“Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute, and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute. THAT’S relativity.“
Albert Einstein
“I have no control over my life,” protested a workshop participant angrily. The implication that we can have control of our lives seemed preposterous and brought fierce resistance.
“My life is governed by this,” she indignantly proclaimed while holding the Metro bus schedule. “I have to be on time for the bus if I want to go anywhere, but I can’t control if the bus is late, early, or will show up at all.”
The bus schedule is how she relates to much of life as she relies on public transportation.
Another participant chimed in firmly and gently. “To get control of your life, of your heart, and what you really want to do, you have to let go of the bus schedule. You are greater than the bus schedule. This is a metaphor for your life; it is ruled by time and when and if you can catch a bus rather than by what you really want.”
When asked at the beginning of the workshop about her heart’s desire she replied: “I don’t care. Why bother? What I want doesn’t matter because I’m not going to get it anyway.”
One of the interactive workshop games disappointed her. As we had a half an hour left, she felt pressured and therefore unable to do the exercise. She felt we were running out of time. Her life largely revolved around time… and her lack of self-worth.
She was so caught up in her whirlwind of fear regarding time that she couldn’t see that this was the issue holding her back from gaining clarity or achieving what she wanted.
“The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once.”
Albert Einstein
Life is a mirror. Little did I know as I watched this dear woman grapple with the “reality” of time that time was the very issue that saddened me all day.
As I looked past the smoke and mirrors of a decision I made earlier, I realized that my pain stemmed from an underlying fear of wasting my time.
Subconsciously, I worried that I might lose time if I made a mistake, as I felt I had done in the past, so I wanted to cut my losses with anything that looked as if I might be making an error in judgment.
Everything is in divine order. Even if I made different decisions in the past, I would not be any further along than I am at this moment because I needed the lessons I learned to do what I am doing now.
We are where we are meant to be, and when we realize this at a deep level, a great peace and understanding are felt.
Time is another form of separation, and it holds us back from living life fully now.
When we start to separate things into segments and compare ourselves to others or a fabricated timeline, we separate from our hearts and living in the present moment.
Our perception of time can be a facet of fear.
The movie Sliding Doors starring Gwyneth Paltrow demonstrated the What If scenario by playing out two timelines simultaneously. What if a character made a different choice at a given moment in time? The journey took a different route but where they ended up remained the same.
Quantum mechanics reveals that time can vary!
Einstein postulated that time and distance are not fixed! Speed can remain the same even though distance and time change.
Einstein called the slowing of time due to motion time dilation.
v = d / t
velocity (speed) equals distance traveled divided by time
The PBS website from the show Nova on Time Travel states “the closer we came to traveling at the speed of light, the more time would slow down for us relative to someone not moving.”
When we consider that an inner light is at the essence of who we are, this statement becomes more intriguing.
Once I left a half an hour later than intended for a talk I gave. I needed the extra time to place hand outs on 50 chairs and organize other aspects of my presentation.
I knew if I used the mantra on the 45-minute drive, “I’m late; I’m late,” I would have been an emotional wreck by the time I arrived.
Instead I told my chattering mind, “I have all the time I need.” When I got there I discovered that one of my clients, who regularly attends this group and likes to arrive early, was available and very happy to assist me.
I had more than enough time.
Time is malleable. You can choose to change your self-imposed concept of time in your life.
Start by re-evaluating one area of your life where you feel you do not have enough time. Look at it from the viewpoint of a wise friend and reframe your perspective to one where you have all the time you need… and won’t run out of it.
Need to get control of your time?
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