Posts Tagged ‘Wrong things at the wrong time’

Do People Bug You? Maybe I’m One of Them.

May 21, 2018

girl in mirror

We’re interested in our self-image at a very young age.
The possibilities of how we’d like the world to see us are endless.

 

I’ve had an uncanny knack of what I used to perceive as saying the wrong thing at the wrong time.

My tendency is to hear unhelpful thought patterns, what people are thinking and feeling (instead of what they’re actually saying) or maybe trying to hide from others as well as themselves. This can really bug people because we all have a self-image, belief or emotional need we try to communicate, but I’m responding to what others unconsciously project or the issues they’ve suppressed.

Then I may say things, usually unintentionally, that trigger and expose that part of them that they’re trying to hide or ignore.

We all have a self-image that we’ve created, and this is what we want the world to see. When someone empathically sees through the projection and instead sees what people are really thinking and feeling… well, most don’t see themselves as having the problem. They believe the fault lies with others.

Our thoughts and feelings are found in a field of energy that emanates from us. They create a filter through which we see the world.

Even when we we’re hiding something or trying to act positive when we’re really not, others can sense it. This is especially true if the others are empathic, which means they can feel people’s energies, hear and see beyond others’ spoken words.


You may have felt this, too, when people give you an excuse for not wanting to do something that you know isn’t the truth. They expect you to buy their inauthentic story, but your gut knows better. 


Sometimes I say things that annoy others, which can lead to their breakthrough.

Years ago when my mom was alive, she used a walker after a hospital stay. One day, she got so mad at me for something I said that she threw the walker aside just to show me how angry she was.

And that was the end of her using the walker.

Inadvertently, I said something that triggered her to release the need for her walker, which then freed her to walk on her own. 

My uncanny ability to say things that might annoy people has happened so frequently in my life that I asked one of my teachers about it. I have a knack for highlighting truths that people don’t want to look at even though it could help them.

He replied, “I know this may sound strange, but God wants you to say these things.”

OK, but still it’s rather awkward because people usually don’t want to connect the dots to reveal what they’ve been hiding even to themselves, and I don’t get informed in advance of how I’m being used to awaken people.

Granted, this doesn’t exclude me from saying or doing dumb things because I’m fully capable of saying and doing dumb things all on my own. But now I don’t beat myself over it like I used to because often those seemingly dumb things may serve a bigger purpose of bringing up people’s issues that they can release, if they choose. If they’re ready.

My clients have experienced this during coaching sessions when I say something that really bothers them.

At first they might believe it’s my fault for saying things or not saying things in a way that pleases them. I’ll say or do something that triggers their issue. (Oh what a gift… is it too late to apply for one that’s more glamorous?)

For the ego, blame must be placed on something or someone outside oneself.

However, we’re never mad for the reasons we think we’re mad, and the irritation opens an opportunity for a breakthrough.

During an upset, a crossroads emerge. Choice point: react and finger point or pause and reflect? When have I had this emotional reaction I’m feeling before? Maybe starting in childhood? Is this a pattern? Do I often react in the same way?

If one is willing, the aha moment arises. Perhaps because they see it, they can start to let go of this pattern.

At the moment the ego starts to act out, there’s a choice: be a victim, blame others, defend one’s viewpoint, get irritated or see and release patterns that have been holding them back.

What can be revealed is that very mysterious something that may have been holding them back throughout their entire lives!

For issues to be released they usually surface first, and those moments before one has clarity and breaks free can be f@*%#!!! irritating.

However, emotional and mental releasing of stuffed issues has assisted my clients to soar to greater heights personally and professionally.

I don’t heal, but I help clients remove blocks that in the past prevented them from healing themselves.

For example:

If you’re upset because you feel you’re not being heard or understood or you feel you’re being pushed into doing things you don’t want to do, maybe you felt suppressed as a child. If you’re really over the issue, you wouldn’t be bothered by others’ behaviors and would articulate your feelings without anger, blame or frustration. Maybe this is your break-free opportunity.

Perhaps you feel uncomfortable around arrogant people who have greater wealth or status than you. At the root of why you feel this way, you discover your self-worth feels jeopardized. You may choose not to be around those braggadocious pygmies. But instead of being aggravated while you’re with them, you can observe and be silently entertained at their self-centered actions.


“We would like to help you to understand that neither the good feeling you find when you observe wanted behavior, nor the bad feeling you find when you observe unwanted behavior, is actually the reason that you feel good or bad. The way you feel is only ever about your alignment, or misalignment, with the Source within you. It is only your relationship with the Source within you (with your own Inner Being) that is the reason for the emotions that you feel.”

“When you think about other people and what they think of you, do you understand that what they think of you has very little to do with what you are? It has mostly to do with the habits of thought that they have developed. It has more to do with them as thinkers than it does with you as the subject of their thought.”

Abraham-Hicks


If you’re bugged by somebody or something, what pattern are you on the verge of releasing?

 
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who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
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