TIP: The Happier Choice

A man tried to passive-aggressively manipulate a woman, by attempting to get her to doubt herself, so she would do what he wanted. An insecure woman controls her friend’s behavior by using her illness and fearful threats of taking away something he needs. He goes along with it because the intimidation clouds his ability to believe in himself and that he can find a solution elsewhere. A therapist got angry with a peer who didn’t buy into her fear-based bullying which she communicated by demeaning words, raised voice, blaming others and mocking tone. When change occurs, some people feel they’re losing control. It can feel as if their very life is threatened, and they’ll do whatever it takes to survive. Chances are the perpetrators won’t see or believe what they’re doing. Stand at arm’s length if you try to tell them lest they throw a punch. Ever hear the adage about not trying to teach a pig how to fly? A pig can’t fly, and you’ll just irritate the pig. Yes, forgive them for they know not what they do… and take care of yourself! You have a responsibility to be steward of YOUR life. You have a choice to be a follower of someone else’s fears and expectations, and give away your power, or think for yourself. You won’t be truly happy unless you follow the rhythm of your own drum. In avoiding dealing with situations like these (and there are countless variations), you might believe that when the people disappear into the sunset, it will be happy trails forever more. Not true. Unless you address your “stuff,” you carry this vibration, these feelings, in your energy field. You’ll attract more of the same type of people and experiences in the future, even if your current situation goes away. Why? Life offers you opportunities to grow, release what’s not serving you and be free. What does this have to do with you and your goals? If you succumb to fear, you may find yourself doubting your ability to be richly compensated doing what you love. You deserve much more.

Your TIP is to make the happier choice.

• Trust yourself. Listen to the voice within and what your gut is telling you. Don’t elevate others’ opinions over your own.
• Believe in your Self. YOU have a hotline to the Divine. Don’t diss that connection by letting others convince you that they know what’s good for you more than you do.
• Don’t give away your power to fear and self-doubt (others or your own).

How can you do this?

• Make choices on your behalf instead of trying to please people or kowtowing to fear. Your choices matter. You matter.
• Listen to your inner guidance. Even if you’ve been ignoring it for a while doesn’t mean your spirit isn’t available 24/7 to give you nudges as well as to light up the best direction for you to take.
• Pay attention to how you feel not to what you think you should do based on others’ opinions. Let good-feeling mojo be your guide.
• Be in the now. The ego will have you long for or regret the past or be afraid of future what-ifs and worse-case scenarios. In the present, you can change your thinking and handle anything. Your power is in this moment.
• Anticipate the best! Why not? It’s the attitude that brings positive results.

You can achieve your dreams in ways that surpass your wildest imagination. However, you must be a vibrational match to them.

Fear, manipulation, doubt and worry create more of the same. None of these are real.

Remember your Source, the real You, and make the happier choice: loving, supportive, creative, growing, free and in the Now.

Remember this, and you’re unstoppable!

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