Speak No Evil
A woman, who always took care of others, used to ask when it was going to be her turn to be taken care of. She told me that her own words sentenced her to needing to being taken care of 24/7 because of her health.
A man used to talk about his desire to be surrounded by women. He joked that it happened… after he got married.
Recently, I read an email from an online entrepreneur sharing how he posted his father’s saying on his computer, “Every day is the dawn of a new error.” He went to work daily expecting things to fail, and they did. “Every day” and “Every. Single. Evening.” It became a self-fulfilling prophecy. He turned them into learning experiences, but he was unaware of how these words created his problems.
Author Florence Scovel Shinn wrote, “Your word is your wand. The words you speak create your own destiny.”
People unconsciously throw words around that create their unwanted circumstances. They don’t realize how words create a mold that life then fills with reality.
Words reveal the way you think and feel, and your mindset shapes your world.
“There exists, for everyone, a sentence – a series of words – that has the power to destroy you. Another sentence exists, another series of words, that could heal you. If you’re lucky you will get the second, but you can be certain of getting the first.” Philip K. Dick, Valis
You become accustomed to your word choices, often unaware how you “create your own destiny” through them. For example, if you speak of indecisiveness or confusion about your future, you skew your energy and will continue to create more confusion. “Maybe I’ll do this or maybe I’ll do that. I don’t know. I’ll wait to see what life brings me.”
Speaking about your future like this perpetuates uncertainty. The one thing for certain is that you’re creating more uncertainty. Life will bring you whatever your think, feel and say.
More life-affirming is to speak words where you see yourself having clarity, regardless of what’s going on in your life now.
You can say, instead, something as simple as, “I enjoy what I’m doing.” “I love where I’m living.” “I’m fulfilled doing what I love.” “I’m grateful for my healthy body.”
“Change your thoughts, and in the twinkling of an eye, all your conditions change. Your world is a world of crystallized ideas, crystallized words. Sooner or later, you reap the fruits of your words and thoughts.” Florence Scovel Shinn
You can stop the habit of speaking words that create limitation. The best way is through awareness and paying attention to the words you speak.
To break your pattern, stop yourself, even mid-sentence, as soon as you recognize you’re speaking words that may hold you back in your future. Rephrase yourself using more affirming word choices.
As soon as you catch yourself speaking words of limit, you can break the habit of unconsciously cursing your own future with limitation. Otherwise, you may be in a flow, but it may be a flow of unconscious negativity.
Think of driving a car and going off the pavement. You’re on the grass, but you’re enjoying the flow of driving so much that you don’t want to stop. When you end up in a ditch, you wonder how this happened to you.
That’s what occurs when you allow words of limitation, confusion or doubt to gain momentum. Your words that follow limiting words are often equally limited. However, you can stop yourself by consciously changing the words that shape your future. It’s indicative of you changing the way you think and feel.
“Watch your thoughts, they become your words
Watch your words, they become your actions
Watch your actions, they become your habits
Watch your habits, they become your character
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”
– Attributed to multiple sources
“Words are loaded pistols.” Jean-Paul Sartre
“You can change your world by changing your words… Remember, death and life are in the power of the tongue.” Joel Osteen
“Without knowing the force of words, it is impossible to know more.” Confucius
“Words are free. It’s how you use them that may cost you.” KushandWizdom
“If we understood the power of our thoughts, we would guard them more closely. If we understood the awesome power of our words, we would prefer silence to almost anything negative. In our thoughts and words, we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths. Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts. We can always replace negative with positive.” Betty Eadie
“The game of life is a game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later with astounding accuracy.” Florence Scovel Shinn
May you enjoy consciously creating your future through your words.
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