from the
barren winter, signs of life within me
determinedly emerged like a phoenix
rising from the ashes.

I understand when people can’t seem to
throw off pervasive feelings that run in
the background like a software program
that’s been slowly and covertly draining
their energy, often for a very long time.

Finally, as if they were running on a low
battery but getting by, the charge is
gone. They can’t take it anymore and
have to do something.

As I ponder what to write to you
today, all I can think about are
several, recent coaching sessions:

People identified specters that lurked
in their shadows for years, haunting
them with their convincing influence
of limitation and disapproval.

______________________________

They courageously pulled back
the curtain that hid their inner
tormenters, which were revealed to
be nothing more than Wizard of Oz
imposters, and freed themselves.
______________________________

Previously, the ego’s dictates filled
their thoughts and feelings like smoke
in a room on fire with little space for
breathing freely.

When the air cleared, the peace
and empowerment of the present
moment shined like the sun on a clear,
cloudless day.

True freedom.

This freedom comes from no longer
being thrashed by past pain or fear
of the future or the hollow echoes that
they, what they do or their lives aren’t
good enough.

______________________________

Maybe you’ve heard those voices in
your head, too – the worrisome talk 
that creates fear, doubt and anxiety
disguised as the voice of reason.

You obediently listened, and now you
don’t take risks or you fritter away your 
energy distracted by blame, shame,
regret, doubts, grief, frustration or
lack that leave you too exhausted to
create the life you really want.
______________________________

Living in the Now even for a moment
brings relief.

The heart freed of shackles, that were
locked in restraint by misty, forgotten
memories, is free to rejoice in renewal,
like the season of spring.

Or is it the spring that can recoil and
stretch to accommodate life’s demands?

______________________________

Living in the Now takes practice, and it
helps to have positive support to
counter the ego’s seduction that tries
to hook you into believing that you can’t
attain the life, business, finances and
happiness you really want.
______________________________

Inevitably, the ego tries to lure you
again with its hypnotic trance of anxiety,
lack, fear, doubt and limit, which results
in dissatisfaction.

However, once the taste of freedom
is savored, it’s proof that peace and
happiness are more than a wishful
hope.

Years of habit have etched neural
pathways in the brain spawning ruts
of discontent.

That all changes when being nurtured
by living in present time as new
pathways gain dominance.

A friend texted for me to write about
never giving up on your dreams.

With an unencumbered
spirit, your dreams or something
even better can come true.

Believe.

P.S. Know others who could use help to be free so they can create a better life and business? Please forward this post.
I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would  benefit from new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

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TIP: Are Foolish Consistencies Keeping You Stuck?

November 28, 2016

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“A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.” Ralph Waldo Emerson from his essay “Self-Reliance”
Are you thinking for yourself?Or are you making current choices based on past decisions or on what other people think?

Holding onto fixed ideas and not being open to new ones is an example of a foolish consistency, and it can keep you stuck.

A foolish consistency can affect your heart.

A man, who places a high value on keeping his word, made a promise to repair expensive equipment and gift it to a friend.

Personally, giving this gift meant a great deal to him.

After several months, he realized the equipment couldn’t be repaired.

He tried really hard to make the unworkable workable.

When he couldn’t, it meant he couldn’t keep his word and couldn’t give this gift, both of which caused him extreme, emotional stress.

He took this to heart.

He took a lot of things to heart.

Including a heart attack.

He let go of the foolish consistencies and now is doing great.

A foolish consistency can affect your goals.

Years ago, I had a plan of how I thought things should work.

First, I’d write my course, and then I’d buy a house.

What happened is that moving came first, and this allowed me to be in a better environment.

A foolish consistency would’ve been to insist on living in a space that wasn’t conducive to writing.

To this day, I’m careful not to be misled by my preconceived ideas, aka foolish consistencies, about what comes first and who’s on second. 

See what life is presenting at the moment. New ways often exceed one’s wildest expectation about how things can work out.

A foolish consistency can affect your money.

In spite of her best efforts and through no fault of her credit report, a silly regulation stopped a woman from refinancing to get money she needed.

At first, she was disappointed.

Not being bogged down with a foolish consistency, she refocused her thinking on this or something better.

Her business skyrocketed, and she made $18,000 in one month (far exceeding her past, monthly incomes) with many more deals in her pipeline.

Little minds worry about a foolish consistency.

Greater minds align with the moment.

Your TIP is to use your great mind! Let go of your limiting, foolish consistencies, and be open to new ideas to receive what you want.

Challenge the way you think and usually do things, especially if you feel stuck or you’re trying to break free into something better.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.

If you’ve tried something new and you’re beating yourself up because it didn’t work the way you thought – stop it!

Getting down on yourself is not helping.

Give yourself a chance to align with a different track to success, and be open to receive something better.

Breathe. Listen within.

Your inner wisdom is 100% on your side to guide you from stuck to success.

Be willing to receive its messages.

I work with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming masterminding teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

Copyright © 2016 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

FEATURE: A Realtor Talks on Business and Her Mother’s Stage 4 Cancer

November 15, 2016

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My client Melinda and I first met when I gave a training at her real estate office 11 years ago this month.

Since then, I’ve had the privilege of watching her professional and personal growth – from a rookie with her “phone glued to her hip” out of concern she’d miss a call to becoming a top realtor to the story you’re about to read.

During a 1:1 coaching call, I was so impressed by her wisdom, perspective and success that emerged during her year of challenges that I asked if I could share my notes from her session with you. Her words are italicized in blue.

Considering how much I’ve been out of the office, this year has been fantastic!

Her mother was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. Much of their year was scheduled around appointments that lasted many days at a time over many months at MD Anderson Cancer Center which is a four-hour drive each way.

While many would feel at the mercy of this experience, Melinda proactively designed hers.

I want things to happen on my time, when and how I choose them to happen.

At first, this sounds like a bold statement. Actually, she was applying principles and techniques she learned.

To begin with, they make the trips fun and something to enjoy by going to museums, restaurants and visiting family. They even celebrated her mother being cancer-free on a three-week vacation.

During the summer I thought I was having a bad year. However, 2016 is turning out to be a pretty good year. And I feel rested.

When we do trips to MD, we do a lot to make it an adventure and not a chore.

I’m focusing on my mother, taking care of me, getting my rest, doing business – but not killing myself over it.

I’m listening to my body. The world’s not going to come to an end if we’re not rushing around and stressing ourselves to the max. I’m choosing life. I’m creating memories and adventure.

I don’t feel like I have to prove myself to be a success.

Instead, she’s making a point to live her life.

Melinda and I previously had talked about what we do in the “dash.”

The dash (-)  is our life, what happens in between Date of Birth – Date of Passing that’s found on a headstone.

I’m adding to the dash.

When her mother’s regular treatments were almost completed, her father was hospitalized.

In the midst of medical confusion while in the hospital, he unexpectedly passed away.

She was able to put these experiences, including taking care of her finances in the midst of all this, in perspective.

Based on peace and faith – God gives me whatever I need. He’s always provided.

I’ve got someone looking out for me, and it’s always worked.

When you do that, you let go of that other garbage (fear).

This is the biggest shift for me this year.

I know of people who’ve died in a car accident. Things like that and dealing with my parents, in the big scheme of things, the petty things we get involved with … does it really matter?

There’s a lot of drama in the world now. People’s issues are coming up. The part of the clarity I’ve had is, why wig out on all this stuff?

Sometimes I sit back while looking at this drama and think “Really? You’re getting upset about that?”

People see me as calm, laid back and that I’m sure and confident. But I think some of my being calm is not getting all wrapped up in the drama.

The more you focus on you HAVE to accomplish something, it runs away from you.

When I started in real estate, I felt pressure to succeed. I noticed during times like these, I received fewer or no phone calls.

Then I would go for a drive, and the phone would ring.

Why? Because I let go.

Same thing happens when Realtors leave town. They let go, and that’s why they start receiving business just before or during a vacation.

This year has been about letting go. This brings peace. With these two things, I get clarity.

As we wrapped up our session, Melinda summed up our conversation by responding to questions I asked.

  • With clarity you add depth to the dash. You can create life to be whatever you choose.
  • Having faith and believing are keys as well.
  • How this applies to my life is that by letting go of the fear, I was forced to be in the present moment. By being in the moment I was able to enjoy the moment and add depth to my life.
  • Being in the present moment, we did fun things so life didn’t get us down and be negative – like going to a museum.
  • Before all this, I would talk to a co-worker as a sounding board… and really just complain and whine about things.
  • By letting go, in the big scheme of things – are things really that earth shattering and important?  You can see that drama adds stress and negativity. 
  • About business, I found that it looked like I didn’t care and have the drive. No, I still care, but I choose quality of life vs. running myself ragged and getting involved in the hoopla.
  • My experiences this year helped me be in Divine Flow and use the Law of Attraction.  It’s helped me in business to manifest. Two $630,000+ deals came out of the blue.
  • About my finances, I feel very blessed. It goes back to belief that God always takes care of me, and money’s going to come. With all I had going on this year, I still was able to make significant financial gains and have fun.
  • We can get so tied up with everything, we forget to be grateful. And I am very, very grateful.
  • I was getting wrapped up in the pressure of things aren’t good enough. I forgot how we’re programmed for that. So instead I went back into how we’re always provided for, and it brings gratitude.
  • Then you don’t have the heaviness and instead feel lighter and happier.

I told her that she now KNOWS her intentions create what she sees in her life because what she set as part of her goals this year has been happening:

She’s had more fun, more time off, got off the cycle of fear and stress when she redirected her focus to family…  and had a very good year in business.  

May you find some inspiration in Melinda’s story to create the life and business you choose.

God and a universal energy have everything in control.

Nobody and nothing outside of you determines your success and happiness.

It’s up to you to empower yourself from within and not give your power away to others, including those in powerful positions, or circumstances.

 

Virginia works with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. She helps them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming masterminding teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email Virginia at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

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TIP: Having an I Love Lucy moment?

September 20, 2016

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You’ve probably talked with someone who suddenly went off on you for no good reason. You’re like whaaa… what just happened?

Lately, getting a knee jerk reaction is easy if you mention something that others perceive to be opposed to their political viewpoint. Many have linked their well being and ability to be free on somebody outside themselves.

By the way, the only person who can make you happy and fulfilled is you. So don’t give away your power to anyone.

Now that you’ve got an idea of what I’m talking about, let’s bring it closer to home with your goals and some of your reactions.

Maybe you don’t lash out like Lucy did in her skit “Slowly I Turn,” which is found at the end of this TIP, but you feel that way inside.

For example, what response do you feel in your gut or heart when you hear or think about any of these:

  • You need money that you don’t have, and then you have visions of being in a stagecoach heading off the cliff (okay, I’m still watching a lot of old westerns).
  • You compare your success to others and decide you’re not keeping up with the Joneses, whoever they are – and what do they have to do with your life anyway?
  • You think you’re not accomplishing your goals fast enough and want to cry in your beer over remorse for not having had a better life – particularly disconcerting if you don’t drink beer.

These very emotions then attract more emotions to match!

And that’s why, if your life or business suck in some way, it starts with you.

To manifest anything other than the uglies, it’s essential to feel good REGARDLESS of your outer circumstances.

If you’re ready for something better, then change your perspective  This is 100% in your power to do.

When you see life from a different vantage point, your feelings change.

This creates Good Feeling Mojo, and you ignite your momentum for more things that will inspire you to feel good.

Most people react emotionally to circumstances.

You can use your head, too.

How do you know what you’re doing? Look at your life.

Ready for something more or better?  

Your TIP is to let go of ONE trigger to which you reflexively react.

Why only one? Because by releasing one pattern, there’s an entourage of others attached to it that will go away, too.

If you continue to get results you don’t want, I invite you to contact me about how to break free of going in circles at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

Now to demonstrate triggers, watch this funny, classic I Love Lucy clip.

It’s only 3 1/2 minutes. You can find the time.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTnGpaY3VKY

TIP: My First Drag Show

July 5, 2016

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I didn’t know what to expect at my first drag show. What I found were three women who love entertaining and what they do while letting the audience join in on the fun.

What a weekend to be free to be yourself as the USA celebrated our national Independence Day of freedom.

Freedom for what? Freedom to enjoy barbecues. Freedom to do whatever we want as long as we’re not interfering with others. Freedom of speech. Freedom to be who we are – whatever that means.

Freedom to express ourselves.

Some feel you should have freedom so you can think they way they do, but that’s not true freedom.

While watching the show, I thought about how these who were men at birth considered their gender identity and made a decision. They chose to align their outer lives with what they felt within.

Imagine that. Living true to you. Doing what you love instead of what’s expected or feeling stuck.

These women found freedom from judgments, the risk of disappointing others and what some feel they should be.

They do what it takes to be in alignment with themselves in spite of the inconvenience and expense of surgery, hormone injections and more.

They stopped hiding and instead revel in their difference – even capitalize on it.

If they can live true to themselves and their dreams, why not you?

If they can overcome society’s opinions and turn it into an art form, what’s stopping you?

What’s holding you back from really expressing yourself and your gifts?

Why not really show up for who you are, shine and play big?

What excuse is so big that you can’t find a way?

Some hold back, question themselves, play weak, and hesitate when opportunities to break free present themselves.

Some come up with seemingly logical reasons (busy schedules, money, family, health, not the right time) why they can’t move forward on living their dreams. Because they buy into their stories, they think others believe their limited beliefs, too. But they’re just keeping themselves back from greater freedom.

Some are afraid of living, really living life to the fullest, and don’t believe in themselves and that they can do it.

Some are afraid of possible pain and discouragement – projecting the past onto the future.

Others are afraid of getting hurt, rejected or exhausted from trying – what if one more thing doesn’t work?

This is how the ego works – it tricks you into thinking you’re playing it safe by keeping you in status quo or worse – sliding backwards.

You are much greater than this. You have everything it takes to tune into who you are, share your gifts with the world and be richly compensated doing what you love.

Your TIP is to express yourself with no limit and live your destiny, not someone else’s, NOW.

You can make a decision to be alive and awake in this moment – not live in past regrets or fear of the future.

You can make a decision to take action now and not put off your freedom to be the greatest you that you can be.

You can decide there’s no better time to do what you love rather than put it off for some better time that never comes.

Or if it does, you find another excuse to put it off.

You can make a stand for YOU to express the you that’s been hiding out. You can do what you love and let go of the seemingly rational excuses and procrastination that keep you stuck.

You can tap into your courage with confidence and claim your freedom to express who you are and live your dreams.

You do have a choice.

There’s no better time than now.

Happy freedom and independence to you.

TIP: Spring Into Action

March 22, 2016

Today is a new day

What would happen if you truly realized your power and focused it? How would your life change?

How great would your relationships and home life be? Your business and finances? Your health and vitality? How much better would you feel?

What would more insight, balance and innate intelligence do?

You send out energy and a universal force matches it – you see the results in your world. Life isn’t arbitrary. It’s the effect of your clarity, thoughts, beliefs and feelings.

Spring is in the air regardless of what the weather’s doing. It reveals opportunities for change.

A woman shared that her husband, who’s the major breadwinner, lost his job last month. She was encouraged when reminded what happened during the weekend. First, there was a storm with hail, rain and strong winds. The next day brought blue skies and sun.

No matter what’s going on in your life, what you might consider good or bad, there’s always an opportunity for growth and something better with blue skies.

You’re the creator of what your next chapter looks like. Spring offers a new chapter for you to write.

A key is to hold a clear image and feeling of what you choose.

When doubt sneaks in, you tarnish the image and produce tarnished results.

Then, take inspired action.

TIP: Spring Into Action

Tap into the energy of spring as an opportunity to renew your business and life.

Revisit your dreams and goals. How are you doing? Are you making any progress?

In a way, your answer doesn’t matter as it reflects your past.

It’s your current decision that makes a difference.

Every day take a step in the direction of your goals.

Believe you can create something fun and wonderful, and you can.

When you tap into this feeling, you create good feeling mojo.

The more you enjoy this energy, the easier it is for you to be richly compensated doing what you love.

This or something better.

Regardless of your circumstances, you have a choice about how you feel about you, your goals and your life.

No calamities, people or experiences can dictate how you respond and feel.

Learn. Grow. Move on. Spring into action.

Be richly compensated doing what you love.

One more thing…

Maybe you’re thinking I know all this, but there must be a disconnect because I’m so ready for new and better.

To spring into action and your awesomeness, contact me for a free, one-hour Do What You Love Break Free Session at vg@ResolvedForResults.com.

TIP: 4 Ways to Get Unstuck

January 25, 2016

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Feeling stuck in your business or life? There are ways to free yourself – like untangling or cutting loose a cat who’s balled up in yarn. By the way, just because it’s stuck, there’s nothing wrong with the cat anymore than there’s anything wrong with you!

To help you unravel your stuckness, here’s an excerpt from the manual of my program Resolved for Results: A Step-by-Step Guide to Live Your Dreams… even if you failed before, lost hope, are afraid, stressed or confused.

A client who emailed a request to her mastermind team wrote, “I have calls out to people, but things seem stuck.” Her goal was well written and specific, including her filling appointments for three cities and a meet and greet.

But I felt the fear under her request and called her. She told me she felt pressure because an out-of-state manager was flying in, and she didn’t have appointments scheduled.

We discussed anticipating the best and letting go of expectation. Part of this letting go was a preoccupation with numbers – the number of bookings. Instead, I recommended she focus on the quality of appointments vs. the quantity.

The next night she sent us a long email. “I woke up fresh and energetic, turned things over to my CEO (God)… I decided that I was not going to “push” to “make” anything happen.” [Her bold print]

Results? Before the end of that day, key people either returned her calls to book or called prospects on her behalf to fill the appointments for her! A big client contacted her to book four trainings. She hosted a successful event that afternoon plus found a perfect venue for a board member retreat following an unsuccessful month-long search.

If you hold onto how you expect life should be, what a person should do, or what’s supposed to fulfill you, you not only limit yourself but block your success and create unnecessary pain and suffering.

It pulls you away from the present moment and foists you into an imagined future of potential disappointment, discouragement, frustration, sadness, anger, or helplessness.

The beauty of the present moment is that it opens you to what’s in alignment with your soul. If one way doesn’t work, there’s a reason. Something better is available… if you allow it into your world.

Instead of longing for what mighta, woulda, coulda or shoulda been, notice the gift of accepting what is.

Anticipating the best instead of expecting specific outcomes makes your words more powerful and opens you to results designed for the highest and best interest for all. It’s an important lesson, and I invite you to consider it in case it’s making the difference between creating difficulties or catapulting you to greater success and abundance.

TIP:  4 Ways to Get Unstuck

Identify where you feel stuck. Feeling stuck is an emotional response that can leave you feeling there’s no way out. Instead, you can find a way to untangle yourself from whatever has gotten you balled up and take productive action. Here are four alternatives that can help:

  1. You’re frustrated because you’re trying to control the outcome by expecting it (or people) to be the way you think it should. Alternative: Relax and anticipate this or something better will occur. Stop trying to micromanage the world. This opens you to tune into new ideas and directions.
  2. You’re beating yourself up with regrets or other limiting thoughts and emotions because of your situation. Alternative: Release judging you, others and your circumstances. Replace it with an empowering perspective that you’re learning, and all is in divine order and timing.
  3. You’re focusing on how things aren’t working. Alternative: focus on what you choose and the good feeling mojo it creates. Good feeling mojo is what opens you to manifest more quickly and with grace and ease.
  4. You’re pushing to make things happen. Alternative: Stop resisting (and exhausting yourself about) what is and allow things to be the way they are. You getting fussy about it won’t change it or help. Let go. Let God. Set new goals for what you choose. Take action from this perspective.

When you shift your energy, you allow life to create miracles and successes beyond your wildest expectations.

TIP: How to Ring Out 2015

December 28, 2015

2015-2016 stepsAppreciation means recognition with gratitude as well as increasing value, such as in investments. When you appreciate yourself, you create good feeling mojo.

Good feeling mojo is what gives you the confidence, mindset and vitality to create and attract a wonderful life and business. Plus, don’t you feel better when you feel good about you? It’s time to shift your focus from what you coulda shoulda woulda done differently to reap the benefits of appreciating you.

It’s so important to let go of the past to clear the way for success that I wrote a book Appreciate Yourself which includes exercises that my clients do annually. I’m sharing a few of these as well as excerpts to support you to ring out 2015 and create a space for a happy and prosperous new year.

You Deserve Appreciation

Why bother to take time to appreciate yourself? When you do, it:

  • Affects your physical, emotional and mental health
  • Validates you as you gain more self-esteem and confidence
  • Helps you to let go of the past and come to completion
  • Focuses you in the now as you release old beliefs
  • Creates space for current and future success
  • Opens you to gratitude which creates more blessings.

Recording and assessing what you’ve done also clears a path so you can consciously map out a remarkable future. With all these benefits, it pays to invest your time to discover how this recognition makes a difference in your life. You deserve appreciation, and it’s important for you to see why you’re worthy of it…

The Body Lives in the Past

At a cellular level, the body lives in the past and doesn’t respond as quickly as thoughts do. Your body expresses what you felt years ago. What you experience now does not make an immediate connection with it.

Without creating a written record of who you are and what you’ve done, a part of you can stay emotionally stuck. Because you attract what you focus on, the part of you that’s stuck can recreate a future full of old fears and limitations. Or you can make room for joy and fulfillment surpassing your fondest memories.

When you recognize that your body, which influences your present-day reality, lives in days gone by and currently demonstrates how you used to feel, you can collapse time to bring you into the now. How? Acknowledge what you’ve done and learned. Gratitude transports you from your misty past into the present. Letting go of old emotions improves your well-being in all areas of life…

Being in the moment allows a profound truth to be revealed – that you and your life have meaning and serve a bigger purpose.

TIP: How to Ring Out 2015

Find a quiet place where you have time for yourself… This time is for you to arrange the fabric of your life into a tapestry. To make sense of what may have seemed anything but. To validate you’re on track. To applaud your successes. To recognize your worth and appreciate the blessings.

Assume a higher viewpoint and look for progress – lessons learned, constructive growth or something you can use later.

Enjoy this intimate moment to write, not just think about, as you Appreciate Yourself. 

  • My most significant experiences; events; achievements; activities (positive or seemingly not):
  • My most significant changes and what I learned (inner awareness/outer experiences):
  • My most significant relationships, such as individuals; teams; groups; partners; friends; associates; professionals; family; spiritual connections; teachers:
  • My most fun or outrageous experiences:
  • My most challenging experiences:
  • My most significant successes; promotions; wins; recognitions; how I was honored by anyone; what I’m most proud of; anything I did well or feel good about:

Your Big Picture

What was your year really about? Underneath the activities, what lessons did you learn? Why are you grateful? Regardless of any challenges, how was your year a success?

Celebrate

You don’t have to make your past a drama by turning it into a story of woe. Instead, use the awareness you gained of what not to do to inspire you to make new choices.

Acknowledging yourself creates healthy self-esteem, confidence, value and magnetism. Notice that how others perceive and treat you is the same way you feel about yourself. And when you’re filled with self-worth, you attract success.

Now go and celebrate. You deserve it. You made it through the good, bad, ugly and beautiful. Bravo! You’re worth being appreciated. Allow yourself to receive this gift.

© 1999-2015 Virginia Goszewska  All Rights Reserved

CHALLENGED? 5 CHOICES FOR AN EASIER LIFE

March 22, 2012

 Life presents challenges. How you respond – your emotional choices and mental focus – is YOUR choice. You can get sucked into the quicksand of negative emotions, railing against the world and how tough everything is, focus on what’s not working and bemoan your tale of woes with others or in your head… and attract the opposite of what you want.

 Or you can make a different choice.

 Some of my clients are in the midst of the most heart-wrenching experiences of their lives. One left a country where he worked over three years in a highly regarded profession to interview for a job. His current position finishes in three months, and so far all his efforts to find new employment haven’t produced results. Frustrated by multiple rejection letters – literally, where in the world will this gifted man live and create an income? This follows a year of intense personal and professional challenges.

 Upon his return, immigration blocked his re-entry because of visa problems. He was arrested, detained and deported back to the city where he had just interviewed. Banned to go back for his belongings at work and home which is also where his girlfriend lives, he has no cell phone or office to continue his job search. His attorney says there is no help legally and made excuses for not properly advising him.

 At first he was in shock and emailed “I AM REALLY F___ED… I am devastated, exhausted, overwhelmed and at the end of my wits.”

 Soon after, he Skyped me from a computer in a noisy café for a session.

 Decision time: be the victim and miserable in a living hell or surrender and have faith that there’s a divine purpose and something positive will come of this.

 Feelings and thoughts manifest. His personal honesty allowed him to see how he created this experience – he really didn’t want to work at his job or be in that country anymore. This situation assured he wouldn’t spend another minute there.

 He also has a strong desire to dump childhood patterns and traumas. Realizing his former tension and aggressiveness stemmed from being where he wasn’t appreciated, he chooses now to use this time as a transformation to express his positive nature.

 Cut free from the burden of having to go back, the following day brought a feeling of liberation, contentment and a sense of being in a divine comedy.

 With his newfound attitude, his nightmare vanished like a bad dream after waking up. “I’m in the right place at the right time, and I know there’s opportunity here. I have friends and feel that I’m amongst kindred spirits in this city. I have to take action and not be complacent. My girlfriend and colleagues will pack up my things, and she’ll bring them here next month. She wanted to move away from there anyway. I’m looking at life with childlike wonder knowing my good is here. I feel purposeful. I’ll figure it out and make it work.” 

Months of anxiety and fear about finding a job and where it would be disappeared, too. It’s either in this city and country or something better.

 I asked him to pick an image to reflect his perspective. He chose Fred Astaire – light and with good technique.

 You can transform any situation in your life by choosing to: 

  1. Let go of the exhausting struggle: your story of your hard life and what if the worse happens. Write it down and burn or shred it. Choose to let it go! Repeat as needed.
  2. Change your perspective from one that creates stress and deteriorates your health and finances to one where you surrender to a divine source with an attitude of anticipating the best. Look for the positive in any situation; it’s always there.
  3. Stop thinking and talking about what’s wrong and instead focus on what’s working
  4. Enjoy quality time with those who nipped the self-indulgent habit of #1-3.
  5. Take action in the direction of your dreams.

 As you gently let go of the struggle, you’ll float to the top of the quicksand of fear and move to the shore of creativity and abundance.

You Are A Force Of Nature – Part 2

October 4, 2011

Part 1 shares how a NO BURN ZONE was created in the midst of the Texas fires. Results? People, their property and animals were unharmed. Read Part 2 to learn more about how they did it. Sheera Rexroad’s account of her personal experience with the ravenous, fire beast continues.

The Texas fires had to move on.

The fire had a huge hunger as it traveled along the fence line to the west.  It would dart in for a quick taste with its fire tongue here and there.  It shook off each taste and moved on along the north fence of Ranch de Kris.

By now the big, mean fire was weak and floundering; it needed tasty bits and soon to feed its rage.

We had NONE to offer.

It slithered further to the west and jumped through the fence into the neighboring property west of Ranch de Kris. It burned there but, not satisfied, it continued westward to the next property and beyond.

This Delhi fire was powerful and fast. It jumped containment lines and roads several times before it came close to where we live.  One of the fire balls grazed the heads of the all volunteer firefighters when it jumped a firebreak.

I knew that the land that I live on and steward was untouched.  I knew that the land where my brother lives was untouched. This I felt, and this I knew.

Gratitude and the power of intention 

This is Sheera’s email a few days after the fire continued its rampage. Her powerful belief and invocation created the mold for the NO BURN ZONE. The fire was confused; she was not. 

First, I would like to thank each and every one of you for your powerful and positive thoughts.

Your prayers and requests are holding safe space for us.

I ask and know that the property that we both live on and take care of will make it through the fires unharmed.

I ask and know that the houses that we shelter in will be unharmed.

I ask and know that the animals that we steward are secure and safe.

I know that there is much designed for me to do, and that what I have been involved in so far is not to be taken by some confused flames.

I know that I, Sheera of One Girl Farm, and my brother, Kris – of Ranch de Kris, are to be safe and cared for.

I ask that you continue in your vigils.  We can feel it.  We can see the evidence of asking for protection.

We are strong.  We are determined. We know that what we ask for, pray for, request is answered.

Your efforts and energies are dynamic.

Please do not stop.

My thoughts

Sheera made choices that spared her family, farms and animals from personal disaster when she:

  • Invoked an inner determination and strength
  • Knew her family, their property and animals would be safe
  • Affirmatively spoke forth the outcome she chose
  • Visualized a NO BURN ZONE of protection from the fire
  • Was motivated by her request that served a bigger purpose
  • Created an impromptu mastermind group to send prayers, love, safety and protection before she packed to evacuate.

What about the properties that burned? 

My neighbor’s home burned down a year after her lake house succumbed to fire. A couple of months later, she was calm and peaceful when she told me it was a blessing. Huh?

Before then she lived in a world where people didn’t care about one another, only themselves. That changed when total strangers, organizations, churches and the community helped with clothing, food and more.

Her heart and mind opened to the love and care of others. For her, it was a lesson that had more value than worldly goods.  

What benefit could come from burned farm land? Farmers couldn’t collect insurance because of the drought. However, many could from fire. 

Every experience teaches. It’s all good, regardless of appearance. Look for the gift.

By the way, a week after the Texas fires, during a drought with no rain, amidst the ashes, here and there, sprigs of green grass appeared. Renewal and rebirth heralded a new cycle.

You can choose your reactions and actions.

You do NOT have to give your power away to fear or discouragement.  The flames of anger, doubt and confusion do not have to eat away at you.

You may have what appear to be unstoppable forces occurring in your life. Remember: “You are a force of nature. Don’t put yourself as a lesser being that can be jostled about.”