Posts Tagged ‘Self-judgment’

Are You Your Worst Critic? Stop Shoulding on Yourself.

January 31, 2022

Are you listening to your true Essence or the lies of your ego?


 
A trick of the ego
is to have you believe there’s something wrong with you (and “them,” too); you’re stupid; nothing is ever good enough, especially you; others are doing better than you (comparing as if that’s proof that you’re not as good); you’re critical of yourself and others; you shoulda known better; worried what if (the worst) happens; you shoulda, woulda, coulda done things differently; you disapprove of, well, when you think about it, kinda everything, including you, your life, others, and on and on. So…

 
STOP SHOULDING ON YOURSELF!


What can you do about things right now?

You DO have the ability to change your perspective.

If you CHOOSE to. So, choose to shift.

Your true Essence supports you NOW, 100%, and it’s always guiding you.

Listen, even amidst the noisy ego chatter. The best you can is alright.

Consider another way of looking at things.

Instead, focus on asking yourself, “What did I learn?”

Fast forward to the present moment as you leave the past behind.

Benefit from your lessons and move on to your next adventure.

Life’s a journey. You don’t have to get hung up on any one step of it.

One option is to live your life with as much grace as you can, without judgment.

BE kind, especially to yourself.




Are you DONE with that nagging voice in your head?
Contact me for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break-Free Session.


virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. Or maybe would like a more fulfilling life.  I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals. 
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Stop Shoulding on Yourself

October 21, 2019

Have you ever had a deadline or goal but felt stuck and simply couldn’t take action? Maybe you were “shoulding” on yourself and immobilized from your mental tyranny.

In August 2001, every day for two weeks, I sat in front of my computer to write a seminar…and not one word came. Nothing.

I put so much pressure on myself that I stifled any creativity to write.

Eventually, I listened to what I was telling myself: I should’ve already done this, and I should’ve done it years ago.

I made peace with the situation by shifting my perspective from feeling “resistance is futile” to: I am where I am, and from here I will start.

Over the next four months I wrote a 60-page workbook… and then, because it became so big, I didn’t know what to do with it. After all of that work, it sat on a pile.

Fast forward seven years. I remembered the workbook when I discovered I didn’t like a manual for a four-day retreat I was to facilitate. Oh, did I mention it was less than a week away?

The workbook was a key for breakthroughs and fun throughout the event and saved me from being in another writing rut.

Retreat Workbook

TIP: Stop shoulding on yourself. Self-judgment holds you back. Like it or not, this is where you are, so make peace within by allowing you to be in the present moment.

When you accept yourself and your circumstance, you let go of the shoulds, pressure and negative self-talk.  Then any small step will get you started. When this happens, you get out of your rut and pave the way for momentum.

This is a reprint from July 2010

If you’d like support
to stop judging,
contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

If it’s been a while since you’ve had one,
you’re welcome to contact me again.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

 

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