Archive for the ‘Enjoy Life’ Category

Are You Having Fun Yet?

June 26, 2017

 

I was fortunate. I didn’t lose my home or life from floods that caused FEMA to take residence in my town for several months a couple of years ago. However, months of dealing with mold in my house and body took a heavy toll on my health and finances.

Even though three vets told me there was nothing to do for my sick cat, and one suggested I put her to sleep, she decided she wasn’t ready to go and stayed with me for two more years. This translated to round-the-clock caretaking that exhausted me.

After all that passed, including my precious companion, I knew it was essential to go out and participate in life again.

Otherwise, my focus would’ve been stuck on the adversities of my past. As like attracts like, it would’ve put me on a downward spiral to the “same ole, same (challenging) ole.”

A road trip beckoned that awakened me to enjoy life. Since then, I’ve been finding ways to have fun and laugh – from an entertaining drag show to an airboat ride on the Colorado River to a free Bollywood dance class on the same stage that the ballet uses. For months, every week I saw new-to-me performances, including music from around the world to The Temptations and Four Tops.

Additionally, there were art museums, plays, ziplining, hiking at state parks, restaurants, massages and a sake tour.

There are magnets on my fridge holding ticket stubs and flyers from the many programs I attended, reminding me to continue to play.

By the way, thanks to online deals from companies like Groupon, LivingSocial and Travelzoo, fun things to do can be found super cheap. Many museums have a day or weekend every month where you can go for free, and some concert halls offer 2 for 1 specials.

In the process of getting out, I rested, had fun, got my mojo back and felt like I was living again. My business grew, too.

When I decided it was time to settle down and get back to work, and didn’t go out for a few weeks, my business and income slowed down, too! 


I remember the exact instance, before I started to play, when this thought came to me:  If I died and went to the other side, what would I say I’d done for myself?

My answer was: I almost got caught up. So many things on my To Do list were getting done, but there was so much left to do. And, yes, I’ve helped a lot of people and have accomplishments.

But what about me?

What would you say about how you’ve had fun and taken care of yourself?


I’ve recognized that when I don’t take time to play, the inflow and outflow of life energy becomes out of balance.

It reminds me of Mastermind Principle #6 from my course Resolved for Results:  I believe I am worthy and deserve to achieve my goals or something better, and I choose to use my personal empowerment on my behalf, which allows me to serve life more fully.

What’s your legacy beyond family, work, accomplishments and making money?

Are you having fun yet?

Life is designed to be satisfying. If it’s not, it’s time to change your perspective, and do something different.

The weird thing is that when we break free from primarily focusing on the dutiful acts that we have to do, and include time to play, our lives, business and work improve.

Old age is no longer another notch on the yearly calendar. Age is a state of mind. A way of being.

Look at life as energy and vibration. When you raise your energy by having fun, you’re on the wavelength to attract longevity, more money, better clients, relationships and health.

If you haven’t already, you now can give yourself permission to play, have fun and enjoy the rich variety that the world has to offer.

Before, I didn’t even know what it meant to play.

Where to start? Find one activity that looks interesting and do it.

Have you ever been not that hungry? Then after a eating few bites, you realized you couldn’t stop. Playing and fun can be like that, too.

By creating more fun, as well as sharing it, you might even spark romance!

Are you ready to make this lifetime count beyond work, duties and survival? Go have fun!

With playful gratitude,

Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

This Stops You From Getting What You Want

January 23, 2017

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Sacred Cow: an idea, custom, or institution held, especially unreasonably, to be above criticism (with reference to the Hindus’ respect for the cow as a sacred animal).” from Bing

Historically for Hindus, cows provided food, fuel, disinfectant and fertilizer. In other words, cows were needed for survival. Eating the cow for meat works for the moment, but there goes the source of milk, dried cow dung for fuel, fertilizer and more.

How can leaders communicate to the masses not to kill their cows? Make them sacred. Make killing them taboo.

Likewise, we have beliefs that made sense once upon a time, like telling children not to talk with strangers.

However, especially if you’re in business or working with the public as an adult where talking with new people is essential, this pattern can thwart your success.

In humble prayer: God, I’ll do anything you want. Anything. Except see that one little thing? Not that. Otherwise, anything.

God replies: Focusing on that one thing is the only thing I ask of you now.

That which is so sacred to you, that idea or belief that you don’t want to consider, can be the one thing that stops you from getting what you want.

It’s usually some way you’ve always done things, the way you’ve always thought or felt – even if it doesn’t work or makes you feel unhappy.

What if you based your thinking on a few faulty or limited premises?

Don’t you go asking me about my mama. Although therein can lie the key to your self-esteem and ability to set boundaries.

That’s sacred cow/ sacred belief territory. Back off. However, those who have the courage to look can find freedom.

Those type of entrenched neural pathways in your brain can make you feel that you have to chew on distressing thoughts  – that’s just a habit to keep you spinning in circles.

The ego wants to figure things out, and in doing so, you can stay stuck for years wanting to understand and know why… because it’s so complicated.

That habit of thinking is a trap, like the Sirens calling the boats to shore so they’ll crash.

Do what Odysseus did for his crew. Put metaphoric wax in your ears. Restrain yourself from the addictive pull of the way you usually think; it’s easier to do when you refocus your attention on happier things.

Maybe the lesson to be learned is to let go and take your life back.

Beliefs are only thoughts you repeatedly think. You HAVE the power to think other thoughts. Choose to stop letting others and circumstances control what goes on in your head and influence how you feel.

My church tells me such-and-such, so I can’t consider anything else.

Every week as part of the religious service when I was a kid, I thrice hit my heart with my fist as I spoke aloud three times: “Lord, I’m not worthy.”

Talk about pounding a (false) belief into the body.

In my family we always follow tradition. So a man became a lawyer even though his heart wasn’t in it, he wanted to be in another profession, felt miserable – and his wallet reflected it.

When companies go through changes, they often challenge the way things have always been done – the sacred cows of their culture or systems.

What beliefs do you hold so dearly that they’re beyond criticism, beyond your examination that they might not be true?

Your sacred cow beliefs may be the very ones holding you back from getting what you want – happiness, more money and success, better relationships, health and business.

Summon the courage to look. Journal about it.

You can live your dreams, be happy, be richly compensated doing what you love, and invest in yourself instead of taking care of everyone else.

What a concept.

Why not be happy? Only your sacred cow beliefs will tell you a limiting answer because your essence only chooses for you to be free and enjoy life.

P.S. If you feel this sacred cow message might be moo-sic to someone’s ears, please forward.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Are You Running Away From Your Fear?

January 17, 2017

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Your success accelerates and happiness blooms when you let go of fear and the ego’s grasp.

Fear subtly whispers what if the worse happens. It can have you look calm or cheerful, but inside quiet trepidation runs like a persistent, low grade fever. It can breed a full-blown panic humbling you to beg a divine power for help – hoping/doubting if anyone is listening to your prayers or wondering if they’ll bother to answer them.

Fear can masquerade as anger, frustration, pain, avoidance, blaming, complaining, feeling like a victim, sadness, apathy, bullying, guilt, rescuing, suffering as well as every facet of unhappiness.

Fear creates lack of clarity and direction while triggering procrastination or immobilizing you from taking action, dreading that you’ll make a mistake and then you-know-what will hit the fan.

Although miserable to experience, these outcomes provide a compelling distraction from looking at the culprit – your underlying fear.

However, just like in the Wizard of Oz when the curtain was pulled back, there’s nothing substantive to fear.

  1. Fear is only a scary story in your head.
  2. You can more effectively deal with real issues when you’re not emotionally clouded.
  3. You continue to attract unwanted circumstances until you stop running away from your fear, let it go and see it for what it is: a no-thing.
  4. You only attract what you can handle, so there’s no reason to fear anything. 

When you stop thinking and talking about your problems as if you’re in a Stephen King novel, you stop generating your real-life, horror stories.

FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real.

The ego will lead you to believe that you’ll have more pain if you look at your fear.

However, it’s the embellished, painful narratives of what horrible fate might happen in the future or remembering what happened in the past that snags you.

When you focus on the past and future, you bypass present time, and this is where your personal empowerment dwells.

How can you know if you’re doing this? Listen to your own stories. What’s the timeline – past, present or future?

Ego will play you like a fiddle – directing your attention to what you don’t have (like enough money, time, love, health, direction or success), past and future worries, anywhere but the Now.

If you allow yourself to look at your inner bogeyman, with an intention of letting it go, you’ll find freedom.

Ask for your inner spirit to shine your courage so you can let go of fear and find the tools and support to release what’s holding you back.

You can begin now:

  • Be willing to let go.
  • Ask for help – inwardly and outwardly.
  • Journal to bring clarity and with the intention of letting go.
  • Open to receive a life and business that exceeds your wildest expectations.

When you feel afraid you give your power away. Choose to take it back.

If you don’t get this job or deal, you can get another.

If one way doesn’t work, it’s not the end of the world. Another can be even better. (By the way, I used to be a master at making mountains out of molehills, so I know how much anxiety, pain and self-destruction this habit generates.)

No person, circumstance, financial condition, politician, economic outlook, industry predictions, threats, doctor’s diagnosis, the past or unknown future can affect you unless you let it.

Dwelling on fear or what doesn’t work is emotional quicksand that sabotages your success.

A woman told me about a dream she had with a ferocious lion. Instead of running away, she walked toward it and through it. It had no substance.

You pay a high price for letting fear run your life. Drama. Stress. Challenging relationships. Attracting more fear than money. Confusion. Unconsciously repelling business. Poor health. A life that doesn’t feel like it’s worth living.

You can change now.

Make a decision that instead of listening to the nagging, fear-based story in your head, and judging yourself for having it, you’ll focus on what you choose and what’s working.

Results? You’re happier. Your business and finances grow. You attract love from all the right places. Your health improves.

You’re worth it.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

Be honest. You want this more than anything.

January 10, 2017

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Let’s cut to the chase.

Regardless if you wrote New Year’s resolutions or goals for this year, you know one thing. Parts of your life work and others not so much.

You probably grumble about what you don’t like, either a little or you’re running a full-length movie.

Why do you feel this way? Because you don’t feel good that some things are the way they are.

I know this is simple. However, it provides a BIG clue to what you want more than anything.

First, let’s look at some basics you might enjoy improving:

  • Better health – You’re so done with those niggly or essential health issues and emotional stresses that you’ve been tolerating.
  • Higher quality relationships – Enough with people who are your fill-in-the-blank pet peeve. Bring on the love.
  • Increased financial success – You’re tired of the worry or limitations from not having the cha-ching to enjoy whatever you choose in life. Or you’re afraid of losing what you have.
  • Fulfilling career/ business/ doing what you love – It’s high time for your creativity to shine more brightly and for you to revel in what you do – or discover what that is.
  • Positive growth in all ways – Physical, emotional, mental, spiritual: you’re ready to bring out more of the best of you.

What will having these do for you?

You’ll feel good. You’ll feel happy. You’ll feel that life is worth living.

Everything you desire is because, underneath, you believe it will bring you what you want more than anything.

Happiness.

This is good feeling mojo, and it impacts your attitude and creates momentum to enjoy life.

By identifying what creates happiness for you, and using this as your personal GPS, you’ll discover fulfillment and success.

Yes, we’re still focusing on simple, but look what often happens.

People put up with others and situations that could be changed by redirecting their attention with a dose of clarity, confidence and courage.

Mulling over unhappy stories of the way things are, aka excuses and erroneous beliefs, keeps us unhappy … until circumstances snap us out of our fixed thinking, the burden of pain becomes too great or we make a conscious choice to do what it takes to let go and change.

A woman wasn’t happy with her job, but for fifteen years she believed this is what social work is like everywhere.

Circumstances changed, and she found an identical job in another office that she loved. Her beliefs about work weren’t true, and the limiting story she told herself kept her stuck.

For years, an unhappy husband held himself back from enjoying life because of his sick wife. He patiently waited for her to die. She outlived him by ten years.

Many have a high tolerance for pain and put up with things waaay too long.

What makes you feel unhappy? Your spirit is giving you a clue. Do something differently.

You may have to walk through your fear or sacred cow beliefs to do it.

It’s of little importance if you don’t know the big picture of where you’re going or you don’t know how to do whatever. Age, your past history, your health, your degree of stuckness or frustration or confusion do NOT matter!

Start with baby steps toward what makes you feel good, and they’ll lead you to what you need.

In my late twenties, while in a toxic situation that shattered my health and felt like a five-year prison sentence, I had a dream with a message. I didn’t understand it at the time, but I wrote it on scrap paper and put it on my dresser.

Find your heart and rescue it.

In my early forties, I cried miserably as I walked alone in my neighborhood at night because none of the above mentioned “basics” were working for me. (By the way, that was my turning point to start coaching.)

You can turn anything around to your benefit, and use this present moment as your springboard to create more joy.

Be patient with yourself.

One day, your life will flash before your eyes. Create a movie you’ll enjoy seeing because you’re happy.

 

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

TIP: What Were You Thinking and How It Affects You Now

December 5, 2016
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A woman I’ve known for decades, who used to be very involved with a spiritual practice, has been sending toxic emails.

She doesn’t check information to see if it’s true. Or they’re about disgruntled people who are challenged with a world that changed. Or she’ll take a positive message and skew it to be negative. And, I suppose, there are some valuable ideas, but to find them means wading through venom.

I replied to one of her emails that this is a season of unconditional love, and a way to it is being non-judgmental.

She answered, “Judgmental, unconditional love, spiritual beliefs… I definitely don’t fall under the PC situation… I have to keep it real for me, my truth. It may ruffle some people’s feathers but that’s what this world is for, experiences and finding out what we need to find out.”

Bah humbug. The spirit of Christmas is now just another way of being politically correct.

Gee, and here I thought that, underneath it all, the world is for Love.

How does her worldview affect her?

In other emails, she shared that she can get depressed.

Yet, she feels compelled that others see life through her passionate yet angry rants – under the guise of keeping it real and telling her truth.

In the past, I would listen endlessly to people’s sad stories and emotionally charged viewpoints.  I thought I was helping by holding space for them to share and be heard.

I’ve since learned that an extended focus on what doesn’t work is a disservice and adds fuel to a perspective that caused them distress. It only helps them to pick up momentum toward what they don’t like, which affects their health, finances, relationships or happiness.

This includes not validating sob stories I might conjure up about what I don’t like in my life or what’s not working the way I think it should.

If gently redirecting the conversation doesn’t work, I do what I can to exit with grace and ease.

My clients learn how to notice resistance and shift it, too.

To live with good feeling mojo is a simple concept. Feel good.

The more you think and feel good, the better your life becomes… your dreams magically start coming true. 

This weekend, I had the privilege of being invited on a trip to enjoy rock art (pictographs the ancients painted on cave walls).

Although we were rained out from that part of our trip, we enjoyed a wonderful walk, a night in a cabin perched above the lower Pecos River plus a day in Mexico.

I listened to stories of how the rock art and area in and around Seminole Canyon State Park in south Texas transformed my friend after a personal family tragedy.

Since then, not only is she deeply passionate about rock art, she breathes a respect and reverence for life.

As a result, she’s created a loving life in alignment with her values and goals.

Your TIP is to observe your thinking and notice how it’s affecting you.

I’ll give you a BIG hint.

If there are parts of your life and business you don’t like as well as how it’s affecting you, observe what you’re thinking and feeling.

I know it can seem crazy, that forces beyond your control are the real culprit, but your energy is at the core. Like energy attracts like energy. Only you choose your perspective.

The good news is that wherever you are and for however long it took you to get here, regardless of how hopeless or frustrating aspects of your life, finances, business, relationships or health may seem at times, you can change it.

Look for what brings you joy instead of addictively focusing on anxiety, pain, suffering, who done you wrong or who’s doing something wrong.

This includes what feels unchangeable, like actor Michael J. Fox who went from having “everything” to having Parkinson’s.

He turned it around from the worse experience to the best wake up call. It changed his life for the better.

P.T. Barnum went bankrupt and didn’t enter the circus business until age 60.There goes the “I’m too old” argument of limitation.

By 1983, the millions made by boxer, heavyweight champion and Olympic gold medalist George Foreman were almost gone. He turned it around. In 2014, Foreman topped The Richest list of top athlete entrepreneurs of all time.

What isn’t working for you?

You can realign your thinking and feeling so your biggest challenge becomes your biggest asset.

You’ll feel happier, too.

By the way, I just returned from a Christmas concert. At the end, the chorus formed a circle around the entire audience and sang, “Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me.” It’s quite a concept, especially during the holiday season.

I work with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming masterminding teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

Copyright © 2016 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

TIP: Dance. Yes, You!

October 24, 2016

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Like a phoenix taking flight from the ashes of war, Sierra Leone’s Refugee All Stars radiate how the human spirit prevails.

Their music offers us the gift of perspective. Through unimaginable hardships, we can still rejoice in faith, joy and optimism.

Years ago, I watched a documentary about them twice in a row (first for the story, second to listen to their music). I looked them up online and discovered they were on tour performing at a nearby, small club the next day!

Instead of sleeping, I drove an hour to see their 11:30 PM performance and was able to meet them back stage. As I shook hands with each of them, I said what an honor it was to hear them play, and I had respect for them and all they went through.

They emerged from a horrific eleven year civil war in their West African country and unexpectedly spent years in a refugee camp. Now, instead of wallowing in bitterness and victimhood, they share joy through their upbeat music.

This weekend, I had an opportunity to see them perform again. This time in a big theater.

The stirring sounds pulsed from the stage begging us to dance or at least tap our feet or sway.

Almost everyone sat rigidly unmoved as if to say: I expect you to entertain me. It’s your job to make me feel. Move me… in spite of myself.

In spite of my problems or mind-numbing job. Dealing with family. Being stressed or bored with life.

But the band wouldn’t let us sit as passive participants. 

The drummer stood up, walked to the microphone at the front of the stage only to say these words:

Ladies and gentlemen, I invite you to dance.

My friend didn’t want to at first. “I don’t know how to dance like they do.”

“Just move,” I told her. “Let the music move through you and dance.”

Soon half the audience was on their feet. Smiling. Waving their arms.

We followed directions to “shake it.”

There were periodic check-ins with the audience: Are you happy?

For those who didn’t allow the music to move them, the rhythms taunted like an annoying beggar. Some left.

Allowing the music to flow through us, a joy of spirit broke free into happiness and remembering how much fun life can be.

Your TIP is to dance!

Don’t be a passive bystander to your life.

When you let the life force move through you, you remember joy.

When you feel good, you’re in alignment with your true self.

When you’re in alignment, you’re in Divine Flow – and this is how you receive all good things for your life and business.

Go ahead, dance. Dance in your room or office. Bounce to the beats in your car. Shake your booty by yourself or ignite a friend’s passion to play along.

Allow energy to flow through you, the same energy that allows your business and life to soar to greater heights.

Dance. Yes, you!

Are you happy?

It’s your life. It’s never to late to dance, be happy and allow your dreams to come true.

Pilates + Doing What You Love = Saturday 10/24

October 16, 2015

Improve Your Moves and Find Your Groove

a Workshop to Align Your Body and

Design Your Life Doing What You Love

When you’re aligned inside and out, your body, thoughts and feelings are strengthened and balanced for you to live the life of your dreams… and your confidence goes through the roof.

Combining Pilates and Do What You Love coaching, you will activate your core support, in body, spirit and daily life, to awaken your natural intelligence. When your core is alive, your posture improves – in how you move your body and find your groove – so you live a passion-filled life.

Energized by the synergy of Lindsey and Virginia, you will come away with breakthrough insights and practical actions to live true to you.

You WILL:

  •  Release tension in body and mind as you dump physical and emotional stress.
  • Create a foundation for effective movement and flexibility to help you move through your life with ease.
  • Find your groove and design a passion-filled life that YOU create where you’re richly compensated doing what you love.
  • Learn a simple tool to transform any confusion and worry into clarity, inspiration and action.
  • Enjoy freedom by getting unstuck – physically, emotionally and mentally.
  • Discover the #1 obstacle holding back your success and an easy technique to stop it.
  • Experience the power of masterminding and how to access it to manifest your goals and dreams beyond your wildest expectations.
  • Reveal how support can help you achieve your goals faster and easier than trying to do everything on your own.

Saturday, October 24, 1-5:30 PM

Vitality Pilates Austin, 508 E. 53rd Street, Unit 100, Austin, TX 78751 

Your investment to live the life you were born to enjoy is $150. Space is limited. Friends and family are welcome!

Call Lindsey now to register at (512)921-2921.

Who Are Lindsey and Virginia?

Lindsey BrannonLindsey Brannan was introduced to Pilates in 1998 while studying at the School of Nashville Ballet. Two years later, an injury ended her dance career, and Pilates took on a new purpose – to build strength and heal her own body. Having received multiple certifications in Pilates, she now helps others to live pain-free.

Virginia Goszewska (go-SHEF-ska) suffered from poor health, finances, VG - lisa 2008marriage, career and everything else that could cause frustration. Since 1992, following decades in international businesses and non-profits as well as her discoveries of how to enjoy a fulfilling life and business, she now helps people to share their gifts, but don’t know how or feel stuck, while being richly compensated doing what they love.

SPEAK UP: IT’S TIME TO LIVE YOUR LIFE – PART 2

May 13, 2011

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It takes courage to see through intimidation. 

There’s a real danger that Yemen will fall to al-Qaida, and their President Saleh uses this to try and control people through fear. The people’s choice: repressive regime or the bogeyman? 

In spite of this potential terror, there are those who no longer are willing to be repressed. And they don’t believe these are the only choices. 

Tawakkol Karman, a female Yemeni activist and writer reported: “We cannot let the bogeyman of al-Qaida and extremism be used to stall historic change in our country; Saleh invokes this threat in an attempt to cling to power, as if he is the only one capable of bringing stability and tackling terrorism. It would be foolish to believe his lies.” 

It reminds me of the empty warning, “no one will ever love you like I do.” Settle for less or be left with something worse or nothing. 

Are you afraid of living your dream? 

What if you try and don’t succeed? 

What-if-the-worse-happens is a tune that plays like a broken record on the shadowy grooves of fear. 

Here’s a mishmash of some of my clients what-ifs: “If I fail, I’ll end up penniless and ashamed, living under a bridge with my dog in a soggy cardboard box, scorned by family and friends saying, ‘I told you so.’” 

What what-if influences you not to live your dreams? What are the odds it will happen?

As Mark Twain said, “I’ve lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” 

You’re not born with fear. You learned it.

The movie The Tale of Despereaux is a lesson on how to train an optimistic mouse to be mousy. (Spoiler alert – they didn’t succeed.) 

The Mother instructed: “You can’t be a mouse if you don’t learn to be afraid… There are so many wonderful things in life to be afraid of – if you just learn how scary they are.” 

The timid older brother adds: “Sometimes they just need to see the older ones do it. No one starts out afraid.” 

Guidance given to the parents: “He won’t be afraid unless you allow him to be afraid.” 

What are you afraid of?

Controlling others through trying to shut them up doesn’t just  happen on the other side of the world. We do it to ourselves. 

We’re all bullied by limiting perspectives and illusions that we believe are true. 

For example, do you avoid any of these? 

  • Confrontation – so you steer clear of people and situations?
  • Contacting someone and being rejected – so you procrastinate?
  • Telling the truth – so you tell little lies as a cover up?
  • Taking action to live your dream – so you settle for existing rather than living? 

Avoidance is another way you terrorize yourself. It’s a way of shutting you up and shutting you down from really living by keeping you in your place. 

It’s time to speak up and be heard. LISTEN to your heart and soul. 

If you want others to listen to you, start by listening to yourself! 

Here are seven steps to help you LIVE your life: 

  1. Breathe deeply in a relaxed way.
  2. Write your ideal life.
  3. Write what your life is like right now.
  4. Ask your soul for clear communication.
  5. What steps can you take to align your ideal and what is?
  6. Take consistent action – even if it’s one small step at a time.
  7. Choose to make changes gently, with grace and ease.

 The answers may differ from what you now think.

At first they may not make sense. You may glimpse a piece rather than the whole puzzle. You may see an image rather than words.

Don’t judge them. You’re opening communication and learning your language. If you’re not sure what the answers mean, ask again.

Take a moment now.

Ask your soul to speak up: LOUDLY so you can hear; CLEARLY so you understand without a shadow of a doubt.

The time to be afraid of the bogeyman is gone.

A rose proudly shares its beauty, even though its life is short. A tarantula boldly lives its life for what it is – a tarantula.

It’s time to live your life to the fullest. Empower yourself by asking your soul to speak up – and listen.

ENJOY YOURSELF: YOU’LL MAKE MORE MONEY, GET MORE DONE

August 2, 2010

Do you take time to enjoy yourself? Or do you have so much to do that you:

  • Don’t have room in your busy schedule
  • Would be irresponsible to take time out to have fun
  • Would feel guilty and not really be able to enjoy yourself
  • Forgot what having fun looks/feels like
  • Don’t have energy left after taking care of others’ needs
  • Are busy trying to survive. Enjoy? You gotta be kidding!

Enjoying a field of wildflowers

A client had a business that would take a host of people to replace her. An accident last year slowed her down for a while, yet she still felt compelled to drive herself from one activity to the next.

Consistent cash flow eluded her. She’d let go of her fear of running out of money and then clutch worry and anxiety like a familiar, battered security blanket that tripped her as she walked.

She felt relief when she decided to transfer her business to an associate. Sales soared, and she “felt so good to let everything go.”

Then circumstances changed, and she decided to keep her business. Although money kept coming, fear crept back. “I don’t want this abundance to stop.”

Not long after she caught a cold, and it was painful to speak. What was going on? We put the pieces together.

Auto immune deficiencies and colds are signals your body sends that you don’t feel supported by yourself.

“Are you supporting yourself to be true to you or to a lifestyle you’ve created but don’t really enjoy? When you don’t feel supported, your physical body reflects it.

“That’s why it’s important to build healthy self-esteem as it affects everything. It raises your energy beyond illness. It helps you make choices to flow with life instead of floating in an illusion of confusion.”

Bells went off. She’d been getting nudges to take care of herself. She realized the cold was her spirit’s way of reminding her to slow down and not go back to old habits.

I asked, “You’re so busy. How can you have more time for you?”

She replied:

  • “It’s my time and that’s going to happen – nothing’s going to get in the way. I’ll just make it happen.
  • “I’ve cut back on my responsibilities, and I’m not taking on more”

Her being resolved came from her clarity.

What was she going to do with her extra time? Unless a space is filled when a vacuum is created, life will fill it. Often it’s with a default pattern, such as overwork, that was diligently released for more creative choices.

Her inner voice had been nudging her for weeks:

  • Use a massage gift certificate she had for a couple of years.
  • Hire a personal trainer. She didn’t like what she saw in the mirror.
  • Eat healthier foods.
  • Take 15 minutes every day to just sit on the porch for quiet time.
  • Have a journal nearby to write down ideas.

Her excitement quickly grew.

She realized that when she takes care of herself, she feels good. When she feels good, she generates more income. When she enjoys herself, she gets more done. But it takes trust.

Trust…to let go of doing whatever it takes to maintain status quo.

Courage… to follow your heart into an unknown change.

Faith… to believe you’re led wisely, beyond what you conceived with your best thinking.

Mama trusted her newborn to wait for her on my porch

No time to enjoy life?

If you feel you don’t have enough time, you’re reflecting lack – a lack of time. This echoes other forms of lack and not enough – such as money, love, fulfillment and health.

When you most need to take time for you is when you don’t think you have the time to take the time. (Yeah, read that one again.)

If you’ve been getting nudges to make a change, start now with small steps. If you don’t like how you started, start again and again, if needed.

The key is to do it without judgment. Don’t beat yourself up if you haven’t taken time to have fun and enjoy yourself. That’s totally counter productive.

Learning is a process – a layer at a time.

Ducks enjoying a walk in the park.

Life isn’t meant to be an endurance test. It’s a gift for you to appreciate and enjoy.

Everyone is going through a moment of truth now more than ever. It’s not just you.

  • Biggest fears are front and center.
  • What’s been denied or put off to look at can no longer be avoided.
  • Challenges are revealed to be dealt with.
  • The charade is fading, and it’s time to be real.

The process is usually uncomfortable so it gets your attention. Action becomes less painful than toleration.

Why is this happening to you? Because from your very essence, your soul is guiding you to live in greater joy, in closer alignment with who you really are. And, from this authentic place, express your gifts to the world.

It’s time for an awakening – to remember life is not meant to be laborious and a struggle but to be lived more true to you than ever before.

The question is how conscious do you choose to be in the process? How hard do you make it? You can choose to learn your lessons in a gentle way by decreeing it so.

At the end of your life you can look back with no regrets and say, “I learned a lot. I loved. And I enjoyed the ride.”

Enjoying life is your litmus test to know if you’re living in alignment with your soul.

Your head tells you what you think you should do, which isn’t always supportive to you or others. Your soul guides to be in a rhythm with life. Which is which? Ask yourself if you’re really enjoying all aspects of your life?

Make the connection. Let’s summarize:

  • When you feel good about you and enjoy life, you attract good things.
  • Because you feel life has more meaning than day-to-day concerns, you’re happier.
  • Because you’re happier, your activities flow more smoothly.
  • When it does, you make more money and are more effective at whatever you do.
  • This generates more productivity, and you get more done.
  • You live inspired, creative and express your precious gifts with the world.

Even in hardship, you can appreciate and enjoy being alive. It’s a perspective.

If you see life as hard, one challenge after another, waiting for the other shoe to fall, what else can go wrong – you’re not in the flow.

You can choose to see it as opportunities to learn and grow, appreciate acts of kindness and focus on gratitude and love.

Enjoying life is not frivolous, an aside to what’s really important or an optional cherry on the cake. It’s the cake.

What can you do to enjoy yourself more? Take time to do it because it’s YOUR life, and your life is not a means to an end. There are no brownie points to endure it. Instead, make conscious choices to enjoy your gift of being alive.

You deserve to enjoy yourself, and you are so very much worth it.