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Exhausted? In Pain? Migraines?

December 12, 2022

We may feel tired or extremely fatigued from hard work or putting in long hours, but exhaustion comes from emotions. Exhaustion stems from suppressing worries, anger, fear, and concerns, often telling ourselves we’ll deal with them later. But we don’t. By stuffing and not looking at them, we emotionally sabotage ourselves.

Dragging ourselves home from work may result from not dealing with the stress of situations or associating with certain people. Exhaustion at home may occur by not wanting to admit what our feelings are trying to tell us and that something needs to change.

We can exhaust ourselves from not wanting to look at the reasons we feel pain or fear.


I was present at the moment a woman made a connection about her unfulfilling relationship with her father.  As a little girl, she regularly hit her head against the wall rather than face that emotional pain.

As an adult in her twenties, she no longer hit her head. Instead she had migraines. Although painful, migraines were easier for her to deal with than looking at the pain she felt from being emotionally abandoned by her father.

Note: Please continue to the end to read another perspective on migraines and exhaustion in the BONUS below.


People sometimes drive themselves through grueling physical activity, long work hours or constant busyness rather than looking at the pain and frustration they feel about negative experiences or things their parents did or didn’t do, revealing their personal bogeyman or why they tolerate intolerable situations and people now. 

If you’re exhausted or in pain and torment yourself about how you feel because of it, you have a good excuse reason not to think, change your perspective and discover that there are better options available to you.

Here are examples of underlying fears that may drive you.

  • If I leave my job/ spouse, I won’t have enough money.
  • If I leave my church/ social circle, I’ll be all alone.
  • If I stop being so busy, I’ll have to slow down and look at what kind of a life I have – the people, circumstances, drama, unfulfilling work, my fears, my lack, my body, my very happiness and so on.

Another emotional payoff might include the sympathy and attention others give you. Pain, illness or exhaustion can become a badge of courage… “You’re exhausted from what you’re going through, you poor thing.”

Pain’s survival depends on part of us remaining unconscious. This is how it continues to hold power over us. This is what causes us to relive variations of emotionally charged situations repeatedly.

Because our spirit desires a release of unsupportive energy, we continue to attract similar situations (even if they suck). They serve as opportunities for us to wake up and be free.

If we avoid releasing unsupportive energy, we look to gain power elsewhere. We settle for jobs, relationships and unsatisfying lives. This is exhausting.

Had enough? Where are you losing your power? Who or what did you give your power to?

A first step to freedom is self-awareness, and sometimes it helps to ask for help to see our blind spots as well as learn new ways to release energy that doesn’t serve us.

Edited excerpt from August 30, 2021, Soulgoals’ post.


BONUS! 

MIGRAINES, EXHAUSTION and MORE

Alert: This may go against everything you believe to be helpful and good.

When we emotionally feel sorry for or bad about others going through challenges or try to save them from their suffering, we energetically tie into their pain. We plug our energy circuitry into their emotions and how they feel, aligning ourselves with their vibrational wavelength.

Any suffering we alleviate by doing this doesn’t help them to learn their lessons and actually holds them back.

Empaths (people who feel others’ feelings as if they are their own) can unconsciously take on others’ pain, illness, lack, confusion, stress, depression and fatigue. That kind of sensitivity can be exhausting.

Ever feel good and then drained after talking with certain people?

Here’s another consideration. Do you think someone is a headache or a pain in your neck or another part of your lower anatomy? Well, that literally can be what happens to you.

Are you struggling, stuck, have issues? Know someone around you that often feels the same? They may, for example, struggle in one way, you in another. It’s still struggling. Maybe you unintentionally took on what they’re going through.

A woman volunteered as a leader to help the homeless. While we talked she had a realization. Since riding in a car with others from her church and their negative chatter for a couple of hours to visit this community, she hadn’t closed one deal in six months! She decided to drive her own car and started closing deals.

Another example, people who don’t drink might be dealing with an alcoholic family member. However, both may be dealing with fear but coping in different ways. One drinks and the other lives in fears like expecting the worse to happen.

Look for similar feelings not identical circumstances. 

Warning! If you try to share ideas before others are ready to understand, they can turn on you and make you the bad guy. People often filter information based on their past experiences and resist believing that another perspective is valid.

So how can you help? Be compassionate. Acknowledge them and where they’re at non-judgmentally. Communicate how you believe in them and their ability to get through their circumstances. But no pity, feeling sorry for them or meeting them at their emotional level of drama.

Again, you’re not uplifting others while feeling troubled about them. And you may be opening yourself to take on what they’re going through.

It works in reverse, too. Being around positive people aligns you vibrationally to live your personal and professional dreams.



Would you like to learn how to release unwanted energy?

Contact me to learn how at
virginia@soulgoals.com

I help women to tune into their true Selves, see life clearly and live their personal and professional dreams.

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