You Don’t Have to Push Yourself Harder

What I’m about to tell you is opposite of what most of us learned is the way to achieve success.

Forget about:

• No pain, no gain.
• You have to work hard for what you want.
• Put your nose to the grindstone.
• Success requires sacrifice, suffering and struggle.

Beliefs like these often don’t create sustainable results that lead to a happy life. Furthermore, trying hard is exhausting.

When we align our positive energy first and then take inspired action with grace and ease, we can create better outcomes while feeling good, too. 

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A client, whose career is in the fitness industry, shared how his life is working better.

“I let go of pushing harder. I had the kind of personality to be hard on myself, more disciplined. It left me feeling out of control, especially about things I can’t do anything about.

“I had mind-numbing, self-critiquing all the time. I was looking for approval. 

“Now I see how when I’m softer and centered, I’m in control. It’s easier to be in my own skin. People are more at ease around me because I’m more at ease with myself.

“I make choices moment-to-moment instead of worrying about the future and what others think.

“I catch myself a lot quicker instead of having long periods of anxiety. I chart my course by mentally creating my ideal scenario and letting go of the pushing.

“Week by week, this new way of living life is sinking in as I allow myself to go from efforting to grace and ease. 

“I’ve reclaimed my natural power and feel myself evolving to my true potential as I achieve my goals.”

There was more joy, confidence and lightness in his voice as well.

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You can tap into a zone where you won’t need to push yourself. By getting out of your own way, you can get more done with better results and even go beyond limits.

It starts by shifting from trying to relaxing into a flow of doing what you love.

Olympic athletes center and focus themselves before taking action. The winners go beyond worry and ride the wave of their event – even when changing winds seem to be against them. They’re at the right place at the right time to avoid the hazards.

You can, too.

Ready to make your life easier? 
Contact me to find out how:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or
would benefit from new tools or support. 

I help them be richly compensated 
doing what they love
by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

Reposted from February 12, 2018

Copyright © 2021 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

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Do This Instead of Trying so Hard

Have you noticed that when you push to make things happen, try hard to get something, have to have things work out in a certain way or feel desperate, what you want eludes you or is hard to get?  Other times, often when you casually say you want something, it appears effortlessly.

If a door opens by allowing it to come toward you, pushing against it only closes it more.

The same principle applies to creating your ideal business and life, too.

Imagine this. If someone is chasing you for business, to be their friend or lover, what are you inspired to do?

Run. Far away. Or, because I’m inspired by watching an old TV series Gunsmoke, “get out of Dodge.”

Your dreams and goals are here, now, waiting for you. Be willing and open to receive them.

Recently while out dancing, my friend and I met a man whose company we were enjoying. We liked the band and learned that he hired them to play at his birthday party at his beautiful, country home close to where I live.

My friend whispered to me, “Let’s get an invitation.” I tuned into the idea and felt it would be fun. Within five minutes, he invited us without our saying a word to him about it.

Earlier that night, amidst a sea of people at a month-long event held on six acres, I found myself face to face with a former client. I’d been thinking about reconnecting with her as we hadn’t talked for a couple of years.

We enjoyed catching up by phone the following day. At the end of our conversation, she inquired about my current business offerings. Poised to launch a new direction in her career, she’s ready to let go of limiting beliefs that could hold her back.

She’ll start her program with me this month.

Right place. Right time. Right energy. In the flow. Great results.

No struggle. No trying. Being a magnet for intentions and good things by relaxing and being open to receive.

Note: this is 180 opposite from worrying about what if things don’t work out.

Life is magical when we allow it.

We’ve been trained to think no pain, no gain. Do more. Work harder.

Yes, actions can produce results.

Releasing is one of the highest and most effective actions. This means letting go of anxiety, doubt, fear as well as limiting thoughts and emotions. It’s like a tuning fork emitting a vibration; this frequency naturally harmonizes with complementary notes.

Relaxing and trusting open us to inspired action which allows success to occur naturally.

Your action has nothing to do with your abundance! Your abundance is a response to your vibration. Of course, your belief is part of your vibration. So if you believe that action is part of what brings your abundance, then you’ve got to unravel that.

Abraham-Hicks

TIP: Stop Trying so Hard. Start Allowing.

In Soulgoals’ masterminding, we set our intention for success by saying: I choose and I am willing to receive this or something better. Then we state our goals.

You can do this daily by writing or saying this phrase followed by your goals.

Supercharge your intentions by accessing mastermind energy.  Ask for and allow support from a Divine Source, God, the universe, whatever works for you.

Some have had tremendous success by looking in the mirror daily, masterminding with the Divine, stating the above intention followed by their goal.

Be open and willing to receive.

It works.

Experiment, and you’ll experience.

Reprinted from December 7, 2015

If you’d like support
in how to let go and
have more of what you really want,
contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.
If it’s been a while since you’ve had one,
you’re welcome to contact me again.

Email me at:

virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

Copyright © 2019 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

SPEAK UP: IT’S TIME TO LIVE YOUR LIFE – PART 1

The top two tactics used by repressive regimes like China are to withhold information, which is harder to do with the internet, and stop people from expressing themselves. 

What about your expression? 

As tempting as it might be to tell your boss, clients, family or friends that they’re idiots in desperate need of an attitude adjustment, it may not be wise. There are times to speak up and times to put things in perspective. 

However, if they cross the line by treating you like yesterday’s trash, then it’s time to express yourself… with as much grace and ease as possible. 

When the pain of withholding is greater than the pain of dealing with a situation, it’s time to express yourself.

This awakening is now happening in the Middle East as expressed on a YouTube video Syria: stand with the protesters.  “They will not be butchered into silence and submission.” 

They have chosen to live their own lives. The consequences of remaining silent surpassed the cost of speaking up. Many are paying a high price for the freedom to express.

I learned this lesson while existing in “a living hell.”

During my twenties, miserable because of a five-year relationship, I had a dream. For the longest time I kept its message on my dresser, although I didn’t know what it meant or how to do anything about it:

 Find the Heart and Rescue It 

It took me a while to realize I lived with a master manipulator. He knew my vulnerabilities and used them to intimidate and emotionally undermine me while bending me to his will. 

I was bullied to let go of my business and with it financial freedom. He listened in on my phone conversations. He even left me stranded in a southwestern desert at 3 PM in the middle of the summer as he drove away – to return 30 minutes later. 

The stress of what my life had become short-circuited my adrenals, thyroid, blood sugar and more – so I wasn’t even able to speak my words in the right order or have physical energy to move. Enabling this was a belief there was something wrong with me.

Human traffickers and terrorists use similar tactics. Intimidate with threats and play on low self-esteem to create a lack of confidence and dread. Immobilize people through fear of what might happen. 

My unhappiness induced me to question and think.  

There was his reality, but was it true? 

How did I get here? I made a bad choice which put me on a sorrowful path. Regardless of good choices I subsequently made, I was still on the wrong path. 

I had to listen to my heart, my truth, and not give my power away. Even if others claimed to know more or be an authority. Even at risk of losing worldly goods. 

Even with my perceived HUMILIATION that, once again, I made a mistake. Actually, it was my ego’s need to protect this self-image that held me back the most. 

My survival ultimately depended on my ability to listen to my guidance, speak up TO MYSELF and not be cowered into obedient “silence and submission.”

When I got honest with me, changes occurred which made my exit easy. I was packed and gone in three weeks. 

What life do you want to live? Are you living it? Are you willing to honestly speak up, at least to yourself, and acknowledge what’s in your heart? 

How can you access your truth? It’s always within you.  

1. Breathe deeply in a relaxed way.
2. Call forth your soul. It’s not complicated to do. It’s another aspect of you!
3. Request clear communication.
4. Ask questions, such as: 

• Why are things happening in my life this way?
• What’s the truth about a situation?
• What’s the best direction for me to focus on now?
• What action is best to take?

Write or draw your answers. Journaling is a useful tool to speak out and let you know what’s happening within. 

If you need more clarity, ask again. If it doesn’t come in that moment, it will be made known to you at a better time.

 Ready to make your life easier?

• Choose to learn your lessons GENTLY.
• Choose to make changes with ease and grace.
• Choose to take action on your inner guidance.

 The more you speak up, the more you’ll live your life on your terms. 

In Part Two, you’ll learn 7 steps to LIVE your life and 5 ways to stop giving your power away.