Posts Tagged ‘put things in perspective’

Annoyed? Frustrated? Worried?

April 19, 2016
reflection of trees in water

Thoughts can be like a dog with a bone where you just can’t let go, incapable to stop chewing on them for hours, days, weeks. Or a lifetime. The same story replayed over and over in your head.

We’re all programmed with certain emotions. I call them emotional defaults.

For example, annoyance, frustration or worry could rule. Even if a problem is solved, something else will be the cause for more frustration, annoyance or worry.

If you notice, it’s a habit. It’s the same emotion you feel over and over again. If one of your defaults is frustration, for example, there will often be something around to frustrate you.

Newton’s first law of motion is inertia. A body in motion tends to stay in motion unless acted on by an external force. So it is with your thinking, too.

Unless something stops this trajectory, people could be annoyed, frustrated or worried, complaining non-stop in their heads or to others, often about people, circumstances or beating themselves up.

Once on a long, solo road trip, I grumbled about the same thoughts and “justifiable” anger… repeatedly… for hours. Finally, on an open stretch of road in West Texas, I became bored and tired of my internal conversation.

There was no one around to talk/whine to which often acts like a pressure release valve, so I took responsibility for my own thoughts and emotions.

Because I was willing to let go, an idea came to play a game called “Change Your Perspective.”  Then, other perspectives emerged, new ways to look at the situation.

I stopped being upset and acting like a victim by blaming.

I was able to let it go and move on.

Since then, I’ve learned that this negative thinking cycle is a function of the ego. If we let it have its way, it will consume us with misery.

When you’re obsessed with negative thoughts, you’ve turned your life over to your ego.

Everyone has a choice of how to think and feel regardless of their circumstances. So do you.

After a disaster, people with different viewpoints talk about their experience. Some focus on what they’ve lost, others are grateful for what they still have.

Your TIP is that you don’t have to be a prisoner of your own mind.

Just as trees next to a lake are reflected in the water, your attitudes are reflected in your life.

If you don’t like what you see, you CAN change it. Write about what you’re thinking and feeling.

Write how you can change your perspective. To let it go, burn or shred it.

Writing by hand and not the computer brings more clarity, perspective and releases negative energy. Set an intention that you’re open to receive answers and break free.

You may have resistance at first because your ego wants your thoughts to hold you in old, familiar patterns.

Stuck? Ask for divine assistance.

This works in business, too.

An employee came to her manager, who’s a masterminder, about a complaint.  She told him to write about it and then shred it in the office shredder. He said that no one ever told him that before.

She used to get upset about office politics. She shifted her perspective so now it no longer affects her.

When you clear mental and emotional space, you have room for your goals to manifest and for greater peace and happiness to flourish.

Why did I choose this topic today? Because when I realized I was rehashing the same topic in my thoughts for a couple of days, I knew it was time to write.

I resisted. I didn’t want to journal. Didn’t think it would do any good. And in a few minutes after writing – POOF, I let it go.

By the way, if you have recurring patterns and could use more help, ask me about an LoL session – Liberation of Lunacy – because we’re all a little crazy when our ego is in charge.

TIP: The 4 P’s Keys to Break Free

March 8, 2016

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Are you ready, perhaps beyond ready, to break free from the sameness of your business or life (same money, people, problems, etc.), debt or feeling the drag of whatever’s not working for you?

Wherever you are, there IS a way to free yourself so you can share your gifts with the world in a bigger way and be richly compensated.

Here are four keys that can help:

PLANNING and PERSPECTIVE: Bring on an elixir that brings results – a CEO meeting with the Divine.

Seriously, this really works.

Take time to write your needs and choices (not just talk and beg) and ask God, the universe or however you relate to the Powers That BE for help. By pausing to gain perspective and accessing this source of Love and wisdom, you open yourself to direction and miracles.

Use your meeting to write down plans, insights and ideas. You may not know what to do, but you’re not asking you. Open to receive guidance.

Numerous times when I thought there were no solutions, new paths appeared where they previously hadn’t existed. If you keep the faith, you can gain both perspective and results.

For more details, check out my very first blog post https://soulgoals.wordpress.com/2009/10/

PROMOTION: To move forward requires connecting with others. Create or foster relationships. Share your ideas. Believe enough in you and what you do to promote your vision to others. Open to new ways to share or market you and your gifts.

If you don’t know how, go back to the CEO meeting with the Divine. If an idea doesn’t pop in immediately, it’s on its way.

Surround yourself with people who have positive energy and care about you. A mastermind team can offer support and focus to stay on track with your goals. Be sure you’re receiving not just giving.

By the way, don’t be so self-centered that you only care about you. Healthy relationships are about balance.

Decades ago, I saw a skit that I still remember. While singing a beautiful opera aria, a woman was surrounded on stage with numerous people. However, she was so preoccupied with her own voice without paying attention to others that, one by one, they left the stage.

At the end of the song, she was alone.

If you’re consumed with your greatness, opinions or problems and consistently share these without a sincere interest in others, you may find your support dwindling.

PERFORMANCE: Take action. Work your business. Improve your skills. Meet with clients and prospects. Spend time on money-generating activities, if that’s your goal. Give your best service to the world in whatever capacity you can in the moment. Allow the universe to meet you half way by being visible and participating in life.  

TIP: The 4 Keys to Break Free

You ARE important, so take time for you.

  • Pull out a pad of paper and have a meeting with your CEO.
  • Reach out and connect. Build relationships. Share your vision with those who might be supportive or can advance you in doing what you love.
  • Five days a week, take action to move you in the direction of your vision. What starts out as a small step can gain momentum – and you’ll be unstoppable.

BONUS: Set an intention that your plans are working. Your ideas might not manifest exactly as you thought, but they may emerge better than imagined. Find a saying that inspires you and repeat it, such as:

Life always work out in my favor. Life always work out in my favor. Life always work out in my favor. 

You can discover it does, if you’re open to believe.

In case your CEO meeting or gut tells you to get more support, clarity or share your gifts in a bigger way, contact me for a free, one-hour Do What You Love Break Free Session at vg@ResolvedForResults.com.

I work with people who long to share their gifts with the world in a bigger way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them find their passion and be richly compensated doing what they love.

TIP: 4 Ways to Get Unstuck

January 25, 2016

cat yarn

Feeling stuck in your business or life? There are ways to free yourself – like untangling or cutting loose a cat who’s balled up in yarn. By the way, just because it’s stuck, there’s nothing wrong with the cat anymore than there’s anything wrong with you!

To help you unravel your stuckness, here’s an excerpt from the manual of my program Resolved for Results: A Step-by-Step Guide to Live Your Dreams… even if you failed before, lost hope, are afraid, stressed or confused.

A client who emailed a request to her mastermind team wrote, “I have calls out to people, but things seem stuck.” Her goal was well written and specific, including her filling appointments for three cities and a meet and greet.

But I felt the fear under her request and called her. She told me she felt pressure because an out-of-state manager was flying in, and she didn’t have appointments scheduled.

We discussed anticipating the best and letting go of expectation. Part of this letting go was a preoccupation with numbers – the number of bookings. Instead, I recommended she focus on the quality of appointments vs. the quantity.

The next night she sent us a long email. “I woke up fresh and energetic, turned things over to my CEO (God)… I decided that I was not going to “push” to “make” anything happen.” [Her bold print]

Results? Before the end of that day, key people either returned her calls to book or called prospects on her behalf to fill the appointments for her! A big client contacted her to book four trainings. She hosted a successful event that afternoon plus found a perfect venue for a board member retreat following an unsuccessful month-long search.

If you hold onto how you expect life should be, what a person should do, or what’s supposed to fulfill you, you not only limit yourself but block your success and create unnecessary pain and suffering.

It pulls you away from the present moment and foists you into an imagined future of potential disappointment, discouragement, frustration, sadness, anger, or helplessness.

The beauty of the present moment is that it opens you to what’s in alignment with your soul. If one way doesn’t work, there’s a reason. Something better is available… if you allow it into your world.

Instead of longing for what mighta, woulda, coulda or shoulda been, notice the gift of accepting what is.

Anticipating the best instead of expecting specific outcomes makes your words more powerful and opens you to results designed for the highest and best interest for all. It’s an important lesson, and I invite you to consider it in case it’s making the difference between creating difficulties or catapulting you to greater success and abundance.

TIP:  4 Ways to Get Unstuck

Identify where you feel stuck. Feeling stuck is an emotional response that can leave you feeling there’s no way out. Instead, you can find a way to untangle yourself from whatever has gotten you balled up and take productive action. Here are four alternatives that can help:

  1. You’re frustrated because you’re trying to control the outcome by expecting it (or people) to be the way you think it should. Alternative: Relax and anticipate this or something better will occur. Stop trying to micromanage the world. This opens you to tune into new ideas and directions.
  2. You’re beating yourself up with regrets or other limiting thoughts and emotions because of your situation. Alternative: Release judging you, others and your circumstances. Replace it with an empowering perspective that you’re learning, and all is in divine order and timing.
  3. You’re focusing on how things aren’t working. Alternative: focus on what you choose and the good feeling mojo it creates. Good feeling mojo is what opens you to manifest more quickly and with grace and ease.
  4. You’re pushing to make things happen. Alternative: Stop resisting (and exhausting yourself about) what is and allow things to be the way they are. You getting fussy about it won’t change it or help. Let go. Let God. Set new goals for what you choose. Take action from this perspective.

When you shift your energy, you allow life to create miracles and successes beyond your wildest expectations.

You Already Know What to Do

December 14, 2015

inspiration you seekA woman was given a week’s notice that her job, which included a place to live and a car, was terminated. After releasing her fear and asking for help within, she quickly learned about another position. Grateful, she was happy that her new employment seemed better than her old one.

Needing results fast and desperately, though, doesn’t always allow for the ideal results. Soon after, she realized the job was a trap. She received far less pay, had more stress, her boss rudely intruded on what little free time she had, and all she could manage was work and sleep.

Anger grew from a spark to a blaze. Once again, she was in a dead end situation. Not enough resources to make a move. People using her and not appreciating her talents. Upset with herself. No life other than work. Unhappy. Stuck. Not making what she’s worth. At the mercy of others. Not living her dream. inn

She thought she could deal with it, but the stress, including her emotional reaction to it, exhausted her body, mind and spirit. She had little choice but to shift her focus to regaining her strength.

Recognizing that resisting her circumstances was harming her, she paused, got quiet and listened.

A new perspective inspired her.

Stop investing her emotions on being upset. Take time to recoup and feel better. Stop hoping her boss would see the light. Wake up to see that years were passing her by while waiting for conditions to be just right to live her dreams. There is no more perfect time than now. Make a plan to move forward. Take action.

She felt at peace and is now patiently following what she learned from her inner guidance.

Be at peace. Go within. Listen. Act.

You don’t need to be a psychic to hear the inner whispers of wisdom and direction. Your messages will be skewed, though, when charged by emotions. Go into the silence to hear. It’s your natural state. Listen to its insight.

“Inner guidance is heard like soft music in the night by those who have learned to listen.” Vernon Howard

TIP: You Know What to Do

Confused about your next step? Unclear how to move your business or career forward?  Wondering why some people act certain ways?

Create a space where you feel connected and peaceful. Take a walk. Breathe deeply. Meditate. Journal. Enjoy a cup of tea or coffee while alone and muse.

Think of yourself as a receiver, like a satellite dish. The channel with answers to your questions is available.

Turn the dish in the direction where you’re open to receive them.

How? Go into the stillness. Ask, and it will be given.

Although a part of you may be clueless, another part of you knows what to do. Be patient and allow the answers to come.

If you’d enjoy support, validation or additional insights, you are welcome to receive a one-hour complimentary Do What You Love Break Free Session. Leave me a comment for more information.

Your Ship Didn’t Sail – That Wasn’t Your Ship!

November 10, 2015
 

Ever feel that your ship has sailed?

Aka, you missed your opportunity. You blew it. Circumstances are stacked against you, and now what? Humpty Dumpty can’t be put together again. Do not pass Go because your life is one big frustration that’s taking a nosedive from a high diving board into a shallow pool.

Forget this mental noise. Dump all these beliefs because they’re so not true.

You can bounce back from wherever you are, only not in the way you probably thought. (It’s a blessing although it may not seem it.) There are other financial opportunities. That wasn’t the only person or deal in the world. You’re not too old or too stupid. You can get out of a hole if you stop digging.

Despite appearances, there are more ships at YOUR port. You’ll see them if you stop looking at the ones that left.

The universe isn’t limited and neither are you! Life isn’t designed for you, your business, your choices, and the loonies to be perfect. Life is designed for you to grow and expand. This is how shiFt happens.

You have countless chances.

If your dream “ticket to paradise” was eaten by the dog, or you screwed things up so badly that there’s no turning back, different but better opportunities are waiting for you. And you’re all the wiser because of it.

We learn; we move on. Exit stage left the drama king or queen in us who plays the victim as we beat ourselves up or feel sorry for ourselves. Our good takes its bow on center stage as we open and are willing to receive something better.

So, if you missed my talk last week (or would like to hear an even better version), you can see me plus network at NWABC – Northwest Austin Business Connections – this Wednesday, November 11, 11:30 AM – 1 PM.

That’s where you’ll hear my presentation: From Burnt Out to Turned On – Be Richly Compensated Doing What You Love Faster and Easier than You Dreamed Possible!

Come to Mangia Pizza in Gracy Farms Shopping Center 12001 Burnet Rd., Ste D • Austin, TX 78758

http://www.nwabc.net/ has more details.

I’ve relaunched my life so much, often like a phoenix rising from the ashes, that I lost count of the times I rebooted emotionally, financially and physically. I’m sure you’ve had your share, too.

Lao Tzu said: “New Beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” Got it?  They aren’t failures. In the words of former Navy Seal Richard “Mack” Machowicz: Not dead. Can’t quit.

If not for one of the seemingly endless, painful times of my life, I would neither be coaching nor writing you now. My experiences gave me new direction. They groomed me to do what I do well and draw on my history of accomplishments more meaningfully.

What gifts did your challenges bring  you? Learn more about my story and how what I discovered can help you find your other ships by joining us this Wednesday.

TIP: Your Ship Didn’t  Sail – That Wasn’t Your Ship!

The stories you tell yourself about your business and life are what create your feelings of loss, failure, frustration, suffering… or success.

To see the bigger picture with a more positive viewpoint, look back to a time when things went you-know-where in a handbasket. What good came from it?

No, don’t think about last week’s mishaps or unresolved issues you haven’t been able to wrap your brain (or heart) around.

Look back far enough so you have the benefit of hindsight without the emotional charge.

If you’re stuck, instead of tuning into your defiant side, ask the wise part of you for perspective.

Learn. Be confident knowing that life is on your side. Good comes out of seeming bad just as fire brings necessary ecological change. Google “benefits of fire” if you doubt this.

How has your business or you emerged better for it? What ships did you board instead? If you can come on Wednesday, hearing about mine may put yours in perspective.

TIP of the Week: How A Client Is Making $43K This Month

November 3, 2015

Here’s a great (and profitable) update on a recent TIP: How To Make Your Life What YOU Want.

It started like this:

“During his short ride to the office, a client’s daily routine was looking for annoying drivers. After starting the day with this momentum, his attention shifted to work.”

“When asked to share recent business success, his reply was, ‘It’s hard to find wins…mostly going backwards.'” He was working on deals, but they were filled with complications and some looked like they’d fall apart.

“He recognized his perspective wasn’t helping and reframed it. He continued working on the deals but let go of the emotional stress and negative attitude.”

Successes TWO weeks later, a partial list sent to his mastermind team:

  • Partnering with another agent on a $1.7M listing. The other agent is the lead. I will get 30%, which equals a $550K listing for me.
  • I expect to close 6 transactions in November for $1.8 million. One closing set for December.
  • Listed a home for $199K on Friday…expect to sell this week, which would be added to the December closings.
  • Got two buyer referrals the past two days from past clients.
  • November take home will be around $43,000!

He turned his business around when he:

  1. Stopped complaining, feeling discouraged and fighting against what he didn’t like.
  2. Got quiet, went to a clear space within and discovered new solutions.
  3. Believed his deals would work and he’d be successful.
  4. Looked for what was working instead of dwelling on what wasn’t.
  5. Aligned his thinking and feelings with mastermind team support and concepts.

TIP: How A Client Is Making $43K This Month Choose two ideas from this list and apply them to making your goals and dreams come true.

For more ideas, review the TIP: How To Make Your Life What YOU Want.

ANTICIPATE  SUCCESS! 

A FRESH START AND LEAVING THE PAST BEHIND

December 4, 2013

Did you ever feel that you’d like to get a fresh start and leave the past behind?

You have more control over the past and future than you may think.

Not taking time to acknowledge what you’ve done and put it in perspective is like making meal after meal without cleaning the kitchen. It works for a while, and then you run out of clean dishes and space to prepare food… plus what an unhealthy mess.

When you see the overview, you may be surprised at how your life makes sense and is more positive than you may have recognized. Then you can set your course – goals and direction – for your future without dragging the past with you.

This is why I’m inviting you to my annual workshop Appreciate Yourself on Tuesday, December 10 OR Sunday, December 8, 1-5 PM in Wimberley, TX  – a blend of letting go of the old and blueprinting the new.

If you’re ready to make more money, expand your business success, enhance your relationships – business and personal, get focused on a clear direction or dump the stress, this workshop is for you.

Following are excerpts from my book Appreciate Yourself:

Most people feel they are five or more years behind what’s actually happening in their lives. Why? Because they haven’t let go of the past.

If you’re mentally and emotionally stuck in the past, you’ll repeat it...

At a cellular level, the body lives in the past and doesn’t respond as quickly as thoughts do. Your body expresses what you felt years ago. What you experience now does not make an immediate connection with it…

Because you attract what you focus on, the part of you that is stuck can recreate a future full of old fears and limitations. Or you can recreate more joy and fulfillment...

The more you value you and feel good about yourself, the more you’ll find people who share that opinion of you, too.

  • Want to feel fulfilled and know you make a difference?
  • Do you want to increase your worth to attract success?
  • Is it time for more money and your dreams to come true?
  • Are you ready for the recognition you deserve?
  • Do you want closure to wipe the slate clean and start fresh?
  • Want to feel fulfilled and know you make a difference?
  • Tired of seeing your life as drama, hardship or struggle?

If you answered yes to any of these, then Appreciate Yourself will help you.

Regardless of the year you’ve had, I’m confident you’d like to create an even better one in 2014.

Did you know that 1% of Americans and those in other countries earn more than $365,000 per year? And, the #1 habit of these change agents is that they set clear goals and take strategic action to produce results.

Aristotle said: Shall we not, like archers who have a mark to aim at, be more likely to hit upon what we should? If so, we must try, in outline at least, to determine what it is.

On Tuesday, December 10 OR Sunday, December 8, 1-5 PM , you’re invited to join us in Wimberley, TX for an afternoon to Appreciate Yourself and your 2013 as well as set your 2014 goals.

I’ve facilitated this workshop annually since 1995. Why? Because the effects it creates in our lives is that important – to consciously let go of the past and set goals for the future. Being in a like-minded group creates a mastermind energy. This vortex enhances and amplifies your intentions and is immeasurably more powerful than working alone.

Appreciation means to increase your value. Investing in you sends out a frequency for others to invest in you, too, and the gifts and services you offer to the world.

Think about it. Who are you more likely to want to do business with or befriend? Those who don’t value themselves or those who emanate a healthy self-worth? Others feel the same about you.

Your investment? Because the value of this is so important, I’m offering  this workshop for only $97. That’s $53 off the regular registration of a private workshop I’m offering the following week for $150.

By the way, other habits of the top 1% are that they receive help from mentors and experts as well as make quick, committed decisions. They are willing to do what others aren’t.

I encourage you to act now and reserve your place by emailing me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

The afternoon workshop includes a free copy of my book Appreciate Yourself!

Can’t make it? My book is available to download for $9.97. If interested, email me.

Would you like to experience this but can’t make the dates or you live out of town? Contact me for more options. Where there’s a will there’s a way.

Appreciate Yourself is a great time to share your experience with friends, family and business associates, too. Feel free to forward this email.

To reserve your space, email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

In this season of gratitude, I appreciate the opportunity to support you in creating a life that exceeds your wildest expectation now.

With gratitude,

Virginia

THE CAT (LITTER) BURGLAR!

November 2, 2013

??????????Let’s say you’re a cat.  Like a good kitty, you do your duty in a litter box and then leave to do other important cat business – like sleep. Later, as nature demands, you return to the box, and your signature kitty bon bons are gone! You might think someone stole my poop. From your human servants’ point of view, they’re doing their duty by removing yours.

Life. Are you living it or is it a living hell? It depends on your perspective.

In the past, I embraced a popular belief: you spot it; you got it. Aka: if you point your finger at someone, there are three fingers pointing back at you. While this is often true, it’s hard to believe an infinite God has limited life to only one reason for why all things happen.

I used to psyche myself out when I believed everything is a reflection of me. When street lights flickered as I walked by, I thought my inner light was on the fritz, and my self-confidence fluttered.  After discussing this with a mentor, he pointed out that the world doesn’t revolve around me.

Wiser, when this phenomena happened again, I noticed that street light poles have numbers and reported those that needed new bulbs.

This awakening may be a relief, especially for those in abusive relationships searching for how they’re a schmuck, too. The lesson may be that you’re not a sicko. The cad may be teaching you to find your inner cojones and not allow others to manipulate you into feeling inferior because of their controlling tactics.

It also works when people phone and assume you have a responsibility to listen to their incessant fears or problems.

When it becomes evident they want an audience and someone to rescue them from their own negativity instead of changing, it’s not a lack of compassion to cancel membership from the Dump-of-Collecting-Others’-Pain Club. I mean, would you open the door to your home to let someone unload their garbage? Why allow others to dump their emotional junk… except fear of their reaction that there’s something wrong with you?

Here’s a perspective:

If you think you’re usually the one who’s wrong, it’s probably them.

If you think others are usually the ones who are wrong, it’s probably you.

How’s your perspective working for you? Don’t let your beliefs or others’ opinions deter you from trusting your inner voice and truth. Then again, if you think the world centers around you, you won’t really care.

MY FREE GIFT FOR YOU

December 8, 2012
My gift to you - BELIEVE

My gift to you – BELIEVE

I’m offering you and your friends a complementary 60+ minute Soulgoals Session, and here’s why.

There’s a shift of consciousness taking place now, and the old ways aren’t working as they did in the past. This is true in business, finances,  relationships, how you treat your body, attitudes… everything. Have you noticed that those challenges, issues and emotions you played ostrich about are now coming out of the sand? You’re not the only one.

Last week I had the privilege of giving several free Soulgoal Sessions. Though individual stories differed, underneath people are making transitions from status quo to some unknown, new way of doing things. And to make the shift, get unstuck or regain footing after changing, some things need to be cleared out, new directions clarified, and often times people needed to get their mojo back as well as belief in themselves.

The struggle or discomfort or inner nudging grew so much that something had to shift which was demonstrated by people feeling:

  • Stuck
  • Unfulfilled
  • Stagnant
  • Frustrated
  • Hopeless
  • Afraid
  • Confused about direction
  • Paralyzed from not knowing what to do
  • Out of balance
  • Ready to get out of survival mode
  • They needed help from health to finances to relationships to their dreams
  • They longed to express themselves and share their gifts with others
  • It’s time to deal with stuff they’ve been putting off.

Mind you, this is from talented and brilliant people (even though life sometimes left them so psyched out or beat up emotionally that they didn’t feel that way). These include light workers; business owners; employees; empty nesters; parents or children dealing with their families; people with dreams; and successful people who know it’s time for a change and to grow.

Every 40 minute Soulgoals Session lasted longer – I couldn’t leave people hanging. But in that time we cast light on shadows of what they’d been dealing with frequently for a year or more.

During Soulgoals Sessions we:

  • Clarified goals and vision
  • Developed a 3-step action plan
  • Uncovered challenges
  • Masterminded
  • Directly addressed what they’re dealing with

In addition to lots of gratitude, the results?

  • Clearer on direction – even if it changes as they move forward
  • Enthusiasm and motivation to take action on their plan
  • Joy, happiness, feeling free and relief
  • Feeling good about themselves and rediscovering their inner spark
  • Someone to talk with
  • Feeling validated and very heard
  • Getting out of their head and circular thinking while gaining perspective
  • Feeling unconditionally supported
  • Empowered
  • Knowing they’re not crazy
  • Deeper understanding of themselves
  • And one made a commitment to get married within hours after the session!

Additionally, what came up is fear from breaking out of an old cycle as well as recognizing the value of support to walk through them.

As one person said, “it’s easy to see how to help others, but how to help myself is another thing. That’s why the teachers from the movie/book The Secret have coaches.”

Because of the results, very appreciative kudos I received that showed me a need, and requests to help friends, I’m extending my FREE Soulgoal Sessions to 60+ minutes on selected days for the next two weeks. My gift to you and yours.

To learn more and book your FREE session, click here:

http://resolvedforresults.simplybook.me/sheduler/manage

This offer is available to everyone, including past clients. You’re welcome to send this invitation to your friends who may be interested.

If you can’t make these times, contact me for other options. My intention is to help.

This could be your or your friends’ answer to prayers.

If you’re getting an inner nudge, I encourage you to take action on your inspiration and guidance.

http://resolvedforresults.simplybook.me/sheduler/manage

You have gifts to give to the world. I support you in sharing them and making your dreams come true.

 

CHALLENGED? 5 CHOICES FOR AN EASIER LIFE

March 22, 2012

 Life presents challenges. How you respond – your emotional choices and mental focus – is YOUR choice. You can get sucked into the quicksand of negative emotions, railing against the world and how tough everything is, focus on what’s not working and bemoan your tale of woes with others or in your head… and attract the opposite of what you want.

 Or you can make a different choice.

 Some of my clients are in the midst of the most heart-wrenching experiences of their lives. One left a country where he worked over three years in a highly regarded profession to interview for a job. His current position finishes in three months, and so far all his efforts to find new employment haven’t produced results. Frustrated by multiple rejection letters – literally, where in the world will this gifted man live and create an income? This follows a year of intense personal and professional challenges.

 Upon his return, immigration blocked his re-entry because of visa problems. He was arrested, detained and deported back to the city where he had just interviewed. Banned to go back for his belongings at work and home which is also where his girlfriend lives, he has no cell phone or office to continue his job search. His attorney says there is no help legally and made excuses for not properly advising him.

 At first he was in shock and emailed “I AM REALLY F___ED… I am devastated, exhausted, overwhelmed and at the end of my wits.”

 Soon after, he Skyped me from a computer in a noisy café for a session.

 Decision time: be the victim and miserable in a living hell or surrender and have faith that there’s a divine purpose and something positive will come of this.

 Feelings and thoughts manifest. His personal honesty allowed him to see how he created this experience – he really didn’t want to work at his job or be in that country anymore. This situation assured he wouldn’t spend another minute there.

 He also has a strong desire to dump childhood patterns and traumas. Realizing his former tension and aggressiveness stemmed from being where he wasn’t appreciated, he chooses now to use this time as a transformation to express his positive nature.

 Cut free from the burden of having to go back, the following day brought a feeling of liberation, contentment and a sense of being in a divine comedy.

 With his newfound attitude, his nightmare vanished like a bad dream after waking up. “I’m in the right place at the right time, and I know there’s opportunity here. I have friends and feel that I’m amongst kindred spirits in this city. I have to take action and not be complacent. My girlfriend and colleagues will pack up my things, and she’ll bring them here next month. She wanted to move away from there anyway. I’m looking at life with childlike wonder knowing my good is here. I feel purposeful. I’ll figure it out and make it work.” 

Months of anxiety and fear about finding a job and where it would be disappeared, too. It’s either in this city and country or something better.

 I asked him to pick an image to reflect his perspective. He chose Fred Astaire – light and with good technique.

 You can transform any situation in your life by choosing to: 

  1. Let go of the exhausting struggle: your story of your hard life and what if the worse happens. Write it down and burn or shred it. Choose to let it go! Repeat as needed.
  2. Change your perspective from one that creates stress and deteriorates your health and finances to one where you surrender to a divine source with an attitude of anticipating the best. Look for the positive in any situation; it’s always there.
  3. Stop thinking and talking about what’s wrong and instead focus on what’s working
  4. Enjoy quality time with those who nipped the self-indulgent habit of #1-3.
  5. Take action in the direction of your dreams.

 As you gently let go of the struggle, you’ll float to the top of the quicksand of fear and move to the shore of creativity and abundance.