Worried? Do This Instead.

How are you going to get out of this one?

“I am old and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”
Mark Twain 

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I was sure I failed the test, and like a bully, worry stalked and tormented me for a week. When the scores finally came in, I learned that I got the highest mark in my class.

Although in third grade, I realized that the agony I created served no purpose.  After reflection, I thought another approach to future upsets would be better.

I told myself: Worrying doesn’t feel good. And if what you’re worrying about doesn’t happen, it’s a lot of feeling bad for nothing.

As an adult I learned that when there really is a problem, I’m better off to get clear on the issue and then focus on the solution rather than on what’s not working.

If needed, we can accept that we are worrying, without judging the situation or the fact that we are bothering to worry. By choosing acceptance we are no longer prisoner to our reactive patterns. Freedom greets us as we open our cell door. When this happens the worry-jailer’s job is done.

Consider this:

• Our programming for worry is based on past situations that created unfavorable results.
• We design our future with our present thoughts and feelings.
• Therefore, energizing fearful thoughts with worry is a shortcut to what we don’t want to come into our lives in the future.

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“For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me.”
Job 3:25

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Worry projects us into a world of make-believe what-ifs and creates fear. It’s an indicator that we are living in the future, not in present time.

How do we stay in the present? By surrendering to what is rather than what we think something could or should be. Acknowledging what a situation or person is assists us to be conscious. In doing so, we can see more clearly and take more productive action, too.

If there is a situation that needs addressing, being in the present, rather than in a reactive and emotional state, opens us to receive insights and alternatives more easily. 

Humans are wired with the ability to handle life’s situations in this moment of time.

However, we can not cope effectively with mental tapes that project hypothetical, fear-based, future problems.

I was delighted when I read a passage in a great book by Satyam Nadeen.

There’s a part of us that simply watches what’s going on, like seeing a play. I sometimes call it the observer self.

Nadeen refers to this aspect as the Witness. It’s detached about what goes on and doesn’t care about the drama that monkey mind, others or our own, creates about a situation. This drains the life force from worry. In fact, from this vantage point, what we’re worrying about can be rather humorous.

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“Each of the countless times a day that the mind or some other person asks ‘why’ about any and every situation that arises (just as a good little mind is supposed to do), the Witness always responds: ‘Don’t know, don’t care!’”
 
Satyam Nadeen, From Seekers to Finders,
The Myth and Reality about Enlightenment

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How can we change a pattern of worry? Decide to let it go. Let worry go. Choose to release the habit. Ask the highest part of ourselves to release the pattern and replace it with awareness to navigate through life in a different way… living in present time with grace and ease.

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“Nothing can be attained without suffering but at the same time one must begin by sacrificing suffering.”
 
Gurdjieff

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Your challenge, if you choose to accept it, is to look at a situation that’s causing you worry from a perspective of “Don’t Know, Don’t Care.”  Consider a viewpoint where letting go of worry supports you to find peace and resolution to whatever is concerning you.

With a zest for Life, 
Virginia 

Success Thought:

Mark Twain once said that one way of getting a silly tune out of your head is to put in another. Instead of the worry tune, you can use Bobby McFerrin’s melodic approach of “Don’t Worry, Be Happy.” 

“In every life we have some trouble
But when you worry you make it double
Don’t worry, be happy
Don’t worry, be happy now.”

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Would you like to know how you can dump worry?

Contact me to learn more at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.

Original Soulgoal Missive Email was sent in 2001

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You Know More Than You Think You Do… A 2-minute read with a message from Dr. Spock

You’re programmed for low self-esteem and to give away your power.

Not just you. Everyone’s brainwashed living in their own hypnotic trance.

Part of the gig on earth is to snap out of it.

It starts innocently enough with directives like “draw inside the lines.”

We obediently follow to fit in. That’s the hook. Fit in to survive. I mean, how else can a little kid make it in this world without going along with family and society’s customs – even if they’re wacky and don’t make sense?

Here’s a popular one: “When you’re under my roof, you’ll do what I say.” Then, somehow miraculously, when you move out you turn on a switch and think for yourself.

More likely, the programmed voice in your head continues until you realize it’s an old recording.

Then you begin to see that you’ve been wanting others’ approval and someone to tell you what to do so you won’t make a mistake.

Myths start early. Do you know anyone who stepped on a sidewalk crack and broke their mother’s back?

Step back from your emotions, opinions, the way you’ve always seen things, knee jerk reactions, fear, anger, stress, anxiety, and worry.

Instead of responding to old, recorded messages in your brain that say you’re not good enough, listen to your heart and gut. Those whispers will never put you down.

In the words of Dr. Benjamin Spock,
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”

Edited excerpt from Soulgoal Archives –  November 29, 2012

Ready to break free of that limiting voice in your head?
Contact me at:
virginia@soulgoals.com

I work with people who choose to share
their gifts or business in a BIGGER way
but don’t know how, feel stuck or could 
use new tools or support.

I help them ignite their Soul’s goals
and be richly compensated doing what
they love.”

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Always Late & Putting Herself Down

“I’m late, I’m late for a very important date.” from Alice in Wonderland

A friend told me, “I have a character defect, and I really have to change it this year.” She had a hard time being on time.  She said, “If I have A, B and C to do, I try to squeeze it all in, even though I only have enough time to do A. Then I become late. It’s disrespectful to people, and I just have to stop it. This year, it’s got to stop! “I was born three weeks late, and my mother just accepted my showing up late. It’s no longer working for me, though.” Her self-deprecating tone became more disapproving the longer she talked. To listen to her, one might think she was headed straight to the bowels of the earth for her misdeeds. To put it in perspective, though, it was tardiness and not the end of the world.   I told her. “You had an issue. You don’t have to keep bringing up examples of what you did wrong in the past and how bad you think are while dragging all of that into the present. You made a new decision to be on time. So be it.” Her reply was, “It’s really so simple, isn’t it? I don’t have to beat myself up or agonize about my habits. Just make a decision to change, and then follow through.” Have you ever felt miserable and chastised yourself about how you didn’t do as well as you thought you should?  It reminds me of when I was in third grade and took a music test. I was sure I failed. The test scores wouldn’t come back for a week, and I suffered the entire seven days. Why couldn’t I have done better? I got the highest grade in the class. That was my first introduction to an idea, “Don’t worry until you have something to worry about.” It took me years to take it to another level: don’t bother worrying at all. It doesn’t help. Worry and making ourselves wrong actually make our situations worse. Ready to be ahead of your time? Let go of your story that you continue to tell about time. Stop using your stories as a way of getting attention. If you messed up, you messed up. Learn from it and move on… without the story. Release the need to justify your actions or get validation from others. Accept yourself more without adding judgment, blame and shame. Shift your focus away from your past and refocus on now and where you’re going. Step at a time, you’ll be in front of time instead of behind it. P.S. Know someone who might enjoy this post? Please share. I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by aligning with their Soul’s goals.

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TIP: How I Manifested Tax Money & New Car

April 15 is fast approaching with looming tax deadlines. I thought you might like reassurance that all is well, or can be, with your financials. It’s time to press the easy button.

So, I’m resurrecting segments of some of my popular, archived blogs to remind you of your ability to manifest what you choose – if you allow yourself to stop worrying, let go of struggling, and remember your true worth…

Contrary to my logical thinking, I manifested money to pay taxes and buy a brand new car. All this was done without worrying – or, more accurately, because I didn’t worry.

Conclusion? Don’t stress. Manifest.

Feeling dissatisfied or frustrated while wanting life to be different focuses you in the wrong direction.

Taking action on possibilities with belief attracts results.

Want proof? Here’s how I manifested my:

Money to Pay Taxes: I needed $$ in five weeks to pay taxes. One of many strategies was to ask a client to pay me three months in advance. Before I finished my proposal during a lunch meeting, he cut me off by saying, “I’ll pay you a year in advance.” By the way, it was the first time I’d seen him in person in three years.

During our meeting, I showed him educational tapes I thought he’d like, valued at $50. One of them I picked up from the mailman while in my car as I backed out of the driveway to meet him. My client gave me a $100 bill on the spot so he could listen to them right away.

How?  I followed through on ideas that popped in my head by taking action. An attitude of “success is the only option” focused my intention which produced results beyond what I anticipated.

Car: While focusing on money for taxes, I explored ways to save. Interest on my car loan was nearly 14%. When I looked into refinancing at a dealership, I learned I could get a new car, if I qualified, for 1.9% interest. I told them that I didn’t need the car and would buy only if I got that interest rate. I was approved, and my car payment was only $1 a month more. They took my car as a trade-in and later refunded me $1,000 for its warranty.

There was, however, only one thing they required – an additional $100. I handed them the Ben Franklin my client gave me for the tapes an hour earlier and drove away in my brand new car.

How? I followed through with where I was led although buying a new car seemed like a crazy thing to do. (I only meant to lower the interest rate on my car). I felt neither needy nor desperate to get the car.

Why did I even consider spending money to buy a car when my single-minded focus was on bringing in money for taxes?

Because I consciously chose to take action on ideas rather than over-think and pre-judge them.

I made a decision to live by a new mindset. I acted on and said yes to financial opportunities that I would have otherwise said no to, put off or not bothered with.

My new “uncomfortable comfort zone” mindset allowed me to quickly step into unknowns with no procrastination.

It got me thinking. Why worry?

When I got out of the way and allowed life to do its magic, things worked out.

When they didn’t work is when I put a kibosh on things. I fretted by wondering if enough people would attend an event. I worried if I’d have enough money for something. I got discouraged and frustrated that things might not work out the way I thought they should.

Therefore, I manifested what I focused on – what I didn’t want.

Worry doesn’t pay – especially the bills.

Your life has always been blessed with miracles. The near miss from having an accident. A smile from a stranger, an email or a phone call when you felt down and on your way out. Things turned around in your favor. You miraculously manifested a goal.

Here are 5 Steps to Manifest Results:

1. Refocus your attention by making a list of your miracles and successes.
2. Breathe and relax.
3. Set an intention to receive what you choose for your life.
4. Choose to be in divine flow.
5. Take action.

Focus on what you’re grateful for, and you’ll multiply your reasons to be grateful.

By the way, for support to help you manifest great results in your business and finances, contact me for a one-hour complimentary Do What You Love Break Free Session at vg@ResolvedForResults.com

Happy manifesting!

HOW TO MANIFEST YOUR IDEAL JOB

Do you know what your dreams are? You definitely have them. If you can’t describe what you choose for your life and take focused action, you float around somewhere and end up living someone else’s dream.

Here’s a real life example of one of my clients who I interviewed about her recent experience of how she manifested her dreams by landing her ideal, high profile job.

Her choice to help her family, travel and both increase and create steady income doing what she loved was the energy that initiated her process. She loves what she does and decided on a salary amount for her to share her expertise and talent. The amount just came to her.

She opened herself to the possibility and didn’t get hung up on timing or how it was going to happen. She TRUSTED her manifestation would come true instead of forcing, trying too hard or getting stressed.

Then one day, she received an email from an Executive Recruiter asking her to post a job description on her organization’s job board – which they don’t have. After reading it, she decided it was such a fit that she’d apply.

After a national search, they narrowed their prospects to four people to interview. She was the only one to get a second interview. Later, she was interviewed by one of the top people in the city.

She got the position and now has 25 employees working under her. She said, “I’m speaking my truth at meetings and don’t have to put on a masque. I’m not pretending or being who I think they think I should be.” She  mentioned, too, that her experiences and knowledge gained throughout her life are being used. It’s all the pieces coming together. They also appreciate her and regularly tell her this. It’s a perfect fit. Her ideal job.

TIPS SHE SHARED:

• Make a choice, and allow yourself to receive it in divine right timing.
• Relax, trust and don’t get hung up on the steps and details.
• Take action when opportunity presents itself.

Remember, you can apply these principles to ANYTHING you choose to create – from relationships to money.

I support your choices and see your dreams coming true!

HOW I MANIFESTED MY HOUSE, TAX MONEY, CAR & BOYFRIEND – PART 1

While brooding about what I want but don’t have, images emerged that elbowed out my whining. Contrary to my logical thinking, I manifested my house; money to pay taxes; a brand new car; and even my boyfriend. All this was done without worrying – or, more accurately, because I didn’t worry.

Conclusion? Don’t stress. Manifest.

 Feeling dissatisfied while wanting life to be different focuses on the wrong direction. Taking action on possibilities with belief attracts results.

 Want proof? Here’s how I manifested my…

 House: Circumstances arose that inspired me to find a new place to live, and yesterday wasn’t soon enough to move. Even though I couldn’t see how I could purchase a house on short notice, soon after I bought one for $100 down.

 How? In spite of my limited, preconceived ideas about what was possible, I boldly took action. I went to experts (a Realtor and loan officers) who knew how things could work to make my dream come true.

 Money to Pay Taxes: I needed $$ in five weeks to pay taxes. One of my strategies was to ask a client to pay me three months in advance. Before I finished my proposal during a lunch meeting, he cut me off by saying, “I’ll pay you a year in advance.” By the way, it was the first time I’d seen him in person for three years.

 During our meeting, I showed him educational tapes I thought he’d like, valued at $50. One of them I picked up from the mailman while in my car as I backed out of the driveway to meet him. My client gave me a $100 bill on the spot so he could listen to them right away.

 How?  I followed through on ideas that popped in my head by taking action. An attitude of “success is the only option” focused my intention which produced results beyond what I anticipated.

 Car: While focusing on money for taxes, I also explored ways to save. Interest on my car loan was nearly 14%. When I looked into refinancing at a dealership, I learned I could get a new car, if I qualified, for 1.9% interest. I told them that I didn’t need the car and would buy only if I got that interest rate. I was approved, and my car payment was only $1 a month more. They took my car as a trade-in and later refunded me $1,000 for its warranty. There was, however, only one thing they required – an additional $100. I handed them the Ben Franklin my client gave me for the tapes an hour earlier and drove away in my brand new car.

How? I followed through with where I was led although it seemed like a crazy thing to do. (I only meant to lower the interest rate on my car). I felt neither needy nor desperate to get the car.

 Why did I even consider spending money to buy a car when my single-minded focus was on bringing in money for taxes? Because I consciously chose to take action on ideas rather than over-think and pre-judge them.

 I made a decision to live by a new mindset. I acted on and said yes to financial opportunities that I would have otherwise said no to, put off or not bothered with. My new uncomfortable comfort zone embraced quickly stepping into unknowns with no procrastination.

 How? I chose it. Because I was resolved for results to get money for taxes, I was real motivated. I decided to adopt a new mindset.

 For example, I:

•  Joined a network marketing company which was both an enjoyable and profitable experience for many years. (Prior to this, I swore I would never do another.)
• Mentioned to a friend that I had custom, gold jewelry that I had wanted to sell for a long time – and she knew a friend who wanted and bought it for $400.
• Started my first mastermind groups which helped me and others focus on our goals – mine was to get money for taxes. They’re now an integral part of my work.
• Lowered interest rates on credit cards which lowered my monthly payments.

 Many actions taken while  focused but not needy or worried created many opportunities for miracles.

 In Part 2 you’ll find out how I manifested my boyfriend and 5 steps you can take to manifest miracles in your life.