Posts Tagged ‘Manifesting’

WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH, MAYBE YOU’RE GOING IN THE WRONG DIRECTION

October 7, 2019

 Have you noticed people’s buttons getting pushed lately? Maybe yours?

Some respond with anger, frustration or depression. Others find that finger pointing, denial and avoidance are easier than talking things through.

Opportunities abound to deal with issues, but some prefer to ignore the elephant in the room. It would take more than new glasses to correct that vision.

Changing perspective can help you: step back emotionally and observe in a detached way. This reminds you not to take it personally. But what should you do about it?

Ask yourself: Is there something to get out of it, something to learn? Or is the point to get out of it and leave?

And what’s the best action to take? This depends on the circumstances. But driving yourself bonkers and making yourself wrong only leads to a dead-end street.

A lovely woman sent me a very ugly email. She wrote about demonic forces and people we once knew. She couldn’t be friends with me anymore because I was still associated with them, even though I hadn’t been for years.

 Weeks later she apologized. Because of past injustices inflicted on her by this group, her deep pain was triggered. She obviously wasn’t herself when she wrote it.

 The point? I got out of it lessons of compassion; forgiveness; grace; not judging as people make mistakes.

 The action? Let go of the past and move on. We renewed our friendship.

 A few months later she sent another email explaining how she couldn’t be my friend because of my involvement with these same people… people I still hadn’t talked with for a very long time.  

 The point? Get out of it. When people create too much drama and repeat patterns that they’re not shifting, it’s often best to step back.

 The action? Don’t respond. Bless the situation and relationship and let them go.


 Here are tips on what you can do when your buttons are pushed. Oh well, I can honestly say I’ve learned each one by doing the opposite.

You can choose to push the easy button instead by using the following:

  1. Breathe deeply in a relaxed way.
  2. Step back emotionally and observe rather than become enmeshed with the story.
  3. Listen to what’s being expressed and understand their perspective.
  4. Let go of a need to be heard, validated and to express your viewpoint.
  5. Ask yourself that even if you don’t like it: Why is it essential that others should think the way you think they should?
  6. Tune in to your gut – what do you feel is true and the best action to take?

 “Forgive them for they know not what they do.” Then take action.

Through my school of hard knocks learning, I’m adding one more.

Don’t try to explain yourself using logic if someone is emotional.

Mental and emotional approaches are on two different wave lengths. When someone is emotional, they often aren’t listening, can’t really hear what you’re saying unless it’s what they want to hear. They may not even have the foundation to understand what you’re saying. They just get annoyed and feel justified in making you look like the jerk. Instead listen and say: thanks for sharing your opinion.


Warning: using these tips will not give you the emotional exhilaration received from feeling right; trying to fix or rescue people; feeling victimized; having your ego stroked; expressing anger; trying to control; or the comfort of familiarity from reliving your sad story.

  It will:

  • Bring you peace of mind and heart
  • Awaken you to greater wisdom and awareness
  • Honor others even if you’re sure they’ve lost their mind
  • Reclaim your time and energy to enjoy life and pursue your goals
  • Bring you better results in the long run.

My cousin just called. “Be sure to tell people that everyone needs some silly in their lives and that laughter is the best medicine.” Thanks, Sharon, for the best ideas. Don’t take things too seriously. It’s all good.

This is a reprint from March, 2011.

If you’d like to get help
with your pushed buttons,

contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.
I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

If you’re ready for miracles in your life, it helps to know how to find them.

Remember this game?  Children look for an object and are told cold, warm or hot as they get further away or closer to it.

Life gives you clues like this, too, so you’ll know if you’re on the right track.

  • You’re cold when you feel like you’re pushing a brick wall, and it won’t budge.
  • You’re warm when you feel like you’re in the flow, enjoying a magic carpet ride.
  • You’re hot when you’re manifesting (what you want happens).

What can that look like in real life?

Ever make yourself wrong when you don’t have energy to do what you think you “should”?

Yes, sometimes you just have to take action to get your mojo running.

Sometimes you need a course correction. Even if it’s the right goal, it could be the wrong approach or attitude.

When you feel like a fish swimming upstream, maybe it’s because you’re going against the flow. 

Another way to know? If you’re moping, whining, angry, frustrated, complaining, fearful or worried, you splashed ashore. You jumped out of the flow and became a fish out of water.

This is a good time to pause and observe. What makes you happy?

Do you really have to force yourself to go in the direction you’re going – and the way you’re doing it? 

Let yourself be guided by the flow instead of trying to make things happen.

Here’s how I went from cold to hot in manifesting.

 I decided to get living room furniture. 

 I had images of what I wanted. The back of the sofa had curved lines. Because I enjoy holiday decorating, I wanted the sofa to be red or green.

 COLD: I became irritated whenever I went to a store. I couldn’t find what I wanted. Shopping was laborious. Spending all that money and not enjoying it didn’t seem right. So I stopped forcing myself to shop.

 Soon after, new neighbors moved in next door. Their previous home was twice the size and several hours away.

 Not knowing which living room set to use until they could try them out in their new home, they brought both of them.

HOT: They sold me the sofa from their rarely used formal living room, nicely protected in movers’ plastic. The back? Curved. Colors? Red and green.

 Added to this was the entire living room set: two end tables; a coffee table; two lamps; rug; chair; and a throw blanket. Anxious to clear their garage, they sold all of it to me for $175! All items looked brand new!

 Instead of pricey delivery costs because I live out-of-town from the stores, we only had to move it across the yard.

 My lack of interest and irritation was my guidance telling me to stop shopping.

Here are some components that allowed me to manifest the furniture: 

  • Made a choice – I decided to have new living room furniture.
  • Identified details – I only had images about the colors and curved back, so I had my attention on those. I worked with what I knew, and that was enough.
  • Took action – Shopping focused my energy. It was an on-the-job visualization.
  • Let it go – I didn’t force myself to do what didn’t bring me joy. This allowed me to relax and open to the flow of possibilities.

There’s another part of the story.  I almost missed out on this deal.

At first I was told the sofa was plaid, so I said I wasn’t interested. It didn’t fit my mental picture.

Fortunately, the next morning I woke up and decided it wouldn’t hurt to look. When I did, I discovered it fit the image and feel of what I wanted better than any style I’d looked at in the stores.

ON THE VERGE OF TURNING INTO AN ICE CUBE: I almost turned my back on this manifestation because I prejudged without even looking into it. 


Now it’s your turn.

  1. Breathe and relax.
  2. Set an intention to receive what you choose for your life.
  3. Choose to be in divine flow.
  4. Take action in the direction of your goal.

 Let it go. I mean really let go of the need or desire to have it. Allow divine timing to work its wonders. Let me know your results!

This is a reprint from April 21, 2011.

 

If you’d like to change
the way your life is going
to create something better,

contact me
for a complimentary
Do What You Love Break Free Session.

Email me at:

virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love.

Copyright © 2019 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

 

Join me – I’m the Featured Guest on Thursday’s Show!

April 25, 2018

This is a story about manifesting results and how you can share in them!

During a client’s session last week Wednesday about marketing her business, I casually mentioned that a focus of mine would be becoming a guest on radio shows.

LESS THAN THREE HOURS LATER, I stopped at a supermarket at the moment of its launch for a new home delivery service. There were door prizes, free food, announcements… and a radio station. I introduced myself to the station manager and gatekeeper.

Yesterday, I met with the absolutely wonderful DuAnne Redus, host of On River Time, who told me that her Thursday guest had to cancel and asked if I would I be on this week’s show!  With divine right timing in full swing, my schedule was open, too.

That means, nine days after I mentioned being on a radio show, it manifested. These are the types of results you can manifest, too.

I invite you to hear the magic DuAnne and I will create Thursday from 3-4 PM!

Here’s what she posted and how you can tune in:

On River Time, Thursday at 3 pm CDT, I will feature Virginia Goszewska, to talk about “Keys to Happiness” and other valuable topics. Listen in live at 94.1 FM, KWVH or streaming at http://wimberleyvalleyradio.org

If you miss it, you’ll have one week to listen before they post another show (no archives will be available after next week’s show).

May you manifest your heartfelt desires with grace and ease!

P. S. Know someone who might be interested in this show?  Please share.

I work with people, at any age,
who choose to share their gifts
or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck
or would benefit from new tools
or support.

I help them be richly compensated
doing what they love by aligning
with their Soul’s goals.

 

Copyright © 2018 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

TIP: My Embarrassment – Kinda

October 19, 2016

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Full disclosure: I was sitting on the… well, where I was sitting is beside the point. Except that I just woke up and felt relaxed.

The crazy thought came to me: what would I say if someone asked this question. Can you name an embarrassing moment?

The only thing that came to mind is what if a client saw me the way I look now.

The night before I returned home at midnight after seeing Patrizio in concert (reference to last week’s TIP) and would travel soon to be with a friend and see him perform again that night.

Before I left, however, I decided to book a Liberation of Lunacy phone session (LoL) with a new client. LoL is a technique I created to liberate fear, anxiety, lack, limit and doubt through your power of choice, perspective, love and putting your Essence in charge.

Lunacy because we’re all a little crazy when our ego’s in charge.

Liberation because people feel tremendous relief from the mental and emotional burdens they’ve been carrying. They free themselves to pursue their goals in a bigger way and get powerful results.

Usually I’m showered and dressed before my sessions. I feel fresher and more present.

With my time considerations, I decided to wear a lightweight bathrobe that I’ve used for projects around the house – paint stained and with, shall I delicately call it, a plunging and very revealing neckline.

During her session, we were deeply focused to help her release.

Apparently, there’s a beep that goes off when FaceTime turns on. I didn’t hear it but suddenly noticed that I was seeing a face instead of the phone’s keypad.

I asked what happened, and she said FaceTime came on. I stumbled around to turn it off, confusing because I already had it turned off in my setting.

I was so engaged in the process that I didn’t consider the ramifications of a new client observing her coach she’s never met in what could be a test run for Halloween.

Oh well. Nothing I could do about it. It is what it is. Time to get ready to leave.

However, the next day during a follow up call, I asked about it. She informed me about the beeps and had the good grace to turn FaceTime off when she realized what was happening.

That explains why her voice didn’t reflect shock.

Here’s the powerful part.

I casually had the thought that morning. I had no resistance to it happening because it was playful, mental banter. Never even considered any real consequences.

There was no wondering if I could create such a scene. No doubt to gnaw at me. No fear or anxiety. Just a pure idea, a simple thought going out into the universe.

Within a couple of hours, what I claimed as an embarrassing moment occurred.

Law of Attraction at work.

Whatever we focus on comes to pass. Casual thoughts included. Silly thoughts. Angry thoughts. Frustrating thoughts. Any thought.

Thoughts create feelings. Our feelings manifest.

We are that powerful.

You are that powerful.

So if you don’t like something in your business or life, don’t feed it by thinking about it.

Think about something else.

It’s your life. Don’t turn your power and happiness over to another person, a politician, someone who “done you wrong,” or any situation – even if it feels hopeless.

There’s always a way out!

I spent the weekend watching The Truth About Cancer Ultimate Live Symposium online with nearly 50 world-renowned doctors and experts with a mission to educate, expose and eradicate cancer. The information works for any illness.

Cancer and other diseases are not death sentences.

There are countless alternative modalities and strategies for healing that work! Redirect your focus to see them and take action.

We always have a choice: hold onto old beliefs or be open to transform into something more wonderful.

This is true for your health, your business, your finances, your life.

Choice: at times, needlessly suffer or die leaving loved ones behind or be open to change.

It’s about education. Outside your box exists a magnificent world of possibilities.

YouTube videos on the life-saving work of The Truth About Cancer is a great place to start for your health.  

Your TIP is to use your power on YOUR behalf to consciously create what you choose.

Masterminders will recognize that this is inspired by Resolved for Results Principle #6:

I believe I am worthy and deserve to achieve my goals or something better, and I choose to use my personal empowerment on my behalf which allows me to serve life more fully.

There is a new Resolved for Results mastermind team forming, which includes the classy and dynamic woman who graciously turned off FaceTime without missing a beat.

If you have a yearning to break-free of your current circumstances and be richly compensated doing what you love in a BIGGER way (or even clarifying what that is), this is your invitation.

Email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com to learn more.

Recently I talked with a Masterminder who told me that when she was little she prayed and prayed to make her the person God wanted her to be – a good person and here to do something. Now in her sixties, for the first time ever, it’s happened. No more low self-esteem. She’s happy, shares her many talents and lives everyday with meaning and gusto, feeling great about herself and life.

Imagine how much you can manifest with joy and by skipping the embarrassing hard parts.