Posts Tagged ‘how the ego works’

TIP: My Trip on National Day of the Cowboy

July 25, 2016
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National Day of the Cowboy was on July 23rd, and The Briscoe Western Art Museum in San Antonio, Texas, celebrated. As I’ve been watching old westerns on YouTube, I thought I’d check it out.

Among the many paintings, exhibits and artifacts, there was a Wells Fargo stage coach. People traveled in dust, cold and heat with the possibility of being stopped by Indians, robbers or a broken wheel.

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A chuck wagon on display brought images to mind about the trek of the pioneers as they traveled west in their wagons. Why did they do it?

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Then I heard at an audio exhibit: a reason people came west was to change their concept of themselves. 

Think self-concept such as being a city folk versus the imagination of going west.

It was one way to leave behind how they saw themselves and their lives.

And this brought me back to Soulgoals.

A former masterminder and influential professional planned to launch a new career. She said that she knew her results would be defined by what’s going on in her head, so she came to me for help.

In changing her concepts of self-doubt, fear of not being good enough and other mental noise, her current business soared.

Now she decided her new career will be even better if she waits to start it. Because she changed the way she sees herself, she’ll be able to springboard from the phenomenal, new opportunities coming to her.

What concepts do you have of yourself?

For example, if you choose to get in shape, what’s that voice in your head telling you when you look in the mirror? Which do you think will help you attain your hot body faster?

Beating yourself up for the %*@^#! you see in the mirror?

OR

Approving of yourself just the way you are while envisioning your ideal body and taking action?

We’ve been trained to worry and be hard on ourselves with the erroneous belief that it will whip us into shape.

Actually, it will either hold us back or make us unhappy. The movie Whiplash about a drummer in music school is a good example.

Driven success created calamitous results.

You have the ability to change how you see yourself. By doing so, you set your success ceiling.

All your negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs come from your ego – a false identity everyone has. The ego is very wily and knows exactly how to trick you into believing lack, limit, anxiety and fear.

You know if your ego is running your life when you’re not getting the results you choose.

A businessman completed his side of a negotiation, and the transaction was to be finalized at the beginning of the work week.

He gave clear instructions that everyone had to wait for papers to be signed before taking action on the new deal. That weekend, one of the parties brought in carloads of people to help in the transition, and the other party was furious.

They totally blamed him. Although he was faultless, they wouldn’t listen to or believe a word he said.

He played out the situation in his head over and over again about what went wrong, what he could’ve done differently. He put in weeks of work to give outstanding service, going above and beyond the call of duty. Now all that was lost, and he looked like the bad guy.

While in a group session, he connected the dots and had a big aha moment.

A concept emerged that the voice in his head often repeated:  nobody ever listens to him.

His energy had attracted a circumstance even though he wasn’t present.

When he changed his self-concept, he became empowered.

He recognized his worth. No longer would he play the victim.

Weird how he wasn’t even around and this happened to him, right?

It is until you see that you’re more than a physical body.

Your energy creates. Your feelings create. The conversations in your head create.

Want more success? Shift your energy. Change your concept of yourself.

Your TIP is to observe one negative story you tell yourself, and rewrite it.

Any negative way you talk to yourself, any depressing feelings, come from your ego.

Your ego acts as if it’s being rational when it tells you negative things.

Your ego lies.

There’s a perspective to make you the hero of your story.

Find it.

By doing so, you put your core Essence, your Soul, in the driver’s seat of your life and business.

Especially for the masterminders, how high can you open yourself to receive?

You don’t have to leave town or travel across the country in a wagon to change your self-concept… and enjoy the life and business of your dreams.

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TIP: My First Drag Show

July 5, 2016

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I didn’t know what to expect at my first drag show. What I found were three women who love entertaining and what they do while letting the audience join in on the fun.

What a weekend to be free to be yourself as the USA celebrated our national Independence Day of freedom.

Freedom for what? Freedom to enjoy barbecues. Freedom to do whatever we want as long as we’re not interfering with others. Freedom of speech. Freedom to be who we are – whatever that means.

Freedom to express ourselves.

Some feel you should have freedom so you can think they way they do, but that’s not true freedom.

While watching the show, I thought about how these who were men at birth considered their gender identity and made a decision. They chose to align their outer lives with what they felt within.

Imagine that. Living true to you. Doing what you love instead of what’s expected or feeling stuck.

These women found freedom from judgments, the risk of disappointing others and what some feel they should be.

They do what it takes to be in alignment with themselves in spite of the inconvenience and expense of surgery, hormone injections and more.

They stopped hiding and instead revel in their difference – even capitalize on it.

If they can live true to themselves and their dreams, why not you?

If they can overcome society’s opinions and turn it into an art form, what’s stopping you?

What’s holding you back from really expressing yourself and your gifts?

Why not really show up for who you are, shine and play big?

What excuse is so big that you can’t find a way?

Some hold back, question themselves, play weak, and hesitate when opportunities to break free present themselves.

Some come up with seemingly logical reasons (busy schedules, money, family, health, not the right time) why they can’t move forward on living their dreams. Because they buy into their stories, they think others believe their limited beliefs, too. But they’re just keeping themselves back from greater freedom.

Some are afraid of living, really living life to the fullest, and don’t believe in themselves and that they can do it.

Some are afraid of possible pain and discouragement – projecting the past onto the future.

Others are afraid of getting hurt, rejected or exhausted from trying – what if one more thing doesn’t work?

This is how the ego works – it tricks you into thinking you’re playing it safe by keeping you in status quo or worse – sliding backwards.

You are much greater than this. You have everything it takes to tune into who you are, share your gifts with the world and be richly compensated doing what you love.

Your TIP is to express yourself with no limit and live your destiny, not someone else’s, NOW.

You can make a decision to be alive and awake in this moment – not live in past regrets or fear of the future.

You can make a decision to take action now and not put off your freedom to be the greatest you that you can be.

You can decide there’s no better time to do what you love rather than put it off for some better time that never comes.

Or if it does, you find another excuse to put it off.

You can make a stand for YOU to express the you that’s been hiding out. You can do what you love and let go of the seemingly rational excuses and procrastination that keep you stuck.

You can tap into your courage with confidence and claim your freedom to express who you are and live your dreams.

You do have a choice.

There’s no better time than now.

Happy freedom and independence to you.