| Let’s cut to the chase.
Regardless if you wrote New Year’s resolutions or goals for this year, you know one thing. Parts of your life work and others not so much.
You probably grumble about what you don’t like, either a little or you’re running a full-length movie.
Why do you feel this way? Because you don’t feel good that some things are the way they are.
I know this is simple. However, it provides a BIG clue to what you want more than anything.
First, let’s look at some basics you might enjoy improving:
- Better health – You’re so done with those niggly or essential health issues and emotional stresses that you’ve been tolerating.
- Higher quality relationships – Enough with people who are your fill-in-the-blank pet peeve. Bring on the love.
- Increased financial success – You’re tired of the worry or limitations from not having the cha-ching to enjoy whatever you choose in life. Or you’re afraid of losing what you have.
- Fulfilling career/ business/ doing what you love – It’s high time for your creativity to shine more brightly and for you to revel in what you do – or discover what that is.
- Positive growth in all ways – Physical, emotional, mental, spiritual: you’re ready to bring out more of the best of you.
What will having these do for you?
You’ll feel good. You’ll feel happy. You’ll feel that life is worth living.
Everything you desire is because, underneath, you believe it will bring you what you want more than anything.
Happiness.
This is good feeling mojo, and it impacts your attitude and creates momentum to enjoy life.
By identifying what creates happiness for you, and using this as your personal GPS, you’ll discover fulfillment and success.
Yes, we’re still focusing on simple, but look what often happens.
People put up with others and situations that could be changed by redirecting their attention with a dose of clarity, confidence and courage.
Mulling over unhappy stories of the way things are, aka excuses and erroneous beliefs, keeps us unhappy … until circumstances snap us out of our fixed thinking, the burden of pain becomes too great or we make a conscious choice to do what it takes to let go and change.
A woman wasn’t happy with her job, but for fifteen years she believed this is what social work is like everywhere.
Circumstances changed, and she found an identical job in another office that she loved. Her beliefs about work weren’t true, and the limiting story she told herself kept her stuck.
For years, an unhappy husband held himself back from enjoying life because of his sick wife. He patiently waited for her to die. She outlived him by ten years.
Many have a high tolerance for pain and put up with things waaay too long.
What makes you feel unhappy? Your spirit is giving you a clue. Do something differently.
You may have to walk through your fear or sacred cow beliefs to do it.
It’s of little importance if you don’t know the big picture of where you’re going or you don’t know how to do whatever. Age, your past history, your health, your degree of stuckness or frustration or confusion do NOT matter!
Start with baby steps toward what makes you feel good, and they’ll lead you to what you need.
In my late twenties, while in a toxic situation that shattered my health and felt like a five-year prison sentence, I had a dream with a message. I didn’t understand it at the time, but I wrote it on scrap paper and put it on my dresser.
Find your heart and rescue it.
In my early forties, I cried miserably as I walked alone in my neighborhood at night because none of the above mentioned “basics” were working for me. (By the way, that was my turning point to start coaching.)
You can turn anything around to your benefit, and use this present moment as your springboard to create more joy.
Be patient with yourself.
One day, your life will flash before your eyes. Create a movie you’ll enjoy seeing because you’re happy.
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