Posts Tagged ‘Free of self-judgment’

iT waz oNe of tHOse Dayz… and I Feel Great Anyway!

January 14, 2019

I’ve given countless workshops, but I never had more enthusiasm than I had while putting the one together last week. In addition to preparing for the workshop, I lovingly made food for nine people, cleaned and decided it was time for several house upgrades, etc., etc.

The night before the workshop, I awoke way early with less than two hours of sleep, but I didn’t feel tired.

I LOVED the workshop on Saturday, had an essential time out on Sunday and then Monday I jumped right into a full schedule.

Apparently because of all my activity, I wasn’t firing on all cylinders, and things got wonky.

Usually, I write this blog in advance, with a couple of days to edit and mail it to my list a little after 7 AM.

I didn’t get up until 7:30 and had no writing done at all.

A rough draft came together, and I edited between coaching sessions… only to discover after I mailed it that I completely wrote the wrong last name of a dear client.

The client in my first session had a brilliant insight that was so good I was going to write a blog about it. I mean, it even mirrored what I was learning last year. I carefully wordsmithed her ideas as she talked and wrote them down. At the end of her session, I hurried off the phone because of a scheduled call, a woman who’s always on time.

No call came.

Nonetheless, I was in my rush to send the client’s notes from the first session to her. I mixed up her last month’s and this month’s files I was closing and didn’t save her current one. All those wonderful ideas I carefully crafted for her and my future writing — poof! Gone.

While waiting for the call that was very late, another client called to reschedule. We did that, and then I commented about an experience that was happening to him. I soon realized I had been talking to myself. I don’t know if my phone disconnected or his. I called back and got his voicemail.

The woman who was supposed to call me got the time zones mixed up. We had a great conversation. We were starting to talk about her registering for my program when her baby did what babies do after they eat… everywhere. Yes, let’s talk another day.

And so the day continued to go.

However, what interested me throughout the day is the way I felt.

It’s probably a combination of getting tired of years of reacting to a lifetime of crazies and, as a consequence, what I’ve learned about being in present time, that I didn’t trigger an emotional OMG response to any of these.

Add to that the weekend workshop where we were aligning with a higher level of focus, and this was definitely small stuff.

Whatever the reason, it didn’t register that I should be upset or feel self-judgment. I was quite familiar with how those felt having mastered those responses in my past. Instead, I cleaned up the missteps and moved on.

I could’ve been sunning or watching a movie or going to the dentist.

Emotionally, it felt all the same. No charge but interesting to observe. Clean it up and go on to the next thing. I later realized how the missteps were piling up, and I needed a break because I was leaving behind an atypical pile of weirdness.

I felt that I’d been riding a large wave that came to shore, and what a ride it was. However, there were signs it was time to take a breather. Simultaneously, I was able to rearrange my schedule to take a few days for myself.

I know there are things you think you screwed up or aren’t working like you thought they would. Maybe they’re things that didn’t come out right when you said or did them. Some may be big whoppers.

Today you can start fresh. The crazy stuff will one day be a distant memory. No reason to self-flagellate. Realign your energy: be kind, learn and it’s called Next.

If life is working as you imagined, enjoy it guilt-free. You deserve it.

You’re really doing all right. You’re becoming aware of new things. Life moves on, and so can you.

You have a choice. Suffer and make it hard on yourself or choose to live your life with grace and ease.

Hint: the latter takes a load off your shoulders.

With all the missteps I made, I felt better making a decision to take a time out and regroup.

Getting upset is optional and doesn’t help anything.

How can you take a time out for yourself to gain perspective, even if it’s just to take a pause in your own thinking?

 

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TIP: The Four Tops and The Temptations – Wow!

November 8, 2016

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“Are you feeling alright? Oh yeah. Put your hands together.”

With horns blaring to their harmonies and synchronized moves, the Temptations delivered a non-stop, high energy performance, starting with “Get Ready” along with favorites like “My Girl” and “Just My Imagination.”

Both groups played full out, giving their all.

The magic took off at another level when the Four Tops came on stage: “Feel it. Feel it.” And we did.

Abdul Fakir, the only original of the Four Tops who’s still with us, turns 81 on December 26! No way he looked or acted that on stage!! He’s on the far right of the photo.

Roquel, the son of Lawrence Payton who was one of the original Four Tops, has got the moves! He’s on the far left.

Abdul talked about the joy, celebration and positive energy of members of the Four Tops who’ve passed. Their energy lives on.

For their encore, we were all on our feet shouting along with “I Can’t Help Myself” (Sugar Pie, Honey Bunch).

Hearing the old songs and seeing the dancing brought us back in a time machine. Everyone had memories.

My earlier life flashbacks during the back to back performances, and set up time in between, nudged me into a mini life review.

That’s where I was when their music played. I went through being an adult. Now I’m here.

What happened in between?

When you look back at your life, what do you see?

No matter what you’ve done or haven’t done, here you are now.

There are ups and downs (by the way, everyone has them not just you), but they change.

One time you’re surrounded by those people, another time you’re not.

Your livelihood and circumstances altered.

When you look back, you can see everything that didn’t work, who done you wrong, your mistakes and unfulfilled dreams.

However…

You can see another timeline, too – who you helped and helped you, what you learned, who you became along the way and visions for your future.

No matter what perspective you choose, you cannot fail at life.

There are no angels with clipboards keeping a tally of judgment on you. That’s a human invention.

You are divinely loved and accepted for who you are – a brave Soul who showed up on this planet, learning and growing.

Just like a baby isn’t judged for falling while learning to walk, neither are you while you’re learning.

While freeing yourself from self-judgment, consider this.

Think about a time in your life, let’s say ten or twenty years ago.

What you experienced felt like your never-ending world. Then it passed or morphed into something different.

Now you’re here in this now.

What you think, feel and envision now are creating what’s to come.

How clear is your vision because it’s your blueprint for your life and business that’s yet to come?

Your TIP is to create your life or business to be Wow!

Care enough about yourself to be happy and do what you love instead of what you think the world expects of you.

Decades ago, while in a very sad situation, I had a dream. “Find your heart and rescue it.”

One way you can do this is to honor yourself and your feelings. What are they guiding you to do?

If you feel unhappy, unfulfilled, unhealthy or your business or finances are bringing you down (not enough time, money, feeling good about you – or can’t get no satisfaction), that’s called a clue!

It’s time for a change – do something differently!

Your past is behind you.

In the now, are you being kind to yourself? Are you doing what you love?

Is your business or life what you choose?

If it isn’t, in Star Trek lingo, are you on a trajectory to “make it so, Number One”?

Your happiness, health and finances depend on it.

Regardless of your answer, you can make new decisions.

You’re still breathing, so it’s not too late to change your viewpoint, make new choices and do what you love.

Regardless of your age or circumstances, you have more than enough time to have your life and business be a series of Wows!

 

Virginia works with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. She helps them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

For more information on upcoming mastermind groups or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email Virginia at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

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