Posts Tagged ‘overcome challenges’

Challenged? 5 Steps to Make it Easier on Yourself

October 28, 2019

stop cop

Life presents challenges. How you respond – your emotions and mental focus – is your choice.

You can get sucked into the quicksand of negative feelings, railing against the world and how tough everything is, focus on what’s not working and bemoan your tale of woes with others or in your head… and attract the opposite of what you want.

Or you can make a different choice.

Some of my clients are in the midst of the most heart-wrenching experiences of their lives.

A man left a country where he worked over three years, in a highly regarded profession, to interview for a job. His current position finishes in three months, and so far all his efforts to find new employment haven’t produced results.

Frustrated by multiple rejection letters – literally, where in the world will this gifted man live and create an income? This follows a year of intense personal and professional challenges.

Upon his return, immigration blocked his re-entry because of visa problems. He was arrested, detained and deported back to where he had just interviewed in New York City. Banned to go back for his belongings at work and home, which is also where his girlfriend lives, he has no cell phone or office to continue his job search. His attorney says there is no help legally and made excuses for not properly advising him.

At first he was in shock and emailed “I AM REALLY F___ED… I am devastated, exhausted, overwhelmed and at the end of my wits.”

Soon after, he Skyped me from a computer in a noisy café for a session.

Decision time: be the victim and miserable in a living hell or surrender and have faith that there’s a divine purpose and something positive will come of this.

Feelings and thoughts manifest. His personal honesty allowed him to see how he created this experience – he really didn’t want to work at his job or be in that country anymore.

This situation assured he wouldn’t spend another minute there.

He also has a strong desire to dump childhood patterns and traumas. Realizing his former tension and aggressiveness stemmed from being where he wasn’t appreciated, he chooses now to use this time as a transformation to express his positive nature.

Cut free from the burden of having to go back, the following day brought a feeling of liberation, contentment and a sense of being in a divine comedy.

With his newfound attitude, his nightmare vanished like a bad dream after waking up.

“I’m in the right place at the right time, and I know there’s opportunity here. I have friends and feel that I’m amongst kindred spirits in this city. I have to take action and not be complacent.

My girlfriend and colleagues will pack up my things, and she’ll bring them here next month. She wanted to move away from there anyway. I’m looking at life with childlike wonder knowing my good is here. I feel purposeful. I’ll figure it out and make it work.”

Months of anxiety and fear about finding a job and where it would be disappeared, too. It’s either in this city and country or something better.

I asked him to pick an image to reflect his perspective. He chose Fred Astaire – light on his feet and with good technique.

You can transform any situation in your life by choosing to: 

  1. Let go of the exhausting struggle: your story of your hard life and what if the worse happens. Write it down and burn or shred it. Choose to let it go! Repeat as needed.
  2. Change your perspective from one that creates stress and deteriorates your health and finances to one where you surrender to a divine source with an attitude of anticipating the best. Look for the positive in any situation; it’s always there.
  3. Stop thinking and talking about what’s wrong and instead focus on what’s working
  4. Enjoy quality time with those who nipped the self-indulgent habits of #1-3.
  5. Take action in the direction of your dreams.

As you gently let go of the struggle, you’ll float to the top of the quicksand of fear and move to the shore of creativity and abundance.

Reprinted from Soulgoals’ Archive, March 22, 2012

If you’d like support
through challenging times,

contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

If it’s been a while since you’ve had one,
you’re welcome to contact me again.

Email me at:

virginia@teamingwithsuccess.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

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Angry? Frustrated? Here’s What I Wrote to my Client.

August 12, 2019
Here’s an excerpt of an email I sent a client who’s been experiencing challenges.

Recently, I’ve observed people transitioning from the way their life has been to something new and different. That can bring up a variety of feelings, some pleasant and others not so much.
 
I remember thinking in the early 1990s that my entire life was about frustration. There wasn’t any part of it that worked, from health, finances and career to my marriage. All were falling apart. This perfect storm became the springboard that has shaped the rest of my life of personal discovery and helping people like you.



   
Change is in the air, welcoming it, liking it, wanting it or not.
 
For some, it’s an exciting adventure.
 
For others, a dark cloud hangs overhead.
 
You, like the rest of us, have had a lifetime of listening to the false guidance of your ego, that façade of an identity. For you, it includes difficult emotions like anger and frustration. These emotions are like software glitches.
 
Here’s what Wikipedia says about glitches… computer glitches are incorrectly written software, incorrect instructions given by the operator, undetected invalid data, undetected communications errors…
 
You are not your software.
 
In contrast, your Essence is prompting you to listen within. This is the part of you that knows “all is well.”

Abraham-Hicks said:

“Your emotions are your indicator of how your active thought blends, or doesn’t blend, with the thought Source is thinking about the same subject in the same moment.”


The inner turmoil you’re experiencing is the conflict between your ego’s perspective and that of the Source within you.

Naturally, your ego is taking an all out stand for you to listen to its lies, lies that lead you to feel frustrated, angry and needing to sort things out.

To protect itself, it uses a type of logic in which it’s already trained you, indoctrinated into you, so you believe that it’s telling you the truth. It presents its case that leaves you feeling anger and frustration.

The logic only works if you see things from its limited and fearful point of view.

Habitual thinking creates entrenched neural pathways in the brain. These become your default, your easy “go to” ways you react. These reactions, instead of responses, don’t always serve you.

Just because ideas are in your head does NOT make them true!

However, you can most assuredly access your true Essence instead, as it is YOU!

A key is to differentiate between the whispers of your ego and your Essence.

The ego certainly doesn’t want you to be around positive people that shed light on how it manipulates you. This way it has you, back where you can be controlled by the stress and chaos of unsupportive emotions.

In defense of the ego, it thinks its protecting you. But these patterns were created from a child’s approach to survival. When presented with adult situations, the peace of your Essence offers greater insight and direction.

Ask your Essence to step forward to be heard, and choose to listen to its guidance.



If you’d like help for 
your life to be easier
while getting results,
contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:

virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by discovering
their Soul’s goals.
  Copyright © 2019 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

NEED BUSINESS? MORE MONEY? – PART 1

June 2, 2011

41 ½ hours after her second group mastermind meeting, a health practitioner emailed me this : “Thanks to Masterminding and the power of positive thinking, my Friday turned from no treatments scheduled to 5 clients” 

“I’ve also had 4 new clients schedule appointments… all 4 scheduled in the past 2 days…so close to our Masterminding session that even Doubting Thomas couldn’t fail to see the connection.  My deepest gratitude for your commitment to getting this message out, Virginia.” 

Her wish is her command. So is yours.

Sounds great, but how can you do it? 

Masterminding is so powerful that it’s easy to believe on a very deep level you can receive what you choose – and you manifest what you believe. 

Manifesting is like gardening. The first step is to prepare the soil so the garden of your thoughts bears fruit, not dandelions. 

Everything is given according to your belief.

You may have heard the expression, if you believe you can, you probably can. If you believe you won’t, you assuredly won’t.

Many immigrants came to America believing this is the land of opportunity. With little to start with, they created thriving businesses and success. They decided on a direction, believed they could succeed, took action and reaped the rewards. In spite of hardships, grieving the loss of loved ones, often arriving with little more than what they wore and being strangers in a strange land, their belief and determination allowed them to triumph. 

Sherri Geng, a Chinese immigrant and finalist in the 2005 Intel Science Talent Search, wrote this in a BusinessWeek article: 

“It is hard not to notice the disproportionate number of immigrant success stories in America. All across the world, America is considered the land of opportunity, and so it should not be surprising that the immigrants who do get here end up being uncommonly successful: They are the ones who fought the hardest, stared down the most competition, were driven by the fiercest pangs of hunger.” 

Has your life been difficult?

You learned from your challenges as others did from theirs. Those who survived a tsunami learned to go to higher ground. One woman who didn’t make it, for example, picked up her children at school. She tried to return home through a valley instead of immediately heading to higher and safe ground.

You survived circumstances in your life and are reading this. That makes you a survivor and consciously awake to improving yourself. Congratulations!

We’ll skip the judging part where you think you should be doing more, should have more, should be more. I invite you to stop “shoulding” on yourself and pause to drink in that you’re good enough as is right now.

Breathe. Relax. Ahhhh. 

Count Your Blessings 

Now consider your choices. You can focus on your hardships and licking your wounds or you can use the precious lessons you learned as stepping stones to a better life.

Maybe your life is awesome in some ways but really sucks in others. So, revel in what’s working and know you allowed your wonderful creation into existence. 

Be confident that if you like anything in your life, even if it’s teensy weensy, you can translate this goodness to create more.

If you can’t find anything, look again. It’s unquestionably there.

If actor Michael J. Fox, who was at the top of his game, can be grateful for having Parkinson’s disease because of the authenticity it brought him, what can you be grateful for? 

A positive attitude synchronizes you with a frequency of energy necessary to manifest. 

How can you align with energy that produces fruit instead of dandelions?

Writing a daily gratitude list is a simple way to focus on your blessings. It tills and fertilizes your soil of thoughts and feelings so you create a bountiful harvest. 

Don’t want to bother writing? You can think about these, but after a couple of days you may forget and slip back into focusing on what you don’t want and like. Plus, when you write about what’s working, your thoughts and feelings shift.

If you’re serious about creating more business, money or anything else, take the time to write what you’re grateful for. When you refocus and allow your heart to have fun and open, miracles happen. 

For 30 days, write five or more things you’re grateful for in a journal.

Experiment and demonstrate the results to yourself. If you like what you see, make it a habit to continue. Made your list before? You can write new ones.

By doing so, you’ll change the negative story that the irritating voice in your head has been mouthing off about. By doing so, you alter your perspective and open to receive greater good. 

Life is always poised to bring you what you choose or something better. Be willing to receive miracles. 

You’ve prepared the soil for seeds of success to manifest by:

  1. Weeding out stinkin’ thinkin’ so you can have healin’ feelins’.
  2. Fertilizing with a positive attitude of belief and gratitude.

Part 2 will offer you tools to plant the seeds, mastermind and reap your harvest.