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WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH, MAYBE YOU’RE GOING IN THE WRONG DIRECTION

October 7, 2019

 Have you noticed people’s buttons getting pushed lately? Maybe yours?

Some respond with anger, frustration or depression. Others find that finger pointing, denial and avoidance are easier than talking things through.

Opportunities abound to deal with issues, but some prefer to ignore the elephant in the room. It would take more than new glasses to correct that vision.

Changing perspective can help you: step back emotionally and observe in a detached way. This reminds you not to take it personally. But what should you do about it?

Ask yourself: Is there something to get out of it, something to learn? Or is the point to get out of it and leave?

And what’s the best action to take? This depends on the circumstances. But driving yourself bonkers and making yourself wrong only leads to a dead-end street.

A lovely woman sent me a very ugly email. She wrote about demonic forces and people we once knew. She couldn’t be friends with me anymore because I was still associated with them, even though I hadn’t been for years.

 Weeks later she apologized. Because of past injustices inflicted on her by this group, her deep pain was triggered. She obviously wasn’t herself when she wrote it.

 The point? I got out of it lessons of compassion; forgiveness; grace; not judging as people make mistakes.

 The action? Let go of the past and move on. We renewed our friendship.

 A few months later she sent another email explaining how she couldn’t be my friend because of my involvement with these same people… people I still hadn’t talked with for a very long time.  

 The point? Get out of it. When people create too much drama and repeat patterns that they’re not shifting, it’s often best to step back.

 The action? Don’t respond. Bless the situation and relationship and let them go.


 Here are tips on what you can do when your buttons are pushed. Oh well, I can honestly say I’ve learned each one by doing the opposite.

You can choose to push the easy button instead by using the following:

  1. Breathe deeply in a relaxed way.
  2. Step back emotionally and observe rather than become enmeshed with the story.
  3. Listen to what’s being expressed and understand their perspective.
  4. Let go of a need to be heard, validated and to express your viewpoint.
  5. Ask yourself that even if you don’t like it: Why is it essential that others should think the way you think they should?
  6. Tune in to your gut – what do you feel is true and the best action to take?

 “Forgive them for they know not what they do.” Then take action.

Through my school of hard knocks learning, I’m adding one more.

Don’t try to explain yourself using logic if someone is emotional.

Mental and emotional approaches are on two different wave lengths. When someone is emotional, they often aren’t listening, can’t really hear what you’re saying unless it’s what they want to hear. They may not even have the foundation to understand what you’re saying. They just get annoyed and feel justified in making you look like the jerk. Instead listen and say: thanks for sharing your opinion.


Warning: using these tips will not give you the emotional exhilaration received from feeling right; trying to fix or rescue people; feeling victimized; having your ego stroked; expressing anger; trying to control; or the comfort of familiarity from reliving your sad story.

  It will:

  • Bring you peace of mind and heart
  • Awaken you to greater wisdom and awareness
  • Honor others even if you’re sure they’ve lost their mind
  • Reclaim your time and energy to enjoy life and pursue your goals
  • Bring you better results in the long run.

My cousin just called. “Be sure to tell people that everyone needs some silly in their lives and that laughter is the best medicine.” Thanks, Sharon, for the best ideas. Don’t take things too seriously. It’s all good.

This is a reprint from March, 2011.

If you’d like to get help
with your pushed buttons,

contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.
I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

If you’re ready for miracles in your life, it helps to know how to find them.

Remember this game?  Children look for an object and are told cold, warm or hot as they get further away or closer to it.

Life gives you clues like this, too, so you’ll know if you’re on the right track.

  • You’re cold when you feel like you’re pushing a brick wall, and it won’t budge.
  • You’re warm when you feel like you’re in the flow, enjoying a magic carpet ride.
  • You’re hot when you’re manifesting (what you want happens).

What can that look like in real life?

Ever make yourself wrong when you don’t have energy to do what you think you “should”?

Yes, sometimes you just have to take action to get your mojo running.

Sometimes you need a course correction. Even if it’s the right goal, it could be the wrong approach or attitude.

When you feel like a fish swimming upstream, maybe it’s because you’re going against the flow. 

Another way to know? If you’re moping, whining, angry, frustrated, complaining, fearful or worried, you splashed ashore. You jumped out of the flow and became a fish out of water.

This is a good time to pause and observe. What makes you happy?

Do you really have to force yourself to go in the direction you’re going – and the way you’re doing it? 

Let yourself be guided by the flow instead of trying to make things happen.

Here’s how I went from cold to hot in manifesting.

 I decided to get living room furniture. 

 I had images of what I wanted. The back of the sofa had curved lines. Because I enjoy holiday decorating, I wanted the sofa to be red or green.

 COLD: I became irritated whenever I went to a store. I couldn’t find what I wanted. Shopping was laborious. Spending all that money and not enjoying it didn’t seem right. So I stopped forcing myself to shop.

 Soon after, new neighbors moved in next door. Their previous home was twice the size and several hours away.

 Not knowing which living room set to use until they could try them out in their new home, they brought both of them.

HOT: They sold me the sofa from their rarely used formal living room, nicely protected in movers’ plastic. The back? Curved. Colors? Red and green.

 Added to this was the entire living room set: two end tables; a coffee table; two lamps; rug; chair; and a throw blanket. Anxious to clear their garage, they sold all of it to me for $175! All items looked brand new!

 Instead of pricey delivery costs because I live out-of-town from the stores, we only had to move it across the yard.

 My lack of interest and irritation was my guidance telling me to stop shopping.

Here are some components that allowed me to manifest the furniture: 

  • Made a choice – I decided to have new living room furniture.
  • Identified details – I only had images about the colors and curved back, so I had my attention on those. I worked with what I knew, and that was enough.
  • Took action – Shopping focused my energy. It was an on-the-job visualization.
  • Let it go – I didn’t force myself to do what didn’t bring me joy. This allowed me to relax and open to the flow of possibilities.

There’s another part of the story.  I almost missed out on this deal.

At first I was told the sofa was plaid, so I said I wasn’t interested. It didn’t fit my mental picture.

Fortunately, the next morning I woke up and decided it wouldn’t hurt to look. When I did, I discovered it fit the image and feel of what I wanted better than any style I’d looked at in the stores.

ON THE VERGE OF TURNING INTO AN ICE CUBE: I almost turned my back on this manifestation because I prejudged without even looking into it. 


Now it’s your turn.

  1. Breathe and relax.
  2. Set an intention to receive what you choose for your life.
  3. Choose to be in divine flow.
  4. Take action in the direction of your goal.

 Let it go. I mean really let go of the need or desire to have it. Allow divine timing to work its wonders. Let me know your results!

This is a reprint from April 21, 2011.

 

If you’d like to change
the way your life is going
to create something better,

contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:

virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

Copyright © 2019 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

 

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Why Is Your Life Happening The Way It Is?

September 30, 2019

 

Your thoughts and feelings are engines that generate results. If you don’t like what you see, you can recreate something better.

What I’m about to tell you may be a game changer.

Let’s start with the law of attraction, like attracts like – when it works positively.

A skin care specialist visualized lots of people calling for appointments.

  • Results? Shortly after, the receptionist reported that she booked several sessions for her – just as she asked for in her visualization.

However, she didn’t specify what kind of appointments.

  • Results? One was for a bikini wax, and she really doesn’t like to give them.

Because of her busy schedule, the client couldn’t get a wax as soon as she wanted but made the appointment anyway. In the meantime, the visualizer mused about how she didn’t want to do the wax.

  • Results? The client cancelled.

This is a classic case of cause and effect where thoughts become things, but your experience may differ.

So let’s get to what matters most to you. Why is your life happening the way it is?

Do you sometimes feel like you’re drowning and looking for a life saver?

Is this you?

I don’t know if I believe in this stuff. I tried it, and it didn’t work. I did everything right. I visualized, masterminded, had a positive attitude, created a vision board, and still no results.

Could it be that one part of you did “all the right things” and another part freaked out with anxiety? Were you feeling frustrated, angry, desperate, scared or doubtful?

Your world reflects what you predominantly think and feel. 

If so, no need to worry. Neville Goddard in Your Faith Is Your Fortune wrote this:

“Just as a branch withers and dies if the sap of the vine ceases to flow towards it, so do things and qualities pass away if you take your attention from them; because your attention is the sap of life which sustains the expression of your life.”

When you fuss and fret, your attention is on what you don’t want. Instead, change your focus, including emotionally, to what you choose.

TIP: Don’t EXPECT results. 

Say again. Isn’t that what you’re supposed to do?

Expecting results in a specific way is a booby trap, and you’re no boob. Here’s how it can foil your efforts.

When we mastermind, we ask for “this or something better.” Why? Because God, or if you’re more comfortable using the word the universe, may have a better way to bring results.

Energetic clinging repels results. Imagine a girl focused on finding a boyfriend. Guys sense this as dogs sense fear and run for the hills. Once she lets go of the search, there’s room for her dream to come true. 

I’m an expert on expectation… not bringing me results.

I can trick myself into thinking I let go when I’m really WAITING FOR, aka EXPECTING, a result from a SPECIFIC source. 

For example, in the past, while putting a group together, I expected my next event would fill it. If I had a financial goal, I expected a particular client would fulfill it.

I said I let it go, but I tried to control the outcome: I patiently relaxed to manifest my goals the way I expected. I knew how I thought it would happen. I took action to make it happen.

Here’s the telltale downside that I was in expectation. When it didn’t happen as expected, I got disappointed. Next came fear and my default program: Oh no, what am I going to do?

This started a vicious circle of expectation and disappointment which attracted more things that made me feel discouraged.

Now, I still hold events and have clients that could bring results. But, if they don’t, it’s called next. God will supply from other sources.

God is your supply. 

Don’t expect your supply to come from a person, event or anything in particular. You are ALWAYS taken care of by God, but results often come differently than you think they SHOULD. Results come when you let go and let God. Allow the universe to bring your answers.

Feeling dejected, rejected or injected with fear is not trusting. 

Trust is not giving up or moaning about what’s not working. These are childhood responses.

Instead, trust by ANTICIPATING RESULTS.

Anticipate your needs are fulfilled beyond your wildest expectations. Adopt a childlike curiosity of wonder instead of dictating an expectation.

It’s your job to:

  • Make a choice.
  • Pay attention to your nudges.
  • Take action on what you’re inwardly guided to do.

Let God fill in the HOW and why and where and by whom.

Remember:

  • Anticipate, don’t expect.
  • Trust that a divine energy can and does manifest goals you choose or something better.

Don’t like your new creation? Don’t create a story about how you never get what you want, etc. Choose again.

When you anticipate the best, you change the way your life is happening.

This is a reprint from May 26, 2011.

If you’d like to change
the way your life is going,
contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:

virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

Copyright © 2019 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

 

 

 

 

 

You Just Need One Good Idea

June 18, 2019

Please enjoy this excerpt from my Soulgoal Missive, which was first published in June 2002.

“The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.”    

George Bernard Shaw


Maybe it took months of house hunting, but it just takes one house to become your dream home, and the rest is history.

Perhaps you looked your entire life for your special someone, but it just takes one person to make the wait worthwhile.

You may desire to take your next step, wherever it is. But it just takes one good idea on which you follow up, and your future will never be the same.

When Tony Robbins’ advisors recommended that he go bankrupt because his partner left him holding the bag for megabucks, he got an idea. He started TV infomercials. Not only did this turn his debt around, it brought him more money and fame than ever before.

When my car broke down, instead of getting it fixed, I decided to use this as an opportunity to stay home and fulfill a desire of mine to write. A couple of months later I realized I needed to focus on generating more business, and the idea came to me to contact people personally about an upcoming event.

Following up on this one idea, which initially my mind had pooh-poohed as unnecessary because my contacts already received a mailing, created lots of energy for both a successful event and me to refocus my attention on business.

One idea that is followed up can make all the difference in your world.

Success Thought:

“Ideas can provide us with autonomy. Ideas can give us freedom. You’ll find you have other options, other places you can go.”
 
Earl Nightingale, Earl Nightingale’s Greatest Discovery



Would you like help in finding
and following up on your
one good idea?

It IS possible!!
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.


Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2019 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Trust Herself or Experts? Life or Death in the Delivery Room.

May 6, 2019

 

Delivery rooms can be highly charged environments containing the potential of life or death.

While going through a particularly hard labor during the birth of her second child, my friend was directed to push.

The attendants’ attitudes and firm voices basically told her, we know you’re tired, but stop being so lazy and push. By the fourth and fifth time of asking her to push, they raised their voices and got abusive and angrier.  Don’t be such a baby and a wimp. PUSH!

My friend refused, in spite of what the experts demanded her to do. At one point she told them, “I won’t push.”

Finally, the doctor checked the cord and learned it was coiled around her baby’s neck. He had to physically go in and cut it loose. The baby was born blue and not breathing. They gave him mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. He survived and was healthy.

The mother later asked the doctor that if she had pushed when everyone said, would she have strangled her baby. He replied, “Yes.”

The mom was the ultimate expert at the moment. She was aware of her body and inner guidance and followed it, although she didn’t know why. She knew she wouldn’t push regardless of what others told her. If she had, the ending of that story wouldn’t be happy.

Her first baby was born at home, by choice, and that delivery was smooth and easy.

Her second baby was different. At night, after hard labor started, she thought how easy it would be to have the baby at home. But because they planned a hospital birth, she went through the motions to fulfill that plan.

She said if she followed her guidance in the first place, what her mother’s intuition told her, she wouldn’t have gone through the agonizing labor, uterine exhaustion and subsequent complications for her baby.

The lesson?  Trust herself. She didn’t need to placate others and what they wanted, regardless of who they are, but instead take a stand for her baby and herself.

Is there an aspect of your life where you’ve been giving your power to others by following their advice instead of trusting yourself?

Ready to do what you love in a Bigger way,
but you don’t trust yourself?

Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.

These Conscious Creators’ Designed Their 2019

January 7, 2019

Top row, left to right: Melinda Everett, Howard Hestand, LisaBeth (LB) Thomas Bottom row, left to right: Lisa Schnitzer, Carol Warkoczewski, Virginia Goszewska, Lisa Bargsley, Suzy Schwartz, Emily Werbow

Upon meeting, this community of kindred spirits quickly bonded. They gathered from Santa Fe, NM and the Texas cities of Dallas, San Antonio, Austin, Marble Falls, Blanco and Wimberley.

Having enjoyed my Soulgoals and Conscious Creators’ programs, they came together to launch their new year at the Conscious Creators’ 2019 Blast Off!

The day began with introductions by everyone sharing some of their best manifestations. It was inspiring to hear their stories and how they transformed their lives in a few months following their challenges, and some of those challenges had been considerably significant and long-term.

  • From debilitating pain to being pain-free
  • From decades of depression to being extraordinarily happy living a fulfilling life
  • From being left flat due to devastating losses, personal and financial, to enjoying her true love and soaring in business with millionaires and billionaires
  • From lack of confidence and monetary upsets because of a business transition to feeling satisfaction while enjoying a new approach that’s bringing financial success
  • From investment losses because of head overriding gut-level guidance to a significant spiritual awakening
  • And overall amazing successes and manifestations!

Conscious manifesting begins with the recognition of one’s true Essence. Following exercises that deepened their connections to the Source within and their Divine Blueprint, they activated their Soul-inspired awareness to design their ideal year.

We ate together and laughed a lot. It was heart warming to feel the love, caring and support everyone had for each other to clarify and bring chosen goals to fruition.

I started the day setting our intention on goal setting from a higher bandwidth.

Entropy describes the physical world where energy dissipates, order decreases and structures disintegrate.

Syntropy describes life.

“Syntropy consists in a force, opposed to entropy, which attracts living systems towards higher levels of organization and order.”  Albert Szent-Gyorgyi, Nobel Laureate

Throughout the day our energy lifted to this higher organization and order of awareness, being and the world of possibilities, a world they could now embrace as their own…

And from this higher level of thinking and being, they designed their new year. They did this with confidence and seeing how their goals were right for them and completely doable. They aligned with their most cherished goals, not from their head or ego-driven desires, but from the inside out.

LisaBeth Thomas wrote, “I see my goals coming to fruition now — it’s so exciting knowing that all is possible and I deserve it! Virginia… well, she just rocks.”

Emily Werbow wrote: “Clarity. Encouragement to continue. Validation. Everyone regardless of their station are striving to evolve… Evolution happens.”

Carol Warkoczewski wrote: “Once again, today’s workshop brought amazing insights for my 2019-2020 goals. The energy among the participants was palpable, and I feel a sense of peace, clarity and surety about my life.” FANTASTIC!”

Lisa Bargsley wrote, “I always have ah ha moments whenever I participate in a workshop with Virginia. The Conscious Creators’ workshop opened my thinking to new possibilities to another level, another bandwidth. Thank you again!”

Melinda Everett wrote:” Today’s workshop was full of wonderful energy. The love and support help me clarify my goals for 2019. Virginia always designs exercises that help you delve into what your true goals in life are all about.”

Suzy Schwartz wrote: “The Conscious Creators’ workshop left me calmer, at ease, knowing all is set in motion for me to have a successful year. The group energy was palpable, and the exercises gave life to increasing our own individual energy to a place of manifestation.”

Howard Hestand wrote: “The Conscious Creators’ workshop gave me confidence to believe my goals will be accomplished. It was great to be around like-minded individuals and share ideas. Very inspirational.”

Lisa Schnitzer wrote: “Virginia’s Conscious Creators’ workshop was a vortex of energy and spiritually uplifting. There is strength in being around that energy… we are creating our best lives thanks to Virginia.”

If you’re interested in designing your ideal life this year… and beyond… contact me for a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session at virginia@soulgoals.com

Visit my website and get a copy of my free book at http://www.soulgoals.com

May you enjoy your best year ever!

Yes, This Miracle Really Happened in My Life

April 2, 2018

I’m going to share something that I haven’t written about publicly, because many people will think it’s unbelievable. This is 100% true.

These experiences might help you to consider that other possibilities exist, even when circumstances in your life might be challenging or look hopeless.

At the time, I’d just moved to New York City from Washington, D.C. for a position in an aloe vera company. I hadn’t even unpacked.

I was preparing for my grand opening, which was attended by over 700 people in the Starlight Room at the Waldorf Astoria. While the company was international, it was ranked as a top 10 performer on the Inc. 500 list, a list of the fastest growing private companies in the U.S.

Although this management position was usually only given to couples, I was the only single female in the world that held this leadership role. Add to this, I was hired to open the Big Apple and New York State. Previously, I’d been a distributor for a couple of years.

In other words, this opening was a big deal for the company and me.

However, my mother couldn’t attend, and I couldn’t visit her (as I was getting over a cold, in addition to everything else). She was three hours away in the hospital.

My mother was scheduled to have her foot amputated because it had been black from diabetes for several weeks. 

As soon as I could after a successful opening, I returned to my hometown and arranged for her to drink one quart of a high quality aloe vera gel daily for four days. That’s how many days we had before the surgery.

While she was in the hospital, we snuck in the drink for her without getting permission. She trusted me, and this was worth the chance. The only thing she had to lose was her foot!

On the morning the doctors prepared to amputate, they unwrapped her bandages.

They saw pink for the first time, which let them know there was circulation. They cancelled the surgery!

She had both feet when she was laid to rest years later,

The knowledgeable team of experts considered the amputation as an inevitable given.

For myself, though, having heard countless, powerful testimonials about how this aloe gel positively affected diabetes, I felt confident there was a good possibility we could turn it around. And we did.

You can use the limitation of so called “reality” as a springboard on your way to greater renewal. You know it’s there, but don’t let it block the creative force that’s speaking to you, guiding you, whispering other possibilities.

You don’t have to accept limitations, your own or those that others put on you. No matter who they are. 

There might be alternatives to beliefs that even authority figures hold dearly.

You become the story you tell yourself.

You can change your habitual way of thinking.  Change your story, what you tell yourself.


Once, I met a woman who was driving a golf cart to take friends and myself around an entertainment facility. The day was very hot, and it seemed that this work would interest someone a lot younger, not a woman her age. 

I inquired how she got the job. Turned out that she was actually the manager of this fairly large business, and she was filling in for an employee who didn’t show up.

She told us that she’d been without a job for a while when she noticed an ad for help, and she called and left a message. To her surprise, she got a call back and quickly got the job.

After hearing her recount her story in detail, she said words that pierced me. Many years have passed, and I’ve neither forgotten them or the emphasis she gave them upon speaking:
 

“Your whole life can turn on a dime.”

When the business more than doubled in size, her job grew along with it.

In short, at her age and jobless, opportunities didn’t look promising. 

Nevertheless, she took action in directions that many would have considered improbable. In the merry-go-round of life, with multiple iron rings within reach, she grabbed her brass ring that created an opening beyond her imagination. 

Since then, especially when I didn’t see a way out of dire situations, I’ve leaned on her words, sometimes for days. It worked for her. Why not believe they might work for me? Given time, something would happen where my life suddenly turned on a dime.
 


Your inner Essence is guiding you even as you’re reading this. As long as you don’t put a ceiling on what’s possible, new solutions can reveal themselves to you.

Be willing to follow through on your inner nudges and new ideas that come to you. They may hold your life-turning dime.

Be open to renewal.

Allow yourself to resurrect possibilities where you thought there weren’t any.

When you change your story about yourself and what’s possible, miracles can happen.

You’re more likely to see them if you let go of your past burdens and see your bright present with fresh vision.

A new way of seeing things can move you forward more quickly with grace and ease, without going any faster. It’s like taking an express train instead of the local, which makes many stops and can be more exhausting because it takes a lot longer.

Both trains will get you to your destination. Which do you choose? Your answer will match the story you tell yourself about your life and what’s possible.

Don’t settle for what you’ve been told, even for what you’ve always believed is true.

Be willing to explore different ways of seeing and doing things.

Anticipate receiving miracles.

P. S. Know someone who might be interested in this TIP?  Please share.

As a Do What You Love Coach,
I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Feel Overwhelmed with the Clock Ticking?

March 26, 2018

clocks and woman

A mastermind team did an exercise called “Strategy for Success,” which included prioritizing personal and professional goals, identifying obstacles, followed by strategies to overcome each one. If there was a roadblock, what could they do about it?

Procrastination was a big obstacle. Many delays were due to questioning themselves. Are they capable? Are they good enough? Are they doing the right thing?

Avoidance happened when their goals involved new activity and knowledge that differed from how they’d done things in the past. They were growing their businesses in new ways, which meant doing things they’d never done before.

Venturing into an arena unknown to them brought on self-doubt, which immobilized them from moving forward.


One woman, who took on a new-to-her project, didn’t know how to complete it. She simply didn’t have the expertise to finish the job. With deadlines looming, she held herself back from doing a pile of other work, that she easily knows how to do, until she finished her worrisome project.

It turned out that a business associate had already offered, completely free of charge, to help her every step of the way. He also told her point blank that she was fully capable of doing this work on her own once she learned the steps.

All she really needed was help to walk through each step. Then she’d have it.

After she completed his initial instructions, she felt that she should know how to finish it on her own. However, because she had no prior experience with it, there’s no way she could know.

She was stuck because her self-esteem felt jeopardized.

She didn’t want to call him for help because that made her feel there was something wrong with her abilities and herself. That she wasn’t good enough.

So she remained frozen for way too long, which meant she wasn’t receiving income for a stack of work she could do.

By changing her perspective, she was able to see how asking for help had nothing to do with her self-worth, and she was willing to contact him again. 
 


When going outside the known and our comfort zone, when choosing to take ourselves to another level, it’s likely new tools and skills will be needed. This has nothing to do with not being good enough or a reason to be afraid of rejection!

Once we get over our “yes, buts,” “you don’t understand,”  “I was told this is the way it is (or I am),” “there’s nothing that can be done” and countless other reasons we try to legitimize why we do things the way we’ve always done, new solutions can appear.

The answers to get you through any challenge live within you. You’ll either get pointed in a direction, a direct insight will come, you’ll overhear something by chance… somehow your personal GPS will show you the way.

Pay attention to your inner nudges. They provide clues.

Be open to step back and see things in a new perspective. The seemingly impossible may actually be possible with a different approach.

Niels Bohr, who won the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1922, wrote this:

“Every great and deep difficulty bears in itself its own solution. It forces us to change our thinking in order to find it.”

Bohr, who contributed to understanding atomic structure and quantum theory, tapped into his creativity to use outside the box thinking, which allowed him to be part of breakthrough discoveries.

Expand your territory. Change your perspective. Open to breakthroughs.

P. S. Know someone who might be interested in this TIP?  Please share.

I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Change Is in the Air. Are You Wondering if You’re the Problem? (No, there’s nothing wrong with you.)

March 12, 2018

moon star girl

Their lives were going well, but they felt dissatisfied. Although highly successful and in different professions, the sentiments shared during their individual sessions were the same. They felt unmotivated or they were being held back. Something needed to change, and they didn’t know what or how to move forward.

They thought there was something wrong with themselves. They wanted to “blow out the cobwebs” that left them feeling “blocked, not ready and needing help to get back in the game.”

There was nothing wrong with them.

There’s nothing wrong with you, either.

It’s transition time.

In short, everyone, that includes you, has gone through a lot of changes and learned from them.

You’ve grown from your experiences. Even though things may look like business as usual, they’re not. If you try to do what you’ve always done in the way you’ve always done it, you may find yourself uninspired, confused, stuck, botching deals, making conversational faux pas or wondering if you’re missing the boat.

It’s simply time to move forward in a new way. But how?

Let’s start with the way you think. Thoughts travel on a bandwidth.

If you feel sorry for or bad about yourself, for example, the thoughts that follow will be negative, full of why you can’t do things and how nothing will work. And you’ll prove yourself right. You can’t, and they won’t work.

If you shift your focus to you’re okay, and you’re open to what God or the universe will bring you, then you can receive fresh ideas and directions to create results exceeding your expectations.

This shift can be a tricky bugger because you’ve been receiving ideas for your next step for a while, but subtly. The pointers to your shift may be something you’ve dismissed or thoughts you brushed aside as an interesting possibility. However, these may hold the keys to your future!

Look for what interests you, what makes you curious.

For instance, one of my clients realized it was time to jumpstart her marketing, but she had zero motivation to do it in the way she had in the past. Additionally, although she’s active on Facebook, she’s never approached it as a serious marketing tool.

The more we talked, she realized she had not one but three ideas that had been coming to her about how to use Facebook for business. This piqued her interest and energy to take action.

She also saw that when the world splats her like a bug with what she doesn’t want, she has a choice. Either to let it deflate her or turn it around to clarify and shift her focus to what she does want.


Another woman, who was flatlining about how to approach lucrative and creative business contracts she’d already won, became quite enthusiastic when an idea came to her about a personal project she could pursue.

Here’s why finding something that interests you is important:

Generally, if we have several things working and one that isn’t, we tend to focus on the one that isn’t. This bandwidth pulls us DOWN so we block our creative flow.

By focusing on something that interests us, we open ourselves UP to new visions that can inspire us to take action. When this happens, ideas can come to us about everything, including how to break free from whatever holds us back.


What fleeting thoughts have you had recently about new directions? Maybe they seemed to come from left field, so you didn’t pay much attention to them. However, they could be clues for you.

What interests you?  What excites you? Explore that.

The world awaits your specialness that only YOU have! The discomfort of change is your Inner Essence nudging you forward to your greatness.

Take a step.

There’s always a way out.

P. S. Know someone who might be interested in this?  Please share.

I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Feeling Overwhelmed?

February 5, 2018

overwhelm

Life is moving quickly. For me, lots of my goals are manifesting, which is a good thing. Because they’re happening all at once, though, I started feeling overwhelmed.

Here are just a few highlights from this week only:

Choosing colors and painting a room; writing copy and meeting with web designers; servicemen working on my computer, completion of installation of antennas on my roof and wiring for a cell phone booster plus my internet; meeting with clients; multiple deadlines; purchasing a variety of new equipment; helping several friends; seeing two new health practitioners; and a toilet that needs a new overflow assembly (what a metaphor). You get the idea. I share this because perhaps, with whatever you’re experiencing, you can relate.

Most of these required many hours of research and learning about stuff I never thought I’d care about, from oscillation of electronic signals to website divis to which surge protectors’ ohms, joules and products actually can protect my various electronic devices. This had to be done before I could even start, purchase correct items; converse with and hire the right people, make intelligent decisions or fix mistakes from when I didn’t know any better.


Creating momentum is a key to success.

However, when catching up started to feel like I was being dragged behind, I knew I was beginning to be out of sync with myself.

The pace didn’t feel good, and I started to feel pressure. I was making great progress, but it wasn’t enjoyable.

Life sends us a HUGE clue that we’ve wandered off the yellow brick road when we’re not feeling good.

Instead of creating a story justifying why I felt this way, I got quiet and listened to my inner voice for guidance.

What I heard was to set an intention for my life to be in divine order, balance and flow.


In the following days, I noticed I was still busy. But things were getting done easier, and I felt more on top of activities instead of getting run over by them. I took time over the weekend to rest, too.

By intending divine order, everything doesn’t happen at once, even if they’re good things.

By intending divine balance, we allow a bigger perspective to orchestrate our lives instead of pushing ahead from a limited viewpoint.

By intending divine flow, we allow ourselves to be in harmony with a natural rhythm of life instead of focusing on chaos, what’s not working or getting sucked into other people’s flows .

From my upcoming e-book 4 Keys to Be Richly Compensated Doing What You Love:

When you get out of your own way, you allow your goals to manifest with grace and ease instead of trying to make things happen.

From my Resolved for Results program:

TIP: If you choose a life of divine flow, but don’t believe that asking for it can make a difference, surrender the doubt, the part that doesn’t believe. Choose to be open and willing to receive what you ask for.

Are you feeling overwhelmed or wondering how you’re going to keep up? Many people are either doing their best to stay afloat or bravely going into the unknown as they take their lives to another level.

Either way, life can be busy and even confusing.

Moving ahead in ways with which you’re not familiar often creates emotional discomfort.

Why? Your inner essence is guiding you forward in a direction so you can have what you want, the change for which you’ve been asking. Your physical brain, on the other hand, doesn’t have new neural pathways in place to make sense of it all… yet. In time, it will.

Setting intentions can be a lifesaver. They take mere seconds to think or say, don’t cost a cent and take no effort. The more you allow yourself to believe and receive, the better they work.

Instead of just putting up with whatever’s going on in your life, ask your inner wisdom for direction.

You can experiment with choosing to be in divine order, balance and flow. What do you have to lose except frustration, overwhelm and stress?

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy this post? Please share.

 
I work with people, at any age,
 who choose to share their gifts
 or business in a BIGGER way
 but don't know how, feel stuck
 or would benefit from new tools
 or support.
 
 I help them be richly compensated
 doing what they love by aligning
 with their Soul's goals.

Stop Working So Hard… Make More Money. Have More Fun!

January 22, 2018

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  • Last year, she retained her standing as #1 in her company that spans several cities.
  • Her business grew 17% over the previous year, grossing her more money in one year than she’s made in her life.
  • She bought a new vehicle with a $52K price tag that she uses for work, more than she ever thought she’d spend on one.
  • She had fun and takes seven weeks of vacation each year.

How did she do it?

Throughout the year, issues and challenges came up for my client. Each time, during her coaching sessions, we clarified how she could address these.

As a result, her motto, which is featured in bold and colored print at the top of her goals and strategy for the year, is now this:

MY JOB IS TO HAVE FUN!

MY ENERGY IS ALIGNED TO HAVE FUN, WORK LESS, EARN MORE MONEY with GRACE & EASE!

She didn’t always feel this way!

When my client started to work with me, she was a rookie. She used to say, her phone was glued to her hip for fear of missing a call and business.

While practicing what she had been taught was the way to success, she became an addict, addicted to her work. By the way, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, a definition of addict is “to devote or surrender (oneself) to something habitually or obsessively.”

However, she came to realize that she was so busy setting herself up for the future that she wasn’t living in the present.

She was living to work, not working to live.

Work wasn’t enjoyable because she believed she had to retire before having fun. Even when she achieved her goal of seven-weeks of vacation a year, she wasn’t enjoying herself.

People began to annoy her. Work became a chore. She began to long for early retirement until she had this awareness:

“Many of us have been brought up to believe that we’re supposed to work hard, put our nose to the grind stone (ouch) and struggle to get ahead. It’s the way we were programmed to think. But this isn’t true.”

That’s the way she thought until she had a wake-up call due to emergency surgery that took her a year before she got her mojo back. Then she knew she had to approach things differently, and she was open to change.

Recently, after a slower schedule during the holidays, she thought she had to “push herself” to start work again after leisurely vegging on Hallmark TV movies. She felt she had to “make herself” get out of what she felt was her comfort zone, even though she didn’t feel comfortable being there any more.

Her old pattern kicked in of pushing herself out of her so-called comfort zone that actually wasn’t comfortable anymore. What she was ready for was to return to her comfort zone.

Consider this:

She was beginning to feel uncomfortable vegging out. If she simply followed what she felt like doing, stop watching so much TV, and switched her focus of attention to business, she’d be in alignment with what her Essence was guiding her to do.

If you’re pushing or trying to make things happen, you’re working against yourself and the guidance your Essence is communicating to you.

There was no need to make re-engaging in work a struggle. Nor did she have to push herself, create a story about how she had to get back to business or tell herself that she had to stop being so comfortable… because continuing to watch TV had become an UNcomfortable zone.

The key was for her to return to her comfort zone, and continuing to watch TV while berating herself was not comfortable.

It was time to consciously align her energy with her inner spirit instead of fighting it.

Responding to shifting winds while riding in a sailboat requires changing course. It’s just part of the sport. When shifting tides in life occur, change course. It’s just part of life. Associated story and drama are neither required nor helpful.

Your Essence will guide you to where you need to be. If you’re not happy, not having fun, not feeling good, pushing yourself or making yourself wrong for not doing more, no matter how you try to justify it, you’re out of sync with your spirit and inner guidance.

How can you work less? How can you make more money? Have more fun!

 


“Reduce your workload by 30% and increase your fun load by 30% and you will increase your revenues by 100%. And you will increase your productivity by 10,000%. (If there could be such a percentage.) More fun, less struggle — more results on all fronts.”


Abraham-Hicks, Excerpted from Salt Lake City, UT on 9/9/00


A reason this works is that you align your energy to receive wisdom from within. When you do this, you’re guided to the very best direction for you. Follow this, and you’re golden.

Principle #4 in Resolved for Results is “… I take action by following through with my inspiration and guidance.”

When you do what you love, instead of working hard, you’ll do inspired work. Because of this, you’ll be more productive, receive better results, make more money, and most important, enjoy your life more.

If you feel stuck in work or activities you don’t enjoy, find something within that scope that’s pleasing to you. It’s there. When you turn your antenna in a direction to receive greater joy, you will be led to more and more of what you love.

With gratitude,

Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy this post? Please share.

I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.